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Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Hi family--I saw that quote in my al anon "Cal's Recovery Journal" and it sparked something that I hadn't thought about for a long time. At one time, maybe like 6 mos ago, my dad put together 90 continuous days of sobriety, and at first I was like "Yeah whatever" because that's the way my dad's disease wor...

anon_user · anon_user

Things are going well. Six weeks of exposure to al-anon and what a difference it’s made. I understand he is the one dying of alcoholism – it’s his problem to solve. I understand I can deal with him when I want to and walk away when I don’t. I understand he will drink or he will not drink, independen...

tea2 · tea2

I brought my 16 year old son to a carnival tonight to meet a few girls and picked up hours later. I had walked around a bit alone, didn’t let on I was mom when I passed him. I watched other families on the rides with their small children and reminisced. I admit I should be happy that he is healthy, so smart and h...

Gailey · Gailey

Well, next Friday I will be leaving for my once in a lifetime vacation and I am having alot of anxiety about it. I want so much to be happy and excited. Starting off on Thurs 7/21 will be leaving Baltimore heading to San Francisco for 2 nights. Leaving San Francisco on Sunday 7/23 and going to Honolulu...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Well..finally. I actually think I'm going to see a week ahead of me where I won't be crying,highly upset..pissed beyond sanity. I'm going to my first F2F in about an hour. This board has been (and will CONTINUE to be) a grand help for my peace of mind. I have been looking forward to this meeting for th...

allison · allison

Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post.Alot has happened since then...more lies,violence,and craziness.I have contacted a lawyer and I`m filing for divorce.I have realized that I will always care for him but I can never be with him.That life is too crazy especially for our children and...

sandie123 · sandie123

What is reality? Are my feelings reality? Are my hopes, fears and dreams necessary in my present reality? There are loads of things which I currently am trying to deal with, many of them extremely large. These things have been building up in me to a point where I am presently concerned about my me...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have popped in periodically to see how everyone is doing and to do some reading. Things have been ok for me, hectic to chaotic for the rest of my family. AW not liking my work schedule, or our lack of "fun money" as the summer comes to a close. ASon is job hun...

Diva · Diva

Hubby and I are headed out for a bit of vacation time in Louisiana. I need some of that seafood e'toufee, boiled crawfish, and Zydeco music. My heart stays with you all, and I'll keep each and every one of you in my prayers. Back in a week, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -...

sparkette · sparkette

Some open, heartfelt writing: I have talked to a couple alanon buddies here expressing that I have not felt I could contribute to the board right now because much of what is going on with me is so intensely personal that I wasn't sure how I could possibly share in a general way. After this morning meeti...

Gailey · Gailey

I am the child of an alcoholic father. I am 53 years old and second to the oldest of 5 children. All of my siblings have food addictions...3 (the 3 youngest) have had problems with alcohol and/or drugs. The one and only brother still smokes pot daily. Hasn't drank or used cocaine in many years. Still acti...

Diva · Diva

Thanks all of you for the good wishes. I am soooo excited. All packed. Now only remains to take the dogs to the "Palms Resort and Spa" tomorrow a.m. They are going to live in the lap of luxury too! LOL!! Dori...I live in Texas. San Antonio precisely. Where are you? Diva

minnow · minnow

I am just having a difficult time tonight-- I know that sleep be will not be coming tonight (for awhile at least), so thought I write out some of this stuff & maybe feel better. I keep repeating the 3 C's....and the serenity prayer! My A has a dual addiction...... claimes to have not touched alcoho...

gardengal · gardengal

If I only had made to feel worthwhile as a child, I would have more self confidence, and a better image of myself as I got older. I grew up with an A father, yes he was there in body, but that was about it from what I can remember, but that was my life as a child , I thought everyone lived this way. I knew no better....

liliana · liliana

Hi, A few months ago my a and I met a really nice guy who has been sober for 7 years. I was very attracted to him at that time, and got over it a few weeks later. We have not seen him since January. Well, over the past two weeks, we've seen him at mutual friends bbq's, and one concert.&nbs...

LALA1 · LALA1

He came home that night and we talked some but I see where nothing has been resolved. As I said before financially I am in a bind and completing school is so very important to me. I have been told many times to "act as if" and it will help me with any situation. I am going to start trying th...

ollie · ollie

Just wanted to sayI LOVE YOU ALL,i read your posts every day,you have taught me so much in the short time i have been with you all,its so true there is strength in numbers,coming from england i have tried a few sites,but felt i wasn,t getting the help i so needed,still felt alone coping with this awful dis...

