Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bev · bev

he asked again tonite if i would buy him a circuler saw for him i said no,he has had 2 since last feb,and i told him i am not going to go and spend 150.00 on another one cuase he dont know how to take care of it..he got mad,he said fine i will take my pay checkand and go buy one, i said go ahead,like i told you...

gardengal · gardengal

Clearly a loved ones sobriety does not solve all our problems ,,,,nor does physical separation, or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by this family disease. In short, the effects of alcoholism---------- obs...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Ok, I don't do a lot of post but i do repley to others post....... I am in a place rightnow that I feel scared..... When I was working my program I felt really good until I got to step 9 about making amends now when I went over my list with my Sponsor I felt really good like a new person when I got done... Bu...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Tiger and BlueCloud have inspired me to explore how well I am dealing with what is acceptable to me. Then I ran across the mySpace page for a friend of mine because I lost track of his phone number. (You lose touch with folks when you bury your head in your A-spouses sa...

kerry5 · kerry5

Agenda for Sunday January 14th 2006 Group Business Meeting at 9pm est Old Business Newcomers Meeting SChedule New Business Mipathon Mip Donations If any of you have any new business to be added please let me know or reply to this post thanks kerry

dot · dot

Hi all - Just a reminder that our Business Meeting is Sunday, Jan 14 @ 9pm ET. Hopefully you in the west can join us. Love and hugs - Dot

Christy · Christy

We have had an Amber alert in the area since Monday for a missing 13 yr old boy. Tonight he was found. But that's not the whole miracle!!! They also found another child that had been missing for 4.5 yrs (2002) at the same apartment!!! This is so awesome!!!! He is now 15 yrs old and his paren...

sissy · sissy

I am trying to set new golas for this year. I get nervous about not being able to meet them. I actually met one last year. I really need to get my spending under control. Any suggestions Marsha

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

I went to a one on one counseling session last Friday. During which, I was asked if I believed my AH when he said he quit drinking. I had a very difficult time answering the question, and I realize it was not because I didn't know the answer to a simple question, but rather what the answer might mean f...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Charlie, my boyriend I told you about, who has an alcohol problem and I feel his whole family is "fake" to me, is taking a shower, and he said his neice is coming to pick him up in a little while. He said "xxxx you" and is actually leaving. He said he will be in a hotel for the night. He ca...

Rita G · Rita G

MIP family, I will be out of touch with all of you for a few weeks - having surgery tomorrow on my elbow. (More hurricane recovery - lol) I'll be unable to type for about 2-4 weeks. Hopefully if I heal fast, I can be back sooner than the full 4 weeks. Have to share this funny moment with you -...

lylaanju · lylaanju

Hi, in the 9 years that I have been with my husband, I have never see the disease progress the way I have in the last 2 months, particularly last night. He has been sober a lot of those 9 years, but in the last 3 yrs, only a few months at a time. Anyway, last night, for the first time, instead of feeling angry, bi...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't know what point I am at, excpet that I am just plain tired. My A goes out when he gets paid, without fail, the only time he does not go out is when he is broke, so I have just come to expcet he will be going to the bar when he is paid, until he is broke, anyway, I used to get mad, get an attitude, and we would ju...

Gailey · Gailey

Well this city of Baltimore is hopping today. Everywhere you look there is purple. The city is so excited about tomorrow's game against the Colts. I am not a football fan but I am caught up in all the excitement. I had a co-worker ask me to go to the game with h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

It is said that while we continue to change, it is worth remembering that WE are the ones changing, not our loved ones. As much as we want them to, we cannot force another to change, wish change upon them, or, in some other fashion, convince someone not willing to change to do so. As I embra...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

My husband hasn't had a drink for 15 days. We've talked more than I ever remember talking before - and it feels good. I don't know if it was smart to show my husband what I wrote in my first post here (along with everyone's comments), but I did. We really had a great talk after it.&nbs...

mama_nz · mama_nz

After deciding not to spend Christmas with my ex(A) I realised that the world didn't end and I am okay without him, and I had the peaceful Christmas I wanted. Then 2 days after Xmas he calls me and he wants to meet up to talk and so I go, and again he is telling me that he wants to tell me that he is going to...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Haven't had the energy to write lately...takes alot of energy to work this program. AH stayed out all night last night...this was a first for him..came home with a "could care less and I did nothing wrong " attitude. See the disease taking over...scary to watch. Wasted half the da...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I just wanted to post a special thank you to all who posted back to me, even though I am so wrapped up in myself that I cannot seem to post to too many others with issues, even if I can relate. I wanted you all to know that tonight is a gift from God. A very quiet night so far. I think he really realizes I do not fe...

