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Katy · Katy

I react because I feel attacked, as a person my whole being feels violated, that is my responce to someone not understanding me or knowing me well enough to know that by singling me out they challenge my very being, I don't ever go looking for trouble and I would avoid it at all costs but every now and then I...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

the XAH, .. I'd be ok with that however he just won't leave me alone! UGH!! Last night he texts as I'm out running the kids to and from places, and honestly I'm ignoring it. It's about money in terms of he wants to give me some. The problem is he doesn't follow the rules and he doesn't do what he's suppo...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Bowie's new accessory. It works great for halloween, everyone is calling him hannibal. He doesn't think it's particularly funny. Poor guy lol. I will have to talk to him about acceptance.

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I've been having a full week. I'm very excited to be done with my former workplace. I got more done on Monday than I have on an weekend recently. I felt serene, cooked up a bunch of goodies, cleaned my closet, went for walks, got to more meetings etc. I found out my friend from work's hubby works for our co...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just sitting here so I thought I would post. I am sore. It is difficult to sit on these chairs at the library. I am getting ready to go now. I just wanted to post to let everyone know that I am doing OK. Mom is not back yet. I don't know when they will release her. The powers that be will not tell me anything. I am n...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well technically I am divorced .. however it's not signed yet and it will be big time. Anyway, XAH is as crazy as you wanna be and that's ok as long as it keeps it to himself .. sharing is so overrated!! There is has been a LOT going on some of which I still can't talk about, that's ok too. My mom sent me a lovel...

texasgal · texasgal

I've been dating a man for more than a month he is wonderful he is complete opposite of my exAH. I'm very grateful for all the little things he does he is so caring and thoughtful. The problem is me. Sometimes he does something so nice and so opposite of what my ex would and I catch myself wanting to cry. I wan...

mjferg · mjferg

So, I am new to this, and I will be honest as I said in another post, I feel like a bug on the bottom of someone's shoe.I cry allot and I feel sick. I have rough nights and I am weary. I guess I need to hear how everyone else felt when they started and how they got better.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have an apartment sized kitchen trying to fit a garbage bag full of plastic containers into a cabinet that holds both my glass ware and anything plastic. Literally it's the only cabinet available to deal with this issue. I'm debating if I should just donate the whole garbage bag of containers and g...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Page 304, October 30, the ODAAT in Al-Anon daily reader. This is what the program and MIP is all about. Mahalo John for willingly being that instrument which the Just For Today prayer speaks of. Grateful beyond words and not done yet. (((((hugs)))))

aim2009 · aim2009

I can't seem to scrape myself off the bottom. My alcoholic has been sober for 24 days. I should be celebrating, but I'm in tears, I feel so bad I almost want to end the relationship. I never felt this alone when he was drinking and I'm so confused. I know I'm doing something wrong, but I don't know what i...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Hello everyone! I have just gotten internet access after a few days so here's my ramble about what's been going on. I've just completed day 1 of my new "A-free" life. I spent half the day with A though, so, it doesn't count. Anyway I'll pick up where I left off, last Saturday when A was prancin...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

3 years of program work can disappear on me. I'm the one who made the decision to leave my AH. I'm the one who has chosen not to respond to correspondence since I ended joint counseling. I'm the one who made the mistake of responding to an I love you text that I received this Tuesday after finding out Sunday...

Aquastrm · Aquastrm

Hello all again, last time I was here was in 2009 fast forward to 2014. Things have gotten worse this time the AH is sitting in jail as he has another DUI this time during work, the one thing i am so proud of myself I didnt move heaven and earth to bail him out..and when another family member was going to i stat...

LinSC · LinSC

And they tell you I am an alcoholic or a recovering addict, why do they tell you? What are they really saying? " If you stick with me I may relapse, I may slip? Are you gonna stick with me and give me your all? Can you enable me? Why do they come forth and tell you who they are on the very first meeting or dat...

el-cee · el-cee

When I lived with my ex ah I used to say sorry quite a lot. I took the blame quite a lot, usually to keep the peace or to end the silent treatment or sometimes because the guilt got the better out of me. I never really meant it. I never really believed I owed it not really. I always thought my bad behaviour or har...

