Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

No...says today's contributor, not in the midst of trying times and circumstances and pressure of making decisions. No time to slip away to read a favorite Alanon chapter or attend a meeting, it is helpful to develop a quick, powerful resource we consistently draw upon to assist us. Perhaps, then, c...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading looks at why we forget certain ideas or truths even though we are often reminded in meetings, for example: alcoholism is a disease, the alcoholic has an illness, and we should not punish people for being sick. Real acceptance is difficult, and our immediate attitude toward the alcoho...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about working through anger and the help that the 12 steps provide. The writer describes what she did in order to overcome her anger toward her mother. She decided to work through the steps and as is the practice in alanon, kept the focus on herself and the cha...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

In today's reading, the author talks about things being urgent, but rarely important and things that are important being rarely urgent, which feeds into a cycle of getting caught up in trivia which appears urgent, but then not having the time for the more important stuff. In essence, "First things...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author used to lose their serenity all the time, reacting to things other people said or did, and could only find relief by hiding away in the bedroom. But now, having learned to use Al-Anon tools like slogans, trusting in a higher power, prayer/meditation, focusing on self-care, and findin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! AL-Anon reminds today's author that they can only deal with one day at a time. Thanks to this reminder, they are able to be more realistic about what they can do to improve their situation. Thanks to this focus on one day at a time, the author is freed from a constant sense of urgency. No probl...

Lyne · Lyne

An interesting think is going on in my marriage. My A is in a different 12-step program. Progress is being made with her awareness level of when her behavior is off. Sometimes it is after the fact but at least its seen in retrospect. But we have had two very difficult weeks, with some resolve this mor...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author notes that our incredible human adaptability used to navigate difficulties early in our experience may be drawn upon even after we learn it is harmful to ourselves and others.Persistent use of one of these adaptations, manipulation, can leave rust on more effective, direct approa...

Bbrave · Bbrave

The main reason for our unhappiness may be our dissatisfaction with what we have, how we live, and the way we perceive others' actions. We should seek contentment from within. If this self-searching reveals only that we don't yet have what we feel we deserve, we should look for ways to acknowledge and...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading describes what healthy love is and is not. Self-love can be the source of hostility, arrogance, a big ego, narrow mindedness, and closed to feeling for others. Love of self: love thy neighbor as thyself. We can love and help others when we are at peace with ourselves. False humility...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the practice some of us have of doing the same thing over and over again and somehow expecting different results. The writer describes reacting to different situations in an impulsive way, eventually noticing that it was habitual and not founded in t...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. A person from my home group would like to join our message board. I don't know how to tell her to do this. I tried to help her sign up a few years ago and she was not successful. Can anyone tell me so I can help her join? Thanks so much, Lyne

