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i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit.
apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abit psycho" to be honest. he told me he met her in a nightclub and they were "seeing" each other. i said FINE..whatever.
then this new woman of his came up to me in a cafe a few weeks ago... introducing herself..she recognised me from photos he had etc... and she proceded to show me a load of text messages in his phone telling her that he had seen me in ages etc...even though i had been with him the day before for over 2 hrs. there were a lot of msgs there stating he wanted her..etc...
also...in the last few weeks he telling me "i was thee only love of his life" the one he "cudn't live without". i asked him was he being honest with the new girl..he said he was just messing her arod to sleep with her! charming.
then i meet her today again...bumped into her shopping and she showed me texts he had sent to her only an hr earlier saying that "ME"..."i.. was jealous of HER" and that he was in love with her really..not me...and i was a fool to believe anything he told me"
what a GOBSHITE.... i swear i felt like killing him. how dare he embarrass me like that..humiliate me in front of her. all this coming from the guy who begged me 3 days ago...to have his baby in the future coz he doesnt want any other women rearing his child. he had it all worked out.
he is SUPPOSED to be accepting an award this friday for photograph that he took last yr and won a competition. it is dinner and drinks in a classy posh hotel... with top dogs from the national t.v show. i dont think he is in any fit state to be going up there...let alone accept an award.
he had begged me to take the day off.. which i had agreed to do last week... that will now be cancelled. i wouldn't cross the road with him now after he sayig all that about me!
i know we weren't a couple... but i still felt let down, hurt, punched in the stomach...
...i guess i felt like a fool for believing him for what he told me in the last few weeks. life is just up in a heap. i have to totally switch off or i will end up getting emotionally involved again..and it will drain me if i allow myself to be sucked in like that.
please help me stay strong and pray for me guys... i need all the help i can get.
Boy, this guy sounds like a real player. I hope his new GF realizes it too. It always hurts to find these things out, but aren't you glad you did? Now that you know where he is coming from you can set some boundaries and start taking care of YOUR needs.
good luck Christy
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Rebecca, my wife and I seperated a couple of years ago after 12 years of marriage. She decided I was too boring and started dating a bar buddy.
After she moved out she started "dating" me. I didn't know any better and I loved her and took all the blame for being boring. Duh... Well she was an A and she was dating us both. Some times on the same day.
You know the right thing to do. Take care of you and let him be a jack-ass if he wants.
Personally, (I know you are not supposed to give advice... but) I would keep a hand full of ex-lax with me at all times in case "Girl-2" bumped into me again and decided to let me know she has full reign over this jerk.
All kidding aside... I am very sorry that happened to you. It is amazing to me what A's and their captives are capable of.
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
My one question would be, why are you involving yourself with his new "girlfriend"? Do you think that it is helpful to you to read these messages? What are you hoping to find in them? It is always tempting to torture ourselves, but this girl does not sound particularly kind to you. It seems like she is forcing herself in your face and you don't have to listen to her if you don't want to. Remember, you had the strength not to stay in an unhealthy relationship. You know how to treat yourself right. I hope you can keep these two from getting to you. Try to think about why anyone would do that. Doesn't sound like a very secure thing to do to me...
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I hope you can keep these two from getting to you. Try to think about why anyone would do that. Doesn't sound like a very secure thing to do to me...