el-cee · el-cee

I listened to a talk talk today by a real life explorer, he was amazing to listen to. He went to the south pole alone and he frequently goes to the north pole and hes like us, he has that spiritual thing going on that we have. It got me thinking that maybe its only through a really hard journey are we able to see...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi everyone, been a bit since I have been here and I can tell you I notice the difference of relaxing in my recovery! Right now I feel like scrambled eggs for sure! I have my AH in a 3/4 way house who wants me to just go along with everything they do and say even if it doesn't feel right to me. So for example, he is...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello all, Scanning the threads I see a lot of topics from folks who are in a place I remember being. I like where I am at and for me it is important to my recovery to not forget about where I have been least I forget what that path looks like and make choices that lead me back there. I know me and I know my form of t...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I generally cycle into a funk at the end of October, 12 years ago it started with losing a pregnancy in my second trimester and the next day my dad died suddenly while we were on our way driving across country to live with him for a time until we got jobs lined up, but my exAH started drinking heavy with the...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I had a lovely three hours to myself without children. This doesn't happen often enough. I think its the fourth time in two years. Sometimes one or two of my little ducklings will be at daycare and that's half a break. But time completely alone,no pram to navigate,no toddler to chide for squealing in a p...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Please help me have some self control. I see my AH talking with people on facebook and I want to spit. Ok, I'm going to just come out and say it. Maybe I already have, I don't remember. AH and I were coworkers. He got fired in March. I am still there, working at the same place and trying not to lose it!! Some da...

el-cee · el-cee

This question was asked in my meeting tonight. I thought I would share it with you and see what you think.x

eriegroupgirl · eriegroupgirl

That's a lot of meetings to miss after ten years of alanon. It will be interesting to see how far astray I am as this disease tears it's ugly monster head at my son. My Dad was a 30 year AA member. He died on April 30 this year. I messed up with my son today. I fee terrible. I don't deserve help tonight, but I am so...

missmeliss · missmeliss

It's not even 24 hours and his brother is messaging me. OMG, we can't do this, we're getting married, we need our house back. He left here having drunk 1 bottle of wine, he bought 3, I guess he drank the rest on the way and at their house. I feel sad for him, I know how to handle him, but it isn't my job anymore. ...

neshema2 · neshema2

This is so unreal I go to goodwill to donate some clothing and i hear this "squeak squeak" sound and i know its an animal, most likely a dog and so i follow the sound...i find a dog in 77 degree weather, in the sun, locked in a black dodge caravan NO windows down, not even a crack and doggie sees...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This will sound deranged but, Cat Lady reared her head again just as we were moving out. Michael Douglas escaped and didn't come back for a couple of days and I started recieving messages from Cat Lady again. It had been months since I had heard from her. I was so upset and so worried, but her messages were...

mjferg · mjferg

I received a phone call from a mutual friend of my ex today, she lives with his brother and she hadn't seen me in a while.She told me she saw my ex with an old girl friend the other day, I am thinking that was awful fast we just broke up.I want to call and give him a piece of my mind so bad but I am sure it would only...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

Detachment is a very important tool in my Al-Anon tool box. I live with active alcoholism, so I use detachment often. However, until recently I was not discerning the difference between physical and emotional detachment. When my husband drinks, I do something that helps me think about me. I love t...

Hopingfor · Hopingfor

Hello all, I joined this forum around December last year when I was at Rock bottom with my BF drinking habits. Everyone was really fantastic and helped me through such a bad time but the one thing I kept hearing was try and find a local meeting. I didn't know if I had the nerve and was unsure if I would be abl...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I have been lurking a bunch since posting midsummer. First I want to say how moved I DMV by the deep reservoir of patience, kindness and honesty some of the regulars demonstrate here to person after person!! Truly remarkable. I feel badly to take up people's time and then disappear. One reason is I usua...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Just wanted to share about this to work through some things. We went to a wedding yesterday. It was for the daughter of of one of my former coworkers. My recovering abf is trying to get more accustomed to being in the presence of alcohol and being ok with it. So we're seated with some strangers who were als...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I went back to the doctors. The last one was dismissive,your stressed,stop it. Yeah,that's gonna happen. I've been attending meetings online, I need a sponsor,I'm praying. Today I found another quack,he was kindly. He prescribed meds. I feel upset but I also know this hsomething I sadly need for th...

pinkchip · pinkchip

So I picked up a 6 year medallion at one of the groups I used to attend in my first year. Yes, it's AA, but it's still the 12 steps and the journey is not so different, as I was leaving an A at the same time and working on tremendous codependency issues also. In any case, the overwhelming feedback from all th...

