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Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

As a child, to help keep the fragile balence that was our alcholic home, decisions were generally made for me. From what I wore to what I ate, I was told what to do. Furthermore, when I made my own decisions, I was told (very loudly and violently) that I had made a "mistake" and that I needed "to learn...

jj · jj

Thanks to all who replied to my post last week. I went away for a few days so until now did not have a chance to reply.... It helps so much to share with others our experiences although at times it is difficult even on here. The release of finally begining to figure out these confusing feeli...

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nal · nal

Hi, My parents are in their 70s and I find myself getting increasingly preoccupied and concerned with their health issues. I feel like a child inside despite my advancing age (39- LOL). I love them so much and can't imagine anything happening to them. I would be devastated. I think there is someth...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Ok I am frusted to all end again. I don't understand why my HP does the things they do. I was really hoping that today would turn out for the better. I was hoping he would finally see what damaged he had caused his family not to mention mine. I had a long talk with his family they agreed helping him fi...

Christy · Christy

A PM with (((bump))) the other day inspired me to think back of the miracles in my life, so I want to share as I truly believe they can't be coincedense. Starting with finding Alanon, and at the same time connecting with a cousin that I am very close to. The miracle: Alanon cut the path of chang...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Thanks to my wonderful family here, I have realized that my compass may be broken. I was heading full speed down the path of recovery for myself, and I missed a turn somewhere. I have gotten anxious and resentful again without realizing it. Had a conversati...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, i see this here a lot, but couldnt make it what means, do get the first - alcoholic, but what is W stand for? exuse me my ingorance Daisy

greta · greta

I learned of someones remark about me the other night that hurt, and my first reaction was to get fired up and say something mean about them. I stopped myself mid-sentence and changed the topic. ( a little progress!) However, it lead to a later committee meeting. That dreaded committee! ...

ollie · ollie

ragingchild · ragingchild

Hi Everybody! I haven't been around here for awhile and I miss everybody. I come here almost everyday and read the posts and keep tabs on ya'll (not to sound creepy thought :) ). I have been busy with my purse orders and candle orders and getting my flooring done plus one of my cats had kitt...

gardengal · gardengal

For years I blamed everyone else for my unhappiness,my feelings of dispair and worry. Coming to alanon I can see blaming my parents, my husband , my siblings, or my children was wrong. I learned in alanon that I was responsible for my own happiness, that no one didnt owe it to me to make me happy. I h...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, -------Just some thoughts if you have some to add, please feel free to do so. I have been a member of this board for a while, and throughout that time I have heard several people coment on lack of replies to their posts. And that got me to thinking about what makes...

penny · penny

Hi Just thought I would share what I think is a hilarious tale. I bumped into my ex A's past friend and my A is telling everyone that when he met me several years ago that he had to pick me up out of the gutter and that he could never have drink in the house cause I would down it all, so therefore he had...

sld488 · sld488

I began this site only 2 wks ago while my A was out of town with work. Yesterday, We went to court and lost his daughter back to his ex.(she only wants her for child support in my opinion) But we are both very sad. After he got drunk, passed out; I got online for company sake. Just after th...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i just wanted to add something that might help others that were in a situation like mine. as most of you know i played the game of kicking him out letting him back and on anon anon for the past year. someone once told me that i wasnt ready to go yet. and when we are ready if we are ready we will leave. that is real...

purpleraven · purpleraven

hi, i'm totally new here. i've been trying to attend a local Al-Anon meeting but no one shows up. my boyfriend, well i'm almost 40 so boyfriend sounds silly, anyway he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. he did warn me he had intimacy issues before we began our relationship. i have child abuse iss...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))) Well...We had a rough weekend. I am afraid I didn't handle things as well as I should have. It hurts so bad to have someone I love tell me that I don't show her I love her and respect her. When she was screaming it to me in the car at 11:00 at night on the highway I...

liliana · liliana

I feel like I made some progress last night. I got out of work early, my husband was out shooting golf balls when I called him. We had a miscommunication about dinner, I told him I would shop and cook and to take his time coming home-not to rush just because I was out early. Well, I shopp...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hiya roomies, Well I went to the shop the morning to check on the car as asked to by the guys there. I took a young man for a ride in my car so hopefully he could see/hear what I was seeing/hearing. They had taken the car for quite a ride yesterday and heard nothing. The hope was that either I would hear nothi...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) My wife was trying to start something last night, but instead paid me a compliment by accident. She said "...you are different and its weird. I just want my husband back." Obviously she was implying I was turning into a freak, but it acturally made me feel good that...