Becky1 · Becky1

The visit with my mom was a success. I traveled by plane from Ohio to Kansas, and stayed 7 days with my little 85 year old mom. I usually dread the visit, altho I do miss her, because her ways of living, cooking, eating, are so different than mine are now. Before I left, I decided to treat thi...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I am working with our church to start an alanon group with meetings to be held at the church. The church does understand that we can have no official connection to the church other than they are renting us a room for the meetings. My question is this....We don't want to limit who can come to meeti...

sunnymom · sunnymom

Thanks all for your encouragement when I posted about my son. I have a few questions--some of them are simple, believe it or not! What is ESH? What are the isms? This one is a little tougher: How do you "detach with love"? When I start talking with my A son, then he thin...

Gailey · Gailey

This was not a good weekend in my home. I had my granddaughters. My A son called at 6:00 am to see if they were awake yet....first red flag!!! When he called he sounded like he might be drinking. I did not say anything except that they were still asleep. He called again at 8:00 am to ask again. He was suppose t...

lmt123 · lmt123

Ok, I just want to say HP works in wonderful, mysterious ways. I know that, but having evidence of it just makes my day!

My daughter is going to college this fall. When we filled out the admission application, I really had no idea if we could pay or not. (We are curr...

beachgrl · beachgrl

Hi all - this is the first time I have done this but I need some advice from those that have been there. My A husband of 20 years relapsed again tonight. I am very disappointed. He has been in outpatient rehab since April and attending AA trying to do 90 in 90. I think he really w...

AlaMom · AlaMom

The continued fallout over my husbands relapse has reached a new level. Today a woman came to my home from Dept. of Social Services. She left behind a a letter regarding an investigation of neglect for our children. My son called me at work to tell me about it. I called her as r...

dori · dori

Books Alcoholics Anonymous Group Message Board Online Meetings Tuesday and Saturday Nites at 9Pm Eastern Time! Contribute securely with any major credit card through PayPal! This will offset some of the expenses related to this site. To contribute by pers...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The May 1st reading from Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie mentions a prayer from the Big AA book. Subsequent readings May 2, 3, 4, etc...... touch more on this prayer and interpretation of it. It helped me find good reading material for today! &...

LALA1 · LALA1

I read something today that I would like to share with you all because it inspired me so much. It is from the book Language of Letting Go and it was about insisting on the best. It said......"We deserve the best life and love have to offer, but we are each faced with the challenge of learning t...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Just before the holiday, he started drinking again. He went out back to play with the kids, with his beer, and twisted his ankle on the trampoline. So he decided not to go to work he has been off work for 7 days 3 of them no call no show, two he called in...

debilyn · debilyn

Thank you for all your responses. I gotta say I learned it was ok to be happy even if I had no idea how I was going to pay the house payment. I used to worry my life away. NO more. In the US we are in disneyland. Especially here in Oregon. Alanon amazes me. The truths in it are real. Aism wraps us up a...

lilms · lilms

WOOHOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! ITALIA!! ITALIA!! ITALIA!! Very excited household here, didn't know I had it in me, kmao lilms

whitie · whitie

I went to my spousal support hearing yesterday becuase my a husband refused to even make an offer on any kind of support. The judge ruled that after 22 years of marriage he will pay support to me and he will be paying it longer than he wants to! As you can imagine he gave an earful to our 19 year old so...

bugs39 · bugs39

i just found this site....I really don't know much about Al-Anon but from what I understand this it the place I need to be. Where do I start....I have been married for 13 years with two children (3.5 and 7) and i have a husband that has a drinking problem....He doesn't get drunk every day but at leas...

CoffeeBean3 · CoffeeBean3

I feel the need to vent a little bit; I hope nobody minds. I have been thinking today (brain cells are on major overload) about how alcoholism has always been a part of my life. My biological father was an alcoholic. My step-father was/is an alcoholic. My uncle was an alcohol...

slkcma · slkcma

I had posted my first post like a week ago with my story. All I know about Alanon at this point is what I've been reading here for a few weeks and I read most of an Alanon book on marriage. The little I've learned has been really eye opening though. The hub is going out of town tomorrow and I'm going to take adva...

