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2 steps forward...4 steps back..
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hey all
well its saturday night and im home alone. its great fun. NOT!!!!!!!
i met with my ex yesterday and he was "out of it". he tried telling me he was fine but he wasn't. i dont know how i came to be in this situation.
my life seems to be going around in a limbo in the last 6 mths. i know for a fact my ex is...
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question
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I don't know if anyone has an answer to this question, but I thought I would ask anyway, and see if anyone had any thoughts on it. Is there one event, that turns, or can turn a person into an alcoholic? I ask b/c my A always drank, I guess he started in high school. But in college some girl I guess really messed...
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Normal for an A?
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My A has been doing good, still sober, however I met with someone about a job yesterday, the guy owns his own business, he wants to hire me to straighten his shop out and work sales, he has 6 semi's and does, seed, bark, and compost blowing. My A has been making little comments about maybe I wa...
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Disapointment, Anger, and Choices
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Hello All,
I am sitting here wondering how I ended up in this position yet again.
Last night my "A" took the car saying he'd be back in about an hour. That was at 6:30pm, well it is 8:50am and he isn't home. Normally I would just go on with my day knowing that sooner or later he'll come home with his tail tu...
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Just realized how co-dependent and enabling I am
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I feel like the queen of codependency and enabling. Been doing alot of reading - Al-anon books - and have realized how things sounds so familiar. I try to help everyone but myself and have made myself miserable. Kept trying to change my husband to no avail - brought myself ri...
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nancyfrances
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He wants a divorce
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It's all happened so fast, all within 5 weeks. He leaves home to go work and 'says' he's hoping for a better opportunity for me and kids and a new life, more money, a fresh start. He's supposed to be back in two weeks for Xmas. Instead, he relapses, almost dies, goes to the hospital,&n...
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sdisnie
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he called, the roller coaster is up and running again
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So he just called, has the poor me's . Totally different tone then the past week or so. Will need to leave his dad's, fixated on "you are not alone" sign at meeting and felt alone, not doing good mentally, blah, blah....All that guilt in a 5 minute conversation. This is so tiring. All I could manage to say w...
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confused
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kids, separation, manipulation some esh needed
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Hi everyone,
I haven't posted in a week or so. Trying to get by. Been to a couple of f2f this week, they were quite helpful. I have been feeling very overwhelmed and pressured by my A's actions and words. He was calling like 10 times a day and if a day went by that he did not see me all i would here was how dif...
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Ugly remark in chat room
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Hi,
I don't get into chat very often, and try to attend the meetings I can. Sometimes when I can't sleep and all the problems associated with my As brother's death pile up on me...I come to chat to vent, or just have someone to listen to. Tonite, I went into chat, and was shocked when...
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resigned from work yesterday.
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Hi, It's great to be back my computer was in the repair shop for almost 2 weeks. I resigned from my longterm job yesterday, and will be working at my part time job-full time starting in two weeks. I was under payed and really being taken advantage of for way too long. I made a well thoug...
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liliana
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Sunday 7pm meeting coverage
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I cannot host the Sunday 7pm meeting.
I have houseguests, my SIL shower and now, I found out last night, relatives from PA are coming.
And I need to take my sister to thwe airport at 6.
If any OP can cover my shift I will be very grateful
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megan
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Update on Disapointment, Anger, and Choices.
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Hello All,
I posted this morning about my "A" not coming home, and the fact that I had plans to attend the concert and I needed him to watch the kids. Well at noon I called my best friend and she said she would watch the kids for me. I had to wait till noon to call her, because she likes to sleep in on the weeken...
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Dolphin123
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Crack Addiction boards?
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Does anyone know of any message boards for family members of crack addicts?
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Jayda
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confusion
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Ok, I hope this does not sound nuts, but I can tell the nights my A is going to go out, even before HE knows! It is just this feeling I get, I don't know, but I was wondering if anyone else could sense that too? Maybe it is b/c he got paid and has money, so I just figured he would go out. The only time he d...
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lilleah
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mIRC Configuration Changes
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John and I completed the server switchover tonight, and there may still be people using mIRC who cannot get into the new room. The following instructions are designed to be as simple as possible and should get you over there, by creating a new entry for the new server.
1) Open up mIRC and...
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Vat next dahling?
