Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

david62 · david62

Hello (((((Everyone))))) I wanted to catch you all up on things with me. I haven't been around the board or the chatroom much for the last couple of weeks due to an eye issue, as many of you know. My eye is getting better but is still not back up to full operational status yet. It has stopped hurting, and is n...

Paulab · Paulab

Please forgive me, I am new to message boards and this is all very confusing. Don't know where to start but I am very desperate for help. My Mother i fear is far beyond help. Where do I begin? Thanks

klm4446 · klm4446

It was exactly one month ago today my boyfriend (and 1 yr old son's father) died in car crash while DUI. I am getting up every am, going to college FT and taking care of the kids. I am making myself do things but still in so much pain. I got very touching and helpful responses when I posted before, thanks t...

jj35 · jj35

I am "in a relationship" with an A and am having conflicting thoughts on whether to stay "friends" or break myself from him completely. I decided to join this group because I think it will help me to understand his situation better and at the same time not loose myself in it. Any ad...

serendipity · serendipity

In front of a judge to resolve the child support issue and maybe some other issues. My lawyer says he'll be there but I don't trust him. My ex will be there as he is the one contesting paying any support at all. I don't know, I am scared and I am going all alone. I have just felt so very alone lately. I am commin...

meagain · meagain

I don't know where I am in my life--but I feel everyone is expecting so much of me and I am sooo resentful. We are leaving on a 2 week camping trip and my 82yr. old Mom says--Oh I sure wish I could go--Now I mean she really means it! She has had her day of holidays and I think now its my turn. Our 5 adult children...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex text me today that he wants to connect with me but everytime he tries he just feels bad about himself. And that he has a year sobriety. I just cried and cried. In this year of his "sobriety" he has abandonded his kids in every sense, he has left me yet again with all of the responsibility, a...

Lili · Lili

Hi all I am new, and I greatly appreciate all the great advice on this website. Without going into too much detail after 15 years I reached the end of my rope. I said I would stay because of his promise to stop drinking, the kids my fears of being alone, my fear of what he'll turn into. He has been sober fo...

sunny123 · sunny123

I was wondering if anyone has any warnings or advice to someone in their first serious relationship after being with an A for many years. I definitely have baggage and keep accidentally running into my ex-AH and having sad feelings stirred up. We thankfully have no contact otherwise. It was just...

lmt123 · lmt123

I was thinking yesterday when I was on my walk about all the insignificant lies that my AHsober has told me. I even asked the counselor this last week, and she said that there are so many lies up there in that brain of his that he is so confused about what he has said, not said, is about to say, should say, sho...

Diva · Diva

The Cookie Monster A woman was waiting at an airport one night--- There were several long hours to wait for her flight. She hunted for reading in the airport gift shop Bought a big bag of cookies - found a place she could drop. She was engrossed in her book, but she happened to see A man sit beside her - as b...

honeycomb · honeycomb

http://www.youtube.com/user/honeysinger1967 About Me: Christian Tbi survivor from domestic violence. Love Christian fellowship, reading my Bible each day, praying. My last online college writing class was in Spring 2007. F...

Mamallama · Mamallama

My AH is miserable and also miserable at his job. In my opinion, it's a good job, but he's doesn't seem to moving forward and advancing. We are up to our eyeballs in debt, I have 2 jobs (sometimes 3) and now he's says he wants to quit and give his 2 weeks notice. It's not the first time he's threatened this...

honeycomb · honeycomb

Just wondering because I am new and would like to go in chat sometimes .......

shadow1 · shadow1

((((((((((((((Everyone)))))))))))) I finally have some good news in my life. I was offered a full time job at the airport!! The position is a screening officer (the one that xrays your carry on bags and runs the wand over you if you beep) lol. The hours might take some getting used to but thats ok. I'll...

shadow1 · shadow1

((((((((((everyone))))))))))) First of all I would like to thank all that sent their well wishes on my employment. I got offered the second job as well!!!!!! Wooohooo!!! I am waiting for the HR manager to call with an offer but I'm sure it will be fine and I will be accepting that job. It will be much ea...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I am just beat. Yesterday, much to my surprise and happiness, I was taken out to lunch by the chair and the senior faculty of the econ dept. I was being wined and dined for their graduate program! So the whole time--well, after about 20 mins of being like, "Ok, gotta do this right, can't screw this...

