Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

cdb · cdb

It is good to be back after my absence. It is something to me how this cunning disease keeps affecting us all in different ways as we continue on our own journeys. I for one know not to rely on one support group for my journey and I am glad I have that knowledge now. I am not going to be hurt again so badly that I a...

debilyn · debilyn

Lately I have been seeing things in a different way. Or maybe it is just stronger and more real. It is always, but.."I love them so much." I decided I want a person that wants me, wants to come to me. I am a nice woman, like to laugh, play, tease and love someone. I see men who long for their wives, do for th...

sunny1 · sunny1

Dear fellow members, It has been 6ms since my last post. During my time away I worked very hard for the first three months working on myself in a different format, with others with different issues, but similar goals on self recovery. It was a wonderful process and while I was working th...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Well, Protective Services has contacted my sister. I knew this was coming...as I have to deal with the consequences of my choices.....It just happens that our dog lives in her yard since we can't have dogs where we moved to 6 months ago. Now she's going to take her to the pound if we don't re...

Tammy · Tammy

Yesterday i posted about my trip to OHIO and today I am really having a bad day !! I cant stop thinking about my husband on his own vacation.. Wondering if he has someone with him .. It is making me CRAZY.. I hoped that today would be better but instead my mind is racing with ideas of him with a...

over it · over it

Yep, I did it. I told my husband that I loved him and always would but that if he did not stop smoking pot and drinking and go back to A.A., I was leaving. We had an agreement to stay sober when we got married. We also had an agreement to not leave each other. He brought that up. "You promised you'd never thre...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Ok went to the concert for most of the day it was fun but VERY CROWDED. I thought long and hard on this one because of my past and my A's past didn't know if this is really what I wanted to do at first. Wasn't sure if him and me going to a concert would be a good idea or not. To be honest there were a few...

Rita G · Rita G

Please keep us in your thoughts & prayers tomorrow (6/13), we just received a call from our daughter's rehab that tomorrow is family day and she has added my ah & I to her family list of people allowed to visit her. This alone is a miracle. As stated in my previous post, we had to stop cont...

lux · lux

I just found this forum... and i'm hoping that writing to all of you is going to help me start calming all the fire and panic and fear inside me. It feels so foolish that I'm this upset, this emotional right now. I just can't settle myself. My story is that almost 2 years ago I g...

Vega · Vega

Hello everyone, My name is Vega. I hope that it is okay that I am making a thread about myself and Why I am here. I am not exactly sure how things work around here but I figured this would be the best way to jump right into it. my boyfriend, of almost 2 years has a drug problem and is now living in a halfway ho...

serenity62 · serenity62

Dog · Dog

“Joined” Al-Anon about ten days ago. My A is making is 7th (or is it 8th) attempt a sobriety in two years time and this round I am almost completely removed, and detached from the process and the outcome. I am not sure the change in my attitude is completely due the Al-Anon principals but they sure have i...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Last night I was supposed to chair the meeting, but I didn't. I went to sign into mIRC, and I couldn't get a conection. Then I tried to log into msn, no connection. Internet Explorer, no connection. I have DSl, so this is supposed to be fast and easy, right. Well not last night. It took m...

sparkette · sparkette

Today is just another day in a long line of new days in our house. I feel nervous about divulging too much info on the message board because I don't feel as safe as I used to. Instead of talking about details, I'll just stick with my feelings :O) Experiencing a variety of feelings still feels so new to me s...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I called A last night. He did not answer. So I left a voice mail. "A" I am sorry I said hatefull things to you last night. ( I DID say some pretty fowl things, that were true, and felt good to release - but - not out of love, just out of desperation and anger ) I said those things out of being hurt, desperate, di...

