Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Powerless · Powerless

Hello everyone, I don't have time to check posts, but wanted to check in from the library. I am going to file my taxes this weekend and hope to have a computer by Monday. I need one for school work and as a life line. Things are going fairly well. Kids are great, but I miss m...

debilyn · debilyn

a just called me. started out ok. we were trying to figure out if he has 3 dui's in ten years. i found a site that tells the sentances possible and stuff. Next thing I know he is saying all this horrible stuff, how I did this I did that. I did too much for him, he did not deserver a wife like me, then i how I k...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

January 18 The Simple Inventory " Continuing to take a personal inventory means that we form a habit of looking at ourselves, our actions, our attitudes, and our relationships on a regular basis." Basic Text, p. 41The daily inventory is a tool we can use to simplify our lives. The most complica...

mollyann · mollyann

Thanks for the replies to my post yesterday. It was just what I needed to hear! I made an appointment with my therapist and my doctor this morning to review my medication. I got an email today from the guy I am seeing. I am mad at myself about the time I wasted yesterday wondering why...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey guys, this past two weeks, i gave me a BIG treat.... got all new faucets, through out... bathtubs glazed new curtains , AND--- all new tiles throughout the house..... its a good thing i can do a lot of stuff by myself, cuz it would have cost me more than the appro...

sparkette · sparkette

Today my husband (ACOA) and myself (ACOA) are going to get the keys to our new house. I have found myself feeling more nervous than excited and I thought that maybe that was wrong. When you get a new house you are supposed to be so happy that you can't contain yourselves right? Well, I have been mostly terr...

Becky1 · Becky1

I found this on the internet, author unknown: Think of the things that maake you happy Not of the things that make you sad Think of the fine and true in mankind Not the sordid side and bad Think of the blessings that surround you Not the ones that are denied Think of the virtues of y...

captcodee · captcodee

I have a secret. It has been eating me alive. It has prevented me from coming to this room. So here goes My problem is this. (boy, this is hard to put down in type for all to see....) I took up smoking pot with my husband. There, that is it. That is the big skeleton that I have hung...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone just posting to let you know im really backed up in reading the posts so thats why i havent posted in a while. im back three pages. lol. hope to get where all you are very soon.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, My a had a very busy week last week. My "a" went down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needed to get his license back. I offerred to bring him to the DUI school so he could sign up. That was last Tuesday. So, he comes out of the questioning booth an...

flintfeet · flintfeet

some of you use abreviations, and i have some of them pegged, but not all. can someone clue me in on the shorthand? thanks

Barbara · Barbara

Attended a Begineers meeting. I had choice of Begineer or Step 5 (which Im not ready for) so attended the Begineer. The chair had us go around the room to speak instead of raising our hands. My first thought was to pass but then I saw someone take out her Courage to Change book. I took mine out and looked for...

flintfeet · flintfeet

sometimes i hear what people have to say about loving the person and i resent what they say. i hear people say to love them and not let it effect me. not to blame them b/c they have a disease. not to detach from the person but the alcohol. but this is me...and how i feel about it. 1: &nbs...

mollyann · mollyann

I read somewhere recently that when you're working on your spirituality, asking others how they pray can help. In my last post, I said I have been going to church. When I attend Mass, I kneel and pray, but half the time I don't feel anything. No connection. Are you supposed to feel connected?&n...

hudsond · hudsond

I just read that saying from a post. I know that is so what I need to do, but I haven't found a way to hope for the best without getting my hopes up! I have had just a really couple of bad weeks. This past week, I found myself really overwhelmed and depressed. My a started a medication th...

flintfeet · flintfeet

my sis, bro, and i have decided to not speak with our dad b/c of our situation with his drinking (long story-i'll spare you). we were doing well, and thought maybe my dad would wake up and realize he would lose his family if something didn't change. we all stayed strong as a group. my brother was t...

pagenie · pagenie

I just need to vent. Some of you may have read my post from yesterday about us having to tell our son to move out since he was arrested a 4th time for an alcohol-related incident. My husband told him he could not stay at home and must find another place to stay. He stayed with an A friend on Sat. night. Whe...

Gailey · Gailey

Isabella, I know this post for me was a long time ago but I just needed to give you an update on my nagging and worrying. I am finally detaching and letting my son live his own life. I do not sit up at nights and worry about what he is doing and what time he will be home. What a weight lifted from my shoulde...

