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mysticmidian · mysticmidian

I posted earlier with the topic "husband in recovery" and these are some of the specific issues that I referred to in that post: Well, one of the problems that we have is that he says that I always have to be right. That is not the case, I don't always have to be right but I am certainly not going to ke...

Lindy · Lindy

I haven't had access to a computer until today so here's what happened over the weekend. The weekends are almost always rough for my son and me. It was 100 degrees over this last weekend. I took my son to the pool. I always invite my AH to come with, but he always declines because he can't drink and smoke the...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) You know today is one of those days that i don't even want to post this. It seems like everything I say lately is so negative and needy. I am praying for something positive to say SOON, and I am praying that I am digging up and out faster than he is digging down. I can't remember the...

liliana · liliana

My husband was going out with friends from work tonight. The last time we spoke on the phone was around 5 this afternoon. It is now 11 pm. He was really drunk this afternoon. I am so tired of his inconsideration. He has his cell phone off. My sponser tells me to change my r...

serendipity · serendipity

last night and today were hellish. last night my 3 year old said the bump on her head was because my mother's live in alcoholic hit her. i wanted to throw up and then kill him. but i didn't react. we ate dinner and i thought about what to do and how to do it. it was late so my decision was to go home and put them to b...

serendipity · serendipity

i spent an hour on the phone with my a. he was served on friday so i guess i can start calling him my ex-a. the convo was as ok as it could be. i asked him what he was going to do with the papers (sign them, fight them...) he didn't answer me till later in the convo. he said something about me having full custody an...

lebe27 · lebe27

Hi, Well the money problems are starting already. A used up the last of his insurance settlement money. Today his checking account shows negative $107 and he doesn't get his disabiilty check until the 1st. With the settlement money the last 5 months he has been living high on th...

dori · dori

Hi, I am in Houston so it rains alot some weeks.I love the rain the storms the lighting .I know soon the sun comes out the rainbow shows and it is over.The calm is here and I made it thuogh the storm.It makes me see it will pass. I thought for all who are going through a storm today you can say...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Well, Today is almost over. We have rides for tommorrow. lol Today, I guess I was suppose to give over control and responsiblity to my HP & my A, Tina.

I have been dealing with depression for years. I have been on antidepressants since 1989. Soon after my divorce, I have been on many di...

AlaMom · AlaMom

(((Everyone))) I want to thank everyone for all the birthday wishes over the past couple of days. I would also like to thank everyone who each and every day shares their ES&H. From the newcomer who reminds me how far I have come to the oldtimers who show me that I have that much furthe...

mysticmidian · mysticmidian

Hi, I met my husband when he had a year and a half sobriety, we have now been together for 6 years and he has 7+years sobriety now. I have never known him when he was drinking and I have never been around other alcoholics before, not friends or family. I have been very supportive and understandi...

Jennifer · Jennifer

GRUMBLE GRUMBLE Hemming and hawing over posting this but here it goes Good morning (((Everyone))) I'm not gonna go into the whole background of my last few posts because of time, I gotta get to work soon LOL My AH or soon to be ex AH (I'm not sure what to call this relationship anymore) called Monda...

annmarie · annmarie

He said he was sorry but he had no money to get me a present. It's my birthday today. He said he would get me something when he gets paid tomorrow, but that he wouldn't be able to afford much anyway...then he asked me if this was okay. I just said that he should do whatever he has to do. I knew this would hap...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

...don't ever deny an alcoholic his/her suffering. This statement is so meaningful to me, as a recovering alcoholic and as a sponsor of an alcoholic. All the enabling, butt-patting, caretaking and 'rescuing' in the world did not get me sober. Being at a place where I was literally BEATEN down to...

jj · jj

(((TLC))) My long winded friend!! lol i love it. I am glad that things are on the mend!! And I love to here from you weather it is here or in a email. I can so relate to summer and all the excuses but it sure seems like any day of the week could be an excuse for hubby these days. I don't really care...

Becky1 · Becky1

A few days ago, as I was looking on our computer, I found a picture that was emailed to my husband by a man he works with of a girl he has been seeing in another state. In the picture the girl had her shirt pulled up exposing herself. I thought the whole thing was really tacky, the girl is m...

lovescoping · lovescoping

Hi Everyone, I am very new to this board. I have been reading over all the posts for the past two days and have learned a lot of things. One is, for sure I am not alone in this. I knew I wasn't, but to hear that other people have the same problems with thier lives and struggle with the AH o...