Lindy · Lindy

Over the last two weeks, I discovered two rather big lies my AH told me. The first one involved when he was working out of town. He told me that he worked long hours (which is true) and that he usually went right to his friend's house, ate supper, watched TV and went to bed after work. I found out that he was me...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Here we go again! Hubby gets out of hospital yesterday and goes home with his roomate. I'm not thrilled about the idea of him being released early, but he said he was feeling fine and the doctors seemed to think that everything was looking good. NOT! ...

kissers · kissers

I was at a meeting and someone said that his wife bought their daughter a sofa and was having it delivered. He was concerned because his wife would be resentful if their daughter did not call and say thank you. I don't know why, but I thought of this.... Did the mother buy it for her daughter to fulfill her o...

Rita G · Rita G

Just as soon as I begin to believe I have a pretty good handle on my recovery, my HP has another layer of emotions to heal. Just when I believe, I am content with all He has blessed me with He blesses me with more. I found out about an hour ago that our oldest daughter is in rehab, and has been for almos...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Yesterday was topsy turvy day to say the least. I am in the middle of the Friday nightmare that my job setting portrays.... Picture this.... my boss comes in and says we need a staffing on one of the Foster Family's that had verified abuse ASAP, so trying desperately to get everyone rallied up for...

AlaMom · AlaMom

a day makes. Yesterday I posted regarding getting caught up in my expectations and the results of those. After spending some time in the room last night, putting it out there on the board, and taking some time for me I am an entirely different person. I took care of a few things aroun...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK....A comes back on Friday after a month on a new Harley he had just bought the night before. I was nauseated by the $16K toy, but overjoyed to see him and ACTUALLY believed that he was missing me and ready for some changes. I called him Sat and left a voice mail telling him I get off work at 3. At 3:20 he ca...

AloneinNH · AloneinNH

I hope it is alright to post here. I don't know where to go and where to start. I have been married to an alcoholic for 27 years. We are now in the process of divorcing. I see how much damage has been done to me emotionally and I need help figuring out who I am now and how to heal all th...

cdb · cdb

testing

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone again! I had a thought ... My AH stopped by to shower before going to a graduation party. The thought that came to mind is he looked like he was ridden hard and put away wet ... for non horse people rough shape. It did not change my frame of mind which for some unexplainable reason except I p...

John · John

Chairperson's and OP's will need to register their nickname on the new server by going to the room and typing /msg nickserv register <password> <emailaddy> Use a password you will remember as its not retrivable, and use a real email address as the server will send you a confirmatio...

Tad · Tad

Hi Everyone I have been talking to members of my home group, but I can't sleep so I'm here. My husband died last week - complications due to acute alcoholism. He had 8 hospitalizations since Decemeber 21, 2005. I went through all the stages, the denial, the happiness because of 1...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I had the the experience this morning of becoming a victim to my own expectations. The past few weeks have been straight out for me. Running the kids here and there, work, a wedding etc. Basic stuff for a mom. I have been doing what I can to take some time for me - easy give...

John · John

If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...

lebe27 · lebe27

Tried to get on chat through starchat and I can't get in today. Says by invite only. What the f*** does that mean. Been coming on MIP for two years now and I am not invited.

jacksmom · jacksmom

My A boyfriend (who lives 2,000 miles away) called last night. Good news! His probation meeting went well. He's finished with community service and has a court date for Sept., he finally received his $ from selling his house, and he has a job interview on Monday! He was so ex...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) This is an interesting experience. I am going through my house packing and am doing alright. I am working on areas that were for the most part just my things. I have alot of stuff, I don't think anyone realises over time how much they gather. Picking what is important is harder in...

Miranda · Miranda

Now I can't be sure about this, but last night something hit me. I don't have to care. I don't have to spend my time worrying about what he will or won't do. He's not my responsibility. I don't have to feel bad about what he's doing or saying to me. I have no idea where this came from. I mean two days ago I was rea...

patience · patience

I'm new to this. How do we let go of someone we love even though they are so very different than the person we hold in our hearts? How do we stop thinking of them?

