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marty


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Hi every one,my problem is dealing with my self


i have a problem with a women she in AA too like me,we would have fight on line


but i wanted her love she would  never give it to me and we would argu


and get mad at each other and i would take her out of my ims


but she would keep taking me back and post that she been trying to


run me off and that i twift thing she say that was not true and her friends wont talk to me but that did not boughter me,but this has been


going on for better than a year,my friends told me to break it off but


i did not listen to them there been time were she got and say that she


was wrong about me but she did it in double talk covering her tale


what she was doing i know it not about her it about me and how i


deal with life which is wrong


marty



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(((Marty)))


Welcome to MIP.  Isn't it always about ourselves?  Being that is all we can control.  We only have control over our own behavior.  When I figured that out it saved my sanity!  I could not stop all the craziness going on around me but I could stop reacting to it.  I no longer engage with another person who is not helping my recovery or my serenity.  I avoid contact and set boundaries for the relationship.  I say things like "Let me get back to you on that" instead of R U crazy?  LOL!  Even when I am upset and feeling hurt and angry.  I use the tools of the program to help guide me back to a calmer place.  Like Jade...I do not have to Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain myself to another.  I am just me....I can choose to be happy and not react to anothers cruelty.


Yours in recovery,


 


Julia  



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julia


you got a good point and i needed to hear that,this is my first day away from this person


i been keeping bussy and trying to stay out of my self,so far the other person has not try


to get me back i know thats my crazy thinking because i wanted this person to want me,


this is my hole problem getting other to do what i want which is not possible,


but my head does not know that


marty



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isabella good morning you are so right,i have been thinking about leting her back in my life


but for now i need to get me sorted out,you know what type of crazyness go on in my head


but with the help of GOD and you,i feel i can handel thing better like what AA teaches me


to take it one day at a time you know i feel like i have come home alanon i do have low self astem


all my life i have felt i never was good enough and when some one would pick on me i felt i deserve it,i am just a big mess


your friend marty



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