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Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years.
Wondering if others have struggled with this? Or if other spouses include them in anniversaries/meetings?
Welcome Klynn13. I waited so long for my spouse to go to AA that I am just grateful the drinking has stopped, and I see little bits and pieces of growth. But it is a very long journey. Each individual will handle their recovery in their own way. If your husband needs/wants to keep his private, then that's what he needs to do. I would not have survived my spouse's drinking had I not joined alanon. I wonder if that might be beneficial for you? I never felt I needed the help, but alcoholism is a serious illness and the entire family gets affected, even if the person is sober. You might try a meeting in person or online--it has helped my self-esteem and coping skills in ways I never expected. Please feel free to post on the board--I try to check in daily and post once a week. Best, Lyne
Welcome. I can't relate to a spouse in AA; I can relate to feeling compartmentalized by a spouse. In my marriage, I always felt like a 2d feature in his life. I had to learn how to do things to make myself happy. Eventually that included moving on entirely. It took 13 years though. Keep coming back and do check out meetings for yourself as well. Take care!