Barbara · Barbara

can someone please explain what serenity means to you?

Gailey · Gailey

Hi. This is my first post on this group. I have 2 sons that are 29 and 34. Both are married and in my eyes both are alchoholic or at the very least...problem drinkers! My father was an alchoholic and we have sooooooo much addiction in our family. Mine happens to be compulsive overeating. My life is comsume...

irish54 · irish54

Well, I am a 56 year old grandma raising a grandaughter since she was a baby. She will be 17 yrs old a week from today. She has always had a very strong will, and I have always actually respected that part of her and seen it as a good part of her when directed towards positive things. Natu...

DeAnna · DeAnna

I believe luck and Hope does cross my path several times. I just did not recognize it b/c I was in so much despair. Or I wasn't able to grasp onto it for I was not prepared. I also believe that if I remain on the "you" track, (you drank again, you are wro...

lilleah · lilleah

I am so on edge. My A called me around 6:30 at my parents house, he had gone to a friends to watch the game, and of course he was drunk. The whole gallon of Jim Beam is gone, so god only knows how he will be later. But he said he'd call if he'd be later than midnight. I am worried he will be so drunk he will forget to c...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I just wanted to say a quick thank you to those we gave me some ESH this weekend when I really needed it. I was in a bad place Saturday morning and came here, and I really got what I needed, so thank you. That is what I come here for to give some ESH when I have it to give, and to get some ESH when I am in n...

lilleah · lilleah

OK, I don't know why I did this, but I called the bars where my A said he'd be. He was not there. I had my baby, and we were in the car going down the hill(the 2yr. old is at my parent's b/c I am going out of town for work for 3 days, his parents are watching the baby while he is at work), and and I see him driving up the...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: sorry i haven't posted in a while, I have actually been busy taking care of me! Not forgetting my program, trying to keep it in the day (both with my Dad's illness and my A) and doing things for Kim. Yesterday, I bought (well, leased) a new car! I was nervous and anxious ab...

Liv · Liv

It's Sunday morning and my husband is sleeping. The kids are playing around me and I am so tired from worrying. I hate weekends. My husband has a great job that he as far as I know is managing pretty successfully. It's the rest of his time that is a mess. He spends the weekends drinking or recovering from dr...

lmt123 · lmt123

I am having one of those icky days, sort of feeling a little lonely. It's so stinking rainy and dreary out, and it has been since middle of last nite. My A has his stuff to do, good stuff, with his AA meeting and his meeting with his sponsee...my daughter has her stuff to do...I am starting to h...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Now that I've got your attention... hahahaha (gotcha, huh?)... ramble to follow.... Our program is based on some pretty good principles. The structure of our program relies on 3 main legacies: the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts. (Hence the triangle figure you see on Alanon liter...

gardengal · gardengal

Anyone who watched my interactions with alcoholics in my life probably would have considered me the crazy one. I was the one who searched from bar to bar, made scnes in public places and got hysterical over little things. I was also the one who agonized over the alcoholics behaviour, lied , made...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i keep tossing the idea of going to meetings or not going. i think i feel the same way my dad feels about aa. he won't go b/c he feels it is below him and that he doesn't need them. i sometimes feel like i can cope and don't need them. more power to those of you that regularly go to meetings! i just think they are n...

Barbara · Barbara

We were on our way out for lunch today. Husband asked he where I went this morning. Told him to a meeting. What meeting? AlAnon and he left it at that.

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hiya troops.... Just interested in looking down the list of posts in recent times, and makes me kind of giggle at human tendencies sometimes.... Collectively, we are all like a bunch of people on the highway, slowing down to get a good look at the accident!! If you look at the most "look...

bobump · bobump

Just curious. I'm noticing that I'm seeing an influx of people here and also at my meetings recently. A combination of both newbies, returnees, and active alanoners from other meetings. Is right after the holidays typical a time where so many have had to deal w/ the alcohol trifecta o...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't want to be so resentful of my A, or angry. He came home last night, drunk and fell asleep about 5:00am, now, he is dressed and ready to go to the bar and watch the football game and do it again. I hate this disease. at first it was he would be home after the game, now it is he will watch both games, and he wi...

pagenie · pagenie

Our son was ordered to complete an 18 session alcohol class at a local mental health facility as a result of a second DUI. He completed the course in October. It appeared that he was not an alcoholic but a social drinker who makes poor choices when it comes to his compan...

leo · leo

Hi John re-configured everything and I appear to be getting into chat now but no-one is there. Can you tell me what channel I should be keying in? I have been putting in MIP which comes up with your info but when I post no one is there. Am I doing something wrong I am on MIRC. Many thanks L...