Autumn118 · Autumn118

I'm new to the program & fell into it head first. I need help. Friday before Christmas found myself in family court receiving temp emergency custody of 6yr old granddaughter with endless emotional and behavioral problems. Going back to court Tues, other side of family is fi...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have had to work in training this week with a woman who is really stuck in the martyr role. I've had my own turn of course of doing that. I'm naturally loathe to admit I did it at work and in lots of relationships. Being around her has been a mixed blessing. On the one hand I can empathise with h...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I have a complaint that I have nothing to complain about. No drama to speak of going in my life. I guess I could turn a few things into drama if I give it the old college try. Why would I want to though? I am 29. For 27 of those years, I was a complainer. Anything and everyth...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

What is really hard for me is when he is on the phone with his "family", I have no access to my puter--line tied up due to phone call. Tried Verizon DSL and I could never get it to work. Ihaave suggessted that he get prepaid callphone such as NET 10,or Trac Phone. Now that is up to him. He got this...

daisygrl4 · daisygrl4

Hi all. Its been a while since I have posted. I again went back to the A in my life. For I would say the 100th time I was wrong to do so. Why I do this I still don't know. Anyway, my A is now away. It sorta happened so fast this time. Usually in the past 6 years ...

heather · heather

Hi my name is Heather and I am new to this message board thing. I have been in search of some release from my husband that is an addict. He hasn't drank or used for just about 2 years, but acts in rage at times; like he used to when he drank. I know it isn't my fault but when he is yelling I can...

debilyn · debilyn

Where is our Bad, bad Bill update dahling. love,debilyn

bev · bev

hi all,i have been a member of MIP for well over a year..and i see new members that have come on in dec and some before that,what i want to know is they r veteren members and senior members already and all i am is a plain old member.....can someone explain to me why this is,and why im not a senior member...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Friends)))))))), Been awhile since I've been able to post.....my new job is going really well, what a differance it is to be able to go to work and do your job and not have to put up with bull...lol.... I have calmed down some...was going a little wacko for awhile.....just realizing...

belle1 · belle1

Hi All I spoke with ally today and shes been real down since her internets been down, says to tell ya all shes missing everyone loads , and she has an engineer coming out on monday to find out what the prob is and to fix it hopefully. So hopefully she will be back with us all again come monday smiling as ev...

tea2 · tea2

Hello All, Just wanted to give a short update on my lil’ guy Scout. He was adopted out as soon as the shelter had him available. I am told it was to a wonderful home. I was hoping to say a proper goodbye. Tho now, I can move on and be grateful for what *is. T -- Edited by tea2 at 14:12, 2007-01-08

kerry5 · kerry5

I had to write this to you. I am in a very new place in my life, i am shocked really. Never before have i trusted myself. I lived most of my life and still do put down by every single person that i know face to face(no exageration). I have never trusted myself to make decisions i always need major reassu...

jaja · jaja

I hope I don't sound too stupid. A's are known for their lying - drunk or sober. How do we trust again without ever being leery again. Or do we? I mean they can apologize but they can't promise.. How do they earn trust again if they have violated it? Will we always wonder? I don't think that it will eve...

maresie2 · maresie2

My former employer has called me to say the check will probably be available tomorrow. I have faxed them to ask them to call me. I am through just giving them the benefit of the doubt. So hopefully I will have that paycheck this week. I am still so far from getting through plan b but that is o...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi all, My AW is 3 weeks sober, goes to her AA meetings and her counseling sessions with vigor.

She is back to work full time. I am helping pick up the slacks by picking up the kids, cooking, keeping house clean etc, while she goes to all her meetings. We joke around that I have b...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I cannot really stand my A's family. They are the kind of people you get an immediate sense they are fake--at least to me, which is why "All Hell Broke Loose", and his sister tried to attack me. However anytime he is on the phone with them I just can't keep my big mouth shut. I run my mouth so much he can't even...

