Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Gailey · Gailey

I finally did it. I told my son he has to move out. May 1st is the deadline. I hope I can hold out. Why is it when he was in recovery he admitted he was A and now that he is active he says he is not. And he thinks I can actually believe that. Has he forgotten that 5 months ago he was an A? I know it will be the hardes...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

I thought I was doing so well earlier today.I have been noticing that I have been able to think of myself separately from my husband.At first when the whole thing came out about his online girlfriend and the enevitability of the marriage ending I was nable to do that.I have been with him 36 years....

search41 · search41

sorry about that amp; amp; thing....i have no idea how that happened! search41

rio · rio

Hello. I've never done this before, but I need to unload and my friends have never dealt with this stuff. I need people who can understand how I feel and what I'm going through. My husband is an alcoholic. He has been sober now for 29 months. I'm very glad that he's s...

tea2 · tea2

I divorced rather young, both body and mind. I did what I needed to do then. It was a matter of safety. We have a child, the A and I. Much to my dismay, the divorce did not solve the whole problem (no kidding?!) I find myself today, years after therapy, and some time in al-anon feeling rather ‘raw’ …. A few e...

snt · snt

My first post so bare with me guys... My AH is in recovery (1yr)....funny how him getting sober didnt fix me...actually in rcovery he has done almost if not more damge to our relationship than he did in his drinking years...He decided to take that 13th step... Funny how it all went down when i look back...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Just sitting here needing to vent a little, so I thought what better place.....lol. Today I have made some decisions and have been doing so much soul searching lately. How did I get myself so lost in this crazy wolrd of addiction. It sucks the life right out of everyone it touches. Th...

Diva · Diva

even though you didn't say, "Where's Diva?" I decided I wanted to take a job in my veterinarian's office. Stupid mistake. I thought it would be fun. You know..."Hi Mrs. Jones. You and Skippy have a seat and the doctor will be right with you." Yeah you right!! There was more responsibility and more p...

angelinme908 · angelinme908

Here I am trying to set up boundaries to protect me from my family and other addicts taking advantage of me. And yet I find myself feeling all alone and unneeded. I called a friend this evening and she was telling me about the great day she had. I ended up feeling jealous and left out.&...

msykesp · msykesp

Hello, My name is melissa, and I came here hoping for some insite to my situation with my husband. I dont have quite enough courage to go to an actual meeting, but I hope that i might get some instight this way. I am 23, and married nearly a year now to my husband, with whom I have been with for...

bev · bev

hi my name is bev..i live in florida{we moved to florida in nov 05 from binghamton ny},and i dont know what to do...my husband was a recovering alcoholic,he is drinking again but on weekends,and only at a bar,when we were in ny he was on probation for dwi and dui..he has 3 of theme since 2000,and has been i...

rio · rio

I wanted to share this song because the message applys to what most of us are dealing with every day. If you like it and want to hear it, I'll gladly share that too. :) STILL BREATHING Home, it's not brick or stone Or comfort in the firelight, not in that sense anyway Dreams, if only I ha...

kitty · kitty

Growth hurts, sure, okay. I learned YOUNG that 'being a female' meant I exceptionally felt pain on a different level than what "men" do... it is hormonal; chemical, no "big deal" really. Wow, I wish I had an unlimited sort of 'feelings' that took me off on a&...

Barbara · Barbara

ok so what exactly is a Home Group meeting during at convention? anyone planning on attending?

Tammy · Tammy

WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR SOMEONE TO CHANGE ??? That was a question that was ask today in church. Answers came such as.... A tradgedy, a miracle, a small child said when my Mommy spanks me, and a teenager said, you have to WANT to change. I thought about that all day and at first I thought about my husba...

