Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

flower19 · flower19

In an Alanon Group is this acceptable? Calling you out in front of everyone in a public restaurant and other group members. Than making you apologize just because you left abruptly because you didnt want to argue or fight because you were above all humilated. They say she isnt talking to us like tha...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers the work of steps 8 & 9 as we list those we have harmed...and reminds not to forget to include ourselves. We cannot, nor should not focus our efforts on saving or changing others. In Alanon we learn to turn our focus and efforts toward restoring the damage within ourselves. T...

Iamhere · Iamhere

MIP family - I am 'home' - my house, my couch, my food and soon - my bed with my pillow and blanket. I am a very tired gal who's body clock is a bit screwed up because of different time zones, yet am playing catch up 'here'. I left my home 2 weeks ago today and drove for 18 hours (stopped, for the first time @ a h...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello! I came by to wish everyone a peaceful holiday season. This is my first holiday season as a Former spouse of an alcoholic and I am feeling the great pleasure and luxury of a life that is not driven by the need to fix/control/accommodate the Q in my life. As I type this, I'm getting ready for bed after...

NewGirl1717 · NewGirl1717

Hi I'm new to all this. I found this forum through Google. I have not been to a meeting yet. I'm hoping to go in the next couple of weeks. I am living with my alcoholic boyfriend of 5 years. The first year was good but it has been downward spiraling since. He drinks from the moment he wakes up to the moment he go...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading discusses the purpose of alanon, (to help families and friends of alcoholics), but how is this actually done? We are reminded to practice the 12 Steps, to learn to love ourselves, attend to our own spiritual needs, and then it is possible for others to see something special in us. Next is...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

My Ex and I have limited contact. Text only. The first year of separation and then as the divorce went through, I tried to be the best "Ex spouse" I could be. Many times doing things that ended up hurting me - b/c I didn't want my kid's dad to relapse and I wanted my kid to learn that these things could be amica...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how al-anon is a focus on ourselves, not the alcoholic(s) in our lives or anyone else. For many of us, it takes a while to understand that we have the ability to redirect the focus and energy on other people on ourselves instead. Like the writer, I rememb...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change discusses the suggestion that we pray for those we have resented. The author found this difficult at first, but eventually learned to stop praying that other people would change, and instead pray that the other person be given the serenity, love, and joy that w...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on Step 3 - turning my life over to the care of a Higher Power. At first, the author was confused - how could they do this? The author's need for control made the thought of turning their life over to the care of a Higher Power very scary. The author wasn'...

Newlifegirl67 · Newlifegirl67

Hi. it feels good to be back. it.s been many years since I was here. I feel very vulnerable spilling my guts here because i feel new. But i desperately need support and encouragement if possible. I left my alcoholic husband in 2015. We have been divorced since 2016. I am very angry at myself for being ign...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers types of loss, including the contributor's paralyzing loss of someone close. Lessons learned: Our powerlessness does not make exceptions for us, nor does the power of restoration promised us through a power greater than ourselves...we can overcome anything.Reminder: N...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday 12/13, describes riding a bicycle as helping one feel alive and in balance. The ride on a bike can bring vitality into each day, the same way applying live and let live can. The author tries to embrace whatever life brings, sorrow and joy. If you live your own life to the fullest...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change describes how doing a Fourth Step inventory helped someone discover who they truly are, and to decide what behaviors they want to keep or to change. Previously, they did not know their own wants and needs, and could not distinguish between acceptable and unac...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how living with alcoholism can make it difficult or even impossible to see the person rather than the disease. Not only can we become so focused on the alcoholism that we no longer see the person, we can easily lose sight of who we are (as our mission become...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's reading concerns wishing for happiness. In our modern, consumer society we associate money with happiness. We know this is not true, money cannot remove the effects alcoholism has on individuals and families. Serenity is free of charge at Al Anon meetings, but cannot be bought with mone...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author reflects on how alcohol-related troubles can be like an avalanche. A mound of snow cannot grow indefinitely taller without falling down. Similarly, an alcoholic's mountain of troubles will eventually come crashing down. Through Al-Anon, the author learne...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

'Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they, too, have their story.'Whether this passage is fro...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/6, talks about discovering that they have anger towards the alcoholic. At first the writer felt more whole and powerful, but it was not expressed in a healthy way. Alanon helped the author focus on themself, look for their part, and accept being powerless. The writer le...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how our perception of things can be distorted and make it difficult for us to see and appreciate our spiritual gifts. The writer describes a situation as a young parent when she took the time to pick out what she believed were the exact type of carrots he...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Hi. Bernie here. Just poking my head in the door. Wanted to say hello to all. Hope you are all safe and well. We're all good here. Nancy and I are both retired now. It's time. I'm experiencing some physical pain because of a problem with my leg but it's being treated so I try to take that a day at a time. As man...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hey folks, Mel (Melly) Here. I little while back I posted something I was writing that contained mentions of my al-anon experiences. At the time it was just a draft and I had included the first name of a member. The immediate feedback was "Hello, Mel, al-ANON" and I felt ashamed of the careless way I had...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change shares several members' descriptions of how they meditate. One quietly repeats the Serenity Prayer, others concentrate on their breathing or watch their thoughts passing by, and another visualizes placing all their worries, problems, joy, gratitude, and...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon was the first place they were invited back to after sharing their woes. The author had been desperate and close to committing suicide due to the alcoholism in their home, so when they were asked to make coffee at an Al-Anon meeting they fou...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A learning opportunity presents itself when we interact with others.As we observe behavior we like and dislike in others, it may help us consider and refine our own.We may consider the emotion and reaction these elicit within us that may reveal an opportunity for healing and growth...perhaps we ma...

Lyne · Lyne

The author says what they thought being an adult was: being in control, being cool, and looking good on the outside and cut off from the inside. It also meant doing for others until they dropped. Alanon has taught this writer a new way of living: giving up control, admitting they were powerless, re...

Lyne · Lyne

My grown son is one of the most precious blessings in my life. Over time we have had many conflicts which we always get past. Another one occurred Friday night, details unimportant. My A looks for opportunities to put him down, as they have been estranged for nearly 5 yrs. What I did, instead of gett...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about resentments that may be a result of growing up/living in an alcoholic home and how we might address them in order to live a more positive and serene life. The writer describes anger toward his/her parents that was difficult to express; instead it was ta...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So today I am going to pick up my heavy coat over 60 miles away. Talk about anxiety! The story goes: I went to see a movie up north. We don't have a theater close by. Anyhow it gets better. I left my coat in the theater. Bear w me. I got a brainstorm! I called the nearest grocery store to see if someone could by &a...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello, MIP friends, and happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate -- and to everyone, I hope you find something to be grateful for today. I am posting the Friday share early. I usually post on Thursday night, but tonight I expect to be busy doing the dishes and cleaning up after a wonderful feast cooke...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Since this stuff started with my now adult Son about 18 years ago (initially meth addiction, joined by alcohol problems soon after, and recently mental health issues), it takes very little and sometimes nothing at all for my mind to spin up a scary story about all the terrible things that are probably...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! It is after midnight here and I'm at the emergency vet with a dog in need of stitches, so i thought it was a good time to post today's share. I'm using today's hope from nov. 23. The author shares how impactful it is for them to keep a daily inventory in writing. They reflect on 10 things they a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This contributor tried this 'just for today: do not be afraid of anything', actively addressed lingering dread to expose their imaginative basis, and let previous days' troubles expire...Why? God is driving the bus, let him...accept the guidance and protection...What was left over? A shiny new...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, it's WendyP, just wanted to share about my recent journey, when I couldn't get online to the MIP program. After trying and trying, and not getting anywhere, and with nothing that I tried, I really thought that I had lost it, and started to think of what it would be like for me to have to work my program,...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading implies that recovery means we are trying to regain something we lost. Living with active drinkers can cause a loss of spirit. Life is survival, a daily challenge, and hard work. The writer says that nothing helped when they were trying to do it by themself. Alanon helps us come to kno...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the steps and how they can help us take action in our lives. The writer describes step 5 and its suggestion for giving an order to our actions. Steps 1-3 help us build a relationship with the God of our understanding. We then work at becoming at peace w...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about alcoholism breaking their spirit before they found Al-Anon. Al-Anon gives a fellowship, a Sponsor, Twelve Steps and Traditions that allow them to heal their broken spirit. They share that their healing started when they quit fighting the God of other people's underst...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in ODAT is told by a member who worked hard during their first year in Al-Anon to learn and practice the skills for being in a relationship with an alcoholic -- avoiding quarrels, not nagging or scolding, releasing resentments. Their relationship improved, but still there was an un...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

