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allison · allison

Me and my A husband have been seperated almost 3 weeks.He moved out,took all his personal stuff.We have 4 kids and all he has given me is 100$ I changed the locks on the door because while I`m at work he gets into the house and takes stuff.Well,now he`s actually breaking in to get stuff.Took his car out of t...

sdisnie · sdisnie

This post has been removed and is being reviewed for content. A reminder that long quotes or articles need to be from Al-Anon and 12-Step approved circles. A decision will be made on this post shortly. -- Edited by canadianguy at 16:06, 2006-01-16

nycbt · nycbt

I am on step three "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. I am reading a book called "a WOMAN'S WAY THROUGH THE TWELVE STEPS" BY STEPHANIE S. COVINGTON, PH.D I am reading in step three and something hits me one of the reason I don't want to let go becaus...

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

Have asked my husband to leave. He's considering it, but I intend to stick to my guns and make him go. I need the space. Needless to say I am a nervous wreck and so emotionally down, but I still feel good about the situation. It's called self-preservation, him or me.&nb...

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

Are all alcoholics so arrogant? My husband could be the poster child of it. He is always better than everyone else - especially when he drinks. When we would go out - he would zero in on someone and start picking on them. He's very sarcastic and cruel - he seems to know a person'...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i am posting on another board now and we got into a discussion as to WHY we struggle so much with the "trust in god/hp" thingy...a lot of us felt forsaken during our childhoods.....i thought u guys may get something out of this...... &nb...

greeneyedgirl · greeneyedgirl

Hi all, Okay, I give up and give in...there's no way i'm not hitting a meeting tonight. Here's why: Today is my scheduled payday. My company in the last couple of weeks has been going through a transition of changing from one payroll company to the next, so they made sure to tell us that we needed...

elizabeth · elizabeth

just got this from a good friend, thought i would pass it along...... Horse-Sense Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it. From a distance, each looks like every other horse. But if one stops the car, or is walking by, one will notice something quite amazing. Lookin...

Flora123 · Flora123

Well, this time, I am not taking it personally!!! But, am less than pleased to be blacklisted again. I have tried all of Edna's recommendations - still cant get into chat. It is your loss, I had some fascinating, inspirational things to say..... too bad you missed them. Dear John, give th...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, An update and post to vent my sorrow and joy over this weekend. After being pleasantly surprised Thursday night coming home to a picked up house and awake husband, who even had a light on in the house, and was sitting UP on the couch

I stayed home from work Friday to h...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

Thank you, guys who were in the chat room last night, when I needed you, you were there. Someone told me to take care of myself………that helped me immensely. He just left about 2 hours ago…I feel relief, regret, sadness….with a little trickle of hope. My “A” and me did...

Barbara · Barbara

I'll be 50 next year but still I look for someone to take care of me. For example my Dad use to be the one who locked up the house at night growing up. I expected my A husband to do the same but realized a while ago that he cant do this. He puts himself to bed and thats it. We dont even say goodnight to each other. I d...

mebjk · mebjk

Hello, all, I am still struggling with an in-law. I think I gave him too much credit - probably had expectations I shouldn't have had for him - and thought we could work through some long held feelings. I - unfairly, I think now - brought up the past, which is something he cannot change. He is an importan...

allison · allison

He treats me awful 95% of the time and all I ever wanted was for him to leave.Now that he`s gone all I do is cry cause I miss him...what is wrong with me? I feel like I can`t go on without him when deep down I know I`ve done it for years.Just because he lived here doesn`t mean he was here..does that make sense? I`...

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

Help, I'm so confused. My husband has been an alcoholic for all of the 18 years we've been married and before. While young thought he would grow out of his party attitude - but hasn't. I suffered alot through the years - being left alone to raise the kids, to going through illnesses b...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i had a good time at the dinner theater good food and a good show. my a took him mom to detox but we arent sure if she will stay there. not my problem. my a said if she sticks with it he is gonna go to meetings with her. this cant be good for him is the way i see it because he will be focused on her the whole time. i...

jersey1 · jersey1

i am an alcoholic my sobriety date is 9/1/02. i have gone through the steps in AA and I have also attended ALANON mtgs during the past year on and off. After doing work in that area of my life (AA) I realised that I needed more..hence ALANON. I have found that I need alot of work in this area and i...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I haven't been posting much these days, I've been trying to muster up the strength each day to get through the day. The news about my father's cancer has really take hold and given me another good shake. Day to day is how I get through, hour by hour and so on.....I just don't feel read...

