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Rebecca


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hi guys


          the topic heading i have written above always baffled me.. when i came upon this site, i did think i was a milimetre from insanilty... and that statement was ushered to me from quite a few members... i however did think that the statement was unachievablei kept saying to myself.. "how can i do that...how can i let go..and walk away... that was my problem..." but i managed it,,,


i managed it with the support of all the people in here... and it was the best choice i made.. a choice i made for me... ESSENTIAL!


when i broke away and started counselling myself thru self help books etc... and discovered how i was a co-dependant.. (very interesting) i started to heal... time is a great healer...


i am better.. but not fully as i still hold an awful lot of anger and hurt towards my A and all those who he drank with and slept with behind my back..(girls in my neighbourhood) whom i see on a weekly basis usually.... im still trying to work thru this but i can't seem to mangae it...


i didnt see my A for over 4 mths... then he turned up... all smiles ..as ai nothing had happened.


he started a new job..moved in with a jailbird guy whom he knew 2 mins...and is still drinking...


im keeping my distance to a certain extent... for the simple reason... when i get too close and involved im AWARE now.. and can feel myself being sucked in to his world... the madness...the lies...the manipulation and the stress!!.. at least i know now..how to tune out and take care of me..


i just want to say thaks to everyone in here for always being here when i was sooo low i cudnt function on a daily basis... without logging on here,.. all of u will always be dear to my heart... and i love you all as if ye were my best friends...


i have family commitments lately so haven't been online as much as i would like....


talk soon rebecca xxx



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maresie2


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I have to keep a distance a lot from the A I live with.  He can suck me in with one eyebrow.


I then find myself incredibly resentful and sick.  So I detach, detach, detach and then detach some more.


Maresie.



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((((Rebecca))))


Good for you! I am not sure I really have a good handle on that yet.  Like you my HP and I have not talked in quite some time, we are just getting reaquainted.


I think at first I misunderstood the phrase altogether.  I took it to mean "ignore".  But now I am just not using my will to drive those things.  I am letting someone else take the lead, but I may have to be involved and I am open to that now.


Today when I let go and let God, I may have to declare a boundry to keep me out of the middle.  Kinda like your distance example.  I think that is a great example of our HP helping us help ourselves (if we let them).


Sounds like you are doing great, thanks for posting (I needed to hear that today)!


Take care of you!



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dori


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Hi,


 Thanks for the reminded of letting go and letting God.We think sometimes we let go and that is nothing going to really change but that is when the greatest miracles come even if in alot of little ways .



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((((((((((((Rebecca)))))))))))))))),


Thanks for the inspiring post.  I think detachment and let go and let god are two of the most liberating tools to I have learned from this program.  Good for you!  Keep up the great work.


Live strong,


Karilynn



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