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Coming to terms with the truth
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(((Hello Group)))
Thanks for the support yesterday, i was really in a yucky place. I really meditated on some of the points each of you brought up. I needed to ask myself if I have been completely honest with myself and my feelings. This morning, my question to HP was did you bring...
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Praying for a Miracle
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Hi all,
Well as I shared in the meeting last night, my car broke down on the way to church. I was ok, My "A" said it could only be a few things that could have happened like a fuel filter or fuel pump replacement.
Well today he came back from the car with a cup full of water that smelled like gas. Someone pou...
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A great weekend
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Hi everyone
I am so truly grateful this morning. We had a great weekend!
My Mom and Dad got here safely. My little guys communion went without a hitch, he looked so cute and it was a wonderful day. He looked like such a little man in his suit.
My daughters softball tournament went well. They l...
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My Mom
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Just talked to my Mom, and had the best news.....she had pneumonia, and is almost over it. Weird to be glad about pneumonia, huh? Well, to both of us, it was good news, compared to what it could have been. She is feeling much better, just finally having the n...
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aaaahhhhhhhhhhhh
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today has already started off extremly crazy. while actually i tell my story about last night first. i got a horrible migraine last night and i was given a new prescription to try out from my doc, for when i get migraines. so i took it like i was supposed to. it got rid of the migraine within half an hour but....
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Steps Four and Five
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Edit Post | Quote | ReplySteps Four and Five
Hi Everyone! I just want to share something of the process I am currently going through, in working another Step Four. It's been some years since I did the last one, so I picked up that Blueprint for Progress Workbook for Step Fou... >>
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detachment - not sure if i am doing it right
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hi all, question wrt detachment. i used to react when my a drank, lied, did drugs... lately i have been kind and understanding it is a disease. and it is certainly better for me. i say things like, i am sorry you are having such a hard time... the question is - i wonder if i...
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I’M TERRIFIED
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Hi my name is Angelnomore: My boyfriend who has been attending meeting since January has now reached his 90 days actually its over 100. We have broken up. He said he is not able to handle my emotional stuff and he is taking a break; I can call it whatever I want he said bre...
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esh in crisis
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I went to a counselor for the first time iin 10+ years. The counselor handles depression issues which I am very depressed at the moment. He is a marriage counselor and also my husband's addiction counselor. So it was helpful because he has some background info and knows what has been going on lately. He...
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update on my weekend
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Hi all,
Well, the HP works in strange ways. I had a restless night Friday thinking about my A and him not wanting to come for the weekend. About running my race and how my A and I use to do these things together. Well, I got up early, early and drove to the race. I was not feeling confident. As we warmed up I ra...
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One day at a time
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Hello (((Evryone)))
Quick update ...
On Friday afternoon I started thinking I could stay until after work Saturday, that's when I knew I had to leave immediately or I may not. So here I am with my dogs and a few clothes. I miss my cats, I miss my house, I wish I were finishing the gardening projects I ha...
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Uncle Lou where are you?
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I just wondered??? love,debilyn
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I am back........
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Thanks you all so much for your prayers and there still need!!!!
My trip was painful, hard, but learned that i had dealt with how to deal with my alcoholic family when i am around them but not with my Husbands Alcoholic father but he is so different from my alcoholic parents that i forget that HE is a...
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I really need advice
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last saturday my boyfriend of 8 years asked me to marry him. i had been wanting this for a very long time and accepted. this should be one of the happiest times of my life, instead i sit here crying as i write this.
i have known he had issues with acohol for a few years. it was mil...
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Prayers for my Mom
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My sweet little Mom, who will be 86 this Nov. has been having problems coughing a lot for a while now. Thought it was allergies. Went to Dr. for coughing, they took x-rays, now want her to come back in tomorrow (Mon.) to talk about them.
I am scared to death. I live in Ohio and my Mom lives in K...