Christy · Christy

One of the members asked (ordered..lol) me to post my share from last night in hopes that it may show others "how Alanon works" Detachment: I didn't understand detachment at all when I first heard it. I thought it meant "ignore". But detachment with love? After all my A had done to me was even...

Barbara · Barbara

Found out this past Tues that I need 2 teeth extracted. Need a bridge turned into a partial. Ive had a partial now for a few yrs on the upper left side. Will need new 1 to include both sides. Ouch ouch ouch. Im insisting the oral surgeon puts me under. No surgery date yet. This Thurs I go for the impressions...

Kim · Kim

Thank you all for your responses to my previous post. I am always amazed at how the ESH aof others can lift you. My friends wound up cancelling due to the weather...but Itook the opportunity to take care of my house and started to organize things a bit...before I knew it I can cleaned out my l...

Barbara · Barbara

you'll go off topic? Thats my excuse now for not speaking

canadianguy · canadianguy

that is so commonplace, in the argument of "Christianity" vs. "being religious", with the latter one being people's interpretation of what one "should or shouldn't do" with respect to our beliefs..... The program of Al-Anon, although Christian based, has proven over the years to be available a...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

HOW I KNOW I AM GETTING BETTER: -Even though my ex and I broke up right before Christmas, I was able to have a wonderful Christmas for MYSELF. I did cry and cry when I heard the news. Then, I asked myself, "How can I take care of myself during this time?" I made a plan for how to celebrate and sp...

debilyn · debilyn

you know when I saw the A so sick and on the floor, not unlike a starving Ethiopian, I felt such sadness inside. My first thought was there is no one to talk to that will understand. I knew in my heart you guys do understand. I felt so fortunate to know when I got home I could tell ya. The hugs and car...

debilyn · debilyn

HI all, well I cannot get into the chat room so that is how come I am not there anyomre. Seems to be too much "life" going on for me. My gma is almost 106. She had an infection that has taken her down some. Sometimes we think she is going then the next thing ya know she is wanting to go to the dining room....

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i had a major slip today. everything was going great my a and i had plans today then we get a phone call. from his mother and shes screaming and crying and all this crap. so we speant the entire day over there fighting. my a totally but himself on the backburner to tc of his mom and didnt get it that i wan...

toto12 · toto12

Hi Beth, I hope you are reading this..there has been a lot of trouble for some with the chatroom and haven't seen you in a month. A situation on Sat. reminded me of you. I hope everything is ok. At any rate, take it easy and know that toto is thinking of you. Take care, Toto

elizabeth · elizabeth

TWELVE STEPS OF A SPONSOR 2) &nbs...

RDP2976 · RDP2976

Hi I was just in the chat room but I have to go now and i hope to see everyone that talk to me and help me and listen to me. Thank you all for doing that.

Good Night ROBYN,

elizabeth · elizabeth

We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. --Beyond Codependency It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy...

tea2 · tea2

This is the ongoing / reoccurring theme for me at this time, whether it be my father calling me after four months and being “sick” or my ex husband being “sick” regarding our son. I had posted a thread on the message board asking what “letting go” meant to you – I felt there was more to it, th...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...

debilyn · debilyn

HOw are ya? Yes we have pretty music going and food around. We talk about the past and tease each other. Grama is always saying something funny. Her son told her to be good, she said well I don't have much choice! lol She cannot heare or see well so we keep telling her who we are. I tell her I am Mort...

doxie · doxie

I have had it, I am through. I have been married to long to want to start over. No desire to do that. BUT, I will not give my emotions to him any longer. Only to be trampled on again and again. Gotta protect me. He needs to go through this, ok. I have no desire to be the doormat anymore. I am focusing on m...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...

kitty · kitty

Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...

ae`` · ae``

i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...

chris52 · chris52

I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...

Barbara · Barbara

Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...

elizabeth · elizabeth

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....

Barbara · Barbara

If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.

Kimbrali · Kimbrali

Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...

elizabeth · elizabeth

12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...

tea2 · tea2

(((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...

Lea · Lea

Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...

bobump · bobump

I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...

free2bme · free2bme

I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...

chris52 · chris52

Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??

nycbt · nycbt

The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...

nycbt · nycbt

WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...