ollie · ollie

Hi to all,this is my first letter. Can anyone tell me how you are supposed to cope with this? we have been married for 36yrs ,he was a great dad to our 2 kids ,and a great husband ,until 3yrs ago he took to the drink,we are not together now ,i feel as i have lost my whole life,trying to keep our house and look a...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Howdy & Happy Father's Day MIP ((((((Dads)))))))!!!!! I hope each of ya have a great day with your kids/families/loved ones. I appreciate all of you mip guys and the esh you offer. It's always good to hear the male side of things. I thank you for what you bring to recovery.&n...

mIRC Users - Please Read · John

If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...

cdb · cdb

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nmike · nmike

Hi Alanon friends, My son in the military (3rd tour of duty in combat) called saying he is coming home on leave. I can't even say "our" son anymore because my AH doesn't live here anymore. Then my son called late at night from Kuwait telling me his travel plans and his plans for his 2 week leave. I have to w...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) I've needed a break from thinking so I have not been here much. Kept busy with my readings and praying, I've had some small eye opening experiences. #1 I still love my husband. #2 I stayed at the house a few nights while he was here, I have seen how fast he has fallen. I've been g...

serendipity · serendipity

so my a and myself and the kids went to the movies today. i was taking the kids anyway and he asked yesterday if he could come along. i said ok. i don't feel comfortable leaving them with him alone so this worked. and i had our tickets ready so if he didn't show we would go anyway. he showed. it was all nice. i me...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...

Christy · Christy

Thanks ((((my wonderful MIP friends)))) Hubby took me to dinner last night and we agreed we weren't going to talk about any "stuff". Even though we know it's there, it was nice to get out and try to leave it all behind for a little bit. I so appreciate all the caring replies and humor. Rofl Gard...

Suzanne · Suzanne

This is my first time here. I’m not really sure what I want to say. There are so many issues; so many feelings; so much bitterness. I guess the overwhelming feeling over the past couple of weeks is the feeling of being trapped. The A in my life is my husband. We have four kids and he is the sole bre...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone just wanted to share with you my rabbit. the picture by my name. meet thumper :)

Andrea12 · Andrea12

My Dear Friends, The past two days have been crazy, some ups and downs, mostly ups....thank the Lord....Took hub to Pittsburgh to get his leg ckecked, that went very well....He finally understands not to even ask to come home until he can prove his actions.....I also think that maybe, just maybe...

Christy · Christy

Hubby's disability was cut off 6 weeks ago because his Dr's office did not get the proper paperwork to the proper people. Out of our control We are doing footwork for appeal, but must wait 45 days for answer. Son's car was stolen and totaled. Out of my control Responsible party is avoiding us af...

Tammy · Tammy

Living with an active alcoholic has forced me to have a plan B .. This week we are planning to go on a family vacation. Knowing the caos that I am living in I have a plan B.. The kids and I drive and go alone. Well, today 2 days before we are suppose to leave all you know what hit the fan and now, we are resulti...

tea2 · tea2

HaPpY BiRThDaY Mac57 :) ((((( mac57/David ))))) Hope you have a wonderful day ~Your new year is filled with lots of peace, joy and serenity PS. Didn't get to see you this morning so a few of us thought we should bring it here, not to name names for...

jesusis_4me · jesusis_4me

Hello to all, I have this really deeply ingrained habit of mothering my husband. To put it bluntly. We do the dance. He acts like a child I treat him like one, I act like a mother he acts like a child. It is totally annoying me. I am getting sick and tired of being sick and tired. It is going to take an enormou...

hersh · hersh

Please help, someone with a little experience maybe in this situation. My husband has been relapsing since January of this year. I moved out for two months because I could not take it anymore. He called one night during the separation, and ju...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Please share your opinions....I am at my wits end... Sister has 3 children by 2 diff men. The 2 babies dad is only off drugs because he lacks the money to buy. He has been around for a total of 7 months of the 3 year olds life....and 5 months of the 10 month olds life. He is very disrespe...

