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Truth · Truth

I have finally come to the point in my journey where I recognize the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. I finally discovered what has been a thorn in my side about my experiences within the program and in life in general. It was a really good emotional release. I think we all know if w...

mnkarts2 · mnkarts2

Hi all. My counselor suggested I join an Al-Anon group. Life is busy so I am unable to attend meeting so she said I can online. I don't know if this particular board is location specific...if so please let me know. I am the wife of a recovering alcoholic. My husband drank heavily but it was a very short peri...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

This boundary is about protecting my daughter. Sometimes my brain gets clouded, and I want to see if my support system here agrees with me. I am not purposely focusing on the AH, but this involves him...of course. my former neighbor I've known for 20 years called me Monday night asking me if my AH was ok...

mjferg · mjferg

It seems as if my happy bubble has popped!!I am feeling blah today.I just want to relax.I am so tired.I did manage to get all my laundry done yesterday.It is sitting in baskets and the house isn't where I want it to be yet.I am feeling kind of lost today and abandoned.He just left me with all these problem...

el-cee · el-cee

Fear is a powerful emotion, it lingers in me still and it grows at times then before I know it its built up and im acting on it, making decisions based on it. Im trying to think of the tools I used when I first came in because these did the trick and I could bat fear away, shrink it right out of my mind. The what if...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I have done a lot of reflecting today about how I spend my free time compared to what I did when living with AH. When I lived with him, on my days off work, I would clean a huge house in the morning and wait until he would wake up. I would feel resentful the whole day because he slept half the day because he stay...

Jerry F · Jerry F

A God thing. The first three steps were distilled and given to me as 1. Trust God 2. Clean House 3. Help Others. The event where a man at where I work targeted me with his insanity, crossed my boundaries and made threats against our property has taken a different corner. He came up to me unannounce...

PP · PP

I am spinning a bit and have been since early Sat morning when we discovered the back part of our home had flooded. After spending the weekend tearing up floors in 3 bedrooms and a hallway and hauling the debris for the trash collectors, we can rest a bit until the plumber comes back on Thursday to make hi...

Star Bird · Star Bird

I am feeling resentful today and I don't like this feeling. My husband has been in treatment for two weeks. He is doing great and is actually enjoying the classes and fellowship. His mom keeps buying him nice new expensive clothes and sending them to him. He keeps getting gifts from her almost every da...

Gaby · Gaby

its been one crazy roller coaster but I keep staying on my side of the street!! You all stay blessed !!!

rikks · rikks

I just came out of a four year relationship with a recovering alcoholic. Still stunned and it's been bout two months since the split. It was the worst emotional battering of my life. I finally broke down and gave into the fact that bonding to alcoholics has been an ongoing theme in my life. It's been incr...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, I just wanted to share with you that today was my first day at a new job. It's one of those foot in the door kind of things and it a contract position so it will have an end date. I'm going to just take it a day at a time but today was a wonderful day. A group of us were hired, not too many but we'll all b...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

When I moved out in March, my mom helped me by giving me money to do it. I don't like asking my mom for money. But she understood my situation and wanted me out of that house too. She also helped me pay some of my daughter's tuition. She is at a Christian school and they have great daycare hours so I need her to s...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Well another week done and two days off. That I am happy because it's been a busy week.... My foot is healing, got the stitches out yesterday. It still feels the same and now with a scar but the doctor told me it will take a few months for that nerve end to heal and let the pain go away. Right now I'm not beli...

Truth · Truth

Well I don't know if it is true yet but I have heard the A is facing assault charges. Was I surprised? No, not really. I am a feeling a bit of relief yet sadness for my son.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I read a post partly about a mom doing over the top things for her daughter. The daughter posted. Well, after reading a snipet of the post, I have come to the conclusion that maybe I have been bashing my mom. She has done so much for me over the years. When my husband was out 8 years ago, my mom stepped in &...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

today feels like a good day. Elcee posted a scene from the labyrinth, there's another scene in that movie where the heroine walks into a replica of her bedroom and is tempted to stay. That's been the last two weeks. Look,everything's ok! No,it isn't. Have expressed that I cant be the wife to active addi...

mjferg · mjferg

It seems like every day there is something to clean up, as in first it was the house, I like neat and clean but I got behind from the depression I was in.So my daughter and I have been tackling the house.Yesterday there were errands and financial situations I am working on.My poor pets need to go get flea me...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

And I had to stop my train of thought and remember how resilient we are and how good life truly is. I have finally become better instead of bitter. I am careful of who and what I surround myself with now. Here in America in this day and age my fridge is stocked, my heat is on, my kids are healthy and well things...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I apologise for the fact that this is like my 300th post on the board this week. But I'm really spinning my wheels, asking myself and my HP a question and I'm getting nowhere. Please understand I'm not looking for "practical" solutions, OMG as I was writing this the cat spewed all over the be...

mjferg · mjferg

I went out to do some shopping today and I walked by the shelf with books and magazines,I looked at the books and i picked one up,I couldn't remember the last time I just sat quietly and read a book.Everything seems so different, like all my senses are exaggerated!!,It is like I am coming out of a bad dre...

mjferg · mjferg

Yesterday I called an old friend I hadn't talked to in years.I cried as we talked and afterwards I realized how many things I gave up. that is, I am remembering things in bits of pieces, just things I have done or have not done because of pleasing him..I let him control everything I did,every decision, ev...

lookingup · lookingup

This may or may not sound crazy but I've been hearing alotbofvthis I guesss alanon quote that I havent a clue as to what it means can someone plz give me the alanon def to it its....It's The destination is on the ticket ?????

lookingup · lookingup

I find it soo much enjoyable to be able to read everyone's posts here and to relate and understand better of this program ,I know it's been a while since I've posted to so as for. the update on me it's slow or I'm coming along slow as a snail but I think I'm getting there as to my serenity,I've been haveing a lo...

Luiza · Luiza

A's parents are coming this morning to help him move today. By 1pm I hope he will be gone and I will have the whole afternoon cleaning up everything and specially my bedroom. I got a break from my Sunday job to make sure I have time to do it and start a fresh brand new week. The last few days were chalenging bu...

andromeda · andromeda

Ok, so my son's tics from his Tourette's are so bad right now. Probably one of the worst flare ups he's had. He blinks his eyes so much and so hard that I have no idea how he gets any schoolwork done. He does not want to take medication because of side effects and also because he knows the tics will fade awa...

melungeonbaby · melungeonbaby

Not sure how to do this. There may be already a group that addresses this issue. I am married to a recovering alcoholic. I know that some things are ok and some are not normal. Just not sure which is which? Like the fact that my guy is very wonderful to me but very reclusive and doesn't want kids around much...

Diva · Diva

My whole demeanor has changed after 15 years of dealing with an alcoholic. I loved him dearly when we first marriedI did not know he was an alcoholic, and all went well for two years. Then I hit the ground with a thud when he changed from Dr Jekyll to Mr Hyde right in front of my eyes. I have become cynical...

Pushka · Pushka

This is today's question in ODAAT September 9, pg 253. Wow, ... what am I going to do with what I've got? Am I using what I have to the best of my ability? I thought about my graditude list and how I've got so very much to be grateful for. I don't know that I can do an A - Z, Q and Z trip me up .. LOL. Athough I'm g...

rehprof · rehprof

Hmmm...the more things change, the more they stay the same... My life is so hard, and I'm tired of it... My 18 yo is now exhibiting behavior of his A dad (my ex) and swears at me and blames me...tells me everything is my fault. When I try to engage the ex in convos about parenting...he blames me too...tells...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have so many moments where I feel confused & misinformed. I guess what I am trying to say is this: I don't know much about cell phones but I am getting frustrated because I am running out of data! I have spent a lot of the weekend trying to find entertaining ways to keep myself busy. I acquired so much i...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

So...on Halloween I took daughter to my house where A is to go trick or treating. This is what she wanted. And I wanted to see the neighbors too. I took her out first, then A took her out. While he was gone, I found some interesting bills and a receipt for unemployment payments. He has been very cagey about h...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Well Michael Douglas was evicted after 1 day, he didn't get along with the other feline resident. Apparently it was the OTHER cat that was the aggressor which surprises me as MD is pretty feisty. So yesterday A and I left him at the vet in town and today I went and picked him up and brought him back here. My n...

littlehob · littlehob

I am a grateful member of Alanon, nearly five years and without the support of Alanon friends and trying to work the prgramme I think I would have gone insane. The alcholic in my life is my partner and we have two children 7 and 8 years old. Her father too was an alcoholic and he died as a result. My partner h...

