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Rosie922


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Choose Your Circle

In some recovery communities, there is a saying that goes something like "Stick with the winners." On one level, I get it - it's intended to guide people seeking recovery to hang out with people who are already "succeeding" in their recovery.

 

However, I don't like the implication that there are winners and losers in recovery. Recovery isn't about judging other people's recovery. Anyone seeking or attempting recovery is worthy of respect and support, regardless of what they achieve (or don't) through their efforts.

 

I prefer to focus on the importance of surrounding ourselves with people who have positive energy. Positive energy is supportive, uplifting, inspiring, and contagious.

 

Creating or joining a circle of woman-identifying individuals whose energy is positive doesn't mean those individuals are perfect, consistently happy, or high achievers in all things. Positive energy also includes energy that is warm, forgiving, and compassionate. You will find your circle of women who are all of these things because you are a woman who is all of these things. Your recovery energy will attract your recovery circle.

 

As we choose our support system,

so too do we choose our energy.

 

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Today's Gift Book She Recovers Every Day 

Today's reading is from the book She Recovers Every Day: Meditations for Women*

*Meditations can be specific, but themes are universal: apply as needed on your personal journey.



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I know this is geared for women but I thought it's good for all of us.. I have become a lot more discerning in who I hang out with because my time now I value and if someone is toxic or just not open, I just kindly distance myself and move on....

I'm happy and nourished with my close circle.. used to be it was quantity but now it is quality and even my pot smoking brother when he is not using he is very nice and funny and kind and I enjoy talking with him but when he's hanging out with that crowd and they're smoking pot, I just detach and talk with you later.......

The people I choose now are open and honest and humble and transparent and if they're having a bad day they tell me just like I tell them..... We can share with each other without being afraid of rejection or being attacked and it wasn't always that way with me until I got deeper into my recovery....

I guess I raised the bar on admission to my heart I'm not in the bargain basement anymore I'm up in the glass cases where the good jewels are



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Rosie, nice to see your posts. I've got nearly 15 years in alanon and I never heard the phrase, stick with the winners. I too, find it a bit biased. Recovery has taught me to not judge a book by its cover, that everyone deserves compassion and respect, and live and let live. I do choose my inner circle of friends very carefully, and I don't easily trust. But I do want to be open and give people a chance. As I continue with my recovery, I have learned to say "no," and resigned from the Doormat Club. Grateful member always.

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Hey Lyne. I think I make judgment calls every time I make a decision to either connect with someone or just to detach and keep my distance.... And you know when these people write these dailies of which this one I am not so familiar, , I just look at a person's heart... I don't care about anything but how they live their lives and how they treat themselves and how they treat others and how they treat animals and children and even though I say I am not judgmental I do make a judgment call when I decide or not decide to have somebody close in my life....

I've just been burned too many times and the first 20 years of my life the people I should have trust had the right to trust, they were the ones who betrayed me the worst and then I just kept going into dysfunctional relationship after dysfunctional relationship and finally I drug myself into here..... It's funny I qualify just about for every 12-step program.... Because I married two alcoholics...

I grew up with abusive and just horrid people.... So I became not just an Al-Anon but I discovered that I was codependent and also ACA I mean I qualified for just about every 12 steps room there is.... I abused alcohol to numb my pain but I was very very lucky in that I didn't get addicted to it in other words when I got into recovery and really committed to getting to know myself it was easy to give up the escaping mechanism of alcohol and face life's sober...

. And you know when people write dailies I have to remember that they are people too and they are writing from their perspective so that's where I learned in Al-Anon take what you can use and leave the rest

I like what you have to say and I'm glad you're on here.....



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Yes, take what you like and leave the rest--always a good plan! Great to see you here as well. :)

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Oh yeah regarding take what you like and leave the rest... I used to fight everybody that didn't agree with me or gave me esh that didn't set well, now I just listen and learn and take what I like and just leave the rest but thank them for their share unless they're real ugly and nasty and all of that then I just disengage and say see you and I walk away

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Rejuvenate Your Spirit: The Ultimate Guide to Finding the Perfect Spa in Hurghada
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 Hurghada is widely celebrated for its vibrant coral reefs and golden desert dunes, but after days spent diving or exploring the Sahara, your body deserves a different kind of adventure. At Red Sea Happy Tours, we believe that true luxury lies in the balance between excitement and relaxation. That is why we recommend completing your Egyptian holiday with a world-class wellness experience at a spa in Hurghada.

The Red Sea coast has become a global hub for wellness, blending ancient Pharaonic healing traditions with modern, luxury amenities. Whether you are staying in the city center or a secluded resort in Sahl Hasheesh, a peaceful escape is never far away.

 

 

Why Visit a Spa in Hurghada?

Traveling can be taxing on the body. Saltwater, sun exposure, and long flights often leave us feeling depleted. A dedicated spa day offers a range of benefits that go beyond simple relaxation:

Deep Muscle Recovery: Perfect for those who have spent the day trekking or quad biking.

