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DavidG · DavidG

An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...

Debb · Debb

Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...

Freetime · Freetime

In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...

DavidG · DavidG

The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...

hotrod · hotrod

the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...

el-cee · el-cee

This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...

Bo · Bo

Mysterious title? LOL. Well, what I really wanted to throw out there is not just how the steps work, but more, what do they represent, what can they mean. I don't take any position on whether or not a person should do or work the steps. I did. I do. Every day. But that's me. My choice. I do think as far as an exp...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of Mondays reading talks about finding great spiritual freedom. They were allowed to find their own personal understanding of God, and then give others the same freedom. This writer says that their concept of God evolves, and that enables themself to grow and change. With gaining HP a...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Today my AS was sentenced to prison.He will be there close to 5 years. I'm heartbroken and could use some words of wisdom please.I have been down this road so many times before and it just never seems to get easier. As his mother I will never get used to it or be ok with it.

DavidG · DavidG

This year I wanted to focus on Tradition 5, in a healthy way. In the drinking situation we are often forced to make sacrifices. Only by talking things through, do we become aware of the extent of this. And this natural approach to an unnatural situation helps form our personality. I do need to s...

Jack1 · Jack1

My wife and I have had drinks on a fairly regular basis over the many years of our marriage. On occasion one or both of us would drink too much, but that was pretty rare. Earlier this year she completed a weight loss/dieting plan which resulted in getting to nearly the weight she was when we were married, a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays page begins with a metaphor: Alcoholism is a thief. The writer goes on to list many circumstances when this is true: alcoholism may have stolen people we love, jobs, close relationships, safety. For many of us who have lived with active alcoholism our sense of secur...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

As a reminder ====== The material presentedhere is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.*********************************************************************************...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is the anniversary of my first meeting. I am so grateful that I stuck around for the miracle to happen! I know that is not about the alcoholic but about me & my own recovery. I owe all my fellow members to remind me of this. Thank you for being a part of my recovery!

DavidG · DavidG

Our summer here has been slow in coming- rainy and cool. In stark contrast to our neighbours across the ditch. More than once the smoke from there fires has hung around our hills. I decided over Christmas and New year to devote the rest of my working life to working on our properties. That way i c...

DavidG · DavidG

Getting back to basics- hopes and dreams... were shattered, over and over again. Boundaries lost. Despair set in. My dream for these last three months was to do steps 10, 11 and 12. And then next year to take a good look at tradition 5. This was about reaching out to others, f...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about worry -- how much time is wasted doing it, how it takes us away from reality, and how it can become a cycle of fear and self-criticism. The author breaks this cycle by focusing on the present moment -- the sights, sounds and sensations taking place here and now. Worrying is noi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In Today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their experiences with a newly-sober alcoholic. The author shares that they once very emphatically told their family that the constant bickering was impacting their newly sober loved one and it might cause her to start drinking again...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Greetings all, IAmHere is seeing to an ill friend. I loved C2C and ODAT, so went with both as they work so well together.ODAT:The challenge of life with an alcoholic can lead us in complete desperation when we tackle it without a Higher Power or program. Though we may not know how, or why, in AlAnon we fin...

DavidG · DavidG

A lot of people are wary of facebook- but, in the right hands it can maintain connections. Late last year i reported a young family member to the welfare, here in NZ. There were other family members lobbying them too. Two boys age 4 and 6 were living in a home where meth was being used. The authoriti...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today stresses the importance of iving life ODAT, using alanon tools such as the slogans,the :"one day at a time bookmark ". The reading stresses the importance of having a quiet time in which to pray, meditate and connect with HP We must remember that it is important to solve...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

That's a silly title,I know,but there's a story that goes with it. On Christmas eve I did a good job of just detaching from AH and actually had a calm,peaceful time at a family gathering. Afterwards AH was picking and poking at me but I let it slide off my back and didn't play into it. On Christmas mornin...

