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yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone- Todays reading is about the concept of detachment. When I first began hearing about the idea of detachment, it seemed cold and maybe even cruel to detach- from people. I wasnt able to do it. I began to realize that it is possible to detach from a persons behavior/addiction without cea...

el-cee · el-cee

I hate it so much. I want it out my life. I want peace from the ugliness of alcoholism. I'm so worried about my son's drinking. Its getting worse. He can be and is verbally abusive to his gf. He's angry when sober and takes it out on her and her daughter. On the other side of that it's clear to see he loves them b...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi allTanin posted a message to the Business section regarding a business meeting. In case you missed it I have copied it below-- See you there To All MIP Members:We need to have a business meeting to discuss and decide issues of funding of the MIP forums and chat room hosting We have a couple of de...

Lil99 · Lil99

I felt like I was making some good progress with the programme. Things were starting to feel much better than they have for a long time. But this last couple of weeks I've been feeling more low. ABF is back up to his old tricks again. I'm tired out and not handling it well. A friend is visiting tomorrow...

Aline · Aline

Trying something new for me - writing about real-time events. I'm afraid normally. I'm afraid of people judging me negatively, also kind of afraid of people thinking of me positively, because I don't like my arrogance that raises its head royally above everyone else now and again. I'm having commun...

themoonandthestars · themoonandthestars

since we asked our son to leave and got the restraining order. I fluctuate from feeling AWESOMELY FREE and SAFE from his violence to HORRIBLY GUILTY and FEARFUL of a possible revenge attack. Last night I found I was *very* triggered by driving alone in the dark. I had to pick up my daughter at school afte...

hotrod · hotrod

I am posting the daily for Looiking Up, who is under tornado watch. Prayers that she stays safe. The C2C reading for April 14 discusses our negative thinking and suggests ways of addressing it. The reading points out that awareness of the negative thoughts is the first step towards change. It sugg...

themoonandthestars · themoonandthestars

I have been busying myself with an organizational project. This requires me to go through mountains of old paperwork and pictures. As I sort through these pictures I find myself looking at the ones of our AS with thoughts of "this was BEFORE he got sick" or "Look at his eyes. All lies." I feel so ANGRY tow...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about considering change(s) to how we respond to situations today. Kindness is suggested as a goal instead of defensiveness or disrespect. It goes on the discuss relationships and how complicated they are simply because people are complicated. We all h...

Rose L · Rose L

I am new here. I have been to a few AlAnon meetings in person and people were supportive, at the moment I'm in the middle of some counselling and can't attend a meeting in person but may go back afterwards. So I thought I'd join online. I am separated from my husband who is a recovering alcoholic who atten...

Iamhere · Iamhere

"Grant me patience, Lord -- and hurry!" This is a quote from today's reading, which discusses that most of us want a quick fix or an immediate solution to difficult situations. Some situations have been ongoing for years, yet we want a solution in one day or even shorter. When it's not resolved when...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

When I was at my last job in my little town there was a man my age who was hired around the same time as I was .. I already knew the guy had 3 red flags all alcohol related .. I saw some other behaviors while I was still there and knew that at some point it was going to not well, as in he had a temper when he was not sobe...

MizzB · MizzB

My friend just announced she's pregnant. I am at home, alone, again, as the ABF is again AWOL, hasn't been off the alcohol for more than a couple of days for 9 weeks. I've come a long way in how I react to his drinking. I now won't message him to ask where he is. I don't get mad when he comes in. I'm so jealou...

CharBronte · CharBronte

I just started attending alanon meetings less than a month ago, and it has already left an indelible impact on my day to day life. My husband noticed right away and was effusive with praise by how quickly I took to making real changes in the management of my emotions. I'm able to control my need to control...

CBell · CBell

Hi Everyone- I have been a grateful member of Al-Anon for 1 year. Lately, it has become apparent to me that I still have a hard time talking about Al-Anon with my husband. It took me several weeks of going initially before I told him that I was going and over the course of the past year, it has become a big...

themoonandthestars · themoonandthestars

Unfortunately its worse than ever. Back in the winter of 2016/2017 I lost internet access. I was able to get a new computer a few weeks ago. If anyone remembers, my qualifiers are my identical twins on the spectrum. It has been a hellish ride since my last post culminating with a very scary, unprovoked...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about why we continue to attend AlAnon meetings and engage with the program through the years. The author shares that without help, living or having lived with an alcoholic is too much for them. They recognize a need for help in maintaining a ration...

