Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I don't want to jump to conclusions, but things are looking up. After spending a week with my now unemployed A (AND NO CAR!!) I hit the streets and started filling out job applications; I have been out of work for a while and all my references are out of state. The economy here is pretty slow so I was app...

mandy · mandy

my husband (the a) and I have been married close to ten years and we have two small children. He has been an a for as long as I've known him. I finally have had enough of watching him slowly destroy himself and his family. My children are finally old enough to undersand his behavior and now I am the one fe...

kerry5 · kerry5

In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday Maya Angelou said this: "I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow." "I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/s...

Fifi · Fifi

Thank you all for your kindness...your words have helped me remember the calm and happy part of my soul....your words and a good nights sleep, baking muffins, and watching the beautiful sunrise. i know i'll make it....just wish i could be making it a little better....oh i am so greedy :) lol! love yo...

Katy · Katy

Riding my Bike! When my life had become unmanageable and my husband had started to bring all and Sundry home for me to sleep with, I got mad and made a plan, I would learn to ride a motorbike and ride off into the sunset with the first man that would have me, in my mind that was a good idea because I thought hel...

QOD · QOD

So today is day 6 that my AH has been missing on this latest binge. His mom is worried to death about him. Me, well, I just don't give a damn. Is that wrong? I mean I do but I don't, ya know? I watch his credit card transactions and see that he is still at it but other than that, nothing. As the d...

QOD · QOD

I was just thinking........Ok, so I don't care any more that my AH is gone. Life seems more peaceful at home without him. The kids seem more at ease. Not that he is violent or aggressive at home....b/c he is not. Usually he is just sleeping, or watching tv. Once in a while he gets pissed b/c he fee...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

.......is it Bad, Bad Bill time? Ziggy

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Wow I had no idea how long this would get. If you wnt the cliff notes version, I highlighted in bold. This is something that has weighed on my mind from the beginning. He was clean for 10+ years when we met. Ampetamines were more of an issue for him. He left a long term relationship to be with me. He was with he...

Moon · Moon

This is a total God story that happened to me the other day that most al-anons will relate to, so I hope you can get something from it. I was driving my car one day, I had my two children in the back strapped into their carseats. I turned onto a side street and as I drove up the street a truck to my left caught m...

lebe27 · lebe27

((friends)) In last night's meeting someone said Detachment for us is like not drinking is for the A. Wow really got me thinking. A has not been drinking this time since Thanksgiving and I have been trying to detach. This has been going on for both of us for sometime with many relapses. I notice...

jewely · jewely

my grandmother used to tell me.......,' ''idle hands are the devils tools''. i am thinking today, ''uh huh she is right.'' i won't make it to face to face meeting tonight. after i finish typing this i will probably go lay down. i have spent the past few days...

babysteps · babysteps

I thought I had mastered detachment because I was doing so well emotionally. Well I guess I had detached emotionally, but I was still taking care of (controlling) everything. I took care of all the bills and the cleaning and shopping and care of our child. I was letting him doing his thing and not gettin...

kellygirl · kellygirl

Hi all...in a nutshell, my H and I have been married x 17 years, we have 3 wonderful sons ages 9,12 & 17...he dropped bomb last March saying that he could no longer handle the pressures of marriage, kids, home etc...found out 2 mos later he moved into a trailor with a female bartender that works at the...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

To render ourselves insensible to pain we must forfeit also the possibilities of happiness. --Sir John Lubbock A caterpillar knows instinctively that it must spin a cocoon. When finished it will use the protection it has made to turn itself into a beautiful butterfly. When the time is right, the but...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, Well, with relationships it seems like they all go to hell at the same time. I know I have a part in it but hopefully my 4th step inventory will show me where I go astray. It has been a year and half since my AHsober moved out. The holidays were ok and actually fun but I just can't see us getti...

my sister · my sister

Just wanted to thankyou for those who wrote me, although not alot like I see some get for deaths, it meant a great deal to me as a new member. I dont chat room, cant write fast enough to reply (remember Im very disabled person)and cannot use my dragon speaker much right now due to only half a diaphragm. I app...

nmike · nmike

Thanks Alanoners for your responses to my down day. Sometimes I need a little jump start with perspective. In another post abbyal referred to ODAT July 14. So being the good codependent that I am and read July 16 by mistake. Boy, did that ever apply to me. Oops, then I realized that I had read the wrong pag...