alwaysLP13 · alwaysLP13

I've been in Al-Anon just a little over 2 years. August was my birthday month. I just have to say, that the experience, strength and hope I get from the program and the people of the program are just great. It's a day at time but just for today it's a good day. I wanted to share what I shared at my meeting and to...

one and only · one and only

Ive been on another site for 3 years..It was an infidelity site..Now our lives have shifted once again...ANd I no longer belong there...I have for the last 6 years, gone thru every emotion imagineable. Trying desperately to figure out why my marriage was falling apart. Why I no longer recognized my H...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Some days, like today, I find myself feeling angry towards everyone. I just get sick of the same things over and over. I am realizing my best friend and her issues with her son are driving me nuts. Long story short, he is almost 18 and under house arrest with an ankle bracelet for drug possession. He is t...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I am working on forgiveness for my dry ah. First i need to forgive myself for my own past sins then forgive my ah for his current sins of adultery. I need to do this to move on, i will forgive him and hand him over to the care of God To deal with Him.I can not sit in judgement of AH it is not my job. i am doing this...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Just to clarify, I assumed A was going to stay at his brothers when he moved his big furniture out. I didn't know he planned to come back, but I have no legal right whatsoever to have him leave, he's a joint tenant, I'm not sure exactly how people think I would prevent him from coming and going from a house h...

LinSC · LinSC

There is a wisdom on this board that is given free with no attachments....this is a beautiful thing.

gardengal · gardengal

Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves......."Step 4" The greatest fault of all is to be conscious of none. In the past we have, perhaps, lived with the conviction that we were "always" right. Our tendency to self-justification may stem fromt hat. This situation may become complic...

jmsas · jmsas

Hello Everyone, I am a new member to this group. I have a few questions that I would greatly appreciate others feedback. First off, I am a single mother of 2 boys and have been single for about 3 years. A few months ago I began dating a guy who was upfront with me that he was a recovering addict. I thought...

Truth · Truth

Wow I don't even know long it has been since I posted!! I hope all is well in everyone's world......sending you all some light and love!!

Jerry F · Jerry F

Have been speaking with another one of us and listening; comparing notes and experiences part of which is the mental, emotional and physical side affects that event he non-drinker can suffer from directly related to "our part in it". The member caused me to inventory and remember wha...

Luiza · Luiza

Apparently I did voodoo... Would be funny if it wasn't sad. He has lost many phones and wallets over the years..I used to get so upset. Today I don't care. It is not my problem if he needs to spend money to buy a new one. It is so good to be free! By this time, next Sunday, this home will be all mine and I will pro...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Hi Been a while since I've posted or been on here ... life still plodding along but I seem to have had a bit of clarity of thought. The relationship in my mind has changed a bit. I used to say to myself that I still love the person, hate the disease etc etc ... I'm not so sure now. I've been feeling resentful, no...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Guts are better! Not as weak. Friends helped me get feed and grain. Pouring rain but we laughed a lot and had fun. They helped me bring it in. Then had a great lunch with my I love so much friend. Just had noodles, and splurged on the egg flower soup. I am a vegan but not radical. I needed that soup! (c: She is A b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to say to whomever wrote the post about the joy down in their heart & peace that passes understanding, thanks for bringing that up! It takes me back to when I was younger & we used to sing that song all the time. Right about now I need that peace. So much anxiety is passing through me that...

Fairlee · Fairlee

I had a long talk with AH last Friday. I calmly told him that even though I am no longer obsessing or talking (or nagging) about his drinking, I am still very concerned and not happy about it. I don't want to give him the impression that, just because I am learning how to cope more maturely with MY life, that...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I want to thank you Cathy for putting up the link you did for me. It really helped. I really like getting on my phone now that I know how to do it. You are a gem! Thank you too, for all the insight you have that you share on here. Kathleen

Jen61 · Jen61

I have not posted for a while so I thought I would talk about my meltdown. We moved to the Southern part of our state almost 5 months ago. Weather is gorgeous, clean air, no snow and we love it. I have not been to a F2F meeting in over 6 months either. I guess I thought going to the online meetings, reading...

ToBeFree · ToBeFree

Hello all, first time post to the MIP board. I have visited here for a few months and attend the Sat am meetings on line. [Have missed the last 2 weeks and f2f are hard to attend] My work and family schedule keep me busy, throw in living in a rural area and well, here I am. I love that this outlet is here and I can...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Where is Catherine ( grateful2be ) Is she on vacation or something. Missing her..

