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Lyne


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This reading discusses how hard we can work our program and still have lapses of self-pity and resentment.  It is therefore important to include our Higher Power to overcome these lapses.

Reminder:  I want to be ready for shortcomings to be removed and I will do what I can to prepare.  I can develop a non-judgemental awareness of myself, accept what I discover, and be fully willing to change.  But I lack the power to heal myself.  Only my Higher Power can do that.

Quote:  I accept the fact that I need help in being restored to sanity, and that I cannot achieve this without help.

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I believe I have been ready to accept help to remove my shortcomings for a number of years now.  I pray each morning and often ask the God of my understanding to remove all my defects of character.  I no longer want them!  They can be like a ball and chain attached to my ankle.  Not everyday feels like this, but I'm constantly challenged.  Tonight I cooked a beautiful dinner and right before we ate my A had to go out to the garage for what??  It's below freezing here.  I said nothing, I knew what was going on, and tomorrow I will ask for help for myself and for my A.  What else can I do but take ODAT.



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Good Morning Lyne. Thank you for your service. Hope you enjoyed the delicious dinner. Sending love, light and prayers for you and your loved one. As for removal of defects, I accept it will be life long process. My true personality became so distorted, my good qualities eroded and I adopted and/or overused nasty traits to cope and control others. I rely heavily on the Serenity Prayer, slogans etc...to get me back to being the quirky, magical self buried under resentment and self pity. My sponsor emphasizes assets since I can be harsh/critical of myself and others. I agree 100% that I am powerless to change on my own. Through practice and partnership with people my HP places in my path, I experience positive change. Sounds good but I know my ugly tendencies make a surprise appearance (especially when I think I'VE got it under control) lol. Oh well, as many have shared, I'm perfectly imperfect. Have a wonderful day. (((HUGS))

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Same here, that I am perfectly imperfect and so understand and strive for reliance on my HP to overcome those times

that I am resentful and judgmental. I too am very uncomfortable feeling those feelings. Thank you Lyne for your service,

todays reading and to you and Daffodils for both your ESH. I so appreciate these daily readings on MIP!!

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Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. I'm a day late/dollar short as I've been sitting with self-pity that my football team lost - no Super Bowl ... darn it!!

What I have learned in recovery is that it truly is a process and is all about progress and not perfection. As I continue to learn about me, my spiritual growth/needs and what makes me tick, more is really revealed. When I am faced with 'life' and it's getting messy or vastly different than expected/desired, I truly have an internal reaction - can't put a name to it - but almost 'feel' 'it' rising within me. It is in that moment when I pray, often quick or short, maybe the Serenity Prayer - any prayer by which I am again owning my powerlessness and asking for help works well. While it doesn't make everything immediately 'great' it does bring me back to the here/now and what's truly in front of me.

I truly put me first as much as I can and invite others to participate. BR (Before Recovery), I used to ask what sounded good for dinner and also ask what time was good...in my way of thinking, I was retired and was trying to create peace and be flexible. Yet, this did not always go as planned and then I was disappointed. In these scenarios, I had the best of intentions, yet continued to look for satisfaction/joy from others. Today, I decide what I'm making for dinner, and establish a time. If others wish to join me - great. If not - they can heat/eat later. It has taken me a long while to make all things as simple as possible for me and those I share my world with.

Lastly, when we do experience resentments and/or self-pity, my sponsor reminds me that it's usually moments now whereas before, it could hold me hostage for a day/longer. It's a blessing to be reminded how important it is to look for our progress and trust this program and our efforts. Grateful member I am!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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