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AH went to a meeting
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Still can't believe it but my AH has been attending AA meeting for the last week. Never thought he would ever admit he had a problem because he is highly fuctional and his drinking only really affected myself and my daughter. Kind of figured he would give us up rather than give up drinking. Fe...
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Oldie but goody..... The egg story
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Hi all... there seems to be a lot of newcomers lately, so I thought I would re-post my favourite joke about "trying to make an alcoholic happy", and how it is an exercise in futility. Enjoy! One morning, the nice wife wakes up early to make her alcoholic hubby breakfast, and makes him two egg...
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Australia Day
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Hi Everyone, Just wanted to wish any other Aussies like myself Happy Australia Day and for anyone else you can celebrate with us. Have a good one. Luv Leo xxx
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what the H_LL is going on here?
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wow, it is just one thing after another lately. if i was superestitious........, i would think the grim reeper is out to get me. this summer i experienced a fire. i was sitting in my camper van, all packed up and ready to go, when i saw flames, i jumped from my vehicle ,the impact of the explosion pushed me a...
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good
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Yesterday my boss was talking to my mom and she told my mom how good I am doing. She is very happy with me. Speical the way I handled the whole situation and still came to work. I am so happy right now. Life is going good. I am doing good all around. Home with my husband, my job. So life is going good. This is beca...
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OH WOW!!!!!!!!!! A lucky escape!!!!!!!!!
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(((((((((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))))))) Oh WOW!!! I just found out I had a really lucky escape. I met with some friends yesterday,who knew I was seeing Mr New Guy on his return from Belgium. They were really interested to know how things had gone,since they were so excited that I had finally plunge...
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Another day, another 6 pack
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I am a bit frustrated today. My A went over to do some yard work that needed to get done...he comes back and whines about wanting a beer. How good a beer would sound right now. I wish I had a few bucks. on and on...so I finally went out while I was running my errands and picked him up one. Of coarse he is "so grate...
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Big Thank You!
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((((((Everyone)))))) Thanks to everyone who replied to me on the post and PM's about my frail constitution to say no and be ok with it. The answer is no, I don't agree that she has to come home to seek help. I did many of the suggestions, walk throughs, lists and what it boils down to is this. Th...
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Hills and Valleys
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Hey (((((Friends,)))))Live has been full of hills and valleys these days...sometimes I get so tired of climbing them and other times I am as happy to be in the valley for awhile...enjoying lifeJob is going very well, kids well.....another story...they just don't give me the respect they gave t...
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One year in Alanon, and some firsts...
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(((((Everyone)))))
Is there something magical about your one year aniversary in the program? Yesterday marked 1 year to the day. So what all happened yesterday?
- Chaired my first F2F meeting. Not by choice, everyone else who showed up on that rainy miserable day was either new to the group...
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New here...my story
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First of all I would like to say that I am so happy to have found this place. I have been reading the posts and doing a lot of research on alcoholism. Here is my story.... I met my husband when I was 12 or 13. Started our relationship when I was 15 and got married at 20. He treated me like a godess since day 1. We di...
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Why does HE have such an affect on ME??
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Why does HIS drinking make ME sad? Why is it when HE decides to drink MY day is ruined? Why am I upset by HIS choice? How can HIS decision have such a negative affect on ME? It is because I love HIM. HIM and my children are MY life. I love him so much that it hurts. I know how good we can be together and how good he ca...
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when our little boy died
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this is not easy for me to share.........., when our little boy died at eleven years of age, some fervent well meaning religous people told me, ''it was because of your husbands sin that god took your child away.'' i will never forgot how those words went straight to my heart. i alm...
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Hi, I am NEW here...
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Hello, I am married to a functioning alcoholic and I am about to go crazy, so I decided it's finally time to get some help. I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21 and we married 3 years later and have now been married for over 4 years. I always knew he liked to drink beer, but I didn't realize there...
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This too will pass!
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I've noticed lately on the board there's alot of shared pain. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm also noticing that lately there's alot of feeling bogged down in the now, as in "I cannot see how things are going to get any better! My life's a mess, I cannot believe the new low we...