LALA1 · LALA1

I confronted my A today when I found a text message on his phone from her again. He said he had just been talking to her as if that was ok.........I just don't understand. I am really trying to work on myself and get me together again and this is all making me crazy. When I approached him...

kerry5 · kerry5

Deatchment in the alanon program doesnt mean to cut off all ties and to not care for the person. As a new person in alanon is very hard to understand what exactly it means. It is the hardest thing for someone in the program to do in my opinion and i still cant although i can from certain things now and i am glad...

TLC2 · TLC2

Happy Birthday! (in a slap-in-the-face-kinda-way). Hubby woke me up this morning with a sweet birthday card. ( I wish he had just stopped there). He then proceeded to tell me that he would take me with him to get that flag pole/clothesline I had wanted for so many years. That, translated means I can p...

abbyal · abbyal

Hi = I posted something about detachment last week and someone emailed and asked me to send it to them . WEll I deleted your email trying to do just that. so if u see this please send me another one . and Iwill send it to you right away . Lousie

twopoodles · twopoodles

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=7580010&sub...

debilyn · debilyn

Went and visited my A husband. He has gained so much weight and looks very good and healthy. I sat still and payed attention, assessed accessed dang, him like i would have doing an observation of a student. It was very interesting. He was very jazzed that I was willing to get him to his 90 in 90. I know&nb...

chris52 · chris52

Hello ((((((((((((((((((family))))))))))))))))))))))) Well my bags are packed and I am ready to catch my flight in the wee small hours of sunday back to the UK. My new Grandbaby(my first) is due to arrive around 15th July,and I can hardly wait. A new little life.......Thank you God for bringing thi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Have a question for all of you with recovering As. Hubby is now sober almost 60 days!

I am so proud of him as he continues to work his program and gets better every day. Lately I have been having these horrendous nightmares th...

lmt123 · lmt123

Debilyn, I loved your post...reminds me of when my A husband was in jail. I'd go to see him every week, except when I got mad at him about some lies he was telling me again, LOL.

It was hard for me and humbling for him for me to see him in his orange "outfit", lol (orange scrub...

shadow1 · shadow1

I’m in need of some ES&H badly on this topic. I’m an appt. manager. I had a tenant hang himself in his appt yesterday. I was the last person that he spoke to. He wrote me a letter but the police have it. He even cleaned his appt before he killed himself so I wouldn’t have to. He was a very...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Yep still here and doing OK, well OK for the most part. After having not seen my A drink in 10 or so years, this every day wake up with the shakes thing is quite painful to watch to say the least, not to mention the comments, and manipulation that i can see for what they are now. more co...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, How to detatch with love, this was a real struggle for me. The love bit was fine....but detatching....that was difficult. I wonder can anyone else identify with me here. I know I must detatch with love in order to protect my sanity. That's what I need, what I want doesn't even come...

allison · allison

God...I`m so mad at myself.My A husband who has been gone for 7 months finally started going to AA and changing.I let him come home only to be let down again..I knew better dammit!! We spent 2 GREAT days together...made me love him all over again.I had to go to my Moms today...she lives an hour away.I was o...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Good Morning, I'm Stacy. I am just frustrated right now. My A boyfriend FINALLY has gotten a job that he is good at, that he likes, and that he can do. I'm so excited FOR him and for us as I have set a boundary that he can only continue living with me if he is bringing money in. I us...

LALA1 · LALA1

My A and I are still trying to work through all this and it is hard on me. I am always wondering if he is still talking to her or seeing her at any time. I know I am just driving myself insane and I guess I asked for this by trying to work through this but I know I am not strong enough yet to walk away.&...

Trace123 · Trace123

Hello all. I am new here and wanted to share something I journaled today. So glad and grateful to have found you while surfing the other day -- hope we can help each other through the daily struggles of living with our beloved alcoholics! How I Found Inner Peace I am an adult child of an a...

RichardA · RichardA

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RamzDear · RamzDear

Yeh...so I didn't turn on MY phone all day. For the first time I've done this. I was giving suggestions to another as to keep her phone off the hook..and something in my head said "Hey lady, why don't YOU try this for yourself??." Reading various posts on how they(our A-s) can be instrumental in...

horselover58 · horselover58

I have witnessed this over & over in my husband & his drinking cronies. Sunday evening he asked me if I wanted to eat some clams, I do love seafood! The neighbor cooks them up for the holiday weekend. I went over with him. It's been a long, long time since I've been there. My husband is over a lot! ...

