The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The writer says that confusion can be a gift from God. Often if we feel we need an immediate answer, it may not be the right time to take action. It's possible when we become really ready to act, the information will be presented. Knowing too much about options can drive us crazy. The writer suggests considering confusion, grace.
Reminder: I will thank my Higher Power for whatever I experience today, even if I feel troubled or confused. I know that every experience can offer me a gift. All I have to do is be willing to look at my situation in the light of gratitude.
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When I was new to program, it's reading like these that made me wonder if alanon would be able to help me. Confusion a gift from God? Have gratitude? Gifts from pain? None of this made sense but now it does. Besides for needing gratitude, I feel my attitude about everything is also important to remain emotionally balanced. Recently my dog was exhibiting some anxiety and I couldn't help her. We tried some meds from the vet and that made her worse. I prayed on it every morning for several weeks. Then all of a sudden a solution came to mind, and now almost all the anxiety is gone. I have come to believe that my HP guided me to the answer. I wracked my brain and even the vet didn't know what to do. The God of my understanding came through. My confusion and upset are gone, and my dog is nearly back to normal. Patience is also needed! :)
Good Morning Lyne. Thank you for your service/ESH. Glad you (( dog)) has recovered and appreciate your enlightening share. Alanon has taught me to let things unfold. I was big on taking action-any action- and often rationalized that at least I'd know what not to do! By living in the solution-steps, slogans-my problems diminished without needing to attack them. When I place my reliance on HP, I use less energy and am less frustrated/exhausted by my techniques. Most of the gifts I've received lie deep within- such as resilience. Pre-Alanon didn't believe I still had it in me to soldier on. Grateful to have MIP to get me back on track...Have a marvelous Monday.
I like today's reading,I find it very helpful and perfect timing.
I'm currently experiencing some confusion about something. I've been pretty bitter and angry about it. But after reframing it in relation to the reading I actually can see that I don't need to make a decision right now,or even try to understand the reasons why I'm confused in the first place.
That makes me feel much better. Now I can let go of the stress and anger and bitterness and let the chips fall where they may.
This may not make sense to anyone and probably sounds pretty vague. Trust me though when I say it's something huge for me.
Have a good day everyone.
ETA: In the reader it says "I think that dealing with confusion can be like cooking. If the bread isn't done,I don't take it out of the oven and insist that it's time to eat. I let it finish baking". Sometimes a simple visual like that can be so profound for me. And I'm sure I will imagine bread baking in my mind as I go through my day today and feel a little more peaceful and patient.
-- Edited by SunnyFrog on Monday 14th of February 2022 09:20:07 AM
Happy Monday MIP, Happy Valentine's Day & Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. I must raise my hand that Before Recovery, I championed the process of 'forcing solutions'. My intentions were good and I believed in the right move yet over and over and over again, the outcomes were less than stellar and frustrations were plenty (me & others).
On the other side of the program, we push the slogan, "When in Doubt, Don't"... This, for me, suggests I take a Pause and truly process what's going on, what's my role (if any), etc. I use this daily, simply because the old habits are just below the surface. I am always readily willing to 'help' and that's not my role unless it's healthy, timely, asked for, etc.
I am also a big believer in the idea, "Not my circus and not my monkeys"... I am very guarded today as far as my boundaries and am less willing to give away my joy or my power to another person, place, things or situation. An offer to be of service is more sane and healthy for me than just jumping right in. At any point I feel confusion or uncertainty, I force myself to Pause simply because it tends to lead me to healthier choices.
In the strange and uncertain winter we've been having, I did get out and golf today! Grateful for trying the 'new experience' several years ago and the new friends...Make it a great night!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