AlaMom · AlaMom

After years of living with active disease, bouts of recovery, and bouts of dry drunk I have seen my fair share of BS. My husband is sober, dry, very little into recovery and is what I believe to be a rageaholic. And last night I found the courage to take a stand. As has been the patter...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey all well its saturday night and im home alone. its great fun. NOT!!!!!!! i met with my ex yesterday and he was "out of it". he tried telling me he was fine but he wasn't. i dont know how i came to be in this situation. my life seems to be going around in a limbo in the last 6 mths. i know for a fact my ex is...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't know if anyone has an answer to this question, but I thought I would ask anyway, and see if anyone had any thoughts on it. Is there one event, that turns, or can turn a person into an alcoholic? I ask b/c my A always drank, I guess he started in high school. But in college some girl I guess really messed...

marmare · marmare

My A has been doing good, still sober, however I met with someone about a job yesterday, the guy owns his own business, he wants to hire me to straighten his shop out and work sales, he has 6 semi's and does, seed, bark, and compost blowing. My A has been making little comments about maybe I wa...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I am sitting here wondering how I ended up in this position yet again. Last night my "A" took the car saying he'd be back in about an hour. That was at 6:30pm, well it is 8:50am and he isn't home. Normally I would just go on with my day knowing that sooner or later he'll come home with his tail tu...

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

I feel like the queen of codependency and enabling. Been doing alot of reading - Al-anon books - and have realized how things sounds so familiar. I try to help everyone but myself and have made myself miserable. Kept trying to change my husband to no avail - brought myself ri...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's all happened so fast, all within 5 weeks. He leaves home to go work and 'says' he's hoping for a better opportunity for me and kids and a new life, more money, a fresh start. He's supposed to be back in two weeks for Xmas. Instead, he relapses, almost dies, goes to the hospital,&n...

confused · confused

So he just called, has the poor me's . Totally different tone then the past week or so. Will need to leave his dad's, fixated on "you are not alone" sign at meeting and felt alone, not doing good mentally, blah, blah....All that guilt in a 5 minute conversation. This is so tiring. All I could manage to say w...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a week or so. Trying to get by. Been to a couple of f2f this week, they were quite helpful. I have been feeling very overwhelmed and pressured by my A's actions and words. He was calling like 10 times a day and if a day went by that he did not see me all i would here was how dif...

kat4u · kat4u

Hi, I don't get into chat very often, and try to attend the meetings I can. Sometimes when I can't sleep and all the problems associated with my As brother's death pile up on me...I come to chat to vent, or just have someone to listen to. Tonite, I went into chat, and was shocked when...

liliana · liliana

Hi, It's great to be back my computer was in the repair shop for almost 2 weeks. I resigned from my longterm job yesterday, and will be working at my part time job-full time starting in two weeks. I was under payed and really being taken advantage of for way too long. I made a well thoug...

megan · megan

I cannot host the Sunday 7pm meeting. I have houseguests, my SIL shower and now, I found out last night, relatives from PA are coming. And I need to take my sister to thwe airport at 6. If any OP can cover my shift I will be very grateful

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I posted this morning about my "A" not coming home, and the fact that I had plans to attend the concert and I needed him to watch the kids. Well at noon I called my best friend and she said she would watch the kids for me. I had to wait till noon to call her, because she likes to sleep in on the weeken...

Jayda · Jayda

Does anyone know of any message boards for family members of crack addicts?

lilleah · lilleah

Ok, I hope this does not sound nuts, but I can tell the nights my A is going to go out, even before HE knows! It is just this feeling I get, I don't know, but I was wondering if anyone else could sense that too? Maybe it is b/c he got paid and has money, so I just figured he would go out. The only time he d...