Truth · Truth

It is wonderful re-connecting to your body and just knowing the yucky feeling you are getting is your limit. I was on the phone with a friend discussing everyday activities breakfast, what is on the agenda, etc....and then it came "is so and so mad at me?" My body cringed. I paused and said th...

rainbow · rainbow

You won't believe it but I just deleted my post while trying to edit it....I am such a numpty with technology at times lol ...I was going to add that I have had a light bulb moment ... the feelings I'm experiencing WILL pass...I need to let go and trust that everything will work out as my HP intends for me. Wh...

mjferg · mjferg

Wow, just Wow is all I can say! I have been working hard every day,and doing what my therapist suggests and connecting with people here,and using the steps, and last night I felt a sweet peace that I have never experienced before!I am emotionally tired but things are getting better!peace to all,Mary

laguillotina · laguillotina

I missed the meeting I wanted to go to today because I didn't want to deal with the anger/insults when I left the house to go. He was home all day and we had a bunch of projects to do in the house. (Well, I did most of the work. He yelled when I did things the "wrong" or "inconsiderate" wa...

Overcome · Overcome

I will be unable to chair the meeting today. I am sorry for the short notice. I thought I could do it, but am in a lot of pain. I'm having trouble breathing and not sure what's going on. If you are so inclined I'd appreciate good thoughts and prayers. I hope to be back next week. Overcomer

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I am still covering AH's health insurance. It doesn't cost me anything. I have good coverage..for now anyway. as you all know, he hasn't worked since January. Why should I continue to cover him even if it doesn't cost me anything? Well...it costs $10 for every dental visit, but thats it. I am wonderin...

el-cee · el-cee

When will I be done? I mean, the residual crap caused by this disease lingers on in me and im sick of it. Im angry again because I thought I would invite my ex to dinner for christmas, I know its early but theres been drama around it the last 2 yrs so I think, im going to be a big grown up woman, pull up my big pants...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling w/ the same regrets from the past. I hope someone on here has similar experiences so I can see a different point of view. Sometimes I get stuck. One of the main issues I have & will probably always have, is the fact that I am basically barren. I cannot have children. I don't want to adopt...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I have been very protective of my tenants, saying I will not allow them to be homeless and was holding out as long as I could. They have a nice rv on my property. There has been no threat of fines or court or anything. With out any notice, owing me $300 they just took off with their rv and left. nice eh? They are...

laguillotina · laguillotina

i haven't been to an Al Anon meeting in a long time. The last time I was at these boards was a year ago. I just need someone to read this and maybe tell me I'm not crazy? or if I am crazy, that I will get better soon? I traded in an alcoholic for a rageholic. We've been together for 4 years. In the beginning of Sept...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I got that job at the rehab as clinical director. Was all set to leave with Monday as my last day. We had a conference call today statewide for the current company I work for. The statewide COO was on that call. It was acknowledged I was leaving. 10 minutes after, the state COO called me and offered to match...

astallaslions · astallaslions

The hardest thing about being sick and sad on my favorite holiday and what was suppose to be our 3 year anniversary was that he wasnt there to take care of me, and that even if he had been, it probably would have not been what I hoped for. I miss his smile and his eyes and right now I feel him here with me ever so p...

Jerry F · Jerry F

anything you have to calm my mind, body, spirit and emotions. That's what I was praying yesterday after a major reaction spiced by my PTSD disability. One of the guys where I work made the decision to target and victimize me with a delusion he was entertaining and then finished it off with a threat t...

Luiza · Luiza

My daughter is 7. I wish her to grow into a responsible, confident adult with high self esteem knowing that she is capable of wonderful things and worth of good in her life. How can I help her achieving it? I guess what I am asking is, why the opposite happens? Why some people- like her father and myself- ha...

likemyheart · likemyheart

The bestest most favoritest holiday ever! Ghoulies and ghosties of all sorts came to my door and I played with them and tested their ability to laugh! I love Halloween! This picture ISN'T sideways on my computer, I promise! -- -- Edited by likemyheart on Friday 31st of October 2014 11:55:57 PM

el-cee · el-cee

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NQh-VDcpkyw Hey alcohol, You have no power over me!!!

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Or at least they do me .. LOL! Last night after getting the kids to where they need to be and a seriously crazy work week I was able to breathe at the meeting I attend. We all had a great evening! My son went trick or treating with a group of his friends with no adults (they were at his friends new house very,...