Reetry · Reetry

When I met my husband we were both 29 and he had just lost his dl b/c of 3 DUI's. I met him at a church singles group & he seemed to have turned his life around. I drove on all of our dates and when we married I drove when we left the wedding. He was recovering (or I guess I thought)...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I dont know what to think about the Lord's plan for me today! I got up, very emotional about my A who I have not been with in a month. I sent him a text message (I guess you could say I fell off the detachment wagon) simply saying "Have you forgotten me?" He did not respond. At 9:30 I met with my husba...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I asked my A last night why he was being so cold and distant to me. He says its because I said I was going to get into counseling and start a work out program. He said "I haven't seen you do anything this week, and I'm upset about it". He says don't expect me to stick around for much longer i...

lin0606 · lin0606

Had a great experience chairing my f2f last night. We are a very small town, usually our meeting is four or five people, all long time members. So, I showed up early, got the room set up - by five minutes before meeting time, there were six new people, none of whom I had ever seen before, and me! As new member...

toto12 · toto12

Dear John/Oz, "All is well, that ends well." German saying. "Ende gut, alles gut." Thanks for your work. We are lucky to have you. Oh, and while I'm at it, as one who has profited immensely, thanks also to all ops. DANKE says Toto

Maria123 · Maria123

Have some fun -- with life, with the day. Life is not drudgery; that is an old belief. Let go of it. We are on an adventure, a journey. EVents will come to pass that we cannot now fathom. Replace heaviness and weariness of spirit with Joy. Surround yourself with people and things that bring light...

lilms · lilms

After Awhile After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't pr...

Miranda · Miranda

I've decided to write more letters to my father. I don't know if it's healthy or not, but I've been feeling better after I write them. They may sound really bad, but this is the one I wrote tonight. That song brought up so much for me. Not only do I want you to be there for me, and take care of me, but...