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	a question (Preview) Me and my A husband have been seperated almost 3 weeks.He moved out,took all his personal stuff.We have 4 kids and all he has given me is 100$ I changed the locks on the door because while I`m at work he gets into the house and takes stuff.Well,now he`s actually breaking in to get stuff.Took his car out of t...	allison	5	401	Jan 17, 2006 by KathyS
	Co-dependency article (Preview) This post has been removed and is being reviewed for content. A reminder that long quotes or articles need to be from Al-Anon and 12-Step approved circles. A decision will be made on this post shortly. -- Edited by canadianguy at 16:06, 2006-01-16	sdisnie	1	448	Jan 17, 2006 by KathyS
	hmm so true (Preview) I am on step three "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. I am reading a book called "a WOMAN'S WAY THROUGH THE TWELVE STEPS" BY STEPHANIE S. COVINGTON, PH.D I am reading in step three and something hits me one of the reason I don't want to let go becaus...	nycbt	1	441	Jan 17, 2006 by just me
	Started the ball rolling, God give me the strength to continue (Preview) Have asked my husband to leave. He's considering it, but I intend to stick to my guns and make him go. I need the space. Needless to say I am a nervous wreck and so emotionally down, but I still feel good about the situation. It's called self-preservation, him or me.&nb...	nancyfrances	5	501	Jan 17, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Are all alcholics arrogant? (Preview) Are all alcoholics so arrogant? My husband could be the poster child of it. He is always better than everyone else - especially when he drinks. When we would go out - he would zero in on someone and start picking on them. He's very sarcastic and cruel - he seems to know a person'...	nancyfrances	14	3804	Jan 17, 2006 by sas
	for those who wondered "where was god" (Preview) i am posting on another board now and we got into a discussion as to WHY we struggle so much with the "trust in god/hp" thingy...a lot of us felt forsaken during our childhoods.....i thought u guys may get something out of this...... &nb...	rosie light shines	7	867	Jan 17, 2006 by bobump
	Okay, I give! I give! - it hurts too much! (Preview) Hi all, Okay, I give up and give in...there's no way i'm not hitting a meeting tonight. Here's why: Today is my scheduled payday. My company in the last couple of weeks has been going through a transition of changing from one payroll company to the next, so they made sure to tell us that we needed...	greeneyedgirl	4	374	Jan 17, 2006 by greeneyedgirl
	horse sense (Preview) just got this from a good friend, thought i would pass it along...... Horse-Sense Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it. From a distance, each looks like every other horse. But if one stops the car, or is walking by, one will notice something quite amazing. Lookin...	elizabeth	3	342	Jan 17, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Blacklisted Again (Preview) Well, this time, I am not taking it personally!!! But, am less than pleased to be blacklisted again. I have tried all of Edna's recommendations - still cant get into chat. It is your loss, I had some fascinating, inspirational things to say..... too bad you missed them. Dear John, give th...	Flora123	6	570	Jan 16, 2006 by John_R
	update (Preview) Hello Everyone, An update and post to vent my sorrow and joy over this weekend. After being pleasantly surprised Thursday night coming home to a picked up house and awake husband, who even had a light on in the house, and was sitting UP on the couch I stayed home from work Friday to h...	Jennifer	7	432	Jan 16, 2006 by Jennifer
	About last nite…. (Preview) Thank you, guys who were in the chat room last night, when I needed you, you were there. Someone told me to take care of myself………that helped me immensely. He just left about 2 hours ago…I feel relief, regret, sadness….with a little trickle of hope. My “A” and me did...	CAM0914	1	414	Jan 16, 2006 by Flora123
	my A husband is NOT my father/caretaker (Preview) I'll be 50 next year but still I look for someone to take care of me. For example my Dad use to be the one who locked up the house at night growing up. I expected my A husband to do the same but realized a while ago that he cant do this. He puts himself to bed and thats it. We dont even say goodnight to each other. I d...	Barbara	8	503	Jan 16, 2006 by Emafer
	Struggling with an in-law (Preview) Hello, all, I am still struggling with an in-law. I think I gave him too much credit - probably had expectations I shouldn't have had for him - and thought we could work through some long held feelings. I - unfairly, I think now - brought up the past, which is something he cannot change. He is an importan...	mebjk	7	468	Jan 16, 2006 by Jeannie
	Why?! (Preview) He treats me awful 95% of the time and all I ever wanted was for him to leave.Now that he`s gone all I do is cry cause I miss him...what is wrong with me? I feel like I can`t go on without him when deep down I know I`ve done it for years.Just because he lived here doesn`t mean he was here..does that make sense? I`...	allison	10	509	Jan 16, 2006 by marmare
