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Hi folks. Im nails & my husband is an alcoholic and our relationship is dying. I am 7 months pregnant and I love him and my two step kids. I dont want to give up on our life together but I feel so broken and desperate. I am starting to hate him. Please let me know where I should properly start this and Im sorry if Im not suppose to start a topic. Its a broken record around here. I am so lame when it comes to arguing and I fuel the fire each time only to act shocked when I am verbally abused. I sob and sob. My little unborn baby deserves better. We are in therapy but I need to speak to folks that relate. Please help me. Thank you.
Welcome to Al-anon and Miracles in Progress. You are in the right place. You will people here that have been where you are today. You will find strength, encouragement, support and unconditional love. In the midst of all you are feeling I want you to know that today you have been given a gift. Far too many of us continue to live in the loneliness and desperation of this disease. Today, your Higher Power brought you to Al-anon, a priceless gift that with the help of the people in this program can lead you to serenity. Think of it as a Mother's Day gift from you Higher Power.
The first thing they told me when I came to Al-anon were the Three C's:
1. You didn't CAUSE it
2. You can't CONTROL it
3. You can't CURE it
This was very powerful for me and took some time for me to accept. However, once I did I begin to feel a tremendous weight lift off of me. So where did that leave me? With what I could change, ME! and how I reacted to the situation. Little by little with the tools of Al-anon and the love and support of the people in this program, I am changing, and little by little the situation is becoming better.
Please try to get to a meeting in your area, there is a link on the main page that will tell you where local meetings are. Also, there are daily meetings and chat here at MIP.
I am new too ...but find great comfort in this board.Keep reading I have gone to 2 meetings....do not be afraid to go....you owe it to yourself to try and understand what is happening
I'm glad that you are trying to do something for you and your baby to make your life better. That is the whole idea behind Al-Anon is to care for you and do what is best for you.
Join us in chat or for a meeting, by clicking link above left.
We would love to talk with you and help you get started and help you find a local meeting if you haven't done so already.
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
What the others have posted is what I would say as well.
You are so not alone, there are many of us here who have been in similar situations. And all of us here no the pain of loving an alcoholic be it husband, wife, sister, brother, mother, father, etc......
Keep coming back! Go to meetings. Be it here or face to face meetings. Post as often as you feel the need. This is your board, so please don't be worried about starting a topic. This board is here for you to get Eperience, Strength, and Hope (ESH) and for us to help give that.
This is a very loving and safe place. Now we don't give advice, I always say I am too sick to tell someone else what to do.
Much Love,
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
i am new too. nice to meet you nails. i am coming here in search of support. i really don't know what to do. i love my husband but he drinks, not all the time, but when he is upset, when he has opportunity, and he lies about it. we have known each other for years but i didn't know it was such a problem, it seemed like he had changed. i guess we have bee n married a little over 2 years. he drinks in hiding, or when he goes to friends houses, his guy friends, but mostly when he has soemthing bothering him that he just can't talk about sober. it hurts me, if any of you have worked the 12 step program, please let me know what the steps are or if you have learned how to let go, and let God, or realized that the 3 C's are really a part of your life now, please let me know. i just want to cry, but i am at work now, my AH left last night for a fishing trip, but i know its really a weekend of drinking. he was laid off his job last week, and he isn't good at communicating at all. so, i am stuck. really stuck .
I have got to go out to a family thing. I just saw the post. Lets talk later, I am new too.... we are gonna be ok! Lots of people feel just how you do. xox This is a great place to be!
Welcome to the board. !!! We are glad that you are here. This board will bring you comfort during all of your rough times, friendship just when you need it and a safe space to vent your feelings. We all understand your hurt, pain and confusion of loving someone with the disease of alcoholism !! It really stinks.. !! Take time for you and that beautifu unborn baby, we are all here to help you !!