Bamagrl · Bamagrl

My 18yr old son is an addict. He got clean for 8 months and a month ago relapsed. I attended my fist meeting last week and will be going back. I just feel like everything i do is wrong. I have not allowed him to stay at my house while he is using. So hard to do, but im at a loss. I saw him today and he does not even loo...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am letting this go because this is my XAH and this is exactly who he is .. lol .. and I have to take ownership in the fact I have scared him so bad I'm sure whatever cahona's he was growing back left him yet again. I believe that is set 3 that have now been added to the vault. So after the wife texting my kid who...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The weather was favorable so I got on my swing! Yipee! Really Good thing. Serenity & peaceful!

Tude · Tude

Hi everyone. It's been a long time! I finally made my trip to visit my kids, granddaughter, and mom for a month+! Of course when I got home I am still playing catch up inside and out too now that the weather has a few warm days. I have to get a few acres planted and help finish a fence we are in the process of putt...

MizzB · MizzB

Hi, Has anyone tried individual therapy? Is it better to see someone who is experienced in alanon stuff or is a general therapist effective? I've tried therapy before for unrelated things (depression mostly) with mixed results. I'm determined to stay off chemical interventions unless absolute...

Jerry F · Jerry F

please add my daughter Celeste's name to your list if you care to...after a bout of shortness of breath and then a doctors visit they found a blood clot around her heart and or lungs...she is now in exploratory surgery and I am 7 thousand miles off her bed side. She is worth the prayers so as you care and r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am winging it because I don't have my reading glasses. Huge font! I am so grateful. I have been blessed beyond measure. There is something about live one day at a time! I find my wrist bands help. You see I am using the wrist bands to remind me when I start future-tripping, I can look & even snap it a lit...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for April 10 speaks about our attitudes and suggests new tools to help us grow.The reading asks the question, what am I really looking for in life? Is it interesting activities,? to meet my obligations to family or do I want to make myself into the kind of person I will enjoy being wi...

Lyne · Lyne

Detachment with indifference: The writer says that detachment came easy for him, but not with love, with indifference. In Alanon he learned to feel safe enough to feel his feelings. He also learned that he was more than his feelings, and he could see the alcoholic as more than his or her disease. H...

WorkingMom · WorkingMom

I am a mom of one, and another on the way. My boyfriend and I seem like we have a perfect life from the outside... So perfect that his parents were "unaware" of his drinking problem. We have been in our newly built house for a little over a year, I just began my own small business and he works in construction....

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning All: Todays reading is about the decision making process and its difficulty for some of us. The writer describes an uncomfortable situation when a group conscience decision is being made, and how decisions in general have been difficult because of the extremes learned as a child (fat...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It is Merrie Monarch time and that term represents a King (kalakaua) who lived in the past and loved deeply our music and dance...(mele and hula). I love it as deeply as he did and this annual event brings joy and elation to my heart. It is over 55 years and has now captured the participation of other cu...

Aline · Aline

Hi, MIP family.These past days Im trying to redirect my thinking to more pleasant things often. I see how Im so used to negative thinking its like I dont know how to live without it. It seems maybe it doesnt really matter all that much what it is that Im thinking as long as its doom and gloom, and self-criti...

MizzB · MizzB

Hey, So, it's been a while. I've been reading but not in a mental state to talk. Last week was really bad. My work pressure got so much I pulled a sickie. Except I was having panic attacks and shaking. so it wasn't really pulling a sickie, but I did lie about why I wasn't in work. I was supposed to have a meetin...

Lyne · Lyne

Seems I'm having a rough couple of days, however I must examine, How Important is It? No one is dying.... I just learned that because of my good intentions to offer dinner to my son, dtr-in-law, and grandchild, I upset "the schedule" for the other grandma, and my 7yr old granddaughter had a melt-down....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about taking the time to notice and enjoy things we like. The author shares that their favorite time of day was early morning, but after years of living with an active alcoholic, they seemed to be consumed by one crisis or another from the time they woke to the tim...

Lyne · Lyne

Today I plan to discuss several issues with my grown son. I actually have anxiety, and I don't want to have it. There is no reason to have it. Nothing bad is going to happen, and I believe this is left over trauma from childhood. With all my tools and progress my rational mind says how ridiculous I am to...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

How I feel or what I should feel because I'm pretty blank at the moment. Emotional lights are on however just not feeling it at the moment. I do know I felt a little shock when my kiddo told me. My XAH had back surgery last Nov and proceeded to give me the whole diatribe about how he had to have blood work do...

lookingup · lookingup

this writer talks about speaking at a alanon meeting their fears of everything being perfect ,when arriving at this meeting finding that nothing was perfect ,the secretary was a substitute who had not the right scripts,everything that could go wron g did go wrong, he or she soon felt right at home,hi...

