The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Yes im feeling sad,but not sure how im supposed to be.
H and myself been apart(my choice) since may,due to me throwing him out ,since then he has had to live in a salvation army refuge due to having nowhere to go.
Over the last month there has been a vast improvement in him ,finding him a good councilor,he is more like the shy quiet man i knew ,not the monster i have lived with for the past 5 yrs.
We had the weekend together,spending time with little baby grandson,so had some good chats.
Well he tells me they have this week found him his own little flat to live in,i to my surprise am feeling sad about this,while he has been living in the refuge he did reach his bottom and is now trying to make ammends.
He tells me he loves me and has always done and always will,so many regrets,im having a hard time with the forgivness thing,trust is the hardest thing to rebuild,we have been together so long.
Our daughter used to say we were like 2 ducks floating on a pond,this for 33yrs then wham nervous breakdown,then booze and devastation,we never used to drink hardly at all.
Just wanted to add my hugs! I am sorry you are sad. When I feel that way, the antidote for me is an Alanon meeting or a call to a friend in program to share my sadness. Somehow it helps to dissipate the feelings.
yours in recovery,
Maria123
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Remember feelings are neither good, bad nor ugly - it's our reaction to those feelings that sometimes can be harmful. If you are feeling sad, then maybe today may be a good day to take special care of you. Just as you would a special friend that was having a difficult time. Give yourself some pampering, special care, healthy compassion and love. Treat yourself with tender, loving care.
Although, it may not seem like it will, remember This too shall pass, so feel the feelings, take care of you - and let tomorrow handle tomorrow - rest in the comfort of your HP today - Just for today,
Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
It's normal to feel sad. It's ok to feel sad. It's ok to share your feelings here. It's ok to feel sad when you don't know why. You may one day know why - or you may never know why.
Sounds like there are positive changes starting to happen. Even though these changes are positive - they are still changes. Change is stressful. Give yourself time to adjust to the changes.
My feelings seem to be all over the place ,every day brings different feelings,i am constantly trying to look after me,i dont post often but read the posts every day,i have learned a huge amount here,its also comforting to know there are wonderful people who understand totally,i know this has to be for me,but at times its so hard.