No...says today's contributor, not in the midst of trying times and circumstances and pressure of making decisions. No time to slip away to read a favorite Alanon chapter or attend a meeting, it is helpful to develop a quick, powerful resource we consistently draw upon to assist us. Perhaps, then, c...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading looks at why we forget certain ideas or truths even though we are often reminded in meetings, for example: alcoholism is a disease, the alcoholic has an illness, and we should not punish people for being sick. Real acceptance is difficult, and our immediate attitude toward the alcoho...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about working through anger and the help that the 12 steps provide. The writer describes what she did in order to overcome her anger toward her mother. She decided to work through the steps and as is the practice in alanon, kept the focus on herself and the cha...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

In today's reading, the author talks about things being urgent, but rarely important and things that are important being rarely urgent, which feeds into a cycle of getting caught up in trivia which appears urgent, but then not having the time for the more important stuff. In essence, "First things...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author used to lose their serenity all the time, reacting to things other people said or did, and could only find relief by hiding away in the bedroom. But now, having learned to use Al-Anon tools like slogans, trusting in a higher power, prayer/meditation, focusing on self-care, and findin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! AL-Anon reminds today's author that they can only deal with one day at a time. Thanks to this reminder, they are able to be more realistic about what they can do to improve their situation. Thanks to this focus on one day at a time, the author is freed from a constant sense of urgency. No probl...

Lyne · Lyne

An interesting think is going on in my marriage. My A is in a different 12-step program. Progress is being made with her awareness level of when her behavior is off. Sometimes it is after the fact but at least its seen in retrospect. But we have had two very difficult weeks, with some resolve this mor...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author notes that our incredible human adaptability used to navigate difficulties early in our experience may be drawn upon even after we learn it is harmful to ourselves and others.Persistent use of one of these adaptations, manipulation, can leave rust on more effective, direct approa...

Bbrave · Bbrave

The main reason for our unhappiness may be our dissatisfaction with what we have, how we live, and the way we perceive others' actions. We should seek contentment from within. If this self-searching reveals only that we don't yet have what we feel we deserve, we should look for ways to acknowledge and...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading describes what healthy love is and is not. Self-love can be the source of hostility, arrogance, a big ego, narrow mindedness, and closed to feeling for others. Love of self: love thy neighbor as thyself. We can love and help others when we are at peace with ourselves. False humility...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the practice some of us have of doing the same thing over and over again and somehow expecting different results. The writer describes reacting to different situations in an impulsive way, eventually noticing that it was habitual and not founded in t...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. A person from my home group would like to join our message board. I don't know how to tell her to do this. I tried to help her sign up a few years ago and she was not successful. Can anyone tell me so I can help her join? Thanks so much, Lyne

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in ODAT is a story about a Very Nice Girl who was reluctant to go to Al-Anon because felt she was "above" the sort of people who went there, and was ashamed that there was an alcoholic in her family. Once she was persuaded to go, she felt "above" other members whose speech or education was...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how good it feels for many new-comers to find a safe place to share openly about their lives and experiences in the Al-Anon meetings. It can feel very good to share something and see people nodding, or have people come up after the meeting and share thei...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer talks about the special problems one can have living with an alcoholic: erratic behavior, social embarrassment, and other minor or major problems. In alanon, the non-alcoholic can find peace of mind. We are again reminded not to try and be helpful by giving advice, nor making judgeme...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Who do we show ourselves to be in public, work, home asked a member...Does the alcoholic get the same happy face we take to Alanon meetings, our boss, fellow workers? Reminder: Honestly compare the roles we play in different life arenas. Do strangers and those we seek to impress receive better treatm...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, I made a 3 month commitment to post the daily reading from Hope for Today on Saturdays. That commitment has come to an end. I enjoyed it and thank you for your trust in me to perform this service for our Alanon family. Thank you for your shares on the Hope for Today topics! If another member wou...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the destructive nature in judging others. The writer describes having grown up in a family that communicated through teasing, criticism and jabs at one another. The writer developed a defense mechanism of sarcasm and ridiculing others. In general,...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about being shocked that when they were a newcomer to Al-Anon, they heard people saying that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. They couldn't believe these people had anything to be grateful for, yet them seemed happy despite their problems - which sounded ex...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about how we make choices and decisions. Forethought -- including kindness toward other people affected by the decision -- will result in decisions we can live with comfortably. If we are feeling angry or agitated, it is wise to wait until the feeling has subsided so that we can ca...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading focuses on Alanon's Step 2 - Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Alanon member in this reading goes for a walk with their sponsor before an Alanon meeting to discuss their understanding of this step. They tell their sponsor that they know...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading reminds us that when we are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes giving in to a poor me attitude, and try to change our thinking about it all, we may not have the success expected. We should concentrate solely on the day in front of us. TODAY'S REMINDER: This day is mine. It is unique. The choi...

