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eriegroupgirl · eriegroupgirl

That's a lot of meetings to miss after ten years of alanon. It will be interesting to see how far astray I am as this disease tears it's ugly monster head at my son. My Dad was a 30 year AA member. He died on April 30 this year. I messed up with my son today. I fee terrible. I don't deserve help tonight, but I am so...

missmeliss · missmeliss

It's not even 24 hours and his brother is messaging me. OMG, we can't do this, we're getting married, we need our house back. He left here having drunk 1 bottle of wine, he bought 3, I guess he drank the rest on the way and at their house. I feel sad for him, I know how to handle him, but it isn't my job anymore. ...

neshema2 · neshema2

This is so unreal I go to goodwill to donate some clothing and i hear this "squeak squeak" sound and i know its an animal, most likely a dog and so i follow the sound...i find a dog in 77 degree weather, in the sun, locked in a black dodge caravan NO windows down, not even a crack and doggie sees...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This will sound deranged but, Cat Lady reared her head again just as we were moving out. Michael Douglas escaped and didn't come back for a couple of days and I started recieving messages from Cat Lady again. It had been months since I had heard from her. I was so upset and so worried, but her messages were...

mjferg · mjferg

I received a phone call from a mutual friend of my ex today, she lives with his brother and she hadn't seen me in a while.She told me she saw my ex with an old girl friend the other day, I am thinking that was awful fast we just broke up.I want to call and give him a piece of my mind so bad but I am sure it would only...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

Detachment is a very important tool in my Al-Anon tool box. I live with active alcoholism, so I use detachment often. However, until recently I was not discerning the difference between physical and emotional detachment. When my husband drinks, I do something that helps me think about me. I love t...

Hopingfor · Hopingfor

Hello all, I joined this forum around December last year when I was at Rock bottom with my BF drinking habits. Everyone was really fantastic and helped me through such a bad time but the one thing I kept hearing was try and find a local meeting. I didn't know if I had the nerve and was unsure if I would be abl...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I have been lurking a bunch since posting midsummer. First I want to say how moved I DMV by the deep reservoir of patience, kindness and honesty some of the regulars demonstrate here to person after person!! Truly remarkable. I feel badly to take up people's time and then disappear. One reason is I usua...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Just wanted to share about this to work through some things. We went to a wedding yesterday. It was for the daughter of of one of my former coworkers. My recovering abf is trying to get more accustomed to being in the presence of alcohol and being ok with it. So we're seated with some strangers who were als...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I went back to the doctors. The last one was dismissive,your stressed,stop it. Yeah,that's gonna happen. I've been attending meetings online, I need a sponsor,I'm praying. Today I found another quack,he was kindly. He prescribed meds. I feel upset but I also know this hsomething I sadly need for th...

pinkchip · pinkchip

So I picked up a 6 year medallion at one of the groups I used to attend in my first year. Yes, it's AA, but it's still the 12 steps and the journey is not so different, as I was leaving an A at the same time and working on tremendous codependency issues also. In any case, the overwhelming feedback from all th...

alwaysLP13 · alwaysLP13

I've been in Al-Anon just a little over 2 years. August was my birthday month. I just have to say, that the experience, strength and hope I get from the program and the people of the program are just great. It's a day at time but just for today it's a good day. I wanted to share what I shared at my meeting and to...

one and only · one and only

Ive been on another site for 3 years..It was an infidelity site..Now our lives have shifted once again...ANd I no longer belong there...I have for the last 6 years, gone thru every emotion imagineable. Trying desperately to figure out why my marriage was falling apart. Why I no longer recognized my H...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Some days, like today, I find myself feeling angry towards everyone. I just get sick of the same things over and over. I am realizing my best friend and her issues with her son are driving me nuts. Long story short, he is almost 18 and under house arrest with an ankle bracelet for drug possession. He is t...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I am working on forgiveness for my dry ah. First i need to forgive myself for my own past sins then forgive my ah for his current sins of adultery. I need to do this to move on, i will forgive him and hand him over to the care of God To deal with Him.I can not sit in judgement of AH it is not my job. i am doing this...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Just to clarify, I assumed A was going to stay at his brothers when he moved his big furniture out. I didn't know he planned to come back, but I have no legal right whatsoever to have him leave, he's a joint tenant, I'm not sure exactly how people think I would prevent him from coming and going from a house h...