Lyne · Lyne

The theme of tomorrows reading, 1/6, is about staying in touch with other alanon members. The writer says that patient listening from others gets burdens off their chest. The person listening by phone or text can help the caller reason things out. The listener can provide support, and the caller...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello everyone. First, happy new year and holiday wishes to you all. Even though I don't know you in person, there are quite a few of you who have provided me with so much hope, encouragement, and understanding, I feel like I need to start with how grateful I am that I found this place. I am being severely...

Bo · Bo

Life is wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I have so much to be grateful for, and I am, every day, and I live a happy and healthy life, with an attitude of gratitude. I enjoy life, give back, go to some NJ Devils games, a couple of Giants games, I take cooking classes, travel, love my work, and so much more. I...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading talks about making positive changes one day, one small goal, one small risk at a time. We cannot change the past, but we can break out of unhealthy patterns. Taking some tiny action each day can be much more effective than months of inactivity followed by a frenzied attempt to make r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just getting around to posting this year. Lol. It is only January 2nd. I am so grateful that I can still type. It seems trivial in some ways but I am sitting here w/ painful hands. My joints start to act up & I can't keep up. I hope that I can do better or feel better in the future. Anyhow, I am grateful tha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone and happy 2020! Todays reading begins with a reflection on the suggested welcome that includes ...in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless. The reader describes feeling a bit taken aback by this; in his/her experience there definitely were situations th...

DavidG · DavidG

In my journey through the steps- 6 or 8 times... I have moved away from the black and white thinking of my family. "my way or the doorway!" I am sure there are regular visitors here- in this forum. Newcomers come here and are received and supported. I regard myself as a group member. I have always wante...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66185449/alanon-step-1-1-1-20/

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses how we learn in Al-Anon to seek what we need through new/different/healthier places. It suggests that turning to an Alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store for bread. When we expect a "good" parent to nurture and support our feelings,...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Hello everyone - after being on and or still regularly reading these boards for the last two years, I am back and looking for some support please until I can get to my next f2f meeting. Long story short, but I have separated from my AH. Things at home had been calmer and AH has reported he had stopped drin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Happy New Year, MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the "instant-ness" of our society and how the habit of getting other things (instant coffee, money from an ATM, instant breakfast, etc.) in an instant can impact our desire to get instant answers when coming to Al-Anon. Recovery from...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. Need to vent for a moment. Im away on my usual after XMas getaway which Ive done for the last 20 or so years. I suffer with a horrible back and its being HORRIBLE! Also, my A seems to be stuck in misery mode, as she cannot tolerate my living apart from her half the week, which I started ab...

hotrod · hotrod

the C2C reading for today, 12-31 speaks about the end of the year and the importance of taking the time to review the year and contemplate our progress We can then thank hp for our success and review what we did to contribute to our success. We will discover that we do play an important ROLL IN OUR...

norasq · norasq

Hi, all, and happy holidays to you. As ever, I am so grateful for this group. I dont post often, but get much support from just reading. i dont have a lot of contact with my ex AH these days but we have a young adult daughter on the autism spectrum who lives with me. He lives in the same town, 5 minutes away. Whe...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/30, is about the choice we have of letting what other people do or say destroy our peace of mind or ruin our day. Do we have to respond to the words of a sick person as though they were the ultimate truth or authority? Do we enjoy the martyr role? Do we need attention and pity? Th...

joker · joker

I was reading on line and I just had a thought cross my mind and wanted some feedback. When it comes to dating, I noticed I pick men who are loners, no friends, no close friendships. They are often alone and disconnected from family. It could be because they destroyed those relationships but I seem to be...

Freetime · Freetime

I seldom invite people to my house ... not because I don't like people, but because I want to be a "perfect" hostess and am not sure I know how to do that, and I believe it would be too stressful for me. Last night, Christmas Eve, I decided to go to the Al-Anon meeting that's nearest my home. It's usually a b...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the idea of balance, accepting things we cannot change, and finding our sense of serenity. The writer describes having had difficulty with physical balance until a time that he/she felt a connection with the earth and the physical pull of gravity. T...