Skin Rejuvenation: Coastal winds and sun can dry out the skin; professional body scrubs and wraps help restore your natural glow.

Stress Relief: Unplug from the digital world and find your zen in a tranquil, aromatic environment.

 

 

Popular Wellness Rituals to Experience

When looking for a spa in Hurghada, you will find a variety of treatments that reflect the rich cultural heritage of the region.

The Traditional Turkish Hammam

A staple of Middle Eastern wellness, the Turkish Bath (Hammam) is a ritual of purification. In a heated marble room, you will undergo a steam session followed by a vigorous full-body exfoliation (peeling) and a soft soap-bubble massage. Its an invigorating way to feel brand new.

The Cleopatra Bath

Inspired by the legendary beauty secrets of the Egyptian Queen, this luxury treatment often includes a milk and honey bath or specialized wraps designed to soften and nourish the skin. It is the ultimate royal treatment for those seeking a touch of historical elegance.

Therapeutic and Relaxation Massages

From Swedish and deep-tissue techniques to aromatic oil massages, the therapists in Hurghada are experts at releasing tension. Many travelers opt for a "back-and-shoulder" focus specifically after a day of snorkeling or scuba diving.

 

 

Seamless Luxury with Red Sea Happy Tours

At Red Sea Happy Tours, we make your relaxation our priority. We partner with the most reputable wellness centers to ensure our guests receive professional, high-quality care. Many of our curated packages include:

Door-to-Door Transfers: We provide private, air-conditioned transportation from your hotel directly to the spa.

Integrated Packages: Some of our sea trips, such as the luxury cruise to Orange Bay, even offer on-deck massages so you can relax while sailing the turquoise waters.

Tailored Experiences: Whether you prefer a private couples suite or a specific type of herbal tea after your session, we help customize the details.

Are you ready to unwind? Don't leave Egypt without experiencing a professional spa in Hurghada. Contact Red Sea Happy Tours today to book your wellness retreat and return home feeling truly refreshed.





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Find the Best Spa Near Me: Experience a Luxury Turkish Hamam Hurghada Ritual
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 Hurghada is widely celebrated for its vibrant coral reefs and golden desert dunes, but after daysBetween exploring vibrant coral reefs, quad biking through desert dunes, and walking along the sun-drenched coast, a vacation along the Red Sea can be beautifully intense. To let the magic of Egypt sink in, you need to dedicate time to physical recovery.

If you find yourself searching your phone for a premium spa near me to melt away the fatigue of travel, look no further than a traditional wellness oasis right here on the coast: an authentic Turkish hamam hurghada center.

Why a Turkish Bath is More Than Just a Massage

Unlike typical hotel massage rooms, a genuine Turkish hamam (or hammam) is a holistic, multi-sensory purification ritual that dates back centuries. While modern spa treatments offer localized relaxation, a Turkish bath focuses on deep detoxification, complete skin cell regeneration, and full-body circulation.

The Journey: What to Expect from a 2-Hour Ritual

When you book a package at a top-tier wellness center in Hurghada, your experience follows a carefully timed sequence designed to optimize skin health and physical relaxation:

.The Warmup (Sauna & Steam):1520 Mins.

You begin by relaxing in a heated sauna and herbal steam room. The intense humidity opens your pores, softens dead skin cells, and begins flushing out deep toxins.

.The Kessa Glove Scrub:20 Mins.

You are guided to a heated marble slab (the göbekta). A professional therapist uses a traditional, coarse silk mitten called a Kessa to vigorously scrub your entire body. This deep exfoliation sloughs off layers of dead skin, instantly revealing a smooth, radiant layer underneath.

.The Olive-Soap Foam Massage:15 Mins.

The therapist envelopes you from head to toe in a cloud of warm, airy foam squeezed from an organic olive-soap bag. What follows is a lightweight, soothing massage that cleanses away the scrubbed particles and deeply hydrates the fresh skin.

.The Jacuzzi & Mud Mask:15 Mins.

You are given time to soak in a bubbling jacuzzi or relax with a skin-soothing facial mask (often featuring local luxury ingredients like coconut or chocolate) to calm the exfoliated skin.

.The Aromatherapy Full-Body Massage:4550 Mins.

The ritual concludes in a private, quiet room where professional therapists use localized pressure and warm essential oils to work out any remaining deep muscle tension.

The Practical Benefits: Why Do This on Vacation?

Pre-Tan Perfection: Getting a deep exfoliation at the beginning of your vacation removes dead layers, which helps you get a more even, long-lasting, and brilliant golden tan without peeling.

Sun and Sea Recovery: Saltwater and hot desert winds dry out your skin. The natural olive oils used in the foam ritual lock back the missing moisture.

Sore Muscle Relief: If you have been diving, swimming, or walking around the historic sites of Luxor, the combination of thermal heat and deep tissue massage flushes out lactic acid.

Pro Tip: Most reputable independent spas in the area provide free hotel pickup and drop-off within Hurghada city limits, meaning you don't have to stress about organizing local transportation while you are in a state of pure relaxation spa near me.






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