LinSC · LinSC

There is a wisdom on this board that is given free with no attachments....this is a beautiful thing.

gardengal · gardengal

Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves......."Step 4" The greatest fault of all is to be conscious of none. In the past we have, perhaps, lived with the conviction that we were "always" right. Our tendency to self-justification may stem fromt hat. This situation may become complic...

jmsas · jmsas

Hello Everyone, I am a new member to this group. I have a few questions that I would greatly appreciate others feedback. First off, I am a single mother of 2 boys and have been single for about 3 years. A few months ago I began dating a guy who was upfront with me that he was a recovering addict. I thought...

Truth · Truth

Wow I don't even know long it has been since I posted!! I hope all is well in everyone's world......sending you all some light and love!!

Jerry F · Jerry F

Have been speaking with another one of us and listening; comparing notes and experiences part of which is the mental, emotional and physical side affects that event he non-drinker can suffer from directly related to "our part in it". The member caused me to inventory and remember wha...

Luiza · Luiza

Apparently I did voodoo... Would be funny if it wasn't sad. He has lost many phones and wallets over the years..I used to get so upset. Today I don't care. It is not my problem if he needs to spend money to buy a new one. It is so good to be free! By this time, next Sunday, this home will be all mine and I will pro...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Hi Been a while since I've posted or been on here ... life still plodding along but I seem to have had a bit of clarity of thought. The relationship in my mind has changed a bit. I used to say to myself that I still love the person, hate the disease etc etc ... I'm not so sure now. I've been feeling resentful, no...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Guts are better! Not as weak. Friends helped me get feed and grain. Pouring rain but we laughed a lot and had fun. They helped me bring it in. Then had a great lunch with my I love so much friend. Just had noodles, and splurged on the egg flower soup. I am a vegan but not radical. I needed that soup! (c: She is A b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to say to whomever wrote the post about the joy down in their heart & peace that passes understanding, thanks for bringing that up! It takes me back to when I was younger & we used to sing that song all the time. Right about now I need that peace. So much anxiety is passing through me that...

Fairlee · Fairlee

I had a long talk with AH last Friday. I calmly told him that even though I am no longer obsessing or talking (or nagging) about his drinking, I am still very concerned and not happy about it. I don't want to give him the impression that, just because I am learning how to cope more maturely with MY life, that...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I want to thank you Cathy for putting up the link you did for me. It really helped. I really like getting on my phone now that I know how to do it. You are a gem! Thank you too, for all the insight you have that you share on here. Kathleen

Jen61 · Jen61

I have not posted for a while so I thought I would talk about my meltdown. We moved to the Southern part of our state almost 5 months ago. Weather is gorgeous, clean air, no snow and we love it. I have not been to a F2F meeting in over 6 months either. I guess I thought going to the online meetings, reading...

ToBeFree · ToBeFree

Hello all, first time post to the MIP board. I have visited here for a few months and attend the Sat am meetings on line. [Have missed the last 2 weeks and f2f are hard to attend] My work and family schedule keep me busy, throw in living in a rural area and well, here I am. I love that this outlet is here and I can...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Where is Catherine ( grateful2be ) Is she on vacation or something. Missing her..

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I figured out last night I REALLY don't like being in the passenger's seat .. LOL! So my daughter is driving and bless her heart hasn't been getting a lot of driving time mostly because we are always in a hurry OR honestly the girl just isn't home. Yesterday I asked her drive us around .. I try to do it on t...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

Friday was awful. I feel like a failure. Staring at a drunk bum on my couch, I could no more detach than I could grow wings and fly. Here it was,my opportunity to release all the anger,confusion,hurt. Oh its 6 in the morning,well who cares,this can't wait. I'm off. Its almost a blur. No need for details,t...

likemyheart · likemyheart

My mom had bladder removal surgery; her kids, four of them anyway, sat around a table in the waiting room playing pinochle and giggling like we always do; I'm sure some of the other people waiting thought we were horribly irreverent but it was our way of getting through it. She got through it, it took ove...

Jerry F · Jerry F

nicely. Ever been to a conference or service assembly? Then you know what I'm going thru. Our Fall Service assembly is about over. I'm home early cause I got an appointment that takes the last 3 hours off the assembly...yuk. I'm missing the goodbye stage...you know the hugs and the kisses and s...

el-cee · el-cee

i was introduced to this pamphlet tonight at my meeting. wow it really amazed me how ive played my part in the story. what did you think of this?

Bombshall · Bombshall

Hello, I'm new here, just reading and trying to figure things out. I'm very confused. My ABF of a year is currently sober after a being in rehab a few months ago but the honeymoon period is running out and I am starting to realise that he's a jerk when he's sober too. The last time my mother saw him until a few...

