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Anxiously awaiting.....
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Hi Alanon friends,
My son in the military (3rd tour of duty in combat) called saying he is coming home on leave. I can't even say "our" son anymore because my AH doesn't live here anymore. Then my son called late at night from Kuwait telling me his travel plans and his plans for his 2 week leave. I have to w...
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ESH needed on numerous topics please
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Hello (((Everyone)))
I've needed a break from thinking so I have not been here much. Kept busy with my readings and praying, I've had some small eye opening experiences.
#1 I still love my husband.
#2 I stayed at the house a few nights while he was here, I have seen how fast he has fallen. I've been g...
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detatched or just cold?
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so my a and myself and the kids went to the movies today. i was taking the kids anyway and he asked yesterday if he could come along. i said ok. i don't feel comfortable leaving them with him alone so this worked. and i had our tickets ready so if he didn't show we would go anyway. he showed. it was all nice. i me...
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MIP MAP MOVED
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This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...
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Thanks ((MIP angels))
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Thanks ((((my wonderful MIP friends))))
Hubby took me to dinner last night and we agreed we weren't going to talk about any "stuff". Even though we know it's there, it was nice to get out and try to leave it all behind for a little bit.
I so appreciate all the caring replies and humor.
Rofl Gard...
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Trapped, Hotel California style
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This is my first time here. I’m not really sure what I want to say. There are so many issues; so many feelings; so much bitterness.
I guess the overwhelming feeling over the past couple of weeks is the feeling of being trapped. The A in my life is my husband. We have four kids and he is the sole bre...
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hello
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hi everyone just wanted to share with you my rabbit. the picture by my name. meet thumper :)
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Looking at Life
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My Dear Friends,
The past two days have been crazy, some ups and downs, mostly ups....thank the Lord....Took hub to Pittsburgh to get his leg ckecked, that went very well....He finally understands not to even ask to come home until he can prove his actions.....I also think that maybe, just maybe...
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Out of my control/scream!!!
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Hubby's disability was cut off 6 weeks ago because his Dr's office did not get the proper paperwork to the proper people. Out of our control
We are doing footwork for appeal, but must wait 45 days for answer.
Son's car was stolen and totaled. Out of my control
Responsible party is avoiding us af...
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So I go to plan B
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Living with an active alcoholic has forced me to have a plan B .. This week we are planning to go on a family vacation. Knowing the caos that I am living in I have a plan B.. The kids and I drive and go alone. Well, today 2 days before we are suppose to leave all you know what hit the fan and now, we are resulti...
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Happy Birthday mac57
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HaPpY BiRThDaY Mac57 :)
((((( mac57/David )))))
Hope you have a wonderful day
~Your new year is filled with lots of peace, joy and serenity
PS. Didn't get to see you this morning so a few of us thought we should bring it here, not to name names for...
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Taking way to much personal!!!!!!!
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Hello to all,
I have this really deeply ingrained habit of mothering my husband. To put it bluntly. We do the dance. He acts like a child I treat him like one, I act like a mother he acts like a child. It is totally annoying me. I am getting sick and tired of being sick and tired. It is going to take an enormou...
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How many Bottoms???
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Please help, someone with a little experience maybe in this situation. My husband has been relapsing since January of this year. I moved out for two months because I could not take it anymore. He called one night during the separation, and ju...
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Accept things I cannot change...or Courage to change what I can?
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Please share your opinions....I am at my wits end...
Sister has 3 children by 2 diff men. The 2 babies dad is only off drugs because he lacks the money to buy. He has been around for a total of 7 months of the 3 year olds life....and 5 months of the 10 month olds life. He is very disrespe...
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Daily rollercoaster
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When I met my husband we were both 29 and he had just lost his dl b/c of 3 DUI's. I met him at a church singles group & he seemed to have turned his life around. I drove on all of our dates and when we married I drove when we left the wedding. He was recovering (or I guess I thought)...