WestMan · WestMan

Had a meeting with my boss yesterday. I'm getting the message that my current position is ending. Nothing happening in the next 60 days but it is definitely going away. I've known this would likely happen as it was originally a temporary assignment that continued long past its expiration date. But, I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses how alcoholism is a family disease and like other diseases, there are symptoms. For the alcoholic, mood changes and blackouts are two examples. For friends and family, symptoms similar to the drinkers might include obsession, anxiety, anger, deni...

andromeda · andromeda

I'm sure I've posted about this before but I would to hear solid program thoughts on acceptance. I'm struggling big time with it and I now have AA's acceptance prayer programmed into my phone, emailed it to myself, posted on my computer.......you all get the point. I keep wanting things to be somethi...

Rough Rider · Rough Rider

My wife and I went to our first meeting tonight. It was at a local church. We got there on time only to find a sign on the door that the meeting was cancelled. After quickly checking my phone, I found another one 10 city miles away. It took a while, but we got there with 30 minutes left in the meeting. The mee...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Without breaking anonymity I can say that my neighbor I'd struggling w the disease of alcoholism. She had been to meetings . She didn't realize that her father was an alcohoic who died & also her husband as well. Anyway she wasn't sure about the meetings but asked me about them About me I saw that t...

el-cee · el-cee

I'm 6yrs in alanon this month and I wanted to thank the people here for being here and sharing the message. I look back and see how today my life is completely changed. I've changed and continue to want to change and grow. Alanon the people and the program has given me hope, there is help and guidance and th...

Workingmama · Workingmama

Im not totally clear on how this site work. I have been afraid to go to a local meeting. We live in a small town and I dont know how to respect and protect my spouse while finding a support network for myself. does anyone have advice there? Are there sponsors in Alanon? My spouse is no longer drinking but t...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses back to basics. Many of us who have wished, prayed and hoped for sobriety in our loved ones may have new 'life' concerns when/if recovery happens in our A. Many of us are dismayed when sobriety does not bring the happily-ever-after ending we've wanted and waited for. With...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

Hi everyone, it's been a while since I've posted. Life with the A has been cyclical. He tries to not drink but eventually he starts (he thinks) "sneaking" bottles or cans when I'm at work, then the effusive personality when he has a plan set to get a 12-pack, the loud and/or angry drunk, then the remorsef...

courage101 · courage101

As my schedule changed 3 months ago, the daily meetings in the chat room here do not always have a chair person. Anyone is welcome to step up and hold a morning or night meeting. Usually 6 months of face-to-face meetings are required before chairing online. The meeting scripts are available at http://...

Donehurting · Donehurting

DUH! It's her drinking. Causes so many problems. But we can't talk about it? I've been in Al-Anon since Nov. and cannot wrap my head around this. She's been in AA since Nov. Sober for 3 months then thinks she can drink moderatly. Needless to say she's been wasted many times since... even after an AA meeti...

StarryAmmo · StarryAmmo

I'm only 3 months into my Al anon journey. My AH has not started his journey toward sobriety. I'm still learning how to handle situations and set Healthy Boundaries. This is what I've set into play so far. 1. I will do what I can to stop the drinking and driving. Every morning before he takes me to work I hav...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello All- I apologize for not writing in last Sunday. I completely forgot! I woke up in the middle of the night realizing I forgot. I hope everyone enjoyed their day and the week since... I will get back to the daily this coming Sunday! Mary

Bo · Bo

I remember saying to my sponsor, how I was feeling better, really felt a lot of improvement, had a much better perspective and attitude, and so on. As we were talking about it, I said to him, but I am going to a lot of meetings, feeling somewhat that as I was feeling so good, I shouldn't have had to go to so man...

serenity47 · serenity47

I have always been one to jump in and try to fix situations and respond in the heat of the moment. I wanted to have everything aired out and tied up all neat and pretty. I would get bent out of shape and ruminate in my head again and again all the possible worst case scenarios that could happen if I didn't mak...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I hope everyone enjoyed their easter weekend in whatever way you chose to celebrate it. I worked every day of it. I'm not complaining. I'm grateful to still have a job to go to. I work as a part-time attendant in a transition home for men in recovery from addictions. Whenever one of them completes our pro...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is another beautiful morning! It is going to be another beautiful day! I have a feeling that it is just beginning. The fact is I am starting to change my sleep patterns. I feel more rested than I have been awhile.I iI really owe it to God & this program for getting this far. For that I am grateful.

