The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
In some recovery communities, there is a saying that goes something like "Stick with the winners." On one level, I get it - it's intended to guide people seeking recovery to hang out with people who are already "succeeding" in their recovery.
However, I don't like the implication that there are winners and losers in recovery. Recovery isn't about judging other people's recovery. Anyone seeking or attempting recovery is worthy of respect and support, regardless of what they achieve (or don't) through their efforts.
I prefer to focus on the importance of surrounding ourselves with people who have positive energy. Positive energy is supportive, uplifting, inspiring, and contagious.
Creating or joining a circle of woman-identifying individuals whose energy is positive doesn't mean those individuals are perfect, consistently happy, or high achievers in all things. Positive energy also includes energy that is warm, forgiving, and compassionate. You will find your circle of women who are all of these things because you are a woman who is all of these things. Your recovery energy will attract your recovery circle.
As we choose our support system,
so too do we choose our energy.
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Today's Gift Book She Recovers Every Day
Today's reading is from the book She Recovers Every Day: Meditations for Women*
*Meditations can be specific, but themes are universal: apply as needed on your personal journey.
I know this is geared for women but I thought it's good for all of us.. I have become a lot more discerning in who I hang out with because my time now I value and if someone is toxic or just not open, I just kindly distance myself and move on....
I'm happy and nourished with my close circle.. used to be it was quantity but now it is quality and even my pot smoking brother when he is not using he is very nice and funny and kind and I enjoy talking with him but when he's hanging out with that crowd and they're smoking pot, I just detach and talk with you later.......
The people I choose now are open and honest and humble and transparent and if they're having a bad day they tell me just like I tell them..... We can share with each other without being afraid of rejection or being attacked and it wasn't always that way with me until I got deeper into my recovery....
I guess I raised the bar on admission to my heart I'm not in the bargain basement anymore I'm up in the glass cases where the good jewels are