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NOT divorced/A came back (?)
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I dont know what to think about the Lord's plan for me today!
I got up, very emotional about my A who I have not been with in a month. I sent him a text message (I guess you could say I fell off the detachment wagon) simply saying "Have you forgotten me?" He did not respond.
At 9:30 I met with my husba...
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Facing my own issues...
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I asked my A last night why he was being so cold and distant to me. He says its because I said I was going to get into counseling and start a work out program. He said "I haven't seen you do anything this week, and I'm upset about it". He says don't expect me to stick around for much longer i...
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Last night's meeting
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Had a great experience chairing my f2f last night. We are a very small town, usually our meeting is four or five people, all long time members. So, I showed up early, got the room set up - by five minutes before meeting time, there were six new people, none of whom I had ever seen before, and me! As new member...
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troubles in chatroom - a message for Oz and Ops
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Dear John/Oz,
"All is well, that ends well." German saying. "Ende gut, alles gut."
Thanks for your work. We are lucky to have you.
Oh, and while I'm at it, as one who has profited immensely, thanks also to all ops.
DANKE says
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Fun
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Have some fun -- with life, with the day.
Life is not drudgery; that is an old belief. Let go of it. We are on an adventure, a journey. EVents will come to pass that we cannot now fathom.
Replace heaviness and weariness of spirit with Joy. Surround yourself with people and things that bring light...
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Maria123
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After Awhile
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After Awhile After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't pr...
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More butterfly kisses
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I've decided to write more letters to my father. I don't know if it's healthy or not, but I've been feeling better after I write them. They may sound really bad, but this is the one I wrote tonight.
That song brought up so much for me. Not only do I want you to be there for me, and take care of me, but...
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Miranda
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New to online al-anon....hi to all
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Hello to all.....
I just wanted to post a shout out to say hi. I am looking for more ways to connect to recovery and found this site. I am giving it a try to see how it works for me. My husband is an addict. He had two years under his belt and relapsed about two weeks ago. Actually about 4-6 weeks ago in...
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Still sick but feeling some release and peace
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(((Hello Group)))
Its been a bumpy couple of days. We lost our child care funding this week and I've been visiting and calling schools looking for the right daycare. Meanwhile, everyone is sick at my house either with a cold or a stomach bug. My A's been home from work for three da...
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Hmmm, tell me again
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Hi again,
I know that I have really already asked this in a way . . . but you know how the confusion can be. What does this "family" feel - is it a problem when you keep your drinking and drunkness to the weekend evenings??? When alcohol is soooo prevalent in our society it can be difficult to...
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DIVORCE tomorrow
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Tomorrow I go to meet with my husband, remember NOT my A but he is an a'hole, his attny and my attny. TRYING to settle out of court for the divorce.
I am not hopefull. He is a stingy bastard and I am sure it will be a BS settlement. I need to take some time to pray on it tonight and am asking that ALL OF YOU pray fo...
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jennneeefffurrr
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Finally Some Good News From Me!
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I was told by one of the members here that I need to come to the board on Good Days as well as the Bad.....but that I only seem to come on when I am having a bad day. Well I have taken the advice.....I have been trying to come every day.....and today I have some good news.
My AH called to tell me that he ha...
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QOD
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Not coming home after Rehab
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Hello Friends,
Well today was a true test....yesterday I called hubs counselor and told hm the truth about everything, I felt for me to move forward in my recovery that hub can not come home after rehab......
Counselor said, he would talk to hub, hubby called this afternoon, very upset and an...
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I need tough love with my son
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I am new to this site, I am a loving mother to my 22yr. old son who is a heroin addict. I don't know where else to turn. I am very educated on addiction but it still doesn't help the pain I'm going through. I almost have lost my son 5x of overdose and I'm scared. I feel like I have a 14 yr old son that is in the big wor...
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skype al-anon meeting anyone?