Pippy · Pippy

I posted a topic "remind me" my boyfriend (maybe X) is in jail. I dont want him in my life like this. I will not take calls from him any longer. He is just to disrespectful and angry. He has talked with some of his friends though. Wow!!! I cant believe the denial and...

abryann · abryann

I'm trying to keep my spirits up, but things are so sad at home. My boyfriend is not doing well and it hurts my heart to see him. He hasn't been sober for an entire day since Christmas. I know that doesn't really seem like such a long time, but it feels like forever. ...

smpoli · smpoli

Howdy to all of my MIP family! I know it has been too long since I have been here and I really need to keep coming back and especially more often! I have been having several issues that I am battling with. My husband is still drinking and now in denial as to being an alcoholic. He had 10 yrs c...

maresie2 · maresie2

I feel like patience is something I just do not have so today I have had to do much much turning over to my HP. I have still not been paid by the hotel. It isn't that much money like $600 or something but when you have nothing every penny counts. The A is well aware of this he says and do...

exhausted · exhausted

Hello, I'm new to the forum and new to reaching out for help. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do or if i'm making the right decisions. Background: I've been married for 6 years to my wife, and have been together with her for 10. I'm 31 and she's 29. We spent our 20's partying every weekend, and worki...

Diva · Diva

Our membership here on MIP has passed 3000. Now that's a LOT of friends to have. Diva

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My A called me at work yesterday right at the beginning of a very important meeting and questioned me about why I had to go and then asked me to call him later so I did and... The subject of child support came up and he point blank asked me if I had filed the paperwork for support enforcement after he said I w...

ditto · ditto

I have started to date...actually, I've really only begun to think about dating. Everyone that I am meeting for a potential date has not really been acceptable to me. I am comfortable living alone right now. I am learning to feel comfortable with my isolation, although I know that is not heal...

Gailey · Gailey

Yesterday I started back to therapy with someone I have been seeing on and off for several years. She does a therapy that is called emdr (eye movement disensitation reprocessing). It is a type of therapy that helps you to connect to the things in the past that have caused your pain and reprocess them cor...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((((((MIP friends)))))))))))) Just wanted to thank everyone who responded and pm'd to my 'don't exist' post.I was soooo low that day and all the kind,warm responses really helped to bring me up and out of the pit.I went to work feeling like an empty,invisible,spirit but the night went well....

mawani · mawani

I am so stressed out at the moment and I know it is within my control but I just can't get a hold of it. I married an alcoholic who has been sober for about a year (six months when we married six months ago). Since then we've moved twice for him to pursue better jobs. Now in my third country within a year he h...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

My A's sister came to bring him foood tonight. He has been sick I spent most of the day at my neighbors house while he slept==he complained I never went to the store to get him all the crap he needs for his cold. I just couldn't do it. Alll I could do was sit on my neighbors house on the couch and talk and hang out...

maresie2 · maresie2

I don't want to make out my life is all doom and gloom. 3 months ago I found a friend just by chance. He is not someone I would normally call a friend. He has major major disability issues. This friend has turned out to be really "there" for me. In November they were availa...

kissers · kissers

My company laid off 12 employees today. Since I am new, I was given notice to terminate the end of February. At first I felt like HP will be opening a new door for me. Then I left work and the sadness hit. It will be interesting to see what HP has in mind for me. The funny thing is that I got the sense there was ins...

Klynn · Klynn

After the day I had yesterday I felt lost and hopless!!!! However this morning I read the Jan 10 page in the book I was given and it made me smile and realize I just gotta live TODAY!!!! I did!! There was NO arguing with our child about getting ready for school....it is normally a battl...

maresie2 · maresie2

I had a very difficult weekend with the A. He has stopped doing anything but play video games, watch TV and sleep. He hasn't changed his clothes in like a week. He has been at this place before of complete self indulgence and withdrawal. I always coaxed him out. I don't know what's wo...