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I tell ya, last night I read about a 19 year old who got 2 dui's in an hour. I wanted to go find
him, take him to see my A and say this is YOUR future.
Probaby would not make a bit of difference as people that young don't really believe
anything like that will happen to them. Thus why our 18 to 21 year olds...
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debilyn
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Trouble with Intimacy?
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My A husband and I have been together since 1997, married since 2000. I am so lonely, sometimes I think I will die. I have been in therapy, and reading Alanon literature, and coming to the chatroom and meetings here. I have been focusing on myself, trying to deal with everything. I'm getting better, but...
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Frustrated....
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Hi All!
I am feeling more than a little frustrated right now and thought I would write it here, as this may help.
As you may know my a (husband) has his own home to go to when he drinks. He is a binge drinker who will drink 24/7 for a week or so. Then go through the horrible recovery symptoms. Then he is able...
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Crossroads
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This is my first post here:
A quick snapshot of me is, married almost 10 years to a very functional A. He has been in and out of recovery for a few years. He has moved from drinking every day to once or twice a month. It seems as if he is committed to working on recovery, committed to improvement and to “tr...
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I think I have a problem!!! Help!!!
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My dear wife has had a very bad back condition for the past 5 years that has required Doctors to treat the pain because no one would fix the problem. Her condition was not bad enough for surgery according to her Doctors until the last 6 months when her spine just gave way. She had L-1 through t-4 fused. Pain...
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up date
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hi everyone , i just wanted to say hello and tell you everything is still going fantastic. chuck is clean & sober thank god!! amanda is doing great too. i am very happy & i hope everyone is doing great :)
keep in touch
hugs chrissy
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chrissy
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I need a friend...
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Hi everyone, I am a new member and after 32 yrs of living complete hell in my life, I finally decided I need help for me!
I have grown in a home with a mother who was addicted to addictions as I would call it. She was addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, men, gambling, you name it. My 2 brothers and I were of NO int...
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Rarely do I do this
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I know we all get stuff in our email, however today I received the following and really thought all of us could us it, even the males here.....so I have changed a bit of it to reflect on us all...
Hugs Mary
Person to Person Encouragement Someone will always be better looking. They will alway...
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marmare
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Never have I imagined...
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That there was somewhere online I would be able to talk to ppl in my shoes.
My A mother goes to AA meetings and tells the ppl there how she has not had a drink in years and how her family means everything to her, and it was only 3 weeks ago we caught her drunk....3 WEEKS AGO!!!
LIES LIES LIES .....all she kn...
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AGGRAVATED!
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Just a quick vent.....I have been trying to write something for over 30 minutes now and after being interrupted a few too many times for really important things like "where is an inkpen?, Who is on the phone?, What are you doing?, What is ESH?, I thought you were going out?, Why can't I read what your writ...
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a better day :)
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I have been writting alot of negative posts so I thought I would write a positive one while I was in a good mood.I had my first therapy session today and it went really well. I was expecting the therapist to tell me I was crazy but She said just the opposite...that I was right and My A is just manipulating me....
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allison
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never been to meetings
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i looked up alanon meetings in my local area. there are so many different kinds. i have no idea where to start. there are brown baggers, serinity group, recovery, trinity, pick me ups, liturature,...many more. what have i gotten myself into:)smile.
i'll find something.
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flintfeet
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Chat/computer help
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Hello!
I don't know what is going on. I just got a new computer today.
I can get into chat on my old one still, but not on this new one.
Whatever could be wrong? What do I need to do?
The whole point of getting this computer was to have a computer of my own in my room! Grrrrrr
Thanks so much
Doxie
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doxie
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keeping my side of the street clean
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this seems like such a small thing, but i was really happy with how it worked out.
last weekend i played poker with some friends, one of whom is a former manager of mine. he is a much better poker player than i am, and at one point during the game he predicted i was about to make a stupid move, and he used a ton...
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Am I being too sensitive?
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So I'm the new literature person for my meeting, beginning the 1st week in January. The first week I tried to talk with the previous literature person, and she just basically said that I was to tell people that we have newcomer packs and other great literature, see me at the break. I can ad l...