Hi, new member here · wvlady

Hello everyone! I'm very grateful to have the opportunity to learn from you all. I'm walking down a road that I've been down before and can certainly benefit from any wisdom/experience shared here in this forum. To give you a little history, I was married to an alcoholic for fifteen years. Our marri...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading learned at an early age to be in charge of everything. Because adults in the family were not handling the houshold responsibilities, the author had to take it all on. By participating in Al-Anon, they saw how people in the group shared responsibilities. People signe...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

For everyone in my Al anon family: I wish you the happiest of holiday season. No matter where or who you are I ask for peace to lead the way of all your celebrations. I hope that however you celebrate, please remember to seek serenity in all you do! Don't let the hustle & bustle get you stressed over may...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! In today's reading in today's hope, the author reflects on their beliefs about love. In the past, the author experienced relationships with people who were not able to give love freely. Love was used to manipulate or control. Love didn't seem like a positive thing, because it had been use...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses being a victim vs. a volunteer. A very useful lesson learned by most in Al-Anon is that if we don't want to be a doormat, we have to get up off the floor. While we have no control over what others say, do or think, we are responsible or our own choices. The writer suggests that in...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/23, tells an interesting story. The author went to their first alanon meeting to support a friend, found themselves identifying with all the shares, and kept going back. The author felt like an imposter though, because they were positive they didn't even know any alcoh...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... some things I go over, again and again... I have noticed lately that the list of these things is getting shorter and shorter. In theory I favour therapy in tandem with time in our 12 Step groups. 100% I always say too- that we are works in progress, and sometimes our groups, also are...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Christmas day did not got smoothly- but IT WAS sorted out along the way. I feel that i have something to offer ALANON, and any other 12 step group- in fact, any other people. I believe that charity begins at home- so this happens primarily around friends and family. This, of course includ...

DavidG · DavidG

In another programme we are told- "we guess at what normal is." Living with an addict- a drinkers does scramble up anybodies' boundaries. Broadly I felt that the steps gave me norms to live by- and the traditions gave me boundaries. Just reflecting on this stuff. Planning to demonstrate this a bit...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

To all who celebrate, wishing you a day filled with serenity and love. TT

Freetime · Freetime

I don't often dip into the Hope For Today reader, but I am glad I looked at it today. The subject is detaching with love. The writer assumed they would never achieve it. THey couldn't imagine living without resentment. Bitterness was part of their identity. With Al-Anon, they slowly began to real...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I wanted to share one of my many memories of Christmas, that I have had through out my Life, some Good, some not so good. This one however,always brings a smile to my face when I think of it. When 4 of my Grand Children were younger, I decided to do something very different, I really liked the American w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am back @ Step One - admitting that I am powerless, simply because I am a person in recovery and it feels like the right place to be. My Thanksgiving was extremely different than expected, planned or even remotely considered. I've learned in recovery to keep my expectations low, and do reasonably we...

Temple · Temple

Posted this as part of my last, but I do want those of you who have been praying for me and pulling for me to know.. I got the best news yesterday. All clear and nothing scary in residence. And I don't have to have radiation. Thank you all--I know the prayers and support made all the difference. And it sus...