amihappy · amihappy

I was in a relatonship with an alchoholic for 16 years. I finally ended it for myself and for my children. I did what everyone said I should do. I pulled my self up by the bootstraps and I got my life straight. We have been apart for almost three years. The divorce will be final aug 21 because up until now he re...

waykar · waykar

Hi I'm looking for info that might help my 15 year old son. He is old enough now that he has figured out his grandfather (my dad)is an alcoholic. His drinking has really increased, starts in the am.now, usually slurring by afternoon. My son his so afraid his grandfather is going to die in...

TLC2 · TLC2

THANK-YOU ALL FOR YOUR REPLYS AND PRAYERS. YOU GUYS ARE THE GREATEST!!! i'M STILL IN MY BEDROOM WHERE I'VE BEEN MOST OF THE DAY. WHILE I WAS OUT FEEDING MY PETS, HE DID SOMETHING TO THE TV SO HE COULD WATCH IT FROM THE LIVING ROOM. I NOTICED HE ALSO REFILLED THE FRIDGE WITH BEER, SO GUESS HE MUST STILL BE BLAM...

greta · greta

I was thinking how precious laughter is to me. I didn't show up at alanon laughing, and I am very, very grateful for the laughter I have gotten from this program. I always say my best program comes when I laugh at myself. Got me to thinking about that, and I wanted to share this. When...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: Well, it happened again. A and I had plans to go camping, to get out of town this past weekend. He ended up working (which is actually good - he needs to) but I was pretty let down. All of this year, it seems he has been running away from our relationship, it feels like we d...

sandie123 · sandie123

"Today I can accepet myself for what I am because I know that whatever happens, I have a higher power and a group of people who will love me anyway" This quote stopped me dead in my meeting tonight. I read it and couldn't speak. I later did get my voice enough to express how unbe...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hey everyone I needed to share and vent about my questionable relationship with alcohol and would love to hear more stories of others in the program who feel they could be or determined they were alcholic ....aka ..."double winner" Until recently, I never ever thought I had an issue. My al...

bobump · bobump

Has anyone seen Pico? On the board or in chat ? Bob

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hello everyone, havnt been on here in a while but id thought i would update you all. two weeks ago if you recall my a relapsed and that was it for me. and this time it really is. he has begged me back numerous times promising me the world and in the past i always believed. but watch the feet right? i dont see any...

Jayda · Jayda

I am so stressed and I just want some peace in my life...even for a day. Doesn't everyone deserve a break once in a while? I want to be able to go to bed and fall asleep peacefully, not with 1000 things running through my head. I want to wake up in the morning thinking about positive things...not worried a...

ollie · ollie

Hi All,well another saturday meeting with my H ,who i haven,t live with for 12 wks,he comes down to see me i suppose and our new grandson,who i look after sat mornings. We are now talking much more than we ever have in the last 3 yrs,WHY do i feel sorry for him,he wants us to have another go at saving our mar...

nycbt · nycbt

Everyone I had an awsome weekend. I left my husband for over night and hung out with the girls, we went on the beach got a nice tan, bought some stuff I had lots of fun. I got a couple henna. I have come since a log way, last yr I would of Not be able to do this. I was not ready to leave my husband over night. I was so h...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Before I start, what do you do about a neighbor enabling buying the booze & transporting it her when I have the wheels? Can I tell the neighbor no more? I have not yet. I got off work at 8pm. I came home and loaded the sale items by myself. I acted like everything was great when I came inside. &...

nmike · nmike

Hi Friends, Well, I don't know what this is all about. My AHSober and I have been at each other's throats for a year. In the last 3 weeks, we seemed to have hit the eye in the storm. We usually end of fighting about our relationship (mostly on my part) because he wants a divorce. About 3 weeks...

desperate for help · desperate for help

Hello. My husband is an alcoholic and I am at wits end. I don't know where to turn and thought I would start here. He only drinks at night, but drinks EVERY night, 7 nights a week. He gets completely drunk. He drinks straight vodka and swtiches back and forth to beer.&nb...