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	I had to leave (Preview) In an Alanon Group is this acceptable? Calling you out in front of everyone in a public restaurant and other group members. Than making you apologize just because you left abruptly because you didnt want to argue or fight because you were above all humilated. They say she isnt talking to us like tha...	flower19	3	853	Dec 22, 2021 by JerryF
	12/21/21 C2C People We Have Harmed… (Preview) Today's page considers the work of steps 8 & 9 as we list those we have harmed...and reminds not to forget to include ourselves. We cannot, nor should not focus our efforts on saving or changing others. In Alanon we learn to turn our focus and efforts toward restoring the damage within ourselves. T...	Enigmatic	2	702	Dec 21, 2021 by DM2021
	I'm Home (Preview) MIP family - I am 'home' - my house, my couch, my food and soon - my bed with my pillow and blanket. I am a very tired gal who's body clock is a bit screwed up because of different time zones, yet am playing catch up 'here'. I left my home 2 weeks ago today and drove for 18 hours (stopped, for the first time @ a h...	Iamhere	27	3687	Dec 21, 2021 by Enigmatic
	A wish for peace for everyone! (Preview) Hello! I came by to wish everyone a peaceful holiday season. This is my first holiday season as a Former spouse of an alcoholic and I am feeling the great pleasure and luxury of a life that is not driven by the need to fix/control/accommodate the Q in my life. As I type this, I'm getting ready for bed after...	Fedora	5	1092	Dec 21, 2021 by Enigmatic
	New (Preview) Hi I'm new to all this. I found this forum through Google. I have not been to a meeting yet. I'm hoping to go in the next couple of weeks. I am living with my alcoholic boyfriend of 5 years. The first year was good but it has been downward spiraling since. He drinks from the moment he wakes up to the moment he go...	NewGirl1717	4	1750	Dec 21, 2021 by Enigmatic
	C2C, 12/20, How do we really help? (Preview) This reading discusses the purpose of alanon, (to help families and friends of alcoholics), but how is this actually done? We are reminded to practice the 12 Steps, to learn to love ourselves, attend to our own spiritual needs, and then it is possible for others to see something special in us. Next is...	Lyne	3	858	Dec 20, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Need a little "real time" help (Preview) My Ex and I have limited contact. Text only. The first year of separation and then as the divorce went through, I tried to be the best "Ex spouse" I could be. Many times doing things that ended up hurting me - b/c I didn't want my kid's dad to relapse and I wanted my kid to learn that these things could be amica...	PosiesandPuppies	5	1037	Dec 20, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Dec 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how al-anon is a focus on ourselves, not the alcoholic(s) in our lives or anyone else. For many of us, it takes a while to understand that we have the ability to redirect the focus and energy on other people on ourselves instead. Like the writer, I rememb...	yanksfan51	2	695	Dec 19, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	December 17 - C2C - Bless Them, Change Me (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change discusses the suggestion that we pray for those we have resented. The author found this difficult at first, but eventually learned to stop praying that other people would change, and instead pray that the other person be given the serenity, love, and joy that w...	Freetime	3	1817	Dec 18, 2021 by Lyne
	Courage to Change December 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on Step 3 - turning my life over to the care of a Higher Power. At first, the author was confused - how could they do this? The author's need for control made the thought of turning their life over to the care of a Higher Power very scary. The author wasn'...	Skorpi	3	3019	Dec 16, 2021 by DM2021
	I desperately need help from people here who understand... (Preview) Hi. it feels good to be back. it.s been many years since I was here. I feel very vulnerable spilling my guts here because i feel new. But i desperately need support and encouragement if possible. I left my alcoholic husband in 2015. We have been divorced since 2016. I am very angry at myself for being ign...	Newlifegirl67	8	4099	Dec 14, 2021 by Jill
	12/14/21 ODAT – Powerlessness, Restoration: No Limits… (Preview) Today's page considers types of loss, including the contributor's paralyzing loss of someone close. Lessons learned: Our powerlessness does not make exceptions for us, nor does the power of restoration promised us through a power greater than ourselves...we can overcome anything.Reminder: N...	Enigmatic	2	2780	Dec 14, 2021 by Lyne