Robinks · Robinks

I always enjoy talking to you, have a great day. Robin

Jeannie · Jeannie

I went to speak to my husband today. He was not there, so my MIL asked if she could talk with me. I said ok. She was pleasant and seemed genuinely concerned about my health. She said I looked tired and then said that a person cannot just keep going without eventually dropping. I told her that I found that o...

kissers · kissers

Someone asked me to cite my resource regarding "Fear of Intimacy". Here is his website, loaded with wonderful insight. The only reason I found this website is because one of my character defects is to fix things, so I used it in a healthy way and found this site. Enjoy everyone!! http://joy...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I went to look on anger and found some other reading as well for problems that can go along with alcoholism. www.apa.org/topics/topicanger.html -- Edited by wallsal55 at 14:13, 2006-04-08

angel123 · angel123

From the Forum,click attachment to read love angel -- Edited by angel123 at 12:59, 2006-04-09

Powerless · Powerless

I feel so depressed and I don't know why. I can barely drag myself out of bed. I sleep about 20 hours a day and wish I were sleeping the other four. I can't concentrate on myself because I can't concentrate on anything. I keep telling myself all of the good that could come out of both of us worki...

bobump · bobump

Our treasure may be stepping down for one of our meetings. My other meeting I'm already the designate to collect the money when the treasure is not there every other week. What does it entail? Do you get checking account or do you just keep an envelope? What records do you keep? Bob

rtexas · rtexas

A little recient history... we have been very uncivil for the past 4 months. All of a sudden last sunday my AW decides everything is fine. Which is great for me... odd, but great. We both like car racing and there is a Nascar race in Ft Worth this weekend. She got mad last night becau...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hey ((((((everyone))))) Wow i have learned so much from this program and the one thing I have learned the most is Honesty about selfwarness like my feelings my attitude, the way I treat others,and the way I treat myself... Well a few of you know i lost a new born child 14 years ago this coming Jul...

marmare · marmare

I need support feel the slipping, say a prayer my A is in full mode. Hugs Mary

debilyn · debilyn

It is poison oak not bugs...I have it on my tummy and butt cheek the worst..lol I got it from my wonderful little Basset Tavish. He always sleeps with me, either against my chest in my arms, or he is against my back....va la poison oak at the points of inpact of a dumb, but cute dog... And.... the best med t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

for those of you who are with a's in early sobriety, what do you do when they are craving or they are slipping. i know we cant stop it in any way from occuring but how do you be supportive in these situations? how do you help them through the cravings when they want you there? im speaking of both drugs and alch...

angel123 · angel123

From the forum,1989,click attachment for reading

Robinks · Robinks

Thanks for all your support guys, the teacher got the media request forms filled out and sent back today. It worked out, I am so glad she did that and I thanked her profusely. She said she didn't know, I didn't either. I feel a lot better. Robin

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Living with an active user has created so much anxiety and worry in my life. I believe I became used to the unexpected and unpredictable lifestyle. Would he keep this job, will he get drunk tonight and take the car, will he overspend and overdraft our account? I held onto every disa...

kissers · kissers

"Fear of intimacy is at the heart of codependency. We have a fear of intimacy because we have a fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. We have a these fears because we were wounded in early childhood - we experienced feeling emotionally abandoned, rejected, and betrayed by our p...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I hope this post finds you all well. I have been doing so much thinking lately. I have been reevaluating my life and my marriage. I have had more time to think, as I have had to rest more after I ran myself into the ground. Now that I am better, the Doctor has me on rest and extra vitamins to bu...

angel123 · angel123

REACHING BEYOND BLAME TO SOLUTIONS THAT WORK - No one sets out to marry an alcoholic. No child chooses an alcoholic for a parent. No parent dreams of a child who will one day become an alcoholic. No one willingly chooses to have a relationship with someone who is unavailable on an emotional and physic...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

....You just might get it. LOL Here I sit in utter silence...and oh boy, this feels so strange and yet good all in the same time. The 2 older kids (21 and 23) have moved into their own apartment with grandson and 17 year old is staying there with them too. That leaves my two young...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Hi All-- I'm getting this message: Unable to connect: java.security.accessControlException : access denied (java.net.SocketPermission irc.mipchat.net resolve) Any help's appreciated -- I've been banished from my 10yr olds sleep over party as un-cool, lol, if I can't get in...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I am really depressed today. I am trying to get off of that pity pot but my 2 yr. Anniversary is coming up on Monday and I haven't heard from my AH in five weeks. I read on the board all the time about how other alcoholics keep calling the spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't h...

