Sooner or later the alcoholic's behaviour makes other people angry. As we realize that the alcoholic is telling lies, using us, and not taking care of responisibilities, we may begin to feel that the alcoholic doesnt love us, We often want to strike back, punish, and make the alcoholic pay for the hurt and frustration caused by uncontrolled drinking. This is our anger.

Sometimes , those who are close to the alcoholic begin to pretend, We accept promises and trust the alcoholic. Each time there is a sober period, however brief, we want to beleive the problem has gone away forever. When good sense tells us there is something wrong with the alcoholics drinking and thinking we still hide how we feel and what we know. This is our denial.

Perhaps the most severe damage to those of us who have shared some part of life with an alcoholic comes in the form of the nagging belief that we are somehow at fault. We may feel , think, it was something we did or did not do---- that we were not good enough, not attractive enough, or not clever enough to have solved this problem for the one we love. These are our feelings of guilt.

We are powerless over anothers alcoholism. We must remember the 3 C's...........

We didnt cause the disease

We cannot control it

We cannot cure it