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WHAT DID YOU "UNLEARN" WHEN YOU CAME INTO ALANON??
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For me I learned that things may not be as they seem,,thus I learned not to jump to conclusions, like I had always done in various areas of my life. The alcoholic had made me to the point where I didnt trust anyone anymore,including close friends and family members, so slowly I learned to trust again. I th...
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Update on my situation......
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I feel Stuck!
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I am feeling very stuck on a situation that came to me on Sunday November 26th. I do not know if I am feeling jealous, scared, worried, frustrated or what.... Here is the story. my AH and I have been separated since August. When we separated I found out through his son, (my step son) that AH turned to his ex w...
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Common topic here
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Always forgive your enemies --nothing annoys them so much. --Oscar Wilde
Letting Go
According to a Japanese legend, two monks were walking down the road when they saw a finely dressed young woman standing before a large mud puddle. She explained that she had no way of crossing the water withou...
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GONNA LOSE IT SOON!
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Well… I really hate my life right now and my depression is growing! Thanksgiving was uneventful, thank goodness, but I did not get out of bed for 3 days. I did not want to face the world; thank goodness my son was with his “father” for the weekend (son’s father – this is another story in itself!) &nb...
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Book Review "Inside My Heart"
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I recently checked out "Inside My Heart" by Robin McGraw. It is an easy read of about 200-230 pages. Helps us gals think about ourselves, knowing when we are right, trusting our intuition, being better choosers and pickers, having confidence, and standing up for ourselves.&nb...
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Where is my bottom, lol lol lol geez
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That did not come out like I meant it.
Anyway, well my time came to get rid of all Ah's stuff. I have everything down to his toothbrush for over 3 months isn't it?
Had a weak moment and sent a note to him via maybe where he says he is not staying. Right
Told him I would like to see him before I die. Had a coup...
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A little vent cuz I fell in the hole
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Hello ((((Everyone))))
Ugh ... a long story short, I listened to 7 hours of hysterical crying, wailing, yelling while my A was drunk. the phone rang and kaboom he went from happily singing at the top of his lungs to sobbing like I have never seen before .... seems his best friend also one of mine from ch...
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No longer participating in the Alcoholic's Lies
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I simply am not playing along any longer. Gosh, it makes the alcoholic so mad (as well as her enablers).
It's amazing, when you simply live in the real world. Honesty can be so foreign when you have been raised to play the alcoholic's game.
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VERY WORRIED NEED SOME TLC
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Hi all,a little recap,h got depression,started drinking ,had the worst time of my life,threw him out may,since then he has been living in a salvation army refuge,been attending AA although i dont think regular,getting good councilling,i believe he has not been drinking for at least 10 wks,his who...
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Last night I had an AHA moment!!!!
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I was laying in bed last night watching tv. As I was laying there a negative thought came to my mind about my A son. It wasn't anything that actually happened but it was a moment of projecting something happening. As this thought was passing through me I got that feeling in my stomach...you know that feel...
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POSTING - - - JUST DO IT
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(((((((((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))))))))))
I have been doing a lot of posting the last few weeks, sharing and answering. Something Is encouraging me to do It. It seems a good idea at the time,(lol), I am getting some satisfaction from this, as well as getting rid of things fr...
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First time here...My Story...need advice
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Wow, I have a long long story, so I will try to make it as short as possible. I will tell you about 3 or 4 incidents, but there are 50 or 60 in between these ones believe me!
My boyfriend has had a drinking and drug problem for many many years. He lost a marriage over it already and has a 9 year old son he d...
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Getting jobs done
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Here it is, almost the end of November and winter snow will soon arrive and the tons of oak leaves that cover our very large hilly yard have not been picked up. Most years I raked and bagged them myself just to get it done before the snow came but this year I'm having back problems and to...
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the topic is dealing with my self
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Hi every one,my problem is dealing with my self
i have a problem with a women she in AA too like me,we would have fight on line
but i wanted her love she would never give it to me and we would argu
and get mad at each other and i would take her out of my ims
but she would keep taking me back and post t...