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in ODAT is a story about a Very Nice Girl who was reluctant to go to Al-Anon because felt she was "above" the sort of people who went there, and was ashamed that there was an alcoholic in her family. Once she was persuaded to go, she felt "above" other members whose speech or education was...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how good it feels for many new-comers to find a safe place to share openly about their lives and experiences in the Al-Anon meetings. It can feel very good to share something and see people nodding, or have people come up after the meeting and share thei...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer talks about the special problems one can have living with an alcoholic: erratic behavior, social embarrassment, and other minor or major problems. In alanon, the non-alcoholic can find peace of mind. We are again reminded not to try and be helpful by giving advice, nor making judgeme...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Who do we show ourselves to be in public, work, home asked a member...Does the alcoholic get the same happy face we take to Alanon meetings, our boss, fellow workers? Reminder: Honestly compare the roles we play in different life arenas. Do strangers and those we seek to impress receive better treatm...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, I made a 3 month commitment to post the daily reading from Hope for Today on Saturdays. That commitment has come to an end. I enjoyed it and thank you for your trust in me to perform this service for our Alanon family. Thank you for your shares on the Hope for Today topics! If another member wou...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the destructive nature in judging others. The writer describes having grown up in a family that communicated through teasing, criticism and jabs at one another. The writer developed a defense mechanism of sarcasm and ridiculing others. In general,...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about being shocked that when they were a newcomer to Al-Anon, they heard people saying that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. They couldn't believe these people had anything to be grateful for, yet them seemed happy despite their problems - which sounded ex...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about how we make choices and decisions. Forethought -- including kindness toward other people affected by the decision -- will result in decisions we can live with comfortably. If we are feeling angry or agitated, it is wise to wait until the feeling has subsided so that we can ca...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading focuses on Alanon's Step 2 - Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Alanon member in this reading goes for a walk with their sponsor before an Alanon meeting to discuss their understanding of this step. They tell their sponsor that they know...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading reminds us that when we are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes giving in to a poor me attitude, and try to change our thinking about it all, we may not have the success expected. We should concentrate solely on the day in front of us. TODAY'S REMINDER: This day is mine. It is unique. The choi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a concern they had about the love of their Higher Power. They feared that there was not enough love and guidance to go around. One day at the beach, the author noticed that no mater how many people there were, there was enough sun for everyone to enjoy. Th...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, on reading this reading, the person says that there was enough of God's love and guidance to go around to everyone, especially to the ones who seek it. They went on to say that theirs was tested one night when someone else in the Meeting spoke about their Higher Power with intensity, personal love th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Step 1, admitting we are powerless is often thought of as the most challenging, but today's writer suggests Step 2's part-time sanity acknowledgement gets Honorable Mention.We can turn simple issues into 7-magnitude quakes and lose perspective completely, as if we would do better with more worr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

I saw some leaves today that are more like the October foliage Im used to! Enjoy

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that alanon brings about changes in peoples lives because it has a secret: it is built on the fundamental ethical philosophy which has been around for ages. It is stated in widely different books including the Bible and fables of Aesop and it is about dealing gently with our fellowme...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about being sure that the nightmare would be over once the alcoholic they loved got sober. But without the tranquilising effect of alcohol, she became verbally abusive. She accused, attacked, insulted and the author always defended themself. It seemed crucial that the AP u...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading deals with the interpretation of some words and phrases from the program and how our understanding might evolve over the years. The writer describes hearing defects of character and shortcomings from steps 6 and 7; the writer heard these words as ways that he/...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today tells of the experience of a newcomer to Alanon who learns that in Alanon one's higher power need not be defined by past understanding of a higher power. In Alanon, members learn that they have choices. Each individual in the program can embrace a higher power of their choosing...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on precious moments. As a child, the author would spend lengthy amounts of time watching a caterpillar crawl, just in case it were to do something spectacular. The caterpillar never did, however the author didn't mind because simply watching the...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer shares that as we work the Al-Anon program to improve our peace of mind, we make an effort to understand our own drives and motivations, and to correct those that are hampering us. If we have the courage to face the emotions and behaviors that are hampering us, and we can do it without lett...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading warns us not to take anyone's inventory but our own. Though we may feel our troubles are caused by the alcoholic and we want to justify our actions and deny fault, we should take a closer look at how we handle things. We may see that we could have reacted differently, and may, in fact, have...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi I am asking for some support, as I have recently found that Alcoholism has raised it's ugly head in one of my beloved Family members, and I am feeling the effects of it all. It doesn't matter how long I have been in Al-Anon and working my program, it still hurts, a lot, and I find because I have the knowle...

Fedora · Fedora

Recently some friends alerted me to social media post my ex had made; they were concerned that he was becoming unhinged and wanted to know if I knew that. Curiosity got the better of me so I went back to his FB page. He had made a number of long posts taking potshots at me and "everyone who had abandoned him f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

This is for PNP and anyone else who isnt able to see changing leaves in person. Not the greatest pic But a tree right outside of my classroom. Happy fall, Everyone! Mary