John_R · John_R

John and I completed the server switchover tonight, and there may still be people using mIRC who cannot get into the new room. The following instructions are designed to be as simple as possible and should get you over there, by creating a new entry for the new server. 1) Open up mIRC and...

debilyn · debilyn

I tell ya, last night I read about a 19 year old who got 2 dui's in an hour. I wanted to go find him, take him to see my A and say this is YOUR future. Probaby would not make a bit of difference as people that young don't really believe anything like that will happen to them. Thus why our 18 to 21 year olds...

Becky1 · Becky1

My A husband and I have been together since 1997, married since 2000. I am so lonely, sometimes I think I will die. I have been in therapy, and reading Alanon literature, and coming to the chatroom and meetings here. I have been focusing on myself, trying to deal with everything. I'm getting better, but...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! I am feeling more than a little frustrated right now and thought I would write it here, as this may help. As you may know my a (husband) has his own home to go to when he drinks. He is a binge drinker who will drink 24/7 for a week or so. Then go through the horrible recovery symptoms. Then he is able...

DoulaonCall · DoulaonCall

This is my first post here: A quick snapshot of me is, married almost 10 years to a very functional A. He has been in and out of recovery for a few years. He has moved from drinking every day to once or twice a month. It seems as if he is committed to working on recovery, committed to improvement and to “tr...

Confused2 · Confused2

My dear wife has had a very bad back condition for the past 5 years that has required Doctors to treat the pain because no one would fix the problem. Her condition was not bad enough for surgery according to her Doctors until the last 6 months when her spine just gave way. She had L-1 through t-4 fused. Pain...

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone , i just wanted to say hello and tell you everything is still going fantastic. chuck is clean & sober thank god!! amanda is doing great too. i am very happy & i hope everyone is doing great :) keep in touch hugs chrissy

mamaof4angels · mamaof4angels

Hi everyone, I am a new member and after 32 yrs of living complete hell in my life, I finally decided I need help for me! I have grown in a home with a mother who was addicted to addictions as I would call it. She was addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, men, gambling, you name it. My 2 brothers and I were of NO int...