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I figured out last night I REALLY don't like being in the passenger's seat .. LOL! So my daughter is driving and bless her heart hasn't been getting a lot of driving time mostly because we are always in a hurry OR honestly the girl just isn't home. Yesterday I asked her drive us around .. I try to do it on t...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

Friday was awful. I feel like a failure. Staring at a drunk bum on my couch, I could no more detach than I could grow wings and fly. Here it was,my opportunity to release all the anger,confusion,hurt. Oh its 6 in the morning,well who cares,this can't wait. I'm off. Its almost a blur. No need for details,t...

likemyheart · likemyheart

My mom had bladder removal surgery; her kids, four of them anyway, sat around a table in the waiting room playing pinochle and giggling like we always do; I'm sure some of the other people waiting thought we were horribly irreverent but it was our way of getting through it. She got through it, it took ove...

Jerry F · Jerry F

nicely. Ever been to a conference or service assembly? Then you know what I'm going thru. Our Fall Service assembly is about over. I'm home early cause I got an appointment that takes the last 3 hours off the assembly...yuk. I'm missing the goodbye stage...you know the hugs and the kisses and s...

el-cee · el-cee

i was introduced to this pamphlet tonight at my meeting. wow it really amazed me how ive played my part in the story. what did you think of this?

Bombshall · Bombshall

Hello, I'm new here, just reading and trying to figure things out. I'm very confused. My ABF of a year is currently sober after a being in rehab a few months ago but the honeymoon period is running out and I am starting to realise that he's a jerk when he's sober too. The last time my mother saw him until a few...

MarkLH22 · MarkLH22

Hello! My wife is an alcoholic, and made the incredible decision to enter rehab, on her own, two weeks ago! We have four kids together (6, 8, 10, 12), and while the last two weeks with her in rehab have been kinda tough on all of us, it is still WAY better than the last year and a half of her drinking hard. I...