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	Heavy Heartfelt share.... (Preview) It is good to be back after my absence. It is something to me how this cunning disease keeps affecting us all in different ways as we continue on our own journeys. I for one know not to rely on one support group for my journey and I am glad I have that knowledge now. I am not going to be hurt again so badly that I a...	cdb	7	495	Jun 13, 2006 by leo
	What I have been thinking (Preview) Lately I have been seeing things in a different way. Or maybe it is just stronger and more real. It is always, but.."I love them so much." I decided I want a person that wants me, wants to come to me. I am a nice woman, like to laugh, play, tease and love someone. I see men who long for their wives, do for th...	debilyn	7	380	Jun 13, 2006 by leo
	missing your support (Preview) Dear fellow members, It has been 6ms since my last post. During my time away I worked very hard for the first three months working on myself in a different format, with others with different issues, but similar goals on self recovery. It was a wonderful process and while I was working th...	sunny1	6	440	Jun 13, 2006 by tishrijo
	Now for the hard part (Preview) Well, Protective Services has contacted my sister. I knew this was coming...as I have to deal with the consequences of my choices.....It just happens that our dog lives in her yard since we can't have dogs where we moved to 6 months ago. Now she's going to take her to the pound if we don't re...	tishrijo	5	386	Jun 13, 2006 by tishrijo
	A vacation update !! (Preview) Yesterday i posted about my trip to OHIO and today I am really having a bad day !! I cant stop thinking about my husband on his own vacation.. Wondering if he has someone with him .. It is making me CRAZY.. I hoped that today would be better but instead my mind is racing with ideas of him with a...	Tammy	2	274	Jun 13, 2006 by debilyn
	Ultimatum (Preview) Yep, I did it. I told my husband that I loved him and always would but that if he did not stop smoking pot and drinking and go back to A.A., I was leaving. We had an agreement to stay sober when we got married. We also had an agreement to not leave each other. He brought that up. "You promised you'd never thre...	over it	5	361	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Concert (Preview) Ok went to the concert for most of the day it was fun but VERY CROWDED. I thought long and hard on this one because of my past and my A's past didn't know if this is really what I wanted to do at first. Wasn't sure if him and me going to a concert would be a good idea or not. To be honest there were a few...	DoN4me	2	338	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Update on Daughter in Rehab (Preview) Please keep us in your thoughts & prayers tomorrow (6/13), we just received a call from our daughter's rehab that tomorrow is family day and she has added my ah & I to her family list of people allowed to visit her. This alone is a miracle. As stated in my previous post, we had to stop cont...	Rita G	5	316	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Desperado (Preview) I just found this forum... and i'm hoping that writing to all of you is going to help me start calming all the fire and panic and fear inside me. It feels so foolish that I'm this upset, this emotional right now. I just can't settle myself. My story is that almost 2 years ago I g...	lux	3	385	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	hello! (Preview) Hello everyone, My name is Vega. I hope that it is okay that I am making a thread about myself and Why I am here. I am not exactly sure how things work around here but I figured this would be the best way to jump right into it. my boyfriend, of almost 2 years has a drug problem and is now living in a halfway ho...	Vega	2	303	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	help, can't get in chat (Preview)	serenity62	1	302	Jun 12, 2006 by John
	What a difference ten days makes…and have you seen my spine? ::smiles:: (Preview) “Joined” Al-Anon about ten days ago. My A is making is 7th (or is it 8th) attempt a sobriety in two years time and this round I am almost completely removed, and detached from the process and the outcome. I am not sure the change in my attitude is completely due the Al-Anon principals but they sure have i...	Dog	2	355	Jun 12, 2006 by Dog
	Deepest Apologies About Last Night's Meeting (Preview) Hello Roomies, Last night I was supposed to chair the meeting, but I didn't. I went to sign into mIRC, and I couldn't get a conection. Then I tried to log into msn, no connection. Internet Explorer, no connection. I have DSl, so this is supposed to be fast and easy, right. Well not last night. It took m...	Dolphin123	5	518	Jun 12, 2006 by Barbara
	just me (Preview) Today is just another day in a long line of new days in our house. I feel nervous about divulging too much info on the message board because I don't feel as safe as I used to. Instead of talking about details, I'll just stick with my feelings :O) Experiencing a variety of feelings still feels so new to me s...	sparkette	4	464	Jun 12, 2006 by aunitedway
