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Do you ever feel like stopping time & not reflecting on the past so much? It has been almost exactly a month since I posted on here. I am dealing a lot w/ gratitude as a way to let go of the past a little. I don't want to focus on those things that made me feel horrible in the past & make each day count by being grateful.I am also trying by suggestion of a good speaker to try to make someone smile every day. Wouldn't the world be a better place if we would just smile more? Even if the smile you give away may not be how you actually feel inside do it anyway! I am living proof that people will generally smile back! So, I do what I can to share my ESH. I am not the best at it but I do have a way of sharing the message. Sometimes I share the mess. But that is a different subject. Trying to stay positive. I haven't zoomed for awhile either. I guess there will be a time someday that I will be able to meet in person. I am looking forward to that day! I have program friends that I run into in town occasionally. And, I have a friend who likes to meet at the place where she works on the weekends sometimes. I am staying safe in all ways possible. I guess I am grateful that I can be w/ anyone. BTW, my mom's sister died on the 4th of this month. She lived to be 80 on Christmas day though. I am glad that I knew her of course even though I didn't have a relationship w/ her. She really loved my mom, her sister, she showed it in a lot of ways! And that is good enough for me!
So, today I am reflecting back too much as I indicated at the beginning of my post & that I am practicing gratitude. I am grateful for those who love me & don't judge. I am definitely a work in progress. And, again I can only do what is in front of me. My life is successful only when I share w/ others. You never know whose life you are going to touch, right?
Take care my friends. I will love you until you can love yourself. That is my plan for today. I will spread the love.
Kathleen - lovely share and truly aligns with the way I try to work this program! I am grateful for what is, one day at a time, and when 'life' happens, I still look for gratitude and lessons to be learned. I have no use for hanging out in the past trying to examine it, rewrite it, throw blame/shame on me or others, etc. My life feels more of value when I stay present and just try to keep being part of the solution, one day at a time.
Glad to hear all is well - thanks for sending love!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
All of these are helpful shares! I find several times a day, that I tend to ruminate on something that is just wasted thinking time. I'm trying to catch myself, stop that thread, and move into something positive and/or helpful to refocus on. I can often do it and it's truly like a breath of fresh air hitting my face. Keep on keeping on....
Hi Kathleen, nice to see your post, and thank you for sharing your Gratitude!
I am sorry about the passing of your Aunt. My condolences to your family.
I am currently in a spot in my life where almost all memories are painful for me. I work very hard to not look back very much. Otherwise I would be in a state of morose all the time! I am choosing to Look Forward, and find my Gratitude in each day. It is my hope that everyone I love understands... even if they don't. I know it is what is best for me!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
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