MarkLH22 · MarkLH22

Hello! My wife is an alcoholic, and made the incredible decision to enter rehab, on her own, two weeks ago! We have four kids together (6, 8, 10, 12), and while the last two weeks with her in rehab have been kinda tough on all of us, it is still WAY better than the last year and a half of her drinking hard. I...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

You know how someone is so unpredictable they are predictable? Well, I always can tell when my Ex is being coached .. and boy is he being coached .. unfortunately for him .. again .. he tells exactly the amount of truth to cause him more issues. He tried to put me in a position of stating something in text...

serenity47 · serenity47

Having a lot of difficulty coping with daughters alcohol abuse. I know I am not responsible raised her right in fact I feel rather resentful that I am having to even deal with this as put a huge amount of time and effort into parenting and now I feel cheated. I guess I had convinced myself that if I did all...

lightblue2 · lightblue2

I have been living apart from my ah for 4 yrs and about two weeks ago he seemed to decide that he wanted to come back. The week before this he had a really embarrassing incident as a result of his drinking on the football grandfinal day. I have been trying to understand why after 4 yrs of him living his life...

Overcome · Overcome

Sunday Morning Meeting scheduled in the Al-Anon chat room. Topic: Chapter 3 of the Al-Anon book, "Having had a Spiritual Awakening". Or "Open Topic" related to Al-Anon. Today's reading: "Seeing Events in a New Light" I grew up in a family affected by alcoholism...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have not been able to recover from a meeting I went to on Weds. I know that it was several days ago but I haven't been able to post on here how I feel. It is very hard to post on my smart phone even though I like it. So, a few times a week on get on this library computer. Anyhow, I had put too much pressure on myself...

Mattie · Mattie

I have been separated from my A for more than a decade, but we have stayed technically married so he can be on my health insurance. He has various health conditions that made it impossible to get insurance here in the US (think stuff like diabetes which would count as a pre-existing condition). The de...

Luiza · Luiza

So, yesterday, Thursday is the busiest day for my daughter. She has school, then drama school then Brownies (a girl-guiding thing). I don't drive so we keep hoping on and off public transport and walking loads. Her A dad wasn't working yesterday so he said he would take her for all the after school stuf...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I know that detachment is very important in Al-Anon. I physically detach by leaving the house when my AH drinks, go out with friends, go shopping or just stay in the house in another room reading, watching television, talking on the phone or cleaning and doing laundry. This is easy. However, where...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have a smart phone & accidentally clicked on the site but I want to get back to mobile. It is so much easier to read on my phone. It was pretty simple to get on when I first did. I had a hard time trying to get back to where I can see the posts in a much easier to read format. I am on our library computer right n...

deacon · deacon

Or so it seems. Older sister has two children, son is 47, daughter is 44. My sister and her husband worked responsible jobs all their lives until retirement. They are now in their seventies and 'would' and 'should' have had a comfortable life. The daughter is married and living abroad with her husb...

missmeliss · missmeliss

He has done nothing. NOTHING for the last 2 weeks, he hasn't lifted a finger. The he got drunk and kept me awake for the last 2 days. I am so tired I am almost dead. Now my parents are due to arrive any minute and he's dancing around with a broom, come on Mel, what are you doing, your parents will be here soon! H...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Excuse me babbling a lot. Alone in the house, big final move tomorrow, SO much change. Its huge, and no-one to talk to except for the animals, and you good people. In the morning my parents come to take the last few things back to store in their garage...my washer and our mattresses and cookware etc, and t...

neshema2 · neshema2

A few years ago, i wold have bailed on this job and not looked back.... Today i had to go in and teach wife how to do some stuff w/her payables and how to do payroll liability payments correctly.....She is good learner and absorbed my teaching and we got a LOT of stuff done...I had her chasing down vendor in...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

Today I realized how important it is for me to detach. Tonight after getting home from a long dat at the hospital with my 82 yr. old mother, I came home to find that my 30 yr. old A son had helped himself to the vodka in our pantry. He does not live with us but knows where the key is. Be fore al-anon I would have p...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

My best friend is having a mammogram tomorrow due to possible breast cancer. She is going through a lot with her teenage son too...she is really stressed out. I watched her daughter tonight while she worked. She has been there for me for many years and encouraged me to leave AH. I am praying her mammogra...