Katy · Katy

I react because I feel attacked, as a person my whole being feels violated, that is my responce to someone not understanding me or knowing me well enough to know that by singling me out they challenge my very being, I don't ever go looking for trouble and I would avoid it at all costs but every now and then I...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

the XAH, .. I'd be ok with that however he just won't leave me alone! UGH!! Last night he texts as I'm out running the kids to and from places, and honestly I'm ignoring it. It's about money in terms of he wants to give me some. The problem is he doesn't follow the rules and he doesn't do what he's suppo...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Bowie's new accessory. It works great for halloween, everyone is calling him hannibal. He doesn't think it's particularly funny. Poor guy lol. I will have to talk to him about acceptance.

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I've been having a full week. I'm very excited to be done with my former workplace. I got more done on Monday than I have on an weekend recently. I felt serene, cooked up a bunch of goodies, cleaned my closet, went for walks, got to more meetings etc. I found out my friend from work's hubby works for our co...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just sitting here so I thought I would post. I am sore. It is difficult to sit on these chairs at the library. I am getting ready to go now. I just wanted to post to let everyone know that I am doing OK. Mom is not back yet. I don't know when they will release her. The powers that be will not tell me anything. I am n...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well technically I am divorced .. however it's not signed yet and it will be big time. Anyway, XAH is as crazy as you wanna be and that's ok as long as it keeps it to himself .. sharing is so overrated!! There is has been a LOT going on some of which I still can't talk about, that's ok too. My mom sent me a lovel...

texasgal · texasgal

I've been dating a man for more than a month he is wonderful he is complete opposite of my exAH. I'm very grateful for all the little things he does he is so caring and thoughtful. The problem is me. Sometimes he does something so nice and so opposite of what my ex would and I catch myself wanting to cry. I wan...

mjferg · mjferg

So, I am new to this, and I will be honest as I said in another post, I feel like a bug on the bottom of someone's shoe.I cry allot and I feel sick. I have rough nights and I am weary. I guess I need to hear how everyone else felt when they started and how they got better.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have an apartment sized kitchen trying to fit a garbage bag full of plastic containers into a cabinet that holds both my glass ware and anything plastic. Literally it's the only cabinet available to deal with this issue. I'm debating if I should just donate the whole garbage bag of containers and g...

