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Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, I received this in the mail today: ME Sitting in his room is driving me wild.. I feel nothing but hurt and lonliness.. I sit in the corner like a little child, who 's been caught makint a mess. Why is that I can do nothing right? Why do I hurt the one's I love.. ...

MdmDragonfly · MdmDragonfly

I have not posted here in a while. I've read the boards, but kept to myself ... not really sure why, just wanted to stay in the back ground. My A, if anyone remembers, went to rehab 6 months ago, came home, and went to the bar on my birthday. He sobered back up, got his 3 month chip from AA, then disapp...

Messy · Messy

Well... here I am... stuck wondering what to do. I love him but I am not sure I can live like this much longer. Living pay check to pay check because our money is spent at the bar and liqour store. I want to stay but I want to go. I want him to chose me over his buddies and h...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, it has been awhile. Lots has gone on, but the fact still remains, my husband is still an A and I am still affected. Some of you know where I was a year ago when I found this room. Sad, Confused (thus the nick), scared, the list goes on and on. Well I am in...

Becky1 · Becky1

This has been a really hard thing for me. I am a "natural hover-er" as is my mother, trying to control everyone and everything around her. My AH has been made to attend Domestic Violence classes thru the court, due to a lot of stuff that happened almost 2 years ago, and most recently last D...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((((((You Know Who))))))))))))))))))))))))(lol) Ally has a good friend in the room, kinda like a soulmate, she has not saw in a while. So this is just a wee note to say, Im thinking about you, Hoping you are doing well,And Please get in touch with me. (I is Missing You) (private...

Orchid Lady · Orchid Lady

Hello all, We all know the terrible times, the pain and hopeless that living with a Alcoholic can cause. So I was hoping we could share some of the good things that have come about by using Al-anon, this website and believing in our HP. I for one am feeling hope, moments of joy and more securi...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

"Sometimes the choices I make are not as important as the fact that I make them." Hope for Today, pg. 341 ((((Everyone)))) At my F2F meeting this was read, we were discussing the 11th step. It was an important meeting for me -- the day before I went to the Attorney's office. I was blown a...

doxie · doxie

Oh gosh, that subject line sounds so dramatic and I don't feel particularly dramatic......

I just wanted to let you all know how it is going here. I have been kinda absent, which actually has been a good thing. Not because this is a bad place, but because things have been going unbelievable we...

Tryin2havfaith · Tryin2havfaith

Everyone says it is useless to talk to As. My ex even recently told me this. I don't quite grasp this entirely. I rarely drink, and have rarely gone overboard when I do. I've never had a blackout, so we'll not bother with that, I understand a blackout is a blackout. Does drinking caus...

hudsond · hudsond

Just received this through my e-mail--thought it was a really nice story. I hope you enjoy. The author is unknown. P.U.S.H. A man was sleeping one night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light, and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, the realtor is getting concerned that the buyers are paying all this money for inspections etc. and we won't be able to contact him to sign the papers. The closing attorney said I would have to file a lawsuit in order to get the right to sell the house without him. He said it would be long and costly. I...

just me · just me

Hi all! I am having a very difficult time with my ex-AH and his behavior regarding visitation with our 5 yr old daughter and the legal system. Basically to make a long story short we divorced after an extremely nasty proceeding in which he accused me of many terrible things like drug addiction...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am going to be busy all week next week working every single day. The A is trying to put a spin on how sad it is his mother is not around to cook thanksgiving for him and his brother. Every year he went off to his mother's for thanksgiving. He could care less what I did. He neve...

sld488 · sld488

I had an accident at work and all the red tape to get workers comp. has been a nightmare. Here it is a month later, I'm still in pain, not working, and with no income. I was suppose to get married last month, but we had another huge arguement about my son and now we are separated. My son and I are livin...

