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still struggling
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So I was on a meeting last night here and I found one tonight....I want to go but I dont!! I guess by going I am really admitting there is somthing terribly wrong. I am just scared that thing will change between us. I am having a hard time just surrendering to the idea that there is a prob...
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Every once in a while...
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Higher Power puts a theme in your day and if you are lucky you get the message from the theme. With the holidays I have been a little lax on going to meetings and with puter at home being on the fritz I haven't made it to the board or the chat room in a while. Today we had electrical p...
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newbie question along the same lines as others
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This is my first real post but you've all be a tremendous support to me in the last few weeks just from my daily visits, thankyou. My AH was sober for 20 years, in that time I still worked my program and our marriage was okay not great. We have 2 kids with one being away in college now, the other in High school....
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Just called child support enforcement.
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Well, I filed for child support a month or two ago and had nowhere to have my AH served but now he is in a recovery house and working so I called them today and provided them with all the info. even did a little research to get the company info. It was Hard (emotionally of course)! As it is...
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we need each other---please read
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I went out to shop this evening and I brought home Chineese food. I waited over 3 hours to open my fortune cookie, not that I am a fanatic.
Anyway,
here is what the fortune said:
"Including others in your life will bring you great happiness."
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Seizures caused by excessive drinking & lack of food. Dt's caused by continued drinking and lack of nourishment.
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Does anyone else have experience with this?
This happened to my husband in November.
He seemed ok when he came home from the hospital.
Then, when he got off his meds he went nuts....psychosis.
Blames me for his drinking. Coming onto my daughter - he's been her dad since she was 12 -
and...
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lilliput
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Detaching with love????
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I am having a hard time with the detaching with love thing. How do you detach and still have love? If I detach I need to be totally detached. I am having a hard time grasping this concept I guess I see love as doing/saying what he wants me to? I just can't hold on to "loving" and det...
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Request for prayers, please...
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((((Everyone))))
I hate this disease, I just received this e-mail from a close friend. My heart is breaking -- you know divorce/separation doesn't separate us from the pain of this disease. My friend has been divorce from her AH for 4 yrs. She has been thru so much Hell, but she h...
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Apology to all Please read
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I know that I have been just posting chaotic stuff going with me and my A, this is where I am at right now. I hope that it doesn't offend anyone. You have the power to delete the message when you see mine come in, but I hope you all care for me more than that.
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New to this, thought the tough times were behind me
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This is my first time posting, I find this very difficult, but I need to express my thoughts, and currently I have no outlet. I am not sure what things are ok to say, so I will just explain my situation and hopefully someone will be able to relate.
My girlfriend of over three years is an A.&n...
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Can't get into chat
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Anyone else having problems getting into the chat room? Tried and tried and nothing lets me in! Hubby has tried to fix it from our end, and nothing seems to be working. Oh great ops in the sky, help me please!
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Karilynn
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O/T-anxiety
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I have shared before about my DIL coming here every day for lunch. It is now going on 3 months and I am having lots of anxiety about it. On Friday I was just waiting for the "Big Blow" afraid I might say something I would regret. She came 25 minutes late with a bouquet of flowers for watching the...
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meagain
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Criticism
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This weekend I was dressed down for something that I'm not sure was all mine.
I have always told people that if I have done something wrong or offended someone to tell me for I cannot fix it unless I know what it is. What I learned is that I cannot handle criticism of any kind. There is no fix f...
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Mobirdie
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So, tomorrow I go to meet the director...
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So, tomorrow I go to meet the director of the program for International and Comparitive Politics.
Right now, quite frankly, I'm too tired to be scared. But I will be tomorrow. Or, if nothing else, at 9am she could say "And, as a part of this program we require your immortal soul..." And I...
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Tiger2006
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Having a Rough Day
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Hi all! So, here it is Monday and I am having a rough time of it. I had a fairly good weekend as I went to a meeting with my partner and then out to eat. I had to push my partner, but finally got her out and had a good time with some other people. Sat. night we had another couple over who we are trying to get to know th...