Maria123 · Maria123

I've noticed that some of "my friends" that use to come here, I don't see very much anymore. I miss them. I wonder where they are. I hope they are alright. I miss Friday Nite Fish Night with them. Last weekend when I was cleaning my desk (UGH), I came across an old OP list a...

twopoodles · twopoodles

Hi Guys! I haven't been on in a while. I just wanted to update, and also get some opinions. I had my baby girl almost three weeks ago. She was a preemie but is doing fine. The father (A to Narcotics) and I hadn't been in much contact. He was arrested in May for a parole violation (he had been giving his PO MY a...

patience · patience

I started going to a psychiatrist last week. I saw him again Thursday, and I'll see him once a week for a few more weeks, then once a month. In just two meetings, he has helped me understand that (1) I should not feel guilty for my A's addictions (2) I must set boundaries and learn how to keep them (3) I...

hersh · hersh

Hi guys: Amazing what a day can do. Yesterday I was feeling great, taking care of myself, not worried about what could happen, feeling free and happy. My AH came home from a family reunion for the 4th, we had a really nice night his first night back on Wednesday night. Lastnight...

mastiff · mastiff

HI all, just wanted to let you know that we are getting ready to stuff the flyers and mail out some info for our serenity in yosemite conference. It's a great conference smack dab in the most beautiful place on earth (IMHO heehee) anyway, if you want info for yourself or for your f2f homegroup, let...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Earlier today I posted about fighting the urge to call my husband of which I am seperated from. Well the good thing is I didnt call him. But in hindsight I should have never answered the phone when he called me. It was a horrible afternoon. I allowed him to push my buttons getting me...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I talked w/ my husband last night. Rather I should say lectured my husband last night yet again regarding some financial issues. I am in the process of seperating out joint account. I have told him this. I left enough monies in the joint acct. to cover what was out there.&nbs...