Gailey · Gailey

OK...tomorrow morning is my first meeting with my sponser outside of a f2f Alanon meeting. I am not sure what to expect. She is very easy to talk to but I am not sure I should ask her questions about her personal life or am I suppose to just let her ask me questions about mine. I don't know whether it will be...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Part of my recovery includes dealing with some financial demons of the past. I have worked to get many of my past debts cleaned up one at a time as I cannot do them all at one time. I returned a call from the guarantor of my student loan which I have been making sporadic payments to. I rea...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) In working with my sponser I have begun to look at sanity and what that means to me and what sanity looks like now. The only point of reference I have to gauge myself on is life before the A. My life looked very different then. I was single, had a good job, my own apar...

hudsond · hudsond

O.k. not like audible voices--just those that keep telling me--I am not satisfied with things in my life, I am not important, I am lonely, I am fat, this is not the way my life was suppose to end up, watch out your husband has had 3 sober months but you know things for you can't go good so you know something is...

marmare · marmare

I accepted the job I was offered and already don't like it, after working just two days. There is a lot of down time and no customer contact. I had a hard time telling my A. I didn't want to see ungrateful, because I am grateful that I am employed. I had to work this out in my mind I g...

maire rua · maire rua

Today I have practised setting boundaries, in small things, like refusing to allow people to do what they like in the work environment that I am responsible for. In some ways I am paying for it with snide jokes and bullying behaviour which I am also calling up on. For instance, what do you mean by that is w...

Rita G · Rita G

Please keep me in your thoughts & prayers tonight - 6:00 (CST), as I will be sharing my story of recovery at my home group meeting, again. The person that was suppose to share reschedule to December, so I'm filling in for him tonight. It seems that my HP has been calling me to do this severa...

serendipity · serendipity

my best friend had a baby on tuesday. she is nursing right now. i nursed all of my babies and i am her biggest support as far as that goes. but i have a feeling that she is not going to stick with it. i don't really care, he's not my baby and it really doesn't impact my life one way or the other. but i am so annoyed t...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

We are only having polite conversations in my home right now. I am trying not to have any expectations and this has helped reduce my daily disappointment regarding this state of living. Because we are in this state of limbo, I do not want to go to a wedding this weekend with him. It is...

afmom03 · afmom03

No Title Yet!! (Sigh) I'd like to write a book~But I'll just do this poem~About a whole lot of things~That you haven't been knowin'~Like how I feel~and what I think~If you can't change your life~I'll be gone in a blink~I've learned so much about your disease~From an Al-Anon group~On o...

arty · arty

...as i read everyone elses posts ive got tears streaming down my face as i feel so devastated that i am going thru this pain in my life. and i find it extremely unfair that we all seem SOOOO caring, yet is is just one sided as our A's seem to be plain selfish. i have my good days when i feel real...

laurab · laurab

I don't know when I am enabling my A son or when I'm helping as I should. Here's where we are: I just lost thousands because I signed a mortgage for him and his wife and they stopped paying and I sold the house for thousands less (my money)than was owed. His wife is living with her boyfriend but calling m...

barisax · barisax

The topic of therapy comes up frequently - here as well as f2f meetings. Without discussing details, I've been there done that. One reason I am not doing it now is because I don't have a therapy goal. I think it's important to have one. Unlike the program, therapy is for a very limited time - 50 minute...

Tryin2havfaith · Tryin2havfaith

Had a really great day today, for no apparent reason! Enjoyed and appreciated it just the same! The A called and left messages twice. I called him back. Someone had told him that I had been in town all week (I was there for a few hours Mon.). I have a good idea who that was.&nbs...

rosemary · rosemary

Hi all, I am new here. I've been married 6 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He says "functioning alcoholic". I told him this weekend the dead line is January 31, 2007 for him to stop drinking. If he doesn't stop I am seeking divorce. I have never been to Al anon, so I don't know...

laurab · laurab

I feel so terrrible today. It is as if My A son is lost in the wilderness, in a big fog and I can't reach him. I know I am doing the right thing for me and my husband and my A son. He has plans for abandoning everything except his dog and going to Florida. He is selling his car that is...

jenfish · jenfish

I am new to this forum. I need help. My husband who i married August 5 has turned into a monster. I have always known that he drinks a lot. And in the past 6 months I have realized that he is an angry, crazy drunk. He makes up stuff in his head and just tries to fight with me. When he is drunk he destroys our house a...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, My Abf and I are breaking up. I have a new place to live and move next week. I have no option. He has been living a crazy ahcohol and drug fuelled life recently, and I am able to take no more. I know I am doing the right thing. I feel strong that I have finally put my plans in place. Last nigh...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I got back to the house, I really honestly don't have any friends here that I can call on to help me out. I went in first and had the kids wait in the car. I found out that he had stolen cash and a leather jacket from me. It could have been worse. He did leave some cash. I called my sponsor and then called the...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Look I will never love anyone like I love you, but as you said this is it, I just can't deal with what will come form now on. So I would like to arrange a time and place to see my kids for the last time. I am taking my check and going to mexico or Canada. I do not have the ability to see you with someone else or to see s...