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Hi everyone,
My name is Jamie and I'm a grateful Al-Anon member. Am living in Dharam Shala India where I'm a lone Al-Anon member.
I'm interested in starting some meetings via skype. For those interested you can add me as a skype contact (my skype name is jamiepratt) or email me at jamie at e-gak...
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jamiep
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Hubby Update
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((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))),
I just got back from the hospital. Hubby came out of ICU last night! He's in a regular room and may be released as early as tomorrow. He's on solid foods, bland but solid.
There was no kidney, nor liver damage (thank HP). :c...
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HOW TO WRITE FAMILY CONTRACT
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Hello. I was told by my family group therapist to start a consequences contract with my husband if he used drugs or alcohol again. I'm not sure where to start? Any help? I know I need to make the rules reasonable. Thanks
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alina
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Withdrawal Symptoms
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Hi Everyone.
Lovely day here. Can anyone help with this. My partner has been on detox programme for the last week. Strange things have been happening. Sometimes he can be fine. I have been sat with him and half an hour later he can turn into a mad man. Talking to himself about nothing. Looking at me as...
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divorce is on again and it's my fault
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This is a hard post to write and probably will be long, but bear with me, I need advice. My h is a crack addict and I've stayed with him all these years. Mainly because he's the breadwinner and I work part time. He's been telling me to find a full time job for a few years and he resen...
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Chatroom Entrance(s) (Please Read)
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Our www.mipchat.net page, which provided a entrance into our Al-Anon room, was removed by the group member who had kindly provided it, for what I will call "personal" reasons. MIP still has all admin. rights to the mipchat.net domain, so while it will be down for the next few days...
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John
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chat down?
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I can't even get in via irc.
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a MONTH and NO A/Well deserved vacation!/Pen Pal Club INFO!
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Well, tomorrow will be 4 weeks since the last time my A and I were together. Have not spoken to him either. I cried my eyes out for hours last night. Praying, crying, releasing...healing.
I decided to give myself a break. Escape from this small little Ohio town and head...
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jennneeefffurrr
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open AA meetings
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If you attend an open AA meeting as opposed to a Alanon meeting...what do you say when ask if there are any newcomers? I just wonder if AA members are ok with Alanon members in their meetings.
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Gailey
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photo posting whew!
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Can someone please tell me exactly what steps to follow to post photos on our album site. Have been round and round many times, result - total frustration.
Oh pleez, can it be this difficult?
thx
Perfectly confused,
MsPeewee
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sorry if i seemed judgemental or insensitive
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i have read posts in these past months and i woudl see a poster and instead of saying "i hear ya" or "hey i can relate" or "gee i am sorry for ur pain" i would jump right in and get on their case with "what step r u working on???" or "do u have...
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Update - and Thankfulness
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Since I have joined alanon my life has improved drastically. I see things differently now. When I first came to this program. I was confused, and tired, and felt like my whole world was caving in on me. But now I have had alot of time for me. My son went to spend some of the summer with his father for the first...
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Sometimes I feel lost
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I am new here and I am unsure of how things work. I tried an alanon group in my area a few years ago but the people were so pushy that I didn't feel comfortable. My father is an alcoholoic. My first husband was an alcoholic and my current husband is an alcoholic. Of course his drinking has no effect on me or my d...
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Trouble getting in chatroom
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Hi, I cannot get into chatroom, says "cannot find server." Does anyone know what that's all about? At first I thought it was my ISP, but I can go everywere elsl online. Please let me know either here or via email. Thank you,
Debbie
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Hi
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(((Hi everyone))),
Just checking in to say hi. I haven't been able to post lately, but I have read a little. This time of year, I am running with end of the year school trips. Proms, Graduations and Communions. Plus baseball and Tball games. Between work and the kids their is no time to breath, let alon...
