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Today is the 11th Anniversary of my son's passing from this disease. I intend to spend it remembering his smile, laugh and spirit and will not be posting or responding to posts. See you tomorrow
Stephen Owen King Memorial Website. Honor your dearest with a memorial website where you can create photo albums, family tree, memorial video, light a memorial candle and add life story.
Sending supportive virtual (((Hugs))) your way. May today be as blessed as you are. Enjoy the day as best you can and we stand with you in honoring your son.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks for all your kind words. This site has helped me greatly as I learned how to accept what i could not change and develop the Wisdom to keep coming back
Oh DEAR (((((((((((((((Betty))))))))))))))))) big hugs and love and compassion from me to you for your loss....NO parent should ever have to bury a child but often times this happens..and you miss them forever...I love your attitude about remembering his smile...the happier things you shared with him, because the alcohol was NOT him..Just something real sad that happened to him...the "HE" of him is in the happy place, smiling down on his lovely Mama.....Xo
Hugs and love to you today, Betty. I hope you have a peaceful day in reflection and in the strength of our program. Sending loving thoughts from sunny Phoenix to you today!
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Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be!
I can hear the rumble of that Chevy motor as if I was there. It fills my chest with excitement as maybe it did yours. I remember running alongside a yellow Camaro in Hilo long ago and told you about it and how it reminded me of you and your story. Bless the memories. Bless you and your son. (((((hugs)))))
Thanks one and all, I truly appreciate your considerate words. Yesterday was filed with warm memories and quiet reflection Your being here really helped
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
The memory of Stephen's passing really brings home the "realness" of our programs, both on the AA-side AND to our own. Kudos to you for being such an amazing human being, and continuing to help so many others with your beautiful spirit, long after your special son has left this world. We always talk about how we don't "should" each other in our program, but just think of the power/credibility that you bring to any discussion, where your words are not simply words/directives, but spoken from the loving heart of a person who has lost a beloved son to this awful disease.
Thank you Betty - for everything you do.
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Hin Tom Thank you for your kind words. I miss you, as you were the voice and face of MIP when i first arrived and I so appreciated your wisdom and guidance
Cathy.... be gentle on yourself. Many times we need that reminder that we are "exactly where we need to be" in our own recovery. Your loss was tremendous, and we all figure out our own path, after such a traumatic event. Sometimes one foot in front of the other is all we are capable of for a while. Glad you're still here, and participating in your recovery....
(((hugs))))
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Betty, my warmest and most sincere wishes and thoughts go out to you. I was so hoping -- and so glad to hear -- that your day was filled with warm memories and quiet reflection. I hope the warmth and peace was comforting, and I am sure you felt the love that comes with that warmth and peace.
All the best.
Bo
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Keep coming back...
God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
Thank you Bo and Jitsuku I appreciate your kind words and prayers . Cathy I agree with Tom your recovery is impressive. I am so glad that you continue to share here The loss of a child is overwhelming and I know how difficult this road is. Just being able to put one foot in front of the other at first is a gift You and Graceland are doing great.
Dear Cathy, I remember when you lost your son.....I can't believe its already been a year...I hope you keep hanging onto your program and all the folks on here who care about you....Hang in there and please keep coming back.....sending you support hugs as well.....
(((hugs))) Betty. I'm glad you were able to take the day and remember your son.
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu