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I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and sending him to j ail.....until last night.....got a phone call from a cousin who works at the local grocery story.....the son of a b sent someone in there last night with one of my checks...she cashed if of course.....and then she called me and said, omg Andrea someone cashed your check with your name on it.......and they signed your name to it......
Well I am not feeling bad anymore.......I am angry that he keeps trying to pull me down to his level of nothingness......I have been working hard for my money and trying my best to keep me and the kids living the best I can....and he has the nerve to keep doing this shit to me.......welll jail is where he belongs and if I have anything to say about it that is exactly where he is going.....
He has not given me one penny of support in these last 3 monhts....and now he is trying to send me to jail....well little does he know I have already talked to the bank have an apt . there today.....and I already reported them stolen to the cops....now he can suffer the consequences of his actions.....
Ok, done venting, I was just wondering does it ever end.....willl I ever have that peace I so desperately need.....or will he haunt me forever.....God I hope and pray not........
Oh Andrea, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.
Apparently, A's don't think about the consequences of their actions. They're only looking out for themselves. You're doing the right thing by pressing charges. I know it's hard, but it's the right thing to do to take care of you and your children.
Stay strong! Don't feel bad about doing what you have to do. He obviously had no problem stealing from you and trying to ruin your good name all over town. Hopefully you will eventually get the peace you so desperately need.
Take care of you... Artygirl.
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Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.
Sounds as though you are doing the right thing. Certainly is very stressful chasing bad checks. You are taking abig step by putting your foot down and filing charges.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing what is important for you and your children.
No he will not haunt you forever. Because you won't let him do that to you. Remember you are much stronger than he ever will be. Sending him to jail may be the best thing you can do for yourself and him. I say "Go For it". I've got your back as do the rest of us here. You are taking back your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way. This I truly believe. I am very proud of you.
Love and blessings to you and your kids.
Live strong (you already are),
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
There are so many understanding people out there in the world, I hope you find the people you need today to make this whole process as smooth as possible. Stay strong. And take care of you.
Oh honey......I really feel for you......I had to do the same thing and it hurt like hell........but it's the right thing to do and I'm SO proud of you for doing it. Hang in there sweetie. You're doing great and we all love ya.
This is the part of detachment we USUALLY stipulate "with love." What you are **painfully** aware of is the fact that his disease is destroying EVERYTHING. BUT HERE"S THE GOOD NEWS!!!! Now that your husband is being looked out for, the police will catch him. This will speed him to a bottom of some kind. Hopefully
I'm proud of you honey. I know this is painful. Please trust that this a plan of god, not a punishment. You are doing so beautifully. Honest you are.
I have been here and done that with some boyfriend who I met years ago. I am so sorry he is doing this to you and your children. I am also sorry you have to be embarassed.
I know you have filed for divorce so the boundaries are real clear now. I can only imagine the A is at a very very low bottom and has not idea what to do next.
I also know its not your job anymore to help or kill yourself in the process.
((((((Andrea))))))) It will get better sweetie! Just keep taking care of you, even if it means he goes down in the process. You are doing the right thing.
You have to protect yourself and your children. You need that money to support them! You are definitely doing the right thing, maybe jail will be the thing to make him see the light and if not at least you'll know where he is and not have to worry about him stealing from you anymore.