Pippy · Pippy

Please give me some advice and a kick in the butt if needed. I am AA and Alanon. My boyfriend was in recovery and decided to try drinking again. It has been a living hell. Even though I knew better I stuck in there and helped him along. He was put in jail again for 30 d...

texsmama · texsmama

Hi all, I have just begun MY recovery and am learning a lot. Boy, let me tell you - reading your posts makes my mouth just drop wide open as that is MY life! I just wish for one moment, my A, DH, could be in my shoes to read what I am going through on a daily basis. A little about me, I have been married for 14 mo...

irish54 · irish54

Hi All!! Some of you will remember the past year and a half the battle I had with my daughter who was 16 and dating and "in love" with a 21 yr old on parole from prison. Then just this past December this same daughter who will be 18 this month moved out blaming me for all that trouble with that now 23 yr...

Fifi · Fifi

being relatively new to alanon, i am curious, what does "working the program" mean to you? i would love to hear some of your answers..... sharing all this ESH with you all has certainly worked wonders for me so far. i thank you for being here. love,fifi

CJ · CJ

God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear ((((Roomies))), I just completed the exercise suggested by Tiger (in her response to Carolinagirl's post on detachment). I am not sure I did the exercise completely correctly as described, but I want to share what I did and my results. I created two columns. In the first column I listed unac...

rita · rita

Hi to everyone, I'm writing to just have contact with someone. I am so lonely, I can't seem to find my God today. My A. is here, but that is no help. I just want a little human or spirtual company. Rita

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I went last night to my F2F meeting because it had been several weeks (holidays). When I got there it was obvious that it was the alateen meeting night, 1 a month is alateen. As most of you know I am TOTALLY alone here no friends no family. I have been having problems with my daughter's...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

As you can see, this is my first post..and I’m feeling anxious about it – perhaps fear of what might be said or what I must do (or not do). This is really long but I don’t know any other way to do this – and it’s a reflection of how I analyze everything. This is me- the long winded woman. ...