vangellic · vangellic

Does anyone know the stages after ascites progresses? I need to speak to someone who has been there or "is" at this point. I'm dealing with an "A" that has been diagnosed with "no liver" and will (hopefully) be added to the transplant list in 6 mos. from what the hospital told...

pj · pj

I'm very...tired. I think my husband is an A. He says that he isn't...um...even though he admits that he's been drinking to dull his pain for the past...well...years. When he is not drinking, he is disconnected, grouchy, short-tempered, angry, sullen, forgetful, mean...once he's had a drink...

s1234 · s1234

My husband has a drinking problem that he won't admit to and it is tearing this family apart!! We have all addressed the issue, however he doesn't seem to get it. He feels as long as it is controlled he is okay! He makes more excuses!!!! I can't take anymore of this. I hav...

TLC2 · TLC2

I don't know what is going on in my life right now. I had layed out his meds (in a box) on the floor outside the bedroom door. When he came in, I told him he could sleep in the spare room, I'd be da**ed if he was going to sleep in MY bed. I tried not to respond to any of his rantings, but he was trying to blame my s...

dori · dori

Hi, Has any one ever felt they dont belong any where?I am in alanon but my ex a hasnt been with me over 3 years there is no A in my life. I tried comeing here and posting and try to give and respond to help others.I have gone to the aa side of posting, even though they been extra kind to me i just...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I'm shocked. Don't know why but I am! I'm working my program quite well I think, detatching with love, not padding his (my Aboyfriend) fall when he drinks all his wages etc. Anyway, I made it clear that I would not be around drinking, and if he chose to disappear for three days wit...

leigh · leigh

I am brand new to this board (about 5 minutes) and go about once a week to in person Alanon meetings. My former husband is my qualifier, as well as my psychotic mother. I am typical enabeler, trying to heal the world, one addict at a time. I need help because I want and need to s...

leo · leo

Hi everyone, Just wanted to check in and let you know how things are going. Last weekend my husband came home drunk and I ignored him when he walked in. The next morning I made a very strained phone call to him telling him that if he wanted any papers signed in future he needed to have only hi...

TLC2 · TLC2

Well folks, this is it.(please HP, let it really be over!! Give me the strength to stand by ME!!) I know a lot of you may be wondering why I call it quits after such a trivial (?) thing?? He got drunk on July 9th (my birthday) and ruined that, I called my son and cancelled because I didn't want the kids to see...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I wandered into a chat room and was looking at the top of the screen where it says "topic" and was then thinking how people come in and ask "whats the topic?" which led me to thinking, gee wouldn't it be fun to have a "today's topic" every day. So then I opened up my ODAT to July 16 and started reading. R...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I've been zeroing in on detaching with love. I see now where it is considered difficult by some. Between my almost uncontrollable urge to be in his business and feeling I need to completely ignore him..that narrow bridge became a bit more visible to me...I THINK.. Darling A came home today tanked af...

serendipity · serendipity

all of the sudden i am having a hard time keeping the focus on myself. i am starting to wonder what my soon to be ah is doing and with who. up till now, when i would wonder, i could change my thought or say a prayer to let it go. and it worked. i was not obsessing. but the past couple of days i have been behaving mis...

emma · emma

I'm writing to thank all of you who have touched my life via this site. My f2f mtgs and of course my sponsor deserve (and will get) a lot of my thanks too, but there is something about all of you and this site that really helped me to understand and incorporate the al anon program into my life these last few...

debilyn · debilyn

ok so he is him. Tells me he is still in love with me. So what? lol I mean it is not like he is wooing me and sending a lot of letters and calling. Not saying, "I want to do this for you and that for you. I have not treated you like I want to treat you....." I have always been the last consideration for hi...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

When I first came to these rooms, I was lost. I had lost my A for a year, and my kids left to live with thier A Dad. It has been a very hard year for me, but with the help of Al-anon, my sponsor, and all of you. I am able to see progress in me. I am getting stronger and learning more everyday. I am also getting in touc...

