The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I am feeling better than I was a few hours ago. My husband received his tax refund today. We weren't expecting it because we thought he owed money. He was by himself when he got the call and he called me right away to tell me how much the check was. He cashed it and brought me all but four dollars. We went to the bank together to deposit it in my account, which he asked me to do. He was very proud of himself and I was proud of him. I'm not sure I should be proud of somthing other's take for granted. He finally admitted he has been taking a lot of pills lately and had taken a handful on Sunday. (I knew it!!) I know it shouldn't matter to me, but it felt good that after our long talk this morning he seemed to get what I was saying about honesty. I told him he had lied to prevent an arguement and we argued anyway. I got a lot off my chest. He was honest. He brought home his money and asked me to put it in the bank for him. I feel much better, but am still not sure about my feelings of love.
Hey! I think that is great,:) one small step at a time...
I know when my A was active, I'm sure I hated him at times! It took a long long time before I could forgive some things. The past kept rearing it's ugly head. Some of the 'romantic' love I had for him is gone, but a different kind of love has replaced it. It takes time, and a lot of work on both sides, but it is workable, one step at a time.
Happy for you, and praying this is a small step, but one of many, in the right direction!(I'm proud of him too) I know with my A, that would be a BIG thing for him to do! Praying for lots more steps for both of you, TLC
The slogans have always helped me.... ( something easy) they STILL help me. Will always help Me. If/ when my head gets filled with thoughts I dont want there, IF I feel frustrated and or aggitated at a situation. IF it gets *unmanageable. I look around and then I Look Up and .....well I have them (slogans) taped on the puter., fridge magnets. The serenity prayer is in a frame by the door. Little things that Help me each Day. Reminders. Reminding me to Keep it Simple. Let ( it ) Go and Let God (have it) It Begins with Me. One Day At A Time ((BIGHUG)) Your in my prayers. Take careYOU!
Will always help Me. If/ when my head gets filled with thoughts I dont want there, IF I feel frustrated and or aggitated at a situation. IF it gets *unmanageable. I look around and then I Look Up and .....well I have them (slogans) taped on the puter., fridge magnets. The serenity prayer is in a frame by the door. 
Little things that Help me each Day. Reminders. Reminding me to Keep it Simple. Let ( it ) Go and Let God (have it) It Begins with Me. One Day At A Time ((BIGHUG)) Your in my prayers. 
Take careYOU!