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor points to the classic Don Quixote tale of errantly directed effort. Self proclaiming as a hero, he mistakes windmills for threatening giants and exhausts himself in the futile attempt to slay them.We, too, can pick fights with imaginary, or undefeatable targets.Reminder - D...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Dear fellow MIP friends, I am struggling emotionally. My AH and I separated two months ago and I am now living on my own with my four wonderful children. The challenge is that I know 'logically' we are in the right place and I have made the right decision, but I am not feeling it. I still feel profoundly s...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer brings up the idea that sometimes it feels as though they have forgotten what they learned in program. For example if they havent practiced detachment for quite a while, it can feel as though they forgot what they knew. Its not that they have forgotten. The situation may be the same, but w...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading points out that newcomers to Al-Anon are often distraught, overwhelmed, and doing all the things we in the program have learned not to do -- manipulating, complaining, trying to outwit the alcoholic, etc. But we need to remember not to judge the newcomers or try to force decisions on...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading tells a story of a couple of ducks who are separated from others by a patch of ice on a frozen lake and their struggle to join others. The larger group of ducks had busily swam and reached a large open area of water. One of the two isolated ducks tried to scramble over the patch of ice that sep...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to separate the alcoholism from the person in our lives. In my case, I should say for so much of the time- the inability to separate the alcoholism from the person. The writer describes a perception she had of her alcoholic father that reduce...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Sorry - I posted this by accident in the forum - so am reposting here.Today's reading talks about the importance of self care. The author talks about facing a stressful situation or tackling a tough problem and once they have done everything they can for the moment, they instead do something that wil...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run. TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more gene...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Hi Everyone, My schedule has suddenly got crazy busy. Is anyone willing to take over Thursdays One Day At a Time posts?

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meeting opened their eyes to something they had not considered before: shouting and slamming doors might not be the best way to handle an already difficult situation. Loud and angry actions demonstrated the author's frustration and p...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today falls under the topic "Facing the Past," in our reader. The reading speaks about fear of confrontation. It talks about the before recovery experiences of an Alanon member who was raised in a home with alcoholism. It then tells of the positive changes the member made as a result f...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor discussed the negative impact of 'needing' a partner to change in order to find contentment. This and other concepts became part of the unlearning that is a valuable part of Alanon recovery.Willingness and ability to adapt to what is while sourcing our contentment from an inne...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday speaks to the times when we wish to manage others: directing, admonishing, dont wear that, time for church, dont take the car, and on and on. This kind of attitude deprives others from their freedom of choice and dignity. Under the guise of doing good, we can act like a mother t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about step one; its about recognizing and accepting powerlessness and about recognizing when life has become unmanageable. The writer describes step one by acknowledging that sometimes it is helpful to try and see the unmanageable part before acceptin...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about originally viewing God as their adversary and engaging in a battle of wills, which rapidly led them to an emotional rock bottom. They came to Al-Anon but were reluctant to admit they were powerless. Eventually, with Al-Anon's help they learned how to surrender and final...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been a whole year since my mom died. I am feeling the after effects of visiting my mom's grave twice in one week. I am not particularly sad at the moment. I am just tired. I guess that is par for the course after dealing so much w/ grief. I am so glad that I can honor her once a year. Our service for my siste...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer shares that they are aware of miracles happening in their life -- and it is gratitude that makes it possible to see those miracles. Being guided to Al-Anon when they felt hopeless was a miracle, and they found healing among people who had been in the same situation. Anything from havin...

WendyP · WendyP

Thank You Paul for your sharing, I always look at God's Timing, and it is once again "spot on" for me. As I was only thinking to myself the other day, after I was talking to my God, with my Prayer List,[ which is becoming longer and longer], especially the my Family members, and the other people who I care ab...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Before Al-Anon, life was like stumbling around in a dark room. Al-Anon gave me the power to turn the light on and to see clearly the difficulties and the good. ------------ Today's reading was short, though not as short as I have suggested above. I am currently in the grips of a family crisis and I cannot...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today reading tells the story of an Alanon member's growing up years with an alcoholic parent. The parent spoke directly to them through their alcoholism making what the alcoholic believed to be negative statements about the child and the child's future. The Alanon member wanted...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Words can become familiar and routine to us rather than significant and meaningful, even the Serenity Prayer, one of the most powerful Alanon tools.This writer suggests giving attention and thought to the words as we say them to increase our understanding and ability recognize the difference and...