NANUKE · NANUKE

ANGEL THOUGHTS " Serenity is....... To walk when others are running. To whisper when others are shouting. To sleep when others are restless. To smile when others are angry. To pau...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My ahsober (7 mos) has been gone for 5 days on an annual fishing trip with his 2 best friends. Something that is a bit scary and unexpected for me is that I have felt peace with him gone. This is in spite of the knowledge that he will surrounded by a very familair situation in which he is used to drinking a lot...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

From the author of Women Who Run with the Wolves. Let Your Light Shine Bright By Clarissa Pinkola Estes My friends, do not lose heart. We were made for these times. I have heard from so many recently who are deeply and properly bewildered. They are concerned about the state of affairs in our world now. Ou...

frazzled · frazzled

i am very interested in the new issue that came up tonight (for me anyway) ,,, i have heard or read somewhere recently about this but so mch going on so i tend to jump from thing to thing. lol alot of people in the group were talking about not wanting to get into relationships out of fear of finding the kinds o...

Jen · Jen

I am trying today to be thankful for small accomplishments, from myself and my AH. I realize he is trying and that I am trying and expectaions from both of us really get in the way. So today I am making a list for myself of the things I would like to accomplish for today. I will be thankful for anything I can ge...

Maria123 · Maria123

Due to the long weekend, we decided to postpone the business meeting to next week, Sunday, September 9th, 9:00 p.m. EST SEPTEMBER 9TH AGENDA I. OP SCHEDULE II. SECRETARY'S REPORT A. Minutes Review/Approval - August 5th III. TREASURER'S REPORT A. ...

wp · wp

Since it's Labor Day, I wonder if the business mtg will be held Sunday? Or when? Thanks, pw

frazzled · frazzled

man i really need a sponsor. i was planning on asking this one older woman who i had spoken to twice before, but she wasnt around tonight and i wsnt fully on the fence about it either...... i am just really eager to get started with the steps. and when i dont get to a face 2 face meeting i lose my focus on the phi...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, I had shoulder surgery two weeks ago. Went in for my check-up and the screw had slipped and went in last week for another surgery. Pain again. Has set me back at work adn life itself. There but for the grace of god friends and family had stepped up to help me. My Ahsober finally showed up to hel...

nycbt · nycbt

I would like to tell everyone yesterday my grandma died. I am hanging in there I am doing ok.

Unsure · Unsure

My husband is trying to get custody of his son from his ex-wife who is an alcoholic, and we think a druggie. She is a mess. They went to court on it in July and were ordered to do mediation, which she refused. So while she was refusing to do the mediation,. her parents went to the courthouse and got paperw...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have moved to a place that is not much better than the last place I lived in. The room itself is like an oven and I have had to work really overtime to get it to a place of habitabiity. I feel like I am running on the spot all the time. One of my neighbors who is a man about the same age as I am has been very very he...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

What the hell is wrong with him???? (the ah) I just found out he borrowed $400 from his father to get his truck fixed but............he used that excuse to only give me a portion of the paycheck. So he had a ton of money and left me and the kids with hardly nothing. I got him in a huge lie. He said "I didn'...

florrie · florrie

i just need to share that im feeling crazy. i have anger and i need help. there are some old freinds staying with us and i feel i am losing my serenity. my hubby who is normally silent, broody and distant, is very animated in this womans company. he is a different person. it makes me feel wierd and disconne...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((((Everyone))))))))) I have often been moved to tears by the support you have offered me here. Life is just such a strange harbor to be sailing in some days... you all help me see the rocks... and the open water. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. A very very dear friend of mine lent me a cd from...

lness8 · lness8

Hi My name is Lynn. I have been married to an AH/DA for 14 years now. We have 3 children together. I have put up with alot, and Iam sure their are many who put up with more than I have. Over the years, I have dealth with the usual, dui's, no money, him not coming home. Getting mad, fighting, making up. In t...

kissers · kissers

I am so sick and tired of scrounging at the bottom just to get by. My ex A sent me an e-mail threatening to hire a private investigator to find me. He can afford a private investigator, but he couldn't pay child support for the last 7 years! Now I am working for a company that has an A for an owner. He lied to me a...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Hello everyone! It's been a couple of weeks i think since my last post. Right now things are well. I guess as good as they can be. I have a job now!! Part time til next week when the kids go back to school. Then I'll be a full timer! It's been 8 years since I've worked a full time job. So it's going to take a littl...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well I was at the old house until 10 last night and got home covered in sweat and exhausted and suffering from bleach fume inhalation but I'M DONE!! It's clean and ready to move in when the carpets are cleaned. What a relief. I have spent every day since Sunday after work moving stuff and cleaning up fo...