Aloha · Aloha

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mjferg · mjferg

I am new here,Just starting my journey.Life became unbearable so i decided to go to therapy and my therapist suggested alanon.I have gone to three meetings and it is good to know I am not alone.I have decided not to take my ex back this time as it is always the same ,there are promises to get help but always...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Tomorrow is my last day at work. My boss is coming in from another office to take me out to lunch. She told me to invite whoever I wanted to come along. I gathered quite a few people - mostly people in the same sort of position as myself. My old boss adjusted her appointments to come and one of my old teammate...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Last night AH came home under the influence. I asked him where he went after work and he said no where. I said I smell alcohol on you and I know by your behavior after all these years that you were drinking. He responded with No, No, No. Finally he told me where he went and what he drank. I told him I was cal...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

Last night was my first Al-anon meeting :) It was scary at first. when I pulled into the parking lot, I sat in the car for a couple of minutes with butterflies in my stomach. I almost passed when it came to my turn to introduce myself. It felt good to get it out to peers that are living the same thing I am and t...

Lake · Lake

Hello friends, Nice to find this site. Over 30 years ago when I was 14 my mother married a man with 5 and 8 year old girls. They have lived happily ever after....except for relationships with his children, one of whom started drinking at 12 and is stage 4 alcoholic close to death multiple times. She has 8 y...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

After attending a F2F meeting this week that I hadn't been to in a while and realizing how far I have come in my 5+ years of Al-Anon, I looked back on some of my previous posts on this board. This one is from April 2012. Wow, I'm so grateful to have this program. I hope this post will be helpful to some of you who...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I was taught many years ago that control was a response to feeling powerless. Enter steps one to seven. Its pretty hard sometimes to work steps 3 and 6 when you are a raging control freak. I am resisting the urge to hurt myself by playing spy. Gee this is hard! Old habits become entrenched relatively quic...