	Love thy neighbor (Preview) I called A last night. He did not answer. So I left a voice mail. "A" I am sorry I said hatefull things to you last night. ( I DID say some pretty fowl things, that were true, and felt good to release - but - not out of love, just out of desperation and anger ) I said those things out of being hurt, desperate, di...	jennneeefffurrr	3	366	Jun 12, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Discovered more lies... (Preview) Over the last two weeks, I discovered two rather big lies my AH told me. The first one involved when he was working out of town. He told me that he worked long hours (which is true) and that he usually went right to his friend's house, ate supper, watched TV and went to bed after work. I found out that he was me...	Lindy	4	445	Jun 12, 2006 by Rita G
	Hubby back in ICU! (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Here we go again! Hubby gets out of hospital yesterday and goes home with his roomate. I'm not thrilled about the idea of him being released early, but he said he was feeling fine and the doctors seemed to think that everything was looking good. NOT! ...	Karilynn	18	637	Jun 12, 2006 by chris52
	Awareness about needs being fulfilled (Preview) I was at a meeting and someone said that his wife bought their daughter a sofa and was having it delivered. He was concerned because his wife would be resentful if their daughter did not call and say thank you. I don't know why, but I thought of this.... Did the mother buy it for her daughter to fulfill her o...	kissers	3	345	Jun 12, 2006 by kissers
	Daughter in Rehab? (Preview) Just as soon as I begin to believe I have a pretty good handle on my recovery, my HP has another layer of emotions to heal. Just when I believe, I am content with all He has blessed me with He blesses me with more. I found out about an hour ago that our oldest daughter is in rehab, and has been for almos...	Rita G	4	349	Jun 12, 2006 by Rita G
	I see the writing on the wall (Preview) Yesterday was topsy turvy day to say the least. I am in the middle of the Friday nightmare that my job setting portrays.... Picture this.... my boss comes in and says we need a staffing on one of the Foster Family's that had verified abuse ASAP, so trying desperately to get everyone rallied up for...	twinmom2	8	595	Jun 12, 2006 by Barbara
	What a difference... (Preview) a day makes. Yesterday I posted regarding getting caught up in my expectations and the results of those. After spending some time in the room last night, putting it out there on the board, and taking some time for me I am an entirely different person. I took care of a few things aroun...	AlaMom	1	443	Jun 12, 2006 by abbyal
	Re-UNITED and it feels so NEGATIVE (Preview) OK....A comes back on Friday after a month on a new Harley he had just bought the night before. I was nauseated by the $16K toy, but overjoyed to see him and ACTUALLY believed that he was missing me and ready for some changes. I called him Sat and left a voice mail telling him I get off work at 3. At 3:20 he ca...	jennneeefffurrr	5	438	Jun 11, 2006 by Tammy
	New Here (Preview) I hope it is alright to post here. I don't know where to go and where to start. I have been married to an alcoholic for 27 years. We are now in the process of divorcing. I see how much damage has been done to me emotionally and I need help figuring out who I am now and how to heal all th...	AloneinNH	5	344	Jun 11, 2006 by Diva
	testing (Preview) testing	cdb	10	468	Jun 11, 2006 by cdb
	Someting happened to me (Preview) Hello Everyone again! I had a thought ... My AH stopped by to shower before going to a graduation party. The thought that came to mind is he looked like he was ridden hard and put away wet ... for non horse people rough shape. It did not change my frame of mind which for some unexplainable reason except I p...	Jennifer	3	404	Jun 11, 2006 by serendipity
	Attention Meeting Chairpersons and Room Ops (Preview) Chairperson's and OP's will need to register their nickname on the new server by going to the room and typing /msg nickserv register <password> <emailaddy> Use a password you will remember as its not retrivable, and use a real email address as the server will send you a confirmatio...	John	0	361	Jun 11, 2006 by John
	Death (Preview) Hi Everyone I have been talking to members of my home group, but I can't sleep so I'm here. My husband died last week - complications due to acute alcoholism. He had 8 hospitalizations since Decemeber 21, 2005. I went through all the stages, the denial, the happiness because of 1...	Tad	15	3471	Jun 11, 2006 by dwa1163
	Becoming Victims... (Preview) I had the the experience this morning of becoming a victim to my own expectations. The past few weeks have been straight out for me. Running the kids here and there, work, a wedding etc. Basic stuff for a mom. I have been doing what I can to take some time for me - easy give...	AlaMom	5	476	Jun 11, 2006 by maresie2
	New Server For Rooms (Preview) If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...	John	0	344	Jun 11, 2006 by John
	new server a real problem (Preview) Tried to get on chat through starchat and I can't get in today. Says by invite only. What the f*** does that mean. Been coming on MIP for two years now and I am not invited.	lebe27	1	328	Jun 11, 2006 by John