Becky1 · Becky1

The last couple of weeks have been literal hell around here. AH and I have mostly not spoken..I am to the point of just being numb to his crazy ways. It is so bizzare. The anger he has, the insane things he says, the things he destroys....I have come to realize the man I love is never coming back.....unle...

NANUKE · NANUKE

THE RELAXED APPROACH Step One: RELAX I don't have to be in charge or in control anymore. It's going to be okay. Step Two: RELAX I can simply believe that someone stronger than I can restore me to health and wholeness. Step Three: RELAX I can easily tu...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello everyone, I am "FREAKED OUT" today! My parakeet, who is very sick, is seeming to be doing better. She is eating and drinking and pooping on her own. For a few days, I had to give her water by hand, and she would eat her treats on my little table beside my computer. But she has this giant her...

Loupiness · Loupiness

The other night at a f2f meeting, a woman shared how she had been forced to keep secrets since she was a child, and that she no longer would do so because it is so damaging. It made me really start thinking about all the secrets I am keeping and what my true motivation is. We are in a small town where we own a bu...

erin in ny · erin in ny

Hi everyone. I'm Erin and it's been far too long since I've checked in on this board. I've tried out a handful of face to face meetings in the last couple of weeks but I haven't yet found one that's a good fit. As a "double winner" myself, I know I felt my best when I was working both programs c...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Hi Alanon Family, This is a keeper, I hope we all benefit from it!! Let's be gentle with ourselves and work our program focusing on us and let our Higher Power do the rest!! Isn't it grand we don't have to fix anyone, we can allow our Higher Power do what He does best-this way we can tend to us and cherish the...

QOD · QOD

Ok. I know I mentioned this in an earlier post but it has become all consuming!!! My AH and I have been completely apart for right at 2 months. Meaning, no hugging, touching, kissing, anything. Now for 14 years I have had the attitude about sex that I could take it or leave it. It was always more of...

serendipity · serendipity

Got a text from the ex this morning. "Hi" I sent back "hey". I am feeling so low. Crying and just feeling sad. I even thought seriously about going out and getting ripped. I haven't had a drink in 13 years. But I stop and think it thru and I know it is not what I want, it wouldn't help an...

Mindful · Mindful

Hi I am just feeling wierd at my ftf meetings. I have always felt a little different (being the only guy in most meetings) but lately my feelings are something else. I grew up in a alcoholic home. And truthfully I became one. I went to treatment almost 18 years ago. Been clean ever since. Faithfully went t...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((((Everyone))))))))) The summer is always such a worl'wind for me. Kids out of school and going back and forth from mom to me... at work, playing with friends... whew, I love having them around and playing, but what a break when they go back to school! I haven't posted much, cause things have be...

frazzled · frazzled

well i thought i was going to my alanon meeting tonight while he went to his..... our five year old had kindergarten orientation tonight at 6:45. the meetings started at 8:00. we got out of there at 8:09~ and that was fine with me i didnt even worry about the meeting till i got in the car and thought about th...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have noticed while reading through posts that a lot of us have been in these relationships for 7 years before leaving. I thought that was odd because I have been in 2 relationships like this both for 7 years and always joked I can only tolerate 7 years of bs. Now that I see so many others with the same amt...

ddub · ddub

4:30am here and I still can't get to sleep. Maybe thinking by writing will help me figgure out how to settle. I've been re-setting my kids and myself to go to bed earlier so we can wake early enough for school. I was doing great until tonight. I am so depleted from seven years of therapists for kids and...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, its so great to have this message board, ex-a going to hospital next sunday, for quite a lot of test, not looking good, grant appeal for my PhD has got very messy through delays. Looks like I will be paying back money, have taken full responsibility for same. ex-a still managing to drink every n...

maresie2 · maresie2

When I met the A coming up to 7 years ago I had a decent job, was making good money, had choices, was dating, and felt desperate. I hid it very very well. I had no idea how to date and I was incredilby lonely. Along cam ethe A and he was willing and ready to go full throttle into relationship right away. I saw not...

Jen · Jen

I found out after I posted yesterdays topic that part of my trouble was that again he was lying and he was not sober. I suspected it, but had no proof. I really realize now that he is in really bad shape. He came over yesterday and before we even got to town he was shaking and going through some heavy withdra...