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	skipped 18 years of meetings (Preview) That's a lot of meetings to miss after ten years of alanon. It will be interesting to see how far astray I am as this disease tears it's ugly monster head at my son. My Dad was a 30 year AA member. He died on April 30 this year. I messed up with my son today. I fee terrible. I don't deserve help tonight, but I am so...	eriegroupgirl	10	473	Oct 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	lol (Preview) It's not even 24 hours and his brother is messaging me. OMG, we can't do this, we're getting married, we need our house back. He left here having drunk 1 bottle of wine, he bought 3, I guess he drank the rest on the way and at their house. I feel sad for him, I know how to handle him, but it isn't my job anymore. ...	missmeliss	17	670	Oct 30, 2014 by Diva
	I'M NOT JOKING!! I nearly got into a fight today (Preview) This is so unreal I go to goodwill to donate some clothing and i hear this "squeak squeak" sound and i know its an animal, most likely a dog and so i follow the sound...i find a dog in 77 degree weather, in the sun, locked in a black dodge caravan NO windows down, not even a crack and doggie sees...	neshema2	13	542	Oct 30, 2014 by Diva
	Also a little update about Michael Douglas (Preview) This will sound deranged but, Cat Lady reared her head again just as we were moving out. Michael Douglas escaped and didn't come back for a couple of days and I started recieving messages from Cat Lady again. It had been months since I had heard from her. I was so upset and so worried, but her messages were...	missmeliss	12	367	Oct 29, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	trying not to react (Preview) I received a phone call from a mutual friend of my ex today, she lives with his brother and she hadn't seen me in a while.She told me she saw my ex with an old girl friend the other day, I am thinking that was awful fast we just broke up.I want to call and give him a piece of my mind so bad but I am sure it would only...	mjferg	6	440	Oct 29, 2014 by mjferg
	physical detachment / emotional detachment (Preview) Detachment is a very important tool in my Al-Anon tool box. I live with active alcoholism, so I use detachment often. However, until recently I was not discerning the difference between physical and emotional detachment. When my husband drinks, I do something that helps me think about me. I love t...	cloudyskies	6	1147	Oct 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Such a change! (Preview) Hello all, I joined this forum around December last year when I was at Rock bottom with my BF drinking habits. Everyone was really fantastic and helped me through such a bad time but the one thing I kept hearing was try and find a local meeting. I didn't know if I had the nerve and was unsure if I would be abl...	Hopingfor	4	319	Oct 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Heavy denial, about animals too (Preview) I have been lurking a bunch since posting midsummer. First I want to say how moved I DMV by the deep reservoir of patience, kindness and honesty some of the regulars demonstrate here to person after person!! Truly remarkable. I feel badly to take up people's time and then disappear. One reason is I usua...	oceanpine	4	299	Oct 29, 2014 by cloudyskies
	Healthy Socializing? (Preview) Just wanted to share about this to work through some things. We went to a wedding yesterday. It was for the daughter of of one of my former coworkers. My recovering abf is trying to get more accustomed to being in the presence of alcohol and being ok with it. So we're seated with some strangers who were als...	tiredtonite	5	452	Oct 29, 2014 by el-cee
	really need to get well (Preview) I went back to the doctors. The last one was dismissive,your stressed,stop it. Yeah,that's gonna happen. I've been attending meetings online, I need a sponsor,I'm praying. Today I found another quack,he was kindly. He prescribed meds. I feel upset but I also know this hsomething I sadly need for th...	aquamom23	7	507	Oct 29, 2014 by bud
	The program sinks in (Preview) So I picked up a 6 year medallion at one of the groups I used to attend in my first year. Yes, it's AA, but it's still the 12 steps and the journey is not so different, as I was leaving an A at the same time and working on tremendous codependency issues also. In any case, the overwhelming feedback from all th...	pinkchip	21	649	Oct 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Al-Anon helps me self-acceptance acceptance blame (Preview) I've been in Al-Anon just a little over 2 years. August was my birthday month. I just have to say, that the experience, strength and hope I get from the program and the people of the program are just great. It's a day at time but just for today it's a good day. I wanted to share what I shared at my meeting and to...	alwaysLP13	6	4640	Oct 29, 2014 by Spur
	new here..very new (Preview) Ive been on another site for 3 years..It was an infidelity site..Now our lives have shifted once again...ANd I no longer belong there...I have for the last 6 years, gone thru every emotion imagineable. Trying desperately to figure out why my marriage was falling apart. Why I no longer recognized my H...	one and only	9	458	Oct 29, 2014 by hotrod
	Drama and flirting (Preview) Some days, like today, I find myself feeling angry towards everyone. I just get sick of the same things over and over. I am realizing my best friend and her issues with her son are driving me nuts. Long story short, he is almost 18 and under house arrest with an ankle bracelet for drug possession. He is t...	Newlife girl	4	491	Oct 28, 2014 by andromeda
