I forgot to mention that I talked to my sponsor yesterday and told her I felt a little bad because I told my daughter that I didn't want any of the drunk woman's kids coming over.  Nothing against them, I just didn't want her drama in my life.  Then I realized OH $#!+ Is this why none of us have any friends?  Everyone thought the same about us, didn't want the drama of my A husband in their lives?  I think so!  Good motivation not to go back to that.  It was quite the revelation.  Am I starting to think like a "normal" person????