	Hate or anger I can't stand him anymore (Preview) Help, I'm so confused. My husband has been an alcoholic for all of the 18 years we've been married and before. While young thought he would grow out of his party attitude - but hasn't. I suffered alot through the years - being left alone to raise the kids, to going through illnesses b...	nancyfrances	7	534	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	my day today (Preview) well i had a good time at the dinner theater good food and a good show. my a took him mom to detox but we arent sure if she will stay there. not my problem. my a said if she sticks with it he is gonna go to meetings with her. this cant be good for him is the way i see it because he will be focused on her the whole time. i...	notsonew1111	5	360	Jan 16, 2006 by marmare
	nice to be here (Preview) i am an alcoholic my sobriety date is 9/1/02. i have gone through the steps in AA and I have also attended ALANON mtgs during the past year on and off. After doing work in that area of my life (AA) I realised that I needed more..hence ALANON. I have found that I need alot of work in this area and i...	jersey1	4	429	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	isolating and depressed (Preview) Hello all: I haven't been posting much these days, I've been trying to muster up the strength each day to get through the day. The news about my father's cancer has really take hold and given me another good shake. Day to day is how I get through, hour by hour and so on.....I just don't feel read...	Kim	8	541	Jan 16, 2006 by marmare
	Detachment Share (Preview) One of the members asked (ordered..lol) me to post my share from last night in hopes that it may show others "how Alanon works" Detachment: I didn't understand detachment at all when I first heard it. I thought it meant "ignore". But detachment with love? After all my A had done to me was even...	Christy	6	572	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	Im facing surgery - need teeth extracted (Preview) Found out this past Tues that I need 2 teeth extracted. Need a bridge turned into a partial. Ive had a partial now for a few yrs on the upper left side. Will need new 1 to include both sides. Ouch ouch ouch. Im insisting the oral surgeon puts me under. No surgery date yet. This Thurs I go for the impressions...	Barbara	5	370	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	got moving (Preview) Thank you all for your responses to my previous post. I am always amazed at how the ESH aof others can lift you. My friends wound up cancelling due to the weather...but Itook the opportunity to take care of my house and started to organize things a bit...before I knew it I can cleaned out my l...	Kim	5	437	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	ever afraid to speak at F2F cos (Preview) you'll go off topic? Thats my excuse now for not speaking	Barbara	9	581	Jan 16, 2006 by abbyal
	Al-Anon reminds me of another great battle.... (Preview) that is so commonplace, in the argument of "Christianity" vs. "being religious", with the latter one being people's interpretation of what one "should or shouldn't do" with respect to our beliefs..... The program of Al-Anon, although Christian based, has proven over the years to be available a...	canadianguy	2	527	Jan 15, 2006 by doxie
	How I know I am Getting Better (Preview) HOW I KNOW I AM GETTING BETTER: -Even though my ex and I broke up right before Christmas, I was able to have a wonderful Christmas for MYSELF. I did cry and cry when I heard the news. Then, I asked myself, "How can I take care of myself during this time?" I made a plan for how to celebrate and sp...	BlueCloud	3	466	Jan 15, 2006 by mebjk
	Bob n all (Preview) you know when I saw the A so sick and on the floor, not unlike a starving Ethiopian, I felt such sadness inside. My first thought was there is no one to talk to that will understand. I knew in my heart you guys do understand. I felt so fortunate to know when I got home I could tell ya. The hugs and car...	debilyn	3	376	Jan 15, 2006 by TLC2
	need some unlife (Preview) HI all, well I cannot get into the chat room so that is how come I am not there anyomre. Seems to be too much "life" going on for me. My gma is almost 106. She had an infection that has taken her down some. Sometimes we think she is going then the next thing ya know she is wanting to go to the dining room....	debilyn	6	379	Jan 15, 2006 by TLC2
	horrible day (Preview) i had a major slip today. everything was going great my a and i had plans today then we get a phone call. from his mother and shes screaming and crying and all this crap. so we speant the entire day over there fighting. my a totally but himself on the backburner to tc of his mom and didnt get it that i wan...	notsonew1111	9	618	Jan 15, 2006 by Flora123
	Beth, still here? (Preview) Hi Beth, I hope you are reading this..there has been a lot of trouble for some with the chatroom and haven't seen you in a month. A situation on Sat. reminded me of you. I hope everything is ok. At any rate, take it easy and know that toto is thinking of you. Take care, Toto	toto12	1	412	Jan 15, 2006 by Beth
	twelve steps of a sponsor (Preview) TWELVE STEPS OF A SPONSOR 2) &nbs...	elizabeth	0	374	Jan 15, 2006 by elizabeth