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	again he asked if i could buy him a new saw (Preview) he asked again tonite if i would buy him a circuler saw for him i said no,he has had 2 since last feb,and i told him i am not going to go and spend 150.00 on another one cuase he dont know how to take care of it..he got mad,he said fine i will take my pay checkand and go buy one, i said go ahead,like i told you...	bev	3	290	Jan 13, 2007 by debilyn
	Seeking solutions for ourselves (Preview) Clearly a loved ones sobriety does not solve all our problems ,,,,nor does physical separation, or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by this family disease. In short, the effects of alcoholism---------- obs...	gardengal	2	322	Jan 13, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Question of can you fall out of love with yourself???? (Preview) Ok, I don't do a lot of post but i do repley to others post....... I am in a place rightnow that I feel scared..... When I was working my program I felt really good until I got to step 9 about making amends now when I went over my list with my Sponsor I felt really good like a new person when I got done... Bu...	bubbles1990	3	345	Jan 13, 2007 by drucilla06
	Happiness isn't a goal... its a choice! (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Tiger and BlueCloud have inspired me to explore how well I am dealing with what is acceptable to me. Then I ran across the mySpace page for a friend of mine because I lost track of his phone number. (You lose touch with folks when you bury your head in your A-spouses sa...	rtexas	7	443	Jan 13, 2007 by aunitedway
	Business Meeting Agenda For Sunday JAnuary 14 (Preview) Agenda for Sunday January 14th 2006 Group Business Meeting at 9pm est Old Business Newcomers Meeting SChedule New Business Mipathon Mip Donations If any of you have any new business to be added please let me know or reply to this post thanks kerry	kerry5	0	280	Jan 13, 2007 by kerry5
	Group Business Meeting (Preview) Hi all - Just a reminder that our Business Meeting is Sunday, Jan 14 @ 9pm ET. Hopefully you in the west can join us. Love and hugs - Dot	dot	0	255	Jan 13, 2007 by dot
	WOOOOHOOOO!!!!! (Preview) We have had an Amber alert in the area since Monday for a missing 13 yr old boy. Tonight he was found. But that's not the whole miracle!!! They also found another child that had been missing for 4.5 yrs (2002) at the same apartment!!! This is so awesome!!!! He is now 15 yrs old and his paren...	Christy	8	418	Jan 13, 2007 by tea2
	Goals (Preview) I am trying to set new golas for this year. I get nervous about not being able to meet them. I actually met one last year. I really need to get my spending under control. Any suggestions Marsha	sissy	0	251	Jan 13, 2007 by sissy
	Letting go vs setting boundaries (Preview) I went to a one on one counseling session last Friday. During which, I was asked if I believed my AH when he said he quit drinking. I had a very difficult time answering the question, and I realize it was not because I didn't know the answer to a simple question, but rather what the answer might mean f...	DebiDeb	13	668	Jan 13, 2007 by lin0606
	My A is gone. Just left with his neice and all his stuff (Preview) Charlie, my boyriend I told you about, who has an alcohol problem and I feel his whole family is "fake" to me, is taking a shower, and he said his neice is coming to pick him up in a little while. He said "xxxx you" and is actually leaving. He said he will be in a hotel for the night. He ca...	hippietrippiechick	5	321	Jan 13, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Out for a few weeks (Preview) MIP family, I will be out of touch with all of you for a few weeks - having surgery tomorrow on my elbow. (More hurricane recovery - lol) I'll be unable to type for about 2-4 weeks. Hopefully if I heal fast, I can be back sooner than the full 4 weeks. Have to share this funny moment with you -...	Rita G	7	327	Jan 13, 2007 by aunitedway
	When will I be ready to change? (Preview) Hi, in the 9 years that I have been with my husband, I have never see the disease progress the way I have in the last 2 months, particularly last night. He has been sober a lot of those 9 years, but in the last 3 yrs, only a few months at a time. Anyway, last night, for the first time, instead of feeling angry, bi...	lylaanju	4	414	Jan 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	just tired (Preview) I don't know what point I am at, excpet that I am just plain tired. My A goes out when he gets paid, without fail, the only time he does not go out is when he is broke, so I have just come to expcet he will be going to the bar when he is paid, until he is broke, anyway, I used to get mad, get an attitude, and we would ju...	lilleah	2	347	Jan 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	Living in the purple city (Preview) Well this city of Baltimore is hopping today. Everywhere you look there is purple. The city is so excited about tomorrow's game against the Colts. I am not a football fan but I am caught up in all the excitement. I had a co-worker ask me to go to the game with h...	Gailey	6	429	Jan 13, 2007 by CJ
	New behaviors, old reactions (Preview) It is said that while we continue to change, it is worth remembering that WE are the ones changing, not our loved ones. As much as we want them to, we cannot force another to change, wish change upon them, or, in some other fashion, convince someone not willing to change to do so. As I embra...	Tiger2006	6	401	Jan 13, 2007 by Fifi
