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Just wanted to post and share in the joy that today is 120 days sober for my A..woot! woot!! I'm sooo, sooo proud of him. There has been so much that has happpened that he could have used as an excuse to drink, but he didn't . I have to admit I held my breath a few times in anticipation. For the most part though, I tried not to expect or fear his actions. I realize that he is discovering a new way of life just as I am. The first time he left alone and said he was going to wash the car I cringed..lol Previously, that would have meant he was washing the car, but would down a half pint of vodka while there and was gone for an hour. I couldn't help (after 20 yrs) but be surprised when he came home 15 minutes later not staggering or slurring.
There have been plenty of trying times. Son's first car being wrecked, second being stolen and wrecked, his Mother's passing, fighting with disability, his own health issues etc. He has taken it all in stride. I was used to handling everything myself and it is wonderful to have him beside me again to lean on and make decisions....together.
"Together" hadn't been in my vocabulary for a REALLY long time. We lived seperate lives. But now, he's home 24/7 ( that took getting used to..lol) and I'm grateful that we have this time to get to know eachother again (thanks HP). There has not been one fight..perhaps a little irritibility, but always followed by an "I'm sorry" and a hug.
We go shopping together which is all new. Even if it's to Lowe's to pick out new pots for my Hibiscus trees. Before, I wouldn't have even bothered to ask him if he wanted to come. He would have looked at me like I was nuts..lol Now he's walking down the pot aisle asking me if I like this planter or that planter the best. It's not just that he is with me, but that he actually has an interest and cares.
I know this could all vanish tomorrow. But just for today, I wanted to celebrate this milestone with y'all. Lord knows you stood beside me in my darkest hours so I also wanted to share with you my (our) joy.
Love you all, Christy
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This is just what I needed to hear today. I am so happy for you and your A !!!
Today is my bf's 7th day in rehab. I went to see him yesterday for the first time and wow, what a difference a week has made in his life. :D He used to spend his time telling me what a horrible mother and gf I was and yesterday he told me before I left "Keep taking care of those kids, you are doing a great job!" I almost fell over! Something as small as that means so much to me.. just like your hubby going shopping for the pots with you.
I watched him go up for his 0-29 day chip at the AA meeting and felt such happiness and pride for him. He really wants this and that makes me so happy. I can't wait to see him enjoy a real life, free from the confinements of alcohol.
Keep up the good work, both you and your hubby!
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So great to hear from you! Thanks for sharing your happy times with us too. You both deserve this! Life is so short. Enjoy every moment you have together.
You know Christy, anything could happen tomorrow. Don't you worry about that otherwise that worry will become your reality. Just keep thinkin positive girl, bringing that Joy into your heart. Love you soooo much and I am sooo glad things are going well and you are HAPPY!
Awwwwwwwwwww bless you ((((((((((((Christy))))))))))))
You're a tower of strength to so many of us. Congratulations to you and hubby on 120 days and long may it continue.
I'm still battling with the phone company to fix the internet connection,Turkish services are notoriously S......L........O.........W!!!! LOL.......tests my patience somewhat??? Ha ha.
Soooo HAPPY for Family! So very proud of Husband. So happy 4 YOU. I pray your husband continues too and gains more and more strength each day.
I think of You and your Husband lots ~ hope that HP/ God is ever close....watching over You ~ Home ~ and dear Family. I just "Lova Lova Love Y o u " I have such wonderful feeling from this news ~ thanks for much for sharing it on the boards.
Keeping You & Family in my Prayers ~ (((((((BigHuG)))))))
Woohoo! I am so happy for you and hubby! This is truly a milestone. Give hubby an extra hug for me, and hi-five!
You and your family have been through so much, and you have come through it beautifully! You are an inspiration to us all. I read your post to hubby and it brought tears to his eyes, as he so relates to it.
Thanks for reminding both of us that it is possible to recover and be happy again.
Love and blessings to your and your sober family, from my sober family.
Live strong,
Karilynn, sober hubby, and pipers kitty
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The word "together" jumps out at me and fills up my heart. How do we ever know what is going to happen? How do even know what someone could be like on the other side of the river of alcohol? For some it seems, there's a recognition, an association with the A's partner to the problem, and then they need to separate. For others this sweetness comes, as you describe with your husband, and the person who was there, behind the veil of the disease all along, re-emerges, and the blessings that come with that are immense, for everyone involved, even this little listener to your story.
God bless you, and may all the changes that come tomorrow be even better than the blessings that have come to you recently. Picture it just becoming more and more wonderful. It's your picture, your life, paint it pretty
Your post has got me singing this morning! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Watching you go through the awful times you've had in the past several months, I've just been blown away by your grace and strength. You've relied on HP faithfully and worked your program diligently, and you've shared the struggle with us each step of the way. Now, wow, what an example! It's brought tears to my eyes this morning. I wish you many many more 24 hours of peace, joy and contentment. I read a saying not long ago "Real gold fears no fire".
I am so happy for you that there is a respite right now. I remember when you were on total overhwhelm and it seemd like you had very little support.
I am also glad that your husband is enjoying sobriety. I am sure there are many many challenges ahead and I am glad he is taking this time to savor the moment.
WOOHOOOO!!!
I wish you both the best on your journies of recovery.
So very proud of Husband. 
So happy 4 YOU. 
I pray your husband continues too and gains more and more strength 
each day. 
and your Husband lots ~ hope that HP/ God is ever close....watching over You ~ Home ~ and dear Family. 
I just 
"Lova Lova Love Y o u " 
HuG))))))) 
