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leigh · leigh

I am brand new to this board (about 5 minutes) and go about once a week to in person Alanon meetings. My former husband is my qualifier, as well as my psychotic mother. I am typical enabeler, trying to heal the world, one addict at a time. I need help because I want and need to s...

leo · leo

Hi everyone, Just wanted to check in and let you know how things are going. Last weekend my husband came home drunk and I ignored him when he walked in. The next morning I made a very strained phone call to him telling him that if he wanted any papers signed in future he needed to have only hi...

TLC2 · TLC2

Well folks, this is it.(please HP, let it really be over!! Give me the strength to stand by ME!!) I know a lot of you may be wondering why I call it quits after such a trivial (?) thing?? He got drunk on July 9th (my birthday) and ruined that, I called my son and cancelled because I didn't want the kids to see...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I wandered into a chat room and was looking at the top of the screen where it says "topic" and was then thinking how people come in and ask "whats the topic?" which led me to thinking, gee wouldn't it be fun to have a "today's topic" every day. So then I opened up my ODAT to July 16 and started reading. R...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I've been zeroing in on detaching with love. I see now where it is considered difficult by some. Between my almost uncontrollable urge to be in his business and feeling I need to completely ignore him..that narrow bridge became a bit more visible to me...I THINK.. Darling A came home today tanked af...

serendipity · serendipity

all of the sudden i am having a hard time keeping the focus on myself. i am starting to wonder what my soon to be ah is doing and with who. up till now, when i would wonder, i could change my thought or say a prayer to let it go. and it worked. i was not obsessing. but the past couple of days i have been behaving mis...

emma · emma

I'm writing to thank all of you who have touched my life via this site. My f2f mtgs and of course my sponsor deserve (and will get) a lot of my thanks too, but there is something about all of you and this site that really helped me to understand and incorporate the al anon program into my life these last few...

debilyn · debilyn

ok so he is him. Tells me he is still in love with me. So what? lol I mean it is not like he is wooing me and sending a lot of letters and calling. Not saying, "I want to do this for you and that for you. I have not treated you like I want to treat you....." I have always been the last consideration for hi...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

When I first came to these rooms, I was lost. I had lost my A for a year, and my kids left to live with thier A Dad. It has been a very hard year for me, but with the help of Al-anon, my sponsor, and all of you. I am able to see progress in me. I am getting stronger and learning more everyday. I am also getting in touc...

Alethea · Alethea

Hi, this is my first time at any type of Al-Anon message board. I haven't been to a meeting either. I read several postings and started to cry. I have felt so alone in this and a lot of what I read mirrored how I feel. It is nice to know that there are others who can understand what I live through e...

dori · dori

Hi, I could of missed the pain but than I would of missed the dance.I loved you and I am thankful I loved you.I am thankful for all you did in my life.Yes I mean all the drama the pain all of it.I landed in alanon where I got sanity for the first time in my life. It got to me a place in my li...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hi (((Everyone))) It's late and I should be sleeping but I wanted to end my day here. After posting this morning I went with my A to his appointment, let me clarify I would have stayed home but the center confirmed to me and him that they would like me there to provide info he may not be capable of. unfortu...

lin0606 · lin0606

-- Edited by lin0606 at 12:31, 2006-07-15

debilyn · debilyn

I got the shock of my life. Did not believe it the first time I visited A in jail. Went back yesterday. I was nervous and sat down. He comes out and it is not the monster, it is my husband.I did not think I would ever see him again I got all unnerved and it was like my dreams where he is dead and is alive ag...

dori · dori

Hi, good to see you dori

serendipity · serendipity

i don't mind being alone. i actually enjoy it. but the loneliness is starting to get to me. not all the time. i am using my f2f and friends to talk about life and to get hugs. but i am missing the real intimacy. i'm not sure if it's part of missing my ah (who i think was served divorce papers yesterday) or if it'...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello friends. I don't know if this would be Alanon related.It's my LIFE,so I guess that's what this all about,right? I am going to call work tomorrow and quit my job.I left there in tears today and have been crying ever since.Here's what happened.I was written up for doing something that I KNOW LO...