Alethea · Alethea

Hi, this is my first time at any type of Al-Anon message board. I haven't been to a meeting either. I read several postings and started to cry. I have felt so alone in this and a lot of what I read mirrored how I feel. It is nice to know that there are others who can understand what I live through e...

dori · dori

Hi, I could of missed the pain but than I would of missed the dance.I loved you and I am thankful I loved you.I am thankful for all you did in my life.Yes I mean all the drama the pain all of it.I landed in alanon where I got sanity for the first time in my life. It got to me a place in my li...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hi (((Everyone))) It's late and I should be sleeping but I wanted to end my day here. After posting this morning I went with my A to his appointment, let me clarify I would have stayed home but the center confirmed to me and him that they would like me there to provide info he may not be capable of. unfortu...

lin0606 · lin0606

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debilyn · debilyn

I got the shock of my life. Did not believe it the first time I visited A in jail. Went back yesterday. I was nervous and sat down. He comes out and it is not the monster, it is my husband.I did not think I would ever see him again I got all unnerved and it was like my dreams where he is dead and is alive ag...

dori · dori

Hi, good to see you dori

serendipity · serendipity

i don't mind being alone. i actually enjoy it. but the loneliness is starting to get to me. not all the time. i am using my f2f and friends to talk about life and to get hugs. but i am missing the real intimacy. i'm not sure if it's part of missing my ah (who i think was served divorce papers yesterday) or if it'...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello friends. I don't know if this would be Alanon related.It's my LIFE,so I guess that's what this all about,right? I am going to call work tomorrow and quit my job.I left there in tears today and have been crying ever since.Here's what happened.I was written up for doing something that I KNOW LO...

