The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Dear losing it welcome to MIP. I am so glad that you reach out and shared with such clarity and awareness. I would like to assure you that you are not alone and that I can so identify with many of the issues that you have identified.
Living with the disease of alcoholism and trying to cope with the insanity that it presents affects all of us in a very negative, destructive way.
You ask for an explanation as to why-- and the answer is: alcoholism is a chronic, progressive, threefold disease that can be arrested but never cured. The disease affects the problem drinker, both emotionally, physically and spiritually. Once the drinking stops the disease is still present within the person. The disease then manifests in their thinking and problem solving and attitudes and abilities . AA is a recovery program for the alcoholic
We who live with the disease also become affected and need a program of recovery of our. Al-Anon is that program. It is here that I learned that I was powerless over people places and things, that I needed to focus on myself and my needs, live one day at a time trusting a higher power, and connecting with others who understood as few others could. I also found that my self-worth and my ability to respond and not react was also improved by using these simple tools
Al-Anon face-to-face meetings are found in most communities and the hotline number is in the white pages. We have online meetings here two times a day which are also very helpful. It is extremely important to break the isolation caused by living with this disease so that our self-esteem can be restored.
You are not alone and there is hope and help. Please keep coming back
Hi losingit.
I did relate to much of what you wrote; I read it earlier and came back now to respond but it is no longer here and I don't remember the specifics well enough to address them. I also relate to feeling uncomfortable with what I have shared hereand deleting what I have written. In fact when I first joined here at MIP al-anon I wrote a long post and deleted the whole thing not long after. But I continued sharing here and grew more comfortable with my own story and feelings over time and for me, it was the beginning of a really wonderful and life-changing journey.
Just for the record, when I read your story earlier, I nodded my head and felt I had experienced many similar things with my A partner. I thought you told it bravely and from the heart.
I hope you will stick around and share again when you feel comfortable. Reading other people's stories here helped me a great deal because I finally realised, I was not crazy or alone, other people were experiencing the same crazy situations and emotions!
You really are not alone.
(((losingit)))
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Keep coming back and giving away what you learn in Al-Anon and MIP that can help others in need. Alcoholism is a world wide disease which is often fatal and not going away soon. (((((hugs)))))