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	why do we react though! (Preview) I react because I feel attacked, as a person my whole being feels violated, that is my responce to someone not understanding me or knowing me well enough to know that by singling me out they challenge my very being, I don't ever go looking for trouble and I would avoid it at all costs but every now and then I...	Katy	2	413	Nov 1, 2014 by hotrod
	Still crazy .. (Preview) the XAH, .. I'd be ok with that however he just won't leave me alone! UGH!! Last night he texts as I'm out running the kids to and from places, and honestly I'm ignoring it. It's about money in terms of he wants to give me some. The problem is he doesn't follow the rules and he doesn't do what he's suppo...	SerenityRUS	0	327	Nov 1, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Oh dear, my poor boy... (Preview) Bowie's new accessory. It works great for halloween, everyone is calling him hannibal. He doesn't think it's particularly funny. Poor guy lol. I will have to talk to him about acceptance.	missmeliss	12	974	Oct 31, 2014 by grateful2be
	All Over the Map Emotionally (Preview) I've been having a full week. I'm very excited to be done with my former workplace. I got more done on Monday than I have on an weekend recently. I felt serene, cooked up a bunch of goodies, cleaned my closet, went for walks, got to more meetings etc. I found out my friend from work's hubby works for our co...	tiredtonite	7	504	Oct 31, 2014 by Jerry F
	just sitting here... (Preview) Just sitting here so I thought I would post. I am sore. It is difficult to sit on these chairs at the library. I am getting ready to go now. I just wanted to post to let everyone know that I am doing OK. Mom is not back yet. I don't know when they will release her. The powers that be will not tell me anything. I am n...	Hoot Nanny	2	379	Oct 31, 2014 by tiredtonite
	First week as a divorced woman :) (Preview) Well technically I am divorced .. however it's not signed yet and it will be big time. Anyway, XAH is as crazy as you wanna be and that's ok as long as it keeps it to himself .. sharing is so overrated!! There is has been a LOT going on some of which I still can't talk about, that's ok too. My mom sent me a lovel...	SerenityRUS	18	622	Oct 31, 2014 by Jerry F
	moving forward (Preview) I've been dating a man for more than a month he is wonderful he is complete opposite of my exAH. I'm very grateful for all the little things he does he is so caring and thoughtful. The problem is me. Sometimes he does something so nice and so opposite of what my ex would and I catch myself wanting to cry. I wan...	texasgal	4	499	Oct 31, 2014 by hotrod
	I need encouragement (Preview) So, I am new to this, and I will be honest as I said in another post, I feel like a bug on the bottom of someone's shoe.I cry allot and I feel sick. I have rough nights and I am weary. I guess I need to hear how everyone else felt when they started and how they got better.	mjferg	15	531	Oct 31, 2014 by mjferg
	Organization .. HELP!! (Preview) I have an apartment sized kitchen trying to fit a garbage bag full of plastic containers into a cabinet that holds both my glass ware and anything plastic. Literally it's the only cabinet available to deal with this issue. I'm debating if I should just donate the whole garbage bag of containers and g...	SerenityRUS	12	647	Oct 31, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	Mahalo - Thank you all (Preview) Page 304, October 30, the ODAAT in Al-Anon daily reader. This is what the program and MIP is all about. Mahalo John for willingly being that instrument which the Just For Today prayer speaks of. Grateful beyond words and not done yet. (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	12	558	Oct 31, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	If everything is great, why do I feel so awful? (Preview) I can't seem to scrape myself off the bottom. My alcoholic has been sober for 24 days. I should be celebrating, but I'm in tears, I feel so bad I almost want to end the relationship. I never felt this alone when he was drinking and I'm so confused. I know I'm doing something wrong, but I don't know what i...	aim2009	7	586	Oct 31, 2014 by milkwood
	Hello Possums (Preview) Hello everyone! I have just gotten internet access after a few days so here's my ramble about what's been going on. I've just completed day 1 of my new "A-free" life. I spent half the day with A though, so, it doesn't count. Anyway I'll pick up where I left off, last Saturday when A was prancin...	missmeliss	16	502	Oct 31, 2014 by missmeliss
	It's amazing how fast... (Preview) 3 years of program work can disappear on me. I'm the one who made the decision to leave my AH. I'm the one who has chosen not to respond to correspondence since I ended joint counseling. I'm the one who made the mistake of responding to an I love you text that I received this Tuesday after finding out Sunday...	Jackie11	10	752	Oct 31, 2014 by Jackie11
	Back again... (Preview) Hello all again, last time I was here was in 2009 fast forward to 2014. Things have gotten worse this time the AH is sitting in jail as he has another DUI this time during work, the one thing i am so proud of myself I didnt move heaven and earth to bail him out..and when another family member was going to i stat...	Aquastrm	3	380	Oct 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	When you date someone who is a recovering from something (Preview) And they tell you I am an alcoholic or a recovering addict, why do they tell you? What are they really saying? " If you stick with me I may relapse, I may slip? Are you gonna stick with me and give me your all? Can you enable me? Why do they come forth and tell you who they are on the very first meeting or dat...	LinSC	10	556	Oct 30, 2014 by Newlife girl
