Why can't I keep my mouth shut? - Al-Anon Family Group

babysteps · Senior Member

Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

Gailey · ~*Service Worker*~

At least you have recognized what you are doing.

Good for you

just me · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((BabySteps))))

LOL! My mouth is the same way! I try so hard not to be like my mother and guess what? The tapes keep on a playing in your head! When I realize I am doing this to my daughter I stop! I try to explain to her how I am learning and I apologise. Makes us both feel better even though my words may have made her feel bad.

One day at a time.......

Julia

Rita G · ~*Service Worker*~

((Babysteps))

Sometimes when I notice that I am having a tough time keeping my mouth shut (& it does happen to me ) it usually means that I need to apply HALT

Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired - I usually need some self-care - I need to take care of me. I know that this is a busy weekend, but can you slip a few hours of You time - take a nap, a relaxing walk, treat your self to some quiet time - whatever helps you relax - it usually helps me have a little more control over my quick wit & sharp tongue - which is better for everyone.

Hope that you are able to get the stress relief you deserve,

Rita

Kethry · Veteran Member

I've found my little slice of heaven in a store called Lush. (Yikes, I can't believe I just wrote that on Al-Anon message board!!) Really, it's not how it sounds

. Lush (http://www.lush.com/) is a bath and body store that makes all-natural hand-made products - kind of on the pricey side but I love their bath bombs and bubble bars. The bubble bars are soft and you can just break off a piece instead of using the whole thing. But taking a bath with these products is heavenly!! They smell great, they make your skin soft, & they have things like flower petals, glitter, or little messages inside. It's worth the little bit of personal indulgence. A lot of them have essential oils that help you relax too.

maresie2 · ~*Service Worker*~

I agree with Rita. When I am in that mode I am needing HALT badly. I had to learn where my limits were I had none and the A certainly has none so I have to have them.

Maresie.

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