debilyn · debilyn

hi good to see you. I wanted to respond to your response. I have been in alanon a good many years. Have seen my A husband go thru about everything. I am not stranger to relapse, sobriety, recovery program to relapse and on and on. I am not ignorant when it comes to aism. Worry is not part of my...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Making decisions using recovery thinking (Preview) As a child, to help keep the fragile balence that was our alcholic home, decisions were generally made for me. From what I wore to what I ate, I was told what to do. Furthermore, when I made my own decisions, I was told (very loudly and violently) that I had made a "mistake" and that I needed "to learn...	Tiger2006	5	554	Jul 20, 2006 by nmike
	thanks to all (Preview) Thanks to all who replied to my post last week. I went away for a few days so until now did not have a chance to reply.... It helps so much to share with others our experiences although at times it is difficult even on here. The release of finally begining to figure out these confusing feeli...	jj	1	553	Jul 19, 2006 by TLC2
	Some Birthday! UGH! (Preview)   I	afmom03	5	406	Jul 19, 2006 by maresie2
	Inner Child and Aging Parents (Preview) Hi, My parents are in their 70s and I find myself getting increasingly preoccupied and concerned with their health issues. I feel like a child inside despite my advancing age (39- LOL). I love them so much and can't imagine anything happening to them. I would be devastated. I think there is someth...	nal	2	453	Jul 19, 2006 by just me
	So Confused! (Preview) Ok I am frusted to all end again. I don't understand why my HP does the things they do. I was really hoping that today would turn out for the better. I was hoping he would finally see what damaged he had caused his family not to mention mine. I had a long talk with his family they agreed helping him fi...	DoN4me	5	477	Jul 19, 2006 by DoN4me
	Sharing my miracles (Preview) A PM with (((bump))) the other day inspired me to think back of the miracles in my life, so I want to share as I truly believe they can't be coincedense. Starting with finding Alanon, and at the same time connecting with a cousin that I am very close to. The miracle: Alanon cut the path of chang...	Christy	6	357	Jul 19, 2006 by Karilynn
	Staggering down the road of recovery (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Thanks to my wonderful family here, I have realized that my compass may be broken. I was heading full speed down the path of recovery for myself, and I missed a turn somewhere. I have gotten anxious and resentful again without realizing it. Had a conversati...	rtexas	5	405	Jul 19, 2006 by Rita G
	What is "AW" (Preview) Hi all, i see this here a lot, but couldnt make it what means, do get the first - alcoholic, but what is W stand for? exuse me my ingorance Daisy	daisy2	6	672	Jul 19, 2006 by daisy2
	Taking it too personal.... (Preview) I learned of someones remark about me the other night that hurt, and my first reaction was to get fired up and say something mean about them. I stopped myself mid-sentence and changed the topic. ( a little progress!) However, it lead to a later committee meeting. That dreaded committee! ...	greta	5	536	Jul 19, 2006 by annmarie
	DAISY (Preview)	ollie	6	402	Jul 19, 2006 by daisy2
	Hello All!! (Preview) Hi Everybody! I haven't been around here for awhile and I miss everybody. I come here almost everyday and read the posts and keep tabs on ya'll (not to sound creepy thought :) ). I have been busy with my purse orders and candle orders and getting my flooring done plus one of my cats had kitt...	ragingchild	3	345	Jul 19, 2006 by ragingchild
	ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW YOU FEEL, OR DO YOU BLAME EVERYONE FOR YOUR UNHAPPINESS? (Preview) For years I blamed everyone else for my unhappiness,my feelings of dispair and worry. Coming to alanon I can see blaming my parents, my husband , my siblings, or my children was wrong. I learned in alanon that I was responsible for my own happiness, that no one didnt owe it to me to make me happy. I h...	gardengal	7	410	Jul 19, 2006 by athena12
	What makes you decide to respond? (Preview) Hi roomies, -------Just some thoughts if you have some to add, please feel free to do so. I have been a member of this board for a while, and throughout that time I have heard several people coment on lack of replies to their posts. And that got me to thinking about what makes...	Dolphin123	10	644	Jul 19, 2006 by athena12
	Funny tale (Preview) Hi Just thought I would share what I think is a hilarious tale. I bumped into my ex A's past friend and my A is telling everyone that when he met me several years ago that he had to pick me up out of the gutter and that he could never have drink in the house cause I would down it all, so therefore he had...	penny	2	390	Jul 18, 2006 by nmike
	trusting HP (Preview) I began this site only 2 wks ago while my A was out of town with work. Yesterday, We went to court and lost his daughter back to his ex.(she only wants her for child support in my opinion) But we are both very sad. After he got drunk, passed out; I got online for company sake. Just after th...	sld488	4	380	Jul 18, 2006 by Jill