CJ098 · CJ098

I was researching, how to end a relationship. I think it was Dr. Phil who said to end a relationship you cut off all communication. Well, you'd think that would be easy living with an A, cause when do you communication with them? Especially if you work opposite shifts and hardly ever see one another a...

QOD · QOD

We celebrating my daughter's 5th bday Sat at Chuck-E-Cheese. My AH and his mom & grandma went w/us. We had a good time there. And he was in an incredible mood. Smiling and laughing and of course getting too affectionate towards me AGAIN. Then I screwed up and asked him if he wanted to go w/me and t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))))), To those of you who were all affected by Hurricane Katrina, you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Hard to believe it's 2 years later. I have seen many of you be so strong, and you have taught me many things including courage and strength. I remember all of you and your families and...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

For those of you who have been following along... I finally got the key to the new condo on Sunday morning and had about 3/4 of the stuff moved in Sunday night. Of course Monday was a nightmare with waking up late, getting the kids set at their first day of school, the kindergarten teacher forgot to put my...

skier · skier

I am at my wits end right now. My AH has been attending sporadic AA meetings now for abour 4 months. (Precipitatated by my taking our son to my Moms for a couple of weeks, as I work nights, and found he was hiding and drinking while I was at work) This summer has been a rollercoaster of emotions..........mo...

maresie2 · maresie2

i was reading one of Melody Beatties books on the weekend which I can't find at the moment because my room is a wash with boxes and I can't find anything at all. I realised I needed a new rule Is it going to hurt me. Right now the A is playng victim and passive. He has no money and makes no effort to get any money....

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Post edited for content. Please contact originator by PM if you are interested in this particular site. -- Edited by canadianguy at 12:11, 2007-08-29