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	Hi ya'll (Preview) Hello everyone, I don't have time to check posts, but wanted to check in from the library. I am going to file my taxes this weekend and hope to have a computer by Monday. I need one for school work and as a life line. Things are going fairly well. Kids are great, but I miss m...	Powerless	2	339	Jan 24, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Is this insanity???? (Preview) a just called me. started out ok. we were trying to figure out if he has 3 dui's in ten years. i found a site that tells the sentances possible and stuff. Next thing I know he is saying all this horrible stuff, how I did this I did that. I did too much for him, he did not deserver a wife like me, then i how I k...	debilyn	5	450	Jan 23, 2006 by debilyn
	a "quicky" step 4..this is cool and it WORKS (Preview) January 18 The Simple Inventory " Continuing to take a personal inventory means that we form a habit of looking at ourselves, our actions, our attitudes, and our relationships on a regular basis." Basic Text, p. 41The daily inventory is a tool we can use to simplify our lives. The most complica...	rosie light shines	8	550	Jan 23, 2006 by notsonew1111
	update (Preview) Thanks for the replies to my post yesterday. It was just what I needed to hear! I made an appointment with my therapist and my doctor this morning to review my medication. I got an email today from the guy I am seeing. I am mad at myself about the time I wasted yesterday wondering why...	mollyann	3	300	Jan 23, 2006 by Amanda
	gave me a BIG treat (Preview) hey guys, this past two weeks, i gave me a BIG treat.... got all new faucets, through out... bathtubs glazed new curtains , AND--- all new tiles throughout the house..... its a good thing i can do a lot of stuff by myself, cuz it would have cost me more than the appro...	rosie light shines	7	325	Jan 23, 2006 by angelinme908
	terrified but turning it over (Preview) Today my husband (ACOA) and myself (ACOA) are going to get the keys to our new house. I have found myself feeling more nervous than excited and I thought that maybe that was wrong. When you get a new house you are supposed to be so happy that you can't contain yourselves right? Well, I have been mostly terr...	sparkette	5	383	Jan 23, 2006 by bobump
	HAPPINESS (Preview) I found this on the internet, author unknown: Think of the things that maake you happy Not of the things that make you sad Think of the fine and true in mankind Not the sordid side and bad Think of the blessings that surround you Not the ones that are denied Think of the virtues of y...	Becky1	1	363	Jan 23, 2006 by doxie
	Open, Honest, and afraid (Preview) I have a secret. It has been eating me alive. It has prevented me from coming to this room. So here goes My problem is this. (boy, this is hard to put down in type for all to see....) I took up smoking pot with my husband. There, that is it. That is the big skeleton that I have hung...	captcodee	6	427	Jan 23, 2006 by doxie
	hi everyone (Preview) hi everyone just posting to let you know im really backed up in reading the posts so thats why i havent posted in a while. im back three pages. lol. hope to get where all you are very soon.	notsonew1111	2	339	Jan 23, 2006 by doxie
	Not expecting too much... (Preview) Hello group, My a had a very busy week last week. My "a" went down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needed to get his license back. I offerred to bring him to the DUI school so he could sign up. That was last Tuesday. So, he comes out of the questioning booth an...	twinmom2	1	324	Jan 23, 2006 by confused
	abreviations? (Preview) some of you use abreviations, and i have some of them pegged, but not all. can someone clue me in on the shorthand? thanks	flintfeet	3	380	Jan 23, 2006 by karyn
	spoke at a meeting this morning (Preview) Attended a Begineers meeting. I had choice of Begineer or Step 5 (which Im not ready for) so attended the Begineer. The chair had us go around the room to speak instead of raising our hands. My first thought was to pass but then I saw someone take out her Courage to Change book. I took mine out and looked for...	Barbara	9	431	Jan 23, 2006 by sparkette
	disagreeing (Preview) sometimes i hear what people have to say about loving the person and i resent what they say. i hear people say to love them and not let it effect me. not to blame them b/c they have a disease. not to detach from the person but the alcohol. but this is me...and how i feel about it. 1: &nbs...	flintfeet	3	360	Jan 23, 2006 by lin0606
	how do you pray? (Preview) I read somewhere recently that when you're working on your spirituality, asking others how they pray can help. In my last post, I said I have been going to church. When I attend Mass, I kneel and pray, but half the time I don't feel anything. No connection. Are you supposed to feel connected?&n...	mollyann	11	621	Jan 23, 2006 by kat4u
	Hope for the best, but plan for the worst (Preview) I just read that saying from a post. I know that is so what I need to do, but I haven't found a way to hope for the best without getting my hopes up! I have had just a really couple of bad weeks. This past week, I found myself really overwhelmed and depressed. My a started a medication th...	hudsond	3	370	Jan 23, 2006 by sparkette