Mom · Mom

I'm learning. New to Alanon. Attended 6 f2f meetings in 4 days. Then told my son that I would no longer send $, only continue to pay for school, apt, utilities. We got into it, he raved, I raved back. I know he is doing better (than before), but still not willing to work, a...

nmike · nmike

Well, it would be great if something went well but that is not how life works. Work sucks. I got into it with a co-worker. Our relationship resembles a bad alcoholic marriage. I think at times it is down right abusive. I thought that I went thru the proper line of authority and wouldn't you know that I got b...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Well the birthday has come and gone... nobody died. LOL We have daily contact since she picks up our 11 yr old from school every day. We hook up so I can take him home after work. For a few weeks it was some good and some bad meetings. Now it has gotten whe...

lebe27 · lebe27

Can't get into chat. Keeps disconnecting me and saying I am blacklisted. What happenened? How can that be? I don't understand what I am to do? HELP.

maresie2 · maresie2

a huge part of my getting away from the A is financial. I got myself into a tremendous financial mire with him cost me thousands of dollars. I will stay in the financial mire if I don't get out I am sure of it. I have been looking for work for a long long time. I have recently...

lilms · lilms

The pastor entered his donkey in a race and it won. The pastor was so pleased with the donkey that he entered it in the race again, and it won again. The local paper read: PASTOR'S ASS OUT FRONT. The Bishop was so upset with this kind of publicity that he ordered the pastor not to enter the donkey...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, As I posted recently my hubby just got back from Alaska on Wednesday. We had a great week together. I was able to see how charming he is, how attentive he is, and remembered why it is that I am so in love with him. Tonight he called to see when I would be home so that he could have dinner waiting. I go...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi Rosemary, I tried clicking on your post to read it, but for some reason I kept getting an error page! Anyway, welcome to MIP. I hope you find experience, strength and hope here. It's a great place to come home to! Kathi

laurab · laurab

Help!!!! 2 days ago my A son decided to move to Florida, new place, new friends etc. He will take his dog and some stuff and drive from NY. He has a sober friend he can stay with till he gets settled. He has been driving without a license for months. The Problem: His car is registered to my h...

Maria123 · Maria123

(((((((((((MyTrina)))))))))))))),

Happy Birthday to you!

Happy Birthday dear Trina!

Happy Birthday to you!!!!!!! You're still such a young babe and have a lllllllllllooooooonnnnnn...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

Hi - I haven't posted for a long time, but here I am again. I have these questions and I simply can't figure out the answers. I hope I can phrase them correctly to get across what I really need to say. First of all, I know I can't live with this man forever, and I also know that he's not going to c...

arty · arty

im trying my hardest not to angry with my A when he breaks his promises...i know that if the alcohol wasnt controlling him he would keep his word. So how does one get over the fact that promises get broken? At the moment i am choosing to write this than have an arguement. But i am boiling on the inside. i...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I went out and got the protection order today even though I have no idea where to serve him. Now I feel so guilty. Nevermind that he broke into my house and stole food out of my children's mouths. Nevermind the fact that he said he was going to file for divorce and wanted joint custod...

jaja · jaja

Lately my A comes off as is if I'm the one who has a problem which maybe I do - I am co-dependant, after all - but so does he! He's an alcoholic!!! He goes to AA again now ( starting 2 mos.or so ago) and he knows I'm back in Al-Anon. But he acts like h...

maresie2 · maresie2

Both the A and his brother have significant substance abuse issues. When the A's mother decided out of the blue to move out and go marry some guy several states away she didn't think twice about kicking the A's older brother out to live on his own. Right now the older brother is showi...

jaja · jaja

barisax · barisax

When I first joined this forum, I made a post about this being more "in the trenches" than the f2f meetings I normally attend. More newcomers, more people in the thick of things, and posting a blow-by-blow like an embedded reporter. I have been in these rooms long enough to have seen and heard much o...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