	good news...bad news (Preview) My A boyfriend (who lives 2,000 miles away) called last night. Good news! His probation meeting went well. He's finished with community service and has a court date for Sept., he finally received his $ from selling his house, and he has a job interview on Monday! He was so ex...	jacksmom	5	387	Jun 11, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	So far so good (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) This is an interesting experience. I am going through my house packing and am doing alright. I am working on areas that were for the most part just my things. I have alot of stuff, I don't think anyone realises over time how much they gather. Picking what is important is harder in...	Jennifer	0	312	Jun 11, 2006 by Jennifer
	It finally hit me (Preview) Now I can't be sure about this, but last night something hit me. I don't have to care. I don't have to spend my time worrying about what he will or won't do. He's not my responsibility. I don't have to feel bad about what he's doing or saying to me. I have no idea where this came from. I mean two days ago I was rea...	Miranda	3	377	Jun 11, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Letting go (Preview) I'm new to this. How do we let go of someone we love even though they are so very different than the person we hold in our hearts? How do we stop thinking of them?	patience	2	433	Jun 11, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	newcomer (Preview) Hi to all,this is my first letter. Can anyone tell me how you are supposed to cope with this? we have been married for 36yrs ,he was a great dad to our 2 kids ,and a great husband ,until 3yrs ago he took to the drink,we are not together now ,i feel as i have lost my whole life,trying to keep our house and look a...	ollie	14	471	Jun 11, 2006 by Diva
	Happy Father's Day Mip Dads! (Preview) Howdy & Happy Father's Day MIP ((((((Dads)))))))!!!!! I hope each of ya have a great day with your kids/families/loved ones. I appreciate all of you mip guys and the esh you offer. It's always good to hear the male side of things. I thank you for what you bring to recovery.&n...	cedarpines	2	325	Jun 11, 2006 by Barbara
	mIRC Users - Please Read (Preview) If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...	John	0	348	Jun 11, 2006 by John
	testing topic below is about daugher's assult :( (Preview) It didn't get the correct title for the message. cdb	cdb	0	325	Jun 11, 2006 by cdb
	Anxiously awaiting..... (Preview) Hi Alanon friends, My son in the military (3rd tour of duty in combat) called saying he is coming home on leave. I can't even say "our" son anymore because my AH doesn't live here anymore. Then my son called late at night from Kuwait telling me his travel plans and his plans for his 2 week leave. I have to w...	nmike	4	432	Jun 11, 2006 by leo
	ESH needed on numerous topics please (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) I've needed a break from thinking so I have not been here much. Kept busy with my readings and praying, I've had some small eye opening experiences. #1 I still love my husband. #2 I stayed at the house a few nights while he was here, I have seen how fast he has fallen. I've been g...	Jennifer	3	353	Jun 11, 2006 by leo
	detatched or just cold? (Preview) so my a and myself and the kids went to the movies today. i was taking the kids anyway and he asked yesterday if he could come along. i said ok. i don't feel comfortable leaving them with him alone so this worked. and i had our tickets ready so if he didn't show we would go anyway. he showed. it was all nice. i me...	serendipity	3	386	Jun 11, 2006 by leo
	MIP MAP MOVED (closed) (Preview) This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...	jrtjosey	0	304	Jun 10, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Thanks ((MIP angels)) (Preview) Thanks ((((my wonderful MIP friends)))) Hubby took me to dinner last night and we agreed we weren't going to talk about any "stuff". Even though we know it's there, it was nice to get out and try to leave it all behind for a little bit. I so appreciate all the caring replies and humor. Rofl Gard...	Christy	7	484	Jun 10, 2006 by cedarpines
	Trapped, Hotel California style (Preview) This is my first time here. I’m not really sure what I want to say. There are so many issues; so many feelings; so much bitterness. I guess the overwhelming feeling over the past couple of weeks is the feeling of being trapped. The A in my life is my husband. We have four kids and he is the sole bre...	Suzanne	6	600	Jun 10, 2006 by maresie2
	hello (Preview) hi everyone just wanted to share with you my rabbit. the picture by my name. meet thumper :)	notsonew1111	4	329	Jun 10, 2006 by lmt123
	Looking at Life (Preview) My Dear Friends, The past two days have been crazy, some ups and downs, mostly ups....thank the Lord....Took hub to Pittsburgh to get his leg ckecked, that went very well....He finally understands not to even ask to come home until he can prove his actions.....I also think that maybe, just maybe...	Andrea12	1	364	Jun 10, 2006 by Karilynn