Kady · Kady

I’ve heard people talk about living in their head. I think I understand what they are talking about. I know I try to analyze people, places, and things. I try to make my decisions by figuring “it” out. My thinking has always been that if I could just figure out the “rules,” figure out the “formula,” then I...

ditto · ditto

I am trying to figure out how my reasoning is flawed and what signs I am missing. I think this may be part of one of my steps. My late husband was a wonderful person who treated me kindly, worked hard, was honest, had no addictions. We were married for 18 years until his death. I then d...

angel123 · angel123

GUIDANCE - As I searched for Guidance I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word and remembered reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one per...

debilyn · debilyn

Make sure when you clean out your pot bellied pigs house and treat them for mites, that you TAKE A SHOWER RIGHT AFTERWARDS. omg I am miserable. lol I just put med everywhere, itching like crazy. OK don't be grossed out. You can get this by trying on cloths that somebody tried on right before you d...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (alias the almighty powerful)! Hope you have a great day! Hugz & Balloonz 4 u !

hudsond · hudsond

Well as I posted several weeks ago I had another miscarriage. I lied to my husband and told him I wasn't even pregnant, the reason I was late was stress. I thought I did this with good intentions--I mean he has such a hard time and he didn't need one more thing--he gets really upset wit...

Cathy123 · Cathy123

I have been living with an alcholic for over 10 years. When My daughter was younger she had alot of issues which I needed to attend to so I really didn't care what my alcholic did. Now my daughter is older and her life is doing great. I find that now I have time to breather. So I took a look at my life. WHAT A MESS...

cabma · cabma

The last time I posted, I had gone to see my h's lawyer that day. I felt awful, couldn't get to sleep that night and lay awake thinking. I went through the pitiful me stage, how could he leave me and the kids when I love him so much. Then I got angry. If he was going to leave, that wou...

anna9 · anna9

Hi this is my first post here. I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings in person but haven't managed to speak up yet. My father was physically abusive growing up; I don't know if he had a substance abuse problem or not. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 10 years. My brother is an A (sober for 3 years now...

angel123 · angel123

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Barbara · Barbara

I am sooooo mad my blood is boiling! Just came from Curves after work - good thing. There is a punching platform and I pretended it was my boss's face! When I started my fulltime job (will have completed 8yrs fulltime end of June) there was my boss and 1 parttimer. Boss & I only fulltimers. A new bo...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I came home from work today, to find a note that his best friend in rehab died of an overdose today.

This breaks my heart, as he was the one person from rehab that hubby trusted. "Bob" was an amazing man, and while he had a hard life, in and out o...

sg · sg

..that I heard at meetings this week. "The rewards is only as great as the risk" and... "Response is my recovery...reaction is my disease"

sg · sg

It's been awhile since I last posted...but for those that helped me thru so much back then, I wanted to pop in and say hi. I delved head first into the Program making two f2f meetings a week, working the Steps and keeping in contact daily w/either my sponsor or someone in Alanon. Months ago I was w...

debilyn · debilyn

Are ya there dahling??? Josey is right, this is NOTHING personal. Come back here you silly. I would miss your style, it is so unique. I sure can understand how you feel after all you have been thru. Seriously this is no big deal. WE need you here. OH I got deleted before. I was livid. lol of cours...

ditto · ditto

I need some ESH please. My a husband and I have not been married long -- only 1 year. He is leaving at the end of April. This is something that I have wanted for a long time. Now that we plan to separate and divorce, I am feeling a roller coaster of emotions.&n...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi everyone, Well, I really did enjoy my first meeting. It was small...only 8 people, most of them parents of the addict or alcholic. But I did learn so much. I will keep trying other meetings until I find a good fit for me. I can definitely see why it works and why they "keep c...

cabma · cabma

I went to my h's lawyer today. She informed me he was filing for divorce, not a separation, which was news to me. I also found out that I won't be able to afford my own lawyer either. That sucks. I talked with him tonight but we didn't get anywhere. He said he's going back o...