Kim65 · Kim65

Hope you don't mind, Lou, I need to borrow your title, it really fits my topic. I'm coming to see I've always had a problem with being a grown up myself. Seven years ago last spring I met my A in southern California. I had been in therapy for two years at that point. The previous summer, my best girlfriend...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Observations from my left eye (Preview) Hello (((((Everyone))))) I wanted to catch you all up on things with me. I haven't been around the board or the chatroom much for the last couple of weeks due to an eye issue, as many of you know. My eye is getting better but is still not back up to full operational status yet. It has stopped hurting, and is n...	david62	8	711	Sep 4, 2007 by maresie2
	Forgive me, I am new (Preview) Please forgive me, I am new to message boards and this is all very confusing. Don't know where to start but I am very desperate for help. My Mother i fear is far beyond help. Where do I begin? Thanks	Paulab	4	502	Sep 4, 2007 by Jen
	one month later-very bad day (Preview) It was exactly one month ago today my boyfriend (and 1 yr old son's father) died in car crash while DUI. I am getting up every am, going to college FT and taking care of the kids. I am making myself do things but still in so much pain. I got very touching and helpful responses when I posted before, thanks t...	klm4446	6	563	Sep 4, 2007 by maresie2
	I'm new here (Preview) I am "in a relationship" with an A and am having conflicting thoughts on whether to stay "friends" or break myself from him completely. I decided to join this group because I think it will help me to understand his situation better and at the same time not loose myself in it. Any ad...	jj35	6	551	Sep 4, 2007 by jj35
	going to court today (Preview) In front of a judge to resolve the child support issue and maybe some other issues. My lawyer says he'll be there but I don't trust him. My ex will be there as he is the one contesting paying any support at all. I don't know, I am scared and I am going all alone. I have just felt so very alone lately. I am commin...	serendipity	4	395	Sep 4, 2007 by Kim65
	Help please (Preview) I don't know where I am in my life--but I feel everyone is expecting so much of me and I am sooo resentful. We are leaving on a 2 week camping trip and my 82yr. old Mom says--Oh I sure wish I could go--Now I mean she really means it! She has had her day of holidays and I think now its my turn. Our 5 adult children...	meagain	4	442	Sep 4, 2007 by canadianguy
	One year of sobriety? (Preview) My ex text me today that he wants to connect with me but everytime he tries he just feels bad about himself. And that he has a year sobriety. I just cried and cried. In this year of his "sobriety" he has abandonded his kids in every sense, he has left me yet again with all of the responsibility, a...	serendipity	5	612	Sep 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	How to tell the kids (Preview) Hi all I am new, and I greatly appreciate all the great advice on this website. Without going into too much detail after 15 years I reached the end of my rope. I said I would stay because of his promise to stop drinking, the kids my fears of being alone, my fear of what he'll turn into. He has been sober fo...	Lili	6	700	Sep 4, 2007 by QOD
	Relationships after the Alcoholic (Preview) I was wondering if anyone has any warnings or advice to someone in their first serious relationship after being with an A for many years. I definitely have baggage and keep accidentally running into my ex-AH and having sad feelings stirred up. We thankfully have no contact otherwise. It was just...	sunny123	9	1658	Sep 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Waiting (from the Language of Letting Go) (Preview) I was thinking yesterday when I was on my walk about all the insignificant lies that my AHsober has told me. I even asked the counselor this last week, and she said that there are so many lies up there in that brain of his that he is so confused about what he has said, not said, is about to say, should say, sho...	lmt123	3	544	Sep 4, 2007 by renah
	Off topic...just for a smile. (Preview) The Cookie Monster A woman was waiting at an airport one night--- There were several long hours to wait for her flight. She hunted for reading in the airport gift shop Bought a big bag of cookies - found a place she could drop. She was engrossed in her book, but she happened to see A man sit beside her - as b...	Diva	5	584	Sep 3, 2007 by carosie
	I am new here. tbi domestic violence survivor (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/user/honeysinger1967 About Me: Christian Tbi survivor from domestic violence. Love Christian fellowship, reading my Bible each day, praying. My last online college writing class was in Spring 2007. F...	honeycomb	2	982	Sep 3, 2007 by Kim65
	Not sure if I should ignore what A says or not (Preview) My AH is miserable and also miserable at his job. In my opinion, it's a good job, but he's doesn't seem to moving forward and advancing. We are up to our eyeballs in debt, I have 2 jobs (sometimes 3) and now he's says he wants to quit and give his 2 weeks notice. It's not the first time he's threatened this...	Mamallama	6	629	Sep 3, 2007 by Diva
	Are there certain times for the chat? (Preview) Just wondering because I am new and would like to go in chat sometimes .......	honeycomb	2	351	Sep 3, 2007 by honeycomb
	Woo Hoo!!! Good news for a change. (Preview) ((((((((((((((Everyone)))))))))))) I finally have some good news in my life. I was offered a full time job at the airport!! The position is a screening officer (the one that xrays your carry on bags and runs the wand over you if you beep) lol. The hours might take some getting used to but thats ok. I'll...	shadow1	13	637	Sep 3, 2007 by Karilynn