KCB · KCB

A little over 5 years ago, following an especially heavy drinking period, I went to AA and got sober, and have remained alcohol-free since that time. This spring I met and fell in love with someone, and we have recently moved in together. I am a musician and play regularly around...

purpleraven · purpleraven

my A is the second alcoholic i've been with in my life. the last was 16 years ago, when i was young enough to say "i just can't handle this" and move on. he wasn't in recovery yet, he was still in denial. i knew so little about alcohol that i couldn't even tell when he was drunk at first. then i figured out the pa...

Diva · Diva

I ate too much seafood e'touffee, too much shrimp gumbo, and too much Tony Chacherie's!!! But what a great time we had doing it. Gained 2 1/2 lbs, so am working now on getting that off. Enjoyed good friends, danced, sang; a real Louisiana good time. I'll catch up on the posts. I have kept you all in my p...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))). Where did the MIP map go? I was going to post a picture of Pipers Kitty and couldn't find the map. Also when I went to change my photo here to one of Pipers, it said that the file was too big. Keeping in mind that I am not as computer savy as the rest of yo...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi Everyone, It was my birthday yesterday...and I know I'm going on...and lots of you sent me well wishes which I really appreciated. I just wanted to share with you how I feel today. He (my Aboyfriend) was surprised to see all the cards and presents I got for my birthday. I have a big family and lot...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: Does anyone have any wisdom on just the roller coaster and uncertainties of this recovery? I am so confused and feeling nuts. I have been up all night lastnight just worried worried worried, I know I shouldn't and I tried not to but the more I tried not to the more my mind just...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

(I thought) the appt I have Thursday to see the neurologist at 2:45am. I am suppose to get the results of my sleep study test & CTScan. And find out why I am having these migraines. I was hoping to make it to this appt. I was hoping to get on some new medications before I leave on the 26th. If I call a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Since late yesterday I noticed I have been kind of falling into a bit of a pity pot. I know why and it is really self-inflicted. Tomorrow is my birthday and I will be 38. It is not the age that is getting to me for I know it is only a number and we are as young as we choose to be. The reas...

maresie2 · maresie2

Yesterday I got stung pretty badly by some wasps. My leg is all swollen as is my back. I don't even bother to tell the A. I know he does not care. He would offer nothing anyways. I feel incredibly sad that I live with someone who does not care about me. I did not have the courage to admit that before...

marmare · marmare

Mom left on her final trip yesterday morning at 10:50am to join our dad. She is finally painfree and at peace. Thanks for all the support here. Hugs Mary PS My A has supported me through the last 6 weeks, being right by my side and was with me when mom left us.

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((friends))) I had a different post here but I erased it.It was a relapse,I think. I had listed some of the resentments I have had come to the surface while doing my 4th step. I re-read my post this morning and my answers were staring me in the face.The resentments I have toward my AH are all due to h...

maresie2 · maresie2

One of the things that the A does that used to kill me was to minimize my needs. Whatever I want is discounted and diminished. When I had asthma he said I just needed to exercise. When I had sepsis he told me I'd be fine it was all in my head and he could not help me get to the hospital. I eventually ended up with a...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I'm trying to figure out why I feel people are laughing at me quite a lot. It's as if I have to struggle to make sure it doesn't happen. If my Aboyfriend does something that upsets me and involves other people (eg inappropriate conversation in my view..not his), I think they're lau...

angelnomore · angelnomore

I’m confused I know that when an AA is active in his/her addiction, they don’t care about much i.e.; work, family, themselves and life in general. What I’m confused about is: if the AA in your life is working on sobriety and working the steps going to meetings, go...

buzzfree · buzzfree

A friends wife passed on this past week....I met her a few times, and they both were very happy newlyweds....Before the program I probably would have wondered, where is God right now? How could he let this happen?? But thankfully I know that it is all part of a plan, one I cant see. I however can only exten...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I do not know which way to go now. I totally screwed up yesterday. I blame myself. My A says that HP has a reason for yesterdays disaster. I was doing great or so I thought. I got outside an hour before I had to leave. I was going to take off the fuel filter that screws into the carborator. I have d...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

As a child, to help keep the fragile balence that was our alcholic home, decisions were generally made for me. From what I wore to what I ate, I was told what to do. Furthermore, when I made my own decisions, I was told (very loudly and violently) that I had made a "mistake" and that I needed "to learn...

jj · jj

Thanks to all who replied to my post last week. I went away for a few days so until now did not have a chance to reply.... It helps so much to share with others our experiences although at times it is difficult even on here. The release of finally begining to figure out these confusing feeli...

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nal · nal

Hi, My parents are in their 70s and I find myself getting increasingly preoccupied and concerned with their health issues. I feel like a child inside despite my advancing age (39- LOL). I love them so much and can't imagine anything happening to them. I would be devastated. I think there is someth...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Ok I am frusted to all end again. I don't understand why my HP does the things they do. I was really hoping that today would turn out for the better. I was hoping he would finally see what damaged he had caused his family not to mention mine. I had a long talk with his family they agreed helping him fi...

Christy · Christy

A PM with (((bump))) the other day inspired me to think back of the miracles in my life, so I want to share as I truly believe they can't be coincedense. Starting with finding Alanon, and at the same time connecting with a cousin that I am very close to. The miracle: Alanon cut the path of chang...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Thanks to my wonderful family here, I have realized that my compass may be broken. I was heading full speed down the path of recovery for myself, and I missed a turn somewhere. I have gotten anxious and resentful again without realizing it. Had a conversati...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, i see this here a lot, but couldnt make it what means, do get the first - alcoholic, but what is W stand for? exuse me my ingorance Daisy

greta · greta

I learned of someones remark about me the other night that hurt, and my first reaction was to get fired up and say something mean about them. I stopped myself mid-sentence and changed the topic. ( a little progress!) However, it lead to a later committee meeting. That dreaded committee! ...

ollie · ollie

ragingchild · ragingchild

Hi Everybody! I haven't been around here for awhile and I miss everybody. I come here almost everyday and read the posts and keep tabs on ya'll (not to sound creepy thought :) ). I have been busy with my purse orders and candle orders and getting my flooring done plus one of my cats had kitt...

gardengal · gardengal

For years I blamed everyone else for my unhappiness,my feelings of dispair and worry. Coming to alanon I can see blaming my parents, my husband , my siblings, or my children was wrong. I learned in alanon that I was responsible for my own happiness, that no one didnt owe it to me to make me happy. I h...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, -------Just some thoughts if you have some to add, please feel free to do so. I have been a member of this board for a while, and throughout that time I have heard several people coment on lack of replies to their posts. And that got me to thinking about what makes...

penny · penny

Hi Just thought I would share what I think is a hilarious tale. I bumped into my ex A's past friend and my A is telling everyone that when he met me several years ago that he had to pick me up out of the gutter and that he could never have drink in the house cause I would down it all, so therefore he had...

sld488 · sld488

I began this site only 2 wks ago while my A was out of town with work. Yesterday, We went to court and lost his daughter back to his ex.(she only wants her for child support in my opinion) But we are both very sad. After he got drunk, passed out; I got online for company sake. Just after th...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i just wanted to add something that might help others that were in a situation like mine. as most of you know i played the game of kicking him out letting him back and on anon anon for the past year. someone once told me that i wasnt ready to go yet. and when we are ready if we are ready we will leave. that is real...

purpleraven · purpleraven

hi, i'm totally new here. i've been trying to attend a local Al-Anon meeting but no one shows up. my boyfriend, well i'm almost 40 so boyfriend sounds silly, anyway he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. he did warn me he had intimacy issues before we began our relationship. i have child abuse iss...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))) Well...We had a rough weekend. I am afraid I didn't handle things as well as I should have. It hurts so bad to have someone I love tell me that I don't show her I love her and respect her. When she was screaming it to me in the car at 11:00 at night on the highway I...

liliana · liliana

I feel like I made some progress last night. I got out of work early, my husband was out shooting golf balls when I called him. We had a miscommunication about dinner, I told him I would shop and cook and to take his time coming home-not to rush just because I was out early. Well, I shopp...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hiya roomies, Well I went to the shop the morning to check on the car as asked to by the guys there. I took a young man for a ride in my car so hopefully he could see/hear what I was seeing/hearing. They had taken the car for quite a ride yesterday and heard nothing. The hope was that either I would hear nothi...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) My wife was trying to start something last night, but instead paid me a compliment by accident. She said "...you are different and its weird. I just want my husband back." Obviously she was implying I was turning into a freak, but it acturally made me feel good that...