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Gowing healthy is lonely work
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You guys teach me so much with your shares. I wanted to take this time to say thank you. I have entered the dating arena. I was on a couple of dating sites. I told you about the first man I met and that his drinking a bottle of wine by himself bothered me. Everyone here understood my hesitance to get invol...
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Partner back in hospital
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Hi my partner as been drinking heavily since September last year. He went through detox May 2006 and didn't drink for 6 weeks. He was doing really well. The back end of June he had the odd drink. He was telling me he wasn't drinking but you can tell. End of August 2206 he went into hospital with a burst ulcer...
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when whatever you do isn't enough
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The A has very very few bills to pay anymore yet he regularly lets so many of them go that it is really difficult for me not to say anything. Today I found out that he has let the main telephone line be cut off. That's a new one. I have allowed him to use my cell phone this week, now he is acting like it is hi...
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The red flags were right!!!!!
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(((((((((((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))))) Thought I would update my wonderful family here on how my new date went. You may remember that I was concerned about the amount this guy was drinking on our first two dates. A year out of the relationship with my ex A ........I was very anxious to ensure I did...
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Need to vent!!
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My grandmother invited my 9 year old and I over for dinner this evening. She made a beef stew to be placed over egg noodles. My daughter didn't understand the concept, so I explained it to her. She said she did not want beef stew. So my grandmother started having a fit because she wanted everything to go he...
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Just found out husband relapsed
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Everyone's been asking him for at least 6 months and he's been insisting he isn't drinking. Tonight I'd finally had enough. All the signs were there and I knew he had been drinking, but he continued to deny it. He finally admitted it. I guess I should be relieved since it's been go...
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thankful
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Yesterday and today my husband thank me for being supportive of him, for not giving him a hard time about what was going on. I stood by him and was very supportive and he was very greatful he gave me a hug last night and thank me. He also told me this morning he was glad I help him by being supportive. I feel the...
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How I can tell I haven't graduated yet...
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((((((My special family)))))) Some days I do better than others. Detatching from unacceptable behavior is getting easier, being honest about my part in things is getting easier (I am more honest with myself), but here is the humbling part: I have a hard time telling anyone no. I do it... but then I f...
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What do you think?
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My A son is home (not here) from working about 2-3 weeks in the oil patch. He called and I was'nt home so I called him back. He is always down or at least sounds that way to me. He doesn't know when he is going to work again. He never sounds"down" when he talks to other people-just me. S...
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meagain
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Treat yourself
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Hello ((Everyone)) I've been being nice to myself for quite a few months now. Those little things a gourmet chocolate once a week, extra dog treats for Sully, taking the time to comb thru resale places for cheap cashmere I could not afford new. I've done so well at getting used to being nice to m...
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Jennifer
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So tired...is there hope?
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Will Al-Anon be able to help me. I left an abusive marriage after 23 years and jumped right into a new marriage without really taking the time to heal. Three years later it is obvious that my new husband is an alcoholic and I have traded one set of problems for another. On top of all of this, I now live four st...
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Being overinvolved in other's lives
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Last night at my f2f someone was talking about being involved in worrying, trying to control, trying to fix other's situations. She said she believes that when she became overinvolved with someone elses issues...it was because there was something about her own life that she was avoiding look...
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Who'd a thunk it
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Oh who would of ever thought I would be in this position. Just trying to sit here and figure it all out. But as we all know in life with a A, or in my case (and a lot of yours) a whole family of A's, life don't make sense. We just have to hang out and do what is right for us living amidst it. Recently my AH&#...
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... -- Edited by fluffy at 06:00, 2007-01-25
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I'm feeling very sad today!
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Today is a sad day. My dil is going to court today to finalize hers and A son's divorce. I prayed for over a year that it would never actually come to that. It was not meant to be...I guess. They have both gone on and are with different partners now. My son has gotten a job that he really likes and seems to b...
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Gailey
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What have I done to my children?
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My 12 yo daughter was supposed to stay at a friend's house until tonight but had to come home early yesterday. First, her and her friend spray painted F you on the wall inside the shed at the girls house. They painted over it and that problem was solved. Now last night the two of them were home alon...