	mad at... (Preview) my sis, bro, and i have decided to not speak with our dad b/c of our situation with his drinking (long story-i'll spare you). we were doing well, and thought maybe my dad would wake up and realize he would lose his family if something didn't change. we all stayed strong as a group. my brother was t...	flintfeet	2	304	Jan 23, 2006 by pixel04
	He's Back -I need to vent. (Preview) I just need to vent. Some of you may have read my post from yesterday about us having to tell our son to move out since he was arrested a 4th time for an alcohol-related incident. My husband told him he could not stay at home and must find another place to stay. He stayed with an A friend on Sat. night. Whe...	pagenie	3	461	Jan 23, 2006 by doxie
	Mother of 2 A's (FOR ISABELLA) (Preview) Isabella, I know this post for me was a long time ago but I just needed to give you an update on my nagging and worrying. I am finally detaching and letting my son live his own life. I do not sit up at nights and worry about what he is doing and what time he will be home. What a weight lifted from my shoulde...	Gailey	0	326	Jan 23, 2006 by Gailey
	what is Serenity? (Preview) can someone please explain what serenity means to you?	Barbara	10	555	Jan 23, 2006 by Jeannie
	Mother of 2 A's (Preview) Hi. This is my first post on this group. I have 2 sons that are 29 and 34. Both are married and in my eyes both are alchoholic or at the very least...problem drinkers! My father was an alchoholic and we have sooooooo much addiction in our family. Mine happens to be compulsive overeating. My life is comsume...	Gailey	6	1023	Jan 23, 2006 by Gailey
	YIKES! Teenager ..using my al-anon (Preview) Well, I am a 56 year old grandma raising a grandaughter since she was a baby. She will be 17 yrs old a week from today. She has always had a very strong will, and I have always actually respected that part of her and seen it as a good part of her when directed towards positive things. Natu...	irish54	5	445	Jan 23, 2006 by flintfeet
	There's always hope...but can you see it? (Preview) I believe luck and Hope does cross my path several times. I just did not recognize it b/c I was in so much despair. Or I wasn't able to grasp onto it for I was not prepared. I also believe that if I remain on the "you" track, (you drank again, you are wro...	DeAnna	5	353	Jan 23, 2006 by rosie light shines
	on edge (Preview) I am so on edge. My A called me around 6:30 at my parents house, he had gone to a friends to watch the game, and of course he was drunk. The whole gallon of Jim Beam is gone, so god only knows how he will be later. But he said he'd call if he'd be later than midnight. I am worried he will be so drunk he will forget to c...	lilleah	8	400	Jan 23, 2006 by rosie light shines
	A Quick Thanks! (Preview) Hello all, I just wanted to say a quick thank you to those we gave me some ESH this weekend when I really needed it. I was in a bad place Saturday morning and came here, and I really got what I needed, so thank you. That is what I come here for to give some ESH when I have it to give, and to get some ESH when I am in n...	Dolphin123	0	328	Jan 23, 2006 by Dolphin123
	update (Preview) OK, I don't know why I did this, but I called the bars where my A said he'd be. He was not there. I had my baby, and we were in the car going down the hill(the 2yr. old is at my parent's b/c I am going out of town for work for 3 days, his parents are watching the baby while he is at work), and and I see him driving up the...	lilleah	1	317	Jan 23, 2006 by lmt123
	Going to family day today (Preview) Hello all: sorry i haven't posted in a while, I have actually been busy taking care of me! Not forgetting my program, trying to keep it in the day (both with my Dad's illness and my A) and doing things for Kim. Yesterday, I bought (well, leased) a new car! I was nervous and anxious ab...	Kim	5	421	Jan 23, 2006 by Karilynn
	Feeling lost (Preview) It's Sunday morning and my husband is sleeping. The kids are playing around me and I am so tired from worrying. I hate weekends. My husband has a great job that he as far as I know is managing pretty successfully. It's the rest of his time that is a mess. He spends the weekends drinking or recovering from dr...	Liv	7	382	Jan 23, 2006 by Liv
	feeling just a little lonely today... (Preview) I am having one of those icky days, sort of feeling a little lonely. It's so stinking rainy and dreary out, and it has been since middle of last nite. My A has his stuff to do, good stuff, with his AA meeting and his meeting with his sponsee...my daughter has her stuff to do...I am starting to h...	lmt123	7	354	Jan 23, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	Bringing it out of Chat... (Preview) Now that I've got your attention... hahahaha (gotcha, huh?)... ramble to follow.... Our program is based on some pretty good principles. The structure of our program relies on 3 main legacies: the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts. (Hence the triangle figure you see on Alanon liter...	kismetstrand	7	445	Jan 23, 2006 by kat4u
	EVERYONE THOUGHT i WAS THE CRAZY ONE....... (Preview) Anyone who watched my interactions with alcoholics in my life probably would have considered me the crazy one. I was the one who searched from bar to bar, made scnes in public places and got hysterical over little things. I was also the one who agonized over the alcoholics behaviour, lied , made...	gardengal	6	409	Jan 23, 2006 by kat4u
