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Well A has just spent a week with me,salvation army centre found him a flat,but due to heating problems ,bed etc he asked could he stay here,i told him yes but no drinking ,this was my only boundry.
H e was back two days and the whole senario started,me coming home from a hard days work to him drunk,lying,hiding the whiskey,going out leaving the back door wide open,even unscrewing my cooker in the housing unit to hide the bottle.
Well my son and i moved him into his flat today,i just dont know what mess he will make of it,but you know its not my problem,my son and i know we have done our best we can live with ourselves and hold our heads up high.
My daughter arrives from ozz next friday to spend xmas with us,first one in 12 yrs,i will be dammed if im going to have another crap christmas .
No this girl is going to do her upmost to make sure my beautiful daughter has the holiday she deserves.
You have yourselves to thank for this,when i arrived on this board 8 mths ago,i didnt think i was going to make it,well here i am and i know im going to be just fine .
It makes me smile when I read a post like that. You are setting your boundries, a very tough thing to do. And you sound like you are standing by them. Good for you.
Keep working your programme, keep doing what you are doing, and you will find life more, easier to live, for YOU and your family.
Try to let your A's HP take over his life. And you just run yours.
Yep, Ollie - I believe you're going to find yourself better than "just fine." Don't forget to thank yourself - it takes personal responsibility to work the program and turn corners with our HP's help.
Health and Happiness to you and yours this holiday season,
Susan
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Plan B? Yea, Plan B - sounds so official, especially when we're flying by the seat of our pants! (from Dukes of Hazzard, paraphrased by my teenager)
Having him stay with me last week,just made me aware of how far i have come always learning ,learning,we have been apart since may,all it did was show me he has not changed one iotta,but show me i have,its a case of watch this space .
I wish to take this opportunity to wish you a merry and peacful xmas