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WakingUp
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Blew it last night
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My a has been very grouchy the past 3 weeks. I know for sure he has used 2 times in the pst 3 weeks. I'm guessing he has actually used more. I told him last night that I missed his smile. He said he hadn't realized it hadn't been smiling. I told him it had been about 3 weeks sin...
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hudsond
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Am I nasty? Attacking her?
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I'd really like some honest impartial feedback here. Here's an email exchange with my ex in response to an incident that happened the night before. She is trying to figure out if she should try to work at our relationship to regain the feelings she once had for me. We are still livin...
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UncleLou
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Dealing with medical rehab for him
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NOT 12 Step, sorry but...
My husband is in an intense aversion medical program. Really intense. Self induced after coming to grips with personally how bad off he was.
As a result, he is going to be over sensitive to anything with even a wiff of scent. I am a person who loves the tastes in moderati...
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karyn
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broke down
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yesturday i broke down to my hubbie about how i have been feeling. i feel like no one understands including him. my dad is the A and it hurts me and the rest of our family. my husband is the most amazing man, and is always supportive. but a few weeks ago he made a comment like saying "don't get all worked up b/c...
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all i can think about
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all i keep thinking about is my dad. i wonder if he is thinking of me too. i wonder if he is blitzed out of his mind or thinking of his family.i know the answer to that...he is drunk. if he's not, he's thinking of how to numb the feeling of his family. i feel sorry for him.
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flintfeet
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ok
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I am doing good this welek. I have good days he hasn 't gone drinking. I am working on my step 3. I am setting up to be in mirc/op. If everything goes well I will be one for tom morning.
Here some saying:
"There is no good reason why we should not develop and change until the last day we live."
by Karen Hor...
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nycbt
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I Let Go!!!
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Well I finally did it! I Let Go! After reading the Post by Tea2 last week over and over again, I realized it was time.
Last night I had to take my son to a dr appt. My a husband, oh like so many other nights, decided to stop at a bar on the way home from work, which mean...
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Audrey
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Alcoholism and high intelligence?
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I was just wondering if anyone knows of a study or just in general has experience with a highly intelligent alcoholic. I've found that ao many alcoholics and addicts I know are highly intelligent, and highly aware of thier own pain and therefore find drinking and drugging as an easy solution to...
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New to this
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Hi
This is my first time posting on any site whatsoever so please bear with me. Briefly my fella has had a problem with drink for the last 6 years but the past 8 months have been the worst. He has been in rehab a couple of times but got nothing out of it. He has tried AA , 4 weeks sober then...
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penny
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My Decision
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Again, thank you all for your replies and the warm welcome. After reading a few posts and realising I wasn't alone and that my case wasn't much different than anyone else living with an A, I decided that I do belong in here. I needed a place to relate, a place where I knew I wouldn't be judge or TOLD what to do...
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what do u think?
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i have not spoken to my dad in weeks, and i am sad. i feel like i have no closure with him b/c we didn't talk about the situation. if you try to have a conversation that is confrentaional, he blocks you out, asks you to leave, and then pretends that nothing happened. so i figured i would send him...
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flintfeet
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But I'm not sad
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I didn't get the job I interviewed for but I'm not sad or disappointed! The actual job was a little different then the ad, as it would have mainly been bookkeeping, which I don't have experience at, I would have been secluded in an office, my personality needs customer interaction. ...
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marmare
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Miss you guys
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Hey all I started my new job this week and I cannot get onto the chat room when I am here :(. My hours are crazy since I work from 8am -5 at one job and then off to the other one till almost 10pm so by the time I get home - I am so shot that I dont want to be online chatting.
I cant even go to my f2f anymore :(.&n...
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Explain to me.....
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It's me again, always trying to understand everything.
So, explain to me why AA and Al-anon teaches us that we are not supposed to expect love in return from a marriage to an addict. We are only supposed to care for ourself, take care of ourself etc. Of course we can't force someone to lov...
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sdisnie
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Called an attorney
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My A has basically abandoned this relationship. He said that he didn't want to be in a marital relationship with me - that he loses himself, he only has short time left to do the things that he wants to do which includes golf. This is after 32 years and he says he never wanted to be here. He says that the only r...
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nmike
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Pulling The Doormat Sign Off My Forehead
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Hi everyone!