	on leaving an a (Preview) i just wanted to add something that might help others that were in a situation like mine. as most of you know i played the game of kicking him out letting him back and on anon anon for the past year. someone once told me that i wasnt ready to go yet. and when we are ready if we are ready we will leave. that is real...	notsonew1111	9	614	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	new here, overwhelmed with a crisis (Preview) hi, i'm totally new here. i've been trying to attend a local Al-Anon meeting but no one shows up. my boyfriend, well i'm almost 40 so boyfriend sounds silly, anyway he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. he did warn me he had intimacy issues before we began our relationship. i have child abuse iss...	purpleraven	12	681	Jul 18, 2006 by Jill
	Boundries (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) Well...We had a rough weekend. I am afraid I didn't handle things as well as I should have. It hurts so bad to have someone I love tell me that I don't show her I love her and respect her. When she was screaming it to me in the car at 11:00 at night on the highway I...	rtexas	9	462	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	proud of myself for not feeding into my A's rage (Preview) I feel like I made some progress last night. I got out of work early, my husband was out shooting golf balls when I called him. We had a miscommunication about dinner, I told him I would shop and cook and to take his time coming home-not to rush just because I was out early. Well, I shopp...	liliana	8	404	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	Praying for a Miracle from a bottle (Preview) Hiya roomies, Well I went to the shop the morning to check on the car as asked to by the guys there. I took a young man for a ride in my car so hopefully he could see/hear what I was seeing/hearing. They had taken the car for quite a ride yesterday and heard nothing. The hope was that either I would hear nothi...	Dolphin123	6	416	Jul 18, 2006 by aunitedway
	Can your A see a change in you (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) My wife was trying to start something last night, but instead paid me a compliment by accident. She said "...you are different and its weird. I just want my husband back." Obviously she was implying I was turning into a freak, but it acturally made me feel good that...	rtexas	10	864	Jul 18, 2006 by aunitedway
	After its over...then what?? (Preview) I was in a relatonship with an alchoholic for 16 years. I finally ended it for myself and for my children. I did what everyone said I should do. I pulled my self up by the bootstraps and I got my life straight. We have been apart for almost three years. The divorce will be final aug 21 because up until now he re...	amihappy	11	616	Jul 18, 2006 by abbyal
	Looking for information (Preview) Hi I'm looking for info that might help my 15 year old son. He is old enough now that he has figured out his grandfather (my dad)is an alcoholic. His drinking has really increased, starts in the am.now, usually slurring by afternoon. My son his so afraid his grandfather is going to die in...	waykar	8	506	Jul 18, 2006 by abbyal
	THANK YOU (Preview) THANK-YOU ALL FOR YOUR REPLYS AND PRAYERS. YOU GUYS ARE THE GREATEST!!! i'M STILL IN MY BEDROOM WHERE I'VE BEEN MOST OF THE DAY. WHILE I WAS OUT FEEDING MY PETS, HE DID SOMETHING TO THE TV SO HE COULD WATCH IT FROM THE LIVING ROOM. I NOTICED HE ALSO REFILLED THE FRIDGE WITH BEER, SO GUESS HE MUST STILL BE BLAM...	TLC2	2	356	Jul 18, 2006 by maresie2
	laughing at myself! (Preview) I was thinking how precious laughter is to me. I didn't show up at alanon laughing, and I am very, very grateful for the laughter I have gotten from this program. I always say my best program comes when I laugh at myself. Got me to thinking about that, and I wanted to share this. When...	greta	4	380	Jul 18, 2006 by gardengal
	Alone time... (Preview) Hi everyone: Well, it happened again. A and I had plans to go camping, to get out of town this past weekend. He ended up working (which is actually good - he needs to) but I was pretty let down. All of this year, it seems he has been running away from our relationship, it feels like we d...	hersh	6	358	Jul 18, 2006 by nmike
	Unconditional Love (Preview) "Today I can accepet myself for what I am because I know that whatever happens, I have a higher power and a group of people who will love me anyway" This quote stopped me dead in my meeting tonight. I read it and couldn't speak. I later did get my voice enough to express how unbe...	sandie123	6	777	Jul 18, 2006 by david62
	Examining my relationship with Alcohol (Preview) Hey everyone I needed to share and vent about my questionable relationship with alcohol and would love to hear more stories of others in the program who feel they could be or determined they were alcholic ....aka ..."double winner" Until recently, I never ever thought I had an issue. My al...	beachbaby	7	463	Jul 18, 2006 by nycbt
	Any one seen Pico? (Preview) Has anyone seen Pico? On the board or in chat ? Bob	bobump	6	430	Jul 17, 2006 by Tiger2006
	healing going on here..... (Preview) hello everyone, havnt been on here in a while but id thought i would update you all. two weeks ago if you recall my a relapsed and that was it for me. and this time it really is. he has begged me back numerous times promising me the world and in the past i always believed. but watch the feet right? i dont see any...	notsonew1111	5	391	Jul 17, 2006 by dori
