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Found out hubby used my checking account to subscribe to a icky website.
Closed my account opened another one that I will not get checks for.
Told him that was a huge violation of my trust. Left it at that.
Computer caught a bug or a worm, or both not sure, gotta take it into the cpu doc. Running sooooooooooooooooooooo slow.
Hubby took car tonight (I felt uneasy about that) to got to a function with the Masons.
Just got a phone call from the lodge master wondering where hubby is. Told him he left over an hour and a half ago.
Don't know where hubby is, don't know where car is.
Care more about where the car is. He is in his own addiction. He will have his own stuff to deal with, not my place to go there. And I am afraid that he will get pulled over. Need to set new boundary of him not driving car. Been waiting for a sober moment for that.
OH, and our 9 year anniversary is tomorrow.
One Day At a Time and Easy does it.
I am strong, I am not alone. I will be okay. HP is watching out over me.
Just needed to reach out for support and get the love I need.
Yours in recovery,
Dolphin123
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
((((((((((((my friend)))))))))))))))) our lives almost run the same road, just you are on that side of the "bridge" and I am on this side.....LOL
My A is acting out, up, out there, again. I think I try to hard to understand. He aploigized at least 6 times today, that use to mean something. He knows it is only a short amount of time before I can support myself. He knows he has no rights to the inheritance. Funny, Everything you said, about it's his not mine.....I did today while I was driving.....Let go, Let God....this is not him talking it's the alcohol......it's the cocaine.....hang in there. Be gentle with yourself, and I will be gentle with me also......Know that you are in my heart and my prayers...
Dear friend so sorry to hear this stuff happening to you.....I have been there and it is not a nice place to be......
I am sending you many hugs and prayers are already in progress......I hope tomorrow is a better day.....odat........
Best Wishes dear friend....Happy Anniversary.....addiction is hell I know....it tears us apart in so many ways....so glad you are here.....thank God for alanon......please try and do something special for yourself......
Here is tons and tons of love, and support for you friend...
You give it so freely to others, thanks for the opportunity to give it back to you.
Sounds like you are doing good at taking care of yourself and setting boundaries....
So sorry about the checking account thing...ouch...what a horrible violation for a husband to do to a wife...(((((((((dolphin)))))))))))))) more hugs for you.
I know about painful anniversaries...our ninth was the worse. We went away for a weekend (really one night).
We were supposed to go out after eating. We went to one of those kitchenette hotels. We stopped at my favorite restaurant and got something for me, stopped at his and got somethign for him, and I had brought candles, etc. from home. He brought in luggage while I set table and heated up food.
He came to table and ate two bites, then got out liqour he had been hiding in his suitcase...a LOT of liqour.
He ran to sofa and TV and started drinking and watching until he passed out. He peed his pants and I could not wake him up to go to bed.
Sofa was in front of bed. So, I got treated to a "floor show" of a stinky snoring drunk peeing his pants...sigh. I slept alone all night.
Next morning we packed in silence and he did not even clean up his pee, GROSS...what they must think of us! He did not care...he never does.
We went home...some anniversary weekend...
The next one we were separated (#10), then the next one he forgot...sigh...maybe I was better off, LOL.
He is trying to act right for the next one coming up, #13, so I will see...but I will not hold my breath. Anniversarys are normally not a great time with an A. It is "celebration" time and for them that usually means getting drunk...sigh.
Last year I took myself out to dinner for our anniversary, and celebrated another year of endurance...LOL. I had a much better time...LOL.
This might be a good place for active detachment. Look at him from afar but take care of those necessary things like the checkbook. Well, it never is really about us but about the disease. Anniversaries are hard sometimes. I don't know who those people are in the pictures having such a great time and he buys her a diamond ring, he, he. Have a great time anyway. Your HP loves you and your friends at Alanon love you.
Sending *MUCH LOVE** ((((((BiGHuG))))))) I have learned so much from your es&h. Your one of a kind~ I cherish all the times I have been blessed to witness times to hear your shares at meetings. .....(Prayers coming your way) Blessings to You through Alanon and through our HP/God. Keep Looking UP! like deb says- breathe in FAITH and let go (breathe out)all Fear.
My thoughts and prayers are heading your way !! You are a strong, beautiful woman !! Remember that your decisions are just that yours and his well, they are his.. !!
I have learned a lot from you and really appreicate your support !!
Hang in there. Take it one minute at a time if you have too. Meanwhile much love and prayers are coming your way. You're doing just fine and handling things like a trooper (as my Mom use to say). Love ya.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Hi Dolphin, You are not alone, and you are strong. Even if you don't feel strong, I can tell from your comments that you are good at taking care of you, protecting yourself. So keep up the good work, and know our prayers are helping to hold you up at this exasperating time. You are the one we care about, and you are one who cares about us always. Thank you.
LOVE** ((((((BiG
HuG))))))) I have learned so much from your es&h. Your one of a kind~ I cherish all the times I have been blessed to witness times to hear your shares at meetings. .....(Prayers coming your way) Blessings to You through Alanon and through our HP/God. Keep Looking UP! 
like deb says- breathe in FAITH and let go (breathe out)all Fear.
YOUR WORTH IT!!