Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Kim · Kim

Hello all: sorry i haven't posted in a while, I have actually been busy taking care of me! Not forgetting my program, trying to keep it in the day (both with my Dad's illness and my A) and doing things for Kim. Yesterday, I bought (well, leased) a new car! I was nervous and anxious ab...

Liv · Liv

It's Sunday morning and my husband is sleeping. The kids are playing around me and I am so tired from worrying. I hate weekends. My husband has a great job that he as far as I know is managing pretty successfully. It's the rest of his time that is a mess. He spends the weekends drinking or recovering from dr...

lmt123 · lmt123

I am having one of those icky days, sort of feeling a little lonely. It's so stinking rainy and dreary out, and it has been since middle of last nite. My A has his stuff to do, good stuff, with his AA meeting and his meeting with his sponsee...my daughter has her stuff to do...I am starting to h...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Now that I've got your attention... hahahaha (gotcha, huh?)... ramble to follow.... Our program is based on some pretty good principles. The structure of our program relies on 3 main legacies: the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts. (Hence the triangle figure you see on Alanon liter...

gardengal · gardengal

Anyone who watched my interactions with alcoholics in my life probably would have considered me the crazy one. I was the one who searched from bar to bar, made scnes in public places and got hysterical over little things. I was also the one who agonized over the alcoholics behaviour, lied , made...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i keep tossing the idea of going to meetings or not going. i think i feel the same way my dad feels about aa. he won't go b/c he feels it is below him and that he doesn't need them. i sometimes feel like i can cope and don't need them. more power to those of you that regularly go to meetings! i just think they are n...

Barbara · Barbara

We were on our way out for lunch today. Husband asked he where I went this morning. Told him to a meeting. What meeting? AlAnon and he left it at that.

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hiya troops.... Just interested in looking down the list of posts in recent times, and makes me kind of giggle at human tendencies sometimes.... Collectively, we are all like a bunch of people on the highway, slowing down to get a good look at the accident!! If you look at the most "look...

bobump · bobump

Just curious. I'm noticing that I'm seeing an influx of people here and also at my meetings recently. A combination of both newbies, returnees, and active alanoners from other meetings. Is right after the holidays typical a time where so many have had to deal w/ the alcohol trifecta o...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't want to be so resentful of my A, or angry. He came home last night, drunk and fell asleep about 5:00am, now, he is dressed and ready to go to the bar and watch the football game and do it again. I hate this disease. at first it was he would be home after the game, now it is he will watch both games, and he wi...

pagenie · pagenie

Our son was ordered to complete an 18 session alcohol class at a local mental health facility as a result of a second DUI. He completed the course in October. It appeared that he was not an alcoholic but a social drinker who makes poor choices when it comes to his compan...

leo · leo

Hi John re-configured everything and I appear to be getting into chat now but no-one is there. Can you tell me what channel I should be keying in? I have been putting in MIP which comes up with your info but when I post no one is there. Am I doing something wrong I am on MIRC. Many thanks L...

AlaMom · AlaMom

After years of living with active disease, bouts of recovery, and bouts of dry drunk I have seen my fair share of BS. My husband is sober, dry, very little into recovery and is what I believe to be a rageaholic. And last night I found the courage to take a stand. As has been the patter...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey all well its saturday night and im home alone. its great fun. NOT!!!!!!! i met with my ex yesterday and he was "out of it". he tried telling me he was fine but he wasn't. i dont know how i came to be in this situation. my life seems to be going around in a limbo in the last 6 mths. i know for a fact my ex is...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't know if anyone has an answer to this question, but I thought I would ask anyway, and see if anyone had any thoughts on it. Is there one event, that turns, or can turn a person into an alcoholic? I ask b/c my A always drank, I guess he started in high school. But in college some girl I guess really messed...

marmare · marmare

My A has been doing good, still sober, however I met with someone about a job yesterday, the guy owns his own business, he wants to hire me to straighten his shop out and work sales, he has 6 semi's and does, seed, bark, and compost blowing. My A has been making little comments about maybe I wa...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I am sitting here wondering how I ended up in this position yet again. Last night my "A" took the car saying he'd be back in about an hour. That was at 6:30pm, well it is 8:50am and he isn't home. Normally I would just go on with my day knowing that sooner or later he'll come home with his tail tu...