Serenity2Cherish · Serenity2Cherish

Hello everyone,    

peewee · peewee

Rose, I've been thinking about you, and wonder if you had success with the phone call to school. Talk later? MsPeewee

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Reading your posts made me cry. I thank you for all your love and support. Here's an uodate. Hubby got home around 8 pm, and when he got out of the cab, I ran into his arms. I spent time talking and praying to God to keep both of them safe. It was incredibly h...

April306 · April306

Being new to al-anon I may sound very dense about this but was truly wondering if there is any difference in being able to detatch from your child than there would be from a spouse. My daughter in law can divorce my son and go on to start a life new with another (has done), so being able to detach herself fr...

Mollyd · Mollyd

Good Morning, I think I am finally starting to get it. I have read, and heard, for years that language of co-depndency - that you have to take care of yourself, you have to focus on yourself, you really can't have love or be loving without loving yourself. . . and it did nothing for me.&nbs...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

I am thinking of giving up on Alanon.Over the last 16 years that my husband has been in AA I have gone to Alanon several times,actually more than that,but I always hit this same wall and I leave again.I would like to get past this and find recovery but I don't know how. I always start out very encouraged a...

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	please God...help me to stick to my guns (Preview) I finally did it. I told my son he has to move out. May 1st is the deadline. I hope I can hold out. Why is it when he was in recovery he admitted he was A and now that he is active he says he is not. And he thinks I can actually believe that. Has he forgotten that 5 months ago he was an A? I know it will be the hardes...	Gailey	5	504	Apr 11, 2006 by Maria123
	he held out the bait and I jumped on the hook (Preview) I thought I was doing so well earlier today.I have been noticing that I have been able to think of myself separately from my husband.At first when the whole thing came out about his online girlfriend and the enevitability of the marriage ending I was nable to do that.I have been with him 36 years....	drucilla06	7	483	Apr 11, 2006 by aunitedway
	sorry! amp;am;? no clue where that came from! (Preview) sorry about that amp; amp; thing....i have no idea how that happened! search41	search41	1	428	Apr 11, 2006 by rtexas
	Nowhere to turn (Preview) Hello. I've never done this before, but I need to unload and my friends have never dealt with this stuff. I need people who can understand how I feel and what I'm going through. My husband is an alcoholic. He has been sober now for 29 months. I'm very glad that he's s...	rio	8	628	Apr 11, 2006 by sparkette
	enough (Preview) I divorced rather young, both body and mind. I did what I needed to do then. It was a matter of safety. We have a child, the A and I. Much to my dismay, the divorce did not solve the whole problem (no kidding?!) I find myself today, years after therapy, and some time in al-anon feeling rather ‘raw’ …. A few e...	tea2	15	652	Apr 11, 2006 by maresie
	question my decisions (Preview) My first post so bare with me guys... My AH is in recovery (1yr)....funny how him getting sober didnt fix me...actually in rcovery he has done almost if not more damge to our relationship than he did in his drinking years...He decided to take that 13th step... Funny how it all went down when i look back...	snt	8	589	Apr 11, 2006 by maresie
	It's just getting there (Preview) Hello Friends, Just sitting here needing to vent a little, so I thought what better place.....lol. Today I have made some decisions and have been doing so much soul searching lately. How did I get myself so lost in this crazy wolrd of addiction. It sucks the life right out of everyone it touches. Th...	Andrea12	8	639	Apr 11, 2006 by maresie
	I KNOW you've all missed me... (Preview) even though you didn't say, "Where's Diva?" I decided I wanted to take a job in my veterinarian's office. Stupid mistake. I thought it would be fun. You know..."Hi Mrs. Jones. You and Skippy have a seat and the doctor will be right with you." Yeah you right!! There was more responsibility and more p...	Diva	7	516	Apr 11, 2006 by david62