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	An attitude of gratitude... (Preview) An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...	DavidG	6	1096	Jan 19, 2020 by Bo
	Step 10 and gratitude... (Preview) Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...	DavidG	4	515	Jan 19, 2020 by Bo
	ODAT for 1/18/2020 (Preview) Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...	Debb	4	399	Jan 18, 2020 by JerryF
	ODAT - January 17 (Preview) In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...	Freetime	8	389	Jan 17, 2020 by JerryF
	Just another birthday to remember... (Preview) This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...	Hoot Nanny	3	450	Jan 17, 2020 by hotrod
	Processing Feelings (Preview) I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...	tiredtonite	24	1729	Jan 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...	Iamhere	5	418	Jan 16, 2020 by JerryF
	Maybe I should Contact His Doctor(?) ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...	SunnyFrogs	43	2668	Jan 16, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	Courage to Change January 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...	Skorpi	5	589	Jan 15, 2020 by Iamhere
	Me and professionals... (Preview) The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...	DavidG	7	476	Jan 15, 2020 by Debb
	C2 C reading 1-14 (Preview) the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...	hotrod	6	634	Jan 14, 2020 by JerryF
	Awareness acceptance and action (Preview) This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...	el-cee	5	769	Jan 14, 2020 by DavidG
	Do you need to "do" or "work" the steps? Why? How? (Preview) Mysterious title? LOL. Well, what I really wanted to throw out there is not just how the steps work, but more, what do they represent, what can they mean. I don't take any position on whether or not a person should do or work the steps. I did. I do. Every day. But that's me. My choice. I do think as far as an exp...	Bo	25	7466	Jan 13, 2020 by Debb
	C2C, 1/13 (Preview) The author of Mondays reading talks about finding great spiritual freedom. They were allowed to find their own personal understanding of God, and then give others the same freedom. This writer says that their concept of God evolves, and that enables themself to grow and change. With gaining HP a...	Lyne	5	422	Jan 13, 2020 by El
	Rough Day (Preview) Today my AS was sentenced to prison.He will be there close to 5 years. I'm heartbroken and could use some words of wisdom please.I have been down this road so many times before and it just never seems to get easier. As his mother I will never get used to it or be ok with it.	SunnyFrogs	27	1917	Jan 13, 2020 by Debb
	Servant, service, and "to serve". (Preview) This year I wanted to focus on Tradition 5, in a healthy way. In the drinking situation we are often forced to make sacrifices. Only by talking things through, do we become aware of the extent of this. And this natural approach to an unnatural situation helps form our personality. I do need to s...	DavidG	6	749	Jan 13, 2020 by Aloha
	Feeling lost.. (Preview) My wife and I have had drinks on a fairly regular basis over the many years of our marriage. On occasion one or both of us would drink too much, but that was pretty rare. Earlier this year she completed a weight loss/dieting plan which resulted in getting to nearly the weight she was when we were married, a...	Jack1	28	987	Jan 13, 2020 by Hopeful11
	Hope for Today Jan 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays page begins with a metaphor: Alcoholism is a thief. The writer goes on to list many circumstances when this is true: alcoholism may have stolen people we love, jobs, close relationships, safety. For many of us who have lived with active alcoholism our sense of secur...	yanksfan51	5	443	Jan 12, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	This has bothered me a great deal for a while now .. (Preview) As a reminder ====== The material presentedhere is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.*********************************************************************************...	SerenityRUS	21	3871	Jan 12, 2020 by Debb
	34 years today (Preview) Today is the anniversary of my first meeting. I am so grateful that I stuck around for the miracle to happen! I know that is not about the alcoholic but about me & my own recovery. I owe all my fellow members to remind me of this. Thank you for being a part of my recovery!	Hoot Nanny	12	3623	Jan 12, 2020 by Debb
	My day... summer coming... (Preview) Our summer here has been slow in coming- rainy and cool. In stark contrast to our neighbours across the ditch. More than once the smoke from there fires has hung around our hills. I decided over Christmas and New year to devote the rest of my working life to working on our properties. That way i c...	DavidG	7	1302	Jan 12, 2020 by Debb