	saying sorry (Preview) When I lived with my ex ah I used to say sorry quite a lot. I took the blame quite a lot, usually to keep the peace or to end the silent treatment or sometimes because the guilt got the better out of me. I never really meant it. I never really believed I owed it not really. I always thought my bad behaviour or har...	el-cee	9	579	Oct 30, 2014 by bud
	role models (Preview) I listened to a talk talk today by a real life explorer, he was amazing to listen to. He went to the south pole alone and he frequently goes to the north pole and hes like us, he has that spiritual thing going on that we have. It got me thinking that maybe its only through a really hard journey are we able to see...	el-cee	11	387	Oct 30, 2014 by neshema2
	Scrambled Eggs (Preview) Hi everyone, been a bit since I have been here and I can tell you I notice the difference of relaxing in my recovery! Right now I feel like scrambled eggs for sure! I have my AH in a 3/4 way house who wants me to just go along with everything they do and say even if it doesn't feel right to me. So for example, he is...	Flower49	2	377	Oct 30, 2014 by bud
	What do you do? (Preview) Hello all, Scanning the threads I see a lot of topics from folks who are in a place I remember being. I like where I am at and for me it is important to my recovery to not forget about where I have been least I forget what that path looks like and make choices that lead me back there. I know me and I know my form of t...	Mandy123	8	502	Oct 30, 2014 by bud
	I am having a hard time right now in my life (Preview) I generally cycle into a funk at the end of October, 12 years ago it started with losing a pregnancy in my second trimester and the next day my dad died suddenly while we were on our way driving across country to live with him for a time until we got jobs lined up, but my exAH started drinking heavy with the...	Breakingfree	24	792	Oct 30, 2014 by Breakingfree
	so good to get a break (Preview) I had a lovely three hours to myself without children. This doesn't happen often enough. I think its the fourth time in two years. Sometimes one or two of my little ducklings will be at daycare and that's half a break. But time completely alone,no pram to navigate,no toddler to chide for squealing in a p...	aquamom23	8	425	Oct 30, 2014 by grateful2be
	I am so angry And I want everyone to know the truth!! (Preview) Please help me have some self control. I see my AH talking with people on facebook and I want to spit. Ok, I'm going to just come out and say it. Maybe I already have, I don't remember. AH and I were coworkers. He got fired in March. I am still there, working at the same place and trying not to lose it!! Some da...	Newlife girl	7	507	Oct 30, 2014 by Breakingfree
	What rewards did you get from the victim role? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) This question was asked in my meeting tonight. I thought I would share it with you and see what you think.x	el-cee	44	1656	Oct 30, 2014 by hotrod
	skipped 18 years of meetings (Preview) That's a lot of meetings to miss after ten years of alanon. It will be interesting to see how far astray I am as this disease tears it's ugly monster head at my son. My Dad was a 30 year AA member. He died on April 30 this year. I messed up with my son today. I fee terrible. I don't deserve help tonight, but I am so...	eriegroupgirl	10	488	Oct 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	lol (Preview) It's not even 24 hours and his brother is messaging me. OMG, we can't do this, we're getting married, we need our house back. He left here having drunk 1 bottle of wine, he bought 3, I guess he drank the rest on the way and at their house. I feel sad for him, I know how to handle him, but it isn't my job anymore. ...	missmeliss	17	685	Oct 30, 2014 by Diva
	I'M NOT JOKING!! I nearly got into a fight today (Preview) This is so unreal I go to goodwill to donate some clothing and i hear this "squeak squeak" sound and i know its an animal, most likely a dog and so i follow the sound...i find a dog in 77 degree weather, in the sun, locked in a black dodge caravan NO windows down, not even a crack and doggie sees...	neshema2	13	561	Oct 30, 2014 by Diva
	Also a little update about Michael Douglas (Preview) This will sound deranged but, Cat Lady reared her head again just as we were moving out. Michael Douglas escaped and didn't come back for a couple of days and I started recieving messages from Cat Lady again. It had been months since I had heard from her. I was so upset and so worried, but her messages were...	missmeliss	12	393	Oct 29, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	trying not to react (Preview) I received a phone call from a mutual friend of my ex today, she lives with his brother and she hadn't seen me in a while.She told me she saw my ex with an old girl friend the other day, I am thinking that was awful fast we just broke up.I want to call and give him a piece of my mind so bad but I am sure it would only...	mjferg	6	455	Oct 29, 2014 by mjferg
