Supervised Visits with A - Al-Anon Family Group

April306 · Member

Supervised Visits with A

Gailey · ~*Service Worker*~

((((April))))

Sorry about your day in the "life of an A son with children"

I have decided that I will see my granddaughters when it is possible. If A son is at my home and is not drinking then he may visit them. I told him last night that he cannot depend on me and hubby for his visitation. His are supervised also.

Love...Gail

Lunamoth · ~*Service Worker*~

((((April)))))

I'm sending you much love and hugs! Your post touched me -- I could be your daughter in law, my children are also 10 & 8. One of the hardest things for me to come to terms with was realizing that there were just some days that it was best that my A not be there even though it was a "scheduled" thing. I had to accept that the dissappointment the kids had was better than having a seriously bad day with their active A father. There are many good scheduled days but then there are those that aren't.

I love my mom-in-law, she was the one who just appeared to take the kids when my father had his heart attack/surgery. She was the one who cared about the kids and giving them something normal in a crazy time. Beyond what is going on in your son's life, you are a gift in the kids lives. No matter what he does, or what you try to do to help him maintain a relationship w/ his children, please remember what a gift you are and that your relationship w/ the grandkids can be an incredibly healing thing for them -- a little bit of normalcy in lives rocked by alcoholism.

I was so glad to read you continued w/ your day and that it was wonderful -- that's what they will remember.

twinmom2 · ~*Service Worker*~

(((April)))

Sorry to hear you had to experience that with your son. I can empathize with that pain. I'm glad you and your husband were able to turn it around and have a good day with your grandchildren, just as it should be.

Living one day at a time,

Twinmom~

Tiger2006 · ~*Service Worker*~

I am SO greatful your grandchildren have you in their lives. I am SO greatful you have al anon to give them an example of.

Would either of the children benefit from a family councelor? Undoubtedly, seeing their father behave this way affects them.

Please keep us posted. I am SO glad you are here. PLEASE, keep coming back.

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

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