	Getting back to basics and hoping to move forward... (Preview) Getting back to basics- hopes and dreams... were shattered, over and over again. Boundaries lost. Despair set in. My dream for these last three months was to do steps 10, 11 and 12. And then next year to take a good look at tradition 5. This was about reaching out to others, f...	DavidG	11	5020	Jan 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change, 1/10 (Preview) Today's reading is about worry -- how much time is wasted doing it, how it takes us away from reality, and how it can become a cycle of fear and self-criticism. The author breaks this cycle by focusing on the present moment -- the sights, sounds and sensations taking place here and now. Worrying is noi...	Freetime	6	449	Jan 11, 2020 by Debb
	Courage to Change January 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In Today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their experiences with a newly-sober alcoholic. The author shares that they once very emphatically told their family that the constant bickering was impacting their newly sober loved one and it might cause her to start drinking again...	Skorpi	6	1726	Jan 11, 2020 by Debb
	1/9/20 2-4-Thursday - C2C & ODAT (Preview) Greetings all, IAmHere is seeing to an ill friend. I loved C2C and ODAT, so went with both as they work so well together.ODAT:The challenge of life with an alcoholic can lead us in complete desperation when we tackle it without a Higher Power or program. Though we may not know how, or why, in AlAnon we fin...	Enigmatic	4	1019	Jan 11, 2020 by Debb
	Update on share from last year... (Preview) A lot of people are wary of facebook- but, in the right hands it can maintain connections. Late last year i reported a young family member to the welfare, here in NZ. There were other family members lobbying them too. Two boys age 4 and 6 were living in a home where meth was being used. The authoriti...	DavidG	3	502	Jan 11, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C Reading Tues 1-7 (Preview) The C2C reading for today stresses the importance of iving life ODAT, using alanon tools such as the slogans,the :"one day at a time bookmark ". The reading stresses the importance of having a quiet time in which to pray, meditate and connect with HP We must remember that it is important to solve...	hotrod	5	1941	Jan 7, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	I'm Back For Cookies (Preview) That's a silly title,I know,but there's a story that goes with it. On Christmas eve I did a good job of just detaching from AH and actually had a calm,peaceful time at a family gathering. Afterwards AH was picking and poking at me but I let it slide off my back and didn't play into it. On Christmas mornin...	SunnyFrogs	9	570	Jan 7, 2020 by el-cee
	C2C, 1/6 (Preview) The theme of tomorrows reading, 1/6, is about staying in touch with other alanon members. The writer says that patient listening from others gets burdens off their chest. The person listening by phone or text can help the caller reason things out. The listener can provide support, and the caller...	Lyne	3	2471	Jan 6, 2020 by El
	Holiday with Family and AH - crawling back to this group for sustenance (Preview) Hello everyone. First, happy new year and holiday wishes to you all. Even though I don't know you in person, there are quite a few of you who have provided me with so much hope, encouragement, and understanding, I feel like I need to start with how grateful I am that I found this place. I am being severely...	Fedora	6	590	Jan 6, 2020 by Aloha
	A slip. Relapse. (Preview) Life is wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I have so much to be grateful for, and I am, every day, and I live a happy and healthy life, with an attitude of gratitude. I enjoy life, give back, go to some NJ Devils games, a couple of Giants games, I take cooking classes, travel, love my work, and so much more. I...	Bo	12	1796	Jan 5, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change, 1/3 - Baby Steps (Preview) Today's reading talks about making positive changes one day, one small goal, one small risk at a time. We cannot change the past, but we can break out of unhealthy patterns. Taking some tiny action each day can be much more effective than months of inactivity followed by a frenzied attempt to make r...	Freetime	5	444	Jan 5, 2020 by DavidG
	my 1st post of the new year! (Preview) I just getting around to posting this year. Lol. It is only January 2nd. I am so grateful that I can still type. It seems trivial in some ways but I am sitting here w/ painful hands. My joints start to act up & I can't keep up. I hope that I can do better or feel better in the future. Anyhow, I am grateful tha...	Hoot Nanny	6	3710	Jan 5, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Jan 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone and happy 2020! Todays reading begins with a reflection on the suggested welcome that includes ...in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless. The reader describes feeling a bit taken aback by this; in his/her experience there definitely were situations th...	yanksfan51	5	390	Jan 5, 2020 by Bo