	Pulling my hair out (Preview) I am so stressed and I just want some peace in my life...even for a day. Doesn't everyone deserve a break once in a while? I want to be able to go to bed and fall asleep peacefully, not with 1000 things running through my head. I want to wake up in the morning thinking about positive things...not worried a...	Jayda	7	458	Jul 17, 2006 by debilyn
	JUST DONT KNOW? (Preview) Hi All,well another saturday meeting with my H ,who i haven,t live with for 12 wks,he comes down to see me i suppose and our new grandson,who i look after sat mornings. We are now talking much more than we ever have in the last 3 yrs,WHY do i feel sorry for him,he wants us to have another go at saving our mar...	ollie	12	524	Jul 17, 2006 by ollie
	me (Preview) Everyone I had an awsome weekend. I left my husband for over night and hung out with the girls, we went on the beach got a nice tan, bought some stuff I had lots of fun. I got a couple henna. I have come since a log way, last yr I would of Not be able to do this. I was not ready to leave my husband over night. I was so h...	nycbt	6	322	Jul 17, 2006 by lilms
	money issues & others enabling A (Preview) Before I start, what do you do about a neighbor enabling buying the booze & transporting it her when I have the wheels? Can I tell the neighbor no more? I have not yet. I got off work at 8pm. I came home and loaded the sale items by myself. I acted like everything was great when I came inside. &...	hmrnrnmm	3	731	Jul 17, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Lull in the storm... (Preview) Hi Friends, Well, I don't know what this is all about. My AHSober and I have been at each other's throats for a year. In the last 3 weeks, we seemed to have hit the eye in the storm. We usually end of fighting about our relationship (mostly on my part) because he wants a divorce. About 3 weeks...	nmike	3	423	Jul 17, 2006 by Dolphin123
	New here, but need lots of help! (Preview) Hello. My husband is an alcoholic and I am at wits end. I don't know where to turn and thought I would start here. He only drinks at night, but drinks EVERY night, 7 nights a week. He gets completely drunk. He drinks straight vodka and swtiches back and forth to beer.&nb...	desperate for help	9	575	Jul 17, 2006 by nycbt
	WHAT HAPPENS AFTER ASCITES? (Preview) Does anyone know the stages after ascites progresses? I need to speak to someone who has been there or "is" at this point. I'm dealing with an "A" that has been diagnosed with "no liver" and will (hopefully) be added to the transplant list in 6 mos. from what the hospital told...	vangellic	7	1880	Jul 17, 2006 by nycbt
	Hello, new here... (Preview) I'm very...tired. I think my husband is an A. He says that he isn't...um...even though he admits that he's been drinking to dull his pain for the past...well...years. When he is not drinking, he is disconnected, grouchy, short-tempered, angry, sullen, forgetful, mean...once he's had a drink...	pj	6	671	Jul 17, 2006 by nycbt
	I need Help! I am new!! (Preview) My husband has a drinking problem that he won't admit to and it is tearing this family apart!! We have all addressed the issue, however he doesn't seem to get it. He feels as long as it is controlled he is okay! He makes more excuses!!!! I can't take anymore of this. I hav...	s1234	5	437	Jul 17, 2006 by nycbt
	update (sorry, long) (Preview) I don't know what is going on in my life right now. I had layed out his meds (in a box) on the floor outside the bedroom door. When he came in, I told him he could sleep in the spare room, I'd be da**ed if he was going to sleep in MY bed. I tried not to respond to any of his rantings, but he was trying to blame my s...	TLC2	3	455	Jul 17, 2006 by Jennifer
	where do I belong (Preview) Hi, Has any one ever felt they dont belong any where?I am in alanon but my ex a hasnt been with me over 3 years there is no A in my life. I tried comeing here and posting and try to give and respond to help others.I have gone to the aa side of posting, even though they been extra kind to me i just...	dori	11	529	Jul 17, 2006 by annmarie
	How stupid does he think I am... (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm shocked. Don't know why but I am! I'm working my program quite well I think, detatching with love, not padding his (my Aboyfriend) fall when he drinks all his wages etc. Anyway, I made it clear that I would not be around drinking, and if he chose to disappear for three days wit...	annmarie	8	574	Jul 17, 2006 by annmarie
	can't stop obsessing (Preview) I am brand new to this board (about 5 minutes) and go about once a week to in person Alanon meetings. My former husband is my qualifier, as well as my psychotic mother. I am typical enabeler, trying to heal the world, one addict at a time. I need help because I want and need to s...	leigh	8	592	Jul 16, 2006 by leigh
	stress free (Preview) Hi everyone, Just wanted to check in and let you know how things are going. Last weekend my husband came home drunk and I ignored him when he walked in. The next morning I made a very strained phone call to him telling him that if he wanted any papers signed in future he needed to have only hi...	leo	4	443	Jul 16, 2006 by leo
	War is over, Alcohol 1, TLC 0 (Preview) Well folks, this is it.(please HP, let it really be over!! Give me the strength to stand by ME!!) I know a lot of you may be wondering why I call it quits after such a trivial (?) thing?? He got drunk on July 9th (my birthday) and ruined that, I called my son and cancelled because I didn't want the kids to see...	TLC2	7	593	Jul 16, 2006 by dori