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Service worker
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Wow....I can't believe I have posted 500 times. It has been a great journey of personal discovery. I wanted to thank my al-anon online family for helping me find my way!
Hope you all have a wonderful holiday season!
Yours in recovery,
J...
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Snoopy on personality
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From my experience, what some call personality disorders are the symptoms of being an Addict. When they don't use, they still have the symptoms of aism.
Aism is NOT the product of an mental disorder. There are clearly genetic markers that show a person is an addict and or has the potential to be one. I...
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New to this...need advice
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Hey everyone, I am coming to this board because of my mother-in-law and her alcoholism. Since I've known her she has always been an alcoholic and I have had to deal with her for about 4 years...nothing compared to the nearly 10 that my husband has had to go through. She was sober for most of his childhood u... >
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How to trust again
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My AH has been sober since September 3/06. We are both going to therapy, alanon, AA, and church. Things are falling into place but I have a hard time trusting his word. When he was drinking he would break promises, do things that he said he would never do but did anway. I want to trust him on an issue that he s...
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Update on my situation......
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Update on my situation......  
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dealing with my self
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i have a problem want love from a person who say they dont love me,i feel it might have some to do with my dad i was always trying to get him to love me even up to the day he die,
i thought the person was in this morning meeting,i try to talk to this person when the meeting was over but she would not talk to me it ma...
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In a lot of pain
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New to this site...not to Alanon. I am in need of a meeting for experience, strength and hope to get through a painful divorce. My heart feels like it is going to explode inside my chest. I have to go, there really is no other option but I hurt so bad today I can hardly breath.
Please share with me, M...
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Daughter in danger......
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Hi All,
As you may remember I have an AH, we have set boundaries, he has his own house where he can go when he drinks, when he is sober he is welcome to spend time with me and our 3 children - it works for us.
My latest worry is my 15yo daughter who has (I just learned) been drinking alot. She dr...
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my anger and my fears
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I am still having a hard time with this insanity and craziness of the disease. Why the lies, why the provoking of fear and anxiety? I've had enough adn just want to let go of it all. I was away for the holiday and had a wonderful time with my family. My A did not want to go with me and...
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rough day
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H behaved like a total ass today, shouting at everybody. Later, he said he had a knot in his shoulder. I asked him if it matched the one he had been earning on his head. :) He apologized, realized he had missed his meds a couple days in a row. Sometimes, I think I should get myself...
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Thank You Friends
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Just wanted to post and thank all my dear friends who responded with such love to my "falling" post. I always know I can count on you to lift me up when I am feeling low. Your support and understanding mean the world to me.
We often use that phrase "what goes around, comes around" when talking about hur...
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Another Newbie Introduction
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Hello, my name is Elly and I am an Adult Child of an alcoholic.
He hasn't been in my life for 34 years now. But the effects of his alcoholism have been with me daily throughout my life. And, I've only now - in the last few weeks - discovered this!!!
I married and divorced an alcoholi...
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a home away from hell
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I sat down this morning to check up on the board and am overwhelmed at the love I feel here. We care so deeply for others and always have. It occurs to me that turning that kind of love IN is what has brought me the greatest joy. It has been the catalyst for all the love I am able to see around me now.
I finally c...
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Off Topic - Mr. Gobbles
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[img]http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/kismetstrand/album?.dir=fb91scd&.src=ph&store=&prodid=&.done=http%3a//pg.phot...
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Just an update on my sister's pic!
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Dear ALL,
I really appreciate your warm words...I didn't touch the picture and neither he did...I even decided to don't go into that room to avoid hurting myself...I will not touch it and will wait for him to clean up his actions! I am new in the fellowship and proud of my little thoughts and decisions...
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Just a quick question before he wakes up!
