The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
To me it is trying to control someone, which never works.
If I want to say something, I might say, "I would invite you to maybe try..."
My experience is.... Have you tried......
I respect you Carol, however I feel MIP has taught me more about alanon that anything else could have.
It is my belief to allow everyone the chance to find alanon in anyway they can. I feel my program of recovery is very very strong. I cannot get to alanon meetings, and as I have said, could not go anyway becuz there were children there.
I have gleaned so much from MIP. It changed my whole life, putting all I have learned to be my life now.
To me alanon is only as strong as how much each of us puts into it. Whether it is face to face, books, the phone or here or all. I live alanon skills. For me, who was once so much a worrier, to say I rarely worry, is saying more than you know.
I live one day at a time, I take small steps, do what I can. I don't try to control anyone, I do the work and my hp brings the outcome. I KNOW I will be ok. NO question.
As I sit here, no heat, no vehicle, no tv, no wheelbarrow, have to stick a nail polish bottle under that ball thing in the toilet so it won't run all the time, lost a dog and a pot pig sunday,fell in the mud, washed my cell phone in my overalls pocket, recliner broke,need new glasses.....My hands ache horribly from arthritis.....
Yet here I sit with my little white lights on, a warm purring tabby cat in my lap, Tavish Basset asleep next to me Brownie dog and Sauvey dog asleep, tedidog and wilma dog asleep, My silkie black chicken chickiedoodle asleep on his perch, My house is clean and smells good, I have serenity.
Serenity even when all around me things are chaos or may seem to be.Even though I don't know where A is, and hope for him to be out of his misery and know when he is it will kill me....
Hi Debilyn, I always enjoy reading what you say. Can you explain why you couldn't go to a meeting anyway because children are there? (maybe I got it wrong) --- take care Jill
My journey to serenity started online and I know alot of serenity can come from MIP..I have never been nor will I ever forget what mip has given to my life. If asked my answer always is "It saved my life"
With my daughter in a wheel chair from a head on wreck 20 surgerys in 18 months along with 30 days in the hospital, her best friend dead, and my sons girl friend loss of an eye and my loss of my drivers license from the sudden onslaught of seizures and living more than 20 miles from town.. I had my husband of 25 years draining our 401K purchasing meth for himself and my 20 year old son. Serenity wasn't where I was at....I say and always will MIP saved my life...Alanon taught me how to live it
I got nagged here by a couple of alanon meeting goers to go...and I mean nagged...they couldn't start a sentence without saying get to a meeting and work the steps. Truthfully, they pissed me off a few times.
I got to one meeting and told the group that I could not make them and stated the above reasons...they decided to pass around a calender and set up rides...If I am honest I felt a bit forced ...like geez these ppl are after me...but my world was so shook I went and I worked the steps...For the first time in my life this hard head actually just did it...For this reason I say...
That support, My sponsor and those meetings..are alanon and there is a difference.
I am in no way mip bashing nor am I saying the help I got here wasn't priceless...but I am saying there is a difference. I just hope that I can do for others what was done for me...Let them know there is a whole new world for them out there for them called alanon and it is a 12 step program...Worked with a sponsor and involves attending meetings...
MIP has become a very important tool in my alanon program and I have made some very good friends in my 4 years of being here. At this point I could not imagine it not being in my life.
Here's to sanity and serenity..However one finds it.
Carol I agree completely with what you just said. I was responding to your saying MIP is NOT alanon.
To me it is a branch of it. As you said face to face has it's very special things to give too. I am so glad you found what you did.
oh no I did not take it as bashing at all. I doubt anyone did. In my pea brain I was thinking how can it not be alanon? We do step work, we have meetings we stick to the paths of alanon here as best as we can.
That was what I was questioning. I wish I could go to face to face meetings. sigh.
anyway big hug!!! And am so glad you are doing well. love,debilyn
Jill I have physical problems, am disabled, in a way I cannot sit there. I cannot even go to my sunday, thursday and tues. spiritual meetings...It hurts terribly.If I take pain med I fall asleep and the snoring disturbs the meetings.. lol giggle.
Plus I have bowel disease and other "fun" things that can cause me to have to run to the br. well try that when you have arth on top of it... geez...And there is only one bathroom....this has nothing to do with it, but once when i still could go to my meetings...I stood up for a prayer, My pantyhose rolled down my tummy and went almost down to my knees!!!! lol lol thank goodness I had a long dress on.
yes when I first started alanon,before this dang arth was so bad, there were kids in the room. we are talking a new born, a toddler and kids up to age ten or twelve.
I just could not concentrate. I mean who could with all these cute kids all over. lol
Plus I found it inappropriate to have them there smashing food onto the table, clanging toys, climbing up my legs lol lol
There was NO way I was going to share about my husband A abusing me, or raping me or whatever. I was brand new to alanon. I did not know about the focusing on me, that the A was not my issue, that the A and the disease were separate.
I am easily weepy. I was not going to lose it in front of these babies. Not like they don't go thru enough with A fathers....
I tried another meeting in another town, another night, guess what?the same ones were there too.
soooo here I have been for sooooo many years with tt, and abbyal.