	Feeling lonely and unneeded (Preview) Here I am trying to set up boundaries to protect me from my family and other addicts taking advantage of me. And yet I find myself feeling all alone and unneeded. I called a friend this evening and she was telling me about the great day she had. I ended up feeling jealous and left out.&...	angelinme908	8	2108	Apr 10, 2006 by angelinme908
	new here, help? (Preview) Hello, My name is melissa, and I came here hoping for some insite to my situation with my husband. I dont have quite enough courage to go to an actual meeting, but I hope that i might get some instight this way. I am 23, and married nearly a year now to my husband, with whom I have been with for...	msykesp	10	655	Apr 10, 2006 by msykesp
	dont know what to do (Preview) hi my name is bev..i live in florida{we moved to florida in nov 05 from binghamton ny},and i dont know what to do...my husband was a recovering alcoholic,he is drinking again but on weekends,and only at a bar,when we were in ny he was on probation for dwi and dui..he has 3 of theme since 2000,and has been i...	bev	6	1020	Apr 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Song lyrics that I wanted to share... (Preview) I wanted to share this song because the message applys to what most of us are dealing with every day. If you like it and want to hear it, I'll gladly share that too. :) STILL BREATHING Home, it's not brick or stone Or comfort in the firelight, not in that sense anyway Dreams, if only I ha...	rio	1	439	Apr 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Standing Alone ~ I NEED Myself (Preview) Growth hurts, sure, okay. I learned YOUNG that 'being a female' meant I exceptionally felt pain on a different level than what "men" do... it is hormonal; chemical, no "big deal" really. Wow, I wish I had an unlimited sort of 'feelings' that took me off on a&...	kitty	5	475	Apr 10, 2006 by emma
	Full Hearts: Joy & Gratitude in the Home Group - NH convention Nov 2006 (Preview) ok so what exactly is a Home Group meeting during at convention? anyone planning on attending?	Barbara	1	544	Apr 10, 2006 by AlaMom
	What does it take for someone to change ?? (Preview) WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR SOMEONE TO CHANGE ??? That was a question that was ask today in church. Answers came such as.... A tradgedy, a miracle, a small child said when my Mommy spanks me, and a teenager said, you have to WANT to change. I thought about that all day and at first I thought about my husba...	Tammy	6	561	Apr 10, 2006 by marmare
	Heartless (Preview) I always enjoy talking to you, have a great day. Robin	Robinks	0	469	Apr 10, 2006 by Robinks
	Didn't hurt anything (Preview) I went to speak to my husband today. He was not there, so my MIL asked if she could talk with me. I said ok. She was pleasant and seemed genuinely concerned about my health. She said I looked tired and then said that a person cannot just keep going without eventually dropping. I told her that I found that o...	Jeannie	5	570	Apr 10, 2006 by cdb
	Robert Burney Website (Preview) Someone asked me to cite my resource regarding "Fear of Intimacy". Here is his website, loaded with wonderful insight. The only reason I found this website is because one of my character defects is to fix things, so I used it in a healthy way and found this site. Enjoy everyone!! http://joy...	kissers	2	508	Apr 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	Interesting website (Preview) I went to look on anger and found some other reading as well for problems that can go along with alcoholism. www.apa.org/topics/topicanger.html -- Edited by wallsal55 at 14:13, 2006-04-08	wallsal55	1	468	Apr 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	Step 9 (Preview) From the Forum,click attachment to read love angel -- Edited by angel123 at 12:59, 2006-04-09	angel123	0	446	Apr 9, 2006 by angel123
	Want him to leave (Preview) I feel so depressed and I don't know why. I can barely drag myself out of bed. I sleep about 20 hours a day and wish I were sleeping the other four. I can't concentrate on myself because I can't concentrate on anything. I keep telling myself all of the good that could come out of both of us worki...	Powerless	11	615	Apr 9, 2006 by gardengal
