The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Be gently with yourself: The writer learned that it is important to be kind to herself, especially when she was doing poorly. She said it is much easier to be gentle with herself when doing well. She said she feared that she would turn into a slug if she wasn't constantly pushing herself. But she learned with her 4th step that it wasn't so. She tries to pay attention to "Easy Does it," and doesn't want to make her own life unmanageable.
Today's Reminder: "Easy Does It" suggests not only that I lean to slow down, but also that I learn to lighten up. Today I will strive to take a more accepting attitude toward myself and to enjoy the day, regardless of what I achieve.
Quote from This is Alanon: Improving our own attitudes, and our own state of mind, takes time. Haste and impatience can only defeat our purposes.
For me, this is a very important reminder of how to treat myself with respect, which I wasn't taught early in life. It took a long time to learn that it was OK not to accomplish everything I thought I would take care of in one day. I don't think I felt I deserved to not be "perfect." But I never was, and therefore that in itself if a set up for failure. I am grateful I can accept my shortcomings, failures, and positives! Progress not perfection one day at a time, Lyne
It is the perfect one for me today. I had posted about some bothersome things over the weekend, and I am beginning to see that it was me trying to insert my will... and when that didn't work, I was losing my serenity. In this case I really think I need to embrace "Easy Does It," and especially "Lighten Up." It may not always be comfortable where I am "at" at the moment, but if I just keep a mantra of 'Easy Does It,' I can understand that it's OK to not be perfectly comfortable right now.
__________________
"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
POST EDITED TO MOVE AND JOIN THE TWO FOR THE DAY!!!
My apologies to whomever posts on Mondays -- I am sharing just because we've gone 2 days without and I am in need!
Today's reading talks about Easy Does It. The writer shares that this slogan is very helpful when struggling with her day, and she tries to slow down and consider she might be right on schedule instead of jumping to being wrong. The reading talks about treating ourselves in a gentle manner both when things are going well and also when one is struggling.
When we are struggling, many of us find that by pushing for our will/way, we end up inviting trouble. Most of us tend to be hard on ourselves, making our own lives unmanageable. Thus - this might result in less forward progress than if we'd just taking it easy and choose a gentle approach to self in the first place.
Today's reminder -- "Easy does it" suggests not only that I learn to slow down, but also that I learn to lighten up. Today, I will strive to take a more accepting attitude toward myself and to enjoy the day, regardless of what I achieve.
Today's quote -- "Improving our own attitudes and our own state of mind takes time. Haste and impatience can only defeat our purposes." from This Is Al-Anon
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Easy Does It for me simply reminds me to flow with the day instead of forcing my will/way. I am one who was very impatient with 'life' and always tried to impose solutions to issues in haste. I had this faulty thinking that suggested having all the answers, and solving all problems with my will elevated me above others in intellect and life. Needless to say, my thinking was warped, faulty and unrealistic.
Recovery has shown me that being happy is far better than being right. Allowing myself and others to live and learn each day is a more peaceful journey. And, when I feel/see or am told that I'm trying to 'force solutions' instead of relying on a power greater than I, Easy Does It reminds me the answers always come, the path will unfold and I am not alone.
I do the best I can to practice this program each day in some way. Literature, meetings, phone calls, step work, etc. - making a plan to touch my recovery each day helps keep my disease at bay. Like the alcoholic, we are never cured from the affects, but we can live a better way, and learn to find peace in what's working well around us instead of what's not.
Happy Monday MIP family - make it a great day! It's darn cold here - very unusual for April! Stay safe if you're in the path of the crazy weather!!
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Good Morning IAH and Thank You for C2C reminder and for your service. I too needed to calm my impatient thoughts and clear my thinking to make room to enjoy the day. Through steps I have found that I am a problem solver. Define Who, When, What, Where and How is the problem and fix it now. What I didn't understand was I tended to write a whole editorial and publish it and it wasn't a Biography. I will always be willing to learn something new and the writing I'm working on is how to Live and Let Live. It is a crisp and sunny day here and pup and I are going for a stroll.
__________________
HES
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I just want to say thank you IAH for posting this morning. You already know that I was concerned about missing the last two posts. I am grateful but u do struggle.
__________________
Hoot Nanny
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Lyne for your service - my apologies for jumping the 'gun'! I did also post but have merged the two together. Better two than none - or so my brain says....(((Hugs)))
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