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	Forgiveness versus Reconciliation (Preview) I have finally come to the point in my journey where I recognize the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. I finally discovered what has been a thorn in my side about my experiences within the program and in life in general. It was a really good emotional release. I think we all know if w...	Truth	17	2015	Nov 6, 2014 by el-cee
	Intro (Preview) Hi all. My counselor suggested I join an Al-Anon group. Life is busy so I am unable to attend meeting so she said I can online. I don't know if this particular board is location specific...if so please let me know. I am the wife of a recovering alcoholic. My husband drank heavily but it was a very short peri...	mnkarts2	5	546	Nov 6, 2014 by mnkarts2
	Need reassurance that this decision/boundary is the right thing to do (Preview) This boundary is about protecting my daughter. Sometimes my brain gets clouded, and I want to see if my support system here agrees with me. I am not purposely focusing on the AH, but this involves him...of course. my former neighbor I've known for 20 years called me Monday night asking me if my AH was ok...	Newlife girl	16	748	Nov 6, 2014 by PP
	Is this self-pity or just normal feelings (Preview) It seems as if my happy bubble has popped!!I am feeling blah today.I just want to relax.I am so tired.I did manage to get all my laundry done yesterday.It is sitting in baskets and the house isn't where I want it to be yet.I am feeling kind of lost today and abandoned.He just left me with all these problem...	mjferg	14	917	Nov 6, 2014 by Debilyn
	fear (Preview) Fear is a powerful emotion, it lingers in me still and it grows at times then before I know it its built up and im acting on it, making decisions based on it. Im trying to think of the tools I used when I first came in because these did the trick and I could bat fear away, shrink it right out of my mind. The what if...	el-cee	9	952	Nov 5, 2014 by rainbow
	How I live: now vs then (Preview) I have done a lot of reflecting today about how I spend my free time compared to what I did when living with AH. When I lived with him, on my days off work, I would clean a huge house in the morning and wait until he would wake up. I would feel resentful the whole day because he slept half the day because he stay...	Newlife girl	14	876	Nov 5, 2014 by grateful2be
	Eventually it all becomes (Preview) A God thing. The first three steps were distilled and given to me as 1. Trust God 2. Clean House 3. Help Others. The event where a man at where I work targeted me with his insanity, crossed my boundaries and made threats against our property has taken a different corner. He came up to me unannounce...	Jerry F	6	666	Nov 5, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Mom, We Have a Problem.... (Preview) I am spinning a bit and have been since early Sat morning when we discovered the back part of our home had flooded. After spending the weekend tearing up floors in 3 bedrooms and a hallway and hauling the debris for the trash collectors, we can rest a bit until the plumber comes back on Thursday to make hi...	PP	15	938	Nov 5, 2014 by PP
	Resentment (Preview) I am feeling resentful today and I don't like this feeling. My husband has been in treatment for two weeks. He is doing great and is actually enjoying the classes and fellowship. His mom keeps buying him nice new expensive clothes and sending them to him. He keeps getting gifts from her almost every da...	Star Bird	11	811	Nov 5, 2014 by mjferg
	Hello all ! (Preview) its been one crazy roller coaster but I keep staying on my side of the street!! You all stay blessed !!!	Gaby	4	569	Nov 5, 2014 by PP
	So glad I found Al-Anon (Preview) I just came out of a four year relationship with a recovering alcoholic. Still stunned and it's been bout two months since the split. It was the worst emotional battering of my life. I finally broke down and gave into the fact that bonding to alcoholics has been an ongoing theme in my life. It's been incr...	rikks	10	843	Nov 5, 2014 by Jerry F
	Job Update (Preview) Hi Everyone, I just wanted to share with you that today was my first day at a new job. It's one of those foot in the door kind of things and it a contract position so it will have an end date. I'm going to just take it a day at a time but today was a wonderful day. A group of us were hired, not too many but we'll all b...	tiredtonite	8	446	Nov 4, 2014 by Breakingfree
	My mom is the best (Preview) When I moved out in March, my mom helped me by giving me money to do it. I don't like asking my mom for money. But she understood my situation and wanted me out of that house too. She also helped me pay some of my daughter's tuition. She is at a Christian school and they have great daycare hours so I need her to s...	Newlife girl	7	720	Nov 4, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Good Morning (Preview) Well another week done and two days off. That I am happy because it's been a busy week.... My foot is healing, got the stitches out yesterday. It still feels the same and now with a scar but the doctor told me it will take a few months for that nerve end to heal and let the pain go away. Right now I'm not beli...	Cathyinaz	10	720	Nov 4, 2014 by Path to Serenity
	Possible Assault Charges (Preview) Well I don't know if it is true yet but I have heard the A is facing assault charges. Was I surprised? No, not really. I am a feeling a bit of relief yet sadness for my son.	Truth	4	479	Nov 4, 2014 by Truth