Lyne · Lyne

Be gently with yourself: The writer learned that it is important to be kind to herself, especially when she was doing poorly. She said it is much easier to be gentle with herself when doing well. She said she feared that she would turn into a slug if she wasn't constantly pushing herself. But she lea...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Pre Alanon for me everything was urgent and it better be addressed right then .. it didn't matter how big or how small. There would be stuff that was just straight up stupid .. in terms of how important is it, or things that were important however waiting is a more appropriate response or just not respon...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Good morning all and a Good Friday also. Higher Power was setting up my day for me today which I never mind cause my HP is much more imaginative and alert than I ever have been. I needed to take the van down to the dealer to get a tire problem fixed and got the alert that it would not be free so I went into my r...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

What I am referring to is a spouse who is in the process of a divorce who "wants to be friends," whose working a recovery plan, but just can't seem to realize the amount of pain they have caused in their SO. I am about to enter the final phase of the divorce process - we've just finished the 30 day reply to summ...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Could not forget the MIP family on this day...getting ready to attend the AA at the Bay Easter Feaster (really!!)...after the meeting we will feast on the menu and each others ESH. This is a long lasting tradition for a meeting founded by both AA and Al-Anon over 25 years ago. Just heard from a trave...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

My AH set himself a timeline. X is the last day he is drinking. I dont even know what to think.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I was hoping that someone would write something about the C2C hope for today or the ODAT? I wanted to comment on the C2C for today March 31st but I won't because I did read it but I don't remember the whole thing! Have a great Easter weekend & the joy of Spring!