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

I feel like the queen of codependency and enabling. Been doing alot of reading - Al-anon books - and have realized how things sounds so familiar. I try to help everyone but myself and have made myself miserable. Kept trying to change my husband to no avail - brought myself ri...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's all happened so fast, all within 5 weeks. He leaves home to go work and 'says' he's hoping for a better opportunity for me and kids and a new life, more money, a fresh start. He's supposed to be back in two weeks for Xmas. Instead, he relapses, almost dies, goes to the hospital,&n...

confused · confused

So he just called, has the poor me's . Totally different tone then the past week or so. Will need to leave his dad's, fixated on "you are not alone" sign at meeting and felt alone, not doing good mentally, blah, blah....All that guilt in a 5 minute conversation. This is so tiring. All I could manage to say w...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a week or so. Trying to get by. Been to a couple of f2f this week, they were quite helpful. I have been feeling very overwhelmed and pressured by my A's actions and words. He was calling like 10 times a day and if a day went by that he did not see me all i would here was how dif...

kat4u · kat4u

Hi, I don't get into chat very often, and try to attend the meetings I can. Sometimes when I can't sleep and all the problems associated with my As brother's death pile up on me...I come to chat to vent, or just have someone to listen to. Tonite, I went into chat, and was shocked when...

liliana · liliana

Hi, It's great to be back my computer was in the repair shop for almost 2 weeks. I resigned from my longterm job yesterday, and will be working at my part time job-full time starting in two weeks. I was under payed and really being taken advantage of for way too long. I made a well thoug...

megan · megan

I cannot host the Sunday 7pm meeting. I have houseguests, my SIL shower and now, I found out last night, relatives from PA are coming. And I need to take my sister to thwe airport at 6. If any OP can cover my shift I will be very grateful

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I posted this morning about my "A" not coming home, and the fact that I had plans to attend the concert and I needed him to watch the kids. Well at noon I called my best friend and she said she would watch the kids for me. I had to wait till noon to call her, because she likes to sleep in on the weeken...

Jayda · Jayda

Does anyone know of any message boards for family members of crack addicts?

lilleah · lilleah

Ok, I hope this does not sound nuts, but I can tell the nights my A is going to go out, even before HE knows! It is just this feeling I get, I don't know, but I was wondering if anyone else could sense that too? Maybe it is b/c he got paid and has money, so I just figured he would go out. The only time he d...

John_R · John_R

John and I completed the server switchover tonight, and there may still be people using mIRC who cannot get into the new room. The following instructions are designed to be as simple as possible and should get you over there, by creating a new entry for the new server. 1) Open up mIRC and...

debilyn · debilyn

I tell ya, last night I read about a 19 year old who got 2 dui's in an hour. I wanted to go find him, take him to see my A and say this is YOUR future. Probaby would not make a bit of difference as people that young don't really believe anything like that will happen to them. Thus why our 18 to 21 year olds...

Becky1 · Becky1

My A husband and I have been together since 1997, married since 2000. I am so lonely, sometimes I think I will die. I have been in therapy, and reading Alanon literature, and coming to the chatroom and meetings here. I have been focusing on myself, trying to deal with everything. I'm getting better, but...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! I am feeling more than a little frustrated right now and thought I would write it here, as this may help. As you may know my a (husband) has his own home to go to when he drinks. He is a binge drinker who will drink 24/7 for a week or so. Then go through the horrible recovery symptoms. Then he is able...

DoulaonCall · DoulaonCall

This is my first post here: A quick snapshot of me is, married almost 10 years to a very functional A. He has been in and out of recovery for a few years. He has moved from drinking every day to once or twice a month. It seems as if he is committed to working on recovery, committed to improvement and to “tr...

Confused2 · Confused2

My dear wife has had a very bad back condition for the past 5 years that has required Doctors to treat the pain because no one would fix the problem. Her condition was not bad enough for surgery according to her Doctors until the last 6 months when her spine just gave way. She had L-1 through t-4 fused. Pain...