	He said...she said (Preview) My husband hasn't had a drink for 15 days. We've talked more than I ever remember talking before - and it feels good. I don't know if it was smart to show my husband what I wrote in my first post here (along with everyone's comments), but I did. We really had a great talk after it.&nbs...	DebiDeb	6	574	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Pity (Preview) After deciding not to spend Christmas with my ex(A) I realised that the world didn't end and I am okay without him, and I had the peaceful Christmas I wanted. Then 2 days after Xmas he calls me and he wants to meet up to talk and so I go, and again he is telling me that he wants to tell me that he is going to...	mama_nz	4	264	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Disease progressing (Preview) Haven't had the energy to write lately...takes alot of energy to work this program. AH stayed out all night last night...this was a first for him..came home with a "could care less and I did nothing wrong " attitude. See the disease taking over...scary to watch. Wasted half the da...	Elizabeth M	2	312	Jan 12, 2007 by AndiLynn
	A special thank you to everyone at (((((((((MIP)))))))) (Preview) I just wanted to post a special thank you to all who posted back to me, even though I am so wrapped up in myself that I cannot seem to post to too many others with issues, even if I can relate. I wanted you all to know that tonight is a gift from God. A very quiet night so far. I think he really realizes I do not fe...	hippietrippiechick	1	287	Jan 12, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Newbe who HAS to somehow let go.. (Preview) I'm new to the program & fell into it head first. I need help. Friday before Christmas found myself in family court receiving temp emergency custody of 6yr old granddaughter with endless emotional and behavioral problems. Going back to court Tues, other side of family is fi...	Autumn118	6	398	Jan 12, 2007 by Autumn118
	Being a Martyr (Preview) I have had to work in training this week with a woman who is really stuck in the martyr role. I've had my own turn of course of doing that. I'm naturally loathe to admit I did it at work and in lots of relationships. Being around her has been a mixed blessing. On the one hand I can empathise with h...	maresie2	1	494	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Complaint...... (Preview) I have a complaint that I have nothing to complain about. No drama to speak of going in my life. I guess I could turn a few things into drama if I give it the old college try. Why would I want to though? I am 29. For 27 of those years, I was a complainer. Anything and everyth...	ZiggyDoodles	5	359	Jan 12, 2007 by bubbles1990
	phone calls and needing to get online with you alll (Preview) What is really hard for me is when he is on the phone with his "family", I have no access to my puter--line tied up due to phone call. Tried Verizon DSL and I could never get it to work. Ihaave suggessted that he get prepaid callphone such as NET 10,or Trac Phone. Now that is up to him. He got this...	hippietrippiechick	12	437	Jan 12, 2007 by maresie2
	Do I stop talking? and a few more questions (Preview) Hi all. Its been a while since I have posted. I again went back to the A in my life. For I would say the 100th time I was wrong to do so. Why I do this I still don't know. Anyway, my A is now away. It sorta happened so fast this time. Usually in the past 6 years ...	daisygrl4	4	456	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	New to the board (Preview) Hi my name is Heather and I am new to this message board thing. I have been in search of some release from my husband that is an addict. He hasn't drank or used for just about 2 years, but acts in rage at times; like he used to when he drank. I know it isn't my fault but when he is yelling I can...	heather	9	442	Jan 12, 2007 by canadianguy
	DIVA!!? (Preview) Where is our Bad, bad Bill update dahling. love,debilyn	debilyn	32	865	Jan 12, 2007 by debilyn
	dont understand something{upset} (Preview) hi all,i have been a member of MIP for well over a year..and i see new members that have come on in dec and some before that,what i want to know is they r veteren members and senior members already and all i am is a plain old member.....can someone explain to me why this is,and why im not a senior member...	bev	3	495	Jan 12, 2007 by canadianguy
	Hello Friends (Preview) (((((((((Friends)))))))), Been awhile since I've been able to post.....my new job is going really well, what a differance it is to be able to go to work and do your job and not have to put up with bull...lol.... I have calmed down some...was going a little wacko for awhile.....just realizing...	Andrea12	10	418	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	RE:Ally (Preview) Hi All I spoke with ally today and shes been real down since her internets been down, says to tell ya all shes missing everyone loads , and she has an engineer coming out on monday to find out what the prob is and to fix it hopefully. So hopefully she will be back with us all again come monday smiling as ev...	belle1	1	293	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	Update On Scout (Preview) Hello All, Just wanted to give a short update on my lil’ guy Scout. He was adopted out as soon as the shelter had him available. I am told it was to a wonderful home. I was hoping to say a proper goodbye. Tho now, I can move on and be grateful for what is. T -- Edited by tea2 at 14:12, 2007-01-08*	tea2	10	474	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	John (Preview) I had to write this to you. I am in a very new place in my life, i am shocked really. Never before have i trusted myself. I lived most of my life and still do put down by every single person that i know face to face(no exageration). I have never trusted myself to make decisions i always need major reassu...	