	no matter what she is still my mom! (Preview) I read a post partly about a mom doing over the top things for her daughter. The daughter posted. Well, after reading a snipet of the post, I have come to the conclusion that maybe I have been bashing my mom. She has done so much for me over the years. When my husband was out 8 years ago, my mom stepped in &...	Hoot Nanny	3	566	Nov 4, 2014 by cloudyskies
	feeling lighter. (Preview) today feels like a good day. Elcee posted a scene from the labyrinth, there's another scene in that movie where the heroine walks into a replica of her bedroom and is tempted to stay. That's been the last two weeks. Look,everything's ok! No,it isn't. Have expressed that I cant be the wife to active addi...	aquamom23	2	385	Nov 4, 2014 by neshema2
	The mess left behind (Preview) It seems like every day there is something to clean up, as in first it was the house, I like neat and clean but I got behind from the depression I was in.So my daughter and I have been tackling the house.Yesterday there were errands and financial situations I am working on.My poor pets need to go get flea me...	mjferg	7	657	Nov 4, 2014 by neshema2
	Today I was watching a movie about how hard life is...... (Preview) And I had to stop my train of thought and remember how resilient we are and how good life truly is. I have finally become better instead of bitter. I am careful of who and what I surround myself with now. Here in America in this day and age my fridge is stocked, my heat is on, my kids are healthy and well things...	Breakingfree	8	779	Nov 4, 2014 by neshema2
	Pretend this is a meeting share because I didn't get to mine this week... (Preview) I apologise for the fact that this is like my 300th post on the board this week. But I'm really spinning my wheels, asking myself and my HP a question and I'm getting nowhere. Please understand I'm not looking for "practical" solutions, OMG as I was writing this the cat spewed all over the be...	missmeliss	22	936	Nov 4, 2014 by el-cee
	is this crazy (Preview) I went out to do some shopping today and I walked by the shelf with books and magazines,I looked at the books and i picked one up,I couldn't remember the last time I just sat quietly and read a book.Everything seems so different, like all my senses are exaggerated!!,It is like I am coming out of a bad dre...	mjferg	10	784	Nov 4, 2014 by mjferg
	bits and pieces (Preview) Yesterday I called an old friend I hadn't talked to in years.I cried as we talked and afterwards I realized how many things I gave up. that is, I am remembering things in bits of pieces, just things I have done or have not done because of pleasing him..I let him control everything I did,every decision, ev...	mjferg	11	735	Nov 4, 2014 by mjferg
	A problem here (Preview) This may or may not sound crazy but I've been hearing alotbofvthis I guesss alanon quote that I havent a clue as to what it means can someone plz give me the alanon def to it its....It's The destination is on the ticket ?????	lookingup	2	528	Nov 4, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Reading posts (Preview) I find it soo much enjoyable to be able to read everyone's posts here and to relate and understand better of this program ,I know it's been a while since I've posted to so as for. the update on me it's slow or I'm coming along slow as a snail but I think I'm getting there as to my serenity,I've been haveing a lo...	lookingup	5	596	Nov 4, 2014 by lookingup
	Today is the day. (Preview) A's parents are coming this morning to help him move today. By 1pm I hope he will be gone and I will have the whole afternoon cleaning up everything and specially my bedroom. I got a break from my Sunday job to make sure I have time to do it and start a fresh brand new week. The last few days were chalenging bu...	Luiza	17	735	Nov 3, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Plagued by worry and fear (Preview) Ok, so my son's tics from his Tourette's are so bad right now. Probably one of the worst flare ups he's had. He blinks his eyes so much and so hard that I have no idea how he gets any schoolwork done. He does not want to take medication because of side effects and also because he knows the tics will fade awa...	andromeda	8	800	Nov 3, 2014 by andromeda
	doing life with a recovering alcoholic (Preview) Not sure how to do this. There may be already a group that addresses this issue. I am married to a recovering alcoholic. I know that some things are ok and some are not normal. Just not sure which is which? Like the fact that my guy is very wonderful to me but very reclusive and doesn't want kids around much...	melungeonbaby	1	424	Nov 3, 2014 by hotrod
	Life has not turned out well for me. (Preview) My whole demeanor has changed after 15 years of dealing with an alcoholic. I loved him dearly when we first marriedI did not know he was an alcoholic, and all went well for two years. Then I hit the ground with a thud when he changed from Dr Jekyll to Mr Hyde right in front of my eyes. I have become cynical...	Diva	12	799	Nov 3, 2014 by hotrod
	What am I going to do with what I've got? (Preview) This is today's question in ODAAT September 9, pg 253. Wow, ... what am I going to do with what I've got? Am I using what I have to the best of my ability? I thought about my graditude list and how I've got so very much to be grateful for. I don't know that I can do an A - Z, Q and Z trip me up .. LOL. Athough I'm g...	Pushka	14	925	Nov 3, 2014 by Spur
	It's been a long time (Preview) Hmmm...the more things change, the more they stay the same... My life is so hard, and I'm tired of it... My 18 yo is now exhibiting behavior of his A dad (my ex) and swears at me and blames me...tells me everything is my fault. When I try to engage the ex in convos about parenting...he blames me too...tells...	rehprof	11	679	Nov 3, 2014 by Jerry F