	physical detachment / emotional detachment (Preview) Detachment is a very important tool in my Al-Anon tool box. I live with active alcoholism, so I use detachment often. However, until recently I was not discerning the difference between physical and emotional detachment. When my husband drinks, I do something that helps me think about me. I love t...	cloudyskies	6	1175	Oct 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Such a change! (Preview) Hello all, I joined this forum around December last year when I was at Rock bottom with my BF drinking habits. Everyone was really fantastic and helped me through such a bad time but the one thing I kept hearing was try and find a local meeting. I didn't know if I had the nerve and was unsure if I would be abl...	Hopingfor	4	332	Oct 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Heavy denial, about animals too (Preview) I have been lurking a bunch since posting midsummer. First I want to say how moved I DMV by the deep reservoir of patience, kindness and honesty some of the regulars demonstrate here to person after person!! Truly remarkable. I feel badly to take up people's time and then disappear. One reason is I usua...	oceanpine	4	314	Oct 29, 2014 by cloudyskies
	Healthy Socializing? (Preview) Just wanted to share about this to work through some things. We went to a wedding yesterday. It was for the daughter of of one of my former coworkers. My recovering abf is trying to get more accustomed to being in the presence of alcohol and being ok with it. So we're seated with some strangers who were als...	tiredtonite	5	468	Oct 29, 2014 by el-cee
	really need to get well (Preview) I went back to the doctors. The last one was dismissive,your stressed,stop it. Yeah,that's gonna happen. I've been attending meetings online, I need a sponsor,I'm praying. Today I found another quack,he was kindly. He prescribed meds. I feel upset but I also know this hsomething I sadly need for th...	aquamom23	7	522	Oct 29, 2014 by bud
	The program sinks in (Preview) So I picked up a 6 year medallion at one of the groups I used to attend in my first year. Yes, it's AA, but it's still the 12 steps and the journey is not so different, as I was leaving an A at the same time and working on tremendous codependency issues also. In any case, the overwhelming feedback from all th...	pinkchip	21	670	Oct 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Al-Anon helps me self-acceptance acceptance blame (Preview) I've been in Al-Anon just a little over 2 years. August was my birthday month. I just have to say, that the experience, strength and hope I get from the program and the people of the program are just great. It's a day at time but just for today it's a good day. I wanted to share what I shared at my meeting and to...	alwaysLP13	6	5042	Oct 29, 2014 by Spur
	new here..very new (Preview) Ive been on another site for 3 years..It was an infidelity site..Now our lives have shifted once again...ANd I no longer belong there...I have for the last 6 years, gone thru every emotion imagineable. Trying desperately to figure out why my marriage was falling apart. Why I no longer recognized my H...	one and only	9	476	Oct 29, 2014 by hotrod
	Drama and flirting (Preview) Some days, like today, I find myself feeling angry towards everyone. I just get sick of the same things over and over. I am realizing my best friend and her issues with her son are driving me nuts. Long story short, he is almost 18 and under house arrest with an ankle bracelet for drug possession. He is t...	Newlife girl	4	510	Oct 28, 2014 by andromeda
	Forgiveness (Preview) I am working on forgiveness for my dry ah. First i need to forgive myself for my own past sins then forgive my ah for his current sins of adultery. I need to do this to move on, i will forgive him and hand him over to the care of God To deal with Him.I can not sit in judgement of AH it is not my job. i am doing this...	Mirandac	16	513	Oct 28, 2014 by Mirandac
	Last ride on the crazy train. Oh by the way the man was nice but the lady is nicer. (Preview) Just to clarify, I assumed A was going to stay at his brothers when he moved his big furniture out. I didn't know he planned to come back, but I have no legal right whatsoever to have him leave, he's a joint tenant, I'm not sure exactly how people think I would prevent him from coming and going from a house h...	missmeliss	24	849	Oct 28, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	What I Know (Preview) There is a wisdom on this board that is given free with no attachments....this is a beautiful thing.	LinSC	4	254	Oct 28, 2014 by cloudyskies
	OUR TENDENCY TO SELF-JUSTIFICATION (Preview) Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves......."Step 4" The greatest fault of all is to be conscious of none. In the past we have, perhaps, lived with the conviction that we were "always" right. Our tendency to self-justification may stem fromt hat. This situation may become complic...	gardengal	10	3830	Oct 28, 2014 by neshema2
	what to expect (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am a new member to this group. I have a few questions that I would greatly appreciate others feedback. First off, I am a single mother of 2 boys and have been single for about 3 years. A few months ago I began dating a guy who was upfront with me that he was a recovering addict. I thought...	jmsas	7	538	Oct 28, 2014 by Mattie
	So Grateful for Today!! (Preview) Wow I don't even know long it has been since I posted!! I hope all is well in everyone's world......sending you all some light and love!!	Truth	5	257	Oct 28, 2014 by andromeda
	Don't take this disease lightly... (Preview) Have been speaking with another one of us and listening; comparing notes and experiences part of which is the mental, emotional and physical side affects that event he non-drinker can suffer from directly related to "our part in it". The member caused me to inventory and remember wha...	Jerry F	10	621	Oct 28, 2014 by Flower49
	He lost his phone and says it is my fault... (Preview) Apparently I did voodoo... Would be funny if it wasn't sad. He has lost many phones and wallets over the years..I used to get so upset. Today I don't care. It is not my problem if he needs to spend money to buy a new one. It is so good to be free! By this time, next Sunday, this home will be all mine and I will pro...	Luiza	6	579	Oct 28, 2014 by jitsuka