kerry5	4	394	Jan 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	how do they earn trust? (Preview) I hope I don't sound too stupid. A's are known for their lying - drunk or sober. How do we trust again without ever being leery again. Or do we? I mean they can apologize but they can't promise.. How do they earn trust again if they have violated it? Will we always wonder? I don't think that it will eve...	jaja	4	508	Jan 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	sticking it out (Preview) My former employer has called me to say the check will probably be available tomorrow. I have faxed them to ask them to call me. I am through just giving them the benefit of the doubt. So hopefully I will have that paycheck this week. I am still so far from getting through plan b but that is o...	maresie2	1	320	Jan 12, 2007 by annmarie
	Loss of Physical affection and intimacy (Preview) Hi all, My AW is 3 weeks sober, goes to her AA meetings and her counseling sessions with vigor. She is back to work full time. I am helping pick up the slacks by picking up the kids, cooking, keeping house clean etc, while she goes to all her meetings. We joke around that I have b...	Cucamonga	7	909	Jan 12, 2007 by abbyal
	I guess It may be really over. I get so defensive when he associates with his family---RAGE (Preview) I cannot really stand my A's family. They are the kind of people you get an immediate sense they are fake--at least to me, which is why "All Hell Broke Loose", and his sister tried to attack me. However anytime he is on the phone with them I just can't keep my big mouth shut. I run my mouth so much he can't even...	hippietrippiechick	7	521	Jan 12, 2007 by maresie2
	Never knew or forgot how mean someone can be (Preview) I posted a topic "remind me" my boyfriend (maybe X) is in jail. I dont want him in my life like this. I will not take calls from him any longer. He is just to disrespectful and angry. He has talked with some of his friends though. Wow!!! I cant believe the denial and...	Pippy	6	490	Jan 12, 2007 by Akasha
	So sad to watch (Preview) I'm trying to keep my spirits up, but things are so sad at home. My boyfriend is not doing well and it hurts my heart to see him. He hasn't been sober for an entire day since Christmas. I know that doesn't really seem like such a long time, but it feels like forever. ...	abryann	3	319	Jan 11, 2007 by ShelBell
	The starting of a new year (Preview) Howdy to all of my MIP family! I know it has been too long since I have been here and I really need to keep coming back and especially more often! I have been having several issues that I am battling with. My husband is still drinking and now in denial as to being an alcoholic. He had 10 yrs c...	smpoli	5	290	Jan 11, 2007 by sandie123
	moving through molasses (Preview) I feel like patience is something I just do not have so today I have had to do much much turning over to my HP. I have still not been paid by the hotel. It isn't that much money like $600 or something but when you have nothing every penny counts. The A is well aware of this he says and do...	maresie2	5	433	Jan 11, 2007 by debilyn
	Please Help - new to program (Preview) Hello, I'm new to the forum and new to reaching out for help. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do or if i'm making the right decisions. Background: I've been married for 6 years to my wife, and have been together with her for 10. I'm 31 and she's 29. We spent our 20's partying every weekend, and worki...	exhausted	10	617	Jan 11, 2007 by peewee
	Lookey there. (Preview) Our membership here on MIP has passed 3000. Now that's a LOT of friends to have. Diva	Diva	8	424	Jan 11, 2007 by Akasha
	Stupid me... (Preview) My A called me at work yesterday right at the beginning of a very important meeting and questioned me about why I had to go and then asked me to call him later so I did and... The subject of child support came up and he point blank asked me if I had filed the paperwork for support enforcement after he said I w...	carolinagirl	8	508	Jan 11, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Setting Boundaries (Preview) I have started to date...actually, I've really only begun to think about dating. Everyone that I am meeting for a potential date has not really been acceptable to me. I am comfortable living alone right now. I am learning to feel comfortable with my isolation, although I know that is not heal...	ditto	9	422	Jan 11, 2007 by lilms
	back to therapy (Preview) Yesterday I started back to therapy with someone I have been seeing on and off for several years. She does a therapy that is called emdr (eye movement disensitation reprocessing). It is a type of therapy that helps you to connect to the things in the past that have caused your pain and reprocess them cor...	Gailey	5	361	Jan 11, 2007 by carolena
	i think..therefore i am (Preview) (((((((((((MIP friends)))))))))))) Just wanted to thank everyone who responded and pm'd to my 'don't exist' post.I was soooo low that day and all the kind,warm responses really helped to bring me up and out of the pit.I went to work feeling like an empty,invisible,spirit but the night went well....	drucilla06	9	449	Jan 11, 2007 by leo