Rita G · Rita G

so while i was off work i found out that our oldest daughter, Ashley is expecting again. She's about 8 wks along, not in a program of recovery, she has already lost custody of her other 2 children, 3 abortions, the father of the baby is abusive, not supporting his other children that he has with m...

Katy · Katy

My journey to happiness, it’s not something that fell into my lap complete, I had to earn it, and once I grasped the knowledge, the tools I needed to facilitate my power, my will over situations, I found just as I had become expert on self pity and control, I could learn to become an expert on happiness.Oh...

Maria123 · Maria123

((((((((Friends)))))))))), Alcoholism is only one of the symptoms of other underlying "issues" going on. Of late, I have been reading many of my own stories in yours and many of my friends feeling like everything is their fault. Abuse takes many forms. There's physical, emotio...

barisax · barisax

I don't hate my ex-wife. I don't wish anything bad on her, I even pray for her on occasion. I am really not involved in her life at all - I bump into her maybe twice a year while doing things with the kids, and that's about it. What's always interesting about those "bumps" i...

irish54 · irish54

Hi Family, Well, my daughter (grandaughter I've had since a baby) turned 18 yesterday. I sure have had some mixed feelings, but guess that's normal. The fact that she left my home in Dec. shortly before Christmas, as most will remember, make it a little harder to deal with in some ways.....m...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Can I throttle my parents yet? Seriously. One of the things we learn in recovery is that, if we are willing to go to any lengths and throughly practice this program, we will see results in the most dire and darkest of situations. Well, *cue Gomer Pyle* Surprise! Surprise! Surprise! Mom called Satu...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. -- Seneca When we reach a stressful time in our lives, our vision gets narrow. We fail to see the options and possibilities we have. If we give ourselves over to our worries and fears, our sight c...

Katy · Katy

"Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row" Life is a theatre - invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a front row seat in your life. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can ac...

FairyTales · FairyTales

My AH and I have been together for 5yrs now. He is an active alcoholic and a crack addict. We have split up and gotten back together so many times that I have lost count. I know if nothing changes nothing changes. This last time, even though he is still actively drinking, I thought things would be di...

babysteps · babysteps

I just need to get this stuff off my chest so that I can be done with it. My Ah has been on a bender for the last 8 days. We work in a very deadline oriented business and he has basically just pretended he doesn't have a job. Then suddenly BOOM, he has no choice but to cram a month's worth of work in to a we...

marty · marty

this is the hard one is dealing with my self,trying to make other love me and i have no luck at it,i know i need to love my self before i can love other how do you love your self and selfesteem and self worth all come in to play do you think i be better off going to f2f meeting than on line do we have on line sponcer s...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Other post called 'He won't leave me alone' has the background details to this: I'm going out of my mind right now -I called the police on my ex and they didn't believe me and called me paranoid. My ex has been saying he wants a relationship with me still and said he had stopped and...

John · John

Okay, I tried to get this to work properly on the message board and it just rawled my nerves, so I'm going to provide a link to it, which is on our site... Turn your speakers on and enjoy my table dance for you fine folks. John (aka OP_Present) http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/babydance.html

marmare · marmare

Although I'm here almost everyday reading the post, responding to some, I haven't posted in a while and thought I should update you a bit. I am doing great, I can't tell people enough how much my counseling I had to go through and my posting here, reading here, and focusing on me has helped....

mama_nz · mama_nz

I watched a Dr Phil special last night called 'Escaping Addiction' about an alcoholic husband & wife who had 3 kids, one of whom has to be on a ventilator due to muscular disability. I was shocked and disgusted by the sheer lack of consideration for their children, and selfishness. The...

ENCOURAGEMENT NEEDED FOR NEW MEMBERS · ally

((((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))) I love the atmosphere in the chatroom, I love the way everyone is like a big family. It has been a lifesaver for me, and loads of other members. Over the last few weeks I have noticed we are receiving a lot of new members. Which is brilliant. But one thing has been bothering...