amihappy · amihappy

I was in a relatonship with an alchoholic for 16 years. I finally ended it for myself and for my children. I did what everyone said I should do. I pulled my self up by the bootstraps and I got my life straight. We have been apart for almost three years. The divorce will be final aug 21 because up until now he re...

waykar · waykar

Hi I'm looking for info that might help my 15 year old son. He is old enough now that he has figured out his grandfather (my dad)is an alcoholic. His drinking has really increased, starts in the am.now, usually slurring by afternoon. My son his so afraid his grandfather is going to die in...

TLC2 · TLC2

THANK-YOU ALL FOR YOUR REPLYS AND PRAYERS. YOU GUYS ARE THE GREATEST!!! i'M STILL IN MY BEDROOM WHERE I'VE BEEN MOST OF THE DAY. WHILE I WAS OUT FEEDING MY PETS, HE DID SOMETHING TO THE TV SO HE COULD WATCH IT FROM THE LIVING ROOM. I NOTICED HE ALSO REFILLED THE FRIDGE WITH BEER, SO GUESS HE MUST STILL BE BLAM...

greta · greta

I was thinking how precious laughter is to me. I didn't show up at alanon laughing, and I am very, very grateful for the laughter I have gotten from this program. I always say my best program comes when I laugh at myself. Got me to thinking about that, and I wanted to share this. When...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: Well, it happened again. A and I had plans to go camping, to get out of town this past weekend. He ended up working (which is actually good - he needs to) but I was pretty let down. All of this year, it seems he has been running away from our relationship, it feels like we d...