	anyone feel this way? (Preview) i keep tossing the idea of going to meetings or not going. i think i feel the same way my dad feels about aa. he won't go b/c he feels it is below him and that he doesn't need them. i sometimes feel like i can cope and don't need them. more power to those of you that regularly go to meetings! i just think they are n...	flintfeet	8	498	Jan 23, 2006 by kat4u
	told husband I went to an AlAnon meeting (Preview) We were on our way out for lunch today. Husband asked he where I went this morning. Told him to a meeting. What meeting? AlAnon and he left it at that.	Barbara	5	379	Jan 22, 2006 by tori
	What are we here for?? (Preview) Hiya troops.... Just interested in looking down the list of posts in recent times, and makes me kind of giggle at human tendencies sometimes.... Collectively, we are all like a bunch of people on the highway, slowing down to get a good look at the accident!! If you look at the most "look...	canadianguy	12	663	Jan 22, 2006 by sparkette
	Tis the season for alanoners? (Preview) Just curious. I'm noticing that I'm seeing an influx of people here and also at my meetings recently. A combination of both newbies, returnees, and active alanoners from other meetings. Is right after the holidays typical a time where so many have had to deal w/ the alcohol trifecta o...	bobump	6	414	Jan 22, 2006 by sparkette
	vent (Preview) I don't want to be so resentful of my A, or angry. He came home last night, drunk and fell asleep about 5:00am, now, he is dressed and ready to go to the bar and watch the football game and do it again. I hate this disease. at first it was he would be home after the game, now it is he will watch both games, and he wi...	lilleah	6	353	Jan 22, 2006 by lin0606
	Need support concerning decision (Preview) Our son was ordered to complete an 18 session alcohol class at a local mental health facility as a result of a second DUI. He completed the course in October. It appeared that he was not an alcoholic but a social drinker who makes poor choices when it comes to his compan...	pagenie	6	345	Jan 22, 2006 by lin0606
	John chat configurations (Preview) Hi John re-configured everything and I appear to be getting into chat now but no-one is there. Can you tell me what channel I should be keying in? I have been putting in MIP which comes up with your info but when I post no one is there. Am I doing something wrong I am on MIRC. Many thanks L...	leo	2	305	Jan 22, 2006 by leo
	Finding the Courage (Preview) After years of living with active disease, bouts of recovery, and bouts of dry drunk I have seen my fair share of BS. My husband is sober, dry, very little into recovery and is what I believe to be a rageaholic. And last night I found the courage to take a stand. As has been the patter...	AlaMom	7	556	Jan 22, 2006 by TLC2
	2 steps forward...4 steps back.. (Preview) hey all well its saturday night and im home alone. its great fun. NOT!!!!!!! i met with my ex yesterday and he was "out of it". he tried telling me he was fine but he wasn't. i dont know how i came to be in this situation. my life seems to be going around in a limbo in the last 6 mths. i know for a fact my ex is...	Rebecca	3	514	Jan 22, 2006 by Cyn
	question (Preview) I don't know if anyone has an answer to this question, but I thought I would ask anyway, and see if anyone had any thoughts on it. Is there one event, that turns, or can turn a person into an alcoholic? I ask b/c my A always drank, I guess he started in high school. But in college some girl I guess really messed...	lilleah	6	571	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Normal for an A? (Preview) My A has been doing good, still sober, however I met with someone about a job yesterday, the guy owns his own business, he wants to hire me to straighten his shop out and work sales, he has 6 semi's and does, seed, bark, and compost blowing. My A has been making little comments about maybe I wa...	marmare	5	349	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Disapointment, Anger, and Choices (Preview) Hello All, I am sitting here wondering how I ended up in this position yet again. Last night my "A" took the car saying he'd be back in about an hour. That was at 6:30pm, well it is 8:50am and he isn't home. Normally I would just go on with my day knowing that sooner or later he'll come home with his tail tu...	Dolphin123	3	430	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Just realized how co-dependent and enabling I am (Preview) I feel like the queen of codependency and enabling. Been doing alot of reading - Al-anon books - and have realized how things sounds so familiar. I try to help everyone but myself and have made myself miserable. Kept trying to change my husband to no avail - brought myself ri...	nancyfrances	3	355	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	He wants a divorce (Preview) It's all happened so fast, all within 5 weeks. He leaves home to go work and 'says' he's hoping for a better opportunity for me and kids and a new life, more money, a fresh start. He's supposed to be back in two weeks for Xmas. Instead, he relapses, almost dies, goes to the hospital,&n...	sdisnie	8	578	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	he called, the roller coaster is up and running again (Preview) So he just called, has the poor me's . Totally different tone then the past week or so. Will need to leave his dad's, fixated on "you are not alone" sign at meeting and felt alone, not doing good mentally, blah, blah....All that guilt in a 5 minute conversation. This is so tiring. All I could manage to say w...	confused	4	417	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	kids, separation, manipulation some esh needed (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a week or so. Trying to get by. Been to a couple of f2f this week, they were quite helpful. I have been feeling very overwhelmed and pressured by my A's actions and words. He was calling like 10 times a day and if a day went by that he did not see me all i would here was how dif...	confused	2	404	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Ugly remark in chat room (Preview) Hi, I don't get into chat very often, and try to attend the meetings I can. Sometimes when I can't sleep and all the problems associated with my As brother's death pile up on me...I come to chat to vent, or just have someone to listen to. Tonite, I went into chat, and was shocked when...	kat4u	20	665	Jan 22, 2006 by kat4u