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	"Sobriety is not a 'happily ever after...'" (Preview) Hi family--I saw that quote in my al anon "Cal's Recovery Journal" and it sparked something that I hadn't thought about for a long time. At one time, maybe like 6 mos ago, my dad put together 90 continuous days of sobriety, and at first I was like "Yeah whatever" because that's the way my dad's disease wor...	Tiger2006	7	778	Jul 12, 2006 by bobump
	Six Weeks In Al-Anon (Preview) Things are going well. Six weeks of exposure to al-anon and what a difference it’s made. I understand he is the one dying of alcoholism – it’s his problem to solve. I understand I can deal with him when I want to and walk away when I don’t. I understand he will drink or he will not drink, independen...	anon_user	7	618	Jul 12, 2006 by bobump
	mom and son (Preview) I brought my 16 year old son to a carnival tonight to meet a few girls and picked up hours later. I had walked around a bit alone, didn’t let on I was mom when I passed him. I watched other families on the rides with their small children and reminisced. I admit I should be happy that he is healthy, so smart and h...	tea2	9	1054	Jul 12, 2006 by bobump
	my vacation (Preview) Well, next Friday I will be leaving for my once in a lifetime vacation and I am having alot of anxiety about it. I want so much to be happy and excited. Starting off on Thurs 7/21 will be leaving Baltimore heading to San Francisco for 2 nights. Leaving San Francisco on Sunday 7/23 and going to Honolulu...	Gailey	4	390	Jul 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Going tonight (Preview) Well..finally. I actually think I'm going to see a week ahead of me where I won't be crying,highly upset..pissed beyond sanity. I'm going to my first F2F in about an hour. This board has been (and will CONTINUE to be) a grand help for my peace of mind. I have been looking forward to this meeting for th...	RamzDear	3	456	Jul 12, 2006 by hersh
	enough is enough (Preview) Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post.Alot has happened since then...more lies,violence,and craziness.I have contacted a lawyer and I`m filing for divorce.I have realized that I will always care for him but I can never be with him.That life is too crazy especially for our children and...	allison	5	307	Jul 12, 2006 by hersh
	The Pain of Reality…. Necessary or Not??? (Preview) What is reality? Are my feelings reality? Are my hopes, fears and dreams necessary in my present reality? There are loads of things which I currently am trying to deal with, many of them extremely large. These things have been building up in me to a point where I am presently concerned about my me...	sandie123	2	458	Jul 12, 2006 by hersh
	Winners never quit! (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have popped in periodically to see how everyone is doing and to do some reading. Things have been ok for me, hectic to chaotic for the rest of my family. AW not liking my work schedule, or our lack of "fun money" as the summer comes to a close. ASon is job hun...	rtexas	6	622	Jul 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Bye bye all... (Preview) Hubby and I are headed out for a bit of vacation time in Louisiana. I need some of that seafood e'toufee, boiled crawfish, and Zydeco music. My heart stays with you all, and I'll keep each and every one of you in my prayers. Back in a week, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -...	Diva	12	811	Jul 12, 2006 by aunitedway
	do you even have to ask? updated!! (Preview) Some open, heartfelt writing: I have talked to a couple alanon buddies here expressing that I have not felt I could contribute to the board right now because much of what is going on with me is so intensely personal that I wasn't sure how I could possibly share in a general way. After this morning meeti...	sparkette	4	748	Jul 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	inheiriting(sp) the ADDICTION gene (Preview) I am the child of an alcoholic father. I am 53 years old and second to the oldest of 5 children. All of my siblings have food addictions...3 (the 3 youngest) have had problems with alcohol and/or drugs. The one and only brother still smokes pot daily. Hasn't drank or used cocaine in many years. Still acti...	Gailey	5	568	Jul 12, 2006 by Gailey
	dori et al... (Preview) Thanks all of you for the good wishes. I am soooo excited. All packed. Now only remains to take the dogs to the "Palms Resort and Spa" tomorrow a.m. They are going to live in the lap of luxury too! LOL!! Dori...I live in Texas. San Antonio precisely. Where are you? Diva	Diva	1	279	Jul 12, 2006 by dori
	Glad to have a place to come tonight (Preview) I am just having a difficult time tonight-- I know that sleep be will not be coming tonight (for awhile at least), so thought I write out some of this stuff & maybe feel better. I keep repeating the 3 C's....and the serenity prayer! My A has a dual addiction...... claimes to have not touched alcoho...	minnow	1	503	Jul 12, 2006 by leo
	Why did life have to be such a disappointment,,such a hassel? (Preview) If I only had made to feel worthwhile as a child, I would have more self confidence, and a better image of myself as I got older. I grew up with an A father, yes he was there in body, but that was about it from what I can remember, but that was my life as a child , I thought everyone lived this way. I knew no better....	gardengal	2	588	Jul 11, 2006 by drucilla06