	Update :) (Preview) ((((((((((everyone))))))))))) First of all I would like to thank all that sent their well wishes on my employment. I got offered the second job as well!!!!!! Wooohooo!!! I am waiting for the HR manager to call with an offer but I'm sure it will be fine and I will be accepting that job. It will be much ea...	shadow1	6	469	Sep 3, 2007 by ET
	learning to feel good feelings takes energy too (Preview) I am just beat. Yesterday, much to my surprise and happiness, I was taken out to lunch by the chair and the senior faculty of the econ dept. I was being wined and dined for their graduate program! So the whole time--well, after about 20 mins of being like, "Ok, gotta do this right, can't screw this...	Tiger2006	3	1046	Sep 2, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	ANGEL THOUGHTS (Preview) ANGEL THOUGHTS *" Serenity is....... To walk when others are running. To whisper when others are shouting. To sleep when others are restless. To smile when others are angry. To pau...*	NANUKE	2	345	Sep 2, 2007 by Friendofyours
	unexpected peace (Preview) My ahsober (7 mos) has been gone for 5 days on an annual fishing trip with his 2 best friends. Something that is a bit scary and unexpected for me is that I have felt peace with him gone. This is in spite of the knowledge that he will surrounded by a very familair situation in which he is used to drinking a lot...	Loupiness	1	465	Sep 2, 2007 by Friendofyours
	A Very Powerful Read (Preview) From the author of Women Who Run with the Wolves. Let Your Light Shine Bright By Clarissa Pinkola Estes My friends, do not lose heart. We were made for these times. I have heard from so many recently who are deeply and properly bewildered. They are concerned about the state of affairs in our world now. Ou...	Tenderheartsks	3	674	Sep 2, 2007 by ddub
	new issue came up at the f2f meeting tonight (Preview) i am very interested in the new issue that came up tonight (for me anyway) ,,, i have heard or read somewhere recently about this but so mch going on so i tend to jump from thing to thing. lol alot of people in the group were talking about not wanting to get into relationships out of fear of finding the kinds o...	frazzled	3	605	Sep 2, 2007 by lin0606
	He brought hay! (Preview) I am trying today to be thankful for small accomplishments, from myself and my AH. I realize he is trying and that I am trying and expectaions from both of us really get in the way. So today I am making a list for myself of the things I would like to accomplish for today. I will be thankful for anything I can ge...	Jen	3	496	Sep 1, 2007 by nmike
	September 9th Business Meeting @ 9 PM EST (Preview) Due to the long weekend, we decided to postpone the business meeting to next week, Sunday, September 9th, 9:00 p.m. EST SEPTEMBER 9TH AGENDA I. OP SCHEDULE II. SECRETARY'S REPORT A. Minutes Review/Approval - August 5th III. TREASURER'S REPORT A. ...	Maria123	0	373	Sep 1, 2007 by Maria123
	Sept business mtg?? (Preview) Since it's Labor Day, I wonder if the business mtg will be held Sunday? Or when? Thanks, pw	wp	1	435	Sep 1, 2007 by wp
	online sponsoring (Preview) man i really need a sponsor. i was planning on asking this one older woman who i had spoken to twice before, but she wasnt around tonight and i wsnt fully on the fence about it either...... i am just really eager to get started with the steps. and when i dont get to a face 2 face meeting i lose my focus on the phi...	frazzled	1	451	Sep 1, 2007 by Jen
	Had another surgery (Preview) Hi Alanoners, I had shoulder surgery two weeks ago. Went in for my check-up and the screw had slipped and went in last week for another surgery. Pain again. Has set me back at work adn life itself. There but for the grace of god friends and family had stepped up to help me. My Ahsober finally showed up to hel...	nmike	5	477	Sep 1, 2007 by tea2
	my grandma died (Preview) I would like to tell everyone yesterday my grandma died. I am hanging in there I am doing ok.	nycbt	16	628	Sep 1, 2007 by tea2
	Just had enough (Preview) My husband is trying to get custody of his son from his ex-wife who is an alcoholic, and we think a druggie. She is a mess. They went to court on it in July and were ordered to do mediation, which she refused. So while she was refusing to do the mediation,. her parents went to the courthouse and got paperw...	Unsure	1	487	Sep 1, 2007 by Friendofyours
	impulse and loneliness (Preview) I have moved to a place that is not much better than the last place I lived in. The room itself is like an oven and I have had to work really overtime to get it to a place of habitabiity. I feel like I am running on the spot all the time. One of my neighbors who is a man about the same age as I am has been very very he...	maresie2	7	541	Sep 1, 2007 by leo
	Can I vent please?? (Preview) What the hell is wrong with him???? (the ah) I just found out he borrowed $400 from his father to get his truck fixed but............he used that excuse to only give me a portion of the paycheck. So he had a ton of money and left me and the kids with hardly nothing. I got him in a huge lie. He said "I didn'...	Friendofyours	2	495	Sep 1, 2007 by artygirl
	feeling crazy! (Preview) i just need to share that im feeling crazy. i have anger and i need help. there are some old freinds staying with us and i feel i am losing my serenity. my hubby who is normally silent, broody and distant, is very animated in this womans company. he is a different person. it makes me feel wierd and disconne...	florrie	4	432	Sep 1, 2007 by florrie