Some of you may remember me telling you about a guy I met around Thanksgiving. Things were going very well until this past weekend. I saw some red flags, but waited a little more. Before Alanon, I would have made excuses for his behavior and hung around some more to be treated poorly and pu...
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kissers
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is it a CRIME for me to get MY needs met????
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ok, i am in the s*** house with my sister (we grew up as sisters but are BIO cousins)
anway, her hubby 2 weeks ago, had heart attack....i was at the very same time doing this AWFUL workbook and going into crying /grief mode....i put off MY work, for a couple of days ti...
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rosie light shines
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He's Back
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My husband left rehab this weekend,...he made 11 days. I had mixed feelings on it, I wanted him to be home, we all missed him, but I wanted him to stay. Searching my feelings I've come to the conclusion that it wasn't that I didn't think he was ready...to be honest I don't know how many days that takes. He'd...
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GSDGIRL36
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Feel like I havent been on in FOREVER
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Well - a positive update for me -
I spent almost all of last week entertaining the guy I met in Chicago for 3 days. It was probably one of the best times I have ever had with anyone - easy, enjoyable, never laughed so hard in my entire life. He is sweet and kind and treated me very well. H...
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Cyn
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the right way?
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i am not sure about how to start the right way of changing things. i have no contact with my dad, so i no longer inable him. it's hard for me b/c i have 2 kids (1yr &3yr) that LOVE papaw. i am strong and too proud of a person to go back on my word to have contact with him. although i feel like i am taking t...
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flintfeet
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I feel like I keep getting hit
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I fee like over the last several months I've been hit by blow after blow regarding my relationships. Grantes, these were clearly not the right men for me, but it's hard for me to not take things personally. My first inclination is to think "Why not me? What's wrong with me?" No, I realize that I'm not real...
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ashamed!
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like i have told many of you...i have epilepsy & therefore do not drive. so i can't get to the meetings. i think maybe this is an excuse for not going. i thought about it today, and realized i think i am ashamed. i want to speak out about my situation, but i don't want anyone to know how much it bugs...
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flintfeet
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Making Amends To One's Self
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Dear Roomies,
A while back I read from Courage to Change an entry that explores the idea of not only making amends to others, but to oneself.
As I approach February, the month of valentines, friendship, and love, I am considering spending this month with a special intention of loving myself, and t...
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BlueCloud
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My Son Has Been Lying to Me
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I thought my son was my ally against alcohol but I have recently found out that he is a drinker, too, just like his stepmom. Now I am realizing I am alone in the struggle. Not just alone, but devasted with two "A's" in my immediate family circle. My son has been stealing from me -- anything and everything fr...
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YKnot
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Should I tell him about this place?
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Firstly, I would like to thank everyone who replied to my post yesterday. It gave me some insight and of course, we all have our opinions and it helps to have different feedbacks. I haven't used your replies to make a decision of course on how I will continue living with an A since my s...
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Alexandrite1313
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My MIP screw
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A good MIP friend gave me a screw. It is in a case with the saying "use as needed to let you know you are never truly alone you have alanon and the MIP family."
My life at this moment is a perfect storm of stress and I have been using the screw as needed like ALOT.
I am on a business trip to Texas an...
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megan
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New here seeking guidance...
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I just recently started attending Al-Anon meetings...while I find them very helpful in that I can associate with people that undestand what I have been through. But I truly don't buy into some of the beliefs in the meetings, not that they're bad things, nor do I want to offend anyone..I don't se...
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Bigus
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Chat Rooms and Server Upgraded! (Please Read)
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This is simply a notice that all Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums chat rooms will be moved to a new dedicated server, that is solely for the use of Miracles In Progress. This change will be fully initiated on Sunday, January 22nd, 2006. It is our greatest hope that all ops/chai...
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John
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u might get mad...
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this might make some of you mad. so i apologize ahead of time.
i keep hearing people blame it on the diease. i can't grasp that concept. i am supposed to be understanding b/c he can't help it? i think it is bull. why am i the one who has to "fix" myself when he is the one with the problem? i feel like he has no ac...
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flintfeet
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We do not control A guilt
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There was this guy who got stopped around here not long ago and was sited for
drunk driving. He was belligerant, hit a cop, non compliant, uncooperative and
Had to be subdued with spray then he was physically restrained.
He refused the sobriety test.
It was later found out he was diabetic...
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debilyn
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