	married and attracted to someone else. (Preview) Hi, A few months ago my a and I met a really nice guy who has been sober for 7 years. I was very attracted to him at that time, and got over it a few weeks later. We have not seen him since January. Well, over the past two weeks, we've seen him at mutual friends bbq's, and one concert.&nbs...	liliana	15	1496	Jul 11, 2006 by allison
	Wanting to love me again (Preview) He came home that night and we talked some but I see where nothing has been resolved. As I said before financially I am in a bind and completing school is so very important to me. I have been told many times to "act as if" and it will help me with any situation. I am going to start trying th...	LALA1	3	493	Jul 11, 2006 by maresie2
	friends (Preview) Just wanted to sayI LOVE YOU ALL,i read your posts every day,you have taught me so much in the short time i have been with you all,its so true there is strength in numbers,coming from england i have tried a few sites,but felt i wasn,t getting the help i so needed,still felt alone coping with this awful dis...	ollie	4	272	Jul 11, 2006 by ollie
	I'm Home (Preview) The visit with my mom was a success. I traveled by plane from Ohio to Kansas, and stayed 7 days with my little 85 year old mom. I usually dread the visit, altho I do miss her, because her ways of living, cooking, eating, are so different than mine are now. Before I left, I decided to treat thi...	Becky1	6	431	Jul 11, 2006 by Karilynn
	Looking for INFO (Preview) I am working with our church to start an alanon group with meetings to be held at the church. The church does understand that we can have no official connection to the church other than they are renting us a room for the meetings. My question is this....We don't want to limit who can come to meeti...	Mobirdie	7	490	Jul 11, 2006 by jj
	Questions (Preview) Thanks all for your encouragement when I posted about my son. I have a few questions--some of them are simple, believe it or not! What is ESH? What are the isms? This one is a little tougher: How do you "detach with love"? When I start talking with my A son, then he thin...	sunnymom	11	621	Jul 11, 2006 by sunnymom
	I think it might be more than alcohol (Preview) This was not a good weekend in my home. I had my granddaughters. My A son called at 6:00 am to see if they were awake yet....first red flag!!! When he called he sounded like he might be drinking. I did not say anything except that they were still asleep. He called again at 8:00 am to ask again. He was suppose t...	Gailey	6	533	Jul 11, 2006 by Rita G
	scholarships for my daughter... (Preview) Ok, I just want to say HP works in wonderful, mysterious ways. I know that, but having evidence of it just makes my day! My daughter is going to college this fall. When we filled out the admission application, I really had no idea if we could pay or not. (We are curr...	lmt123	8	4811	Jul 11, 2006 by Karilynn
	relapse (Preview) Hi all - this is the first time I have done this but I need some advice from those that have been there. My A husband of 20 years relapsed again tonight. I am very disappointed. He has been in outpatient rehab since April and attending AA trying to do 90 in 90. I think he really w...	beachgrl	8	585	Jul 11, 2006 by beachgrl
	The saga continues... (Preview) The continued fallout over my husbands relapse has reached a new level. Today a woman came to my home from Dept. of Social Services. She left behind a a letter regarding an investigation of neglect for our children. My son called me at work to tell me about it. I called her as r...	AlaMom	1	360	Jul 10, 2006 by Dolphin123
	my daughter (Preview) Books Alcoholics Anonymous Group Message Board Online Meetings Tuesday and Saturday Nites at 9Pm Eastern Time! Contribute securely with any major credit card through PayPal! This will offset some of the expenses related to this site. To contribute by pers...	dori	4	393	Jul 10, 2006 by dori
	If you have book: "Language of Letting Go" (Preview) The May 1st reading from Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie mentions a prayer from the Big AA book. Subsequent readings May 2, 3, 4, etc...... touch more on this prayer and interpretation of it. It helped me find good reading material for today! &...	wallsal55	3	489	Jul 10, 2006 by Whisper
	We deserve the best (Preview) I read something today that I would like to share with you all because it inspired me so much. It is from the book Language of Letting Go and it was about insisting on the best. It said......"We deserve the best life and love have to offer, but we are each faced with the challenge of learning t...	LALA1	0	370	Jul 10, 2006 by LALA1
	Wondering when I am going to hit my enough limit. (Preview) Just before the holiday, he started drinking again. He went out back to play with the kids, with his beer, and twisted his ankle on the trampoline. So he decided not to go to work he has been off work for 7 days 3 of them no call no show, two he called in...	DoN4me	2	312	Jul 10, 2006 by DoN4me
	thinking outloud (Preview) Thank you for all your responses. I gotta say I learned it was ok to be happy even if I had no idea how I was going to pay the house payment. I used to worry my life away. NO more. In the US we are in disneyland. Especially here in Oregon. Alanon amazes me. The truths in it are real. Aism wraps us up a...	debilyn	3	392	Jul 10, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Sharing my Joy (Preview) WOOHOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! ITALIA!! ITALIA!! ITALIA!! Very excited household here, didn't know I had it in me, kmao lilms	lilms	3	379	Jul 10, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I'm an embaressment to my son (Preview) I went to my spousal support hearing yesterday becuase my a husband refused to even make an offer on any kind of support. The judge ruled that after 22 years of marriage he will pay support to me and he will be paying it longer than he wants to! As you can imagine he gave an earful to our 19 year old so...	whitie	8	537	Jul 10, 2006 by canadianguy