	Thank you all for being here.... (Preview) (((((((((Everyone))))))))) I have often been moved to tears by the support you have offered me here. Life is just such a strange harbor to be sailing in some days... you all help me see the rocks... and the open water. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. A very very dear friend of mine lent me a cd from...	rtexas	6	717	Sep 1, 2007 by Loupiness
	Hi I'm new (Preview) Hi My name is Lynn. I have been married to an AH/DA for 14 years now. We have 3 children together. I have put up with alot, and Iam sure their are many who put up with more than I have. Over the years, I have dealth with the usual, dui's, no money, him not coming home. Getting mad, fighting, making up. In t...	lness8	7	582	Aug 31, 2007 by Peggy7
	I Am So Sick & Tired (Preview) I am so sick and tired of scrounging at the bottom just to get by. My ex A sent me an e-mail threatening to hire a private investigator to find me. He can afford a private investigator, but he couldn't pay child support for the last 7 years! Now I am working for a company that has an A for an owner. He lied to me a...	kissers	7	1450	Aug 31, 2007 by aunitedway
	Any suggestions??? (Preview) Hello everyone! It's been a couple of weeks i think since my last post. Right now things are well. I guess as good as they can be. I have a job now!! Part time til next week when the kids go back to school. Then I'll be a full timer! It's been 8 years since I've worked a full time job. So it's going to take a littl...	sgraingermk	7	657	Aug 31, 2007 by Jen
	I'M DONE!!!!!! (Preview) Well I was at the old house until 10 last night and got home covered in sweat and exhausted and suffering from bleach fume inhalation but I'M DONE!! It's clean and ready to move in when the carpets are cleaned. What a relief. I have spent every day since Sunday after work moving stuff and cleaning up fo...	carolinagirl	7	729	Aug 31, 2007 by evey
	You Won't Believe What I Did (warning....VERY long) (Preview) The last couple of weeks have been literal hell around here. AH and I have mostly not spoken..I am to the point of just being numb to his crazy ways. It is so bizzare. The anger he has, the insane things he says, the things he destroys....I have come to realize the man I love is never coming back.....unle...	Becky1	9	1013	Aug 31, 2007 by Jen
	THE RELAXED APPROACH (Preview) THE RELAXED APPROACH Step One: RELAX I don't have to be in charge or in control anymore. It's going to be okay. Step Two: RELAX I can simply believe that someone stronger than I can restore me to health and wholeness. Step Three: RELAX I can easily tu...	NANUKE	3	7145	Aug 31, 2007 by kismetstrand
	ESH REQUESTED--need help (Preview) Hello everyone, I am "FREAKED OUT" today! My parakeet, who is very sick, is seeming to be doing better. She is eating and drinking and pooping on her own. For a few days, I had to give her water by hand, and she would eat her treats on my little table beside my computer. But she has this giant her...	hippietrippiechick	5	680	Aug 31, 2007 by maire rua
	the secrets.... (Preview) The other night at a f2f meeting, a woman shared how she had been forced to keep secrets since she was a child, and that she no longer would do so because it is so damaging. It made me really start thinking about all the secrets I am keeping and what my true motivation is. We are in a small town where we own a bu...	Loupiness	10	840	Aug 31, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	Insanity: Doing the same thing again and again (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm Erin and it's been far too long since I've checked in on this board. I've tried out a handful of face to face meetings in the last couple of weeks but I haven't yet found one that's a good fit. As a "double winner" myself, I know I felt my best when I was working both programs c...	erin in ny	9	761	Aug 31, 2007 by mhgal
	Twelve Stepping- The RELAXED APPROACH (Preview) Hi Alanon Family, This is a keeper, I hope we all benefit from it!! Let's be gentle with ourselves and work our program focusing on us and let our Higher Power do the rest!! Isn't it grand we don't have to fix anyone, we can allow our Higher Power do what He does best-this way we can tend to us and cherish the...	NANUKE	1	691	Aug 31, 2007 by twinmom2
	This too shall pass. Right?? (Preview) Ok. I know I mentioned this in an earlier post but it has become all consuming!!! My AH and I have been completely apart for right at 2 months. Meaning, no hugging, touching, kissing, anything. Now for 14 years I have had the attitude about sex that I could take it or leave it. It was always more of...	QOD	6	571	Aug 31, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Starting to see (long) (Preview) Got a text from the ex this morning. "Hi" I sent back "hey". I am feeling so low. Crying and just feeling sad. I even thought seriously about going out and getting ripped. I haven't had a drink in 13 years. But I stop and think it thru and I know it is not what I want, it wouldn't help an...	serendipity	3	585	Aug 30, 2007 by nmike
	What my next Step when I no longer have a Alcoholic in my life (Preview) Hi I am just feeling wierd at my ftf meetings. I have always felt a little different (being the only guy in most meetings) but lately my feelings are something else. I grew up in a alcoholic home. And truthfully I became one. I went to treatment almost 18 years ago. Been clean ever since. Faithfully went t...	Mindful	11	568	Aug 30, 2007 by Mindful