debilyn · debilyn

hi good to see you. I wanted to respond to your response. I have been in alanon a good many years. Have seen my A husband go thru about everything. I am not stranger to relapse, sobriety, recovery program to relapse and on and on. I am not ignorant when it comes to aism. Worry is not part of my...

debilyn · debilyn

My A husband said that a lot. Then he was at his moms and did up too much H and died on the floor. The paramedics came and shocked him back. sigh. What could I have done? Nothing. To me it was and is totally out of my control. I cannot commit him. He saw a counselor, I was outside the door listening. He t...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, I am at work right now and I am wishing I was at home. I took my car to the shop on Friday. Thinking I was going to be spending about $1800 to get the car fixed. Well the guy called me Friday morning and said good news you don't need a new transmission, bad news the part I need won't be in until Mon...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Last night, went out for a evening with friends. My A decided after we agree not to stay out too late because I have been working 10-11 hour days to come home so I could get some rest. Guess I knew I never should have went the whole night was a mess. Me and His drinking buddy's wife left them both at the b...

rtexas · rtexas

Morning ((((Everyone)))) I had to laugh at myself this morning and I thought you guys(gals) might enjoy this too. These days my AW falls asleep in about 30 seconds and immediatly starts snoring.... LOUD. It is really amazing. I even recorded some of it on my phone. (coul...

maresie2 · maresie2

Before al-anon I lived my life in a sea of frustration and feeling left out. I seethed with resentment day and night. These days I really seek to lessen resentments as best I can. I know how toxic they are. These days I am struggling financially (when wasn't I?) but now when I come up again...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Let me say first of all I am sorry i have not been able to contribute to the board as I would like to. There is not enough time in the day lately to work, finish house, talk to creditors, meditate, find strength to tune out my A and everything that goes along with it. And I have had the f...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hiya roomies, I just got off the phone with my daycare provider. And she had a very serious tone in her voice. So I was a little freaked. Here is our conversation. Day Care Provider (DCP): Prepare yourself Me: Crap, who is it this time (I have 3 kids) DCP: The middle one Me: Great, what she do thi...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Wow...my 2 week business trip, without A, was pretty wonderful. I travelled 500 miles each way, towing a 20 ft trailer...proving to myself I could turn and back into any space whatsoever...found this out when a bridge was out on a country road and I had to negotiate my "rig" into a country driveway, b...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

is..................................................Living

Rebecca · Rebecca

Lindy · Lindy

I haven't posted for awhile; things were calmer since our last blow-up about a month ago. I'm sure the blow-up would've been two weeks ago, but A was able to go out and drink himself stupid with his relatives because of a wedding so I told him to go ahead and stay out as long as he wanted. There was no blow-up...

Jill · Jill

Hi Abbyal, Today’s reading is the one you quote on this message board. I used to associate July 14 with Bastille Day. Later, my nephew was born on July 14, so this became his day. But since I’ve been reading the board, this is my July 14 thought. I agree - it's an awesome reading. You ca...

jj · jj

I have been struggeling with this very question for about a year now and my recovery has suffered huge!!! As I took the journey of recovery I began to question myself more and more and actually felt that I did not really belong in alanon at all. I have attended AA meetings and feel very comfo...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), If anyone has a copy of Meoldy Beattie's book: More Language of Letting Go, this month's topic is theme is: Learn to Say How it Feels. I find this particularly relevant for both hubby and I because he's newly sober and I am learning to deal with a newly...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Thank you for your shares. I will reply more in depth later ... for now though I wanted to be sure to let you all know I am doing good. I decided the more info I had the better so I called every agebcy in town and county that would be involved if I had to do anything against his will. I got...

penny · penny

May 30th was my last posting.. it seems a life time ago, since then I have come a long way. I am still living on my own and at a secret address although My Ex A's family have contacted me asking where I lived, I didnt reveal anything. His last court appearance for damaging my daughters car was adjourn...