Lyne · Lyne

(Sorry for such an early posting for tomorrow.) The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, sh...

JerryF · JerryF

I am reminded this morning of the many tools I have from our program as my wife hands me the current FORUM monthly magazine. I am amazed and grateful for this tool when I sit down avoiding what might be distracting me and getting to the shares in this little monthly. I am not finished with this issue bec...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about accepting that we cannot force solutions or make changes to anyone other than ourselves. The writer describes what it looks like when a young child is trying to do a puzzle; if the piece doesnt fit they try to force it anyway, pushing with all their might...

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	11/16/21 One Day at a Time - It’s Easy, Just Detach…right? (Preview) No...says today's contributor, not in the midst of trying times and circumstances and pressure of making decisions. No time to slip away to read a favorite Alanon chapter or attend a meeting, it is helpful to develop a quick, powerful resource we consistently draw upon to assist us. Perhaps, then, c...	Enigmatic	5	2518	Nov 17, 2021 by bud
	ODAT in alanon, 11/15, truths we tend to forget (Preview) This reading looks at why we forget certain ideas or truths even though we are often reminded in meetings, for example: alcoholism is a disease, the alcoholic has an illness, and we should not punish people for being sick. Real acceptance is difficult, and our immediate attitude toward the alcoho...	Lyne	3	2419	Nov 15, 2021 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Nov 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about working through anger and the help that the 12 steps provide. The writer describes what she did in order to overcome her anger toward her mother. She decided to work through the steps and as is the practice in alanon, kept the focus on herself and the cha...	yanksfan51	2	1828	Nov 14, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C 13th November - First Things First (Preview) In today's reading, the author talks about things being urgent, but rarely important and things that are important being rarely urgent, which feeds into a cycle of getting caught up in trivia which appears urgent, but then not having the time for the more important stuff. In essence, "First things...	Bettertomorrow	3	503	Nov 14, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today - November 12 - Serenity (Preview) Today's author used to lose their serenity all the time, reacting to things other people said or did, and could only find relief by hiding away in the bedroom. But now, having learned to use Al-Anon tools like slogans, trusting in a higher power, prayer/meditation, focusing on self-care, and findin...	Freetime	5	2297	Nov 12, 2021 by Freetime
	Miracles in Progress Nov. 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! AL-Anon reminds today's author that they can only deal with one day at a time. Thanks to this reminder, they are able to be more realistic about what they can do to improve their situation. Thanks to this focus on one day at a time, the author is freed from a constant sense of urgency. No probl...	Skorpi	2	2403	Nov 11, 2021 by Lyne
	I can see clearly now (Preview) An interesting think is going on in my marriage. My A is in a different 12-step program. Progress is being made with her awareness level of when her behavior is off. Sometimes it is after the fact but at least its seen in retrospect. But we have had two very difficult weeks, with some resolve this mor...	Lyne	1	1662	Nov 10, 2021 by DM2021
	11/9/21 C2C Moving Beyond Survival (Preview) Today's author notes that our incredible human adaptability used to navigate difficulties early in our experience may be drawn upon even after we learn it is harmful to ourselves and others.Persistent use of one of these adaptations, manipulation, can leave rust on more effective, direct approa...	Enigmatic	2	3000	Nov 9, 2021 by Lyne
	Nov. 4, ODAT - Discontent (Preview) The main reason for our unhappiness may be our dissatisfaction with what we have, how we live, and the way we perceive others' actions. We should seek contentment from within. If this self-searching reveals only that we don't yet have what we feel we deserve, we should look for ways to acknowledge and...	Bbrave	3	2723	Nov 8, 2021 by JerryF
	ODAT, Monday, 11/8, self-love vs love of self (Preview) This reading describes what healthy love is and is not. Self-love can be the source of hostility, arrogance, a big ego, narrow mindedness, and closed to feeling for others. Love of self: love thy neighbor as thyself. We can love and help others when we are at peace with ourselves. False humility...	Lyne	3	2060	Nov 8, 2021 by JerryF