You said earlier on one of your posts that your attorney made it so you could be solely responsible for selling the house. What was the process for this? Our house has an offer and we have both signed the contract but I don't think he'll show for the closing and that will kill the deal! ...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A has already started on the trying to manipulate me for Thanksgiving stuff. He has been saying how low his brother is. Every year since I got together with the A they all spent thanksigivng with his mother. At some point I opted out of that because I felt resentment o...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone)))) I have started on Step Two in my stepwork, and have realized that it is such a big deal.... "Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity"... This whole year has been one giant glob of insanity, insanity from the alcoholic in my life, insanity...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Hi All Feeling pretty good this AM. I have been waiting for my AH to break the polite silence that we have been living with ( for 2 weeks) since he returned from his vacation. I been waiting for a kind word or acknowledgement that my feelings were hurt by his actions before he left. W...

maresie2 · maresie2

Last night I watched a documentary on HBO "Thin". I thought it was pretty riveting stuff. One of the huge issues the women confront is the lies. That is one of my huge issues with the A everything is a lie. Another is their rebelliousness and inability to follow...

Gailey · Gailey

As I have posted this before...I am addicted to food...especially sugar. It has made my life unmanageable and miserable. I have even tried, by self will, to give it up. I would say to myself if I can get off the rollercoaster of binge eating, then maybe I will have more hope for my A son. The cravings a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) It's been so long since I trusted people's motives for being kind. I somehow got used to being treated special either before a bad incident or after one that I no longer trusted anyone's motives for doing something nice. Over the last year I have worked hard giving up&nb...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have talked before about the truck that is registered in both my husband's and my name. It is in the impound from his recent dui. I am tired of paying insurance on it and know that the payments for it will not get made. I'm not even sure if he's going to get it out of the impound. W...