	resigned from work yesterday. (Preview) Hi, It's great to be back my computer was in the repair shop for almost 2 weeks. I resigned from my longterm job yesterday, and will be working at my part time job-full time starting in two weeks. I was under payed and really being taken advantage of for way too long. I made a well thoug...	liliana	2	523	Jan 22, 2006 by maresie
	Sunday 7pm meeting coverage (Preview) I cannot host the Sunday 7pm meeting. I have houseguests, my SIL shower and now, I found out last night, relatives from PA are coming. And I need to take my sister to thwe airport at 6. If any OP can cover my shift I will be very grateful	megan	1	380	Jan 22, 2006 by Faith73
	Update on Disapointment, Anger, and Choices. (Preview) Hello All, I posted this morning about my "A" not coming home, and the fact that I had plans to attend the concert and I needed him to watch the kids. Well at noon I called my best friend and she said she would watch the kids for me. I had to wait till noon to call her, because she likes to sleep in on the weeken...	Dolphin123	4	460	Jan 22, 2006 by tea2
	Crack Addiction boards? (Preview) Does anyone know of any message boards for family members of crack addicts?	Jayda	4	455	Jan 22, 2006 by Dolphin123
	confusion (Preview) Ok, I hope this does not sound nuts, but I can tell the nights my A is going to go out, even before HE knows! It is just this feeling I get, I don't know, but I was wondering if anyone else could sense that too? Maybe it is b/c he got paid and has money, so I just figured he would go out. The only time he d...	lilleah	4	365	Jan 22, 2006 by nmike
	mIRC Configuration Changes (Preview) John and I completed the server switchover tonight, and there may still be people using mIRC who cannot get into the new room. The following instructions are designed to be as simple as possible and should get you over there, by creating a new entry for the new server. 1) Open up mIRC and...	John_R	0	354	Jan 22, 2006 by John_R
	Vat next dahling? (Preview) I tell ya, last night I read about a 19 year old who got 2 dui's in an hour. I wanted to go find him, take him to see my A and say this is YOUR future. Probaby would not make a bit of difference as people that young don't really believe anything like that will happen to them. Thus why our 18 to 21 year olds...	debilyn	10	498	Jan 22, 2006 by debilyn
	Trouble with Intimacy? (Preview) My A husband and I have been together since 1997, married since 2000. I am so lonely, sometimes I think I will die. I have been in therapy, and reading Alanon literature, and coming to the chatroom and meetings here. I have been focusing on myself, trying to deal with everything. I'm getting better, but...	Becky1	8	572	Jan 22, 2006 by Faith73
	Frustrated.... (Preview) Hi All! I am feeling more than a little frustrated right now and thought I would write it here, as this may help. As you may know my a (husband) has his own home to go to when he drinks. He is a binge drinker who will drink 24/7 for a week or so. Then go through the horrible recovery symptoms. Then he is able...	Feather	3	321	Jan 21, 2006 by Feather
	Crossroads (Preview) This is my first post here: A quick snapshot of me is, married almost 10 years to a very functional A. He has been in and out of recovery for a few years. He has moved from drinking every day to once or twice a month. It seems as if he is committed to working on recovery, committed to improvement and to “tr...	DoulaonCall	5	703	Jan 21, 2006 by DoulaonCall
	I think I have a problem!!! Help!!! (Preview) My dear wife has had a very bad back condition for the past 5 years that has required Doctors to treat the pain because no one would fix the problem. Her condition was not bad enough for surgery according to her Doctors until the last 6 months when her spine just gave way. She had L-1 through t-4 fused. Pain...	Confused2	6	455	Jan 21, 2006 by Confused2
	up date (Preview) hi everyone , i just wanted to say hello and tell you everything is still going fantastic. chuck is clean & sober thank god!! amanda is doing great too. i am very happy & i hope everyone is doing great :) keep in touch hugs chrissy	chrissy	6	380	Jan 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I need a friend... (Preview) Hi everyone, I am a new member and after 32 yrs of living complete hell in my life, I finally decided I need help for me! I have grown in a home with a mother who was addicted to addictions as I would call it. She was addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, men, gambling, you name it. My 2 brothers and I were of NO int...	mamaof4angels	8	474	Jan 21, 2006 by Maria123
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