maresie2 · maresie2

I think that Al-anon has taught me to understand my limitations. I am up for a job at a nearby company. Everything is great about the job, location, pay, conditions everything. Unfortunately the job involves a supervisor who is impossible to please. I have chosen not to pursue it...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Ok so it you read the previous post about Chanting the Serenity Prayer wanting to cry, you know my care went back to the shop today. Well it wasn't ready to be picked up when I got off work, so I took the ferry home. When I got to the other side of the water it started to rain. I had no jacket and no umb...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, having kind of a bad day today, don't know why exactly just life I guess.....Some days it seems that everything will be ok and then other days....I don't know....I am trying to stay in the moment...in today...it just gets hard sometimes... Hub is off of work, broken leg....I n...

just me · just me

Hey (((((SLS))))) I just wanted you to know it is good to see you on the board! I am looking forward to seeing your shares again. You have much esh to offer! Take care! Julia

dori · dori

Hi, I been in alanon 3 years and right not cant always get to face to face meetings. I need a alanon sponsor on line any one interested ? dori

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, i'm new here, but i will share my expirience from my only meeting. Manyof you are talking about great meeting and how much you learned from them. My meeting was different. I sat in cold room with another 10 mostly woman, middle aged, bitter, leaving their husbands. What i got from it, let it go m...

chris52 · chris52

Hello ((((((((family))))))))) Am back in the Uk with my son and his heavily pregnant wife. She looks FANTASTIC!! To sit and watch my son cherish her and take such good care of her brings tears to my eyes. HIS Father was never interested in our two pregnancies,giving us the joy of two beautiful children...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

My A just left to go by booze under the guise of buying ice, she has graduated from beer to wine so she is not drinking as much or so she says. I do not entertain any conversation on booze. (sometimes I think why don't you just spend all your money and stock up) We still have bills due and she is al...

Julianna · Julianna

Last night I went to my first meeting. It was very helpful and nice to talk with some people who have been there and done that in person. They gave me phone numbers and told me to call anytime-how comforting. I hope I never need to call someone anytime, but it sure is nice to know...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Yup...it was if my soul were rubbed raw with the twisted drinking garbage and sitting through my first al-anon meeting felt like a salve to said soul. I bought three books as soon as I walked into the meeting;'Hope for Today,Courage for Today and One day at a time'. I stuffed them into my purse and took...

Gailey · Gailey

Welcome to MIP. It is nice to meet you! Please post whenever you feel ready to. I am sure you have alot to offer as esh for all of us too. YFIR...Gail

mickey · mickey

Hello: I am the most confused newlywed there is on the face of this earth. I supported my Fiance' through 6 months of rehap, he worked this program to the fullest. When he came home he did well, and was a little pressured because he did not have a job. He looked high and low eventuall...

MrsGratitude · MrsGratitude

Hello - Just found this group. Very happy to be here. Already reading previous posts and enjoying the group wisdom. Thanks!

Lorelei · Lorelei

My head is just spinning, I hope all this makes sense, I have so much bottled up inside I that need to get out. My husband, of twenty years, is a hard worker, he never misses work, he is a loving person, and a good father and husband and provider, when he is not drinking. He does however have a proble...

Wizkid · Wizkid

I guess I feel like writing. I read the recovery Bible this morning. I felt peaceful. Then I freaked, mentally, later in the day. Then I biked for an hour and twenty minutes - prayed and talked to God the whole time. I had to drop my will. I've been reading the Celebrate Recovery program. That's t...

Valerie Malone · Valerie Malone

Hey, y'all. This is my "coming out" party in a sense--it's the first time I've talked to strangers about my husband's drinking (although my family and friends are now all in the loop). A month ago, I thought I was getting divorced. My husband was about to quit yet ANOTHER job (proba...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

My Ah is recently out of treatment yet again. It has been about 3 weeks this time. He is currently attending a meeting every night and going to aftercare 3 times a week. Sounds great I know...but I am still treating him like a child and he is still acting like one. I came to the realization yesterday that I h...