	This group, this forum... (Preview) In my journey through the steps- 6 or 8 times... I have moved away from the black and white thinking of my family. "my way or the doorway!" I am sure there are regular visitors here- in this forum. Newcomers come here and are received and supported. I regard myself as a group member. I have always wante...	DavidG	3	2390	Jan 4, 2020 by Bo
	sTEP 1 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66185449/alanon-step-1-1-1-20/	hotrod	4	2116	Jan 4, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change - 1/2 (Preview) Today's reading discusses how we learn in Al-Anon to seek what we need through new/different/healthier places. It suggests that turning to an Alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store for bread. When we expect a "good" parent to nurture and support our feelings,...	Iamhere	6	455	Jan 2, 2020 by Temple
	Looking for some support please (Preview) Hello everyone - after being on and or still regularly reading these boards for the last two years, I am back and looking for some support please until I can get to my next f2f meeting. Long story short, but I have separated from my AH. Things at home had been calmer and AH has reported he had stopped drin...	Bettertomorrow	17	2910	Jan 1, 2020 by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 1 (Preview) Happy New Year, MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the "instant-ness" of our society and how the habit of getting other things (instant coffee, money from an ATM, instant breakfast, etc.) in an instant can impact our desire to get instant answers when coming to Al-Anon. Recovery from...	Skorpi	4	2774	Jan 1, 2020 by Lyne
	New attitude (Preview) Good morning MIP. Need to vent for a moment. Im away on my usual after XMas getaway which Ive done for the last 20 or so years. I suffer with a horrible back and its being HORRIBLE! Also, my A seems to be stuck in misery mode, as she cannot tolerate my living apart from her half the week, which I started ab...	Lyne	13	867	Jan 1, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C Reading 12-31 (Preview) the C2C reading for today, 12-31 speaks about the end of the year and the importance of taking the time to review the year and contemplate our progress We can then thank hp for our success and review what we did to contribute to our success. We will discover that we do play an important ROLL IN OUR...	hotrod	6	2724	Dec 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	Letting him sink, letting go and letting god (Preview) Hi, all, and happy holidays to you. As ever, I am so grateful for this group. I dont post often, but get much support from just reading. i dont have a lot of contact with my ex AH these days but we have a young adult daughter on the autism spectrum who lives with me. He lives in the same town, 5 minutes away. Whe...	norasq	12	5583	Dec 30, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C, 12/30 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/30, is about the choice we have of letting what other people do or say destroy our peace of mind or ruin our day. Do we have to respond to the words of a sick person as though they were the ultimate truth or authority? Do we enjoy the martyr role? Do we need attention and pity? Th...	Lyne	3	1778	Dec 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Patterns (Preview) I was reading on line and I just had a thought cross my mind and wanted some feedback. When it comes to dating, I noticed I pick men who are loners, no friends, no close friendships. They are often alone and disconnected from family. It could be because they destroyed those relationships but I seem to be...	joker	8	1651	Dec 30, 2019 by Aloha
	A Christmas miracle (Preview) I seldom invite people to my house ... not because I don't like people, but because I want to be a "perfect" hostess and am not sure I know how to do that, and I believe it would be too stressful for me. Last night, Christmas Eve, I decided to go to the Al-Anon meeting that's nearest my home. It's usually a b...	Freetime	10	506	Dec 30, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today Dec 29 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the idea of balance, accepting things we cannot change, and finding our sense of serenity. The writer describes having had difficulty with physical balance until a time that he/she felt a connection with the earth and the physical pull of gravity. T...	yanksfan51	3	1899	Dec 29, 2019 by hotrod
	Hi, new member here (Preview) Hello everyone! I'm very grateful to have the opportunity to learn from you all. I'm walking down a road that I've been down before and can certainly benefit from any wisdom/experience shared here in this forum. To give you a little history, I was married to an alcoholic for fifteen years. Our marri...	wvlady	24	8210	Dec 28, 2019 by Maresie888