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	A poem From An Addict (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, I received this in the mail today: ME Sitting in his room is driving me wild.. I feel nothing but hurt and lonliness.. I sit in the corner like a little child, who 's been caught makint a mess. Why is that I can do nothing right? Why do I hurt the one's I love.. ...	Andrea12	5	360	Nov 19, 2006 by annmarie
	I've reached MY rock bottom (Preview) I have not posted here in a while. I've read the boards, but kept to myself ... not really sure why, just wanted to stay in the back ground. My A, if anyone remembers, went to rehab 6 months ago, came home, and went to the bar on my birthday. He sobered back up, got his 3 month chip from AA, then disapp...	MdmDragonfly	6	512	Nov 18, 2006 by nmike
	When you love them - how do you let them go? (Preview) Well... here I am... stuck wondering what to do. I love him but I am not sure I can live like this much longer. Living pay check to pay check because our money is spent at the bar and liqour store. I want to stay but I want to go. I want him to chose me over his buddies and h...	Messy	5	458	Nov 18, 2006 by nmike
	my growth and the gifts of the program (Preview) Hi everyone, it has been awhile. Lots has gone on, but the fact still remains, my husband is still an A and I am still affected. Some of you know where I was a year ago when I found this room. Sad, Confused (thus the nick), scared, the list goes on and on. Well I am in...	confused	3	556	Nov 18, 2006 by carosie
	Working on Detachment (Preview) This has been a really hard thing for me. I am a "natural hover-er" as is my mother, trying to control everyone and everything around her. My AH has been made to attend Domestic Violence classes thru the court, due to a lot of stuff that happened almost 2 years ago, and most recently last D...	Becky1	2	255	Nov 18, 2006 by rtexas
	Ally's Friend (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((((You Know Who))))))))))))))))))))))))(lol) Ally has a good friend in the room, kinda like a soulmate, she has not saw in a while. So this is just a wee note to say, Im thinking about you, Hoping you are doing well,And Please get in touch with me. (I is Missing You) (private...	ally	0	231	Nov 18, 2006 by ally
	Share Positive Stories (Preview) Hello all, We all know the terrible times, the pain and hopeless that living with a Alcoholic can cause. So I was hoping we could share some of the good things that have come about by using Al-anon, this website and believing in our HP. I for one am feeling hope, moments of joy and more securi...	Orchid Lady	9	555	Nov 18, 2006 by Jennifer
	Angry and confused (Preview) "Sometimes the choices I make are not as important as the fact that I make them." Hope for Today, pg. 341 ((((Everyone)))) At my F2F meeting this was read, we were discussing the 11th step. It was an important meeting for me -- the day before I went to the Attorney's office. I was blown a...	Lunamoth	8	473	Nov 18, 2006 by Andrea12
	Life after A/son home from prison (Preview) Oh gosh, that subject line sounds so dramatic and I don't feel particularly dramatic...... I just wanted to let you all know how it is going here. I have been kinda absent, which actually has been a good thing. Not because this is a bad place, but because things have been going unbelievable we...	doxie	7	380	Nov 18, 2006 by Andrea12
	Useless to talk to As (Preview) Everyone says it is useless to talk to As. My ex even recently told me this. I don't quite grasp this entirely. I rarely drink, and have rarely gone overboard when I do. I've never had a blackout, so we'll not bother with that, I understand a blackout is a blackout. Does drinking caus...	Tryin2havfaith	8	468	Nov 18, 2006 by Tryin2havfaith
	P.U.S.H. (Preview) Just received this through my e-mail--thought it was a really nice story. I hope you enjoy. The author is unknown. P.U.S.H. A man was sleeping one night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light, and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed...	hudsond	2	325	Nov 18, 2006 by afmom03
	Update again - long (Preview) Well, the realtor is getting concerned that the buyers are paying all this money for inspections etc. and we won't be able to contact him to sign the papers. The closing attorney said I would have to file a lawsuit in order to get the right to sell the house without him. He said it would be long and costly. I...	carolinagirl	4	415	Nov 17, 2006 by liza
	Dealing with ex-AH and kids (Preview) Hi all! I am having a very difficult time with my ex-AH and his behavior regarding visitation with our 5 yr old daughter and the legal system. Basically to make a long story short we divorced after an extremely nasty proceeding in which he accused me of many terrible things like drug addiction...	just me	8	1760	Nov 17, 2006 by carolinagirl
	getting better one day at a time (Preview) I am going to be busy all week next week working every single day. The A is trying to put a spin on how sad it is his mother is not around to cook thanksgiving for him and his brother. Every year he went off to his mother's for thanksgiving. He could care less what I did. He neve...	maresie2	1	256	Nov 17, 2006 by hersh
	starting over (Preview) I had an accident at work and all the red tape to get workers comp. has been a nightmare. Here it is a month later, I'm still in pain, not working, and with no income. I was suppose to get married last month, but we had another huge arguement about my son and now we are separated. My son and I are livin...	sld488	3	263	Nov 17, 2006 by maresie2