Julianna · Julianna

Hi everyone. I am brand new to al-anon and really appreciate the comments that I have read so far. I have reached a point in my life where, even though my husband doesn't drink a lot, I can't stand him when he does. I have two issues that are weighing on my mind. The first: Am I being neg...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

Hi all, I have been reading the posts and recently joined the chat room (as Elsie). I have really enjoyed the meeting and the board as they have given me alot of wisdom. But, I'm still struggling with an issue with my dad and I can't get peace with it. I want to have a relationship with my d...

benhasglasses · benhasglasses

i met a girl. and she was very much the one for me. we were 24. this was nearly 2 years ago. we lived quite a distance from one another, so we had to take trips to see each other. on one of these trips, i discovered bruises all over her body. she had also lost a lot of weight. i also found a 1 liter soda bottle full o...

andretti000 · andretti000

hello. Everybody keeps on telling me to try Alanon. I am surrounded by alcoholics and I really don't know how to deal anymore! They are driving me crazy! I know I am easily manipulated and I feel guilty if I don't do what they want. Is the easiest thing just to stay away from them? I don't even drink. I hate a...

mickey · mickey

I just spilled my heart out and I need help please someone respond. I don't drink, I don't smoke or anything. this alcohol stuff is new to me and I'm not liking it.

megan · megan

Hello my friends old and new. I wish to share with you all some very happy news. My divorce is final 6/30. How can this be happy news? If you told me 2 years ago I would be happily divorced I would have screamed in rage, no way. But, God has other plans for me than to be the victem of abuse, s...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Just when I think I am turning a corner and am feeling good, I get slammed back. I went to my f2f meeting, the MIP meeting, and went to bed early. I was woken up by severe pain in my chest and back. After it became apparent it wasnt going away I ended up in the ER. After spending the n...