	Hope for today nov 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the practice some of us have of doing the same thing over and over again and somehow expecting different results. The writer describes reacting to different situations in an impulsive way, eventually noticing that it was habitual and not founded in t...	yanksfan51	4	3099	Nov 7, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	info needed please (Preview) Good morning MIP. A person from my home group would like to join our message board. I don't know how to tell her to do this. I tried to help her sign up a few years ago and she was not successful. Can anyone tell me so I can help her join? Thanks so much, Lyne	Lyne	2	2309	Nov 7, 2021 by Lyne
	November 5 - ODAT - Similarities not Differences (Preview) Today's reading in ODAT is a story about a Very Nice Girl who was reluctant to go to Al-Anon because felt she was "above" the sort of people who went there, and was ashamed that there was an alcoholic in her family. Once she was persuaded to go, she felt "above" other members whose speech or education was...	Freetime	3	2226	Nov 5, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change November 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how good it feels for many new-comers to find a safe place to share openly about their lives and experiences in the Al-Anon meetings. It can feel very good to share something and see people nodding, or have people come up after the meeting and share thei...	Skorpi	3	2541	Nov 4, 2021 by Lyne
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 11/1, erratic behavior (Preview) This writer talks about the special problems one can have living with an alcoholic: erratic behavior, social embarrassment, and other minor or major problems. In alanon, the non-alcoholic can find peace of mind. We are again reminded not to try and be helpful by giving advice, nor making judgeme...	Lyne	7	526	Nov 4, 2021 by Lyne
	11/2/21 Role Play – Not if…Which, When, Why? (Preview) Who do we show ourselves to be in public, work, home asked a member...Does the alcoholic get the same happy face we take to Alanon meetings, our boss, fellow workers? Reminder: Honestly compare the roles we play in different life arenas. Do strangers and those we seek to impress receive better treatm...	Enigmatic	2	1947	Nov 2, 2021 by DM2021
	SATURDAYS Hope for Today (service) (Preview) Hi Everyone, I made a 3 month commitment to post the daily reading from Hope for Today on Saturdays. That commitment has come to an end. I enjoyed it and thank you for your trust in me to perform this service for our Alanon family. Thank you for your shares on the Hope for Today topics! If another member wou...	tiredtonite	2	1515	Nov 1, 2021 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Oct 31 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the destructive nature in judging others. The writer describes having grown up in a family that communicated through teasing, criticism and jabs at one another. The writer developed a defense mechanism of sarcasm and ridiculing others. In general,...	yanksfan51	2	1850	Oct 31, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	30th October C2C - Grateful to be involved with an alcoholic (Preview) Today's author talks about being shocked that when they were a newcomer to Al-Anon, they heard people saying that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. They couldn't believe these people had anything to be grateful for, yet them seemed happy despite their problems - which sounded ex...	Bettertomorrow	4	579	Oct 31, 2021 by Freetime
	October 29 - ODAT - Pause (Preview) Today's reading is about how we make choices and decisions. Forethought -- including kindness toward other people affected by the decision -- will result in decisions we can live with comfortably. If we are feeling angry or agitated, it is wise to wait until the feeling has subsided so that we can ca...	Freetime	3	804	Oct 31, 2021 by Enigmatic
	OCTOBER 30TH HOPE FOR TODAY - TRUST (Preview) Today's reading focuses on Alanon's Step 2 - Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Alanon member in this reading goes for a walk with their sponsor before an Alanon meeting to discuss their understanding of this step. They tell their sponsor that they know...	tiredtonite	2	1670	Oct 30, 2021 by Freetime