	what does it take to be an AFG treasurer (Preview) Our treasure may be stepping down for one of our meetings. My other meeting I'm already the designate to collect the money when the treasure is not there every other week. What does it entail? Do you get checking account or do you just keep an envelope? What records do you keep? Bob	bobump	9	484	Apr 9, 2006 by gardengal
	Am I creating a crisis? (Preview) A little recient history... we have been very uncivil for the past 4 months. All of a sudden last sunday my AW decides everything is fine. Which is great for me... odd, but great. We both like car racing and there is a Nascar race in Ft Worth this weekend. She got mad last night becau...	rtexas	11	618	Apr 9, 2006 by abbyal
	Secrets ACA Childs Survial skills that can hurt others... (Preview) Hey ((((((everyone))))) Wow i have learned so much from this program and the one thing I have learned the most is Honesty about selfwarness like my feelings my attitude, the way I treat others,and the way I treat myself... Well a few of you know i lost a new born child 14 years ago this coming Jul...	bubbles1990	2	592	Apr 8, 2006 by lin0606
	Slipping (Preview) I need support feel the slipping, say a prayer my A is in full mode. Hugs Mary	marmare	8	686	Apr 8, 2006 by nmike
	ok ok not A stuff (Preview) It is poison oak not bugs...I have it on my tummy and butt cheek the worst..lol I got it from my wonderful little Basset Tavish. He always sleeps with me, either against my chest in my arms, or he is against my back....va la poison oak at the points of inpact of a dumb, but cute dog... And.... the best med t...	debilyn	8	693	Apr 8, 2006 by Becky1
	just a question (Preview) for those of you who are with a's in early sobriety, what do you do when they are craving or they are slipping. i know we cant stop it in any way from occuring but how do you be supportive in these situations? how do you help them through the cravings when they want you there? im speaking of both drugs and alch...	notsonew1111	4	502	Apr 8, 2006 by KathyS
	Step 8 (Preview) From the forum,1989,click attachment for reading	angel123	0	377	Apr 8, 2006 by angel123
	School Auction Project - Heartless and Lexie (Preview) Thanks for all your support guys, the teacher got the media request forms filled out and sent back today. It worked out, I am so glad she did that and I thanked her profusely. She said she didn't know, I didn't either. I feel a lot better. Robin	Robinks	2	436	Apr 8, 2006 by maresie
	Getting comfortable with myself (Preview) Living with an active user has created so much anxiety and worry in my life. I believe I became used to the unexpected and unpredictable lifestyle. Would he keep this job, will he get drunk tonight and take the car, will he overspend and overdraft our account? I held onto every disa...	twinmom2	5	534	Apr 8, 2006 by maresie
	Fear of Intimacy (Preview) "Fear of intimacy is at the heart of codependency. We have a fear of intimacy because we have a fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. We have a these fears because we were wounded in early childhood - we experienced feeling emotionally abandoned, rejected, and betrayed by our p...	kissers	2	826	Apr 8, 2006 by Kady
	No more supermom! (Preview) Hi everyone, I hope this post finds you all well. I have been doing so much thinking lately. I have been reevaluating my life and my marriage. I have had more time to think, as I have had to rest more after I ran myself into the ground. Now that I am better, the Doctor has me on rest and extra vitamins to bu...	Jeannie	8	597	Apr 8, 2006 by lin0606
	Reaching beyond blame (Preview) REACHING BEYOND BLAME TO SOLUTIONS THAT WORK - No one sets out to marry an alcoholic. No child chooses an alcoholic for a parent. No parent dreams of a child who will one day become an alcoholic. No one willingly chooses to have a relationship with someone who is unavailable on an emotional and physic...	angel123	2	522	Apr 8, 2006 by Mollyd
	Careful what you wish for... (Preview) ....You just might get it. LOL Here I sit in utter silence...and oh boy, this feels so strange and yet good all in the same time. The 2 older kids (21 and 23) have moved into their own apartment with grandson and 17 year old is staying there with them too. That leaves my two young...	kismetstrand	6	749	Apr 7, 2006 by leo
