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acjmom · Veteran Member

Just thinking

Gailey · ~*Service Worker*~

2 of the Alanon meetings I go to have AA meetings at the same time. They are not in the same room but at the same time. I'm sure it is so family member can attend together but in different meetings. I have never noticed that there have never been any A's in the Alanon room. I have noticed that there are recovering A's who are dealing with A family members though. Alot of those!!!!

Tiger2006 · ~*Service Worker*~

No one can "make" a person "get" the program, as you observed. Alot of times it's simply "planting the seed."

Interesting story, from a friend, and true:

USAF piolt was told by his then wife that if he didn't do something about his darn drinking, she would. So he goes to the AA meetings, but really doesn't do anything, just messes around. He gets transferred to a base in OR, and drives drunk, and crashes into a tree. By god's grace, his car was the only thing hurt. The next morning, just as he was getting ready to start the insanity all over again (his wife and kids were still packing up and living at the old base, sorry I forgot to mention that), he realizes "This is stupid. I almost died yesterday. I could've killed someone yesterday. I need that AA thing."

He just celebrated 10 years continuous sobriety last month.

debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hon it is no different than us going to alanon to get well.

Many, many A's want to stop. But they cannot stop until they reach a certain point. AA inspires them a little more each time.

Just like, for me, it took a long time to really get it. To stop reacting to his illness, to stop taking him in to allow him to detox here. To finally stop EVERYTHING so he might have a chance to grab hold and get to AA and get on program.

AA is a learning process. These people are miserable. Sure they may laugh and act dumb. But if you were around them and really watched, they are very lonely sick people.

They know they can go to AA sober and be around other people who are on program and they are accepted. No where else will they be accepted and loved by people on programs or people who never used and be accepted.

They get some relief from their guilt, they may be inspired.

much love,debilyn

maresie2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Rhonda: I think it takes some people a long time to get ready. Personally I have found that I have to stay out of the A's mother stuff and it is so hard going. I am so good at fixxing it for others and not for me. I no longer remind the A what he should do. I am too busy taking care of me. That might sound selfish but actually taking care of me is hard work. Working this program is hard work. The focus for me is on me these days not on what others do or should do.

Maresie.

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

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Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.

Go face to face meeting & online meeting.
post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

· In this program u learn that u have choices. In Alanon we don’t give advice but only suggestions.

· Set support system. people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.

Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.

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Karilynn · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((Rhonda)))))))))),

In my area, there are AA and Alanon meetings in the same place, but in different rooms. There are plenty of poeple in AA who have shown up to a meeting and have drank just before they came, or go out afterwards (my A for one). The only "requirement" is for a person to have the desire to stop drinking. The hope is is that they will stay after the meeting and talk to someone, or hear something that might click and make them seek the help they need.

Live strong,

Karilynn

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