	Where do I start (Preview) i just found this site....I really don't know much about Al-Anon but from what I understand this it the place I need to be. Where do I start....I have been married for 13 years with two children (3.5 and 7) and i have a husband that has a drinking problem....He doesn't get drunk every day but at leas...	bugs39	7	558	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	I Was Thinking Today.... (Preview) I feel the need to vent a little bit; I hope nobody minds. I have been thinking today (brain cells are on major overload) about how alcoholism has always been a part of my life. My biological father was an alcoholic. My step-father was/is an alcoholic. My uncle was an alcohol...	CoffeeBean3	11	415	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Time to do some serious work (Preview) I had posted my first post like a week ago with my story. All I know about Alanon at this point is what I've been reading here for a few weeks and I read most of an Alanon book on marriage. The little I've learned has been really eye opening though. The hub is going out of town tomorrow and I'm going to take adva...	slkcma	6	416	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Feeling awful (Preview) I confronted my A today when I found a text message on his phone from her again. He said he had just been talking to her as if that was ok.........I just don't understand. I am really trying to work on myself and get me together again and this is all making me crazy. When I approached him...	LALA1	7	440	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Detachment (Preview) Deatchment in the alanon program doesnt mean to cut off all ties and to not care for the person. As a new person in alanon is very hard to understand what exactly it means. It is the hardest thing for someone in the program to do in my opinion and i still cant although i can from certain things now and i am glad...	kerry5	3	356	Jul 10, 2006 by annmarie
	Vent (Preview) Happy Birthday! (in a slap-in-the-face-kinda-way). Hubby woke me up this morning with a sweet birthday card. ( I wish he had just stopped there). He then proceeded to tell me that he would take me with him to get that flag pole/clothesline I had wanted for so many years. That, translated means I can p...	TLC2	4	401	Jul 9, 2006 by TLC2
	Sorry I deleted your email by mistake (Preview) Hi = I posted something about detachment last week and someone emailed and asked me to send it to them . WEll I deleted your email trying to do just that. so if u see this please send me another one . and Iwill send it to you right away . Lousie	abbyal	0	337	Jul 9, 2006 by abbyal
	Child Visitation and the A - Help! (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=7580010&sub...	twopoodles	7	484	Jul 9, 2006 by twopoodles
	My handsome jailbird (Preview) Went and visited my A husband. He has gained so much weight and looks very good and healthy. I sat still and payed attention, assessed accessed dang, him like i would have doing an observation of a student. It was very interesting. He was very jazzed that I was willing to get him to his 90 in 90. I know&nb...	debilyn	7	456	Jul 9, 2006 by Tammy
	A brief return to the insanity (Preview) Hello ((((((((((((((((((family))))))))))))))))))))))) Well my bags are packed and I am ready to catch my flight in the wee small hours of sunday back to the UK. My new Grandbaby(my first) is due to arrive around 15th July,and I can hardly wait. A new little life.......Thank you God for bringing thi...	chris52	7	502	Jul 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Nightmares (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Have a question for all of you with recovering As. Hubby is now sober almost 60 days! I am so proud of him as he continues to work his program and gets better every day. Lately I have been having these horrendous nightmares th...	Karilynn	8	554	Jul 9, 2006 by Becky1
	Debilyn... (Preview) Debilyn, I loved your post...reminds me of when my A husband was in jail. I'd go to see him every week, except when I got mad at him about some lies he was telling me again, LOL. It was hard for me and humbling for him for me to see him in his orange "outfit", lol (orange scrub...	lmt123	2	761	Jul 9, 2006 by dori
	how does a person deal with suicide?? (Preview) I’m in need of some ES&H badly on this topic. I’m an appt. manager. I had a tenant hang himself in his appt yesterday. I was the last person that he spoke to. He wrote me a letter but the police have it. He even cleaned his appt before he killed himself so I wouldn’t have to. He was a very...	shadow1	14	528	Jul 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Geez this is hard (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Yep still here and doing OK, well OK for the most part. After having not seen my A drink in 10 or so years, this every day wake up with the shakes thing is quite painful to watch to say the least, not to mention the comments, and manipulation that i can see for what they are now. more co...	Jennifer	5	441	Jul 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	detatch with love (Preview) Hi everyone, How to detatch with love, this was a real struggle for me. The love bit was fine....but detatching....that was difficult. I wonder can anyone else identify with me here. I know I must detatch with love in order to protect my sanity. That's what I need, what I want doesn't even come...	annmarie	2	348	Jul 8, 2006 by nmike