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need esh
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well things have took a complete turn around once again. my a told me last night that he cant stay sober, that he cant handle it. he has been 41 days sober. these days have been the best. but now he is just giving up. he was in an outpatient program and has been finished for a week. so the cravings started. he s...
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happy thoughts
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I am glad I recalled this link A friend had passed this along to me awhile back.. I just sent it to a few others and thought it worth sharing here as well. If you wish turn your volume/speakers on -unless on the job, even then -hey they may enjoy too http://www.llangley.com/yoga/wi...
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The images are still there, yet I am still doubting things
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Today has been a rough day. I don't know why I have been so hard on myself today. For some reason, I am doubting if what is going on is real, or if I am just thinking all of this to put the blame on him for ending the relationship. A way to justify things in my mind. But then the images of every single empty beer ca...
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Poem - There ain't no changin norm
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Norm gets up
his hair is ragged,
ties his shoes
without a thought.
He’s going to
the seven-eleven
can’t recall
the night.
who wants to anyway.
There ain’t no changin norm.
Norm is
Norm ain’t
Norm was
Norm is
afraid of that.
Roque bloke you are
ferrel in nature
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Letting go of my Fears...
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Let Go Let God has been a confusing and challenging task for me. I'm still mastering it. I have felt conflicted with my feelings towards my "A". He says there is nothing for me to worry about with regards to him cheating on me, but don't most people say that even when its not true?&nbs...
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He hung up on me-feel so hopeless-need hope
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My husband is in Jail for multiple Duis and he hung up on me this morning because he said he "doesn't have the energy for this" because I said he was being mean. SO I said "You think I do?'' and he said "F@#@ you!" and hung up on me. It just sucks because I cannot convince myself that I didnt do anything wrong in...
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new and raw
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UGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!! I can't take it anymore. My husband has been not that great a husband for the past two years. I am trying to be supportive as he goes through his recovery. The problem is that I have no support. He doesn't support me and can nver seem to give me what I need. I locked myself in the bathroom...
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Motherinlaw Had a stroke
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Am new and try and read everyday this stuff. My motherinlaw had a stroke on Wednesday and seems to be getting worse. So thank you for all of the amazing thoughts and advice I have seen on here in the last few days. Hope to get to more of it soon
Annie
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HELP!
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Can someone explain how to get into the chat room? I can get onto the page but the chat space is a black void with a small x up in the corner. I don't have the option to chat live. Can anyone walk me through the process? Is there an option under tools/internet options that will hel...
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Questions
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I joined the Family Teens sight about a month or so ago. I just joined this one, and I'm trying to figure out how this all works. Are most of the people here dealing with alcoholics that are they're spouses, or children? I was just wondering because it's my dad who is the alcoholic and I've been trying to fi...
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and what if they die
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I am new to this, not living with an A but talking about it.
My stepdaughter is 27 and has used drugs and or alcohol for many many years, usually consuming both.
I have been in her life for a little over six years and have seen more than I have time to say. Her Mom and I have lived together for...
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What tools are in your toolbox?
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Good morning, all.
Every once in a while I've found it's been helpful to me to look through my "toolbox" of things I've learned through the program. It gives me a bit of an inventory and reminds me what's in there for when situations arise. My sponsor at one point had me do it just as if I was...
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No Guarantees!!
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Aloha Family Group!!
And thanks so much (Mahalo Nui) for the sharing and caring I have read before posting. I surely needed to come here and recenter because I got complacent and when sucked back into Alcoholic Personalities lost my serenity, perspective and balance.
Yep I GOT HAD...
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Jerry F
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Public Amends
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I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning. In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another. While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help. I completely missed it a...
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short update
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Just got back from ER -had been to Doc earlier today -pray for healing from migraine, nauseu, dehydration.
Thanks,
Cedarpines
Aca_rebel
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hey everyone, missed you all
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Been away for a little while. Took 68 8th grader's to Nature's Classroom for 5 days. What a great experience. My students got more out of the experience than I had even hoped for. I cannot wait to go to work tomorrow and see what they are still buzzing about.
Things are going...