sparkette · sparkette

I think y'all are getting to know me well enough that when I post once on this board, to expect another post shortly thereafter. I do reflect on my thinking as well as my actions and behavior. The actions and behavior are a result of my thinking so last night that is where my focus was... on my thinking. My s...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Hi family--I saw that quote in my al anon "Cal's Recovery Journal" and it sparked something that I hadn't thought about for a long time. At one time, maybe like 6 mos ago, my dad put together 90 continuous days of sobriety, and at first I was like "Yeah whatever" because that's the way my dad's disease wor...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	can't stop obsessing (Preview) I am brand new to this board (about 5 minutes) and go about once a week to in person Alanon meetings. My former husband is my qualifier, as well as my psychotic mother. I am typical enabeler, trying to heal the world, one addict at a time. I need help because I want and need to s...	leigh	8	635	Jul 16, 2006 by leigh
	stress free (Preview) Hi everyone, Just wanted to check in and let you know how things are going. Last weekend my husband came home drunk and I ignored him when he walked in. The next morning I made a very strained phone call to him telling him that if he wanted any papers signed in future he needed to have only hi...	leo	4	489	Jul 16, 2006 by leo
	War is over, Alcohol 1, TLC 0 (Preview) Well folks, this is it.(please HP, let it really be over!! Give me the strength to stand by ME!!) I know a lot of you may be wondering why I call it quits after such a trivial (?) thing?? He got drunk on July 9th (my birthday) and ruined that, I called my son and cancelled because I didn't want the kids to see...	TLC2	7	637	Jul 16, 2006 by dori
	Maturity vs. Immaturity (Preview) I wandered into a chat room and was looking at the top of the screen where it says "topic" and was then thinking how people come in and ask "whats the topic?" which led me to thinking, gee wouldn't it be fun to have a "today's topic" every day. So then I opened up my ODAT to July 16 and started reading. R...	kismetstrand	1	424	Jul 16, 2006 by leo
	I THINK I did it right.. (Preview) I've been zeroing in on detaching with love. I see now where it is considered difficult by some. Between my almost uncontrollable urge to be in his business and feeling I need to completely ignore him..that narrow bridge became a bit more visible to me...I THINK.. Darling A came home today tanked af...	RamzDear	4	487	Jul 16, 2006 by hersh
	how insedious is MY disease (Preview) all of the sudden i am having a hard time keeping the focus on myself. i am starting to wonder what my soon to be ah is doing and with who. up till now, when i would wonder, i could change my thought or say a prayer to let it go. and it worked. i was not obsessing. but the past couple of days i have been behaving mis...	serendipity	4	606	Jul 16, 2006 by nmike
	gratitude (Preview) I'm writing to thank all of you who have touched my life via this site. My f2f mtgs and of course my sponsor deserve (and will get) a lot of my thanks too, but there is something about all of you and this site that really helped me to understand and incorporate the al anon program into my life these last few...	emma	3	460	Jul 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Wait a minute.... (Preview) ok so he is him. Tells me he is still in love with me. So what? lol I mean it is not like he is wooing me and sending a lot of letters and calling. Not saying, "I want to do this for you and that for you. I have not treated you like I want to treat you....." I have always been the last consideration for hi...	debilyn	8	642	Jul 16, 2006 by Becky1
	I am progressing (Preview) When I first came to these rooms, I was lost. I had lost my A for a year, and my kids left to live with thier A Dad. It has been a very hard year for me, but with the help of Al-anon, my sponsor, and all of you. I am able to see progress in me. I am getting stronger and learning more everyday. I am also getting in touc...	heartless39470	6	476	Jul 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Hi (Preview) Hi, this is my first time at any type of Al-Anon message board. I haven't been to a meeting either. I read several postings and started to cry. I have felt so alone in this and a lot of what I read mirrored how I feel. It is nice to know that there are others who can understand what I live through e...	Alethea	7	621	Jul 16, 2006 by Alethea
	i could of miss the pain (Preview) Hi, I could of missed the pain but than I would of missed the dance.I loved you and I am thankful I loved you.I am thankful for all you did in my life.Yes I mean all the drama the pain all of it.I landed in alanon where I got sanity for the first time in my life. It got to me a place in my li...	dori	7	538	Jul 16, 2006 by TLC2
	The end of a long day (Preview) Hi (((Everyone))) It's late and I should be sleeping but I wanted to end my day here. After posting this morning I went with my A to his appointment, let me clarify I would have stayed home but the center confirmed to me and him that they would like me there to provide info he may not be capable of. unfortu...	Jennifer	4	482	Jul 15, 2006 by TLC2
	test (Preview) -- Edited by lin0606 at 12:31, 2006-07-15	lin0606	2	417	Jul 15, 2006 by TLC2
