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I have my f2f meeting tonight. I missed it last week. I don't really feel like going anymore. My a has been much better lately, though I know he is not permenantly better. I feel like I am falling off a diet, you know? Things are fine so I just don't want to go. I know I probably should because at some point things will probably get tough again and it would be good to have the tools to help me through that. I just feel like I don't have anything to say. I know I can just listen, but I feel detatched. Please kick my a$$ and tell me why it would not be wise to stop the program. I need motivation.
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I know how you feel I have to go tonight and dont want to go BUT somehow I am going to make the effort cause my A has just started drinking last night (see my earlier post). I am about to finish work and go home not that I am looking forward to that either. I like you thought everything would be okay and why go when things are okay but they are never okay, this illness is always going to be there.
Do it for you because you matter.. because you want to feel better than just fine.. you want to feel real good...
Julia nailed it ... I have been uterly (spiritually) inspired by those who attend and things are better! Bet there is someone in your group who really needs that hope.
If I had gone and everyone was as distressed as I was, I'm not sure the experience would have meant as much to me. I know everyone here is carrying a mountain of pain, but when you all come to my aid and remind me to "live and let live...", "One day at a time", "progress not perfection" .... I slow down, take a breath and gather myself back up.
I have not had that in a long time. You have done that for me. <smile>
-- Edited by rtexas at 11:43, 2006-03-09
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
My friends and sponsor always tell me that the day I do not want to go to a meeting is the day I NEED to go to a meeting. For a lot of people just having you fill a chair is motivation to THEM to keep coming back.
Even if you do not talk just listening can help someone else who needs to be listened to. I find on those days I don't want to go that someone there shares something that I need to hear.
This program is for YOU. I no longer live with my dad who is a practising A and I have been divorced for over a year from my gambling ex husband but I NEED the program more than ever now to help me to recognize my behaviours and to change who I am.
Even if your A is not drinking does not mean the "ism's" are all gone. I have heard it said many times that the first year or 2 of sobriety is harder than when they were drinking(some even wish the A would start drinking again LOL)
paint>>>>>>>>>>>I don't really feel like going anymore. My a has been much better lately, though I know he is not permenantly better. I feel like I am falling off a diet, you know? Things are fine so I just don't want to go.
rosie>>>>>>>>> i agree, get ur precious butt to that meet, why??? when things are going good, we STILL need the program, becuz it should be a HABIT.....and, i notice for me i have to surrender the good stuff too, becuz i am not USED to it.....also, the discipline and "God work" keeps me "insulated" so when the BAD crap hits, i am not in a tizzy......i know what u mean, i get "sour" too, but what i do is take a couple of days off here and there and "refresh" like a "breather" even patients in an institution get "time off"....so relax, go to the meet, work on u, but RELAX, do the leg work and let HP work the outcome........if ur alkie is NOT in recovery and not SERIOUSLY working aprogram, ya know he is going to slip.....we have to stay "VIGILENT" cuz when we drop our guard, ole satan sneaks in.......like the sheep staying close to the shepherd and the fire....just becuz the wolves aren't baying, that doesn't mean they are not lurking in the shadows waiting to get a sheep that "lets down the vigilence"........ttyl/ rosie
I wasnt really sure I wanted to go back out last night either. I had just gotten home from going to Curves after work. But I did go. And when I was driving home I felt so much better. I am starting to understand why they say going to AlAnon is for us, not for them. Its taken me almost 5months to get to this point though.
I agree with all of the above!,,,,And I have been where you are,,,too tired,,not wanting to go, whats the use,,,,,,,,,BUT,,,,when I do go I always leave feeling so much better, and am glad that I went. Even when I am feeling I am getting the program and dont "think" I need it, someone is there that needs me, and that in itself is so rewarding for me. However it is up to you!
You will be happy you did. 
It Works IF You Work it **SO** Work It.. because (((YOU))) are Worth IT!