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can't keep anything nice
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i offered my ex my car so he could go to his inservice meeting. on the way back he hit a deer. not too much damage, just cosmetic. i was so mad. it was my dad's car and i always feel like i am betraying his memory when i let my ex drive the car. i only let him take the car when it is to my benefit or the kids. so i fe...
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Enabling....leads to so many problems
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(((Hello MIP))) Today is one of those days for me where I can see the down spiral effects of enabling. My AH has been enabled by someone almost all of his life including me. We have sheltered him and bailed him out of problem after problem and because of that he has no real concept of the world and how it wo...
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Every swear word I can think of
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Yep I can swear like a sailor when I want to but I won't bore you with it. Or myself. My A is out of jail with a new charge .... operating a vehicle without owner's consent. But the funniest part he had consent but she is married and can't explain the whole situation to her husband. I'm accepting what that rea...
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Jennifer
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When the pot has run out and the A becomes depressed
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(((Friends)))
What a wicked number it does to a person when they have run out of the booze or the drugs. My AH has been home with the kids this week because he hasn't had work in two weeks. We're financially hanging on by a thread, but one alternative was to take the kids out of daycare for a week or two to...
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To Carolinagirl and Andrea12 - Thank You!
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Thank you so much Carolinagirl & Andrea12 for your replies to my LONNNGGG post yesterday. It was very encouraging.
Carolinagirl - you mentioned the money thing and how he hasn't worked in 13 months. Well, he hasn't worked STEADY. He has managed to hold down a job for a month or 2 here and there. And c...
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QOD
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Just need to vent
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I just need to vent and I know....I know, get to more face to face meetings. My A is my 17 year old son and he is making me crazy. He is an alcoholic/addict and is non-compliant with his meds for his bi-polar which just makes it so much more unmanageable. He has been in outpatient treatment and in residen...
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So tired of the game!
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It has been a while since I have posted. Life is so busy. We finally sold our house and I bought a new one in my own name. We moved last Tuesday. Or rather should I say, the kids and I with the help of my family, moved a huge household worth of stuff. My AH was absent through most of it. No wait, that is not fai...
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men vs. women--just a thought
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I have been thinking lately about the differences between the men's and the women's responses to their situations and in their posts/responses to others. Sometimes I get rather jealous--this may be in my head or just the way I'm seeing it, but the men seem to be so matter of fact about th...
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Next few days are going to be tricky...
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(((((Everyone))))) Well as some of you know my AW and I seperated 3 months ago. I told her that I loved her, but if she was actively drinking that I could no longer live that way. The chaos that spins around her is just not healthy for me and the kids. Here is the tricky part. She has run short on money ove...
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Getting through depression w/wout meds
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Hey ya'll, I'm stumbling around the new (to me) world of depression and anxiety and would like to know how some of you handle it. Without meds and with - how do "they" as in Doctors figure out what is right for you? Using the power of hindsight I have figured out my Mom went through ye...
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Orchid Lady
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Negativity
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I just realized a few days ago, that I have no clue how truly negative of a person I am. I'm sure I have a belief that humans are abusive, violent and critical and this shapes what happens to me. Even though I know about positive mental programming & I enjoy relationships, I am still more negat...
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Every dog has his day..
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"You're telling me that an unarmed man with one leg just robbed a bank and then wheeled over here to get a sub?" Virginia sub-shop manager Amanda Carriker, to police officers searching for a disabled man they suspected of robbing a nearby bank. The accused reportedly stopped for a san...
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Tiger2006
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Not feeling resentful towards my hubby....
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Hey ((((((((roomies))))))) Well here i go again venting I feel kindof like a broken record but It is what is on my mind!!! My Hubbys Dad Calls him this morning like he does every Sunday morning to tell my hubby that he got his blood test results that he had taken a few weeks ago and had talked with his doc abo...
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Chaos has subsided for now....learning more about me
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Well, I know that my posts are very confusing sometimes, probably because I am confused so much all the time. I think this one begins with me. I am starting to see that by not naggin about the A's drinking he has more time to think about it himself. sometimes I do slip and say things he has done that has h...