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone , i just wanted to say hello and tell you everything is still going fantastic. chuck is clean & sober thank god!! amanda is doing great too. i am very happy & i hope everyone is doing great :) keep in touch hugs chrissy

mamaof4angels · mamaof4angels

Hi everyone, I am a new member and after 32 yrs of living complete hell in my life, I finally decided I need help for me! I have grown in a home with a mother who was addicted to addictions as I would call it. She was addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, men, gambling, you name it. My 2 brothers and I were of NO int...

marmare · marmare

I know we all get stuff in our email, however today I received the following and really thought all of us could us it, even the males here.....so I have changed a bit of it to reflect on us all... Hugs Mary Person to Person Encouragement Someone will always be better looking. They will alway...

mamaof4angels · mamaof4angels

That there was somewhere online I would be able to talk to ppl in my shoes. My A mother goes to AA meetings and tells the ppl there how she has not had a drink in years and how her family means everything to her, and it was only 3 weeks ago we caught her drunk....3 WEEKS AGO!!! LIES LIES LIES .....all she kn...

sas · sas

Just a quick vent.....I have been trying to write something for over 30 minutes now and after being interrupted a few too many times for really important things like "where is an inkpen?, Who is on the phone?, What are you doing?, What is ESH?, I thought you were going out?, Why can't I read what your writ...

allison · allison

I have been writting alot of negative posts so I thought I would write a positive one while I was in a good mood.I had my first therapy session today and it went really well. I was expecting the therapist to tell me I was crazy but She said just the opposite...that I was right and My A is just manipulating me....

flintfeet · flintfeet

i looked up alanon meetings in my local area. there are so many different kinds. i have no idea where to start. there are brown baggers, serinity group, recovery, trinity, pick me ups, liturature,...many more. what have i gotten myself into:)smile. i'll find something.

doxie · doxie

Hello! I don't know what is going on. I just got a new computer today. I can get into chat on my old one still, but not on this new one. Whatever could be wrong? What do I need to do? The whole point of getting this computer was to have a computer of my own in my room! Grrrrrr Thanks so much Doxie

pixel04 · pixel04

this seems like such a small thing, but i was really happy with how it worked out. last weekend i played poker with some friends, one of whom is a former manager of mine. he is a much better poker player than i am, and at one point during the game he predicted i was about to make a stupid move, and he used a ton...

WakingUp · WakingUp

So I'm the new literature person for my meeting, beginning the 1st week in January. The first week I tried to talk with the previous literature person, and she just basically said that I was to tell people that we have newcomer packs and other great literature, see me at the break. I can ad l...

hudsond · hudsond

My a has been very grouchy the past 3 weeks. I know for sure he has used 2 times in the pst 3 weeks. I'm guessing he has actually used more. I told him last night that I missed his smile. He said he hadn't realized it hadn't been smiling. I told him it had been about 3 weeks sin...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I'd really like some honest impartial feedback here. Here's an email exchange with my ex in response to an incident that happened the night before. She is trying to figure out if she should try to work at our relationship to regain the feelings she once had for me. We are still livin...

karyn · karyn

NOT 12 Step, sorry but... My husband is in an intense aversion medical program. Really intense. Self induced after coming to grips with personally how bad off he was. As a result, he is going to be over sensitive to anything with even a wiff of scent. I am a person who loves the tastes in moderati...

flintfeet · flintfeet

yesturday i broke down to my hubbie about how i have been feeling. i feel like no one understands including him. my dad is the A and it hurts me and the rest of our family. my husband is the most amazing man, and is always supportive. but a few weeks ago he made a comment like saying "don't get all worked up b/c...

flintfeet · flintfeet

all i keep thinking about is my dad. i wonder if he is thinking of me too. i wonder if he is blitzed out of his mind or thinking of his family.i know the answer to that...he is drunk. if he's not, he's thinking of how to numb the feeling of his family. i feel sorry for him.

nycbt · nycbt

I am doing good this welek. I have good days he hasn 't gone drinking. I am working on my step 3. I am setting up to be in mirc/op. If everything goes well I will be one for tom morning. Here some saying: "There is no good reason why we should not develop and change until the last day we live." by Karen Hor...

Audrey · Audrey

Well I finally did it! I Let Go! After reading the Post by Tea2 last week over and over again, I realized it was time. Last night I had to take my son to a dr appt. My a husband, oh like so many other nights, decided to stop at a bar on the way home from work, which mean...

Emafer · Emafer

I was just wondering if anyone knows of a study or just in general has experience with a highly intelligent alcoholic. I've found that ao many alcoholics and addicts I know are highly intelligent, and highly aware of thier own pain and therefore find drinking and drugging as an easy solution to...

penny · penny

Hi This is my first time posting on any site whatsoever so please bear with me. Briefly my fella has had a problem with drink for the last 6 years but the past 8 months have been the worst. He has been in rehab a couple of times but got nothing out of it. He has tried AA , 4 weeks sober then...