	Maturity vs. Immaturity (Preview) I wandered into a chat room and was looking at the top of the screen where it says "topic" and was then thinking how people come in and ask "whats the topic?" which led me to thinking, gee wouldn't it be fun to have a "today's topic" every day. So then I opened up my ODAT to July 16 and started reading. R...	kismetstrand	1	368	Jul 16, 2006 by leo
	I THINK I did it right.. (Preview) I've been zeroing in on detaching with love. I see now where it is considered difficult by some. Between my almost uncontrollable urge to be in his business and feeling I need to completely ignore him..that narrow bridge became a bit more visible to me...I THINK.. Darling A came home today tanked af...	RamzDear	4	436	Jul 16, 2006 by hersh
	how insedious is MY disease (Preview) all of the sudden i am having a hard time keeping the focus on myself. i am starting to wonder what my soon to be ah is doing and with who. up till now, when i would wonder, i could change my thought or say a prayer to let it go. and it worked. i was not obsessing. but the past couple of days i have been behaving mis...	serendipity	4	551	Jul 16, 2006 by nmike
	gratitude (Preview) I'm writing to thank all of you who have touched my life via this site. My f2f mtgs and of course my sponsor deserve (and will get) a lot of my thanks too, but there is something about all of you and this site that really helped me to understand and incorporate the al anon program into my life these last few...	emma	3	411	Jul 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Wait a minute.... (Preview) ok so he is him. Tells me he is still in love with me. So what? lol I mean it is not like he is wooing me and sending a lot of letters and calling. Not saying, "I want to do this for you and that for you. I have not treated you like I want to treat you....." I have always been the last consideration for hi...	debilyn	8	591	Jul 16, 2006 by Becky1
	I am progressing (Preview) When I first came to these rooms, I was lost. I had lost my A for a year, and my kids left to live with thier A Dad. It has been a very hard year for me, but with the help of Al-anon, my sponsor, and all of you. I am able to see progress in me. I am getting stronger and learning more everyday. I am also getting in touc...	heartless39470	6	431	Jul 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Hi (Preview) Hi, this is my first time at any type of Al-Anon message board. I haven't been to a meeting either. I read several postings and started to cry. I have felt so alone in this and a lot of what I read mirrored how I feel. It is nice to know that there are others who can understand what I live through e...	Alethea	7	547	Jul 16, 2006 by Alethea
	i could of miss the pain (Preview) Hi, I could of missed the pain but than I would of missed the dance.I loved you and I am thankful I loved you.I am thankful for all you did in my life.Yes I mean all the drama the pain all of it.I landed in alanon where I got sanity for the first time in my life. It got to me a place in my li...	dori	7	491	Jul 16, 2006 by TLC2
	The end of a long day (Preview) Hi (((Everyone))) It's late and I should be sleeping but I wanted to end my day here. After posting this morning I went with my A to his appointment, let me clarify I would have stayed home but the center confirmed to me and him that they would like me there to provide info he may not be capable of. unfortu...	Jennifer	4	436	Jul 15, 2006 by TLC2
	test (Preview) -- Edited by lin0606 at 12:31, 2006-07-15	lin0606	2	366	Jul 15, 2006 by TLC2
	He's Alive! (Preview) I got the shock of my life. Did not believe it the first time I visited A in jail. Went back yesterday. I was nervous and sat down. He comes out and it is not the monster, it is my husband.I did not think I would ever see him again I got all unnerved and it was like my dreams where he is dead and is alive ag...	debilyn	17	685	Jul 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	Deb (Preview) Hi, good to see you dori	dori	0	310	Jul 15, 2006 by dori
	loneliness (Preview) i don't mind being alone. i actually enjoy it. but the loneliness is starting to get to me. not all the time. i am using my f2f and friends to talk about life and to get hugs. but i am missing the real intimacy. i'm not sure if it's part of missing my ah (who i think was served divorce papers yesterday) or if it'...	serendipity	5	485	Jul 15, 2006 by dori
	Have I lost my mind, or found it? (Preview) Hello friends. I don't know if this would be Alanon related.It's my LIFE,so I guess that's what this all about,right? I am going to call work tomorrow and quit my job.I left there in tears today and have been crying ever since.Here's what happened.I was written up for doing something that I KNOW LO...	drucilla06	12	838	Jul 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	cdb (Preview) hi good to see you. I wanted to respond to your response. I have been in alanon a good many years. Have seen my A husband go thru about everything. I am not stranger to relapse, sobriety, recovery program to relapse and on and on. I am not ignorant when it comes to aism. Worry is not part of my...	debilyn	0	362	Jul 15, 2006 by debilyn
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