Christy · Christy

Since we seem to have a lot of new members I thought some ideas about detachment might be helpful. One of the most difficult things for me to comprehend when I came to Alanon was detachment. Detachment is not just not speaking to the A about what they do or ignoring them.. It is more to do with getting i...

jewely · jewely

i am pleasantly surprised. i feel good today. physically, i think i may have to go to the doctor tomorrow and get checked from the impact of hitting the deer.[ something doesn't feel right in my back and neck.....ouch] but, emotionally, i am well. clear headed and greatful. thanks to all of you who...

my sister · my sister

Ive been reading your site since December. I lost the last person I loved to Alcohol ,my sister, my nephew was murdered one month before, this all happened this winter. Im not here as someone who is living with an A, she is gone now to be with God. Im criticly ill with progressive Brain illness and spinal i...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, This has been an extremely long week for me. There are so many changes at work do to the feds changing how we do business at my work. I work for an agency that has contracts with DSHS (Department of Social and Health Services) and to help TANF (Temporary Assistacne to Needy Families) participants...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

This morning I picked my Awife up from the rehab center and put her on the plane for Florida, and her recovery community. I cannot describe the joy I felt driving home. No more worrying about her relapsing, no more fear of how badly my kids are being neglected, no more lies, no more fighting no more HER....

snoopy · snoopy

As you all know, my A left me 7 months ago and is proceeding with a divorce. I do not want this, but there is nothing I can do about it. I just have one question. I have been reading about people who have stopped loving their spouse, and I'm wondering if you can ever get that love back once it is gone? Y...

DeeDee · DeeDee

(sigh) My AH is a binge drinker, and this week, I figured that it was about that time again. I was right. He makes it look like its all business-related and "necessary"....it's such a challenge to watch the denial....and stay in my happy place. I was proud that I had gotten myself to t...

lin0606 · lin0606

Someone asked in another post "what is this Plan B I keep hearing about?" and I thought that might be a good thing to talk about. For me, my Plan B's were always pretty low key and practical - if he doesn't show up to give me a ride to the dentist's office, how will I get there? - that...

debilyn · debilyn

dearest family, first I will get this off my chest, that and the hay that went down there when I fed the horses... gads I want to volunteer here very badly, but for some reason I am being forgotten. Done my best to give it to hp, I know I cannot control anyone but me. I love the powers that be ,here. It is not ju...

Wilted · Wilted

I called this morning and found two face to face AL-Anon meetings not to far from me and in the daytime. I live in a huge crime filled city in Florida and I am scared to drive around here at night and I can't depend on my AH to drive me to them for many reasons. Anyway, if I'm going to do this, I'm g...

HowToSaveALife · HowToSaveALife

I'm new here. I've read many posts, but finally today, I decided to register. I've been realizing I need help, but mostly too angry to get it. This past Christmas, I broke off an engagement with my A. He is also the father of my 4-year-old daughter. The first couple of weeks were unbea...

Serenity · Serenity

How are we suppose to work on us when our situations are not alanon related? I have health issues and family issues way different from others. They seem to not fit into the talk that is normally going on during open chat. What is the proper way to start up the conversation that is unrelated to the alcoholi...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I haven't been able to post or check in because my A is not working and sits at the computer all day. Things have not been going well. Our car needs work that isn't even going to start untill monday. It will be expensive and take at least another week. My husband drives the thing for a living, so he...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi Group~ I'm so upset right now. After 2 years, I broke things off with my A. He's been spiraling and I finally had to put an end to this after getting an email at 4:15 yesterday morning telling me he was breaking up with me and he was depressed and suicidal. He text-messaged me to re...

jewely · jewely

i know now why i hit the deer........., i am not blaming anyone, but, upon reflection, i can see that i was exhausted that night. canadian guy mentioned in one of his posts about keeping things bottled up, i do that. i come from a family where you ''don't tell, don't say anything ,and m...

snoopy · snoopy

Eureka!!! I think I may have finally hit rock bottom. Yipee Kai ee MF. Thank you God!!! I have been waiting for this day for 7 months and even tho it is so painful that I wanted to die, I now realize that my AH is nothing more than a narcissistic, selfish, self centered, son of a bitch. Whew!! That felt rea...

Diva · Diva

As always, I am thinking about friends here on MIP, and I wish all of you a beautiful day today. Now, got to get back to planting my new rose bushes. Roses are such joyous flowers. They have given me pleasure all of my life. Got a Queen Elizabeth and two climbing Peace. Love to all, ..· ´¨...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

My ah's face is red and swollen. So it's only a matter of time. This is what happend to my best friend a few months before she passed away. :( There is nothing I can do from over here. It's so hard to sit and wait for someone to die. There is no other end to this story then his death. He will not come...

Leetle · Leetle

I need a meeting. I have a three year old and no childcare, so I am at home. She is bouncing off the walls and I am in pain. Her dad is locked up. Has been there since July. It isn't the first time. I have wasted thousands of dollars on an attorney. Pay for collect calls that I can hardly afford and a...

