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Well, I had a nice experience that was also new for me recently.
As part of my foo project, I've been getting hold of as many cousins as possible.
I sent a quick, polite message to one cousin and she replied. After that, I felt a deep, aching sadness, and I came to reflect on our relationship, which began when she was but 2 years old.
The last time we saw each other, we had a falling out which I can't even remember now, except to see that my own part in it was swift, thoughtless, cold and unkind. There's a place for that, but not when its your wee one whose deepest parts of self you know and know well. I didn't know how to be truly kind at that time.
I expressed my amends to her, keeping it simple and honest for my part in it and this morning I awoke to a fresh start email. It was nice. But the interesting part is, I never planned or felt the need to make amends, the feeling just came and I let it and then did the next right thing.
We all make mistakes. We don't have to frantically fix them, just work on ourselves and behold! The doors creak open and the morning sun rises.
I wanted to share this experience.
Sister I have also had those and came to understand really that they were HP inspired because I wasn't considering or remembering the events and then It was presented to me and I knew the step to complete. My last one took two round trips to California to finally complete. I left it all in HP's hands and followed thru with what I was being guided to. What a recovery journey. Good work. Mahalo for the lesson. (((hugs)))
((A41)) Great program work!! That is how I have experienced a few very powerful amends. Keeping an open mind, examining my motives and being willing was all I needed to embrace this powerful step.
Thanks for this great share
Oh I LOVE this post....recovery shining through...I have 2 fraternal cousins who just plain don't LIKE me and it goes waaay back, then I have the other one whom I am best friends with...I just let the haters go...I want nothing to do with them..In the wake of my sister's death, not even a sterile email from either one of them.......they are in a place I do not want to be in.....I wish them the best, but absolutely want nothing to do with them....WOW!! way too much on your post....I just had a memory, thats all...I really am glad this worked out for you...I notice that most of my amends, 90% maybe, because I took responsibility for my actions and "owned it" and cleaned up the leaves in MY yard, not saying anything about their inventory, keeping the focus on me and being honest, sincere, open, and what changes I will make to "repair this" I notice, save for a few folks, that my amends were greatly appreciated and some relationships are better then ever, some the same, some, we kinda parted as friends, etc., but for the most part, step 9 is such a RELIEF when you kiss the initial fears and just do it....
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I relate to what Jerry said about "HP inspired" because I can be going along and all of a sudden I am "prompted" to "get with so and so" and make the amends...and it always came out a good deal
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Way to go, way to go and ... way to go!! I love when a family member here shares rewarding ESH. For me, reading this really affirms a 'power greater than self' that leads us often/always to the next right thing. Keep working it girl - looks awesome on you! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I love how you expressed that the feeling came and you let it in, followed by doing the next right thing. You listened and acted on it. Simple and so rewarding. Thank you for this share!
I, too was touched by how you said the feeling came...you let it in.....then you did the next right thing.....you heard your HP prompting you and you acted on it.........WOW!!!!!
Loved this share! Thank you for brightening my day! You go, girl!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
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