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Hi everyone...my A husband came back home drunk last night and without any argue I found my little sister's pic in pieces this morning (They have had some problems in the past)...what should be my reaction when he wakes up? it has really broken my heart...should I talk about it?leave the pieces right t...
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I'm a newby... thought I'd introduce myself:)
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This is my first time to visit this site, and so far the topics seem very helpful. My fiance is an alcoholic and drug addict:( The first year of us dating he was sober. I actually met him when he had been 6 months sober. So I was never introduced to "B" the addict. Until recently that is. After a year and a half...
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newbie
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Hi. Just looking for some ways to get through. My AH and I have been together for 8 years. We have 3 kids, I am a fulltime student (graduating with my Associate in Arts in 3 weeks!) and I am really praying hard I can tolerate him until I can find a job that will support me & the kids. He is outside in his "man cave...
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Giving Thanks
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Hello Family,
Here I am. This is my 3rd Thanksgiving as a grateful member of Al-Anon and my 3rd Thanksgiving with all of you here at Miracles in Progress. I cannot believe it has been this long already. I also can't believe its only been that long...if you catch my drifting.. .
That firs...
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Advice needed
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I'm struggling with step 4. It fills me with fear because I don't know where to start. I don't know 'exactly' what to do or how to do it. (but I know I need to)
Can somebody please give me a push in the right direction?
Overwhelmed Elly
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Why Analyze?
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Alcoholism is a form of insanity. The second step alludes to this. While alcoholism is frequently compared to other diseases like diabetes, when it comes to sanity, alcoholism (an drug addiction) defy logic when it comes to the behavior of the person afflicted. Diabetes can be measured by several m...
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It was just TOO funny...
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RAMSEY, N.J. - Some wild turkeys, it appears, were trying to get out of New Jersey before Thanksgiving Day. A spokesman for the NJ Transit said train officials reported a dozen or so wild turkeys waiting on a station platform in Ramsey, about 20 miles northwest of New York City, on Wednesday afternoon...
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My Thanksgiving Anagram
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Happy Thanksgiving to all my roomies. I am so very glad to have you in my life. Isn't it hard to believe I wasn't here last Thanksgiving? It is for me, it seems I've been here forever, because that's how much you mean to me. Here is my Thanksgiving anagram:
Truly Happy
Heartfelt Compassion
Ascendi...
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HAPPY TURKEY DAY!!!!!!!
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Hello Friends,
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you....it is a day to reflect......to look at what we have to
be thankful for.....I have my kids...that is what I am being Thankful for today......I am not alone.....
Let's all take a moment and say a prayer for all of those out there who are suffer...
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Scratching the holiday to do something I feel good about
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The holidays around my house are difficult for me. We have two sons one is an A/da and the other doesn't want anything to do with the A/da. Not that I could get them in the same town anyway and the one that is clean never comes around. The last few years we have had to invite ourselves to h...
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Thank You All and Happy Thanksgiving
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I wanted to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving and to thank everyone for being here. I did an ABC Gratitude list last night of all my alanon family... the list was incredible! It helped me to see that I was NOT alone (I am only as alone as I allow myself be). I am glad that my life is incorporated within this g...
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Thanksgiving Poem
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Count your blessings instead of your crosses; Count your gains instead of your losses. Count your joys instead of your woes; Count your friends instead of your foes. Count your smiles instead of your tears; Count your courage instead of your fears. Count your full years instead of your lean; Count yo...
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HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL!
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I have only been on this board for a week and I already feel like... hey I can do this... I can feel sane again. I may not know any of by name or know what you look like, but my gosh do I feel like I belong to a family! In these 5 days home life has not been grand... but I look forward to coming here ever...
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Happy Thanksgiving from a grateful Canadian
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(((((((((((((((MIP FAMILY))))))))))))))))))
Happy Thanksgiving to my American family. I love and appreciate all of you and hope you have the best holiday ever.
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I'm thankful for
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My families, biological, chosen, and Alanon.
My health and sanity.
My Sully and the memories of my Jasper.