Christy · Christy

I spent a whole lot of time complaining about my A so now that his first year of sobriety is approaching I think he deserves some Kudos. Firstly, making it for a year is huge. That in itself makes me beam with pride. That good looking sober guy is my husband! *beams* He's accomplished so much this year, mor...

Marianne · Marianne

Hello all My partner will be coming home after five months of rehab and I have no idea how things will be for us. I have so many questions and don't know where to begin. Does anyone have any advice to offer please? We have known each other 17 years but only been trying to have a relationship for two ye...

Marianne · Marianne

I was given a copy of this by a dear friend and felt so reminded of these words by my contact on this site. Thank you all for your kindness. Kindness Before you know what kindness really is you must lose things, feel the future dissolve in a moment like salt in a weakened broth. What you held in your hand, wh...

Fifi · Fifi

Here is a poem I just responded to a post with , and as I typed it, I felt I wanted to send it everyone.Not sure if it will align properly as I type it, but here goes. Wild Geese by Mary Oliver You do not have to be good...You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting...

kicky · kicky

I posted about being asked to dinner by an A...and thanks to all for wonderful insight. I did have dinner with him last night. I kept my program close in my pocket. He brought his to dinner as well. We had a perfectly lovely evening, talking, comparing parenting notes, movies, etc. He talked at length...

Serenity · Serenity

I am the mother of a recoverying drugaddict/alcoholic who keeps choosing the same kind of boyfriends. She is involved in AA and is getting counseling and trying so hard to change. Yet, she keeps choosing to date the same kind of guys that hurt her and were very bad for her. Sure some say her "picker...