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	Hope for Today apr 15 (Preview) Hello everyone- Todays reading is about the concept of detachment. When I first began hearing about the idea of detachment, it seemed cold and maybe even cruel to detach- from people. I wasnt able to do it. I began to realize that it is possible to detach from a persons behavior/addiction without cea...	yanksfan51	3	579	Apr 15, 2018 by Jerry F
	This twisted disease (Preview) I hate it so much. I want it out my life. I want peace from the ugliness of alcoholism. I'm so worried about my son's drinking. Its getting worse. He can be and is verbally abusive to his gf. He's angry when sober and takes it out on her and her daughter. On the other side of that it's clear to see he loves them b...	el-cee	9	580	Apr 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	Business meeting alanon chat room on Sat, 4-14 8 PM and follow up on meeting (Preview) Hi allTanin posted a message to the Business section regarding a business meeting. In case you missed it I have copied it below-- See you there To All MIP Members:We need to have a business meeting to discuss and decide issues of funding of the MIP forums and chat room hosting We have a couple of de...	hotrod	1	1137	Apr 14, 2018 by hotrod
	Feeling a bit low (Preview) I felt like I was making some good progress with the programme. Things were starting to feel much better than they have for a long time. But this last couple of weeks I've been feeling more low. ABF is back up to his old tricks again. I'm tired out and not handling it well. A friend is visiting tomorrow...	Lil99	12	629	Apr 14, 2018 by LinSC
	Sharing about real-time events (Preview) Trying something new for me - writing about real-time events. I'm afraid normally. I'm afraid of people judging me negatively, also kind of afraid of people thinking of me positively, because I don't like my arrogance that raises its head royally above everyone else now and again. I'm having commun...	Aline	12	725	Apr 14, 2018 by Aline
	It's been 4 days (Preview) since we asked our son to leave and got the restraining order. I fluctuate from feeling AWESOMELY FREE and SAFE from his violence to HORRIBLY GUILTY and FEARFUL of a possible revenge attack. Last night I found I was very triggered by driving alone in the dark. I had to pick up my daughter at school afte...	themoonandthestars	3	516	Apr 14, 2018 by serenity47
	C2C Reading 4-14-2018 (Preview) I am posting the daily for Looiking Up, who is under tornado watch. Prayers that she stays safe. The C2C reading for April 14 discusses our negative thinking and suggests ways of addressing it. The reading points out that awareness of the negative thoughts is the first step towards change. It sugg...	hotrod	2	507	Apr 14, 2018 by Stan1
	One more weird observation about my gut reactions.... (Preview) I have been busying myself with an organizational project. This requires me to go through mountains of old paperwork and pictures. As I sort through these pictures I find myself looking at the ones of our AS with thoughts of "this was BEFORE he got sick" or "Look at his eyes. All lies." I feel so ANGRY tow...	themoonandthestars	2	535	Apr 14, 2018 by Dutchy
	Courage to Change 4/13/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about considering change(s) to how we respond to situations today. Kindness is suggested as a goal instead of defensiveness or disrespect. It goes on the discuss relationships and how complicated they are simply because people are complicated. We all h...	Iamhere	10	637	Apr 14, 2018 by Iamhere
	In Sickness and in Health (Preview) I am new here. I have been to a few AlAnon meetings in person and people were supportive, at the moment I'm in the middle of some counselling and can't attend a meeting in person but may go back afterwards. So I thought I'd join online. I am separated from my husband who is a recovering alcoholic who atten...	Rose L	13	742	Apr 13, 2018 by Bo
	Courage to Change 4/12/18 (Preview) "Grant me patience, Lord -- and hurry!" This is a quote from today's reading, which discusses that most of us want a quick fix or an immediate solution to difficult situations. Some situations have been ongoing for years, yet we want a solution in one day or even shorter. When it's not resolved when...	Iamhere	6	520	Apr 12, 2018 by Dutchy
	Sad Story .. (Preview) When I was at my last job in my little town there was a man my age who was hired around the same time as I was .. I already knew the guy had 3 red flags all alcohol related .. I saw some other behaviors while I was still there and knew that at some point it was going to not well, as in he had a temper when he was not sobe...	SerenityRUS	5	697	Apr 12, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Craving a normal life (Preview) My friend just announced she's pregnant. I am at home, alone, again, as the ABF is again AWOL, hasn't been off the alcohol for more than a couple of days for 9 weeks. I've come a long way in how I react to his drinking. I now won't message him to ask where he is. I don't get mad when he comes in. I'm so jealou...	MizzB	10	660	Apr 12, 2018 by Bo
	Thankful for this opportunity Adult-Child New Member (Preview) I just started attending alanon meetings less than a month ago, and it has already left an indelible impact on my day to day life. My husband noticed right away and was effusive with praise by how quickly I took to making real changes in the management of my emotions. I'm able to control my need to control...	CharBronte	6	1102	Apr 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	Explaining Al-Anon (Preview) Hi Everyone- I have been a grateful member of Al-Anon for 1 year. Lately, it has become apparent to me that I still have a hard time talking about Al-Anon with my husband. It took me several weeks of going initially before I told him that I was going and over the course of the past year, it has become a big...	CBell	8	697	Apr 11, 2018 by CBell
