The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My Dad is the A in my life, allegedly clean and doing all the right things. My mother just told me that she found a Tiffany bag with a receipt for an expensive bracelet bought in April. The bracelet was gone, and he did not give it to her. He made some lame excuse about it being an early Christmas present (which it clearly was not). I have that same sick feeling in my stomach and am so sick and tired of feeling like it is always something. I love my parents dearly, but I get so tired of this.
I think it is really super difficult not to be overinvolved when people are being dysfunctional. When I first came here and people told me over and over to focus on me it was incredibly difficult for me nevetheless it was possible.
I have no control over others. I keep way way way out of the A's relationships these days. My days of being over invovled with them are over. I would like to have a relationship where I could know about and share concerns about a relationship but relating to an A does not involve that for me. Relating to an A is all about my maintaining my boundaries are all costs.