	My first one on one with my sponser (Preview) OK...tomorrow morning is my first meeting with my sponser outside of a f2f Alanon meeting. I am not sure what to expect. She is very easy to talk to but I am not sure I should ask her questions about her personal life or am I suppose to just let her ask me questions about mine. I don't know whether it will be...	Gailey	4	363	Nov 17, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Am I being unreasonable? (Preview) Part of my recovery includes dealing with some financial demons of the past. I have worked to get many of my past debts cleaned up one at a time as I cannot do them all at one time. I returned a call from the guarantor of my student loan which I have been making sporadic payments to. I rea...	AlaMom	4	394	Nov 17, 2006 by Christy
	What does sanity look like now? (Preview) (((Hello Group))) In working with my sponser I have begun to look at sanity and what that means to me and what sanity looks like now. The only point of reference I have to gauge myself on is life before the A. My life looked very different then. I was single, had a good job, my own apar...	twinmom2	5	868	Nov 17, 2006 by maresie2
	voices inside the head today (Preview) O.k. not like audible voices--just those that keep telling me--I am not satisfied with things in my life, I am not important, I am lonely, I am fat, this is not the way my life was suppose to end up, watch out your husband has had 3 sober months but you know things for you can't go good so you know something is...	hudsond	5	351	Nov 17, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Working on what "I" want (Preview) I accepted the job I was offered and already don't like it, after working just two days. There is a lot of down time and no customer contact. I had a hard time telling my A. I didn't want to see ungrateful, because I am grateful that I am employed. I had to work this out in my mind I g...	marmare	2	270	Nov 17, 2006 by Tiger2006
	establishing boundaries (Preview) Today I have practised setting boundaries, in small things, like refusing to allow people to do what they like in the work environment that I am responsible for. In some ways I am paying for it with snide jokes and bullying behaviour which I am also calling up on. For instance, what do you mean by that is w...	maire rua	2	408	Nov 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Speaker Meeting (Preview) Please keep me in your thoughts & prayers tonight - 6:00 (CST), as I will be sharing my story of recovery at my home group meeting, again. The person that was suppose to share reschedule to December, so I'm filling in for him tonight. It seems that my HP has been calling me to do this severa...	Rita G	7	363	Nov 17, 2006 by barisax
	what is wrong with me? (Preview) my best friend had a baby on tuesday. she is nursing right now. i nursed all of my babies and i am her biggest support as far as that goes. but i have a feeling that she is not going to stick with it. i don't really care, he's not my baby and it really doesn't impact my life one way or the other. but i am so annoyed t...	serendipity	4	391	Nov 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Don't want to go & need advise (Preview) We are only having polite conversations in my home right now. I am trying not to have any expectations and this has helped reduce my daily disappointment regarding this state of living. Because we are in this state of limbo, I do not want to go to a wedding this weekend with him. It is...	Elizabeth M	8	804	Nov 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Amazing/What happens at home alone/Writing/Thinking.... (Preview) No Title Yet!! (Sigh) I'd like to write a book~But I'll just do this poem~About a whole lot of things~That you haven't been knowin'~Like how I feel~and what I think~If you can't change your life~I'll be gone in a blink~I've learned so much about your disease~From an Al-Anon group~On o...	afmom03	3	303	Nov 17, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	i want to go to f2f meetings but... (Preview) ...as i read everyone elses posts ive got tears streaming down my face as i feel so devastated that i am going thru this pain in my life. and i find it extremely unfair that we all seem SOOOO caring, yet is is just one sided as our A's seem to be plain selfish. i have my good days when i feel real...	arty	11	427	Nov 17, 2006 by doxie
	good mom, bad mom (Preview) I don't know when I am enabling my A son or when I'm helping as I should. Here's where we are: I just lost thousands because I signed a mortgage for him and his wife and they stopped paying and I sold the house for thousands less (my money)than was owed. His wife is living with her boyfriend but calling m...	laurab	7	585	Nov 17, 2006 by doxie
	Therapy (Preview) The topic of therapy comes up frequently - here as well as f2f meetings. Without discussing details, I've been there done that. One reason I am not doing it now is because I don't have a therapy goal. I think it's important to have one. Unlike the program, therapy is for a very limited time - 50 minute...	barisax	9	444	Nov 16, 2006 by AndiLynn
	Just trying to process it all (Preview) Had a really great day today, for no apparent reason! Enjoyed and appreciated it just the same! The A called and left messages twice. I called him back. Someone had told him that I had been in town all week (I was there for a few hours Mon.). I have a good idea who that was.&nbs...	Tryin2havfaith	2	357	Nov 16, 2006 by Tryin2havfaith