	He's Alive! (Preview) I got the shock of my life. Did not believe it the first time I visited A in jail. Went back yesterday. I was nervous and sat down. He comes out and it is not the monster, it is my husband.I did not think I would ever see him again I got all unnerved and it was like my dreams where he is dead and is alive ag...	debilyn	17	729	Jul 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	Deb (Preview) Hi, good to see you dori	dori	0	363	Jul 15, 2006 by dori
	loneliness (Preview) i don't mind being alone. i actually enjoy it. but the loneliness is starting to get to me. not all the time. i am using my f2f and friends to talk about life and to get hugs. but i am missing the real intimacy. i'm not sure if it's part of missing my ah (who i think was served divorce papers yesterday) or if it'...	serendipity	5	530	Jul 15, 2006 by dori
	Have I lost my mind, or found it? (Preview) Hello friends. I don't know if this would be Alanon related.It's my LIFE,so I guess that's what this all about,right? I am going to call work tomorrow and quit my job.I left there in tears today and have been crying ever since.Here's what happened.I was written up for doing something that I KNOW LO...	drucilla06	12	884	Jul 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	cdb (Preview) hi good to see you. I wanted to respond to your response. I have been in alanon a good many years. Have seen my A husband go thru about everything. I am not stranger to relapse, sobriety, recovery program to relapse and on and on. I am not ignorant when it comes to aism. Worry is not part of my...	debilyn	0	417	Jul 15, 2006 by debilyn
	Jennifer/suicide (Preview) My A husband said that a lot. Then he was at his moms and did up too much H and died on the floor. The paramedics came and shocked him back. sigh. What could I have done? Nothing. To me it was and is totally out of my control. I cannot commit him. He saw a counselor, I was outside the door listening. He t...	debilyn	1	805	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	Chanting Serenity Prayer, wanting to cry (Preview) Hi roomies, I am at work right now and I am wishing I was at home. I took my car to the shop on Friday. Thinking I was going to be spending about $1800 to get the car fixed. Well the guy called me Friday morning and said good news you don't need a new transmission, bad news the part I need won't be in until Mon...	Dolphin123	8	1100	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	Locked out! (Preview) Last night, went out for a evening with friends. My A decided after we agree not to stay out too late because I have been working 10-11 hour days to come home so I could get some rest. Guess I knew I never should have went the whole night was a mess. Me and His drinking buddy's wife left them both at the b...	DoN4me	6	579	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	Bass Assassin (Preview) Morning ((((Everyone)))) I had to laugh at myself this morning and I thought you guys(gals) might enjoy this too. These days my AW falls asleep in about 30 seconds and immediatly starts snoring.... LOUD. It is really amazing. I even recorded some of it on my phone. (coul...	rtexas	8	559	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	patience (Preview) Before al-anon I lived my life in a sea of frustration and feeling left out. I seethed with resentment day and night. These days I really seek to lessen resentments as best I can. I know how toxic they are. These days I am struggling financially (when wasn't I?) but now when I come up again...	maresie2	4	401	Jul 15, 2006 by leo
	ESH needed badly concerning suicide talk (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Let me say first of all I am sorry i have not been able to contribute to the board as I would like to. There is not enough time in the day lately to work, finish house, talk to creditors, meditate, find strength to tune out my A and everything that goes along with it. And I have had the f...	Jennifer	11	869	Jul 15, 2006 by tishrijo
	Oh My Gosh, (Preview) Hiya roomies, I just got off the phone with my daycare provider. And she had a very serious tone in her voice. So I was a little freaked. Here is our conversation. Day Care Provider (DCP): Prepare yourself Me: Crap, who is it this time (I have 3 kids) DCP: The middle one Me: Great, what she do thi...	Dolphin123	13	716	Jul 15, 2006 by tishrijo
	Home again...refreshed (Preview) Wow...my 2 week business trip, without A, was pretty wonderful. I travelled 500 miles each way, towing a 20 ft trailer...proving to myself I could turn and back into any space whatsoever...found this out when a bridge was out on a country road and I had to negotiate my "rig" into a country driveway, b...	Belongtome	4	622	Jul 15, 2006 by whitie
	advantages of living with an adult who acts like a child lol (Preview) is..................................................Living	hmrnrnmm	7	741	Jul 14, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	letting go and letting god! (Preview)	Rebecca	4	518	Jul 14, 2006 by Karilynn
	Here we go again! (Preview) I haven't posted for awhile; things were calmer since our last blow-up about a month ago. I'm sure the blow-up would've been two weeks ago, but A was able to go out and drink himself stupid with his relatives because of a wedding so I told him to go ahead and stay out as long as he wanted. There was no blow-up...	Lindy	3	688	Jul 14, 2006 by dori
	hi Abbyal (Preview) Hi Abbyal, Today’s reading is the one you quote on this message board. I used to associate July 14 with Bastille Day. Later, my nephew was born on July 14, so this became his day. But since I’ve been reading the board, this is my July 14 thought. I agree - it's an awesome reading. You ca...	Jill	0	405	Jul 14, 2006 by Jill