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	Problems with husband in recovery (Preview) I posted earlier with the topic "husband in recovery" and these are some of the specific issues that I referred to in that post: Well, one of the problems that we have is that he says that I always have to be right. That is not the case, I don't always have to be right but I am certainly not going to ke...	mysticmidian	4	546	Jul 21, 2006 by nmike
	AH driving drunk (Preview) I haven't had access to a computer until today so here's what happened over the weekend. The weekends are almost always rough for my son and me. It was 100 degrees over this last weekend. I took my son to the pool. I always invite my AH to come with, but he always declines because he can't drink and smoke the...	Lindy	3	561	Jul 21, 2006 by maresie2
	I pray I am digging up faster than he is digging down (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) You know today is one of those days that i don't even want to post this. It seems like everything I say lately is so negative and needy. I am praying for something positive to say SOON, and I am praying that I am digging up and out faster than he is digging down. I can't remember the...	Jennifer	5	492	Jul 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	worried sick about my a and tired of feeling this way. (Preview) My husband was going out with friends from work tonight. The last time we spoke on the phone was around 5 this afternoon. It is now 11 pm. He was really drunk this afternoon. I am so tired of his inconsideration. He has his cell phone off. My sponser tells me to change my r...	liliana	4	522	Jul 21, 2006 by maresie2
	scared but ok (Preview) last night and today were hellish. last night my 3 year old said the bump on her head was because my mother's live in alcoholic hit her. i wanted to throw up and then kill him. but i didn't react. we ate dinner and i thought about what to do and how to do it. it was late so my decision was to go home and put them to b...	serendipity	4	497	Jul 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	realistic (Preview) i spent an hour on the phone with my a. he was served on friday so i guess i can start calling him my ex-a. the convo was as ok as it could be. i asked him what he was going to do with the papers (sign them, fight them...) he didn't answer me till later in the convo. he said something about me having full custody an...	serendipity	4	475	Jul 21, 2006 by maresie2
	Money Problems (Preview) Hi, Well the money problems are starting already. A used up the last of his insurance settlement money. Today his checking account shows negative $107 and he doesn't get his disabiilty check until the 1st. With the settlement money the last 5 months he has been living high on th...	lebe27	2	417	Jul 21, 2006 by Karilynn
	love the rain (Preview) Hi, I am in Houston so it rains alot some weeks.I love the rain the storms the lighting .I know soon the sun comes out the rainbow shows and it is over.The calm is here and I made it thuogh the storm.It makes me see it will pass. I thought for all who are going through a storm today you can say...	dori	12	672	Jul 21, 2006 by Diva
	LET GO....~~~~~~ (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	jonibaloni	5	522	Jul 20, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	giving control and responsibity over to HP & my A (Preview) Well, Today is almost over. We have rides for tommorrow. lol Today, I guess I was suppose to give over control and responsiblity to my HP & my A, Tina. I have been dealing with depression for years. I have been on antidepressants since 1989. Soon after my divorce, I have been on many di...	hmrnrnmm	2	532	Jul 20, 2006 by jonibaloni
	Grateful Me... (Preview) (((Everyone))) I want to thank everyone for all the birthday wishes over the past couple of days. I would also like to thank everyone who each and every day shares their ES&H. From the newcomer who reminds me how far I have come to the oldtimers who show me that I have that much furthe...	AlaMom	4	433	Jul 20, 2006 by Maria123
	Husband in Recovery (Preview) Hi, I met my husband when he had a year and a half sobriety, we have now been together for 6 years and he has 7+years sobriety now. I have never known him when he was drinking and I have never been around other alcoholics before, not friends or family. I have been very supportive and understandi...	mysticmidian	3	508	Jul 20, 2006 by Tammy
	I fell into the pit of his words (Preview) GRUMBLE GRUMBLE Hemming and hawing over posting this but here it goes Good morning (((Everyone))) I'm not gonna go into the whole background of my last few posts because of time, I gotta get to work soon LOL My AH or soon to be ex AH (I'm not sure what to call this relationship anymore) called Monda...	Jennifer	6	548	Jul 20, 2006 by Tammy
	he had no money for a present... (Preview) He said he was sorry but he had no money to get me a present. It's my birthday today. He said he would get me something when he gets paid tomorrow, but that he wouldn't be able to afford much anyway...then he asked me if this was okay. I just said that he should do whatever he has to do. I knew this would hap...	annmarie	12	734	Jul 20, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Don't ever deny an ALCOHOLIC... (Preview) ...don't ever deny an alcoholic his/her suffering. This statement is so meaningful to me, as a recovering alcoholic and as a sponsor of an alcoholic. All the enabling, butt-patting, caretaking and 'rescuing' in the world did not get me sober. Being at a place where I was literally BEATEN down to...	jonibaloni	8	681	Jul 20, 2006 by Becky1