	18 months has gone by since my last post and (Preview) Unfortunately its worse than ever. Back in the winter of 2016/2017 I lost internet access. I was able to get a new computer a few weeks ago. If anyone remembers, my qualifiers are my identical twins on the spectrum. It has been a hellish ride since my last post culminating with a very scary, unprovoked...	themoonandthestars	9	657	Apr 11, 2018 by el-cee
	Courage to Change April 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about why we continue to attend AlAnon meetings and engage with the program through the years. The author shares that without help, living or having lived with an alcoholic is too much for them. They recognize a need for help in maintaining a ration...	Skorpi	2	709	Apr 11, 2018 by Iamhere
	New and lost (Preview) My 18yr old son is an addict. He got clean for 8 months and a month ago relapsed. I attended my fist meeting last week and will be going back. I just feel like everything i do is wrong. I have not allowed him to stay at my house while he is using. So hard to do, but im at a loss. I saw him today and he does not even loo...	Bamagrl	6	608	Apr 11, 2018 by Lyne
	More information of course .. (Preview) I am letting this go because this is my XAH and this is exactly who he is .. lol .. and I have to take ownership in the fact I have scared him so bad I'm sure whatever cahona's he was growing back left him yet again. I believe that is set 3 that have now been added to the vault. So after the wife texting my kid who...	SerenityRUS	2	594	Apr 10, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	swing! (Preview) The weather was favorable so I got on my swing! Yipee! Really Good thing. Serenity & peaceful!	Hoot Nanny	5	460	Apr 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	Wow, time passes too fast! (Preview) Hi everyone. It's been a long time! I finally made my trip to visit my kids, granddaughter, and mom for a month+! Of course when I got home I am still playing catch up inside and out too now that the weather has a few warm days. I have to get a few acres planted and help finish a fence we are in the process of putt...	Tude	7	573	Apr 10, 2018 by Tude
	Quick question (Preview) Hi, Has anyone tried individual therapy? Is it better to see someone who is experienced in alanon stuff or is a general therapist effective? I've tried therapy before for unrelated things (depression mostly) with mixed results. I'm determined to stay off chemical interventions unless absolute...	MizzB	10	632	Apr 10, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	When you're praying .... (Preview) please add my daughter Celeste's name to your list if you care to...after a bout of shortness of breath and then a doctors visit they found a blood clot around her heart and or lungs...she is now in exploratory surgery and I am 7 thousand miles off her bed side. She is worth the prayers so as you care and r...	Jerry F	11	519	Apr 10, 2018 by Jerry F
	I never had it so good, thanks to recovery (Preview) I am winging it because I don't have my reading glasses. Huge font! I am so grateful. I have been blessed beyond measure. There is something about live one day at a time! I find my wrist bands help. You see I am using the wrist bands to remind me when I start future-tripping, I can look & even snap it a lit...	Hoot Nanny	4	542	Apr 10, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	ODAT Reading 4-10-18 (Preview) The ODAT reading for April 10 speaks about our attitudes and suggests new tools to help us grow.The reading asks the question, what am I really looking for in life? Is it interesting activities,? to meet my obligations to family or do I want to make myself into the kind of person I will enjoy being wi...	hotrod	2	476	Apr 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	C2C, 4/9 (Preview) Detachment with indifference: The writer says that detachment came easy for him, but not with love, with indifference. In Alanon he learned to feel safe enough to feel his feelings. He also learned that he was more than his feelings, and he could see the alcoholic as more than his or her disease. H...	Lyne	8	630	Apr 9, 2018 by Jerry F
	Completely lost at this point (Preview) I am a mom of one, and another on the way. My boyfriend and I seem like we have a perfect life from the outside... So perfect that his parents were "unaware" of his drinking problem. We have been in our newly built house for a little over a year, I just began my own small business and he works in construction....	WorkingMom	5	643	Apr 9, 2018 by Iamhere
	Apr 8 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning All: Todays reading is about the decision making process and its difficulty for some of us. The writer describes an uncomfortable situation when a group conscience decision is being made, and how decisions in general have been difficult because of the extremes learned as a child (fat...	yanksfan51	8	523	Apr 8, 2018 by hotrod
	Being deeply blessed (Preview) It is Merrie Monarch time and that term represents a King (kalakaua) who lived in the past and loved deeply our music and dance...(mele and hula). I love it as deeply as he did and this annual event brings joy and elation to my heart. It is over 55 years and has now captured the participation of other cu...	Jerry F	7	505	Apr 8, 2018 by hotrod