	C2C, 12/13, Live and let live (Preview) The reading for Monday 12/13, describes riding a bicycle as helping one feel alive and in balance. The ride on a bike can bring vitality into each day, the same way applying live and let live can. The author tries to embrace whatever life brings, sorrow and joy. If you live your own life to the fullest...	Lyne	3	2076	Dec 14, 2021 by DM2021
	December 10 - C2C - Knowing Myself (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change describes how doing a Fourth Step inventory helped someone discover who they truly are, and to decide what behaviors they want to keep or to change. Previously, they did not know their own wants and needs, and could not distinguish between acceptable and unac...	Freetime	7	3269	Dec 13, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how living with alcoholism can make it difficult or even impossible to see the person rather than the disease. Not only can we become so focused on the alcoholism that we no longer see the person, we can easily lose sight of who we are (as our mission become...	yanksfan51	3	1841	Dec 12, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C December 11th (Preview) Today's reading concerns wishing for happiness. In our modern, consumer society we associate money with happiness. We know this is not true, money cannot remove the effects alcoholism has on individuals and families. Serenity is free of charge at Al Anon meetings, but cannot be bought with mone...	Bettertomorrow	2	2043	Dec 11, 2021 by DM2021
	Courage to Change December 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author reflects on how alcohol-related troubles can be like an avalanche. A mound of snow cannot grow indefinitely taller without falling down. Similarly, an alcoholic's mountain of troubles will eventually come crashing down. Through Al-Anon, the author learne...	Skorpi	4	3771	Dec 9, 2021 by Lyne
	12/7/21 ODAT - A Good Place to Start... (Preview) 'Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they, too, have their story.'Whether this passage is fro...	Enigmatic	5	3079	Dec 7, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C, 12/6, anger (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/6, talks about discovering that they have anger towards the alcoholic. At first the writer felt more whole and powerful, but it was not expressed in a healthy way. Alanon helped the author focus on themself, look for their part, and accept being powerless. The writer le...	Lyne	3	2764	Dec 6, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how our perception of things can be distorted and make it difficult for us to see and appreciate our spiritual gifts. The writer describes a situation as a young parent when she took the time to pick out what she believed were the exact type of carrots he...	yanksfan51	3	3652	Dec 5, 2021 by Daffodils
	Poking My head in the door (Preview) Hi. Bernie here. Just poking my head in the door. Wanted to say hello to all. Hope you are all safe and well. We're all good here. Nancy and I are both retired now. It's time. I'm experiencing some physical pain because of a problem with my leg but it's being treated so I try to take that a day at a time. As man...	Wolfie55	6	4495	Dec 5, 2021 by Lyne
	Writing about my experiences. (Preview) Hey folks, Mel (Melly) Here. I little while back I posted something I was writing that contained mentions of my al-anon experiences. At the time it was just a draft and I had included the first name of a member. The immediate feedback was "Hello, Mel, al-ANON" and I felt ashamed of the careless way I had...	Youknowme	5	5556	Dec 4, 2021 by Lyne
	December 3 - C2C - Meditation (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change shares several members' descriptions of how they meditate. One quietly repeats the Serenity Prayer, others concentrate on their breathing or watch their thoughts passing by, and another visualizes placing all their worries, problems, joy, gratitude, and...	Freetime	4	4426	Dec 4, 2021 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change December 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon was the first place they were invited back to after sharing their woes. The author had been desperate and close to committing suicide due to the alcoholism in their home, so when they were asked to make coffee at an Al-Anon meeting they fou...	Skorpi	4	4560	Dec 2, 2021 by Lyne
	11/30/21 Courage to Change …the Teacher Appears (Preview) A learning opportunity presents itself when we interact with others.As we observe behavior we like and dislike in others, it may help us consider and refine our own.We may consider the emotion and reaction these elicit within us that may reveal an opportunity for healing and growth...perhaps we ma...	Enigmatic	4	6985	Nov 30, 2021 by DM2021