	Oct. 28, ODAT - Poor Me! (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that when we are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes giving in to a poor me attitude, and try to change our thinking about it all, we may not have the success expected. We should concentrate solely on the day in front of us. TODAY'S REMINDER: This day is mine. It is unique. The choi...	Bbrave	3	1486	Oct 28, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change October 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a concern they had about the love of their Higher Power. They feared that there was not enough love and guidance to go around. One day at the beach, the author noticed that no mater how many people there were, there was enough sun for everyone to enjoy. Th...	Skorpi	3	1780	Oct 27, 2021 by Daffodils
	Courage To Change Oct, 27th. (Preview) Hi, on reading this reading, the person says that there was enough of God's love and guidance to go around to everyone, especially to the ones who seek it. They went on to say that theirs was tested one night when someone else in the Meeting spoke about their Higher Power with intensity, personal love th...	WendyP	2	1533	Oct 27, 2021 by DM2021
	10/26/21 ODAT The Insanity of our Magic Problem Magnifier (Preview) Step 1, admitting we are powerless is often thought of as the most challenging, but today's writer suggests Step 2's part-time sanity acknowledgement gets Honorable Mention.We can turn simple issues into 7-magnitude quakes and lose perspective completely, as if we would do better with more worr...	Enigmatic	3	1333	Oct 26, 2021 by Daffodils
	Today’s fall colors (Preview) I saw some leaves today that are more like the October foliage Im used to! Enjoy	yanksfan51	4	1832	Oct 25, 2021 by WendyP
	ODAT in alanon, 10/25, alanon’s secret (Preview) The writer says that alanon brings about changes in peoples lives because it has a secret: it is built on the fundamental ethical philosophy which has been around for ages. It is stated in widely different books including the Bible and fables of Aesop and it is about dealing gently with our fellowme...	Lyne	3	963	Oct 25, 2021 by JerryF
	23rd Oct C2C (Preview) Today's author talks about being sure that the nightmare would be over once the alcoholic they loved got sober. But without the tranquilising effect of alcohol, she became verbally abusive. She accused, attacked, insulted and the author always defended themself. It seemed crucial that the AP u...	Bettertomorrow	4	524	Oct 25, 2021 by JerryF
	Oct 24 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading deals with the interpretation of some words and phrases from the program and how our understanding might evolve over the years. The writer describes hearing defects of character and shortcomings from steps 6 and 7; the writer heard these words as ways that he/...	yanksfan51	3	779	Oct 24, 2021 by DM2021
	October 23 Hope for Today - Higher Power (Preview) Today's Hope for Today tells of the experience of a newcomer to Alanon who learns that in Alanon one's higher power need not be defined by past understanding of a higher power. In Alanon, members learn that they have choices. Each individual in the program can embrace a higher power of their choosing...	tiredtonite	2	1997	Oct 23, 2021 by Freetime
	Courage to Change October 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on precious moments. As a child, the author would spend lengthy amounts of time watching a caterpillar crawl, just in case it were to do something spectacular. The caterpillar never did, however the author didn't mind because simply watching the...	Skorpi	2	1848	Oct 23, 2021 by Lyne
	October 22 - ODAT - Self-Understanding (Preview) Today's writer shares that as we work the Al-Anon program to improve our peace of mind, we make an effort to understand our own drives and motivations, and to correct those that are hampering us. If we have the courage to face the emotions and behaviors that are hampering us, and we can do it without lett...	Freetime	3	722	Oct 22, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct. 21, ODAT - MY inventory (Preview) Today's reading warns us not to take anyone's inventory but our own. Though we may feel our troubles are caused by the alcoholic and we want to justify our actions and deny fault, we should take a closer look at how we handle things. We may see that we could have reacted differently, and may, in fact, have...	Bbrave	3	786	Oct 21, 2021 by Freetime
	I need so support (Preview) Hi I am asking for some support, as I have recently found that Alcoholism has raised it's ugly head in one of my beloved Family members, and I am feeling the effects of it all. It doesn't matter how long I have been in Al-Anon and working my program, it still hurts, a lot, and I find because I have the knowle...	WendyP	6	2032	Oct 21, 2021 by WendyP