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ColeShan
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Being true to me????
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I am in a place and i do not know how to deal with it. For those of you that know me you know all i did last year with court and mothers death, and bullying with school, bullying has continued on into this year with more extreme abuse. Including sexual with my daughters friend telling her how to sexually abus...
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watching myself
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hi
another interesting moment for me and being aware of myself and ways i am trying to be different.
so i am trying to focus on my own feelings, right? know what i want,what i feel, be responsible for myself...and only myself. this is hard for me as a newly identified co-dependant (tho if can brist...
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back to reality
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I had a great holiday with my sons. Two home from college and my soldier home on leave. They are amazing people. I have felt so full of love for 3 weeks. Someone in the house, someone to help with the chores, someone to hug. I talked to them about their father and me and our separation. I think it bothers them...
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nmike
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equal but opposite needs--who trumps
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Someone told me to start a new thread on this question so here goes.
I have a question for everyone. This was a fatal question I asked 2 years ago when he left me for the 5th time and we were reconciling and going to meetings. I paid for this for 2 weeks afterward as my question was take...
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hey guys
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Hi guys,
Sorry it has been so long. Everything has been wonderful Chuck has been clean sober. Amanda is great & we are very happy. My whole family celebrated all the holidays together. We havent done that since my mom passed away 4 years ago . i really miss...
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chrissy
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boundries....again
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i have gained 30 pounds since september. that is when my ex ah got sober(again) and started hanging out here with the kids (whom he had abandonded in march). he also has bipolar disorder which is currently unmedicated and is in a "remission" of sorts. yeah, back to me. well, it seems that i am in a pretty b...
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:o/
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I am holding up at home and at work but in the car is HELL!! I hide my tears at home so our child wont know I'm hurting, and of course I hide it at work, but when I am alone in the car driving to work the tears fall!! Yeah a not so good time to be crying!!!! *rolling eyes* I do cry at home after our child...
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Klynn
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Patterns of behavior
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Hello my friends,
I have much to learn here....I have been using this site since Labor Day last year, but since I also started school (in an attempt to focus on myself,) I have trouble staying with the program... Until I get myself into trouble again! Anyway, I am sooo grateful to be able...
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DeeDee
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Well, I may have just broke the straw........
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I guess I may have, by my reactions last night with his sister, and since we are in an interraional relationship. I said the wrong thing. I said, "my family does not act so irrational" I yelled at him today to get hm to understand that he was really just brougt up by a wife-beating alcoholic. I said since my...
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Who's the Birthday Girl!!!?????
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Ahem......I'm not supposed to say but........oh well!!!!
Maria123 is having her birthday today!!!
Woooohoooo!!!!!!!!!!
Happy Birthday my friend!!!
Hope you have a wonderful day!!!!
Love ya!
David
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It is getting old..
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This has been the worst year I can imagine. After being sober for 8 years my husband starting drinking again, as of today, has gone to detox this year 6 times on his own. I am getting so tired of the rambling about what a*holes. (and that is being polite), (I am an ugly c**t becau...
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how do i think of me
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i have the same problem,thinking of what the other person is not doing marty will,i also had had where i never measure up to my dad and it did not matter ,what i did,it was not good enought,but my dad been gone sence 84.i thought i tell you so you can get some back round on me and were i am coming from,it the sam...
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I feel unworthy a lot
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Many times I feel unworthy, I see an attractive man and think he wouldn't want me, why would he want me, etc. I keep thinking if I change this or that then I will meet or attract the right person, the person I really want to be with. Sometimes I see this as ridiculous but most of the time I think i...
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carolinagirl
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what i learned
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I am working on Step Six. Well working on the step I was working on not calling my husband all the time. Then I did some research and found that I have Attachment Disorder. Which means that I have had this problem since I was a little kid. I have realize that when I was dealing with my husband and he would take...