	I am sorry I had to go (Preview) Hi I was just in the chat room but I have to go now and i hope to see everyone that talk to me and help me and listen to me. Thank you all for doing that. Good Night ROBYN,	RDP2976	1	390	Jan 15, 2006 by Maria123
	from Language of Letting Go..... (Preview) We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. --Beyond Codependency It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy...	elizabeth	0	467	Jan 15, 2006 by elizabeth
	Letting Go (Preview) This is the ongoing / reoccurring theme for me at this time, whether it be my father calling me after four months and being “sick” or my ex husband being “sick” regarding our son. I had posted a thread on the message board asking what “letting go” meant to you – I felt there was more to it, th...	tea2	13	746	Jan 15, 2006 by Jerry F
	things that make you go hmmmm...... (Preview) Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...	elizabeth	2	461	Jan 15, 2006 by whitie
	Whitie (Preview) HOw are ya? Yes we have pretty music going and food around. We talk about the past and tease each other. Grama is always saying something funny. Her son told her to be good, she said well I don't have much choice! lol She cannot heare or see well so we keep telling her who we are. I tell her I am Mort...	debilyn	1	421	Jan 15, 2006 by whitie
	HAD IT (Preview) I have had it, I am through. I have been married to long to want to start over. No desire to do that. BUT, I will not give my emotions to him any longer. Only to be trampled on again and again. Gotta protect me. He needs to go through this, ok. I have no desire to be the doormat anymore. I am focusing on m...	doxie	6	384	Jan 15, 2006 by rosie light shines
	i guess i am ok (Preview) Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...	nycbt	4	399	Jan 15, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Is there hope for us? (Preview) It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...	sdisnie	5	481	Jan 14, 2006 by doxie
	Responses & Posts (loving myself) (Preview) Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...	kitty	5	628	Jan 14, 2006 by notsonew1111
	James Frey- Larry King tonight-encore show... (Preview) i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...	ae``	0	390	Jan 14, 2006 by ae``
	Learning how to pray (Preview) I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...	chris52	3	383	Jan 14, 2006 by Flora123
	Bobump says "It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids" (Preview) Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...	UncleLou	19	859	Jan 14, 2006 by Jeannie
	how do you start the subject of AlAnon with your A? (Preview) Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...	Barbara	9	433	Jan 14, 2006 by Feather
	meeting God..... (Preview) A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...	elizabeth	3	378	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Cant do it anymore....... (Preview) hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....	Rebecca	4	435	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	has anyone reserved a room for Cape convention? (Preview) If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.	Barbara	3	347	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	My problem or his? (Preview) Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...	Kimbrali	7	433	Jan 14, 2006 by debilyn
	HAPPY AND SAD AT THE SAME TIME (Preview) Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...	Lauren ashley	3	436	Jan 14, 2006 by toto12
	12 step prayers..... (Preview) 12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...	elizabeth	0	7507	Jan 14, 2006 by elizabeth
	Welcome Cruise_06 (Preview) (((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...	tea2	4	504	Jan 14, 2006 by Rebecca
	advice needed (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...	Lea	4	430	Jan 14, 2006 by bobump
	is the chatroom down? (Preview) I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob	bobump	9	363	Jan 14, 2006 by John_R
	Lost my focus and my head this morning (Preview) Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...	twinmom2	7	459	Jan 14, 2006 by Jerry F
	Funny about James Frey (Preview) Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...	Jennifer	4	527	Jan 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	New Here, looking for support (Preview) I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...	free2bme	7	475	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	How to deal with him? (Preview) Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...	phoebemoonpie	7	594	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	I thought chatroom had been fixed? (Preview) Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??	chris52	0	323	Jan 13, 2006 by chris52
	some saying (Preview) The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...	nycbt	0	376	Jan 13, 2006 by nycbt
	WHERE IS EVERYONE (Preview) WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????	nycbt	1	381	Jan 13, 2006 by tea2
	i did a get job (Preview) Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...	nycbt	8	443	Jan 13, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Does anyone know? (Preview) Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...	Dolphin123	4	473	Jan 13, 2006 by Diva
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