	Saying bye to negative thoughts? (Preview) Hi, MIP family.These past days Im trying to redirect my thinking to more pleasant things often. I see how Im so used to negative thinking its like I dont know how to live without it. It seems maybe it doesnt really matter all that much what it is that Im thinking as long as its doom and gloom, and self-criti...	Aline	9	663	Apr 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	Still on the not-so-merry-go-round (Preview) Hey, So, it's been a while. I've been reading but not in a mental state to talk. Last week was really bad. My work pressure got so much I pulled a sickie. Except I was having panic attacks and shaking. so it wasn't really pulling a sickie, but I did lie about why I wasn't in work. I was supposed to have a meetin...	MizzB	10	636	Apr 8, 2018 by DavidG
	Dont want to hold onto guilt (Preview) Seems I'm having a rough couple of days, however I must examine, How Important is It? No one is dying.... I just learned that because of my good intentions to offer dinner to my son, dtr-in-law, and grandchild, I upset "the schedule" for the other grandma, and my 7yr old granddaughter had a melt-down....	Lyne	6	629	Apr 8, 2018 by Stan1
	Courage to Change April 4 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about taking the time to notice and enjoy things we like. The author shares that their favorite time of day was early morning, but after years of living with an active alcoholic, they seemed to be consumed by one crisis or another from the time they woke to the tim...	Skorpi	5	749	Apr 7, 2018 by bud
	scared (Preview) Today I plan to discuss several issues with my grown son. I actually have anxiety, and I don't want to have it. There is no reason to have it. Nothing bad is going to happen, and I believe this is left over trauma from childhood. With all my tools and progress my rational mind says how ridiculous I am to...	Lyne	9	620	Apr 7, 2018 by bud
	Not sure .. (Preview) How I feel or what I should feel because I'm pretty blank at the moment. Emotional lights are on however just not feeling it at the moment. I do know I felt a little shock when my kiddo told me. My XAH had back surgery last Nov and proceeded to give me the whole diatribe about how he had to have blood work do...	SerenityRUS	30	863	Apr 7, 2018 by Iamhere
	4/7 ctc (Preview) this writer talks about speaking at a alanon meeting their fears of everything being perfect ,when arriving at this meeting finding that nothing was perfect ,the secretary was a substitute who had not the right scripts,everything that could go wron g did go wrong, he or she soon felt right at home,hi...	lookingup	4	475	Apr 7, 2018 by lookingup
	Off Track and Struggling ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Had a meeting with my boss yesterday. I'm getting the message that my current position is ending. Nothing happening in the next 60 days but it is definitely going away. I've known this would likely happen as it was originally a temporary assignment that continued long past its expiration date. But, I...	WestMan	44	1642	Apr 6, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 4/6/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses how alcoholism is a family disease and like other diseases, there are symptoms. For the alcoholic, mood changes and blackouts are two examples. For friends and family, symptoms similar to the drinkers might include obsession, anxiety, anger, deni...	Iamhere	2	545	Apr 6, 2018 by DavidG
	Acceptance (Preview) I'm sure I've posted about this before but I would to hear solid program thoughts on acceptance. I'm struggling big time with it and I now have AA's acceptance prayer programmed into my phone, emailed it to myself, posted on my computer.......you all get the point. I keep wanting things to be somethi...	andromeda	8	724	Apr 6, 2018 by Bo
	First Meeting (Preview) My wife and I went to our first meeting tonight. It was at a local church. We got there on time only to find a sign on the door that the meeting was cancelled. After quickly checking my phone, I found another one 10 city miles away. It took a while, but we got there with 30 minutes left in the meeting. The mee...	Rough Rider	18	704	Apr 6, 2018 by Bo
	my neighbor (Preview) Without breaking anonymity I can say that my neighbor I'd struggling w the disease of alcoholism. She had been to meetings . She didn't realize that her father was an alcohoic who died & also her husband as well. Anyway she wasn't sure about the meetings but asked me about them About me I saw that t...	Hoot Nanny	3	603	Apr 5, 2018 by WestMan
	Changed life (Preview) I'm 6yrs in alanon this month and I wanted to thank the people here for being here and sharing the message. I look back and see how today my life is completely changed. I've changed and continue to want to change and grow. Alanon the people and the program has given me hope, there is help and guidance and th...	el-cee	5	544	Apr 5, 2018 by Iamhere
	Not Sure Where to Start (Preview) Im not totally clear on how this site work. I have been afraid to go to a local meeting. We live in a small town and I dont know how to respect and protect my spouse while finding a support network for myself. does anyone have advice there? Are there sponsors in Alanon? My spouse is no longer drinking but t...	Workingmama	7	662	Apr 5, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 4/5/18 (Preview) Today's reading discusses back to basics. Many of us who have wished, prayed and hoped for sobriety in our loved ones may have new 'life' concerns when/if recovery happens in our A. Many of us are dismayed when sobriety does not bring the happily-ever-after ending we've wanted and waited for. With...	Iamhere	0	460	Apr 5, 2018 by Iamhere
	Some ESH would be great (Preview) Hi everyone, it's been a while since I've posted. Life with the A has been cyclical. He tries to not drink but eventually he starts (he thinks) "sneaking" bottles or cans when I'm at work, then the effusive personality when he has a plan set to get a 12-pack, the loud and/or angry drunk, then the remorsef...	Paloma Negra	2	607	Apr 5, 2018 by Skorpi