kicky · kicky

First and foremost, my A and I split up 4 months ago after 7 years and the decision he made NOT to go to rehab. So the other day I was shopping at Target with my kids, and I ran into this guy I knew from my 20's (20 years ago)....funny and cool, and then on the party scene in our city. He was at Target with his 2...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Getting a little better (Preview) I don't want to jump to conclusions, but things are looking up. After spending a week with my now unemployed A (AND NO CAR!!) I hit the streets and started filling out job applications; I have been out of work for a while and all my references are out of state. The economy here is pretty slow so I was app...	RainyJamie	1	486	Feb 1, 2007 by Rita G
	new here..need some direction (Preview) my husband (the a) and I have been married close to ten years and we have two small children. He has been an a for as long as I've known him. I finally have had enough of watching him slowly destroy himself and his family. My children are finally old enough to undersand his behavior and now I am the one fe...	mandy	7	614	Feb 1, 2007 by RoseX
	Words of Wisdom Maya Angelou (Preview) In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday Maya Angelou said this: "I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow." "I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/s...	kerry5	9	1770	Feb 1, 2007 by tea2
	thanks (Preview) Thank you all for your kindness...your words have helped me remember the calm and happy part of my soul....your words and a good nights sleep, baking muffins, and watching the beautiful sunrise. i know i'll make it....just wish i could be making it a little better....oh i am so greedy :) lol! love yo...	Fifi	1	383	Feb 1, 2007 by Rita G
	Riding My Bike1 (Preview) Riding my Bike! When my life had become unmanageable and my husband had started to bring all and Sundry home for me to sleep with, I got mad and made a plan, I would learn to ride a motorbike and ride off into the sunset with the first man that would have me, in my mind that was a good idea because I thought hel...	Katy	5	671	Feb 1, 2007 by Katy
	Intervention for my AH?? (Preview) So today is day 6 that my AH has been missing on this latest binge. His mom is worried to death about him. Me, well, I just don't give a damn. Is that wrong? I mean I do but I don't, ya know? I watch his credit card transactions and see that he is still at it but other than that, nothing. As the d...	QOD	11	655	Feb 1, 2007 by carolinagirl
	If only his problems would disappear with him! (Preview) I was just thinking........Ok, so I don't care any more that my AH is gone. Life seems more peaceful at home without him. The kids seem more at ease. Not that he is violent or aggressive at home....b/c he is not. Usually he is just sleeping, or watching tv. Once in a while he gets pissed b/c he fee...	QOD	8	596	Feb 1, 2007 by jrtjosey
	Diva! Do you have knotts in your stomach? (Preview) .......is it Bad, Bad Bill time? Ziggy	ZiggyDoodles	8	781	Feb 1, 2007 by Rita G
	I think I ruined recovery for him (Preview) Wow I had no idea how long this would get. If you wnt the cliff notes version, I highlighted in bold. This is something that has weighed on my mind from the beginning. He was clean for 10+ years when we met. Ampetamines were more of an issue for him. He left a long term relationship to be with me. He was with he...	RainyJamie	11	798	Feb 1, 2007 by Moon
	Understanding step one (Preview) This is a total God story that happened to me the other day that most al-anons will relate to, so I hope you can get something from it. I was driving my car one day, I had my two children in the back strapped into their carseats. I turned onto a side street and as I drove up the street a truck to my left caught m...	Moon	6	1074	Feb 1, 2007 by Moon
	Detachment for us... (Preview) ((friends)) In last night's meeting someone said Detachment for us is like not drinking is for the A. Wow really got me thinking. A has not been drinking this time since Thanksgiving and I have been trying to detach. This has been going on for both of us for sometime with many relapses. I notice...	lebe27	3	515	Jan 31, 2007 by Karilynn
	idle hands are the devil's tools (Preview) my grandmother used to tell me.......,' ''idle hands are the devils tools''. i am thinking today, ''uh huh she is right.'' i won't make it to face to face meeting tonight. after i finish typing this i will probably go lay down. i have spent the past few days...	jewely	2	596	Jan 31, 2007 by Maria123
	I thought I had detached, but I was still enabling (Preview) I thought I had mastered detachment because I was doing so well emotionally. Well I guess I had detached emotionally, but I was still taking care of (controlling) everything. I took care of all the bills and the cleaning and shopping and care of our child. I was letting him doing his thing and not gettin...	babysteps	2	840	Jan 31, 2007 by lin0606
	Newbie Alert*** (Preview) Hi all...in a nutshell, my H and I have been married x 17 years, we have 3 wonderful sons ages 9,12 & 17...he dropped bomb last March saying that he could no longer handle the pressures of marriage, kids, home etc...found out 2 mos later he moved into a trailor with a female bartender that works at the...	kellygirl	11	815	Jan 31, 2007 by jrtjosey
	Are you the catepillar or the butterfly? (Preview) To render ourselves insensible to pain we must forfeit also the possibilities of happiness. --Sir John Lubbock A caterpillar knows instinctively that it must spin a cocoon. When finished it will use the protection it has made to turn itself into a beautiful butterfly. When the time is right, the but...	Tiger2006	1	617	Jan 31, 2007 by barisax