	I knew better!! (Preview) God...I`m so mad at myself.My A husband who has been gone for 7 months finally started going to AA and changing.I let him come home only to be let down again..I knew better dammit!! We spent 2 GREAT days together...made me love him all over again.I had to go to my Moms today...she lives an hour away.I was o...	allison	5	474	Jul 8, 2006 by nmike
	Expectations and Boundaries (Preview) Good Morning, I'm Stacy. I am just frustrated right now. My A boyfriend FINALLY has gotten a job that he is good at, that he likes, and that he can do. I'm so excited FOR him and for us as I have set a boundary that he can only continue living with me if he is bringing money in. I us...	SerenityGirl	2	418	Jul 8, 2006 by Karilynn
	VERY confused (Preview) My A and I are still trying to work through all this and it is hard on me. I am always wondering if he is still talking to her or seeing her at any time. I know I am just driving myself insane and I guess I asked for this by trying to work through this but I know I am not strong enough yet to walk away.&...	LALA1	3	329	Jul 8, 2006 by Maria123
	I am new, wanted to say hi (Preview) Hello all. I am new here and wanted to share something I journaled today. So glad and grateful to have found you while surfing the other day -- hope we can help each other through the daily struggles of living with our beloved alcoholics! How I Found Inner Peace I am an adult child of an a...	Trace123	7	369	Jul 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	WHAT IF ??? (Preview) -- Edited by RichardA at 01:02, 2006-07-08	RichardA	7	515	Jul 8, 2006 by twopoodles
	No phone today (Preview) Yeh...so I didn't turn on MY phone all day. For the first time I've done this. I was giving suggestions to another as to keep her phone off the hook..and something in my head said "Hey lady, why don't YOU try this for yourself??." Reading various posts on how they(our A-s) can be instrumental in...	RamzDear	7	350	Jul 8, 2006 by Ria
	Moral decline in alcoholics (Preview) I have witnessed this over & over in my husband & his drinking cronies. Sunday evening he asked me if I wanted to eat some clams, I do love seafood! The neighbor cooks them up for the holiday weekend. I went over with him. It's been a long, long time since I've been there. My husband is over a lot! ...	horselover58	11	1029	Jul 7, 2006 by horselover58
	I Miss My Friends (Preview) I've noticed that some of "my friends" that use to come here, I don't see very much anymore. I miss them. I wonder where they are. I hope they are alright. I miss Friday Nite Fish Night with them. Last weekend when I was cleaning my desk (UGH), I came across an old OP list a...	Maria123	3	365	Jul 7, 2006 by Lunamoth
	I had my Baby! (Preview) Hi Guys! I haven't been on in a while. I just wanted to update, and also get some opinions. I had my baby girl almost three weeks ago. She was a preemie but is doing fine. The father (A to Narcotics) and I hadn't been in much contact. He was arrested in May for a parole violation (he had been giving his PO MY a...	twopoodles	5	501	Jul 7, 2006 by twopoodles
	Setting boundaries (Preview) I started going to a psychiatrist last week. I saw him again Thursday, and I'll see him once a week for a few more weeks, then once a month. In just two meetings, he has helped me understand that (1) I should not feel guilty for my A's addictions (2) I must set boundaries and learn how to keep them (3) I...	patience	4	394	Jul 7, 2006 by patience
	Out all night, sad and upset (Preview) Hi guys: Amazing what a day can do. Yesterday I was feeling great, taking care of myself, not worried about what could happen, feeling free and happy. My AH came home from a family reunion for the 4th, we had a really nice night his first night back on Wednesday night. Lastnight...	hersh	4	527	Jul 7, 2006 by RamzDear
	serenity in yosemite (Preview) HI all, just wanted to let you know that we are getting ready to stuff the flyers and mail out some info for our serenity in yosemite conference. It's a great conference smack dab in the most beautiful place on earth (IMHO heehee) anyway, if you want info for yourself or for your f2f homegroup, let...	mastiff	1	367	Jul 7, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Be careful what you wish for... (Preview) Earlier today I posted about fighting the urge to call my husband of which I am seperated from. Well the good thing is I didnt call him. But in hindsight I should have never answered the phone when he called me. It was a horrible afternoon. I allowed him to push my buttons getting me...	AlaMom	5	380	Jul 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Fighting the urge to call... (Preview) I talked w/ my husband last night. Rather I should say lectured my husband last night yet again regarding some financial issues. I am in the process of seperating out joint account. I have told him this. I left enough monies in the joint acct. to cover what was out there.&nbs...	AlaMom	7	654	Jul 7, 2006 by MsSteph
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