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15 months later in Alanon
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I have the urge to write a grateful post :)
15 months ago I crawled in to MIP chat on my knees. I didn't think I could stand one more day of living with alcohol. Kismetstrand and Mastiff welcomed me with open arms and talked to me until 4:00 a.m. (I even laughed a little bit by the time I left and will be ete...
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Am I Crazy?
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Hi Everyone~
I have had a lousy week. I am emotional this week for a few reasons. My alanon friend lost her boyfriend to this disease just over a week ago. My alcoholic boyfriend drank over it, which scares me. (He only had about a month sober...but still...) I came h...
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New car, new boundaries
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((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))),
Well it's been an exciting and exhausting week! This old woman with bifocals needs some rest. On Tuesday, hubby gave me a belated birthday present, by letting me redecorate the bathroom. We went to lunch, and then he said do what you want wi...
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Good day - just returned home from being out all day
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Took today for myself to attend an Informed Women/Healthy Women seminar from 8-4. Then since I was up in the area I went to a mall and to my favorite store (Disney Store of course) also to Yankee Candle and bought more samplers (12 for $12). Returned home and husband was waiting for us. He had his friend ov...
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Rum & Diet = evil
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He was drinking again last night during the Euchre tournament.
He said the most horrible things to me when we got home.
I tried to tell myself it is the disease talking, it still cut deep.
He said I dont turn him on anymore, he is not sure we are compatible, he does not know if he wants to be with me.......
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experience,strength ,and hope
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(((((alanon family))))
I understand the meaning of these three words more right now than I ever have.
I have said before on another post that thanks to Alanon I have recently realized that one of the reasons I have stayed in a bad marriage to my A is because I was afraid of the insanity of my family of o...
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Need ESH
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Hi Alanon Friends,
I am a mess today. I asked my sober AH to come for the weekend. He said he was golfing and couldn't make it. He said next weekend maybe. Then he told me how he was so busy this afternoon helping his neighbor prepare for a race tomorrow. I asked him last weekend too. He said he was too busy....
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it's outta my hands (and I thank God it is)
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You're my sunshine after the rain you're the cure against my fear and my pain 'cause im losing my mind when you're not around it's all . . . it's all because of you
credit goes to 98 degrees
God is the sunshine after my rain . . .
This week's weather began with ominous clouds followed by three da...
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Words of Wisdom Needed
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Well today is 16 days of seperationn for my a hub. Today is also my 19th Wedding how crazy is that......Anyway, I am trying to remain strong, hub keeps calling, he's at his dad's house. He is recovering from surgery on his leg.
This is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do in my life. The proble...
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He pulled me back in...and I know better
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I am not stupid.
I found my A last night after mulitple attempts to contact him on his cell phone. He was in the American Legion, thankfully I knew a lady going in and asked her if she could get me in too. (need a key card to enter) She gladly obliged. I walked in and there sat my A, he look stunned to say the le...
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And I laugh...
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I have been here nearly a year posting on this board reading everyone's post and relating it to my crazy life. I realized today, i am further along on the path of recovery than i give myself credit. During the last year, i have left and returned twice, once being gone for over a mont...
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where is your place for serenity/ "happy place"?
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Is it a nearby lake, rock chasm, back yard deck? Im thinking mine this year is going to be the nearby dam/beach. Its less than .5mile from our house.
My backyard neighbors have some type of wood cutting business maybe? They really trashed the place so the backyard is out. I do enjoy our front yard as it l...
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Barbara
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suprise i changed!
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the rehab that my a is in called this afternoon. in part because they won't be keeping him very long and were wondering about a discharge plan. i actually was caught so off guard that i think all i said was that the kids will be happy to know he is ok and we love him and care. she was telling me he was there as if i...
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Joy
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Tonight, I went to my first Friday night meeting, and stayed afterward to chat (which is fairly unusual for me). And...I just want to say thank you so much to those who were there. I haven't had SO MUCH JOY in my life for months, and it was such a huge blessing to me to laugh for so long, so absolutely sensele...