	HOPE FOR TODAY, 12/27 (Preview) The author of today's reading learned at an early age to be in charge of everything. Because adults in the family were not handling the houshold responsibilities, the author had to take it all on. By participating in Al-Anon, they saw how people in the group shared responsibilities. People signe...	Freetime	5	916	Dec 27, 2019 by DavidG
	Just here to wish... (Preview) For everyone in my Al anon family: I wish you the happiest of holiday season. No matter where or who you are I ask for peace to lead the way of all your celebrations. I hope that however you celebrate, please remember to seek serenity in all you do! Don't let the hustle & bustle get you stressed over may...	Hoot Nanny	5	1895	Dec 26, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	Today's Hope December 25 (Preview) Hello mip! In today's reading in today's hope, the author reflects on their beliefs about love. In the past, the author experienced relationships with people who were not able to give love freely. Love was used to manipulate or control. Love didn't seem like a positive thing, because it had been use...	Skorpi	4	1492	Dec 26, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 12/26 (Preview) Today's reading discusses being a victim vs. a volunteer. A very useful lesson learned by most in Al-Anon is that if we don't want to be a doormat, we have to get up off the floor. While we have no control over what others say, do or think, we are responsible or our own choices. The writer suggests that in...	Iamhere	3	1547	Dec 26, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, 12/23 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/23, tells an interesting story. The author went to their first alanon meeting to support a friend, found themselves identifying with all the shares, and kept going back. The author felt like an imposter though, because they were positive they didn't even know any alcoh...	Lyne	3	3885	Dec 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	Me and treatment, as a family member. [Trigger- reference to suicide.] (Preview) Hi Y'all... some things I go over, again and again... I have noticed lately that the list of these things is getting shorter and shorter. In theory I favour therapy in tandem with time in our 12 Step groups. 100% I always say too- that we are works in progress, and sometimes our groups, also are...	DavidG	8	3607	Dec 25, 2019 by DavidG
	Steps 11, and 12... (Preview) Hi y'all... Christmas day did not got smoothly- but IT WAS sorted out along the way. I feel that i have something to offer ALANON, and any other 12 step group- in fact, any other people. I believe that charity begins at home- so this happens primarily around friends and family. This, of course includ...	DavidG	0	1606	Dec 25, 2019 by DavidG
	How do the Steps work? (Preview) In another programme we are told- "we guess at what normal is." Living with an addict- a drinkers does scramble up anybodies' boundaries. Broadly I felt that the steps gave me norms to live by- and the traditions gave me boundaries. Just reflecting on this stuff. Planning to demonstrate this a bit...	DavidG	10	4462	Dec 25, 2019 by Bo
	Merry Christmas (Preview) To all who celebrate, wishing you a day filled with serenity and love. TT	tiredtonite	3	3345	Dec 25, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, 12/20 (Preview) I don't often dip into the Hope For Today reader, but I am glad I looked at it today. The subject is detaching with love. The writer assumed they would never achieve it. THey couldn't imagine living without resentment. Bitterness was part of their identity. With Al-Anon, they slowly began to real...	Freetime	6	841	Dec 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Wonderful Memories of Christmas (Preview) Hi, I wanted to share one of my many memories of Christmas, that I have had through out my Life, some Good, some not so good. This one however,always brings a smile to my face when I think of it. When 4 of my Grand Children were younger, I decided to do something very different, I really liked the American w...	WendyP	5	4546	Dec 24, 2019 by Maresie888
	Life, Love and Recovery (Preview) I am back @ Step One - admitting that I am powerless, simply because I am a person in recovery and it feels like the right place to be. My Thanksgiving was extremely different than expected, planned or even remotely considered. I've learned in recovery to keep my expectations low, and do reasonably we...	Iamhere	19	4335	Dec 24, 2019 by Maresie888
	I think a new thread with my good news may be needed. (Preview) Posted this as part of my last, but I do want those of you who have been praying for me and pulling for me to know.. I got the best news yesterday. All clear and nothing scary in residence. And I don't have to have radiation. Thank you all--I know the prayers and support made all the difference. And it sus...	Temple	16	2943	Dec 24, 2019 by Maresie888
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