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hello
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just wanted to pop in and say hi. havent really been posting lately but im doing good. and still keeping the focus on me!!!!!!!! hope everyone else is doing ok. love all of you
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Why does the plan B have to hurt so much ??
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Last night was horrible, my husband and I fought he left then came back and proceeded to drink.. Telling me he was going to get as far as he could away from me, that he is done living like this and blabla bla... I didnt attend that fignt ( thanks to the advise of a friend who said we dont have to attend ever...
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a request
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(((((all)))))
For anyone who knows a bit of what is going on I am very concerned and nervous. I have asked HP for guidance.
I have an important doctor’s appointment today to see what is needed next.
I know many have it worse then me.
I would appreciate any prayers for a solution soon. I do know thi...
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I so DONT care anymore
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This is just venting and I will get over it but can't get into chat using any method including google.
I so don't care anymore!!!! If she wants to drink herself to death I just wish she'd get it over with. This long slow suicide mission that she is on, as are most drunks I think, is just too mu...
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Butterfly Kisses
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Ok, so many of you have probably heard the song Butterfly Kisses, right? Well I felt like I needed to cry tonight so I put it on. I don't know where all the hurt came from, but it just like poured out. It was actually kinda scary, I wasn't expecting it at all. While I was crying I had an idea to write down everyt...
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GOING CRAZY WITH JAVA
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Sorry, but I'm going nuts trying to get into business meeting. I reloaded J2DR ....update 7
Cannot get in. hmmm
help help
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afraid and tired
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My son's father called this morning. He worked nights last night, so I'll make the assumption that he's sober. I could tell he needed a drink. He yelled at me because I didn't kiss his bum. So tired of dealing with him. He ruined my memorial day by returni...
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CHAT ROOM
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The only links I can access from this page are the step work link and the site tdchnical problems link. I cannot get into chat through any other method either including google. This page is the only MIP link in my favorites that is also working. Will try when I get into work this eveni...
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JOHN!!!! ARE WE ** UNDER CONSTRUCTION ** !?!?!
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John!!!!!! ((I'm TELLING!!)) ~~~ n0n0., ((haha)) Im reallly asking you to help us understand..... what is going on.... today Wednesday Afternoon 060706.
We are... arnt we., ... ...
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Chat Room
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Is anyone having trouble getting in this morning or is it just me/my computer?
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General Business Group Conscience Meeting
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General Business Group Conscience Meeting
June 7, 2006
Chair: SenoraBob
Agenda Items
Old Business
1)Approval of Minutes from May 3, 2006 meeting
2) Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob
3) Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff/SenoraBob
New Business...
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Slurring, stumbling, and sulking, oh my!
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Here we go again with my AH. He has been off of work the last 2 weeks (in between jobs) and I get to come home to his slurring, stumbling, and sulking. The last two days I was on the road for my job for nine hours (3 on Monday and the rest yesterday). Anyway, I've been noticing he's been steadily getting more dr...
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reactivity
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I am trying to work on channeling my energy rather than having all my energy go into dysfunction.
Last night the A's mother dropped by just at dinner time. He of course ran off with her for an hour or so. Normally I would be obsessed with rage, resentment and disorder. I am workin...
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HELP!!!!
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I am new to this board. I have looked everywhere for a family support group for drug addicts but no luck. I am the mother of a 22 year old meth addict. I am divorced and have been raising my daughter's child since her birth. I have lost almost everything due to my daughter...
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WOW!! me after 28 months
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this was a response to some more literature that i like to read....
"I rarely cried while I was growing up in myalcoholic family. I was sure it was a sign ofweakness. However, my emotions came as apackage. When I turned off one feeling, I shut offall the others. My grief was, and sometimes still is,unb...
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Detachment with love
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As my "a " was on his last crack binge, I started to write this down, it turned out to be a poem/letter to him. I would like to share with all of you, this is what my first share ever was about in a meeting, this morning.
Each and everyday,
it gets easier,
to go away........
To never look back,
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