Alexandrite1313 · Alexandrite1313

Again, thank you all for your replies and the warm welcome. After reading a few posts and realising I wasn't alone and that my case wasn't much different than anyone else living with an A, I decided that I do belong in here. I needed a place to relate, a place where I knew I wouldn't be judge or TOLD what to do...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i have not spoken to my dad in weeks, and i am sad. i feel like i have no closure with him b/c we didn't talk about the situation. if you try to have a conversation that is confrentaional, he blocks you out, asks you to leave, and then pretends that nothing happened. so i figured i would send him...

marmare · marmare

I didn't get the job I interviewed for but I'm not sad or disappointed! The actual job was a little different then the ad, as it would have mainly been bookkeeping, which I don't have experience at, I would have been secluded in an office, my personality needs customer interaction. ...

Cyn · Cyn

Hey all I started my new job this week and I cannot get onto the chat room when I am here :(. My hours are crazy since I work from 8am -5 at one job and then off to the other one till almost 10pm so by the time I get home - I am so shot that I dont want to be online chatting. I cant even go to my f2f anymore :(.&n...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's me again, always trying to understand everything. So, explain to me why AA and Al-anon teaches us that we are not supposed to expect love in return from a marriage to an addict. We are only supposed to care for ourself, take care of ourself etc. Of course we can't force someone to lov...

nmike · nmike

My A has basically abandoned this relationship. He said that he didn't want to be in a marital relationship with me - that he loses himself, he only has short time left to do the things that he wants to do which includes golf. This is after 32 years and he says he never wanted to be here. He says that the only r...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone! Some of you may remember me telling you about a guy I met around Thanksgiving. Things were going very well until this past weekend. I saw some red flags, but waited a little more. Before Alanon, I would have made excuses for his behavior and hung around some more to be treated poorly and pu...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