	Forgiveness (Preview) I am working on forgiveness for my dry ah. First i need to forgive myself for my own past sins then forgive my ah for his current sins of adultery. I need to do this to move on, i will forgive him and hand him over to the care of God To deal with Him.I can not sit in judgement of AH it is not my job. i am doing this...	Mirandac	16	500	Oct 28, 2014 by Mirandac
	Last ride on the crazy train. Oh by the way the man was nice but the lady is nicer. (Preview) Just to clarify, I assumed A was going to stay at his brothers when he moved his big furniture out. I didn't know he planned to come back, but I have no legal right whatsoever to have him leave, he's a joint tenant, I'm not sure exactly how people think I would prevent him from coming and going from a house h...	missmeliss	24	827	Oct 28, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	What I Know (Preview) There is a wisdom on this board that is given free with no attachments....this is a beautiful thing.	LinSC	4	245	Oct 28, 2014 by cloudyskies
	OUR TENDENCY TO SELF-JUSTIFICATION (Preview) Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves......."Step 4" The greatest fault of all is to be conscious of none. In the past we have, perhaps, lived with the conviction that we were "always" right. Our tendency to self-justification may stem fromt hat. This situation may become complic...	gardengal	10	3664	Oct 28, 2014 by neshema2
	what to expect (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am a new member to this group. I have a few questions that I would greatly appreciate others feedback. First off, I am a single mother of 2 boys and have been single for about 3 years. A few months ago I began dating a guy who was upfront with me that he was a recovering addict. I thought...	jmsas	7	523	Oct 28, 2014 by Mattie
	So Grateful for Today!! (Preview) Wow I don't even know long it has been since I posted!! I hope all is well in everyone's world......sending you all some light and love!!	Truth	5	245	Oct 28, 2014 by andromeda
	Don't take this disease lightly... (Preview) Have been speaking with another one of us and listening; comparing notes and experiences part of which is the mental, emotional and physical side affects that event he non-drinker can suffer from directly related to "our part in it". The member caused me to inventory and remember wha...	Jerry F	10	606	Oct 28, 2014 by Flower49
	He lost his phone and says it is my fault... (Preview) Apparently I did voodoo... Would be funny if it wasn't sad. He has lost many phones and wallets over the years..I used to get so upset. Today I don't care. It is not my problem if he needs to spend money to buy a new one. It is so good to be free! By this time, next Sunday, this home will be all mine and I will pro...	Luiza	6	564	Oct 28, 2014 by jitsuka
	My A partner slipped outside, gone to A+E ... maybe a step nearer rockbottom. (Preview) Hi Been a while since I've posted or been on here ... life still plodding along but I seem to have had a bit of clarity of thought. The relationship in my mind has changed a bit. I used to say to myself that I still love the person, hate the disease etc etc ... I'm not so sure now. I've been feeling resentful, no...	jitsuka	17	705	Oct 28, 2014 by jitsuka
	all is well and share about my A friend (Preview) Guts are better! Not as weak. Friends helped me get feed and grain. Pouring rain but we laughed a lot and had fun. They helped me bring it in. Then had a great lunch with my I love so much friend. Just had noodles, and splurged on the egg flower soup. I am a vegan but not radical. I needed that soup! (c: She is A b...	Debilyn	5	473	Oct 27, 2014 by bud
	who wrote on a post about peace that passes understanding? (Preview) I just want to say to whomever wrote the post about the joy down in their heart & peace that passes understanding, thanks for bringing that up! It takes me back to when I was younger & we used to sing that song all the time. Right about now I need that peace. So much anxiety is passing through me that...	Hoot Nanny	3	282	Oct 27, 2014 by LinSC
	so today is supposedly the day (Preview) I had a long talk with AH last Friday. I calmly told him that even though I am no longer obsessing or talking (or nagging) about his drinking, I am still very concerned and not happy about it. I don't want to give him the impression that, just because I am learning how to cope more maturely with MY life, that...	Fairlee	8	528	Oct 27, 2014 by bud
	for Cathy (Preview) I want to thank you Cathy for putting up the link you did for me. It really helped. I really like getting on my phone now that I know how to do it. You are a gem! Thank you too, for all the insight you have that you share on here. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	1	194	Oct 27, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Meltdown (Preview) I have not posted for a while so I thought I would talk about my meltdown. We moved to the Southern part of our state almost 5 months ago. Weather is gorgeous, clean air, no snow and we love it. I have not been to a F2F meeting in over 6 months either. I guess I thought going to the online meetings, reading...	Jen61	8	454	Oct 27, 2014 by bud
	Seeking Sponsor (Preview) Hello all, first time post to the MIP board. I have visited here for a few months and attend the Sat am meetings on line. [Have missed the last 2 weeks and f2f are hard to attend] My work and family schedule keep me busy, throw in living in a rural area and well, here I am. I love that this outlet is here and I can...	ToBeFree	2	407	Oct 27, 2014 by Cindy2b