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gossip/inventory/opinion/constructive criticism?
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I was doing a little research this morning on the meanings of certain words. My question for myself was: when is it gossip vs. constructive criticism vs. inventory taking vs. opinion? First I'd like to share the meanings I found online (bear with me, some are long), then I'd like to share...
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Written word
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Good morning, all.
I'm sitting here at my computer, having just made my first blog entry. I've been writing for as long as I can remember, especially when I am faced with something painful or difficult - or even sometimes when I am so full of joy I cannot find my voice to express myself.
I have f...
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Taking inventory
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Today is exactly 6 months that I broke up with my A - to me it doesnt feel that long. Sometimes it feels longer and that the time I spent with him was a dream and sometimes it feels somewhat shorter like I can still hear his voice. I know with him 6 months iapart is typical, a year is typical, 2 yea...
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Cyn
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Looking for that awesome LIST that someone posted in the morning meeting. Help!
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Hi, All.
I'm looking for that list that someone (can't for the life of me remember who...maybe angel) referred to and copy/pasted into this morning's meeting.
It was about rights and responsibilities...
If anyone could post it in here, I'd really appreciate it. I had c/ped it and lost it....
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I'm in my HP's hands now
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Morning Everyone, err I guess it is afternoon,
Well, where to begin .... With my zero tolerance boundary for lies that I set months ago and let slide little by little until last night. To make a long story short my A and I had an agreement about financial decisions, and in the last few days there were num...
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I'm new here and really could use help/support
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I have never had to deal with alcoholism before, so this is entirely new to me, and confusing. My story goes like this.....14 years ago my boyfriend and I met at a mutual friend's party. We were both 14. We stayed together almost 3 years, but the relationship ended and 7 years went by...
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not sure what to think
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as you saw in my prior post , charges were dropped when my A son went to court this morning. I prayed for my HP to accept His will for the outcome of this hearing.
now, certain people at work are saying things like "that is not a good outcome for him, he is learning nothing from this experience". I sort of...
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Question? How do you let go of feelings of guilt for something that isnt your fault?
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Why I am here
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Hello all,
I few days ago a topic was stated titled "Why are you here". I thought it was a great topic, I didn't take any offense to it, I believe I saw it for how it was meant to be seen. I read the responses and I got some out of them.
I have been doing alot of thinking since I discovered last night th...
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Dolphin123
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Keep it simple
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Tonights meeting had this as a topic. I was sitting down reading some Robert Frost tonight and came upon this poem that reminded me how easy it can be to keep things simple :O) You can always just rebalance the load :O) Love you all...enjoy!
"The Armful"
For every parcel I stoop down to seize
I lose...
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sparkette
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Trying to look at today not torrow
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I have read alot of the stuff on the board the last couple of days. I took sometime away from it all for me. Took time off work to figure out what makes me Smile inside and out and wasn't feeling all that great. Happiness for me is being me being happy, perky, humble when wrong,&n...
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humor from distancing
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HUMOR IN RECOVERY
When I take a look at the disease of alcoholism from the distance of years of detachment that my recovery has put between us, I can often have a good chuckle for myself. What a gift that is considering all the pain and suffering I once felt.
When I see how someone goes from one alcoh...
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luv123
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Sad News
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Hello all,
I love this program for so many reasons, today because I can come and share something difficult and know that somewhere in the rooms, someone has gone through something similar and can share ESH on it.
My mom just emailed me the news from her doctor. About 1 year ago (almost to the d...
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kspear
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Feeling bummed out today
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My A has had some major outbursts and rages the last two days and of course he blames me for his reactions and actions. Says if I didn't say that this way, or make a comment like this that way he wouldn't get so furious with me. Wednesday, I asked him to take the kids to school and I would fill his...
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Thank you, a response to sad news
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Thank you to everyone, I so appreciate all the prayers and sympathies and ESH with regards to my mother.
I truly feel wrapped in the love of this program!
Karen
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kspear
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