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Yesterday marks 1 year since I left my A husband of 14 years.
I have had such a good year of growth I just wanted to post and say how good my life has become.
I have reconnected with my family.
I traveled to the Netherlands to visit my brother and to Houston 6 times to visit with my sister.
I went to Canada on vacation alone and enjoyed it. I went to an alanon campout in New Hampshire, an alanon retreat in Yosemite and an alanon conference in Cape Cod.
My world and my mind have expanded.
I have lost 50 pounds and run 4 5 k’s and done two mountain bike races
I have made new friends
I am working on my goal of doing a sprint triathalon in August, something my brothers have been asking me to do for years.
When I got busy I got better really is working for me.
I filed for divorce last August and went to court 4/5. I expect in time the divorce will be final. My husband does not want the divorce and will not take calls from the mediator.
I am trying online dating and meeting some interesting people. I have my eyes wide open to drinking/substance abuse issues and am steering clear.
I want to thank every one of you for sharing your stories and listening to mine. I know where I would be without the help of alanon and I will never sink back there.
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
Thanks so much for your post.I am looking forward to my new life which will begin as soon as this house is sold and I get my own place. MY OWN place. Sounds good.
I do not know why it is so hard to start living now but with him here I just can't seem to.I can't stick to any kind of diet or eating plan.I guess it is the stress.Of course it's the stress! I feel sure that the weight will fall off once I get on my own.I am also going to steer clear of all alcoholics,drinking or not.I am done with that.
I look for the day when I can say I have had a year of freedom and how that will feel.It will be strange since I have lived with him since I was 17,but I am so ready.
We can all learn from you and inspire to be more like you. When I first came to this board you were the first reply I got. It was loving and caring just like you. You are indeed the example of taking back your life and living strong! I am so proud of you. I am honored to call you my friend. Somewhere out there is a man who is going to be very lucky when you find him. Knowing you, you will have him on your terms and you know you will have the strength and courage to walk away if the situation isn't right.
You go girl!
Live strong my friend,
Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Karilynn - thanks for having the words to express how I feel. Megan was also among the first to reach out to me when I came to AlAnon. I have had the pleasure of meeting Megan and she really is the loving and caring person she shows us online.
Megan - thanks again for the bookmark. I keep it out on my desk at work.
You are indeed the example of taking back your life and living strong! I am so proud of you. I am honored to call you my friend. Somewhere out there is a man who is going to be very lucky when you find him. Knowing you, you will have him on your terms and you know you will have the strength and courage to walk away if the situation isn't right.