	Grateful2be (Preview) Where is Catherine ( grateful2be ) Is she on vacation or something. Missing her..	Cathyinaz	28	850	Oct 27, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Driver's Seat .. (Preview) I figured out last night I REALLY don't like being in the passenger's seat .. LOL! So my daughter is driving and bless her heart hasn't been getting a lot of driving time mostly because we are always in a hurry OR honestly the girl just isn't home. Yesterday I asked her drive us around .. I try to do it on t...	SerenityRUS	2	403	Oct 27, 2014 by Fairlee
	im just FINE (Preview) Friday was awful. I feel like a failure. Staring at a drunk bum on my couch, I could no more detach than I could grow wings and fly. Here it was,my opportunity to release all the anger,confusion,hurt. Oh its 6 in the morning,well who cares,this can't wait. I'm off. Its almost a blur. No need for details,t...	aquamom23	15	898	Oct 27, 2014 by Fairlee
	The After Al-Anon Side of Life (Preview) My mom had bladder removal surgery; her kids, four of them anyway, sat around a table in the waiting room playing pinochle and giggling like we always do; I'm sure some of the other people waiting thought we were horribly irreverent but it was our way of getting through it. She got through it, it took ove...	likemyheart	7	466	Oct 27, 2014 by Fairlee
	Withdrawing... (Preview) nicely. Ever been to a conference or service assembly? Then you know what I'm going thru. Our Fall Service assembly is about over. I'm home early cause I got an appointment that takes the last 3 hours off the assembly...yuk. I'm missing the goodbye stage...you know the hugs and the kisses and s...	Jerry F	3	302	Oct 26, 2014 by andromeda
	merry go round called denial (Preview) i was introduced to this pamphlet tonight at my meeting. wow it really amazed me how ive played my part in the story. what did you think of this?	el-cee	17	1222	Oct 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Introduction... Feeling confused (Preview) Hello, I'm new here, just reading and trying to figure things out. I'm very confused. My ABF of a year is currently sober after a being in rehab a few months ago but the honeymoon period is running out and I am starting to realise that he's a jerk when he's sober too. The last time my mother saw him until a few...	Bombshall	3	321	Oct 26, 2014 by Bombshall
	AW in Rehab (Preview) Hello! My wife is an alcoholic, and made the incredible decision to enter rehab, on her own, two weeks ago! We have four kids together (6, 8, 10, 12), and while the last two weeks with her in rehab have been kinda tough on all of us, it is still WAY better than the last year and a half of her drinking hard. I...	MarkLH22	6	474	Oct 26, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Visitation .. (Preview) You know how someone is so unpredictable they are predictable? Well, I always can tell when my Ex is being coached .. and boy is he being coached .. unfortunately for him .. again .. he tells exactly the amount of truth to cause him more issues. He tried to put me in a position of stating something in text...	SerenityRUS	4	511	Oct 26, 2014 by PP
	alcoholic children (Preview) Having a lot of difficulty coping with daughters alcohol abuse. I know I am not responsible raised her right in fact I feel rather resentful that I am having to even deal with this as put a huge amount of time and effort into parenting and now I feel cheated. I guess I had convinced myself that if I did all...	serenity47	6	539	Oct 26, 2014 by serenity47
	mixed (Preview) I have been living apart from my ah for 4 yrs and about two weeks ago he seemed to decide that he wanted to come back. The week before this he had a really embarrassing incident as a result of his drinking on the football grandfinal day. I have been trying to understand why after 4 yrs of him living his life...	lightblue2	3	327	Oct 26, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL MEETING: 10 A.M. E.S.T. - "Seeing Events in a New Light" (Preview) Sunday Morning Meeting scheduled in the Al-Anon chat room. Topic: Chapter 3 of the Al-Anon book, "Having had a Spiritual Awakening". Or "Open Topic" related to Al-Anon. Today's reading: "Seeing Events in a New Light" I grew up in a family affected by alcoholism...	Overcome	0	327	Oct 26, 2014 by Overcome
	feel like I am going down... (Preview) I have not been able to recover from a meeting I went to on Weds. I know that it was several days ago but I haven't been able to post on here how I feel. It is very hard to post on my smart phone even though I like it. So, a few times a week on get on this library computer. Anyhow, I had put too much pressure on myself...	Hoot Nanny	2	481	Oct 25, 2014 by hotrod
	Thoughts / ESH on my choices? (Preview) I have been separated from my A for more than a decade, but we have stayed technically married so he can be on my health insurance. He has various health conditions that made it impossible to get insurance here in the US (think stuff like diabetes which would count as a pre-existing condition). The de...	Mattie	15	436	Oct 25, 2014 by bud
	Very proud of my daughter. (Preview) So, yesterday, Thursday is the busiest day for my daughter. She has school, then drama school then Brownies (a girl-guiding thing). I don't drive so we keep hoping on and off public transport and walking loads. Her A dad wasn't working yesterday so he said he would take her for all the after school stuf...	Luiza	9	2893	Oct 25, 2014 by PP
	What is emotional detachment in a marriage? (Preview) I know that detachment is very important in Al-Anon. I physically detach by leaving the house when my AH drinks, go out with friends, go shopping or just stay in the house in another room reading, watching television, talking on the phone or cleaning and doing laundry. This is easy. However, where...	wifeofalcoholic	7	1683	Oct 25, 2014 by Lyne
