The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
At my f2f one of my fellow Alanoners was spending her 42nd Wedding Anniversary with us at the meeting. She said although she was saddened, she knows she was right where she needed to be to get through it and was very grateful to be able to go to a meeting and be amongst a family that understood her pain.
She had arranged a nice dinner out and bought him a gift and card Her A was passed out when she got home from work and she was unable to give it to him.
She had not only arranged a plan B, but in case she felt too upset to attend a meeting, had a plan C and was going to keep the dinner plans with a new friend that she had met at work.
She called the friend , as she was feeling very sad. She couldn't decide what she really wanted to do. The friend offered to go out to dinner early and then accompany her to our meeting. She mentioned her gratitude of her friend's thoughtfulness at offering to attend an Alanon meeting with her because the friend knew little about Alanon and how she apprciated her support.
****This is where HP comes in****
After the Alanon friend shared, her work friend timidly said "HI, I'm Nancy (not real name). I have been married to an A for 36 yrs".
My Alanon friend's head whipped over to look at her with huge eyes and an audible gasp came from her. :)
LOL..It was priceless.
Thought I'd share this, cuz I just loved it....It had HP written all over it.
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
It is so wonderful that al-anon and our HP's are there for us. I love the fact that your friend not only had a plan B but a plan C! And what the heck she used 'em both!
Having alternate plans for when things don't work out the way we want them to, or hope that they will...thats another subtle thing that I have been doing without really even noticing it.
I had an al-anon friend that was going to come spend some time with me last weekend, and I started coming up with all these different things we could do together. We were going to have lunch then....etc etc. Well we did have lunch, but then the friend had some things he wanted to do in town, (he lives out in the country) and while I offered to accompany him he said he really wanted to spend some quality time with someone he had been neglecting the last few days...himself!
Well, you know what? I didnt even have a tweak of taking that personal. Just told him I understood, and I meant it!
And I had already set up alternate things for me to do with the day in case things didnt work out the way I thought they would.
Thank God for sending her the support she needed and in a very appropriate place too!
I am going to excuse myself from my desk at work to say a prayer now and thank God for giving us all hope and ask him to send me the same miracle for my life.
I need the support of someone close so desperately.