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Red flags
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Hello (((((((((Alanuts))))))))) First of all.....a belated Happy new Year to you all. I don't get to post often these days since it's so difficut for me to get to the internet,but when I do I avidly read as many posts as I can. A friend in Uk got me some Alanon literature and I managed to get a copy of Courag...
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chris52
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The stronger I get, the worse my A gets
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The more I go to meetings or go out to enjoy myself, I have come home to my A husband much worse than before I went. This has been going on for a couple of months now. I am having a lot of stress becuase my mother may be dying, my father is also very sick and griefstricken. It seems my...
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carol
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A POem...
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I am the Lucky Girl to have you both….
I just wanted to say
How thankful I am for you each day
I may not tell you how much I love you, or how much I really care
Let me tell you the love has always been there
You both are my all
The ones who picked me up every time I would fall
Where would I be w...
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Lauren ashley
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i am not happy with myself
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i feel like my head is going to blow off.
HE IS EVERYWHERE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if i go down into another room he is there,
come back upstairs, he is there.
tried to explalin i don't feel well , would just like to lay down and QUIETLY watch tv.
HE IS THERE !!!!!!
oh, he has no problem wit...
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jewely
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Made a decision about all the crap that happened last night....
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I am calling Verizon (local telephone comp.) and having both his sister and niece's numbers blocked from calling on my phone.
I am already having a hrd time getttng out, now I don't know. I know she will be looking for me. What do I keep in my purse to protect myslef. Anyone know how expesive mace or pepp...
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Hello again...
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post removed -- Edited by cullyvan at 10:27, 2007-01-08
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What is manipulative behavior?
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I'm very confused about this. I'm very direct in that I state what I think and feel, so I am very lost. I keep hearing that those in Alanon are manipulative. Another member shared that when she was little she would give her mother evil looks to get what she wanted. She said this was controlling behavior. S...
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kissers
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Old Time Al-Anon Snow bird
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I have been attending Al-Anon since 1991.due to my son's drinking and my ex-husband's
drinking. I had a bad attitude and a loose mouth the criticizum and sarcasm that came
out of my mouth was awfull. I never thought before I spoke I've learned to do that in
Al-Anon. I've also learne...
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Jeanie
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Today went well
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So I am taking one day at a time....Hubby and I talked today, I told him some of my fears and worries, although I really did not want to....I want him to focus on him not me. But I cant keep much from him so I buckled....I felt better afterwards!! He talked some too, I realized that we are both in...
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Klynn
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haven't posted for a while, however......
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I guess I haven't had a very good day. I have been in a lot of physidal pain, and my A has some kind of flu==I really don't want to mess with hism a lot since I was just in the hosp. for pneumonia right after Thanksgiving.
I have realized I myself can just have the bitchiest attitutde around my A, even...
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hippietrippiechick
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reaction
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hi all
so my weekend visit to A in rehab went well...i had 8 hours of aa life...talked with a lot of A's, and their loved ones. attended my first aa meeting - heard the stories that we all know - so moving, so hopeful, so much reliance on HP. he and i had good talks....open communication - what our needs,...
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Fifi
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Anger & shame are eating me up
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My A is in the hospital for the 5th time in 2 months because of his drinking. He was very, very sick & escaped a heart attack again but he's getting close to no-escape. At home I can detach, & deal with my A husband when he tries to cause an argument, manipulate me etc.&n...
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carol
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Treatment/Medications
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Hi- I'm new to the site and have never done this. My A is in treatment for a relapse after 14 months sober. The Dr. at the center is thinking of putting him on a RX for cravings. I'm not sure if it will work but my A is hopeful. I guess anything is worth a try.
I'd be in...
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kkw
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Another birthday girl!
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(((((((((((Family))))))))))),
We have another birthday girl today. Shh.....don't tell anyone but it's our
GARDENGAL!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET
GARDENGAL!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
May it be extra spec...
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Karilynn
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A lot can happen in a week
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My ex-A who I refused to have for Christmas had to be hospitalised on new year's eve for high blood pressure. He is staying with me and is now watching tv. That might not sound so strange only it is ten years since he has staying away from the pub and watched television in a family environment. Unfortunate...