	can't get into chatroom (Preview) Hi All-- I'm getting this message: Unable to connect: java.security.accessControlException : access denied (java.net.SocketPermission irc.mipchat.net resolve) Any help's appreciated -- I've been banished from my 10yr olds sleep over party as un-cool, lol, if I can't get in...	Lunamoth	0	377	Apr 7, 2006 by Lunamoth
	He's Not Calling (Preview) I am really depressed today. I am trying to get off of that pity pot but my 2 yr. Anniversary is coming up on Monday and I haven't heard from my AH in five weeks. I read on the board all the time about how other alcoholics keep calling the spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't h...	JulieLynn	14	841	Apr 7, 2006 by hightide
	living in your head (Preview) I’ve heard people talk about living in their head. I think I understand what they are talking about. I know I try to analyze people, places, and things. I try to make my decisions by figuring “it” out. My thinking has always been that if I could just figure out the “rules,” figure out the “formula,” then I...	Kady	8	791	Apr 7, 2006 by hightide
	What to look for? (Preview) I am trying to figure out how my reasoning is flawed and what signs I am missing. I think this may be part of one of my steps. My late husband was a wonderful person who treated me kindly, worked hard, was honest, had no addictions. We were married for 18 years until his death. I then d...	ditto	7	670	Apr 7, 2006 by northstar
	Guidance (Preview) GUIDANCE - As I searched for Guidance I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word and remembered reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one per...	angel123	4	459	Apr 7, 2006 by angel123
	A word of advice..... (Preview) Make sure when you clean out your pot bellied pigs house and treat them for mites, that you TAKE A SHOWER RIGHT AFTERWARDS. omg I am miserable. lol I just put med everywhere, itching like crazy. OK don't be grossed out. You can get this by trying on cloths that somebody tried on right before you d...	debilyn	3	566	Apr 7, 2006 by Jennifer
	HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (POWERFUL) (Preview) HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (alias the almighty powerful)! Hope you have a great day! Hugz & Balloonz 4 u !	HadEnuff	11	600	Apr 7, 2006 by Jennifer
	Lied to husband--HP showed me! (Preview) Well as I posted several weeks ago I had another miscarriage. I lied to my husband and told him I wasn't even pregnant, the reason I was late was stress. I thought I did this with good intentions--I mean he has such a hard time and he didn't need one more thing--he gets really upset wit...	hudsond	4	457	Apr 7, 2006 by Jennifer
	Trying to live a "Normal"life (Preview) I have been living with an alcholic for over 10 years. When My daughter was younger she had alot of issues which I needed to attend to so I really didn't care what my alcholic did. Now my daughter is older and her life is doing great. I find that now I have time to breather. So I took a look at my life. WHAT A MESS...	Cathy123	5	1145	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	personal breakthrough (Preview) The last time I posted, I had gone to see my h's lawyer that day. I felt awful, couldn't get to sleep that night and lay awake thinking. I went through the pitiful me stage, how could he leave me and the kids when I love him so much. Then I got angry. If he was going to leave, that wou...	cabma	2	437	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	new here, not sure what to do (Preview) Hi this is my first post here. I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings in person but haven't managed to speak up yet. My father was physically abusive growing up; I don't know if he had a substance abuse problem or not. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 10 years. My brother is an A (sober for 3 years now...	anna9	7	564	Apr 7, 2006 by cabma
	Step 7 (Preview) From the forum click attachment	angel123	0	428	Apr 7, 2006 by angel123