	distance bringing more clarity ... recognizing insanity was so hard in the moment but easier now (Preview) Recently some friends alerted me to social media post my ex had made; they were concerned that he was becoming unhinged and wanted to know if I knew that. Curiosity got the better of me so I went back to his FB page. He had made a number of long posts taking potshots at me and "everyone who had abandoned him f...	Fedora	6	533	Oct 20, 2021 by JerryF
	New England foliage (Preview) This is for PNP and anyone else who isnt able to see changing leaves in person. Not the greatest pic But a tree right outside of my classroom. Happy fall, Everyone! Mary	yanksfan51	4	415	Oct 19, 2021 by Daffodils
	10/19 ODAT Don’t Fight the Windmills (Preview) Today's contributor points to the classic Don Quixote tale of errantly directed effort. Self proclaiming as a hero, he mistakes windmills for threatening giants and exhausts himself in the futile attempt to slay them.We, too, can pick fights with imaginary, or undefeatable targets.Reminder - D...	Enigmatic	1	507	Oct 19, 2021 by DM2021
	Grieving for what is lost (Preview) Dear fellow MIP friends, I am struggling emotionally. My AH and I separated two months ago and I am now living on my own with my four wonderful children. The challenge is that I know 'logically' we are in the right place and I have made the right decision, but I am not feeling it. I still feel profoundly s...	Bettertomorrow	6	885	Oct 18, 2021 by bud
	C2C, Monday, 10/18, have I forgotten what I learned? (Preview) The writer brings up the idea that sometimes it feels as though they have forgotten what they learned in program. For example if they havent practiced detachment for quite a while, it can feel as though they forgot what they knew. Its not that they have forgotten. The situation may be the same, but w...	Lyne	3	2617	Oct 18, 2021 by bud
	October 15 - ODAT - Judgment and Control (Preview) Today's reading points out that newcomers to Al-Anon are often distraught, overwhelmed, and doing all the things we in the program have learned not to do -- manipulating, complaining, trying to outwit the alcoholic, etc. But we need to remember not to judge the newcomers or try to force decisions on...	Freetime	2	2747	Oct 18, 2021 by DM2021
	October 16 Hope for Today (Preview) Today's reading tells a story of a couple of ducks who are separated from others by a patch of ice on a frozen lake and their struggle to join others. The larger group of ducks had busily swam and reached a large open area of water. One of the two isolated ducks tried to scramble over the patch of ice that sep...	tiredtonite	3	473	Oct 18, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to separate the alcoholism from the person in our lives. In my case, I should say for so much of the time- the inability to separate the alcoholism from the person. The writer describes a perception she had of her alcoholic father that reduce...	yanksfan51	3	2273	Oct 17, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C - self care 16th October (posted by mistake in the forum) (Preview) Sorry - I posted this by accident in the forum - so am reposting here.Today's reading talks about the importance of self care. The author talks about facing a stressful situation or tackling a tough problem and once they have done everything they can for the moment, they instead do something that wil...	Bettertomorrow	2	2155	Oct 17, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct. 14, ODAT - Getting what we want (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run. TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more gene...	Bbrave	2	2770	Oct 14, 2021 by DM2021
	Thursdays - ODAT (Preview) Hi Everyone, My schedule has suddenly got crazy busy. Is anyone willing to take over Thursdays One Day At a Time posts?	Bbrave	0	1798	Oct 13, 2021 by Bbrave
	Courage to Change October 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meeting opened their eyes to something they had not considered before: shouting and slamming doors might not be the best way to handle an already difficult situation. Loud and angry actions demonstrated the author's frustration and p...	Skorpi	2	1738	Oct 13, 2021 by Daffodils
	October 9 Hope for Today - Facing the Past (Preview) Today's Hope for Today falls under the topic "Facing the Past," in our reader. The reading speaks about fear of confrontation. It talks about the before recovery experiences of an Alanon member who was raised in a home with alcoholism. It then tells of the positive changes the member made as a result f...	tiredtonite	2	2666	Oct 13, 2021 by Lyne
	10/12/21 C2C Wear Sunscreen so I Don’t Get Sunburned (Preview) Today's contributor discussed the negative impact of 'needing' a partner to change in order to find contentment. This and other concepts became part of the unlearning that is a valuable part of Alanon recovery.Willingness and ability to adapt to what is while sourcing our contentment from an inne...	Enigmatic	4	2337	Oct 13, 2021 by Enigmatic