	Chat room service positions available (Preview) As my schedule changed 3 months ago, the daily meetings in the chat room here do not always have a chair person. Anyone is welcome to step up and hold a morning or night meeting. Usually 6 months of face-to-face meetings are required before chairing online. The meeting scripts are available at http://...	courage101	1	479	Apr 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	The Elephant in the Room (Preview) DUH! It's her drinking. Causes so many problems. But we can't talk about it? I've been in Al-Anon since Nov. and cannot wrap my head around this. She's been in AA since Nov. Sober for 3 months then thinks she can drink moderatly. Needless to say she's been wasted many times since... even after an AA meeti...	Donehurting	7	669	Apr 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Need Insight: AH wants to Vacation without me (Preview) I'm only 3 months into my Al anon journey. My AH has not started his journey toward sobriety. I'm still learning how to handle situations and set Healthy Boundaries. This is what I've set into play so far. 1. I will do what I can to stop the drinking and driving. Every morning before he takes me to work I hav...	StarryAmmo	30	917	Apr 4, 2018 by Donehurting
	Sun Apr 1 (Preview) Hello All- I apologize for not writing in last Sunday. I completely forgot! I woke up in the middle of the night realizing I forgot. I hope everyone enjoyed their day and the week since... I will get back to the daily this coming Sunday! Mary	yanksfan51	1	467	Apr 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Meeting makers make it... (Preview) I remember saying to my sponsor, how I was feeling better, really felt a lot of improvement, had a much better perspective and attitude, and so on. As we were talking about it, I said to him, but I am going to a lot of meetings, feeling somewhat that as I was feeling so good, I shouldn't have had to go to so man...	Bo	6	610	Apr 3, 2018 by Aline
	Practicing the Pause (Preview) I have always been one to jump in and try to fix situations and respond in the heat of the moment. I wanted to have everything aired out and tied up all neat and pretty. I would get bent out of shape and ruminate in my head again and again all the possible worst case scenarios that could happen if I didn't mak...	serenity47	5	721	Apr 3, 2018 by Lyne
	Gratitude (Preview) I hope everyone enjoyed their easter weekend in whatever way you chose to celebrate it. I worked every day of it. I'm not complaining. I'm grateful to still have a job to go to. I work as a part-time attendant in a transition home for men in recovery from addictions. Whenever one of them completes our pro...	Wolfie55	4	558	Apr 2, 2018 by Bo
	beautiful morning! (Preview) It is another beautiful morning! It is going to be another beautiful day! I have a feeling that it is just beginning. The fact is I am starting to change my sleep patterns. I feel more rested than I have been awhile.I iI really owe it to God & this program for getting this far. For that I am grateful.	Hoot Nanny	8	563	Apr 2, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	C2C, 4/2 (Preview) Be gently with yourself: The writer learned that it is important to be kind to herself, especially when she was doing poorly. She said it is much easier to be gentle with herself when doing well. She said she feared that she would turn into a slug if she wasn't constantly pushing herself. But she lea...	Lyne	5	608	Apr 2, 2018 by Iamhere
	Timing (Preview) Pre Alanon for me everything was urgent and it better be addressed right then .. it didn't matter how big or how small. There would be stuff that was just straight up stupid .. in terms of how important is it, or things that were important however waiting is a more appropriate response or just not respon...	SerenityRUS	7	613	Apr 2, 2018 by hiraeth
	HP working it with me... (Preview) Good morning all and a Good Friday also. Higher Power was setting up my day for me today which I never mind cause my HP is much more imaginative and alert than I ever have been. I needed to take the van down to the dealer to get a tire problem fixed and got the alert that it would not be free so I went into my r...	Jerry F	7	573	Apr 2, 2018 by hiraeth
	Can Anyone Relate? (Preview) What I am referring to is a spouse who is in the process of a divorce who "wants to be friends," whose working a recovery plan, but just can't seem to realize the amount of pain they have caused in their SO. I am about to enter the final phase of the divorce process - we've just finished the 30 day reply to summ...	PosiesandPuppies	8	706	Apr 2, 2018 by hiraeth
	Happy peace of mind and serenity Easter from Hilo HI. (Preview) Could not forget the MIP family on this day...getting ready to attend the AA at the Bay Easter Feaster (really!!)...after the meeting we will feast on the menu and each others ESH. This is a long lasting tradition for a meeting founded by both AA and Al-Anon over 25 years ago. Just heard from a trave...	Jerry F	3	657	Apr 1, 2018 by Iamhere
	Setting timelines (Preview) My AH set himself a timeline. X is the last day he is drinking. I dont even know what to think.	Ann_Y	4	493	Apr 1, 2018 by Bo
	what happened to the dailies meditation? (Preview) I was hoping that someone would write something about the C2C hope for today or the ODAT? I wanted to comment on the C2C for today March 31st but I won't because I did read it but I don't remember the whole thing! Have a great Easter weekend & the joy of Spring!	Hoot Nanny	2	497	Mar 31, 2018 by Iamhere
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