	Powerless - almost walked off my job today! (Preview) I am sooooo mad my blood is boiling! Just came from Curves after work - good thing. There is a punching platform and I pretended it was my boss's face! When I started my fulltime job (will have completed 8yrs fulltime end of June) there was my boss and 1 parttimer. Boss & I only fulltimers. A new bo...	Barbara	4	405	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	Prayers for hubby needed (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I came home from work today, to find a note that his best friend in rehab died of an overdose today. This breaks my heart, as he was the one person from rehab that hubby trusted. "Bob" was an amazing man, and while he had a hard life, in and out o...	Karilynn	10	488	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	two cool quotes... (Preview) ..that I heard at meetings this week. "The rewards is only as great as the risk" and... "Response is my recovery...reaction is my disease"	sg	0	426	Apr 7, 2006 by sg
	Checking in... (Preview) It's been awhile since I last posted...but for those that helped me thru so much back then, I wanted to pop in and say hi. I delved head first into the Program making two f2f meetings a week, working the Steps and keeping in contact daily w/either my sponsor or someone in Alanon. Months ago I was w...	sg	2	441	Apr 7, 2006 by nmike
	Rose (Preview) Are ya there dahling??? Josey is right, this is NOTHING personal. Come back here you silly. I would miss your style, it is so unique. I sure can understand how you feel after all you have been thru. Seriously this is no big deal. WE need you here. OH I got deleted before. I was livid. lol of cours...	debilyn	0	381	Apr 7, 2006 by debilyn
	Separation & Divorce (Preview) I need some ESH please. My a husband and I have not been married long -- only 1 year. He is leaving at the end of April. This is something that I have wanted for a long time. Now that we plan to separate and divorce, I am feeling a roller coaster of emotions.&n...	ditto	12	1555	Apr 7, 2006 by sg
	UPDATE on 1st meeting and his response! (Preview) Hi everyone, Well, I really did enjoy my first meeting. It was small...only 8 people, most of them parents of the addict or alcholic. But I did learn so much. I will keep trying other meetings until I find a good fit for me. I can definitely see why it works and why they "keep c...	robyn76	7	639	Apr 7, 2006 by abbyal
	I don't think I can do this... (Preview) I went to my h's lawyer today. She informed me he was filing for divorce, not a separation, which was news to me. I also found out that I won't be able to afford my own lawyer either. That sucks. I talked with him tonight but we didn't get anywhere. He said he's going back o...	cabma	12	709	Apr 6, 2006 by emma
	Need Help My A said divorce (Preview) Hello everyone,	Serenity2Cherish	9	628	Apr 6, 2006 by Serenity2Cherish
	bullying Rosedawn topic (Preview) Rose, I've been thinking about you, and wonder if you had success with the phone call to school. Talk later? MsPeewee	peewee	2	498	Apr 6, 2006 by angel123
	Update on hubby (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Reading your posts made me cry. I thank you for all your love and support. Here's an uodate. Hubby got home around 8 pm, and when he got out of the cab, I ran into his arms. I spent time talking and praying to God to keep both of them safe. It was incredibly h...	Karilynn	8	544	Apr 6, 2006 by tea2
	Child vs. Spouse (Preview) Being new to al-anon I may sound very dense about this but was truly wondering if there is any difference in being able to detatch from your child than there would be from a spouse. My daughter in law can divorce my son and go on to start a life new with another (has done), so being able to detach herself fr...	April306	13	643	Apr 6, 2006 by April306
	I think I've had a breakthrough! (Preview) Good Morning, I think I am finally starting to get it. I have read, and heard, for years that language of co-depndency - that you have to take care of yourself, you have to focus on yourself, you really can't have love or be loving without loving yourself. . . and it did nothing for me.&nbs...	Mollyd	3	711	Apr 6, 2006 by kitty
	going...going...slipping away (Preview) I am thinking of giving up on Alanon.Over the last 16 years that my husband has been in AA I have gone to Alanon several times,actually more than that,but I always hit this same wall and I leave again.I would like to get past this and find recovery but I don't know how. I always start out very encouraged a...	drucilla06	11	576	Apr 6, 2006 by debilyn
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