	want to get back to active board mobile. Does anyone know how to do it? (Preview) I have a smart phone & accidentally clicked on the site but I want to get back to mobile. It is so much easier to read on my phone. It was pretty simple to get on when I first did. I had a hard time trying to get back to where I can see the posts in a much easier to read format. I am on our library computer right n...	Hoot Nanny	2	170	Oct 25, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	This disease makes sober people crazy! (Preview) Or so it seems. Older sister has two children, son is 47, daughter is 44. My sister and her husband worked responsible jobs all their lives until retirement. They are now in their seventies and 'would' and 'should' have had a comfortable life. The daughter is married and living abroad with her husb...	deacon	2	498	Oct 25, 2014 by hotrod
	You're kidding. (Preview) He has done nothing. NOTHING for the last 2 weeks, he hasn't lifted a finger. The he got drunk and kept me awake for the last 2 days. I am so tired I am almost dead. Now my parents are due to arrive any minute and he's dancing around with a broom, come on Mel, what are you doing, your parents will be here soon! H...	missmeliss	10	500	Oct 25, 2014 by milkwood
	New Eyes (Preview) Excuse me babbling a lot. Alone in the house, big final move tomorrow, SO much change. Its huge, and no-one to talk to except for the animals, and you good people. In the morning my parents come to take the last few things back to store in their garage...my washer and our mattresses and cookware etc, and t...	missmeliss	13	560	Oct 25, 2014 by hotrod
	The power of communication (Preview) A few years ago, i wold have bailed on this job and not looked back.... Today i had to go in and teach wife how to do some stuff w/her payables and how to do payroll liability payments correctly.....She is good learner and absorbed my teaching and we got a LOT of stuff done...I had her chasing down vendor in...	neshema2	3	457	Oct 25, 2014 by neshema2
	Detachment is a must (Preview) Today I realized how important it is for me to detach. Tonight after getting home from a long dat at the hospital with my 82 yr. old mother, I came home to find that my 30 yr. old A son had helped himself to the vodka in our pantry. He does not live with us but knows where the key is. Be fore al-anon I would have p...	Sallygcoe	4	338	Oct 25, 2014 by pinkchip
	Worried about my friend...prayers needed (Preview) My best friend is having a mammogram tomorrow due to possible breast cancer. She is going through a lot with her teenage son too...she is really stressed out. I watched her daughter tonight while she worked. She has been there for me for many years and encouraged me to leave AH. I am praying her mammogra...	Newlife girl	5	238	Oct 25, 2014 by Green Eyes
	Media reporting alcoholism as the cause of a celebrity death (Preview) https://celebrity.yahoo.com/blogs/celeb-news/alcoholism-contributed-to-elizabeth-pe%C3%B1a-s-d...	Aloha	6	443	Oct 24, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	new to alanon (Preview) I am new here,Just starting my journey.Life became unbearable so i decided to go to therapy and my therapist suggested alanon.I have gone to three meetings and it is good to know I am not alone.I have decided not to take my ex back this time as it is always the same ,there are promises to get help but always...	mjferg	12	662	Oct 24, 2014 by mjferg
	Feeling Really Stupid (Preview) Tomorrow is my last day at work. My boss is coming in from another office to take me out to lunch. She told me to invite whoever I wanted to come along. I gathered quite a few people - mostly people in the same sort of position as myself. My old boss adjusted her appointments to come and one of my old teammate...	tiredtonite	8	645	Oct 24, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Called my husband's Sponsor (Preview) Last night AH came home under the influence. I asked him where he went after work and he said no where. I said I smell alcohol on you and I know by your behavior after all these years that you were drinking. He responded with No, No, No. Finally he told me where he went and what he drank. I told him I was cal...	wifeofalcoholic	5	530	Oct 24, 2014 by Jerry F
	First Al-anon meeting last night (Preview) Last night was my first Al-anon meeting :) It was scary at first. when I pulled into the parking lot, I sat in the car for a couple of minutes with butterflies in my stomach. I almost passed when it came to my turn to introduce myself. It felt good to get it out to peers that are living the same thing I am and t...	iwishuheaven	3	243	Oct 24, 2014 by milkwood
	Want to disown stepsister and her son without disowning my mother (Preview) Hello friends, Nice to find this site. Over 30 years ago when I was 14 my mother married a man with 5 and 8 year old girls. They have lived happily ever after....except for relationships with his children, one of whom started drinking at 12 and is stage 4 alcoholic close to death multiple times. She has 8 y...	Lake	9	442	Oct 24, 2014 by lgnutah
	Looking Back on My Journey (Preview) After attending a F2F meeting this week that I hadn't been to in a while and realizing how far I have come in my 5+ years of Al-Anon, I looked back on some of my previous posts on this board. This one is from April 2012. Wow, I'm so grateful to have this program. I hope this post will be helpful to some of you who...	Green Eyes	3	619	Oct 24, 2014 by el-cee
	control (Preview) I was taught many years ago that control was a response to feeling powerless. Enter steps one to seven. Its pretty hard sometimes to work steps 3 and 6 when you are a raging control freak. I am resisting the urge to hurt myself by playing spy. Gee this is hard! Old habits become entrenched relatively quic...	aquamom23	5	544	Oct 23, 2014 by aquamom23
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