	Out of my control/scream!!! (Preview) Hubby's disability was cut off 6 weeks ago because his Dr's office did not get the proper paperwork to the proper people. Out of our control We are doing footwork for appeal, but must wait 45 days for answer. Son's car was stolen and totaled. Out of my control Responsible party is avoiding us af...	Christy	23	696	Jun 10, 2006 by maresie2
	So I go to plan B (Preview) Living with an active alcoholic has forced me to have a plan B .. This week we are planning to go on a family vacation. Knowing the caos that I am living in I have a plan B.. The kids and I drive and go alone. Well, today 2 days before we are suppose to leave all you know what hit the fan and now, we are resulti...	Tammy	6	507	Jun 10, 2006 by maresie2
	Happy Birthday mac57 (Preview) HaPpY BiRThDaY Mac57 :) ((((( mac57/David ))))) Hope you have a wonderful day ~Your new year is filled with lots of peace, joy and serenity PS. Didn't get to see you this morning so a few of us thought we should bring it here, not to name names for...	tea2	18	596	Jun 10, 2006 by dwa1163
	Taking way to much personal!!!!!!! (Preview) Hello to all, I have this really deeply ingrained habit of mothering my husband. To put it bluntly. We do the dance. He acts like a child I treat him like one, I act like a mother he acts like a child. It is totally annoying me. I am getting sick and tired of being sick and tired. It is going to take an enormou...	jesusis_4me	4	369	Jun 10, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	How many Bottoms??? (Preview) Please help, someone with a little experience maybe in this situation. My husband has been relapsing since January of this year. I moved out for two months because I could not take it anymore. He called one night during the separation, and ju...	hersh	7	470	Jun 10, 2006 by northstar
	Accept things I cannot change...or Courage to change what I can? (Preview) Please share your opinions....I am at my wits end... Sister has 3 children by 2 diff men. The 2 babies dad is only off drugs because he lacks the money to buy. He has been around for a total of 7 months of the 3 year olds life....and 5 months of the 10 month olds life. He is very disrespe...	tishrijo	9	487	Jun 10, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Daily rollercoaster (Preview) When I met my husband we were both 29 and he had just lost his dl b/c of 3 DUI's. I met him at a church singles group & he seemed to have turned his life around. I drove on all of our dates and when we married I drove when we left the wedding. He was recovering (or I guess I thought)...	Reetry	4	472	Jun 10, 2006 by Reetry
	NOT divorced/A came back (?) (Preview) I dont know what to think about the Lord's plan for me today! I got up, very emotional about my A who I have not been with in a month. I sent him a text message (I guess you could say I fell off the detachment wagon) simply saying "Have you forgotten me?" He did not respond. At 9:30 I met with my husba...	jennneeefffurrr	7	462	Jun 10, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Facing my own issues... (Preview) I asked my A last night why he was being so cold and distant to me. He says its because I said I was going to get into counseling and start a work out program. He said "I haven't seen you do anything this week, and I'm upset about it". He says don't expect me to stick around for much longer i...	twinmom2	4	491	Jun 10, 2006 by nmike
	Last night's meeting (Preview) Had a great experience chairing my f2f last night. We are a very small town, usually our meeting is four or five people, all long time members. So, I showed up early, got the room set up - by five minutes before meeting time, there were six new people, none of whom I had ever seen before, and me! As new member...	lin0606	2	402	Jun 10, 2006 by nmike
	troubles in chatroom - a message for Oz and Ops (Preview) Dear John/Oz, "All is well, that ends well." German saying. "Ende gut, alles gut." Thanks for your work. We are lucky to have you. Oh, and while I'm at it, as one who has profited immensely, thanks also to all ops. DANKE says Toto	toto12	1	392	Jun 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Fun (Preview) Have some fun -- with life, with the day. Life is not drudgery; that is an old belief. Let go of it. We are on an adventure, a journey. EVents will come to pass that we cannot now fathom. Replace heaviness and weariness of spirit with Joy. Surround yourself with people and things that bring light...	Maria123	6	359	Jun 9, 2006 by tea2
	After Awhile (Preview) After Awhile *After a while you learn the subtle difference between* *holding a hand and chaining a soul,* *And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and* *company doesn't mean security,* *And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts* *and presents aren't pr...*	lilms	4	329	Jun 9, 2006 by kismetstrand
	More butterfly kisses (Preview) I've decided to write more letters to my father. I don't know if it's healthy or not, but I've been feeling better after I write them. They may sound really bad, but this is the one I wrote tonight. That song brought up so much for me. Not only do I want you to be there for me, and take care of me, but...	Miranda	2	498	Jun 9, 2006 by nmike
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