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the outreached comforting hand of al anon
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I had an experience at a f2f mtg that ... well ... writing a bit about it here clarified it for me. But I don't think I'll post about it. It is a bit of a gray area of whether to post or not. But as discretion is often the better part of valor, I'll just say: I hope the person will keep coming back...
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emma
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progress & slippery slope backsliding
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So, I thought I was doing well enough to start allowing my ex (A) and father of my son back into my life a little more, he'd come over here for dinner and spend time with our son and we'd take our son out on weekends together. He says the drinking and associated bad behaviours is over. But I still d...
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Letting go of pain shall create freedom
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Hello everyone. Here is a poem I wrote before al-Anon. it is dark and dismal but with your help and my own and my HP I feel I am heading for the freedom I have longed for. I just wanted to share this. To me Sunshinedt I wanted it to say that although we feel we start out in fear and pain there is freedom like the do...
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DT1221
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Hurt But Not Angry
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Hi all, Its been a tough few weeks for me. Theres something changed in me. The way i deal with things. Things do happen and i get down about it, however its just not the end of the world anymore. I dont feel so panicky now, when things are rough. Which feels very strange in new territory. I also dont stay down...
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kerry5
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trust
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My husband has been clean since Friday. Before he got clean he was lying to me all the time, disappearing for an hour and a half. Then on wednesday he told me that he was doing herion, I was shocked I got my support system and turn to them. I told my husband that I wanted him to start being honest with me. We ha...
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nycbt
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living with the A
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Hi everyone... I have been married for 4 years now and I keep asking myself can I or anyone live with an A? I know they are human beings and need love, but I am just wondering is it healthy to live with them; can I live healthy even though he isn't? I go back and forth with this question because I love my...
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heather
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Do you know this about yourself?
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Below is an exerpt from a post that a person made on another forum. It is in reference to how the person reacted to someone that made them feel "less then". I thought it was an excellant reaction. Keep in mind this was not from an Alanon forum where we "seek" our part in a problem. Ok, so things didn't work ou...
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Christy
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something funny
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the other night when i was having my moment thinking about being a snob, i was wondering around our local drug store. i picked up a shade of pink lipstick and i thought.....''why not''? i rarely, if ever wear pink. to day i looked at the label to see what that shade of pink is called, you&...
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jewely
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Up off the couch and "off to the races"...
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the race to see who can drink the most, I suspected. I posted here on Saturday night about how myA asked to come here and sleep on the couch after an 8 day binge with his drinking friends. I decided to say Okay and let him in after the reverend drove him over. My Ah was hungry and asked for something...
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jaja
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In the middle of a crisis/chaos what Alanon tools do YOU use?
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After years in Alanon I finally figured out how to use the tools. Something as simple as "THINK" came to mind many times during a crisis in my home. I finally made sure what came out of my mouth was something that would not antagonize the situation and keep it going. I found when the A was raging...
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NYCBT
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ok where and how are you??? please respond!!! love,debilyn
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debilyn
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For Ally, You AMAZE me
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Ally,Thank you for your BRAVEHEARTFELTMOVING story. I have searched for a very long time for an apt description of depression.You nailed it. Thank youThis is for you, not my words but heartfeltlilms Friend Today I hear you crying and my heart bleeds in pain. I want to run to you and wrap my arms ar...
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it's everywhere!!!
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i grew up in an alcoholic home. i married and alcoholic/drug addict. all of my friends are either addicted, in recovery or married to an a. 2 years before my dad died he finally got an a of his own! but his a was in the program. he was there for my dad as he died, he has been there for me during that time and since...
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serendipity
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Ongoing Miracles
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My granddaughter is grounded again.... LOL. It's because she's becoming a teenager, and her parents are setting boundaries... consequences. I watch this in amazement. I grew up with an alcoholic father and a codependent mother. My father was not a violent person - not really even verb...
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barisax
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ODAT for today
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Hi all! I have been going throgh some real trials lately and wanted to share this with y'all. ........If the problems I have to face seem beyond my endurance, I will not explain them to God. He already knows. I will not tell Him what I "expect" Him to do about my difficulties; He knows wh...
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