	TLC (Preview) (((TLC))) My long winded friend!! lol i love it. I am glad that things are on the mend!! And I love to here from you weather it is here or in a email. I can so relate to summer and all the excuses but it sure seems like any day of the week could be an excuse for hubby these days. I don't really care...	jj	0	439	Jul 20, 2006 by jj
	I Slipped (Preview) A few days ago, as I was looking on our computer, I found a picture that was emailed to my husband by a man he works with of a girl he has been seeing in another state. In the picture the girl had her shirt pulled up exposing herself. I thought the whole thing was really tacky, the girl is m...	Becky1	10	542	Jul 20, 2006 by Becky1
	Just wanted to say hi. (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am very new to this board. I have been reading over all the posts for the past two days and have learned a lot of things. One is, for sure I am not alone in this. I knew I wasn't, but to hear that other people have the same problems with thier lives and struggle with the AH o...	lovescoping	3	491	Jul 20, 2006 by dori
	Advice for an alcoholic with a girlfriend who drinks? (Preview) A little over 5 years ago, following an especially heavy drinking period, I went to AA and got sober, and have remained alcohol-free since that time. This spring I met and fell in love with someone, and we have recently moved in together. I am a musician and play regularly around...	KCB	11	891	Jul 20, 2006 by KCB
	"drunk" without a drink? (Preview) my A is the second alcoholic i've been with in my life. the last was 16 years ago, when i was young enough to say "i just can't handle this" and move on. he wasn't in recovery yet, he was still in denial. i knew so little about alcohol that i couldn't even tell when he was drunk at first. then i figured out the pa...	purpleraven	6	1173	Jul 20, 2006 by dori
	Wonderful, happy vacation!! (Preview) I ate too much seafood e'touffee, too much shrimp gumbo, and too much Tony Chacherie's!!! But what a great time we had doing it. Gained 2 1/2 lbs, so am working now on getting that off. Enjoyed good friends, danced, sang; a real Louisiana good time. I'll catch up on the posts. I have kept you all in my p...	Diva	10	582	Jul 20, 2006 by Andrea12
	Help w/map & pictures please (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))). Where did the MIP map go? I was going to post a picture of Pipers Kitty and couldn't find the map. Also when I went to change my photo here to one of Pipers, it said that the file was too big. Keeping in mind that I am not as computer savy as the rest of yo...	Karilynn	3	569	Jul 20, 2006 by tea2
	gift from my HP (Preview) Hi Everyone, It was my birthday yesterday...and I know I'm going on...and lots of you sent me well wishes which I really appreciated. I just wanted to share with you how I feel today. He (my Aboyfriend) was surprised to see all the cards and presents I got for my birthday. I have a big family and lot...	annmarie	2	424	Jul 20, 2006 by Rita G
	With or without them... (Preview) Hi everyone: Does anyone have any wisdom on just the roller coaster and uncertainties of this recovery? I am so confused and feeling nuts. I have been up all night lastnight just worried worried worried, I know I shouldn't and I tried not to but the more I tried not to the more my mind just...	hersh	6	492	Jul 20, 2006 by Rita G
	I thought........guess I was wrong (Preview) (I thought) the appt I have Thursday to see the neurologist at 2:45am. I am suppose to get the results of my sleep study test & CTScan. And find out why I am having these migraines. I was hoping to make it to this appt. I was hoping to get on some new medications before I leave on the 26th. If I call a...	hmrnrnmm	3	503	Jul 20, 2006 by leo
	Mouths of Babes... (Preview) Since late yesterday I noticed I have been kind of falling into a bit of a pity pot. I know why and it is really self-inflicted. Tomorrow is my birthday and I will be 38. It is not the age that is getting to me for I know it is only a number and we are as young as we choose to be. The reas...	AlaMom	15	648	Jul 20, 2006 by leo
	feeling sad (Preview) Yesterday I got stung pretty badly by some wasps. My leg is all swollen as is my back. I don't even bother to tell the A. I know he does not care. He would offer nothing anyways. I feel incredibly sad that I live with someone who does not care about me. I did not have the courage to admit that before...	maresie2	9	487	Jul 20, 2006 by leo
	At Peace Now (Preview) Mom left on her final trip yesterday morning at 10:50am to join our dad. She is finally painfree and at peace. Thanks for all the support here. Hugs Mary PS My A has supported me through the last 6 weeks, being right by my side and was with me when mom left us.	marmare	14	626	Jul 20, 2006 by leo
	I answered my own question (Preview) (((friends))) I had a different post here but I erased it.It was a relapse,I think. I had listed some of the resentments I have had come to the surface while doing my 4th step. I re-read my post this morning and my answers were staring me in the face.The resentments I have toward my AH are all due to h...	drucilla06	1	575	Jul 20, 2006 by nmike