	My A partner slipped outside, gone to A+E ... maybe a step nearer rockbottom. (Preview) Hi Been a while since I've posted or been on here ... life still plodding along but I seem to have had a bit of clarity of thought. The relationship in my mind has changed a bit. I used to say to myself that I still love the person, hate the disease etc etc ... I'm not so sure now. I've been feeling resentful, no...	jitsuka	17	719	Oct 28, 2014 by jitsuka
	all is well and share about my A friend (Preview) Guts are better! Not as weak. Friends helped me get feed and grain. Pouring rain but we laughed a lot and had fun. They helped me bring it in. Then had a great lunch with my I love so much friend. Just had noodles, and splurged on the egg flower soup. I am a vegan but not radical. I needed that soup! (c: She is A b...	Debilyn	5	486	Oct 27, 2014 by bud
	who wrote on a post about peace that passes understanding? (Preview) I just want to say to whomever wrote the post about the joy down in their heart & peace that passes understanding, thanks for bringing that up! It takes me back to when I was younger & we used to sing that song all the time. Right about now I need that peace. So much anxiety is passing through me that...	Hoot Nanny	3	293	Oct 27, 2014 by LinSC
	so today is supposedly the day (Preview) I had a long talk with AH last Friday. I calmly told him that even though I am no longer obsessing or talking (or nagging) about his drinking, I am still very concerned and not happy about it. I don't want to give him the impression that, just because I am learning how to cope more maturely with MY life, that...	Fairlee	8	539	Oct 27, 2014 by bud
	for Cathy (Preview) I want to thank you Cathy for putting up the link you did for me. It really helped. I really like getting on my phone now that I know how to do it. You are a gem! Thank you too, for all the insight you have that you share on here. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	1	207	Oct 27, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Meltdown (Preview) I have not posted for a while so I thought I would talk about my meltdown. We moved to the Southern part of our state almost 5 months ago. Weather is gorgeous, clean air, no snow and we love it. I have not been to a F2F meeting in over 6 months either. I guess I thought going to the online meetings, reading...	Jen61	8	473	Oct 27, 2014 by bud
	Seeking Sponsor (Preview) Hello all, first time post to the MIP board. I have visited here for a few months and attend the Sat am meetings on line. [Have missed the last 2 weeks and f2f are hard to attend] My work and family schedule keep me busy, throw in living in a rural area and well, here I am. I love that this outlet is here and I can...	ToBeFree	2	422	Oct 27, 2014 by Cindy2b
	Grateful2be (Preview) Where is Catherine ( grateful2be ) Is she on vacation or something. Missing her..	Cathyinaz	28	866	Oct 27, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Driver's Seat .. (Preview) I figured out last night I REALLY don't like being in the passenger's seat .. LOL! So my daughter is driving and bless her heart hasn't been getting a lot of driving time mostly because we are always in a hurry OR honestly the girl just isn't home. Yesterday I asked her drive us around .. I try to do it on t...	SerenityRUS	2	422	Oct 27, 2014 by Fairlee
	im just FINE (Preview) Friday was awful. I feel like a failure. Staring at a drunk bum on my couch, I could no more detach than I could grow wings and fly. Here it was,my opportunity to release all the anger,confusion,hurt. Oh its 6 in the morning,well who cares,this can't wait. I'm off. Its almost a blur. No need for details,t...	aquamom23	15	915	Oct 27, 2014 by Fairlee
	The After Al-Anon Side of Life (Preview) My mom had bladder removal surgery; her kids, four of them anyway, sat around a table in the waiting room playing pinochle and giggling like we always do; I'm sure some of the other people waiting thought we were horribly irreverent but it was our way of getting through it. She got through it, it took ove...	likemyheart	7	481	Oct 27, 2014 by Fairlee
	Withdrawing... (Preview) nicely. Ever been to a conference or service assembly? Then you know what I'm going thru. Our Fall Service assembly is about over. I'm home early cause I got an appointment that takes the last 3 hours off the assembly...yuk. I'm missing the goodbye stage...you know the hugs and the kisses and s...	Jerry F	3	317	Oct 26, 2014 by andromeda
	merry go round called denial (Preview) i was introduced to this pamphlet tonight at my meeting. wow it really amazed me how ive played my part in the story. what did you think of this?	el-cee	17	1241	Oct 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Introduction... Feeling confused (Preview) Hello, I'm new here, just reading and trying to figure things out. I'm very confused. My ABF of a year is currently sober after a being in rehab a few months ago but the honeymoon period is running out and I am starting to realise that he's a jerk when he's sober too. The last time my mother saw him until a few...	Bombshall	3	332	Oct 26, 2014 by Bombshall
	AW in Rehab (Preview) Hello! My wife is an alcoholic, and made the incredible decision to enter rehab, on her own, two weeks ago! We have four kids together (6, 8, 10, 12), and while the last two weeks with her in rehab have been kinda tough on all of us, it is still WAY better than the last year and a half of her drinking hard. I...	MarkLH22	6	484	Oct 26, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
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