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maire rua
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New member needs help.
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I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has been an alcoholic all of this time.
It has been livable but not an enjoyable life.
He recently became steadily weaker, had loss of muscle mass, loss of appetite and weight.
He then suffered two seizures.
My daughter who knows how t...
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lilliput
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A Gift For All of You
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http://www.lightmovie.com/
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kissers
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Taking a break from the board
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(((((Everyone))))))
I'm taking a little break from the board. Things here are a bit unmanagable and I need to focus on taking care of a few things.
I thank you all for the prayers for my friend. Her Ex-Ah has been sent home, because that is where he wants to be. He's been given abo...
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Lunamoth
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My wish for you...
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(((((Everyone))))))
This song has become very popular around here. Really sums up how I feel these days. Hope you like it and take it as a personal wish from me to you even though I stole it... LOL
My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, yo...
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rtexas
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I am adjusting to alot of changes
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I am back home at the apt. I have a big presentation tommorrow and I am nervous about it.
I am having to adjust to my one nephew moving away from me and he will not call me. It is nice to have the peace and quiet but I miss him. I could not go to my parents this partly because my broth...
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sissy
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Positive Update on ME!
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Rebecca
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here we go again
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It's a crisis for the A.....I am trying to stay on track, things have been going good for me, new job, going through the feelings and feeling them of losing my mom. My A for the most part has been a good husband, coming home after work, not hanging out in the bars, although he's still drinking. ...
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marmare
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Horrible tragedy but hope...
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(((Everyone))):
I have lived with my AH for 17 years, and we have both raised his children together that his ex-wife left 17 years ago. I have had these kids since they were 2 and 6. They are now 19 and 23. They have kept in touch with their mother but never lived with her, visited a co...
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hersh
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wendy are you there???
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I have tried to find you - just want to thank you for helping me that friday night before xmas early in the morning est. I thought your name was breezee but forgot. then remembered wendy. Please know your words meant so much to get me through that night. Now i check in regularly with alanon. W...
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johello
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Newbie here....
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Hi so if you have not guessed I am NEW here!!
Well everyone probably already KNOWS why I am here so I guess to tell you what is going on and how I feel is the next step right!?!?
My husband has come to the realization that he has a problem!! He has smoked pot for 15 years or so. But he REALLY sta...
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Klynn
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i know i need to be clear-help
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sooooo
two weeks from now,Aboyfriend gets out of rehab...unable to go back to his former living situation(tho he primarily lived with me and my two daughters) because they are drinkers. unwilling to move to his mother's(thank god). does not want to go to 1/2 way house, tho he hasn't explored that p...
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Fifi
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This must be one heck of a guy!!!
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I found this on another messageboard and it touched me so much that I ask your permission to share it with you. This must be one heck of a guy. If I had a husband with a fraction of these principles, I would be still married. Imagine-- no lying, no cheating, no manipulati...
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snoopy
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Business Meeting
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Business Meeting this month only will be held on January 14th, 2007 at 9pm est.
If you have anything to add for the agenda or any new concerns please let me know.
Kerry
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kerry5
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****THANKS FOR CHRISTMAS CARDS******
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I would like to thank all of you who sent Christmas cards and care packages to us at the Miricales in Progress recovery house. Your support ment so mutch to all of us. As Christmas aproched I was feeling so alone and was sarting to f...
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Nvizable_mike
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Trusting my AH
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Happy New Year everyone! I have not been on much due to the holidays and being sick with an aweful cold. I am ready for the new year to begin right and with that, some new changes that I have to make. The most biggest change I must concentrate on is TRUST!!!!!! Trust is so hard for me as I have been abused in eve...
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albertarose
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glum
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so can i feel sorry for myself here? i HATE to do that.
i just dropped off my kids at their dad's house....the kids are there one night a week only....it was all nice and cozy and cleaned by his new partner....i come home to my house - big,messy,full of toys,laundry,dishes,papers and the anxiety of m...
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