	Have any of questioned weather or not you were an A too! (Preview) I have been struggeling with this very question for about a year now and my recovery has suffered huge!!! As I took the journey of recovery I began to question myself more and more and actually felt that I did not really belong in alanon at all. I have attended AA meetings and feel very comfo...	jj	9	613	Jul 14, 2006 by Juster
	Honor Your Emotions (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), If anyone has a copy of Meoldy Beattie's book: *More Language of Letting Go*, this month's topic is theme is: Learn to Say How it Feels. I find this particularly relevant for both hubby and I because he's newly sober and I am learning to deal with a newly...	Karilynn	3	515	Jul 14, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Well here is what I did (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Thank you for your shares. I will reply more in depth later ... for now though I wanted to be sure to let you all know I am doing good. I decided the more info I had the better so I called every agebcy in town and county that would be involved if I had to do anything against his will. I got...	Jennifer	4	496	Jul 14, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Getting on with life. (Preview) May 30th was my last posting.. it seems a life time ago, since then I have come a long way. I am still living on my own and at a secret address although My Ex A's family have contacted me asking where I lived, I didnt reveal anything. His last court appearance for damaging my daughters car was adjourn...	penny	4	588	Jul 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Understanding my limitations (Preview) I think that Al-anon has taught me to understand my limitations. I am up for a job at a nearby company. Everything is great about the job, location, pay, conditions everything. Unfortunately the job involves a supervisor who is impossible to please. I have chosen not to pursue it...	maresie2	5	685	Jul 14, 2006 by chris52
	Hmm, wondering exactly how nuts I am. (Preview) Hi all, Ok so it you read the previous post about Chanting the Serenity Prayer wanting to cry, you know my care went back to the shop today. Well it wasn't ready to be picked up when I got off work, so I took the ferry home. When I got to the other side of the water it started to rain. I had no jacket and no umb...	Dolphin123	4	679	Jul 14, 2006 by chris52
	Just Feeling Stuck (Preview) Hello Friends, having kind of a bad day today, don't know why exactly just life I guess.....Some days it seems that everything will be ok and then other days....I don't know....I am trying to stay in the moment...in today...it just gets hard sometimes... Hub is off of work, broken leg....I n...	Andrea12	7	489	Jul 14, 2006 by mel123
	Hi SLS (Preview) Hey (((((SLS))))) I just wanted you to know it is good to see you on the board! I am looking forward to seeing your shares again. You have much esh to offer! Take care! Julia	just me	1	643	Jul 14, 2006 by SLS
	sponsor (Preview) Hi, I been in alanon 3 years and right not cant always get to face to face meetings. I need a alanon sponsor on line any one interested ? dori	dori	5	478	Jul 14, 2006 by dori
	my first and only meeting (Preview) Hi all, i'm new here, but i will share my expirience from my only meeting. Manyof you are talking about great meeting and how much you learned from them. My meeting was different. I sat in cold room with another 10 mostly woman, middle aged, bitter, leaving their husbands. What i got from it, let it go m...	daisy2	9	980	Jul 14, 2006 by daisy2
	back with my kids (Preview) Hello ((((((((family))))))))) Am back in the Uk with my son and his heavily pregnant wife. She looks FANTASTIC!! To sit and watch my son cherish her and take such good care of her brings tears to my eyes. HIS Father was never interested in our two pregnancies,giving us the joy of two beautiful children...	chris52	8	522	Jul 13, 2006 by bobump
	frustrated & fed up at A's stupidity & being unresponsible & no hygiene manners ( may be long & boring) I had a bad day! (Preview) My A just left to go by booze under the guise of buying ice, she has graduated from beer to wine so she is not drinking as much or so she says. I do not entertain any conversation on booze. (sometimes I think why don't you just spend all your money and stock up) We still have bills due and she is al...	hmrnrnmm	4	1069	Jul 13, 2006 by lin0606
	First f2f (Preview) Last night I went to my first meeting. It was very helpful and nice to talk with some people who have been there and done that in person. They gave me phone numbers and told me to call anytime-how comforting. I hope I never need to call someone anytime, but it sure is nice to know...	Julianna	3	578	Jul 13, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Meeting was a salve (Preview) Yup...it was if my soul were rubbed raw with the twisted drinking garbage and sitting through my first al-anon meeting felt like a salve to said soul. I bought three books as soon as I walked into the meeting;'Hope for Today,Courage for Today and One day at a time'. I stuffed them into my purse and took...	RamzDear	3	437	Jul 13, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Welcome Daisy (Preview) Welcome to MIP. It is nice to meet you! Please post whenever you feel ready to. I am sure you have alot to offer as esh for all of us too. YFIR...Gail	Gailey	1	611	Jul 13, 2006 by daisy2