ok, i am in the s*** house with my sister (we grew up as sisters but are BIO cousins) anway, her hubby 2 weeks ago, had heart attack....i was at the very same time doing this AWFUL workbook and going into crying /grief mode....i put off MY work, for a couple of days ti...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Going to family day today (Preview) Hello all: sorry i haven't posted in a while, I have actually been busy taking care of me! Not forgetting my program, trying to keep it in the day (both with my Dad's illness and my A) and doing things for Kim. Yesterday, I bought (well, leased) a new car! I was nervous and anxious ab...	Kim	5	382	Jan 23, 2006 by Karilynn
	Feeling lost (Preview) It's Sunday morning and my husband is sleeping. The kids are playing around me and I am so tired from worrying. I hate weekends. My husband has a great job that he as far as I know is managing pretty successfully. It's the rest of his time that is a mess. He spends the weekends drinking or recovering from dr...	Liv	7	353	Jan 23, 2006 by Liv
	feeling just a little lonely today... (Preview) I am having one of those icky days, sort of feeling a little lonely. It's so stinking rainy and dreary out, and it has been since middle of last nite. My A has his stuff to do, good stuff, with his AA meeting and his meeting with his sponsee...my daughter has her stuff to do...I am starting to h...	lmt123	7	325	Jan 23, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	Bringing it out of Chat... (Preview) Now that I've got your attention... hahahaha (gotcha, huh?)... ramble to follow.... Our program is based on some pretty good principles. The structure of our program relies on 3 main legacies: the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts. (Hence the triangle figure you see on Alanon liter...	kismetstrand	7	405	Jan 23, 2006 by kat4u
	EVERYONE THOUGHT i WAS THE CRAZY ONE....... (Preview) Anyone who watched my interactions with alcoholics in my life probably would have considered me the crazy one. I was the one who searched from bar to bar, made scnes in public places and got hysterical over little things. I was also the one who agonized over the alcoholics behaviour, lied , made...	gardengal	6	384	Jan 23, 2006 by kat4u
	anyone feel this way? (Preview) i keep tossing the idea of going to meetings or not going. i think i feel the same way my dad feels about aa. he won't go b/c he feels it is below him and that he doesn't need them. i sometimes feel like i can cope and don't need them. more power to those of you that regularly go to meetings! i just think they are n...	flintfeet	8	462	Jan 23, 2006 by kat4u
	told husband I went to an AlAnon meeting (Preview) We were on our way out for lunch today. Husband asked he where I went this morning. Told him to a meeting. What meeting? AlAnon and he left it at that.	Barbara	5	357	Jan 22, 2006 by tori
	What are we here for?? (Preview) Hiya troops.... Just interested in looking down the list of posts in recent times, and makes me kind of giggle at human tendencies sometimes.... Collectively, we are all like a bunch of people on the highway, slowing down to get a good look at the accident!! If you look at the most "look...	canadianguy	12	642	Jan 22, 2006 by sparkette
	Tis the season for alanoners? (Preview) Just curious. I'm noticing that I'm seeing an influx of people here and also at my meetings recently. A combination of both newbies, returnees, and active alanoners from other meetings. Is right after the holidays typical a time where so many have had to deal w/ the alcohol trifecta o...	bobump	6	373	Jan 22, 2006 by sparkette
	vent (Preview) I don't want to be so resentful of my A, or angry. He came home last night, drunk and fell asleep about 5:00am, now, he is dressed and ready to go to the bar and watch the football game and do it again. I hate this disease. at first it was he would be home after the game, now it is he will watch both games, and he wi...	lilleah	6	329	Jan 22, 2006 by lin0606
	Need support concerning decision (Preview) Our son was ordered to complete an 18 session alcohol class at a local mental health facility as a result of a second DUI. He completed the course in October. It appeared that he was not an alcoholic but a social drinker who makes poor choices when it comes to his compan...	pagenie	6	319	Jan 22, 2006 by lin0606
	John chat configurations (Preview) Hi John re-configured everything and I appear to be getting into chat now but no-one is there. Can you tell me what channel I should be keying in? I have been putting in MIP which comes up with your info but when I post no one is there. Am I doing something wrong I am on MIRC. Many thanks L...	leo	2	282	Jan 22, 2006 by leo
	Finding the Courage (Preview) After years of living with active disease, bouts of recovery, and bouts of dry drunk I have seen my fair share of BS. My husband is sober, dry, very little into recovery and is what I believe to be a rageaholic. And last night I found the courage to take a stand. As has been the patter...	AlaMom	7	529	Jan 22, 2006 by TLC2
	2 steps forward...4 steps back.. (Preview) hey all well its saturday night and im home alone. its great fun. NOT!!!!!!! i met with my ex yesterday and he was "out of it". he tried telling me he was fine but he wasn't. i dont know how i came to be in this situation. my life seems to be going around in a limbo in the last 6 mths. i know for a fact my ex is...	Rebecca	3	490	Jan 22, 2006 by Cyn