	Hi, I am new! (Preview) Hi all, I am new here. I've been married 6 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He says "functioning alcoholic". I told him this weekend the dead line is January 31, 2007 for him to stop drinking. If he doesn't stop I am seeking divorce. I have never been to Al anon, so I don't know...	rosemary	10	449	Nov 16, 2006 by AndiLynn
	lost in a wilderness and I can't reach out (Preview) I feel so terrrible today. It is as if My A son is lost in the wilderness, in a big fog and I can't reach him. I know I am doing the right thing for me and my husband and my A son. He has plans for abandoning everything except his dog and going to Florida. He is selling his car that is...	laurab	4	456	Nov 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Too lonely for a newlywed... (Preview) I am new to this forum. I need help. My husband who i married August 5 has turned into a monster. I have always known that he drinks a lot. And in the past 6 months I have realized that he is an angry, crazy drunk. He makes up stuff in his head and just tries to fight with me. When he is drunk he destroys our house a...	jenfish	5	439	Nov 16, 2006 by maresie2
	feeling the guilt of breaking up (Preview) Hi everyone, My Abf and I are breaking up. I have a new place to live and move next week. I have no option. He has been living a crazy ahcohol and drug fuelled life recently, and I am able to take no more. I know I am doing the right thing. I feel strong that I have finally put my plans in place. Last nigh...	annmarie	7	454	Nov 16, 2006 by afmom03
	Update upon return from DC (Preview) Well, I got back to the house, I really honestly don't have any friends here that I can call on to help me out. I went in first and had the kids wait in the car. I found out that he had stolen cash and a leather jacket from me. It could have been worse. He did leave some cash. I called my sponsor and then called the...	carolinagirl	6	397	Nov 16, 2006 by Tiger2006
	The wonderful email I got from my loving husband today (Preview) Look I will never love anyone like I love you, but as you said this is it, I just can't deal with what will come form now on. So I would like to arrange a time and place to see my kids for the last time. I am taking my check and going to mexico or Canada. I do not have the ability to see you with someone else or to see s...	carolinagirl	8	428	Nov 16, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Lost my temper with my Ason (Preview) I'm learning. New to Alanon. Attended 6 f2f meetings in 4 days. Then told my son that I would no longer send $, only continue to pay for school, apt, utilities. We got into it, he raved, I raved back. I know he is doing better (than before), but still not willing to work, a...	Mom	8	313	Nov 16, 2006 by kabbie
	And then there is work. (Preview) Well, it would be great if something went well but that is not how life works. Work sucks. I got into it with a co-worker. Our relationship resembles a bad alcoholic marriage. I think at times it is down right abusive. I thought that I went thru the proper line of authority and wouldn't you know that I got b...	nmike	4	312	Nov 16, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Survived the B-day... (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Well the birthday has come and gone... nobody died. LOL We have daily contact since she picks up our 11 yr old from school every day. We hook up so I can take him home after work. For a few weeks it was some good and some bad meetings. Now it has gotten whe...	rtexas	4	347	Nov 16, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Help I am blacklisted (Preview) Can't get into chat. Keeps disconnecting me and saying I am blacklisted. What happenened? How can that be? I don't understand what I am to do? HELP.	lebe27	4	435	Nov 16, 2006 by lebe27
	got an interview tomorrow (Preview) a huge part of my getting away from the A is financial. I got myself into a tremendous financial mire with him cost me thousands of dollars. I will stay in the financial mire if I don't get out I am sure of it. I have been looking for work for a long long time. I have recently...	maresie2	9	417	Nov 16, 2006 by marmare
	Another reason for minding my own business (Preview) The pastor entered his donkey in a race and it won. The pastor was so pleased with the donkey that he entered it in the race again, and it won again. The local paper read: PASTOR'S ASS OUT FRONT. The Bishop was so upset with this kind of publicity that he ordered the pastor not to enter the donkey...	lilms	3	409	Nov 16, 2006 by Jennifer
	Getting too strong to watch him die (Preview) Hi all, As I posted recently my hubby just got back from Alaska on Wednesday. We had a great week together. I was able to see how charming he is, how attentive he is, and remembered why it is that I am so in love with him. Tonight he called to see when I would be home so that he could have dinner waiting. I go...	Dolphin123	18	537	Nov 16, 2006 by leo
	To Rosemary, who is new... (Preview) Hi Rosemary, I tried clicking on your post to read it, but for some reason I kept getting an error page! Anyway, welcome to MIP. I hope you find experience, strength and hope here. It's a great place to come home to! Kathi	lmt123	0	235	Nov 16, 2006 by lmt123
	caught between my husband and son (as usual) (Preview) Help!!!! 2 days ago my A son decided to move to Florida, new place, new friends etc. He will take his dog and some stuff and drive from NY. He has a sober friend he can stay with till he gets settled. He has been driving without a license for months. The Problem: His car is registered to my h...	laurab	19	594	Nov 16, 2006 by Noni