	The ever changing wind (Preview) I am so stressed out at the moment and I know it is within my control but I just can't get a hold of it. I married an alcoholic who has been sober for about a year (six months when we married six months ago). Since then we've moved twice for him to pursue better jobs. Now in my third country within a year he h...	mawani	2	335	Jan 10, 2007 by nmike
	HELP: all HELL broke loose tonight and it wasn't even the a but;;;;; (Preview) My A's sister came to bring him foood tonight. He has been sick I spent most of the day at my neighbors house while he slept==he complained I never went to the store to get him all the crap he needs for his cold. I just couldn't do it. Alll I could do was sit on my neighbors house on the couch and talk and hang out...	hippietrippiechick	8	569	Jan 10, 2007 by Andrea12
	progress not perfection (Preview) I don't want to make out my life is all doom and gloom. 3 months ago I found a friend just by chance. He is not someone I would normally call a friend. He has major major disability issues. This friend has turned out to be really "there" for me. In November they were availa...	maresie2	3	421	Jan 10, 2007 by Andrea12
	Got Laid Off Today (Preview) My company laid off 12 employees today. Since I am new, I was given notice to terminate the end of February. At first I felt like HP will be opening a new door for me. Then I left work and the sadness hit. It will be interesting to see what HP has in mind for me. The funny thing is that I got the sense there was ins...	kissers	10	416	Jan 10, 2007 by Klynn
	today is GOOD!! (Preview) After the day I had yesterday I felt lost and hopless!!!! However this morning I read the Jan 10 page in the book I was given and it made me smile and realize I just gotta live TODAY!!!! I did!! There was NO arguing with our child about getting ready for school....it is normally a battl...	Klynn	2	254	Jan 10, 2007 by Fifi
	for some people there is no bottom (Preview) I had a very difficult weekend with the A. He has stopped doing anything but play video games, watch TV and sleep. He hasn't changed his clothes in like a week. He has been at this place before of complete self indulgence and withdrawal. I always coaxed him out. I don't know what's wo...	maresie2	8	552	Jan 10, 2007 by maresie2
	Please remind me of what I already know. (Preview) Please give me some advice and a kick in the butt if needed. I am AA and Alanon. My boyfriend was in recovery and decided to try drinking again. It has been a living hell. Even though I knew better I stuck in there and helped him along. He was put in jail again for 30 d...	Pippy	4	495	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	Newbie (Preview) Hi all, I have just begun MY recovery and am learning a lot. Boy, let me tell you - reading your posts makes my mouth just drop wide open as that is MY life! I just wish for one moment, my A, DH, could be in my shoes to read what I am going through on a daily basis. A little about me, I have been married for 14 mo...	texsmama	6	310	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	OMG! LOL (Preview) Hi All!! Some of you will remember the past year and a half the battle I had with my daughter who was 16 and dating and "in love" with a 21 yr old on parole from prison. Then just this past December this same daughter who will be 18 this month moved out blaming me for all that trouble with that now 23 yr...	irish54	11	457	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	working the program (Preview) being relatively new to alanon, i am curious, what does "working the program" mean to you? i would love to hear some of your answers..... sharing all this ESH with you all has certainly worked wonders for me so far. i thank you for being here. love,fifi	Fifi	3	336	Jan 10, 2007 by hudsond
	2am-can't shut off brain-obsessing (Preview) God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept...	CJ	21	3693	Jan 10, 2007 by mel123
	ACCEPTABLE VS UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR (Preview) Dear ((((Roomies))), I just completed the exercise suggested by Tiger (in her response to Carolinagirl's post on detachment). I am not sure I did the exercise completely correctly as described, but I want to share what I did and my results. I created two columns. In the first column I listed unac...	BlueCloud	4	749	Jan 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	so lonely (Preview) Hi to everyone, I'm writing to just have contact with someone. I am so lonely, I can't seem to find my God today. My A. is here, but that is no help. I just want a little human or spirtual company. Rita	rita	7	333	Jan 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Another issue with my F2F meeting!!!! (LONG) (Preview) I went last night to my F2F meeting because it had been several weeks (holidays). When I got there it was obvious that it was the alateen meeting night, 1 a month is alateen. As most of you know I am TOTALLY alone here no friends no family. I have been having problems with my daughter's...	carolinagirl	11	513	Jan 10, 2007 by barisax
	Is it my problem or his? new here and confused.... (Preview) As you can see, this is my first post..and I’m feeling anxious about it – perhaps fear of what might be said or what I must do (or not do). This is really long but I don’t know any other way to do this – and it’s a reflection of how I analyze everything. This is me- the long winded woman. ...	DebiDeb	8	662	Jan 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
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