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Press her magical wand to the star necklace, and Fairy Wishes Dora seems to come alive! Her face will change expressions; she can blink her eyes, smile, look surprised, sing and make wishes. She even sings the Wishing Fairy song! Dressed in her beautiful fairy gown, sparkly wings, and tiara, this doll will delight girls who are waiting for their dreams to come true.
So this is the doll that both my granddaughters want so that they can wish for mommy and daddy to get back together. It will come true because the ad said so.
How do you explain some things to such little, innocent children?
Hate to hear that those sweet granddaughters of yours are having such a rough time. Also as a grandmother, can relate to how much pain you must feel. Bottom line is there is no way to fix this - I'm sure that you are loving them as much as you can & giving them to your HP
That's all we can do,
((Gail)) my prayers are with you,
Rita
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Gailey wrote: Press her magical wand to the star necklace, and Fairy Wishes Dora seems to come alive! Her face will change expressions; she can blink her eyes, smile, look surprised, sing and make wishes. She even sings the Wishing Fairy song! Dressed in her beautiful fairy gown, sparkly wings, and tiara, this doll will delight girls who are waiting for their dreams to come true.
Oh my. If I had had anything like this as a kid, I would have found myself personifying the toy, and feeling sorry for IT, because it sounded so sincere in wanting to help, yet was totally powerless. I would love it, and even defend it.
Ok, I did have toys like that. It's easy to love a thing unconditionally and imagine that it is loving you in return. It will never judge me, or say a mean thing to me. Yes, I understand that very well. It's so much simpler than dealing with people... LOL.
It's easy to conclude that a toy like this is a bad thing... it can't really make a wish come true. But is a brutally objective world the right thing for a little girl (or little boy) to be presented with either? Toys are all about fantasies. Sometimes those fantasies and wishes are more personal than the manufacturer intended, but is that so wrong? What is the proper way to dash a child's hopes? Is there a proper way?
Children are simply wonderful. There is so much to learn from them. They learn how things are, in their own time.
My ex. seems relieved that my granddaughter is now emerging from her "playing with dolls" phase. I'm in mourning I think... but so, so very grateful I played dolls with her, that I knew how. My ex-wife never got to do that.
To paraphrase Sigmund Freud, sometimes a toy is just a toy.
Maybe there's nothing to explain. Maybe what your grandchildren really need right now is reassurance that mommy and daddy love them; that you love them; that nothing will ever keep you from loving them.
Sometimes, it's okay to have dreams that never come true (you wanted a pony once upon a time, yes?). I think it's also okay to have painful dreams that never come true (I recall wanting a vacation like my friends in grade school had--to Hawaii). It doesn't mean that anyone's going to grow up to be an alcholic. It doesn't mean that anyone's going to grow up psychologically damaged. It means that there's going to be hurt for awhile. Pain for awhile.
Perhaps counceling is in order. Perhaps not. Perhaps prayer is in order. Why not? If nothing else, realizing who can, or cannot really tell the girls the truth is themselves. Eventually they will embrace that daddy isn't coming back; that mommy isn't going to marry daddy agan. And this may take time, too.
But to everything, there is a season under heaven.
How hard that is.....how much we wish we could take the pain of innocent children away. All part of learning, and growing up, I guess, but it sure is hard to watch, I know, as a Gramma myself.
You have received some wise replies on this one. I agree with Tiger, that sometimes it's okay just to have dreams, even if they don't come true. Dreams and wishes are what gives my life dimension, and hope. And we don't any of us know what tomorrow will bring. Who knows??? The most important thing right now is for the children to feel loved (and it sounds like they do) and that they have done nothing wrong. Poor babies.
Oh, and on another note, I wish I had a Fairy Wishes Dora. I NEED a Fairy Wishes Dora. WITH a magic wand!Now. Right. Now. If I don't get one, I will hold my breath.....oh, yeah, wait, I'm an adult now. I just wanted to make a wish that my husband would quit drinking!
I am always amazed at how children find ways to introduce the topics that they want/need to talk about. When I read your post - I heard your grandchildren asking to understand whether or not their parents will get back together or not.
(((HUGS))) I don't have any set answer - I just wanted to let you know that I care.
Tiger2006 wrote: Sometimes, it's okay to have dreams that never come true
I thank God for my dreams that never came true. Not because they didn't come true, but because if I could only dream things that came to be, I'd have almost no dreams at all!
I do think that many of us grew up with what I call the Cinderalla syndrome.... I also think I buried myself in a fantasty world because there was nobody around to help me understand reality.
I think it's wonderful that you realize what your grandaughters want and why they want that particular doll. I thinks it's a perfect opportunity to help them realize that there is a difference between fantasty and reality, but even if their fantasties cannot become real, they can and should always hold on to hope because hope keeps us grounded and helps us to see some of the miracles that occur even when bad things happen.
I know that I have learned in this life that my HP always has a better plan than I. If my fantasties played out, I couldn't have the life that I have today or the realization that I can have my good along with the bad.
I just wanted to make a wish that my husband would quit drinking!