	dazed & confused (Preview) I have so many moments where I feel confused & misinformed. I guess what I am trying to say is this: I don't know much about cell phones but I am getting frustrated because I am running out of data! I have spent a lot of the weekend trying to find entertaining ways to keep myself busy. I acquired so much i...	Hoot Nanny	1	500	Nov 3, 2014 by hotrod
	Just call me P.I. (Preview) So...on Halloween I took daughter to my house where A is to go trick or treating. This is what she wanted. And I wanted to see the neighbors too. I took her out first, then A took her out. While he was gone, I found some interesting bills and a receipt for unemployment payments. He has been very cagey about h...	Newlife girl	12	843	Nov 3, 2014 by Newlife girl
	This n that. (Preview) Well Michael Douglas was evicted after 1 day, he didn't get along with the other feline resident. Apparently it was the OTHER cat that was the aggressor which surprises me as MD is pretty feisty. So yesterday A and I left him at the vet in town and today I went and picked him up and brought him back here. My n...	missmeliss	11	713	Nov 3, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Decisions, decisions (Preview) I am a grateful member of Alanon, nearly five years and without the support of Alanon friends and trying to work the prgramme I think I would have gone insane. The alcholic in my life is my partner and we have two children 7 and 8 years old. Her father too was an alcoholic and he died as a result. My partner h...	littlehob	11	976	Nov 3, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Finding your limits... (Preview) It is wonderful re-connecting to your body and just knowing the yucky feeling you are getting is your limit. I was on the phone with a friend discussing everyday activities breakfast, what is on the agenda, etc....and then it came "is so and so mad at me?" My body cringed. I paused and said th...	Truth	4	402	Nov 3, 2014 by Truth
	Feeling shaken and stirred...this will pass (Preview) You won't believe it but I just deleted my post while trying to edit it....I am such a numpty with technology at times lol ...I was going to add that I have had a light bulb moment ... the feelings I'm experiencing WILL pass...I need to let go and trust that everything will work out as my HP intends for me. Wh...	rainbow	13	762	Nov 3, 2014 by hotrod
	this is amazing (Preview) Wow, just Wow is all I can say! I have been working hard every day,and doing what my therapist suggests and connecting with people here,and using the steps, and last night I felt a sweet peace that I have never experienced before!I am emotionally tired but things are getting better!peace to all,Mary	mjferg	8	445	Nov 2, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Missed a meeting (Preview) I missed the meeting I wanted to go to today because I didn't want to deal with the anger/insults when I left the house to go. He was home all day and we had a bunch of projects to do in the house. (Well, I did most of the work. He yelled when I did things the "wrong" or "inconsiderate" wa...	laguillotina	2	422	Nov 2, 2014 by missmeliss
	No Sunday Spiritual MEETING today. (Preview) I will be unable to chair the meeting today. I am sorry for the short notice. I thought I could do it, but am in a lot of pain. I'm having trouble breathing and not sure what's going on. If you are so inclined I'd appreciate good thoughts and prayers. I hope to be back next week. Overcomer	Overcome	2	322	Nov 2, 2014 by hotrod
	Health insurance...should I take him off? (Preview) I am still covering AH's health insurance. It doesn't cost me anything. I have good coverage..for now anyway. as you all know, he hasn't worked since January. Why should I continue to cover him even if it doesn't cost me anything? Well...it costs $10 for every dental visit, but thats it. I am wonderin...	Newlife girl	9	705	Nov 2, 2014 by neshema2
	is recovery never ending? (Preview) When will I be done? I mean, the residual crap caused by this disease lingers on in me and im sick of it. Im angry again because I thought I would invite my ex to dinner for christmas, I know its early but theres been drama around it the last 2 yrs so I think, im going to be a big grown up woman, pull up my big pants...	el-cee	15	705	Nov 2, 2014 by missmeliss
	same old regrets... (Preview) I am struggling w/ the same regrets from the past. I hope someone on here has similar experiences so I can see a different point of view. Sometimes I get stuck. One of the main issues I have & will probably always have, is the fact that I am basically barren. I cannot have children. I don't want to adopt...	Hoot Nanny	5	582	Nov 2, 2014 by mjferg
	Typical sucker me (Preview) I have been very protective of my tenants, saying I will not allow them to be homeless and was holding out as long as I could. They have a nice rv on my property. There has been no threat of fines or court or anything. With out any notice, owing me $300 they just took off with their rv and left. nice eh? They are...	Debilyn	10	682	Nov 2, 2014 by neshema2
	decision paralysis (Preview) i haven't been to an Al Anon meeting in a long time. The last time I was at these boards was a year ago. I just need someone to read this and maybe tell me I'm not crazy? or if I am crazy, that I will get better soon? I traded in an alcoholic for a rageholic. We've been together for 4 years. In the beginning of Sept...	laguillotina	12	559	Nov 1, 2014 by laguillotina