	Minimizing (Preview) One of the things that the A does that used to kill me was to minimize my needs. Whatever I want is discounted and diminished. When I had asthma he said I just needed to exercise. When I had sepsis he told me I'd be fine it was all in my head and he could not help me get to the hospital. I eventually ended up with a...	maresie2	3	450	Jul 20, 2006 by annmarie
	are they laughing at me really? (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm trying to figure out why I feel people are laughing at me quite a lot. It's as if I have to struggle to make sure it doesn't happen. If my Aboyfriend does something that upsets me and involves other people (eg inappropriate conversation in my view..not his), I think they're lau...	annmarie	8	611	Jul 20, 2006 by jonibaloni
	I'm I finally getting it????? (Preview) I’m confused I know that when an AA is active in his/her addiction, they don’t care about much i.e.; work, family, themselves and life in general. What I’m confused about is: if the AA in your life is working on sobriety and working the steps going to meetings, go...	angelnomore	3	498	Jul 20, 2006 by Karilynn
	Dealing with mortality (Preview) A friends wife passed on this past week....I met her a few times, and they both were very happy newlyweds....Before the program I probably would have wondered, where is God right now? How could he let this happen?? But thankfully I know that it is all part of a plan, one I cant see. I however can only exten...	buzzfree	9	758	Jul 20, 2006 by dwa1163
	I want to give up. I am not understanding why I screwed up the truck. (Preview) I do not know which way to go now. I totally screwed up yesterday. I blame myself. My A says that HP has a reason for yesterdays disaster. I was doing great or so I thought. I got outside an hour before I had to leave. I was going to take off the fuel filter that screws into the carborator. I have d...	hmrnrnmm	8	467	Jul 20, 2006 by smpoli
	Making decisions using recovery thinking (Preview) As a child, to help keep the fragile balence that was our alcholic home, decisions were generally made for me. From what I wore to what I ate, I was told what to do. Furthermore, when I made my own decisions, I was told (very loudly and violently) that I had made a "mistake" and that I needed "to learn...	Tiger2006	5	666	Jul 20, 2006 by nmike
	thanks to all (Preview) Thanks to all who replied to my post last week. I went away for a few days so until now did not have a chance to reply.... It helps so much to share with others our experiences although at times it is difficult even on here. The release of finally begining to figure out these confusing feeli...	jj	1	673	Jul 19, 2006 by TLC2
	Some Birthday! UGH! (Preview)   I	afmom03	5	498	Jul 19, 2006 by maresie2
	Inner Child and Aging Parents (Preview) Hi, My parents are in their 70s and I find myself getting increasingly preoccupied and concerned with their health issues. I feel like a child inside despite my advancing age (39- LOL). I love them so much and can't imagine anything happening to them. I would be devastated. I think there is someth...	nal	2	540	Jul 19, 2006 by just me
	So Confused! (Preview) Ok I am frusted to all end again. I don't understand why my HP does the things they do. I was really hoping that today would turn out for the better. I was hoping he would finally see what damaged he had caused his family not to mention mine. I had a long talk with his family they agreed helping him fi...	DoN4me	5	565	Jul 19, 2006 by DoN4me
	Sharing my miracles (Preview) A PM with (((bump))) the other day inspired me to think back of the miracles in my life, so I want to share as I truly believe they can't be coincedense. Starting with finding Alanon, and at the same time connecting with a cousin that I am very close to. The miracle: Alanon cut the path of chang...	Christy	6	438	Jul 19, 2006 by Karilynn
	Staggering down the road of recovery (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Thanks to my wonderful family here, I have realized that my compass may be broken. I was heading full speed down the path of recovery for myself, and I missed a turn somewhere. I have gotten anxious and resentful again without realizing it. Had a conversati...	rtexas	5	487	Jul 19, 2006 by Rita G
	What is "AW" (Preview) Hi all, i see this here a lot, but couldnt make it what means, do get the first - alcoholic, but what is W stand for? exuse me my ingorance Daisy	daisy2	6	860	Jul 19, 2006 by daisy2
	Taking it too personal.... (Preview) I learned of someones remark about me the other night that hurt, and my first reaction was to get fired up and say something mean about them. I stopped myself mid-sentence and changed the topic. ( a little progress!) However, it lead to a later committee meeting. That dreaded committee! ...	greta	5	641	Jul 19, 2006 by annmarie
	DAISY (Preview)	ollie	6	515	Jul 19, 2006 by daisy2
	Hello All!! (Preview) Hi Everybody! I haven't been around here for awhile and I miss everybody. I come here almost everyday and read the posts and keep tabs on ya'll (not to sound creepy thought :) ). I have been busy with my purse orders and candle orders and getting my flooring done plus one of my cats had kitt...	ragingchild	3	436	Jul 19, 2006 by ragingchild
	ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW YOU FEEL, OR DO YOU BLAME EVERYONE FOR YOUR UNHAPPINESS? (Preview) For years I blamed everyone else for my unhappiness,my feelings of dispair and worry. Coming to alanon I can see blaming my parents, my husband , my siblings, or my children was wrong. I learned in alanon that I was responsible for my own happiness, that no one didnt owe it to me to make me happy. I h...	gardengal	7	499	Jul 19, 2006 by athena12