	question (Preview) I don't know if anyone has an answer to this question, but I thought I would ask anyway, and see if anyone had any thoughts on it. Is there one event, that turns, or can turn a person into an alcoholic? I ask b/c my A always drank, I guess he started in high school. But in college some girl I guess really messed...	lilleah	6	519	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Normal for an A? (Preview) My A has been doing good, still sober, however I met with someone about a job yesterday, the guy owns his own business, he wants to hire me to straighten his shop out and work sales, he has 6 semi's and does, seed, bark, and compost blowing. My A has been making little comments about maybe I wa...	marmare	5	328	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Disapointment, Anger, and Choices (Preview) Hello All, I am sitting here wondering how I ended up in this position yet again. Last night my "A" took the car saying he'd be back in about an hour. That was at 6:30pm, well it is 8:50am and he isn't home. Normally I would just go on with my day knowing that sooner or later he'll come home with his tail tu...	Dolphin123	3	403	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Just realized how co-dependent and enabling I am (Preview) I feel like the queen of codependency and enabling. Been doing alot of reading - Al-anon books - and have realized how things sounds so familiar. I try to help everyone but myself and have made myself miserable. Kept trying to change my husband to no avail - brought myself ri...	nancyfrances	3	314	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	He wants a divorce (Preview) It's all happened so fast, all within 5 weeks. He leaves home to go work and 'says' he's hoping for a better opportunity for me and kids and a new life, more money, a fresh start. He's supposed to be back in two weeks for Xmas. Instead, he relapses, almost dies, goes to the hospital,&n...	sdisnie	8	548	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	he called, the roller coaster is up and running again (Preview) So he just called, has the poor me's . Totally different tone then the past week or so. Will need to leave his dad's, fixated on "you are not alone" sign at meeting and felt alone, not doing good mentally, blah, blah....All that guilt in a 5 minute conversation. This is so tiring. All I could manage to say w...	confused	4	389	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	kids, separation, manipulation some esh needed (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a week or so. Trying to get by. Been to a couple of f2f this week, they were quite helpful. I have been feeling very overwhelmed and pressured by my A's actions and words. He was calling like 10 times a day and if a day went by that he did not see me all i would here was how dif...	confused	2	380	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Ugly remark in chat room (Preview) Hi, I don't get into chat very often, and try to attend the meetings I can. Sometimes when I can't sleep and all the problems associated with my As brother's death pile up on me...I come to chat to vent, or just have someone to listen to. Tonite, I went into chat, and was shocked when...	kat4u	20	640	Jan 22, 2006 by kat4u
	resigned from work yesterday. (Preview) Hi, It's great to be back my computer was in the repair shop for almost 2 weeks. I resigned from my longterm job yesterday, and will be working at my part time job-full time starting in two weeks. I was under payed and really being taken advantage of for way too long. I made a well thoug...	liliana	2	481	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Sunday 7pm meeting coverage (Preview) I cannot host the Sunday 7pm meeting. I have houseguests, my SIL shower and now, I found out last night, relatives from PA are coming. And I need to take my sister to thwe airport at 6. If any OP can cover my shift I will be very grateful	megan	1	335	Jan 22, 2006 by Faith73
	Update on Disapointment, Anger, and Choices. (Preview) Hello All, I posted this morning about my "A" not coming home, and the fact that I had plans to attend the concert and I needed him to watch the kids. Well at noon I called my best friend and she said she would watch the kids for me. I had to wait till noon to call her, because she likes to sleep in on the weeken...	Dolphin123	4	418	Jan 22, 2006 by tea2
	Crack Addiction boards? (Preview) Does anyone know of any message boards for family members of crack addicts?	Jayda	4	419	Jan 22, 2006 by Dolphin123
	confusion (Preview) Ok, I hope this does not sound nuts, but I can tell the nights my A is going to go out, even before HE knows! It is just this feeling I get, I don't know, but I was wondering if anyone else could sense that too? Maybe it is b/c he got paid and has money, so I just figured he would go out. The only time he d...	lilleah	4	339	Jan 22, 2006 by nmike
	mIRC Configuration Changes (Preview) John and I completed the server switchover tonight, and there may still be people using mIRC who cannot get into the new room. The following instructions are designed to be as simple as possible and should get you over there, by creating a new entry for the new server. 1) Open up mIRC and...	John_R	0	319	Jan 22, 2006 by John_R
	Vat next dahling? (Preview) I tell ya, last night I read about a 19 year old who got 2 dui's in an hour. I wanted to go find him, take him to see my A and say this is YOUR future. Probaby would not make a bit of difference as people that young don't really believe anything like that will happen to them. Thus why our 18 to 21 year olds...	debilyn	10	468	Jan 22, 2006 by debilyn
	Trouble with Intimacy? (Preview) My A husband and I have been together since 1997, married since 2000. I am so lonely, sometimes I think I will die. I have been in therapy, and reading Alanon literature, and coming to the chatroom and meetings here. I have been focusing on myself, trying to deal with everything. I'm getting better, but...	Becky1	8	522	Jan 22, 2006 by Faith73