The quiet peaceful day I will have today.
For finding the parts of myself I had lost.
All of the small blessings my HP gives me everyday.
I hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving!...
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THANKS in a different light
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Hello my dear family,
I want to offer to you all, for your wisdom, your guidance, your thoughts my interpretation of THANKS. I shared this at my f2f meeting this morning and was overwhelmed at how beautifully it was interpreted and expanded upon by all who were there.
Knowing that this time of year...
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I messed up
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Hi All, We're breaking up. I leave soon. He has been off with this drinking buddies every weekend for months now. Hardly even a call. He goes for days at a time. I have endured all the worry and all the rest. He just comes back when the money runs out. I feel sad, and yes I am resentful and feel used. I'm not han...
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Friday Night Meeting
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Hi all,
I am at work and don't have the link to contact all the other room OPs.
I am unable to chair on Friday the 24th. I will be away from my cpu and I thought I could swing it, but I won't be able to.
I hope all of my alanon family has a safe and happy Thanksgiving.
Yours in recovery,
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Happy Thanksgiving
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Happy Thanksgiving Y'all,
I get by with a lil help from my friends  http://www.jacquielawson.com/viewcard.asp?code=HY27482779
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HAPPY THANKSGIVING
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(((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))))
I am Scottish and dont know much about your Traditions(lol)
But I Just wanted to wish you all a HAPPY THANKSGIVING.
I know It brings all people together, families and what not, so ENJOY your day, and most Importantly, have FUN.
Safe dri...
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Let it begin with me
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If this appears twice, apologies.
This card fell off my table today and was staring me in the face, so I thought it meant I should share it for the holiday.
Since many friends and families of A's seem to find that these winter holidays trigger drama with the A, it will be good to...
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Falling (No Man/Woman Is An Island)
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I'm having a really hard time right now. My program tells me to be honest and say how I feel. I'm having a really hard time now. I know my slogans and tools. I know it is my choice whether or not to make it a good day. I know I can change my attitude. I know it works when I do. But I'm so tired. I'm so..... unhappy/h...
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Is Silently withdrawing another form of anger?
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By silently withdrawing into myself, isolating myself from others, I show anger in a passive way. I am: angry over some real or perceived offense. incapable of venting my anger openly and prefer to remain silent. afraid of an outburst of anger, afraid I'll be unable to stop. stuffing my feelings to st...
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RAVEN
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Raven,
if you are out there and want to talk please let me know....
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Re: gobble, gobble, gobble...
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Thanks to you all who shared what your plans are for Turkey Day! I hope everyone gets to rest a bit afterward. 
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Why can't I keep my mouth shut?
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What is wrong with me? Several times today I have critisized my AH in a way that I know is going to belittle him. First I told him his work wasn't getting the attention it needed. Then I told him his pants were dirty. Now I just asked him if he has a buzz!
I know these are such little things, but if they were...
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Another New Job
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Well the job I accepted last week was a job but not the best of jobs for me personally. I continued to work and pray for some guidance. I interviewed on Monday for a sales position. It was a great interview, lasted just over an hour. I was offered the position this morning and ac...
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gobble, gobble, gobble...
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Just wanted to wish everyone a safe and happy Thanksgiving! I also wanted to say that I am thankful for everyone of you beautiful, loving creatures here.
I am cooking this year as MIL is having knee problems. I decided to do it at the last minute (last week, LOL), so therefor...
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When Is It Overreacting?
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Last night my AH went to drop off something and came home three hours later. He wasn’t fall down drunk but wasn’t sober either. I was upset and stressed because we have been so distant lately and the previous 2 nights we had made baby steps trying to reconnect. Upset that he chose to s...
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It has started again UPDATE
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I just wanted to say thank you to EVERYONE here at MIP. Your responses to my crisis was wonderful and truly did help me. My AH showed up sometime yesterday while I was at work. When my 13 year old son got home, he was asleep in the den. By the time I got home w/my 4 year old daughter,...
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