	What makes you decide to respond? (Preview) Hi roomies, -------Just some thoughts if you have some to add, please feel free to do so. I have been a member of this board for a while, and throughout that time I have heard several people coment on lack of replies to their posts. And that got me to thinking about what makes...	Dolphin123	10	754	Jul 19, 2006 by athena12
	Funny tale (Preview) Hi Just thought I would share what I think is a hilarious tale. I bumped into my ex A's past friend and my A is telling everyone that when he met me several years ago that he had to pick me up out of the gutter and that he could never have drink in the house cause I would down it all, so therefore he had...	penny	2	531	Jul 18, 2006 by nmike
	trusting HP (Preview) I began this site only 2 wks ago while my A was out of town with work. Yesterday, We went to court and lost his daughter back to his ex.(she only wants her for child support in my opinion) But we are both very sad. After he got drunk, passed out; I got online for company sake. Just after th...	sld488	4	479	Jul 18, 2006 by Jill
	on leaving an a (Preview) i just wanted to add something that might help others that were in a situation like mine. as most of you know i played the game of kicking him out letting him back and on anon anon for the past year. someone once told me that i wasnt ready to go yet. and when we are ready if we are ready we will leave. that is real...	notsonew1111	9	712	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	new here, overwhelmed with a crisis (Preview) hi, i'm totally new here. i've been trying to attend a local Al-Anon meeting but no one shows up. my boyfriend, well i'm almost 40 so boyfriend sounds silly, anyway he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. he did warn me he had intimacy issues before we began our relationship. i have child abuse iss...	purpleraven	12	778	Jul 18, 2006 by Jill
	Boundries (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) Well...We had a rough weekend. I am afraid I didn't handle things as well as I should have. It hurts so bad to have someone I love tell me that I don't show her I love her and respect her. When she was screaming it to me in the car at 11:00 at night on the highway I...	rtexas	9	594	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	proud of myself for not feeding into my A's rage (Preview) I feel like I made some progress last night. I got out of work early, my husband was out shooting golf balls when I called him. We had a miscommunication about dinner, I told him I would shop and cook and to take his time coming home-not to rush just because I was out early. Well, I shopp...	liliana	8	495	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	Praying for a Miracle from a bottle (Preview) Hiya roomies, Well I went to the shop the morning to check on the car as asked to by the guys there. I took a young man for a ride in my car so hopefully he could see/hear what I was seeing/hearing. They had taken the car for quite a ride yesterday and heard nothing. The hope was that either I would hear nothi...	Dolphin123	6	501	Jul 18, 2006 by aunitedway
	Can your A see a change in you (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) My wife was trying to start something last night, but instead paid me a compliment by accident. She said "...you are different and its weird. I just want my husband back." Obviously she was implying I was turning into a freak, but it acturally made me feel good that...	rtexas	10	954	Jul 18, 2006 by aunitedway
	After its over...then what?? (Preview) I was in a relatonship with an alchoholic for 16 years. I finally ended it for myself and for my children. I did what everyone said I should do. I pulled my self up by the bootstraps and I got my life straight. We have been apart for almost three years. The divorce will be final aug 21 because up until now he re...	amihappy	11	717	Jul 18, 2006 by abbyal
	Looking for information (Preview) Hi I'm looking for info that might help my 15 year old son. He is old enough now that he has figured out his grandfather (my dad)is an alcoholic. His drinking has really increased, starts in the am.now, usually slurring by afternoon. My son his so afraid his grandfather is going to die in...	waykar	8	597	Jul 18, 2006 by abbyal
	THANK YOU (Preview) THANK-YOU ALL FOR YOUR REPLYS AND PRAYERS. YOU GUYS ARE THE GREATEST!!! i'M STILL IN MY BEDROOM WHERE I'VE BEEN MOST OF THE DAY. WHILE I WAS OUT FEEDING MY PETS, HE DID SOMETHING TO THE TV SO HE COULD WATCH IT FROM THE LIVING ROOM. I NOTICED HE ALSO REFILLED THE FRIDGE WITH BEER, SO GUESS HE MUST STILL BE BLAM...	TLC2	2	441	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	laughing at myself! (Preview) I was thinking how precious laughter is to me. I didn't show up at alanon laughing, and I am very, very grateful for the laughter I have gotten from this program. I always say my best program comes when I laugh at myself. Got me to thinking about that, and I wanted to share this. When...	greta	4	473	Jul 18, 2006 by gardengal
	Alone time... (Preview) Hi everyone: Well, it happened again. A and I had plans to go camping, to get out of town this past weekend. He ended up working (which is actually good - he needs to) but I was pretty let down. All of this year, it seems he has been running away from our relationship, it feels like we d...	hersh	6	467	Jul 18, 2006 by nmike
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