	Frustrated.... (Preview) Hi All! I am feeling more than a little frustrated right now and thought I would write it here, as this may help. As you may know my a (husband) has his own home to go to when he drinks. He is a binge drinker who will drink 24/7 for a week or so. Then go through the horrible recovery symptoms. Then he is able...	Feather	3	289	Jan 21, 2006 by Feather
	Crossroads (Preview) This is my first post here: A quick snapshot of me is, married almost 10 years to a very functional A. He has been in and out of recovery for a few years. He has moved from drinking every day to once or twice a month. It seems as if he is committed to working on recovery, committed to improvement and to “tr...	DoulaonCall	5	677	Jan 21, 2006 by DoulaonCall
	I think I have a problem!!! Help!!! (Preview) My dear wife has had a very bad back condition for the past 5 years that has required Doctors to treat the pain because no one would fix the problem. Her condition was not bad enough for surgery according to her Doctors until the last 6 months when her spine just gave way. She had L-1 through t-4 fused. Pain...	Confused2	6	429	Jan 21, 2006 by Confused2
	up date (Preview) hi everyone , i just wanted to say hello and tell you everything is still going fantastic. chuck is clean & sober thank god!! amanda is doing great too. i am very happy & i hope everyone is doing great :) keep in touch hugs chrissy	chrissy	6	360	Jan 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I need a friend... (Preview) Hi everyone, I am a new member and after 32 yrs of living complete hell in my life, I finally decided I need help for me! I have grown in a home with a mother who was addicted to addictions as I would call it. She was addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, men, gambling, you name it. My 2 brothers and I were of NO int...	mamaof4angels	8	447	Jan 21, 2006 by Maria123
	Rarely do I do this (Preview) I know we all get stuff in our email, however today I received the following and really thought all of us could us it, even the males here.....so I have changed a bit of it to reflect on us all... Hugs Mary Person to Person Encouragement Someone will always be better looking. They will alway...	marmare	11	432	Jan 21, 2006 by Karilynn
	Never have I imagined... (Preview) That there was somewhere online I would be able to talk to ppl in my shoes. My A mother goes to AA meetings and tells the ppl there how she has not had a drink in years and how her family means everything to her, and it was only 3 weeks ago we caught her drunk....3 WEEKS AGO!!! LIES LIES LIES .....all she kn...	mamaof4angels	3	308	Jan 21, 2006 by mamaof4angels
	AGGRAVATED! (Preview) Just a quick vent.....I have been trying to write something for over 30 minutes now and after being interrupted a few too many times for really important things like "where is an inkpen?, Who is on the phone?, What are you doing?, What is ESH?, I thought you were going out?, Why can't I read what your writ...	sas	4	333	Jan 21, 2006 by afglin
	a better day :) (Preview) I have been writting alot of negative posts so I thought I would write a positive one while I was in a good mood.I had my first therapy session today and it went really well. I was expecting the therapist to tell me I was crazy but She said just the opposite...that I was right and My A is just manipulating me....	allison	2	268	Jan 21, 2006 by angelinme908
	never been to meetings (Preview) i looked up alanon meetings in my local area. there are so many different kinds. i have no idea where to start. there are brown baggers, serinity group, recovery, trinity, pick me ups, liturature,...many more. what have i gotten myself into:)smile. i'll find something.	flintfeet	5	320	Jan 21, 2006 by angelinme908
	Chat/computer help (Preview) Hello! I don't know what is going on. I just got a new computer today. I can get into chat on my old one still, but not on this new one. Whatever could be wrong? What do I need to do? The whole point of getting this computer was to have a computer of my own in my room! Grrrrrr Thanks so much Doxie	doxie	1	305	Jan 20, 2006 by bobump
	keeping my side of the street clean (Preview) this seems like such a small thing, but i was really happy with how it worked out. last weekend i played poker with some friends, one of whom is a former manager of mine. he is a much better poker player than i am, and at one point during the game he predicted i was about to make a stupid move, and he used a ton...	pixel04	5	1743	Jan 20, 2006 by nmike
	Am I being too sensitive? (Preview) So I'm the new literature person for my meeting, beginning the 1st week in January. The first week I tried to talk with the previous literature person, and she just basically said that I was to tell people that we have newcomer packs and other great literature, see me at the break. I can ad l...	WakingUp	6	401	Jan 20, 2006 by krise
	Blew it last night (Preview) My a has been very grouchy the past 3 weeks. I know for sure he has used 2 times in the pst 3 weeks. I'm guessing he has actually used more. I told him last night that I missed his smile. He said he hadn't realized it hadn't been smiling. I told him it had been about 3 weeks sin...	hudsond	6	368	Jan 20, 2006 by krise
	Am I nasty? Attacking her? (Preview) I'd really like some honest impartial feedback here. Here's an email exchange with my ex in response to an incident that happened the night before. She is trying to figure out if she should try to work at our relationship to regain the feelings she once had for me. We are still livin...	UncleLou	9	492	Jan 20, 2006 by krise