	C2C, 11/29, being an adult (Preview) The author says what they thought being an adult was: being in control, being cool, and looking good on the outside and cut off from the inside. It also meant doing for others until they dropped. Alanon has taught this writer a new way of living: giving up control, admitting they were powerless, re...	Lyne	4	4679	Nov 29, 2021 by Iamhere
	Pain always comes with closeness? (Preview) My grown son is one of the most precious blessings in my life. Over time we have had many conflicts which we always get past. Another one occurred Friday night, details unimportant. My A looks for opportunities to put him down, as they have been estranged for nearly 5 yrs. What I did, instead of gett...	Lyne	2	4690	Nov 29, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Nov 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about resentments that may be a result of growing up/living in an alcoholic home and how we might address them in order to live a more positive and serene life. The writer describes anger toward his/her parents that was difficult to express; instead it was ta...	yanksfan51	1	4738	Nov 28, 2021 by DM2021
	Please read important(most people are good) (Preview) So today I am going to pick up my heavy coat over 60 miles away. Talk about anxiety! The story goes: I went to see a movie up north. We don't have a theater close by. Anyhow it gets better. I left my coat in the theater. Bear w me. I got a brainstorm! I called the nearest grocery store to see if someone could by &a...	Hoot Nanny	4	2383	Nov 27, 2021 by DM2021
	Courage to Change - November 25 - Gratitude (Preview) Hello, MIP friends, and happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate -- and to everyone, I hope you find something to be grateful for today. I am posting the Friday share early. I usually post on Thursday night, but tonight I expect to be busy doing the dishes and cleaning up after a wonderful feast cooke...	Freetime	3	4425	Nov 26, 2021 by Lyne
	Managing expectations and a generally pessimistic attitude (Preview) Since this stuff started with my now adult Son about 18 years ago (initially meth addiction, joined by alcohol problems soon after, and recently mental health issues), it takes very little and sometimes nothing at all for my mind to spin up a scary story about all the terrible things that are probably...	texas yankee	12	2969	Nov 25, 2021 by texas yankee
	Today's Hope Nov. 24 (Preview) Hello mip! It is after midnight here and I'm at the emergency vet with a dog in need of stitches, so i thought it was a good time to post today's share. I'm using today's hope from nov. 23. The author shares how impactful it is for them to keep a daily inventory in writing. They reflect on 10 things they a...	Skorpi	4	1319	Nov 24, 2021 by Iamhere
	11/23/21 ODAT – One Day at a Time (Preview) This contributor tried this 'just for today: do not be afraid of anything', actively addressed lingering dread to expose their imaginative basis, and let previous days' troubles expire...Why? God is driving the bus, let him...accept the guidance and protection...What was left over? A shiny new...	Enigmatic	3	3139	Nov 23, 2021 by Iamhere
	Taking Things For Granted. (Preview) Hi, it's WendyP, just wanted to share about my recent journey, when I couldn't get online to the MIP program. After trying and trying, and not getting anywhere, and with nothing that I tried, I really thought that I had lost it, and started to think of what it would be like for me to have to work my program,...	WendyP	4	3466	Nov 22, 2021 by WendyP
	C2C, 11/22, spiritual recovery program (Preview) This reading implies that recovery means we are trying to regain something we lost. Living with active drinkers can cause a loss of spirit. Life is survival, a daily challenge, and hard work. The writer says that nothing helped when they were trying to do it by themself. Alanon helps us come to kno...	Lyne	3	1640	Nov 22, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today nov 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the steps and how they can help us take action in our lives. The writer describes step 5 and its suggestion for giving an order to our actions. Steps 1-3 help us build a relationship with the God of our understanding. We then work at becoming at peace w...	yanksfan51	1	1590	Nov 21, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	20th November C2C (Preview) Today's author talks about alcoholism breaking their spirit before they found Al-Anon. Al-Anon gives a fellowship, a Sponsor, Twelve Steps and Traditions that allow them to heal their broken spirit. They share that their healing started when they quit fighting the God of other people's underst...	Bettertomorrow	2	1556	Nov 21, 2021 by Lyne