	Feeling a little down... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, Well, with relationships it seems like they all go to hell at the same time. I know I have a part in it but hopefully my 4th step inventory will show me where I go astray. It has been a year and half since my AHsober moved out. The holidays were ok and actually fun but I just can't see us getti...	nmike	6	533	Jan 31, 2007 by drucilla06
	the 10 of you who wrote about my sisters DEATH (Preview) Just wanted to thankyou for those who wrote me, although not alot like I see some get for deaths, it meant a great deal to me as a new member. I dont chat room, cant write fast enough to reply (remember Im very disabled person)and cannot use my dragon speaker much right now due to only half a diaphragm. I app...	my sister	15	716	Jan 31, 2007 by aunitedway
	Found some answers..... (Preview) Thanks Alanoners for your responses to my down day. Sometimes I need a little jump start with perspective. In another post abbyal referred to ODAT July 14. So being the good codependent that I am and read July 16 by mistake. Boy, did that ever apply to me. Oops, then I realized that I had read the wrong pag...	nmike	2	555	Jan 31, 2007 by rtexas
	Another Grandchild affected by the disease (Preview) so while i was off work i found out that our oldest daughter, Ashley is expecting again. She's about 8 wks along, not in a program of recovery, she has already lost custody of her other 2 children, 3 abortions, the father of the baby is abusive, not supporting his other children that he has with m...	Rita G	6	669	Jan 31, 2007 by Rita G
	Katy's Journey to find happiness! (Preview) My journey to happiness, it’s not something that fell into my lap complete, I had to earn it, and once I grasped the knowledge, the tools I needed to facilitate my power, my will over situations, I found just as I had become expert on self pity and control, I could learn to become an expert on happiness.Oh...	Katy	1	723	Jan 31, 2007 by Jerry F
	What I have learned that saved my life (Preview) ((((((((Friends)))))))))), Alcoholism is only one of the symptoms of other underlying "issues" going on. Of late, I have been reading many of my own stories in yours and many of my friends feeling like everything is their fault. Abuse takes many forms. There's physical, emotio...	Maria123	12	787	Jan 30, 2007 by Maria123
	The Extraterrestrial (Preview) I don't hate my ex-wife. I don't wish anything bad on her, I even pray for her on occasion. I am really not involved in her life at all - I bump into her maybe twice a year while doing things with the kids, and that's about it. What's always interesting about those "bumps" i...	barisax	3	526	Jan 30, 2007 by Jennifer
	Daughter turned 18 (Preview) Hi Family, Well, my daughter (grandaughter I've had since a baby) turned 18 yesterday. I sure have had some mixed feelings, but guess that's normal. The fact that she left my home in Dec. shortly before Christmas, as most will remember, make it a little harder to deal with in some ways.....m...	irish54	6	636	Jan 30, 2007 by Karilynn
	Can I throttle my parents yet? (Preview) Can I throttle my parents yet? Seriously. One of the things we learn in recovery is that, if we are willing to go to any lengths and throughly practice this program, we will see results in the most dire and darkest of situations. Well, cue Gomer Pyle Surprise! Surprise! Surprise! Mom called Satu...	Tiger2006	8	684	Jan 30, 2007 by Rita G
	Got options? (Preview) It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. -- Seneca When we reach a stressful time in our lives, our vision gets narrow. We fail to see the options and possibilities we have. If we give ourselves over to our worries and fears, our sight c...	Tiger2006	2	504	Jan 30, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Think this is sooooooo nice! (Preview) "Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row" Life is a theatre - invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a front row seat in your life. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can ac...	Katy	0	428	Jan 30, 2007 by Katy
	I think I've lost that loving feeling (Preview) My AH and I have been together for 5yrs now. He is an active alcoholic and a crack addict. We have split up and gotten back together so many times that I have lost count. I know if nothing changes nothing changes. This last time, even though he is still actively drinking, I thought things would be di...	FairyTales	5	578	Jan 30, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Need to Vent (Preview) I just need to get this stuff off my chest so that I can be done with it. My Ah has been on a bender for the last 8 days. We work in a very deadline oriented business and he has basically just pretended he doesn't have a job. Then suddenly BOOM, he has no choice but to cram a month's worth of work in to a we...	babysteps	1	502	Jan 30, 2007 by Rita G
	dealing with marty (Preview) this is the hard one is dealing with my self,trying to make other love me and i have no luck at it,i know i need to love my self before i can love other how do you love your self and selfesteem and self worth all come in to play do you think i be better off going to f2f meeting than on line do we have on line sponcer s...	marty	6	565	Jan 30, 2007 by marty
	Am I losing it??! (Preview) Other post called 'He won't leave me alone' has the background details to this: I'm going out of my mind right now -I called the police on my ex and they didn't believe me and called me paranoid. My ex has been saying he wants a relationship with me still and said he had stopped and...	mama_nz	9	613	Jan 30, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Al-Anon Wiggle (Preview) Okay, I tried to get this to work properly on the message board and it just rawled my nerves, so I'm going to provide a link to it, which is on our site... Turn your speakers on and enjoy my table dance for you fine folks. John (aka OP_Present) http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/babydance.html	John	5	666	Jan 30, 2007 by Rita G