	So what happened with the job... (Preview) I got that job at the rehab as clinical director. Was all set to leave with Monday as my last day. We had a conference call today statewide for the current company I work for. The statewide COO was on that call. It was acknowledged I was leaving. 10 minutes after, the state COO called me and offered to match...	pinkchip	25	834	Nov 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Nostalgia gives doubt about break up…love or self sabotage? (Preview) The hardest thing about being sick and sad on my favorite holiday and what was suppose to be our 3 year anniversary was that he wasnt there to take care of me, and that even if he had been, it probably would have not been what I hoped for. I miss his smile and his eyes and right now I feel him here with me ever so p...	astallaslions	3	628	Nov 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	God grant me... (Preview) anything you have to calm my mind, body, spirit and emotions. That's what I was praying yesterday after a major reaction spiced by my PTSD disability. One of the guys where I work made the decision to target and victimize me with a delusion he was entertaining and then finished it off with a threat t...	Jerry F	10	657	Nov 1, 2014 by Jerry F
	Confidence and Self-esteem. (Preview) My daughter is 7. I wish her to grow into a responsible, confident adult with high self esteem knowing that she is capable of wonderful things and worth of good in her life. How can I help her achieving it? I guess what I am asking is, why the opposite happens? Why some people- like her father and myself- ha...	Luiza	11	1108	Nov 1, 2014 by Luiza
	hAPPY hALLOWEEN! (Preview) The bestest most favoritest holiday ever! Ghoulies and ghosties of all sorts came to my door and I played with them and tested their ability to laugh! I love Halloween! This picture ISN'T sideways on my computer, I promise! -- -- Edited by likemyheart on Friday 31st of October 2014 11:55:57 PM	likemyheart	6	385	Nov 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	This is me. (Preview) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NQh-VDcpkyw Hey alcohol, You have no power over me!!!	el-cee	4	490	Nov 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Things that make you go hmmm ... (Preview) Or at least they do me .. LOL! Last night after getting the kids to where they need to be and a seriously crazy work week I was able to breathe at the meeting I attend. We all had a great evening! My son went trick or treating with a group of his friends with no adults (they were at his friends new house very,...	SerenityRUS	10	655	Nov 1, 2014 by el-cee
	why do we react though! (Preview) I react because I feel attacked, as a person my whole being feels violated, that is my responce to someone not understanding me or knowing me well enough to know that by singling me out they challenge my very being, I don't ever go looking for trouble and I would avoid it at all costs but every now and then I...	Katy	2	583	Nov 1, 2014 by hotrod
	Still crazy .. (Preview) the XAH, .. I'd be ok with that however he just won't leave me alone! UGH!! Last night he texts as I'm out running the kids to and from places, and honestly I'm ignoring it. It's about money in terms of he wants to give me some. The problem is he doesn't follow the rules and he doesn't do what he's suppo...	SerenityRUS	0	459	Nov 1, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Oh dear, my poor boy... (Preview) Bowie's new accessory. It works great for halloween, everyone is calling him hannibal. He doesn't think it's particularly funny. Poor guy lol. I will have to talk to him about acceptance.	missmeliss	12	1124	Oct 31, 2014 by grateful2be
	All Over the Map Emotionally (Preview) I've been having a full week. I'm very excited to be done with my former workplace. I got more done on Monday than I have on an weekend recently. I felt serene, cooked up a bunch of goodies, cleaned my closet, went for walks, got to more meetings etc. I found out my friend from work's hubby works for our co...	tiredtonite	7	657	Oct 31, 2014 by Jerry F
	just sitting here... (Preview) Just sitting here so I thought I would post. I am sore. It is difficult to sit on these chairs at the library. I am getting ready to go now. I just wanted to post to let everyone know that I am doing OK. Mom is not back yet. I don't know when they will release her. The powers that be will not tell me anything. I am n...	Hoot Nanny	2	524	Oct 31, 2014 by tiredtonite
	First week as a divorced woman :) (Preview) Well technically I am divorced .. however it's not signed yet and it will be big time. Anyway, XAH is as crazy as you wanna be and that's ok as long as it keeps it to himself .. sharing is so overrated!! There is has been a LOT going on some of which I still can't talk about, that's ok too. My mom sent me a lovel...	SerenityRUS	18	768	Oct 31, 2014 by Jerry F
	moving forward (Preview) I've been dating a man for more than a month he is wonderful he is complete opposite of my exAH. I'm very grateful for all the little things he does he is so caring and thoughtful. The problem is me. Sometimes he does something so nice and so opposite of what my ex would and I catch myself wanting to cry. I wan...	texasgal	4	641	Oct 31, 2014 by hotrod
	I need encouragement (Preview) So, I am new to this, and I will be honest as I said in another post, I feel like a bug on the bottom of someone's shoe.I cry allot and I feel sick. I have rough nights and I am weary. I guess I need to hear how everyone else felt when they started and how they got better.	mjferg	15	674	Oct 31, 2014 by mjferg
	Organization .. HELP!! (Preview) I have an apartment sized kitchen trying to fit a garbage bag full of plastic containers into a cabinet that holds both my glass ware and anything plastic. Literally it's the only cabinet available to deal with this issue. I'm debating if I should just donate the whole garbage bag of containers and g...	SerenityRUS	12	816	Oct 31, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
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