	ODAT in alanon, 10/11, managing others (Preview) The reading for Monday speaks to the times when we wish to manage others: directing, admonishing, dont wear that, time for church, dont take the car, and on and on. This kind of attitude deprives others from their freedom of choice and dignity. Under the guise of doing good, we can act like a mother t...	Lyne	2	1733	Oct 11, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Oct 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about step one; its about recognizing and accepting powerlessness and about recognizing when life has become unmanageable. The writer describes step one by acknowledging that sometimes it is helpful to try and see the unmanageable part before acceptin...	yanksfan51	4	2158	Oct 11, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct 9th C2C - Powerlessness and letting go (Preview) Today's author talks about originally viewing God as their adversary and engaging in a battle of wills, which rapidly led them to an emotional rock bottom. They came to Al-Anon but were reluctant to admit they were powerless. Eventually, with Al-Anon's help they learned how to surrender and final...	Bettertomorrow	3	2310	Oct 10, 2021 by JerryF
	It has been a year(september 30th) (Preview) It has been a whole year since my mom died. I am feeling the after effects of visiting my mom's grave twice in one week. I am not particularly sad at the moment. I am just tired. I guess that is par for the course after dealing so much w/ grief. I am so glad that I can honor her once a year. Our service for my siste...	Hoot Nanny	3	1919	Oct 9, 2021 by DM2021
	October 8 - C2C - Miracles (Preview) Today's writer shares that they are aware of miracles happening in their life -- and it is gratitude that makes it possible to see those miracles. Being guided to Al-Anon when they felt hopeless was a miracle, and they found healing among people who had been in the same situation. Anything from havin...	Freetime	2	1759	Oct 9, 2021 by DM2021
	Visiting the Power Of the Serenity Prayer again. (Preview) Thank You Paul for your sharing, I always look at God's Timing, and it is once again "spot on" for me. As I was only thinking to myself the other day, after I was talking to my God, with my Prayer List,[ which is becoming longer and longer], especially the my Family members, and the other people who I care ab...	WendyP	1	2319	Oct 8, 2021 by WendyP
	Oct. 7, ODAT - Let there be light (Preview) Before Al-Anon, life was like stumbling around in a dark room. Al-Anon gave me the power to turn the light on and to see clearly the difficulties and the good. ------------ Today's reading was short, though not as short as I have suggested above. I am currently in the grips of a family crisis and I cannot...	Bbrave	3	2595	Oct 7, 2021 by JerryF
	October 2nd Hope for Today From Fear of Failure to Courage (Preview) Today's Hope for Today reading tells the story of an Alanon member's growing up years with an alcoholic parent. The parent spoke directly to them through their alcoholism making what the alcoholic believed to be negative statements about the child and the child's future. The Alanon member wanted...	tiredtonite	3	2004	Oct 6, 2021 by Lyne
	10/5/21 ODAT – Power of the Serenity Prayer (Preview) Words can become familiar and routine to us rather than significant and meaningful, even the Serenity Prayer, one of the most powerful Alanon tools.This writer suggests giving attention and thought to the words as we say them to increase our understanding and ability recognize the difference and...	Enigmatic	4	3471	Oct 5, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C, Monday, 10/4, I am not alone (Preview) (Sorry for such an early posting for tomorrow.) The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, sh...	Lyne	4	1761	Oct 5, 2021 by Freetime
	And then there is literature... (Preview) I am reminded this morning of the many tools I have from our program as my wife hands me the current FORUM monthly magazine. I am amazed and grateful for this tool when I sit down avoiding what might be distracting me and getting to the shares in this little monthly. I am not finished with this issue bec...	JerryF	2	2268	Oct 4, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about accepting that we cannot force solutions or make changes to anyone other than ourselves. The writer describes what it looks like when a young child is trying to do a puzzle; if the piece doesnt fit they try to force it anyway, pushing with all their might...	yanksfan51	3	1625	Oct 3, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
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