	Small update (Preview) Although I'm here almost everyday reading the post, responding to some, I haven't posted in a while and thought I should update you a bit. I am doing great, I can't tell people enough how much my counseling I had to go through and my posting here, reading here, and focusing on me has helped....	marmare	3	455	Jan 30, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Escaping Addiction (Preview) I watched a Dr Phil special last night called 'Escaping Addiction' about an alcoholic husband & wife who had 3 kids, one of whom has to be on a ventilator due to muscular disability. I was shocked and disgusted by the sheer lack of consideration for their children, and selfishness. The...	mama_nz	3	488	Jan 30, 2007 by Cilla
	ENCOURAGEMENT NEEDED FOR NEW MEMBERS (Preview) ((((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))) I love the atmosphere in the chatroom, I love the way everyone is like a big family. It has been a lifesaver for me, and loads of other members. Over the last few weeks I have noticed we are receiving a lot of new members. Which is brilliant. But one thing has been bothering...	ally	7	723	Jan 30, 2007 by david62
	Detachment Examples? (Preview) Since we seem to have a lot of new members I thought some ideas about detachment might be helpful. One of the most difficult things for me to comprehend when I came to Alanon was detachment. Detachment is not just not speaking to the A about what they do or ignoring them.. It is more to do with getting i...	Christy	11	4846	Jan 30, 2007 by neeinil
	i am pleasantly surprised......i feel good today (Preview) i am pleasantly surprised. i feel good today. physically, i think i may have to go to the doctor tomorrow and get checked from the impact of hitting the deer.[ something doesn't feel right in my back and neck.....ouch] but, emotionally, i am well. clear headed and greatful. thanks to all of you who...	jewely	2	381	Jan 29, 2007 by bubbles1990
	Can I just talk. New here. (Preview) Ive been reading your site since December. I lost the last person I loved to Alcohol ,my sister, my nephew was murdered one month before, this all happened this winter. Im not here as someone who is living with an A, she is gone now to be with God. Im criticly ill with progressive Brain illness and spinal i...	my sister	11	779	Jan 29, 2007 by debilyn
	Is the food in the county jail really that good? (Preview) Hi all, This has been an extremely long week for me. There are so many changes at work do to the feds changing how we do business at my work. I work for an agency that has contracts with DSHS (Department of Social and Health Services) and to help TANF (Temporary Assistacne to Needy Families) participants...	Dolphin123	8	673	Jan 29, 2007 by nmike
	Cheering an ending and a beginning (Preview) This morning I picked my Awife up from the rehab center and put her on the plane for Florida, and her recovery community. I cannot describe the joy I felt driving home. No more worrying about her relapsing, no more fear of how badly my kids are being neglected, no more lies, no more fighting no more HER....	wbfox58	5	653	Jan 29, 2007 by tryingtoheal
	is it possible to ever get the love back again? (Preview) As you all know, my A left me 7 months ago and is proceeding with a divorce. I do not want this, but there is nothing I can do about it. I just have one question. I have been reading about people who have stopped loving their spouse, and I'm wondering if you can ever get that love back once it is gone? Y...	snoopy	6	614	Jan 29, 2007 by mama_nz
	not doing SOMETHING right (Preview) (sigh) My AH is a binge drinker, and this week, I figured that it was about that time again. I was right. He makes it look like its all business-related and "necessary"....it's such a challenge to watch the denial....and stay in my happy place. I was proud that I had gotten myself to t...	DeeDee	7	557	Jan 29, 2007 by DeeDee
	Plan B (Preview) Someone asked in another post "what is this Plan B I keep hearing about?" and I thought that might be a good thing to talk about. For me, my Plan B's were always pretty low key and practical - if he doesn't show up to give me a ride to the dentist's office, how will I get there? - that...	lin0606	4	863	Jan 29, 2007 by tea2
	update and miss you guys (Preview) dearest family, first I will get this off my chest, that and the hay that went down there when I fed the horses... gads I want to volunteer here very badly, but for some reason I am being forgotten. Done my best to give it to hp, I know I cannot control anyone but me. I love the powers that be ,here. It is not ju...	debilyn	6	582	Jan 29, 2007 by hersh
	Give me Courage God! (Preview) I called this morning and found two face to face AL-Anon meetings not to far from me and in the daytime. I live in a huge crime filled city in Florida and I am scared to drive around here at night and I can't depend on my AH to drive me to them for many reasons. Anyway, if I'm going to do this, I'm g...	Wilted	6	625	Jan 29, 2007 by Wilted
	Learning to trust? (Preview) I'm new here. I've read many posts, but finally today, I decided to register. I've been realizing I need help, but mostly too angry to get it. This past Christmas, I broke off an engagement with my A. He is also the father of my 4-year-old daughter. The first couple of weeks were unbea...	HowToSaveALife	11	691	Jan 29, 2007 by AndiLynn
