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Hi everyone. I am just wondering if this is the right place for me. I will try to be brief. I am not with an alcoholic or addict, but with a mentally ill/personality disordered person, who used to use cocaine and alcohol but has not in many years. I am codependent and grew up with an abusive alcoholic father. I have been in relationships with 2 addicts and now this relationship is with a mentally ill person. When telling my story to therapists or friends, they all ask, due to boyfriends behaviour, if he is an addict or alcoholic. To me, he acts like a dry drunk. But he is not/or is he because he never recovered? My whole life revolves around him, he hasn't worked in 3.5 yrs and I have taken sole responsibility for the bills etc. I know I need help. Anyway, there are no coda online meetings as of yet, from what I can see and given my situation, I was hoping I could find help and support here. I do not have any money for a therapist and there aren't any coda groups in my area. I know that I am attracted to alcoholics/addicts/mentally ill men because of my father and I desperately need help. Thanks for reading and any advice as to whether this site and theses Al-anon online meetings would be beneficial to me would be much appreciated. Thanks!
just bcuz they are not "using--drinking" NOW, that doesn't mean they don't have the personality......alanon is 12 step program that helps the "receiving end" of the illness to live with/without the "drinker-user" and learn to take care of themselves.....
i think tradition 3 says if u have a friend or relative who is "alkie-druggie" u belong...and they don't have to be using-drinking right now for u to qualify....they still have the personality traits ..and if they are NOT in recovery???? i would say u need al-anon MORE......just my take, rosie OH!!! WELCOME!!!!
Well I would second that you belong here. This site has been wonderful for me in that it has helped me think about taking care of ME which I hadn't really considered in a long time. Here you find lots of understanding people who understand what you are going through. Many of us have coDa problems as a part of our situation. This is a great place to vent, get feedback and just find a place where people "get it". You might want to check out the ACOA boards as well, since you are one.
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YES...This is the place for you.You will learn new ways of dealing with the a's or people in general.Alanon has given me my life back I am truly grateful for this program.I hope you will like it as well
Lauren~
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Welcome to this group. I hope you will choose to come to meetings here they are very very helpful and informative. This group of people are loving, kind, accepting, non judgmental, informative and clear. I think you can get a great deal of help here if you want it and ask for it. I look forward to getting to know you.