	Good news, and bad news.... (Preview) (((((((((Everyone))))))))) The summer is always such a worl'wind for me. Kids out of school and going back and forth from mom to me... at work, playing with friends... whew, I love having them around and playing, but what a break when they go back to school! I haven't posted much, cause things have be...	rtexas	11	912	Aug 30, 2007 by jaja
	sometimes you have to look for the good things even if they arent going your way at the moment (Preview) well i thought i was going to my alanon meeting tonight while he went to his..... our five year old had kindergarten orientation tonight at 6:45. the meetings started at 8:00. we got out of there at 8:09~ and that was fine with me i didnt even worry about the meeting till i got in the car and thought about th...	frazzled	4	723	Aug 29, 2007 by Kim65
	What seems to be the magic in the # 7? (Preview) I have noticed while reading through posts that a lot of us have been in these relationships for 7 years before leaving. I thought that was odd because I have been in 2 relationships like this both for 7 years and always joked I can only tolerate 7 years of bs. Now that I see so many others with the same amt...	carolinagirl	8	459	Aug 29, 2007 by Friendofyours
	on empty, depleted (Preview) 4:30am here and I still can't get to sleep. Maybe thinking by writing will help me figgure out how to settle. I've been re-setting my kids and myself to go to bed earlier so we can wake early enough for school. I was doing great until tonight. I am so depleted from seven years of therapists for kids and...	ddub	6	3145	Aug 29, 2007 by Kim65
	need a miracle guy, couple of them in fact (Preview) Dear all, its so great to have this message board, ex-a going to hospital next sunday, for quite a lot of test, not looking good, grant appeal for my PhD has got very messy through delays. Looks like I will be paying back money, have taken full responsibility for same. ex-a still managing to drink every n...	maire rua	3	506	Aug 29, 2007 by Friendofyours
	being in reality (Preview) When I met the A coming up to 7 years ago I had a decent job, was making good money, had choices, was dating, and felt desperate. I hid it very very well. I had no idea how to date and I was incredilby lonely. Along cam ethe A and he was willing and ready to go full throttle into relationship right away. I saw not...	maresie2	5	572	Aug 29, 2007 by Kim65
	I am doing better. (Preview) I found out after I posted yesterdays topic that part of my trouble was that again he was lying and he was not sober. I suspected it, but had no proof. I really realize now that he is in really bad shape. He came over yesterday and before we even got to town he was shaking and going through some heavy withdra...	Jen	5	443	Aug 29, 2007 by Jen
	How to end a relationship... (Preview) I was researching, how to end a relationship. I think it was Dr. Phil who said to end a relationship you cut off all communication. Well, you'd think that would be easy living with an A, cause when do you communication with them? Especially if you work opposite shifts and hardly ever see one another a...	CJ098	6	670	Aug 29, 2007 by QOD
	Signing Divorce Papers on Friday! (Preview) We celebrating my daughter's 5th bday Sat at Chuck-E-Cheese. My AH and his mom & grandma went w/us. We had a good time there. And he was in an incredible mood. Smiling and laughing and of course getting too affectionate towards me AGAIN. Then I screwed up and asked him if he wanted to go w/me and t...	QOD	10	775	Aug 29, 2007 by Andrea12
	Remembering Katrina (Preview) (((((Family)))))), To those of you who were all affected by Hurricane Katrina, you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Hard to believe it's 2 years later. I have seen many of you be so strong, and you have taught me many things including courage and strength. I remember all of you and your families and...	Karilynn	5	402	Aug 29, 2007 by Andrea12
	Where I'm at.. (Preview) For those of you who have been following along... I finally got the key to the new condo on Sunday morning and had about 3/4 of the stuff moved in Sunday night. Of course Monday was a nightmare with waking up late, getting the kids set at their first day of school, the kindergarten teacher forgot to put my...	carolinagirl	6	622	Aug 29, 2007 by QOD
	is this normal??????? (Preview) I am at my wits end right now. My AH has been attending sporadic AA meetings now for abour 4 months. (Precipitatated by my taking our son to my Moms for a couple of weeks, as I work nights, and found he was hiding and drinking while I was at work) This summer has been a rollercoaster of emotions..........mo...	skier	7	674	Aug 29, 2007 by aunitedway
	new rule is it going to hurt me? (Preview) i was reading one of Melody Beatties books on the weekend which I can't find at the moment because my room is a wash with boxes and I can't find anything at all. I realised I needed a new rule Is it going to hurt me. Right now the A is playng victim and passive. He has no money and makes no effort to get any money....	maresie2	6	535	Aug 29, 2007 by Jen
	I found this site on debt collection laws to be very helpful! (closed) (Preview) Post edited for content. Please contact originator by PM if you are interested in this particular site. -- Edited by canadianguy at 12:11, 2007-08-29	carolinagirl	0	420	Aug 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Being a grownup Part II (Preview) Hope you don't mind, Lou, I need to borrow your title, it really fits my topic. I'm coming to see I've always had a problem with being a grown up myself. Seven years ago last spring I met my A in southern California. I had been in therapy for two years at that point. The previous summer, my best girlfriend...	Kim65	12	4558	Aug 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
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