	November 19 - ODAT - First Things First (Preview) Today's reading in ODAT is told by a member who worked hard during their first year in Al-Anon to learn and practice the skills for being in a relationship with an alcoholic -- avoiding quarrels, not nagging or scolding, releasing resentments. Their relationship improved, but still there was an un...	Freetime	4	1571	Nov 19, 2021 by Daffodils
	11/16/21 One Day at a Time - It’s Easy, Just Detach…right? (Preview) No...says today's contributor, not in the midst of trying times and circumstances and pressure of making decisions. No time to slip away to read a favorite Alanon chapter or attend a meeting, it is helpful to develop a quick, powerful resource we consistently draw upon to assist us. Perhaps, then, c...	Enigmatic	5	3489	Nov 17, 2021 by bud
	ODAT in alanon, 11/15, truths we tend to forget (Preview) This reading looks at why we forget certain ideas or truths even though we are often reminded in meetings, for example: alcoholism is a disease, the alcoholic has an illness, and we should not punish people for being sick. Real acceptance is difficult, and our immediate attitude toward the alcoho...	Lyne	3	3333	Nov 15, 2021 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Nov 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about working through anger and the help that the 12 steps provide. The writer describes what she did in order to overcome her anger toward her mother. She decided to work through the steps and as is the practice in alanon, kept the focus on herself and the cha...	yanksfan51	2	2466	Nov 14, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C 13th November - First Things First (Preview) In today's reading, the author talks about things being urgent, but rarely important and things that are important being rarely urgent, which feeds into a cycle of getting caught up in trivia which appears urgent, but then not having the time for the more important stuff. In essence, "First things...	Bettertomorrow	3	745	Nov 14, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today - November 12 - Serenity (Preview) Today's author used to lose their serenity all the time, reacting to things other people said or did, and could only find relief by hiding away in the bedroom. But now, having learned to use Al-Anon tools like slogans, trusting in a higher power, prayer/meditation, focusing on self-care, and findin...	Freetime	5	3177	Nov 12, 2021 by Freetime
	Miracles in Progress Nov. 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! AL-Anon reminds today's author that they can only deal with one day at a time. Thanks to this reminder, they are able to be more realistic about what they can do to improve their situation. Thanks to this focus on one day at a time, the author is freed from a constant sense of urgency. No probl...	Skorpi	2	3332	Nov 11, 2021 by Lyne
	I can see clearly now (Preview) An interesting think is going on in my marriage. My A is in a different 12-step program. Progress is being made with her awareness level of when her behavior is off. Sometimes it is after the fact but at least its seen in retrospect. But we have had two very difficult weeks, with some resolve this mor...	Lyne	1	2424	Nov 10, 2021 by DM2021
	11/9/21 C2C Moving Beyond Survival (Preview) Today's author notes that our incredible human adaptability used to navigate difficulties early in our experience may be drawn upon even after we learn it is harmful to ourselves and others.Persistent use of one of these adaptations, manipulation, can leave rust on more effective, direct approa...	Enigmatic	2	4001	Nov 9, 2021 by Lyne
	Nov. 4, ODAT - Discontent (Preview) The main reason for our unhappiness may be our dissatisfaction with what we have, how we live, and the way we perceive others' actions. We should seek contentment from within. If this self-searching reveals only that we don't yet have what we feel we deserve, we should look for ways to acknowledge and...	Bbrave	3	3690	Nov 8, 2021 by JerryF
	ODAT, Monday, 11/8, self-love vs love of self (Preview) This reading describes what healthy love is and is not. Self-love can be the source of hostility, arrogance, a big ego, narrow mindedness, and closed to feeling for others. Love of self: love thy neighbor as thyself. We can love and help others when we are at peace with ourselves. False humility...	Lyne	3	2887	Nov 8, 2021 by JerryF