	This is all new to me what do I do (Preview) Hello: I am the most confused newlywed there is on the face of this earth. I supported my Fiance' through 6 months of rehap, he worked this program to the fullest. When he came home he did well, and was a little pressured because he did not have a job. He looked high and low eventuall...	mickey	7	854	Jul 13, 2006 by doxie
	Newcomer to online group (Preview) Hello - Just found this group. Very happy to be here. Already reading previous posts and enjoying the group wisdom. Thanks!	MrsGratitude	6	402	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	need help (Preview) My head is just spinning, I hope all this makes sense, I have so much bottled up inside I that need to get out. My husband, of twenty years, is a hard worker, he never misses work, he is a loving person, and a good father and husband and provider, when he is not drinking. He does however have a proble...	Lorelei	11	555	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	I learned something new about myself (Preview) I guess I feel like writing. I read the recovery Bible this morning. I felt peaceful. Then I freaked, mentally, later in the day. Then I biked for an hour and twenty minutes - prayed and talked to God the whole time. I had to drop my will. I've been reading the Celebrate Recovery program. That's t...	Wizkid	3	551	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	Coming out as the wife of a drunk (Preview) Hey, y'all. This is my "coming out" party in a sense--it's the first time I've talked to strangers about my husband's drinking (although my family and friends are now all in the loop). A month ago, I thought I was getting divorced. My husband was about to quit yet ANOTHER job (proba...	Valerie Malone	5	781	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	Not his mom (Preview) My Ah is recently out of treatment yet again. It has been about 3 weeks this time. He is currently attending a meeting every night and going to aftercare 3 times a week. Sounds great I know...but I am still treating him like a child and he is still acting like one. I came to the realization yesterday that I h...	jkiss03	6	718	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	New to all of this (Preview) Hi everyone. I am brand new to al-anon and really appreciate the comments that I have read so far. I have reached a point in my life where, even though my husband doesn't drink a lot, I can't stand him when he does. I have two issues that are weighing on my mind. The first: Am I being neg...	Julianna	3	416	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	Can't figure out my dad (Preview) Hi all, I have been reading the posts and recently joined the chat room (as Elsie). I have really enjoyed the meeting and the board as they have given me alot of wisdom. But, I'm still struggling with an issue with my dad and I can't get peace with it. I want to have a relationship with my d...	itsgot2bgd	4	620	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	my story (Preview) i met a girl. and she was very much the one for me. we were 24. this was nearly 2 years ago. we lived quite a distance from one another, so we had to take trips to see each other. on one of these trips, i discovered bruises all over her body. she had also lost a lot of weight. i also found a 1 liter soda bottle full o...	benhasglasses	9	789	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	new here..alcoholics driving me crazy! (Preview) hello. Everybody keeps on telling me to try Alanon. I am surrounded by alcoholics and I really don't know how to deal anymore! They are driving me crazy! I know I am easily manipulated and I feel guilty if I don't do what they want. Is the easiest thing just to stay away from them? I don't even drink. I hate a...	andretti000	3	721	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	This is my first time on here I need some advice (Preview) I just spilled my heart out and I need help please someone respond. I don't drink, I don't smoke or anything. this alcohol stuff is new to me and I'm not liking it.	mickey	4	555	Jul 13, 2006 by danz123
	Divorce is final 6/30 (Preview) Hello my friends old and new. I wish to share with you all some very happy news. My divorce is final 6/30. How can this be happy news? If you told me 2 years ago I would be happily divorced I would have screamed in rage, no way. But, God has other plans for me than to be the victem of abuse, s...	megan	15	991	Jul 13, 2006 by kitty
	No More... (Preview) Just when I think I am turning a corner and am feeling good, I get slammed back. I went to my f2f meeting, the MIP meeting, and went to bed early. I was woken up by severe pain in my chest and back. After it became apparent it wasnt going away I ended up in the ER. After spending the n...	AlaMom	3	595	Jul 12, 2006 by Andrea12
	positive shift (Preview) I think y'all are getting to know me well enough that when I post once on this board, to expect another post shortly thereafter. I do reflect on my thinking as well as my actions and behavior. The actions and behavior are a result of my thinking so last night that is where my focus was... on my thinking. My s...	sparkette	4	715	Jul 12, 2006 by doxie
	"Sobriety is not a 'happily ever after...'" (Preview) Hi family--I saw that quote in my al anon "Cal's Recovery Journal" and it sparked something that I hadn't thought about for a long time. At one time, maybe like 6 mos ago, my dad put together 90 continuous days of sobriety, and at first I was like "Yeah whatever" because that's the way my dad's disease wor...	Tiger2006	7	940	Jul 12, 2006 by bobump
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