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I found out last night, Sunday, that a former co-worker had commited suicide. A very sad story. She was about 30 years old, single mom of three. Just had her last baby this past summer. All 3 children had been taken away by Dept. of SS. She was an alcoholic. She hung herslef, was found by her boyfriend. Apparently she had left him a message that she had a surprise for him, instructing him to come to her apt & bring her eldest child, but not to let the child into the apt. That was when he found her body.
She worked with me for a few months before going out on maternity leave. She was a sweet, kind, caring girl. She was a great employee, didn't miss work, always did her job & extra, always kept busy. After the birth of her baby, I saw in the paper she was arrested for DWI. I still didn't realize the severity of her problem. She did come back after the baby was born, for a short time, then she called in one Sunday & told the supervisor she was quitting. That was the last I had heard of her.
A sad twist to this is, the supervisor who took the call, her nephew was this girls boyfriend & father of her 2 youngest children. And her son committed suicide the same way several years ago! What are the odds?
The children are with their dads or grandparents. So they are being cared for.
I just can't beleive it. It came as such a shock! I cannot imagine being so full of despair.
I'm so sorry to read that news. My heart goes out to her family and friends.
I'm sure a lot of us can relate to the despair. I know I have been to the pits of despair many times.
A year ago in October my sister committed suicide .... this was shortly after I had lost my mother, my son sent to prison, and another son diagnosed with mental illness/drug & alcohol abuse. Then this summer my son in law was killed in a car accident.
I fell into the pits of depression so badly that I wasn't sure I wanted to live. Thank God there is a HP who knows how we feels and cares.
I agree, without Al-Anon and help and encouragement .... there but for the Grace of God go I.
Spreading the word of AA and Al-Anon is so important to encourage others also ... these diseases are killing people!
This news is just too sad for words. To think of what this disease can do is just beyond reason. You can be sure that this family is in my prayers, as well as you, my dear friend.
Prayers being sent. Sometimes I still find the extent of devastation and despair around addiction so overwhelming. Thankfully we have our program...'there but for the grace of God go I'. I hope you can process your sadness and find some peace.
I am sorry you have to deal with this. This must be enormously upsetting to you and your coworkers. I can understand the despair this woman went through. Perhaps she had a severe post partum depression after childbirth. I have known people who committed suicide as well. I also know that I was always open to give a hand and help others. I am so sorry she did not reach out and seek help.
Thank you all for our prayers. It is so very sad. I wish we could have done something. I have been in the depths of despair, I have been suicidal, but, I always saw a little light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how faint, it was there. I think that was my HP, God, telling me everything would be ok.
I think the chain of events, the birth of her 3rd child, having them all taken away, the drug/alcohol addiction, she was just to overwhelmed.
I think she had this planned out for some time, when she called work to tell them she quit, she said to tell the residents "good bye." I beleive she was "tying up loose ends" so to speak. That was why she quit her job.
Thanks for your share and compassion for others. This makes my life's problems seem insignificant. Prayers for those small children who have to live with this the rest of their lives. What despair.
I'm sorry I'm behind on my posts. My sympathies to your friend's family and you. So sad when this disease wins out. I'll keep you and your friend's family in my prayers.
Love and blessings to you.
Live strong,
Karilynn
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