	How are we suppose to work on us.... (Preview) How are we suppose to work on us when our situations are not alanon related? I have health issues and family issues way different from others. They seem to not fit into the talk that is normally going on during open chat. What is the proper way to start up the conversation that is unrelated to the alcoholi...	Serenity	7	634	Jan 29, 2007 by abbyal
	Life kinda sucks right now (Preview) I haven't been able to post or check in because my A is not working and sits at the computer all day. Things have not been going well. Our car needs work that isn't even going to start untill monday. It will be expensive and take at least another week. My husband drives the thing for a living, so he...	RainyJamie	7	2535	Jan 28, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Breaking it Off (Preview) Hi Group~ I'm so upset right now. After 2 years, I broke things off with my A. He's been spiraling and I finally had to put an end to this after getting an email at 4:15 yesterday morning telling me he was breaking up with me and he was depressed and suicidal. He text-messaged me to re...	SerenityGirl	5	503	Jan 28, 2007 by Leetle
	i know now why i hit the deer....... (Preview) i know now why i hit the deer........., i am not blaming anyone, but, upon reflection, i can see that i was exhausted that night. canadian guy mentioned in one of his posts about keeping things bottled up, i do that. i come from a family where you ''don't tell, don't say anything ,and m...	jewely	7	718	Jan 28, 2007 by jewely
	when your husband sleeps with the town whore (Preview) Eureka!!! I think I may have finally hit rock bottom. Yipee Kai ee MF. Thank you God!!! I have been waiting for this day for 7 months and even tho it is so painful that I wanted to die, I now realize that my AH is nothing more than a narcissistic, selfish, self centered, son of a bitch. Whew!! That felt rea...	snoopy	8	5217	Jan 28, 2007 by bubbles1990
	It's a beautiful day in SA (Preview) As always, I am thinking about friends here on MIP, and I wish all of you a beautiful day today. Now, got to get back to planting my new rose bushes. Roses are such joyous flowers. They have given me pleasure all of my life. Got a Queen Elizabeth and two climbing Peace. Love to all, ..· ´¨...	Diva	7	667	Jan 28, 2007 by bubbles1990
	He'll be dead within a few months. I've seen it before. (Preview) My ah's face is red and swollen. So it's only a matter of time. This is what happend to my best friend a few months before she passed away. :( There is nothing I can do from over here. It's so hard to sit and wait for someone to die. There is no other end to this story then his death. He will not come...	Friendofyours	7	713	Jan 28, 2007 by shrinkingviolet
	help (Preview) I need a meeting. I have a three year old and no childcare, so I am at home. She is bouncing off the walls and I am in pain. Her dad is locked up. Has been there since July. It isn't the first time. I have wasted thousands of dollars on an attorney. Pay for collect calls that I can hardly afford and a...	Leetle	9	729	Jan 28, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Hubby's journey.. (Preview) I spent a whole lot of time complaining about my A so now that his first year of sobriety is approaching I think he deserves some Kudos. Firstly, making it for a year is huge. That in itself makes me beam with pride. That good looking sober guy is my husband! beams He's accomplished so much this year, mor...	Christy	18	744	Jan 28, 2007 by AndiLynn
	After five months of rehab now what will happen? (Preview) Hello all My partner will be coming home after five months of rehab and I have no idea how things will be for us. I have so many questions and don't know where to begin. Does anyone have any advice to offer please? We have known each other 17 years but only been trying to have a relationship for two ye...	Marianne	9	734	Jan 28, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Kindness (a poem I am reminded of by my contact here) (Preview) I was given a copy of this by a dear friend and felt so reminded of these words by my contact on this site. Thank you all for your kindness. Kindness Before you know what kindness really is you must lose things, feel the future dissolve in a moment like salt in a weakened broth. What you held in your hand, wh...	Marianne	1	479	Jan 28, 2007 by Fifi
	wild geese (Preview) Here is a poem I just responded to a post with , and as I typed it, I felt I wanted to send it everyone.Not sure if it will align properly as I type it, but here goes. Wild Geese by Mary Oliver You do not have to be good...You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting...	Fifi	3	502	Jan 28, 2007 by Karilynn
	Went on a date with an A in AA (Preview) I posted about being asked to dinner by an A...and thanks to all for wonderful insight. I did have dinner with him last night. I kept my program close in my pocket. He brought his to dinner as well. We had a perfectly lovely evening, talking, comparing parenting notes, movies, etc. He talked at length...	kicky	2	583	Jan 28, 2007 by Karilynn
	Why do alcoholics keep choosing same kind of people? (Preview) I am the mother of a recoverying drugaddict/alcoholic who keeps choosing the same kind of boyfriends. She is involved in AA and is getting counseling and trying so hard to change. Yet, she keeps choosing to date the same kind of guys that hurt her and were very bad for her. Sure some say her "picker...	Serenity	7	957	Jan 28, 2007 by Serenity
	Anyone ever date an A who is working a program? (Preview) First and foremost, my A and I split up 4 months ago after 7 years and the decision he made NOT to go to rehab. So the other day I was shopping at Target with my kids, and I ran into this guy I knew from my 20's (20 years ago)....funny and cool, and then on the party scene in our city. He was at Target with his 2...	kicky	9	708	Jan 27, 2007 by kicky
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