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So sorry to hear about the S&*% storm. Unfortunately I get to try different options in that circumstance too often.
Noni's advise is very good. Take a few minutes to yourself and determine what is all this. Is any of it something I can or should do anything about.
When it is all buzzing around your head like so many flies, you just get lost and dizzy about it.
Knowlege is power, and give yourself a little time to digest what is going on, and make a plan. Plan what to do about each thing even if it is all stuff to just let go. I am learning that is as valid a plan as any.
Take care of you and I hope things go better tomorrow!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
A really good line from what I think was CAL but I can't remember which one comes to mind.
Basically, a guy stands under a tree full of pigeons and gets crapped on. Someone is amazed that he harbors no resentment, anger or hostility towards the pigeon. Basically he says, that's what pigeons do. I should have moved to another place.
Sometimes I think we just have to remove ourselves from people, places and things which we have no control of but that consistently crap on us.
Like someone else said about the umbrella, luckily the program gives us an umbrella like took to surround oursleves with, and to protect us.
Bob
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You are a perfect child of God and God and I love you just the way you are! (added by me...in that special alanon way)
What I try to do is call someone that I know needs help... listen to someone else. The best medicine for me is to listen to someone else's problem and try to help them, forget about myself for a while. I know when your head is spinning it is hard, but it becomes a blessing because you become grateful for the good things in your life, and by helping someone else you do them good.
OR, call a wonderful friend and cry on their shoulder. That always helps too. Repeat "this shall pass" this shall pass.... and Pray about it. Pray for HP to guide you through this hard time, and to give you courage and faith and grace and dignity to carry on through this period.