	Dealing with medical rehab for him (Preview) NOT 12 Step, sorry but... My husband is in an intense aversion medical program. Really intense. Self induced after coming to grips with personally how bad off he was. As a result, he is going to be over sensitive to anything with even a wiff of scent. I am a person who loves the tastes in moderati...	karyn	7	497	Jan 20, 2006 by karyn
	broke down (Preview) yesturday i broke down to my hubbie about how i have been feeling. i feel like no one understands including him. my dad is the A and it hurts me and the rest of our family. my husband is the most amazing man, and is always supportive. but a few weeks ago he made a comment like saying "don't get all worked up b/c...	flintfeet	3	395	Jan 20, 2006 by abbyal
	all i can think about (Preview) all i keep thinking about is my dad. i wonder if he is thinking of me too. i wonder if he is blitzed out of his mind or thinking of his family.i know the answer to that...he is drunk. if he's not, he's thinking of how to numb the feeling of his family. i feel sorry for him.	flintfeet	3	383	Jan 20, 2006 by abbyal
	ok (Preview) I am doing good this welek. I have good days he hasn 't gone drinking. I am working on my step 3. I am setting up to be in mirc/op. If everything goes well I will be one for tom morning. Here some saying: "There is no good reason why we should not develop and change until the last day we live." by Karen Hor...	nycbt	2	314	Jan 20, 2006 by Rebecca
	I Let Go!!! (Preview) Well I finally did it! I Let Go! After reading the Post by Tea2 last week over and over again, I realized it was time. Last night I had to take my son to a dr appt. My a husband, oh like so many other nights, decided to stop at a bar on the way home from work, which mean...	Audrey	4	443	Jan 20, 2006 by Gailey
	Alcoholism and high intelligence? (Preview) I was just wondering if anyone knows of a study or just in general has experience with a highly intelligent alcoholic. I've found that ao many alcoholics and addicts I know are highly intelligent, and highly aware of thier own pain and therefore find drinking and drugging as an easy solution to...	Emafer	14	2972	Jan 20, 2006 by ashraven
	New to this (Preview) Hi This is my first time posting on any site whatsoever so please bear with me. Briefly my fella has had a problem with drink for the last 6 years but the past 8 months have been the worst. He has been in rehab a couple of times but got nothing out of it. He has tried AA , 4 weeks sober then...	penny	5	415	Jan 20, 2006 by flintfeet
	My Decision (Preview) Again, thank you all for your replies and the warm welcome. After reading a few posts and realising I wasn't alone and that my case wasn't much different than anyone else living with an A, I decided that I do belong in here. I needed a place to relate, a place where I knew I wouldn't be judge or TOLD what to do...	Alexandrite1313	3	375	Jan 20, 2006 by hudsond
	what do u think? (Preview) i have not spoken to my dad in weeks, and i am sad. i feel like i have no closure with him b/c we didn't talk about the situation. if you try to have a conversation that is confrentaional, he blocks you out, asks you to leave, and then pretends that nothing happened. so i figured i would send him...	flintfeet	2	278	Jan 20, 2006 by rosie light shines
	But I'm not sad (Preview) I didn't get the job I interviewed for but I'm not sad or disappointed! The actual job was a little different then the ad, as it would have mainly been bookkeeping, which I don't have experience at, I would have been secluded in an office, my personality needs customer interaction. ...	marmare	4	393	Jan 20, 2006 by leo
	Miss you guys (Preview) Hey all I started my new job this week and I cannot get onto the chat room when I am here :(. My hours are crazy since I work from 8am -5 at one job and then off to the other one till almost 10pm so by the time I get home - I am so shot that I dont want to be online chatting. I cant even go to my f2f anymore :(.&n...	Cyn	4	324	Jan 20, 2006 by sandie123
	Explain to me..... (Preview) It's me again, always trying to understand everything. So, explain to me why AA and Al-anon teaches us that we are not supposed to expect love in return from a marriage to an addict. We are only supposed to care for ourself, take care of ourself etc. Of course we can't force someone to lov...	sdisnie	7	463	Jan 20, 2006 by northstar
	Called an attorney (Preview) My A has basically abandoned this relationship. He said that he didn't want to be in a marital relationship with me - that he loses himself, he only has short time left to do the things that he wants to do which includes golf. This is after 32 years and he says he never wanted to be here. He says that the only r...	nmike	4	396	Jan 20, 2006 by leo
	Pulling The Doormat Sign Off My Forehead (Preview) Hi everyone! Some of you may remember me telling you about a guy I met around Thanksgiving. Things were going very well until this past weekend. I saw some red flags, but waited a little more. Before Alanon, I would have made excuses for his behavior and hung around some more to be treated poorly and pu...	kissers	10	465	Jan 19, 2006 by kissers
	is it a CRIME for me to get MY needs met???? (Preview) ok, i am in the s* house with my sister (we grew up as sisters but are BIO cousins) anway, her hubby 2 weeks ago, had heart attack....i was at the very same time doing this AWFUL workbook and going into crying /grief mode....i put off MY work, for a couple of days ti...**	rosie light shines	7	470	Jan 19, 2006 by notsonew1111
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