	Hope for today nov 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the practice some of us have of doing the same thing over and over again and somehow expecting different results. The writer describes reacting to different situations in an impulsive way, eventually noticing that it was habitual and not founded in t...	yanksfan51	4	4196	Nov 7, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	info needed please (Preview) Good morning MIP. A person from my home group would like to join our message board. I don't know how to tell her to do this. I tried to help her sign up a few years ago and she was not successful. Can anyone tell me so I can help her join? Thanks so much, Lyne	Lyne	2	3191	Nov 7, 2021 by Lyne
	November 5 - ODAT - Similarities not Differences (Preview) Today's reading in ODAT is a story about a Very Nice Girl who was reluctant to go to Al-Anon because felt she was "above" the sort of people who went there, and was ashamed that there was an alcoholic in her family. Once she was persuaded to go, she felt "above" other members whose speech or education was...	Freetime	3	3087	Nov 5, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change November 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how good it feels for many new-comers to find a safe place to share openly about their lives and experiences in the Al-Anon meetings. It can feel very good to share something and see people nodding, or have people come up after the meeting and share thei...	Skorpi	3	3439	Nov 4, 2021 by Lyne
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 11/1, erratic behavior (Preview) This writer talks about the special problems one can have living with an alcoholic: erratic behavior, social embarrassment, and other minor or major problems. In alanon, the non-alcoholic can find peace of mind. We are again reminded not to try and be helpful by giving advice, nor making judgeme...	Lyne	7	767	Nov 4, 2021 by Lyne
	11/2/21 Role Play – Not if…Which, When, Why? (Preview) Who do we show ourselves to be in public, work, home asked a member...Does the alcoholic get the same happy face we take to Alanon meetings, our boss, fellow workers? Reminder: Honestly compare the roles we play in different life arenas. Do strangers and those we seek to impress receive better treatm...	Enigmatic	2	2647	Nov 2, 2021 by DM2021
	SATURDAYS Hope for Today (service) (Preview) Hi Everyone, I made a 3 month commitment to post the daily reading from Hope for Today on Saturdays. That commitment has come to an end. I enjoyed it and thank you for your trust in me to perform this service for our Alanon family. Thank you for your shares on the Hope for Today topics! If another member wou...	tiredtonite	2	2112	Nov 1, 2021 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Oct 31 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the destructive nature in judging others. The writer describes having grown up in a family that communicated through teasing, criticism and jabs at one another. The writer developed a defense mechanism of sarcasm and ridiculing others. In general,...	yanksfan51	2	2533	Oct 31, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	30th October C2C - Grateful to be involved with an alcoholic (Preview) Today's author talks about being shocked that when they were a newcomer to Al-Anon, they heard people saying that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. They couldn't believe these people had anything to be grateful for, yet them seemed happy despite their problems - which sounded ex...	Bettertomorrow	4	793	Oct 31, 2021 by Freetime
	October 29 - ODAT - Pause (Preview) Today's reading is about how we make choices and decisions. Forethought -- including kindness toward other people affected by the decision -- will result in decisions we can live with comfortably. If we are feeling angry or agitated, it is wise to wait until the feeling has subsided so that we can ca...	Freetime	3	1035	Oct 31, 2021 by Enigmatic
	OCTOBER 30TH HOPE FOR TODAY - TRUST (Preview) Today's reading focuses on Alanon's Step 2 - Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Alanon member in this reading goes for a walk with their sponsor before an Alanon meeting to discuss their understanding of this step. They tell their sponsor that they know...	tiredtonite	2	2288	Oct 30, 2021 by Freetime
	Oct. 28, ODAT - Poor Me! (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that when we are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes giving in to a poor me attitude, and try to change our thinking about it all, we may not have the success expected. We should concentrate solely on the day in front of us. TODAY'S REMINDER: This day is mine. It is unique. The choi...	Bbrave	3	2085	Oct 28, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
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