	HAPPY BIRTHDAY MASTIFF (Preview) (((((((((((MyTrina)))))))))))))), Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday dear Trina! Happy Birthday to you!!!!!!! You're still such a young babe and have a lllllllllllooooooonnnnnn...	Maria123	10	401	Nov 16, 2006 by Karilynn
	I have some important questions ... (Preview) Hi - I haven't posted for a long time, but here I am again. I have these questions and I simply can't figure out the answers. I hope I can phrase them correctly to get across what I really need to say. First of all, I know I can't live with this man forever, and I also know that he's not going to c...	HadEnuff	10	636	Nov 16, 2006 by Powerless
	dealing with the broken promises (Preview) im trying my hardest not to angry with my A when he breaks his promises...i know that if the alcohol wasnt controlling him he would keep his word. So how does one get over the fact that promises get broken? At the moment i am choosing to write this than have an arguement. But i am boiling on the inside. i...	arty	6	544	Nov 16, 2006 by arty
	Why do I feel so guilty? (Preview) So I went out and got the protection order today even though I have no idea where to serve him. Now I feel so guilty. Nevermind that he broke into my house and stole food out of my children's mouths. Nevermind the fact that he said he was going to file for divorce and wanted joint custod...	carolinagirl	6	439	Nov 16, 2006 by rosemary
	How do you tell if they r arrogant or if it's disease? (Preview) Lately my A comes off as is if I'm the one who has a problem which maybe I do - I am co-dependant, after all - but so does he! He's an alcoholic!!! He goes to AA again now ( starting 2 mos.or so ago) and he knows I'm back in Al-Anon. But he acts like h...	jaja	1	280	Nov 15, 2006 by maresie2
	watchiing people go down the toilet (Preview) Both the A and his brother have significant substance abuse issues. When the A's mother decided out of the blue to move out and go marry some guy several states away she didn't think twice about kicking the A's older brother out to live on his own. Right now the older brother is showi...	maresie2	7	354	Nov 15, 2006 by maresie2
	me and my big mouth (Preview)	jaja	4	331	Nov 15, 2006 by jaja
	The Irony (Preview) When I first joined this forum, I made a post about this being more "in the trenches" than the f2f meetings I normally attend. More newcomers, more people in the thick of things, and posting a blow-by-blow like an embedded reporter. I have been in these rooms long enough to have seen and heard much o...	barisax	4	309	Nov 15, 2006 by barisax
	ARTY!! I need your exper. (Preview) You said earlier on one of your posts that your attorney made it so you could be solely responsible for selling the house. What was the process for this? Our house has an offer and we have both signed the contract but I don't think he'll show for the closing and that will kill the deal! ...	carolinagirl	2	290	Nov 15, 2006 by carolinagirl
	Good news (Preview) The A has already started on the trying to manipulate me for Thanksgiving stuff. He has been saying how low his brother is. Every year since I got together with the A they all spent thanksigivng with his mother. At some point I opted out of that because I felt resentment o...	maresie2	3	287	Nov 15, 2006 by Gailey
	Really surrendering..... (Preview) (((Hi everyone)))) I have started on Step Two in my stepwork, and have realized that it is such a big deal.... "Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity"... This whole year has been one giant glob of insanity, insanity from the alcoholic in my life, insanity...	hersh	4	277	Nov 15, 2006 by hudsond
	No longer waiting (Preview) Hi All Feeling pretty good this AM. I have been waiting for my AH to break the polite silence that we have been living with ( for 2 weeks) since he returned from his vacation. I been waiting for a kind word or acknowledgement that my feelings were hurt by his actions before he left. W...	Elizabeth M	4	273	Nov 15, 2006 by hudsond
	documentary on HBO "thin" (Preview) Last night I watched a documentary on HBO "Thin". I thought it was pretty riveting stuff. One of the huge issues the women confront is the lies. That is one of my huge issues with the A everything is a lie. Another is their rebelliousness and inability to follow...	maresie2	1	585	Nov 15, 2006 by hudsond
	really understanding the craving (Preview) As I have posted this before...I am addicted to food...especially sugar. It has made my life unmanageable and miserable. I have even tried, by self will, to give it up. I would say to myself if I can get off the rollercoaster of binge eating, then maybe I will have more hope for my A son. The cravings a...	Gailey	3	342	Nov 15, 2006 by hersh
	Accepting kindess as I change so does my world (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) It's been so long since I trusted people's motives for being kind. I somehow got used to being treated special either before a bad incident or after one that I no longer trusted anyone's motives for doing something nice. Over the last year I have worked hard giving up&nb...	Jennifer	1	258	Nov 15, 2006 by hersh
	Legalities suggestions please!! (Preview) I have talked before about the truck that is registered in both my husband's and my name. It is in the impound from his recent dui. I am tired of paying insurance on it and know that the payments for it will not get made. I'm not even sure if he's going to get it out of the impound. W...	carolinagirl	4	498	Nov 15, 2006 by abbyal
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